Dating: I’m NOT your ex!
Full disclosure: I just received the coolest book about men to review. I mean, it is literally chocked full of revealing things about the male mind – appropriately titled, “WTF are Men Thinking?”
Admittedly, the title alone won me over. I couldn’t wait to dig in to get a glimpse of what 250,000 men think on topics that women are curious about. One question that struck a nerve with me almost instantly: “Does he compare me to her?”.
Now, listen fellas. Here is my PSA: A lot of women have to deal with their own insecurities from time to time. If you constantly compare us to your last chick or bring up your first wife, there will be problems.
Have you ever had this issue? If someone compares you to their ex, does that mean they are still in love with them?
Is it natural to compare your last relationship? When do you think it is appropriate to do so, and in what context?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
October 12th, 2012
3:21 pm
handyman work vs aesthetics? No comparison.
Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"
October 12th, 2012
3:22 pm
Leggs, I’ve seen it and did you notice after he cold cocked her and threw her off the bus, she came back. I’m scared of her!!!
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:26 pm
Ex, I understand that type of comparision. Just didn’t sound like that’s what you were saying.
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:28 pm
Exactly, Comon re: 3:21.
That girl is the poster child for “firecracker personality.”
Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"
October 12th, 2012
3:28 pm
Ex, even if you are cool with the comparisons, you have to remember we all are not the same. what’s okay with you doesn’t seem to be okay with her, and you have to respect that.
Exiled!
October 12th, 2012
3:30 pm
Common?
When I said’compare ‘ I didn’t mean looks..
Actually I compare ways..behaviors characteristics etc
I’m not sure why looks came in
She is a great cook tho(the sister), less abrasive..u could say a push over a Lil on the quieter side. Shorter than Queen but I think proly more gutter…looking at the folks she has bedded etc duration of knowing them/dating etc
Common just for u: looking at her resume I thought I had a shot!
…now laughing lol
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 12th, 2012
3:31 pm
I’ve seen it and did you notice after he cold cocked her and threw her off the bus, she came back.
I thought the same thing. I was like
sh.iit she must be used to that…
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:31 pm
Glamorous Life is on…time to dance in my chair and play air drums.
Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"
October 12th, 2012
3:32 pm
Wow, and you wonder why she’s not okay with it??
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:32 pm
Damn, I could get down on this song (lol).
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:34 pm
See, Single! After that explanation, I can only imagine. So, on that note, time for me to walk away on what another man is saying to his own wife!
Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"
October 12th, 2012
3:34 pm
Sassy if for some reason I would ever hit a woman like that and she came back, I’m running, cause I know we bout to be on snapped!!
Comon Cents
October 12th, 2012
3:34 pm
Sheila E was the ISHT back when she was messing with Prince. I used to LOVE the Glamourous Life!
Single and Happier "Life is simple, if you stop making it so complicated!"
October 12th, 2012
3:35 pm
Yea, legs, Do you!! SMH
kimmie
October 12th, 2012
3:38 pm
Comon/Leggs – Love me some Sheila E too! She is still pretty. Have you all seen the Unsung on her? I saw her when she went on tour with The Time & Prince.
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:39 pm
I think a female drummer is sexy!
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:40 pm
I still have that Unsung on DVR.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 12th, 2012
3:41 pm
I’m running, cause I know we bout to be on snapped!!
For sure…it’s about to go dooown.
Bluzgirl
October 12th, 2012
3:45 pm
My ex had a left handed female drummer in his band for a while. Everyone loved it!!!!
I’m so ready to get out of here!!!!
Exiled!
October 12th, 2012
3:46 pm
Single,do u have insecurities?
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:47 pm
Bluz ~ I have no had one stitch of work all day. I am so ready to get out of here.
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:48 pm
Here’s my other record that I can do some harm on…Push It, Salt-N-Pepa!!!
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
3:53 pm
Ok, I’m clubbing back in the day right from my chair. Rob Base is now jamming…
Bluzgirl
October 12th, 2012
3:54 pm
I’ve had some work today, but I haven’t been motivated! I did close on a good loan today for one of my customers. That makes up for the lack of other work! LOL
Comon Cents
October 12th, 2012
3:55 pm
I have never watched Unsung. Guess I will have to add it to the DVR list to check out.
DuShawn
October 12th, 2012
3:57 pm
On the subject of hitting a woman, I got a call a few years ago from one my potnahs from childhood asking if I heard about Bob, a mutual friend of ours who is an old school, hood hard, no punk in him dude, like all the men I grew up with. He told me that Bob got his fronts knocked out. I didn’t comprehend. I’m like, “is that some new slang”. He went on to say it’s not slang, he got in a fight with that chick he mess with and she literally punched him in the mouth and knocked several of his front teeth out. He said the man had to get about five stacks of dental work. I stopped by to see him last time I was home, I didn’t metion it, but I couldn’t help looking at his pearly white, perfectly aligned newly purchased grill. I would never hit a lady, but I’ll whup b*tch azz. You take a female lightly if you want to…you’ll f&ckaround and find your sh&t split to the white meat.
Comon Cents
October 12th, 2012
3:59 pm
OMG!!! Really?!?
I hope they take this guy to the cleaners and put him out of business…
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/health/couple-baby-decapitated-delivery-article-1.1181731
Bluzgirl
October 12th, 2012
4:13 pm
OMG CC!!! I can’t believe that story! How horrible!!!
Exiled!
October 12th, 2012
4:15 pm
Innocent untill proven guilty Common!!
Are u a Prosecutor paid on prosecutorial commission? Showing yr fangs!
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 12th, 2012
4:17 pm
You take a female lightly if you want to…you’ll f&ckaround and find your sh&t split to the white meat.
Cosigning all day long on that one…
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 12th, 2012
4:20 pm
Comon I read that story,too and was horrified and saddened at such an atrocious act. The graphic image of that made me cringe and I can only imagine how traumatized the parents are. Just awful…
DuShawn
October 12th, 2012
4:23 pm
Exiled are you ‘”Melo” from years ago?
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
4:28 pm
I just ordered 9 books from Amazon for a total of $13.91.
disco ~ if you like books on slavery times, I have a good one for you.
Bluzgirl
October 12th, 2012
4:29 pm
On days like this, I sure wish my boss would let us leave at 4:30!!! I’m really not feeling it anymore today. I gotta go home, get a 5 hour energy shot, and get gussied up for a wine part/benefit that my brother and I are going to this evening!
Comon Cents
October 12th, 2012
4:29 pm
Ex~ I believe in innocent until proven guilty, however, with eyewitness statements from the parents and knowing how underhanded and devious some doctors can be, I believe that this actually happened. AND if that’s the case, they should nail this guy’s azz to the wall.
Exiled!
October 12th, 2012
4:35 pm
Enter your comments here
Bluzgirl
October 12th, 2012
4:36 pm
YES!!! The boss just said we can leave! That’s a rare treat!!! I’m out. Ya’ll have a great weekend!!!
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
4:36 pm
Comon ~ I started to post the link to that story, but thought it too gruesome.
Exiled!
October 12th, 2012
4:39 pm
Common..ok I didn’t read the whole story but..
were the parents in the birf room when baby was supposedly coming and doc was huffing and puffing…
I couldn’t stand to watch my wife’s 3 birfs …I’m not cut for that profession
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 12th, 2012
4:41 pm
Single,do u have insecurities?
No I don’t, but I respect those that do!!
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
4:44 pm
No I don’t, but I respect those that do!! – Comedy.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
October 12th, 2012
4:46 pm
Leggs, you know what I mean !! (LOL)
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
4:52 pm
Yeah I do, but it struck my funny bone.
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
4:54 pm
Sometimes you have to leave what you know to find what you need. ~ copied off a poster
Comon Cents
October 12th, 2012
5:00 pm
Leggs~ There is a statistic that says most people will not change until the perceived discomfort of staying where they are is 3 times as painful as the perceived discomfort of the change.
Leggs
October 12th, 2012
5:09 pm
That is interesting.
Honeyamber1
October 12th, 2012
5:39 pm
Vitamin D is good 4 U!
Honeyamber1
October 12th, 2012
5:40 pm
@ROACH: Took my sleepin peel hahaha
STD
October 12th, 2012
5:59 pm
I GOT THE GIFT UT OH
Yea You
October 12th, 2012
6:31 pm
great blog day!