Dating: What is cuffing season?!
Thank goodness for the internet! I am now fully aware of the official urban dictionary definition of cuffing season:
During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship. The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be cuffed.
Didn’t know there was a new term for this. Honestly, when I heard cuffing season my mind went straight to the gutter (I’m awful, I know). But I digress; this cuffing season is one of those double-edged swords. It can be good or it can be really bad. What happens in the spring? Will your cuffing boo suddenly start to look less appealing with the change in seasons?
This just proves how fickle dating can be. You could be excited about someone for a couple of months and things get hot and heavy. Then out of nowhere, you look up and find the person has become bored, gone to the next victim. They may even pull that oh so lovely disappearing act – my personal favorite maneuver (NOT).
Do you ever think that people you are pursuing or dating are only interested in you to keep them warm in the fall or winter? How do you know if they are planning on sticking around?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
4:09 pm
ITL, who’s bluffing
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 11th, 2012
4:10 pm
leggs, my eyes are spasmed just from reading this page. i don’t even wanna know what i missed.
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
4:10 pm
Y’all are funny and I have been mightily amused today, miscreants. Well done, blog. Well done. (Because, you know, if I’m going to talk to myself, I can at least make it interesting…
)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
4:10 pm
Leggs, did you got to you happy place also (LOL)
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:10 pm
Right.
We’ve been huffing, puffing, cuffing, stuffing, bluffing, and…….
disco
October 11th, 2012
4:11 pm
bluz – the song that’s been in my head for a couple of days now is clique (kanye, jay z and somebody). I’m not a big “new school” hip hop person but I like that little song.
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
4:11 pm
Light~ Sounds like my plans later… Hmmm
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
4:12 pm
I can’t tell them that I’m getting it from a blog that I’ve been on all day when I’m supposed to be working!!! LOL
Shhh…me either…I’ve been laughing all day.
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:12 pm
Yay, miscreants!
@Stamps: It was a joke.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
4:12 pm
time to go and try and get some FRIED FISH
lata peeps
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
4:13 pm
ITL, that’s the only way I take anything on here
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:13 pm
@CC: In that case, I’ll add “roughing” LOLOL
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
4:13 pm
Sounds like my plans later…
Okay?!?!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 11th, 2012
4:14 pm
We need to have a reality show (LOL)
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:15 pm
…or in my case, “fluffing”…as in the pillow when I get home late tonight.
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
4:15 pm
ITL — I think a more appropriate Depeche Mode moment for today’s blog would be:
There’s a new game
We like to play you see
A game with added reality
You treat me like a dog
Get me down on my knees
We call it master and servant
We call it master and servant
It’s a lot like life
This play between the sheets
With you on top and me underneath
Forget all about equality
Let’s play master and servant
Let’s play master and servant
It’s a lot like life
And that’s what’s appealing
If you despise that throwaway feeling
From disposable fun
Then this is the one
Domination’s the name of the game
In bed or in life
They’re both just the same
Except in one you’re fulfilled
At the end of the day
Let’s play master and servant
Let’s play master and servant
Let’s play master and servant
Come on, master and servant
Comon Cents
October 11th, 2012
4:15 pm
In that case, I’ll add “roughing” LOLOL
If I’m lucky, I’ll be “roughing the passer”…
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
4:16 pm
I don’t know if our reality show would be allowed on TV…maybe HBO or Showtime…
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:17 pm
@Swiss: Ummmmm, clean-up on aisle 6, please????
I’mma have to trade my work chair in for one with a sponge seat if we keep this up.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:17 pm
Single ~ ummm, which happy place are you talking about? The kind that Bluz is insisting on going?
Good for you, czB. Never look behind you….(lol)
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
4:18 pm
don’t look back at previous pages…heck, I think they’re stuck together anyway
GOOD ONE
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:19 pm
swiss ~ I had to to stop reading (lol).
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:20 pm
I thought I was gonna faint!
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
4:25 pm
I’mma have to trade my work chair in for one with a sponge seat if we keep this up.
No girl…go old school and cover it with plastic
In that case, I’ll add “roughing”
And all you’ll hear me say is, “Thank you sir..may I have another!” (ala Animal House)
DuShawn
October 11th, 2012
4:27 pm
-Disco/SH- It’s not wise to generalize. I’m sure there are some women that can keep their emotions in check. That reminds me of a lady friend from the past. She was a few years older than me, high powered corporate chick. Had a whole lot of everything, you know really doing her thing. She made it clear that I was strictly a pipe supplier and it is what it is. We had a great friendship. Baby was bad.
After we would do the deed and bust a few, I would be laying up in her spot thinking how I could gracefully make my exit. All the while she was thinking, “ I hope he ain’t trying to spend the night”. Once we did the stretch, yawn and look at the watch move simultaneously. We couldn’t do nothing but laugh. She said get the f&$k out, I said girl you are reading my mind. You just had to respect her gangster.
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:27 pm
Sounds more like Oliver asking for more porridge.
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
4:28 pm
Or, if rough stuff is not your forte, perhaps you could go with this little number whilst tied up:
Put it on
And don’t say a word
Put it on
The one that I prefer
Put it on
And stand before my eyes
Put it on
Please don’t question why
Can you believe
Something so simple
Something so trivial
Makes me a happy man
Can’t you understand
Say you believe
Just how easy
It is to please me
Because when you learn
You’ll know what makes the world turn
Put it on
I can feel so much
Put it on
I don’t need to touch
Put it on
Here before my eyes
Put it on
Because you realise
And you believe
Something so worthless
Serves a purpose
It makes me a happy man
Can’t you understand
Say you believe
Just how easy
It is to please me
Because when you learn
You’ll know what makes the world turn.
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:28 pm
LOL@Sassy. Wonder if the supply room keeps tarps in stock….
@Swiss: Now you’ve got me thinking about Nine Inch Nails….
SlimUno
October 11th, 2012
4:28 pm
We’ve been huffing, puffing, cuffing, stuffing, bluffing, and …..later on somebody will be muffing lol
disco
October 11th, 2012
4:29 pm
dushawn – I believe a lot of men bank on women being emotional. when they run into the one that’s not they usually don’t know how to act or how to deal with her. the truth is a lot of a man’s game plays off a woman’s emotions. when you take that out of the equation dude is stuck like chuck.
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:32 pm
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:33 pm
@slim: And if it’s on the floor, put a towel under you and you can be buffing
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
4:34 pm
I really think I missed my calling — I should be the Casey Kasem of freaky long distance dedications…
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:34 pm
Liked the other one better (even though I didn’t finish reading it). I read all of that one (lol).
i'm swiss
October 11th, 2012
4:37 pm
Leggs — If you want the full effect, you can listen to it here. (username: MIA / password: MIA)
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:38 pm
And this is going out to Jim……Susie wrote in and said, “Jim is the only one who made me order multiple tarps from our supply center. Casey, could you please play Buck Cherry for Jim, and tell him it sure is dry here without him?”
Susie, here’s your long distance dedication to Jim….
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
4:39 pm
. when they run into the one that’s not they usually don’t know how to act or how to deal with her. the truth is a lot of a man’s game plays off a woman’s emotions. when you take that out of the equation dude is stuck like chuck.
Worth repeating…that is soo true.
disco
October 11th, 2012
4:40 pm
sassy – you crazy. actually I don’t think I’ve been there but likely only because my house is/was off limits. I’ll roll through his spot, do the do, get dressed and roll out but not in my space. I won’t be the one getting up changing sheets in the middle of the night. lol. I thought the game would change when my son left the house but, go figure, that’s when the man supply dried up.
Exiled!
October 11th, 2012
4:43 pm
Daaamn uall going towards 12/13 pages..what y’all talking bout?
That’s sum read for me tonite….
Carry on!
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
4:44 pm
I’m so glad the convo turned out pretty darn pleasant after the initial crap this morning!
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 11th, 2012
4:46 pm
disco..I hear you and I’ve done that,too. When I’m single, if I get my “stuff” delivered best believe he ain’t staying the night…and if I go to his place I’m bouncing as well(sometimes amidst protest cause they wanted me to stay), cause I like sleeping in my own bed. If I’m in a relationship then that’s different…still though, I like my space and even then would like to say good night to him sometimes instead of good morning. Don’t judge me
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:47 pm
When someone yells, “STOP!” I never know if it’s in the name of love, if it’s Hammertime, or if I should collaborate and listen.
Random Thoughts, by ITL Handy…..
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:47 pm
You should be in a for a treat this evening, Ex.
Bluz ~ it always gets better. Hey, that’s a good motto for you. Just thought of that. You’re welcome (cracking myself up.) Girl, pay me no mind.
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
4:47 pm
The good thing about letting dude spend the night, though, is morning sex!!!
Leggs
October 11th, 2012
4:48 pm
See, that’s the point, Sassy/disco ~ women want to wake up in their own beds sans the dude they sexed up the night before…go home!
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:49 pm
@Sassy: No judgment here. I’ll be the first to give it the pause and stretch and say, “Don’t you have to be at work early? I do. I have a meeting first thing! Here’s your socks.”
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
4:49 pm
ITL – I saw one of those postcard things on Facebook that had that on it! I typically stick with “…in the name of love.” LOL!
disco
October 11th, 2012
4:49 pm
sure bluz. it always gets better. of course, things often get worse before they get better but they do eventually get better. problem is some people have such a difficult time dealing with the worse that they might not make it to the better. okay. I’ll stop. I’m no fun. a friend just told me at lunch today to never volunteer for a suicide hotline. lol.
Bluzgirl
October 11th, 2012
4:50 pm
Leggs – That’s been one of my mottos lately…”It always will get better.”
Into the Light
October 11th, 2012
4:50 pm
@Bluz: It cracked me up when I saw it. I guess I fall in the “Collaborate and Listen” category.