Dating: What is cuffing season?!
Thank goodness for the internet! I am now fully aware of the official urban dictionary definition of cuffing season:
During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.
Didn’t know there was a new term for this. Honestly, when I heard cuffing season my mind went straight to the gutter (I’m awful, I know). But I digress; this cuffing season is one of those double-edged swords. It can be good or it can be really bad. What happens in the spring? Will your cuffing boo suddenly start to look less appealing with the change in seasons?
This just proves how fickle dating can be. You could be excited about someone for a couple of months and things get hot and heavy. Then out of nowhere, you look up and find the person has become bored, gone to the next victim. They may even pull that oh so lovely disappearing act – my personal favorite maneuver (NOT).
Do you ever think that people you are pursuing or dating are only interested in you to keep them warm in the fall or winter? How do you know if they are planning on sticking around?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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601 comments Add your comment
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
11:17 am
SH – It was three big pieces piled on top of each other too. Either I was hungry or had been watching too many episodes of Man vs Food lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
11:19 am
Wow, that was one serious dream
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
11:19 am
Slim now you making me hungry (LOL)
DuShawn
October 11th, 2012
11:22 am
“Cuffing Season”…..That’s definitely some new school fool vernacular. To old school players “cuffing” means holding back or not sharing completely. It was originally derived from the term hand-cuffing, as in “stop hand cuffin your hoes!” It also spawned “Da Bruz” ideology, “Your ole lady is your ole lady, but the hoes for everybody.”
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
11:23 am
@Slim: Maybe it means you’re preggers with triplets…… IJS….
I kid, I kid…..
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
11:24 am
My stomach just growled over here. So, since I have a slammed day and can’t get food anytime soon, can I ask for a topic change?
disco
October 11th, 2012
11:24 am
what up dushawn?
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
11:24 am
ITL ~ I still have my $25 This is It gift card.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
11:27 am
Slim ~ I have a cousin who interprets dreams. I just sent your msg to her. Even I’m looking forward to seeing what she says.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
11:27 am
Ummm, nevamind, I see disco just broke it down.
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
11:31 am
Now, I’m really not feeling the can of chicken noodle soup I brought for lunch…don’t know of anywhere good around here to get fried fish…
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
11:32 am
I’s so ret to go….
disco
October 11th, 2012
11:32 am
leggs – I pulled that off a website. your cuz might have something more entertaining. I’m big on dreams. I usually write the good ones down in the morning and consult my dream book. yep. I have a dream book at home.
DuShawn
October 11th, 2012
11:33 am
“@Disco….cuffed to the bedpost. hate to admit it but that’s what I’m talking about. ” What’s the deal with women and handcuffs. I cant get with that. I got trust issues.
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
11:33 am
I usually have weird dreams that are very difficult to interpret…even with my dream book! I should write down my dreams more often because I forget them fairly quickly…
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
11:35 am
Dang, Leggs! I thought I was the only one who held on to gift cards like that. A co-worker told me she was going to start taking them from me if I didn’t start spending them. LOL
LOL@Sassy. I said the same thing about 10 minutes ago. Thank God this is my Friday…this cooler weather is making me sleepy.
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
11:36 am
@Bluz: Chicken noodle soup sounds pretty good. Unless it’s the Campbell’s kind….
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
11:37 am
Either I was hungry or had been watching too many episodes of Man vs Food
Usually when people dream of fish it means someone around them is pregna or about to become so…
I’ve seen that happen in my family too many times to count. Once in a while,my now deceased granny used to say to us….”I had a dream ’bout fish the other night”,…and my cousins and I would be looking at each other like
and blurt out “It ain’t me”… Usually it was one of them or another family member but granny was right.
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
11:37 am
Ok, 1 more.
Yo momma’s so ugly, she called Bob the Builder and he said “We can’t fix that”
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
11:39 am
ITL – It is the Campbell’s kind! LOL! There is a restaurant that just opened not too long ago with a fried fish platter. I may go try that…
disco
October 11th, 2012
11:39 am
dushawn – I thought me and you were tracking. you seem like a handcuff kind of guy. lol. you don’t have to get maximum security government issue handcuffs. you can get little skimpy Frederick of Hollywood breakaway handcuffs. would that help any or are you just 100% against being handcuffed? as I typed that I thought to myself, “really what black man in amercia wants to be handcuffed”. lol.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
11:41 am
I thought I was the only one who held on to gift cards like that.
I thought the same thing,too. I’ve got two that I’ve had for a while and I feel guilty kinda… I’ve promised myself that they’ll be gone within two weeks.
MsAtl
October 11th, 2012
11:42 am
Disco- lol.
Shawn- We aren’t talking police grade. The cuffs can be the furry animal print kind. You can have a safe word. It’ll help with your trust issues.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
11:43 am
Chicken noodle soup sounds pretty good. Unless it’s the Campbell’s kind….
I only eat that when I’m sick….that and orange juice.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
11:44 am
Dushawn ~ I have trust issues to that’s why both hands will not be cuffed or tied up in scarves. However, you can have one leg and one arm. Take your pick, left or right side, but you can’t have both sides (lolol). First and foremost “safe” words scare me too. I know you have to truly trust your partner, but things get out of hand and I need to have some semblance of control.
disco
October 11th, 2012
11:45 am
leggs – hence why you are the one with the key and he is the one in the cuffs. lol.
kimmie
October 11th, 2012
11:46 am
What’s up folks?
Nothing to add really on the topic
I never hold on to gift cards. I spend them the minite they hit my hands!
DuShawn
October 11th, 2012
11:49 am
-Disco- I thought we were kinda vibin too. I’m feelin you, but I will not be restrained. Now, I will handcuff YOU all day. Of course we will have to establish a designated safe word……I typically suggest the word “HARDER!” to my participants. That way, when I don’t stop I could say I got confused.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
11:50 am
Good point, disco, damn good point (lol).
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
11:51 am
typically suggest the word “HARDER!” to my participants. That way, when I don’t stop I could say I got confused.
FUNNY….
Willie Dynamite
October 11th, 2012
11:52 am
Morning all,
Cuffing season- I hadn’t heard it put like that. If anything I thought dudes let chicks go before the holidays and pick another squad after vday. Of course they kept a cool one around when for gp. Just what I’ve heard.
disco
October 11th, 2012
11:54 am
hey there kimmie – those gift cards burn a hole in your pocket huh?
dushawn – tsk tsk tsk. aren’t you married? go ahead and give in my brother. make it your new year’s resolution to be on the receiving end of some “amorous restraint technique”.
disco
October 11th, 2012
11:55 am
I just watched video on postgazette.com where a 15 year old punched a teacher. he dropped dude. lol. not that it’s funny but I thought of Friday “you got knocked the eff out”
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
11:56 am
Being cuffed to the bed is fun, but I’ve only done it after gaining trust that my partner is not going to do anything painful to me! Come to think of it, I have not been with a man who would let me cuff him…I could pin their arms down, but not cuff.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
11:56 am
hence why you are the one with the key and he is the one in the cuffs.
I know that’s right
I’ve never been tied/cuffed or anything of the like(control issues probably)…now I’ve tied up a few but haven’t met one that I’d give that kinda power to…
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
11:59 am
disco~ Amourous restraint techniques? Cuffing?
Where have I wandered into?!? Oh my…
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
11:59 am
Yo mama’s so fat, she has type 2 diabetes.
Oh, wait…
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
12:00 pm
I have not been with a man who would let me cuff him…
Me either…silk sashes come across much better..trust me p’on dat
kimmie
October 11th, 2012
12:04 pm
disco – yep. Years ago when I was struggling to make ends meet, I used to try to hold on to them for a rainy day. When folks wanted to know what to get me for my bday & Christmas I would tell them a Walmart gift card. That way when I was broke, I could buy groceries there. They would really come in handy.
Willie Dynamite
October 11th, 2012
12:15 pm
No handcuffing and beware the chick with the silk scarf collection (looking @u sassy)
disco
October 11th, 2012
12:19 pm
WD – if I didn’t know better I’d say that some of the blog gents are a bunch of punks. of course, in light of the hostility and theatrics up in here today far be it for me to call anyone out of their name. lol. if restraint isn’t your thing, it isn’t your thing. y’all stick with the same old been there done that tried and true smack it up flip it rub it down.
Willie Dynamite
October 11th, 2012
12:22 pm
Disco- if I didn’t know better I’d say the blog ladies had control issues. Hahaha
Have you ever been armously restrained or have you always been the restrainer?
disco
October 11th, 2012
12:24 pm
WD – I am just the mouthpiece. talking a lot of smack and ain’t never did nothing. lol.
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
12:25 pm
Hell, if the chick is hot enough, I’ll let her tie my azz up. I might end up dead, but there are worse ways to go…
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
12:25 pm
Maybe it means you’re preggers with triplets
ITl – Naw, ain’t me sistah…we keeps it strapped up round dis herrr hood.
We just had a surprise employee luncheon…hamburgers and hotdogs with dessert to top it off. Now i’m too full to do anything for the rest of the day
Willie Dynamite
October 11th, 2012
12:30 pm
Disco- ion believe that.
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
12:34 pm
Well, I have been both the binder and the bind-ee. Must say, I much prefer being the binder…
A little light bondage can make things interesting. I’m laughing at the blog ladies though. All of us reading “50 Shades of Gray” but no one wants to be bound… Hmmmm
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
12:34 pm
beware the chick with the silk scarf collection
Ha..ha..ha Willie. Truth be told by time we got to that it was too late…just lay back and let it happen to you. Shyyd I’m talking better hands than Allstate
Willie aren’t you married?! This shoulda been water under the bridge for you and the Mrs.
we keeps it strapped up round dis herrr hood
Okay?!?!?!
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
12:39 pm
I haven’t read 50 Shades but was told I need to. I prefer sweet pain to actual bondage.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
12:39 pm
All of us reading “50 Shades of Gray” but no one wants to be bound… Hmmmm
Actually I think I’m one of the five people who haven’t read it yet…just don’t see what the hype is/was about it. My ego won’t let me be “bound” like that. I’ve been restrained (with hands only) but that’s about as far as it goes. Hmmm…