Dating: What is cuffing season?!
Thank goodness for the internet! I am now fully aware of the official urban dictionary definition of cuffing season:
During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.
Didn’t know there was a new term for this. Honestly, when I heard cuffing season my mind went straight to the gutter (I’m awful, I know). But I digress; this cuffing season is one of those double-edged swords. It can be good or it can be really bad. What happens in the spring? Will your cuffing boo suddenly start to look less appealing with the change in seasons?
This just proves how fickle dating can be. You could be excited about someone for a couple of months and things get hot and heavy. Then out of nowhere, you look up and find the person has become bored, gone to the next victim. They may even pull that oh so lovely disappearing act – my personal favorite maneuver (NOT).
Do you ever think that people you are pursuing or dating are only interested in you to keep them warm in the fall or winter? How do you know if they are planning on sticking around?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
3:14 pm
disco~ ou stoopid with the warm and sticky… Not gonna lie, though, I ducked out and went to give the hubby some kisses instead of trying to eat some lunch during this day that will not end..
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:15 pm
@CC: Yeah, that coulda been AWKWARD. Imagine that blog meet and greet…..
Me: Hey, I’m ITL.
You: Hey, I’m CC. And this is my hubby.
Him: Oh we’ve met. I tended her garden before yours, baby.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
3:15 pm
LOL@ITL…I hear you mami!
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
3:16 pm
ITL — Nope, haven’t seen it. I do generally like Dave Attell, though…
disco
October 11th, 2012
3:17 pm
CC – I actually envisioned a little bottle of troll-b-gone spray. lol. and not that you was off trying to get some at lunch. you nasty girl…
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:17 pm
Bluz ~ I used two-faceded because I couldn’t remember the other word I really wanted to us. You go back and forth so often on the merry-g-round that I am now dizzying. You’re a woman on many contradictions. that’s the word I was looking for “contradictions,” not two-facededness.
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
3:17 pm
I’m trying to catch up…but a friend of mine sent me a pic of a GONZO she used to deal with. That thang is something else.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
3:17 pm
I ducked out and went to give the hubby some kisses
I’d like to think you gave him more than that if you missed lunch for it
And I ain’t mad atcha…
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:18 pm
@Swiss: It’s actually pretty funny, if you can get past the very, um, “vintage” nature of the clips he shows…..
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
3:19 pm
disco – it’s hard to push the temptation away. I just want that and nothing more. I know that he’s nobody. Although…you may like to know that he did get a full time job and his own place! Still…not nearly good enough for me. I just want sex. I’m a sexual person and I like to get it regularly. When you get it good, it’s hard to push that person away for good…
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
3:20 pm
I know Slim…Gonzos take special skill to deal with “properly and efficiently”…
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:20 pm
And I ain’t mad atcha…
Me, either. Maybe a little envious, but not mad.
Willie Dynamite
October 11th, 2012
3:20 pm
Plenty to say but lips sealed.
Black- I’m not in a position to give U advice but they like fangs.ijs
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:22 pm
I’m giving you credit and letting you have that quick, fleeting moment where dude ran across your mind but the moment has passed (or should have passed). you have to put on your big girl shoes and say to yourself “later for him. he ain’t nobody”.
EXACTUMUNDO!
disco
October 11th, 2012
3:24 pm
bluz – I know. not saying I know you personally but I definitely think I’ve got a strong handle on your type. lol. I’ve got an acquaintance who talks and reasons in a manner very similar to yours. I’m always amazed that a grown A 40+ year old woman thinks the way she does. she too gets caught in in how good the D is and all the while knows the D is attached to a man that isn’t worth the spit it would take to cuss him. she usually winds up doing way more for the owner of the D than the owner of the D ever considers doing for her. seems like to me that would cancel out the D but who am I and what do I know?
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco ~ I’m rescinding my 3:22:
“it’s hard to push the temptation away.” – No, it’s not Bluz. You’re letting it linger and fester because you want to and because you like the mental picture of this disrespectful man with a big D front and center in your mind.
Chica, go do you!
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:25 pm
Leggs: I think you watched too many Happy Days reruns while you were convalescing….. LOL
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:25 pm
Back from my happy place (LOL)
Comon, what’s KIM??
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:25 pm
EXACTAMUNDO =
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:25 pm
I just want sex. I’m a sexual person and I like to get it regularly. When you get it good, it’s hard to push that person away for good…
I’m convinced something is wrong with me. Like hell there is….
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
3:26 pm
Sassy – Too bad we can’t post pics on here
I showed my co-worker and she didn’t even want to give me my phone back. She said it looks like a hook she can hang her purse on 
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:26 pm
Dangit! I meant to say EXACTAMUNDO is a Fonzie expression!!! Aaaaaayyyyyy!
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:26 pm
ITL ~
Naw, I watched too much Jerry Springer (lol).
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:27 pm
Single ~ how is it you’re asking what al lthese llittle things mean (lololol). K I M – Keep it Moving.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:27 pm
Comon, never mind, I got it (LOL)
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:27 pm
@slim: You could email it to us….
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:28 pm
Leggs, I’m a little slow (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
3:28 pm
Me: Hey, I’m ITL.
You: Hey, I’m CC. And this is my hubby.
Him: Oh we’ve met. I tended her garden before yours, baby
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:29 pm
Gotcha, ITL.
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
3:29 pm
Bottom line: If the man attached to the good D disrespects you and you choose to continue to deal with him based on your own reasoning of ‘good D’, then that basically teaches him that he can continue to disrespect you no matter what. Unless you’re dealing with a fake weenie, then there is going to be a man attached to the D, whether good or bad. Unless of course your name is Bobbit.(how ya like that long ass sentence lol)
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:30 pm
It’s ok, Single, we’ll hold your hand through the process of “knowing.”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:31 pm
Thanks leggs (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:32 pm
Yalll got me wanting some fish now, but there is no place good close to my house
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
3:33 pm
Leggs – I still have that stuffed talapia on my ‘Coming Soon” menu
disco
October 11th, 2012
3:33 pm
leggs – you crazy. I’m not even mad about bluz wanting it or thinking it’s all that. the problem is, like you said before or what I took from “two-faced”, the girl is just so wishy washy. she can’t make a decision and commit to it. she’s always looking to justify. me, myself, personally (lol – I laugh when I say that, I laugh when I type it) being the type chick who can sex with no strings attached and no emotional attachment I can condone a chick going and doing what she wants to do. thing is bluz ain’t that chick. she’s weak. sorry bluz – just calling it like I see it. she’ll do it, it’ll be good. she can’t just appreciate and go on about her way. she’ll be in love or on her way to being in love before they put their clothes back on.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:34 pm
Single, there’s been about 2-3 different types of fish discussed here. (1) Do you want the same type of leftovers BF is going after, (2), fried fish like ITL had for lunch, or (3) new fish with two legs?
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:35 pm
disco ~ my exact sentiments in your 3:33
Single and Happier "&%$@ Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:36 pm
Leggs, fried, but I don’t want to have to warm it up when I get home
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
3:36 pm
I showed my co-worker and she didn’t even want to give me my phone back. She said it looks like a hook she can hang her purse on
Fk a purse…chile try sitting on it..okay I digress
Plenty to say but lips sealed.
Cool…
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:36 pm
Slim ~ you will enjoy that stuffed talipa whenever you get around to baking it. YUMMY.
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
3:36 pm
disco – Bluz always makes a decison but she follows that decision up with a totally opposite one. It’s like she has a healthy brain sitting on one side of her shoulder, and a “brain on drugs’ sitting on the other shoulder.
The two never agree
she’ll be in love or on her way to being in love before they put their clothes back on
disco – Don’t forget about the drunk text msgs to follow as well lol
Bluz – We still love you
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
3:36 pm
ITL — Speaking of our shared good taste in music, there’s so many good shows coming up that I won’t be able to attend.
You going to see Psych Furs w/ Juliana Hatfield & Lemonheads? Or Postal Service? Or Afghan Whigs? Or The Hold Steady? Or Jens Lekman?
Sigh…
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
3:37 pm
Hey, you might want to top it off with some frozen sweet potato fries. Sprinkle some brown sugar and salt then bake. Really good. Aldi’s has a good brand.
Single and Happier "&%$@ Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:37 pm
what happened?
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
3:38 pm
@Leggs: I didn’t get to have fish for lunch. My picky co-worker was not having any part of This Is It. We had pizza from Johnny’s.
Still want some fish. FRIED FISH ON A PLATE.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:38 pm
testing
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
3:38 pm
but there is no place good close to my house
I heard they got good fish at “The Y”….oh wait you alredy said fried…mea culpa
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
3:39 pm
” I still have that stuffed talapia on my ‘Coming Soon” menu”
Slim — Just to be clear, you are talking about getting your CT stuffed with w@ng, right? This blog has me conditioned to assume that, but you never know…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
3:40 pm
Sassy, that’s not near my house either (LOL)
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
3:40 pm
FRIED FISH ON A PLATE.
Well dang ITL..what’s with all the extra emphasis?!…lol We know you don’t eat that kind of bread…