What makes a man attractive?
I am always astounded by the totally ridiculous reasons women dump guys. I’ve heard things like, “He breathed too loudly” or “He owned too many dogs.” You just can’t predict the random things that turn women off. We are complex creatures, what can I say!
While we may vary on what makes a man unattractive, most women can agree on what makes a man attractive and irresistible. When a man has “that thing” or that sex appeal oozing from his pores, we all take notice.
I think a lot of men believe it’s their money or power, or even their status that draws women to them. That’s not necessarily true. Although those things have been known to attract a certain type of woman, smart women know it’s about a man’s character.
I always like to poll my coupled up friends and find out what it was that made them fall for their partner. I’d say a lot of the answers surprised their significant other! They had no idea there was something so specific and small that got their mate’s attention in the beginning.
I wonder if we really know what draws people to us? What makes a man attractive? What makes a woman stand out? Do you think you know what it is that brings all the boys/girls to the yard..besides your milkshake? (Shout out to Kelis)
Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?
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Celisea...blogging from the Ritz
October 10th, 2012
5:35 am
Gooooooood morning!!
What makes a man attractive? Being a man of his word. A man of honor. A man that handles his business.
Let me tell you, boy oh boy did I get the BIGGEST laugh off reading yesterday’s posts. I gotta say y’all got a “bwah ha ha ha ha” and a LOL’d out of me, whew buddy…lol Now, y’all know I beckoned a couple of coworkers before heading out of the office to meet friends for dinner and showed them. They wanted to know what got me to laughing so. We all had a good laugh really. Naturally I had to explain cause they didn’t get it at first. Even they had a big giggle….lol One thing is for sure, I can always depend on a good laugh. Thanks miscreants!!!
Alright, got a long day and breakfast and a cab in the next hour. Got a team meeting with my new portfolio bright and early! I’m certain I’m gonna crash and burn eventually. Since Saturday, I’ve been operating off about 3 or 4 hours of sleep nightly.
Toddles aaaaaaand…….winning!!! Y’all have a FANTAB day!
Celisea...blogging from the Ritz
October 10th, 2012
5:52 am
One more, I was so honored and moved yesterday. I know at least six times, after being introduced the person’s expression changed to “oooh you’re Celisea” followed by being told they’d heard nothing but good things! Awww how nice to hear and a good feeling! Not to mention my host coworker took me to the fifteenth floor where I finally put faces to a team of folks I interacted with post merger during 2004. I was amazed most of them were still in that group. Soooo nice putting names with faces, exchanging contact information and eating dinner with a couple of them that tagged alone last night
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
7:23 am
“Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?” No! Different strokes for different folks.
Infield Fly Rule
October 10th, 2012
8:30 am
I agree. Different strokes for different folks. But there are some physicial qualities that men pocess that are usually very desirable.
1) Hair – Women usually like men with a full head of hair. It is a sign of youth and good health.
Square jaws and well-defined brow ridges – Women love this
2) Height – Men who are 5′10″ or taller are more attractive than short men.
3) Weight – No beer bellies
4) Eyes – Women like clear, beautiful eyes. Blue eyes are very popular with women.
5) Voice – Women are attracted to strong, deep voices.
6) Humor – Men who are witty and who have a good sense of humor are more attractive.
7) Smart – Women like brains (insert zombie joke here)
9) Trimmed Nails – Women notice this
10) Body posture – Women norice this, too.
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:33 am
Too many Dogs would surely make a clean woman run away…..that’s not surprising. Two dogs is enough for one man.
Money and suave will drop panties,no doubt! Women luv money…All of them. But money alone won’t do it.
If all he has is money and no glib,some(sly) women will dig the gold and get laid elsewhere. Some women do that,absolutely!
What make a woman attractive?
Will chime in later for the rebuttal after we hear from the fairer sex!
Common..I haven’t made the Albertina pitch,yet.
Celisea..u sound so happy! Howdee?!!
Hey MIA!
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
8:34 am
Good morning, all!
In honor of Bluz and Lady’s discussion of National Mental Health Week, I thought I would post the following. Please, if someone you know meets the following criteria, get them help immediately:
Narcissistic personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which people have an inflated sense of self-importance and an extreme preoccupation with themselves.
Causes, incidence, and risk factors
The causes of this disorder are unknown. An overly sensitive personality may affect the development of this disorder.
Symptoms
A person with narcissistic personality disorder may:
•React to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation
•Take advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals
•Have excessive feelings of self-importance
•Exaggerate achievements and talents
•Be preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love
•Have unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment
•Need constant attention and admiration
•Disregard the feelings of others, and have little ability to feel empathy
•Have obsessive self-interest
•Pursue mainly selfish goals
Tabitha
October 10th, 2012
8:34 am
Fabio??
LeeH1
October 10th, 2012
8:36 am
There is no such thing as a homely millionaire.
To be attractive, the man has to be the same social class, or higher, than the woman. Men can marry down, but women can’t also marry down. Or won’t.
Ditto with height. Women won’t date or marry men who are shorter than they are. They worry more about the snide comments of their girl friends than they do about their own happiness.
A man who commands other men is attractive to women. Brains are not attractive- being the Team Captain is.
Men who rescue women are attractive heroes. Men who need rescuing are unattractive losers. Funny, but they are often the same man at different times in their life. And with different women.
Men with a sense of humor are attractive, unless the woman doesn’t have one. Then he is simply foolish in her eyes. He should find another woman.
The rebel without a cause and without a job, who stands up to and against all authority, is attractive to women. The hard working man who sings in a glee club and has a steady but unremarkable job is not.
Women want the wise, loving and comfortable guy to be their friend, confidant and back-up dating partner. They want the snarly, dope filled loser who treats them like dirt as their boyfriend.
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:36 am
Is Lily alive? She ok.. And not in jail.
Where is Lily?
Hope she fine tho.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
8:39 am
Hey ITL, do you know someone like that?
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:41 am
LeeH1!
Brilliant!
Women won’t marry down! Ditto!
The ingrained gold digger gene!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
8:41 am
Infield Fly Rule, that’s a long list, the problem is most that want that, can’t bring anything to the table to go along with it.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
8:42 am
Stamps: Not personally, thankfully. But I have observed behavior that fits the description to a “T”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
8:45 am
ITL, we all have
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:46 am
ITL..
Is that about mental health or bout blog beef?
U won’t touch the topic today in honor of mental health?
Maybe that UGA weekend fantab,brilliant,no words-to-describe-it beating at the hands of Mr. Spurrier jolted u towards Ms mental health advocate now!
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:48 am
Single? Are u retired
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
8:49 am
No ex
Celisea......blogging from NC
October 10th, 2012
8:50 am
Heeeeey there Mmeello!!! I’m am happy
Nothing but blessings from the Almighty. Sorry I offer nooooo apologies for the bliss bestowed!!!
Have a great day ALL
Hey Lady!
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:51 am
If a woman marries down then u know she runs this thang in the home!
We have seen that!
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
8:52 am
Exiled: What a silly question! I had nothing to say on topic, as what attracts one to another is not the same across the board.
As for the beatdown, yep….we got one. But I bleed red and black and will ALWAYS be proud to be a Dawg. So do I like totin’ that a$$ whoopin’? No. But I will.
Celisea......blogging from NC
October 10th, 2012
8:53 am
Mmeello LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
Gotta run
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:55 am
Ok single. U sound(write) so free and happy.
Ok Cel..u sound happy but not free from the j o b of ofcourse unlike Single with an air of being in Aruba or somewhere. Glad u good.
Happy and not free either…waking up now to shower..the j o b calls!
Out!
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
8:56 am
@Stamps: see 8:42. Game, set, match.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
8:57 am
Awwww, Ex. Leaving so soon??? Have a great day.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
8:57 am
umm okay ex??
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
8:57 am
Why silly ITL? why u frowning? :frown:
Just a qstion….jeeeez
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
9:01 am
@Ex: Silly as in you’re joking first thing this morning.
You know it is not that serious, man! 
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
9:05 am
Hey C and a big LOL too! too funny~ ok back to work for a moment! lol
Hugh G. Rection
October 10th, 2012
9:05 am
Women confuse obnoxious and boorish for confidence. They also tend to overlook many failings if the bank balance is adequate, so I’d say income level is a draw, especially in the plastic-fantastic city of Atlanta.
The ‘dope-filled loser’ referenced above qualifies as a ‘back-door man,’ not necessarily a boyfriend. He’s the dude who women have on the side – getting the no-strings-attached action, while the actual boyfriend with a decent job, or business of his own, is out of town or otherwise busy all week. Not that men don’t have side-action as well, as there are plenty of women who are only around for the dinners and entertainment, knowing they only have to spread ‘em to keep it going, believing that one day he will tire of his steady girlfriend and call them in from the bullpen.
Sorry to sound so cynical, but it’s more commonplace than folks like to admit. And, people tend to look the other way these days, chalking it up by saying “well, they deserve to be *happy*!!!”
Morals and integrity!? C’mon.
Celisea......blogging from NC
October 10th, 2012
9:11 am
Heeeey Lady (waving). I have about 10 minutes so, I’m looking out the window enjoying the scenery. Sometimes just being a lady will cause a gentleman to speak on your behalf
As Sha nae nae says… I’m a laaaaady!
Glad you can laugh too. THE DEVIL IS A LIE!!!
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
9:14 am
Oh, mercy. Everybody has jokes this morning.
I’m off to finish a project. Y’all have a great morning!
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
9:20 am
ITL – I love it! Thanks for making people aware of this mental disorder. I have seen this behavior quite recently and it’s not pretty…
On topic…like ITL, not much because it will be different across the board. As far as looks, I’ve dated bald headed men, and long haired men, short men, tall men…it’s not the looks that matter so much. It’s what is on the inside.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
9:21 am
Awwww, bless her heart. Putting kittens in the oven won’t make them biscuits, even if you call them biscuits.
Lack of breeding and class will always show…..
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
9:22 am
@Bluz: You’re welcome!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
9:25 am
What makes a man attractive? How he carries himself, how he gives respect to people. Good grooming is a plus.
“Women confuse obnoxious and boorish for confidence….” – Ummm, maybe on Mars.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
9:26 am
YES, the devil is a liar~ I needed that today sis!
Celisea......blogging from NC
October 10th, 2012
9:29 am
Lady
Have a good one hon…..I’m out
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
9:31 am
Good Morning!
Confidence. All of those other things listed may help to make a man more interesting and attractive but there is nothing that wets the panties like a confident man. I have seen some men that were not wealthy or particularly atractive in my estimation work a room based on their confidence.
ITL~ Are you talking about me?!? You had better not be talking about me! I am the most beautiful, intelligent attractive woman ever!
Tabitha~
@ Fabio.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
9:33 am
LOL@CC. You figured it out!! But of course, being narcissistic and everything being about you, it’s no wonder you were able to easily discern the message behind my post.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
9:42 am
LOL @ ITL and CC!!!
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
9:47 am
Alas, parting is such sweet sorrow, but I must finish a project.
Hope to see y’all this afternoon.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
9:54 am
ITL~ I had help. Leggs actually emailed me and told me that I was too narcissistic and I needed to tone it down a bit. Also, I went to see Bluz therapist on my day off. Maybe I need a work vacation like C now, a vacation to the casinos with Ex and a vacation to the Islands to ang with S/H and then I will have completed my blog self help tour?
abc
October 10th, 2012
10:04 am
What men want most is companionship; what women want most is security. So, what about appearance equates to security for a woman? Youth, health, physical stature, social stature, and whatever looks like an ability to abundantly provide.
You can take the best looking male model in the world and dress him in a fast food uniform and put him behind a cash register, and chicks won’t take much notice — they may see some nice features, but they won’t be interested.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
10:05 am
Haha CC! I hope my therapist did you well! I like the idea of all the vacations!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:07 am
Comon ~ do not go back to Bluz’ therapist! He/she is a thief.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
10:15 am
Legs~ Actually, I found Bluz therapist refreshing. He validated all of the choices I thought were questionable and told me I should drink more. All for the bargain basement price of $500/hr. What do you mean s/he is a thief?
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
10:17 am
Hey now!! Ya’ll think I’m bad now, you should have seen me before therapy! Actually…I’m down to once a month now. My therapist (and myself) is proud of how I’ve handled several issues lately. I’m making a lot of positive steps forward in my life.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:18 am
And on that note, you’re prime to go back to corporate America.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:21 am
I am an advocate for group therapy~ I look forward to teaching and conducting it one day……#random
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:22 am
What men want most is companionship; what women want most is security.<<<I agree~
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
10:23 am
Lady~ What’s the joke? Men have houses, cars and money because that’s what women want. Otherwise, they would be living in cardboard boxes swilling beer all day.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:24 am
o/t I feel the Falcons can beat the Raiders too in the Dome~ lol yes I live for a football filled fall weekend! I will be under radar this weekend~
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:24 am
you got it CC~
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:25 am
That’s great news, Bluz!! That’s the bottom line.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:26 am
I find a man that can dance well attractive!
Now, once I get to know a man better, how he interacts with others, how he faces adversity, and how he handles his business is all very attractive.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:27 am
“are all very attactive traits” is what I meant to say.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:28 am
Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people? <<<<,It would be interesting to discover
disco
October 10th, 2012
10:30 am
good morning. I must admit I giggled at the attack on bluz’ therapist. shucks, I recalled saying once or twice myself that he/she had a darned good hustle going. me, myself, personally – I’m that person that has always kind of dissed the idea of therapy. lately it’s sounding like therapy is the new thing to do. I’ve got several friends who have been touting their therapy sessions. one goes on and on about how much she loves it and it’s so refreshing. another is in couples therapy with her boyfriend. that surprised me. couples therapy with a husband I kind of understand. a boyfriend? guess they’re being proactive. another was ordered by the court to go to therapy years ago and is still in there. go figure.
speaking of group therapy – any of you watch monk? see the episode when his insurance stopped paying for private sessions and he had to go to group? lol.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:36 am
I love Monk. Not sure why I stopped watching (lol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:39 am
Women find atrractive that
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:40 am
Women find men atrractive when he shows confidence in all that he does.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:41 am
Not completing sentences is not attractive (lol).
Hey there. BJ! Cat got your tongue?
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:42 am
Good grief, didn’t mean BJ, meant BF!!!!
disco
October 10th, 2012
10:44 am
BF – I have to go and be contrary. while I respect and appreciate confidence and agree that a little confidence goes a long way I have to say that confidence alone does not the man make and isn’t always enough. he can still be an ignorant, disrespectful troll. lol. someone said there are no homely millionaires. I have to go against that statement too. money might make homely easier to tolerate but it doesn’t make it go away.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:46 am
Scared of the dark = women not atrracted
No confidence= women not atrracted
Yes man = women not atrracted
Has no money = women not interested
Have no excitement = women not interested
Show no love = women not interested
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
10:48 am
Black, I hope they know what their doing when they’re showing this confidence (LOL)
CC, I didn’t know you came by my house.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:48 am
LOL…….hey ya’ll you know me bumbling stumbling in the door.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:49 am
Scared of the dark = men laugh at her
No confidence= men walk in the another direction
Yes woman = men will walk over
Has no money = if the body is banging, men may overlook
Have no excitement = if the body is banging, men will try to ignite some type of excitement
Show no love = men will look elsewhere
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
10:49 am
Black, women do love YES MEN. “honey can I have a Chanel Purse, honey I want a new house, honey I want a new car etc etc etc” (LOL)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:52 am
LOL……@disco’s dissin troll
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:55 am
O/T: I’ve taken about all I can take. Had to go to my hidden space heater and bring it out. Hope I don’t get caught.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:56 am
LOL…..@Leggs
LOL…….@Single yes they do cause that gives them the power.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
10:59 am
Con-man = Confidence Man!! They can wow a room, and you right out of everything you own!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:59 am
LOL……..don’t blow out the circuit box again, I can picture you sitting looking innocent asking what happened to the lights.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:02 am
LOL…you got me pegged, BF!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
11:03 am
Single there’s plenty of con-men in this town. From what I gather some women can’t get over them either.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:04 am
Black, you hit the nail on the head! (LOL)
czBrat ♀
October 10th, 2012
11:08 am
nothing like starting the day with uncooperative computers and three co-workers out (in a company of only five employees). just ugh!
anywho. good day, good people. missed yas!
his attractive: a healthy balance of confidence and kindness.
my attractive: a good heart.
and it doesn’t hurt that we’re both cuties.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
11:09 am
I’ve had to turn my little heater on the past couple of days. Last night, at home, I had to pull out the space heater. Why is it that 68 degrees outside feels really good, but in the house, it’s cold?!?!
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
11:11 am
Hey Brat!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
11:12 am
Damn it got to go, 1 oclock meeting at another office, of course I’m gonna have me a 2 hour lunch before the meeting.
Ya’ll have a great day and cool night. Loving this weather.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:13 am
Hey czB!! Is that a balloon by your name?
kimmie
October 10th, 2012
11:17 am
Morning All!
Single – SOME women may like a yes man when trying to get what they want out of him, gold diggers and such, but nobody realy RESPECTS a yest man. And from what I gather, respect matters much to men.
As for what I find attractive, some things are obvious, some are not. Sure, confident but not to the point of arrogant. Everyone has their insecurities because they are human, so he’s not going to be sure of everything. Comfortable in his own skin is attractive. Intense is not attractive to me. Calm and easy-going are.
What do I find attractive in a man? A man that finds me attractive, all that is me not just the outside. I like those who like me.
My husband is attractive on the outside. What I found irresistable was his calm manner, his intelligence, his ability to not over-analyze some things and just be in the moment. He is not calculating with me and I don’t have to worry that there is some ulterior motive behind things he does or says. He is a decent human being that lives a respectable lifestyle that does not make me uncomfortable. Some might even find it boring. I don’t need constant excitement, danger. He likes to have fun and enjoy himself, and loves a dirty joke. But he’s a grown-up and I like that.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
11:22 am
Con-man = Confidence Man!! They can wow a room, and you right out of everything you own!
We didn’t ask what was GOOD for you; we asked what was attractive. Confidence = attractive. That’s why they can talk you out of everything you own.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
11:24 am
hi bluz!
hey leggs! i found a girly sign on some website a while back and added it to my moniker. now i’m singing like latifah cuz thing 2 moved out and i is freeee!
how ya feeling?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:24 am
Comon, you are right, you never see and ugly con person (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:25 am
CZ brat, I like the old school, Cameo-Single Life
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
11:27 am
just had chicken pot pie soup with waffle sweet potato fries, a banana and apple~
disco
October 10th, 2012
11:28 am
brat – getting her Amistad on. lol. nothing like freedom.
S/H – I’ve seen some ugly folks with mad talk game. don’t know if we will equate running talk game to running con but if it’s not the same it’s mighty close.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:29 am
Comon, here’s your Island get away
http://www.sandals.com/specials/3-day-sale.cfm?WT.mc_id=Sandals_EndOfSummer_MainImg_EC_Oct12&utm_source=Sandals_EndOfSummer&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Sandals_EndOfSummer_MainImg_EC_Oct12&spMailingID=4917762&spUserID=MjQ1Nzk2ODU1OTYS1&spJobID=55191207&spReportId=NTUxOTEyMDcS1
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:30 am
Disco, it all depends, are they running game to get you our of your panties, or to take you for every dime you have.
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
11:31 am
Afternoon all,
That’s a very good question. I have to go back and read now. Normally a point blank question like this usually doesn’t get answered by the ladies. It is a hard question because for MOST the honest answer would be superficial.
disco
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
WD – what’s the point blank question? the topic or is there another question out there?
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
Brat- wait a min, you still fiancéd up right?
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
I was engaged to a “yes man” and it got really old after a while. I realized that he agreed with me on EVERYTHING and it got annoying. I even tried to get him to debate or argue with me and he wouldn’t. I knew life would be boring if I married him…
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
Thing 2 finally flew the coup! Good for you. I’m feeling great. A little tired since my sleep pattern is all messed up.
Umm, is this newly found freedom making you rethink and push the wedding date back???
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
11:34 am
Disco- the topic
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
11:36 am
Don’t leave me this way
I can’t survivve, can’t stay alive
without your love,
don’t leave me this waaaaay
Aaaah baby my heart is full of love and desire for you
So come on down and do what you got to do
You started this fire down in my soul
Can’t you see it’s burning I can’t control
Come now and satisfy the need in me
Only your good loving can set me free
Don’t you leave me this way
Real men would never do it. Don’t you do it or she’ll be gone.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:38 am
Single ~ I took the virtual tour, LOVELY!!!
disco
October 10th, 2012
11:41 am
WD – we (well I should say I so as not to speak for everyone) can’t really answer the question straight because there really is no straight answer. sometimes a person just wants what they want and they may not even be sure why they want it. sometimes there’s just a pull and you can’t quite put your finger on what that pull is. sure we have some idea of which qualities we like and prefer but every now and again something can throw us for a loop.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:41 am
Can’t you see it’s burning I can’t control
I always that that part said “Can’t you see it’s burning ‘out of control’ “
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:42 am
thought that part…
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
11:54 am
S/H~ Ahh, would that I could get away… Unfortunately for me (or fortunately for my wallet) summer and upcming holidays = lots of new clients.
I won’t be breaking until I go to the Centennial celebration in January.
Bluz~ You can’t respect anyone who kisses your azz. Yes people always annoy me because I don’t want to hear my opinion in a different voice, I want your opinion if I’m asking.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
11:54 am
@leggs, nope. but i need this in order to commit without feeling like i missed out on something. i will get a few months of being entirely on my own for the first time EVER.
might sound silly, but just a couple days ago i made my very first trip to the grocery store and walked out with TWO bags, carrying everything i need for a whole week! that was grrrreat! i’m looking forward to experiencing what it’s like to look after just me … and my furry sons, of course.
uh, big willie, why you ask?
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
11:55 am
sometimes there’s just a pull and you can’t quite put your finger on what that pull is
Like Chris Brown and Rhianna, huh?
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
12:03 pm
Peeking in u know uall funny!
Cc went to see Bluz therapist and going me on the decks in cadinoland.
What kinda coffee uall drinking in Atlanta???
Too too funny!
Women!!??
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
12:03 pm
czB ~ I know this will be your first time on your own so was just making sure you weren’t feeling “rabbit.” You know like prisoners wanting to run….remember Cool Hand Luke (lol)?
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
12:04 pm
Casinoland
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
12:05 pm
czB ~ I defnitely understand the grocery thing. I remember going after lil leggs left and watching the items on the conveyor belt spoke volumes of being single. I chuckled all the way to the car.
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
12:06 pm
Czbrat?
What heepened? Lol speaking in Disco people English! Lol
U broke from ur man.
Time for blog men to pounce!
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
12:06 pm
lol
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
12:10 pm
Don’t get excited, Ex. It’s not what you think.
disco
October 10th, 2012
12:13 pm
Ex – I don’t deny that my folks will butcher the heck out of the queen’s English but none of us has ever said “heepened”. lol. by the way, just the other day I laughed when this guy said “vir-gin-ja” for Virginia because my grandmother used to pronounce it that way. vir-gin-ja and hi-wi-yee. lol.
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
12:16 pm
Brat- innocent question I promise. Just saw your tag line and wondered.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
12:16 pm
leggs, i think if i’d gone straight from raising my kids to “raising” him & his, i might have felt cheated somehow. i’ve earned the “me” time.
and no, i don’t remember cool hand luke. i think that’s a western. i don’t do westerns. LOL
Time for blog men to pounce!
eeewww. stop! y’all are like bothersome cyberbrothers to me.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
12:27 pm
Cool Hand Luke was not a western, Brat. One of Paul Newman’s greatest roles and if you haven’t seen it, you have some of your “me” time omework cut out for you. Definitely worth the view. I guarantee it! LOL!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
12:27 pm
You certainly do, czB. You certainly do. It’s quite refreshing and extremely liberating.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
12:33 pm
O/T – I got the iPhone 5 delivered today finally. I don’t have access to wi-fi at work, so I gotta go out for lunch so I can activate it! I’m too impatient to wait until I get home…I wanna play with it!
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
12:36 pm
innocent question I promise.
i know. just teasing.
ok. what is this “luke” yous speak of that was, apparently, no skywalker?
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
12:41 pm
cz~
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0061512/
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
12:43 pm
Leggs, I’ve never been to Sandals, but the resorts I’ve been to there have all been great.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
12:48 pm
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
12:16 pm
leggs, i think if i’d gone straight from raising my kids to “raising” him & his, i might have felt cheated somehow. i’ve earned the “me” time.
People used to say I was to picky, cause when mine left home, I wouldn’t date any with kids still at home
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
12:50 pm
Bluz, what’s an I-Phone (rotflmao)
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
12:52 pm
Bluz~ I use the iPad, but I am not a fan of the iPhone. Recently upgraded to the Galaxy III S and I LOVE it!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
12:54 pm
Here’s another great island, and my second home
http://www3.hilton.com/en/about/hawaii50.html?WT.mc_id=zEWWAMS0US1HH2REP4gowawaii7GW841274
disco
October 10th, 2012
12:55 pm
S/H – that’s where I’m at now. not checking for kids (adult or minor) still living at home. not even checking for grandkids that spend too much time with pawpaw. lol. judge if you must.
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
12:55 pm
Random confession- I have a thing for Markina Brown.
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
12:57 pm
WD has an innocent question
See,blog dudes are sniffing…
Sharks circling cz,watch out!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
12:58 pm
Disco, I love my grandkids (now go back to your parents) (LOL)
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
12:59 pm
I’ve thought about getting an iPad, but I just can’t justify the expense of it. I use the heck out of my phone, though!
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
1:08 pm
that’s the chance you take, single. set your own standards in order to live the life YOU want for yourself. there is great inner peace in knowing that you can be perfectly happy alone rather than settle just to “have” someone.
on the other hand, one of my mother’s verbal gems … “you pick, pick, pick til you pick sh!t.”
oh well.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
1:19 pm
“on the other hand, one of my mother’s verbal gems … “you pick, pick, pick til you pick sh!t.”
Huh??
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:22 pm
Afternoon, all!
s/n: If you have laryngitis and are scheduled to participate in a conference call, either a/let your colleagues do the talking or b/reschedule. Haver mercy – I was waiting for that woman to rasp, “Have you checked the children?!?” or “One, two, Freddy’s coming for you….” any minute.
Cool Hand Luke??? LOVE IT, although it forever changed my feelings about boiled eggs.
“What we have here…is failyah….to communicate”
SlimUno
October 10th, 2012
1:23 pm
Afternooner folks,
Looks like I missed a lot so far today. Why yall can’t be this chatty catty when I’m sitting in there twirling my thumbs?
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:26 pm
@disco: Your 12:13 reminds me of this radio commercial that’s running now. I couldn’t tell you who or what it’s for, but I know the guy pronounces Ponce de Leon Ave as “Pons day Lee-on”….everytime I hear it, I think, “You ain’t from around here, huh???”
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
1:32 pm
“Have you checked the children?!?” or “One, two, Freddy’s coming for you….”
now these ^ are movies i know.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
1:32 pm
ITL~ Your 1:26 just made me think of Wilfred Brmley and his Di-a-bedes. LMAO!
Hey, Slim! The usual crew is (kinda) back so there is more chatter today. Go twiddle your thumbs and we will all shut up…
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
1:33 pm
ITL~ Ditto on the boiled eggs. My stomach hurt just watching that scene…
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
1:34 pm
light, i’ve heard that commercial too and i HATE it!
also, there’s one for “la parrilla” mexican restaurant. the chica in the commercial pronounces the name right throughout, then they butcher it in the jingle!
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
1:36 pm
and there’s a dealership commercial out there where the guy says “toe-da” instead of toyota.
just grrrrr!
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:37 pm
LOL@cz. Her voice really creeped me out.
And of course, now I have all kinds of scary movie/book rhymes in my head. Like “Late last night and the night before…tommyknockers, tommyknockers knocking at my door. Wanna go out, don’t know if I can, ‘cuz I’m so scared of the tommyknocker man.” (((((shudder)))))
LOL@CC. I have to change the channel when those commercials come on.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:39 pm
czB ~ Cool Hand Luke is a movie (black and white at that) starring Paul Newman. He was a prisoner and tried to go rabbit (escape) to attend his mother’s funeral. It’s a very good movie. Turner Classic plays it every couple of months.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:42 pm
disco/SH ~ I remember when I was on a dating site this one guy told me even though my child was graduating next month from h.s. and going away to college 2 months later, she was still living under my roof and he couldn’t ask me out. I could do nothing but laugh at his honesty.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
1:43 pm
leggs, i probably avoid it based on title alone. i keep picturing a gunslinger.
light, plenty of stephen king fans in blogsville. don’t get us started.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:50 pm
“you pick, pick, pick til you pick sh!t.”
Oh no you didn’t! I say the same thing often. Popular phrase among carribean folk.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:51 pm
@cz: Up until a few years ago, I had read everything he’d written. The two books that were the hardest for me to finish were “The Shining” – I had to stop and start that book about four times before I made it through bc it scared me so bad – and “The Stand” – everytime I would start to read that book, I’d start getting the sniffles and freak out. LOL. I have always said that King is the master of suspended disbelief. Cognitively, you know that there’s no way what he’s writing could happen, but he makes it seem so real, you think, well…..maybe……
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:51 pm
Single ~ it means one keeps picking over eligible companionship and when they finally settle down and pick a mate, they wind up with a crappy one!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:53 pm
Cool Hand Luke??? LOVE IT, although it forever changed my feelings about boiled eggs.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
1:55 pm
gotha leggs.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:56 pm
Love that nut of man known as Stephen King. Loved IT and Needful Things. Shows you just what “greed” and “gossip” will do to a person.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:57 pm
@Leggs: Probably not.
I love old B&W movies. Paul Newman starred in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof with Elizabeth Taylor, and it’s another favorite. I watch it everytime TCM runs it.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:58 pm
IT ~ to this day, I don’t like walking near street gutters for fear someone is going to snatch me by the ankles and drag me in.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:59 pm
@Leggs: Don’t watch the Halloween Wars show on Food Network. One of the competitions is to carve an evil clown. Some of them make Pennywise look like Bozo. Creeps me out just thinking about it. And yet, I watched (part of) it……
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:01 pm
Believe it or not, but I loved Jane Eyre (sp?). It was a very slow movie, but it eventually engulfs you in their strange but committed love for one another. Also loved Wuthering Heights.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:02 pm
Pennywise would scare anyone!
And, I know I can’t watch Halloween Wars. Too gruesome.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
2:05 pm
There are several versions of Jane Eyre. Which one are you referring to? If it’s the one that was on TCM a few months ago, Elizabeth Taylor is also in that one. She plays Jane’s only friend at the boarding school, the one who dies…..
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:09 pm
The one with Orson Wells.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:10 pm
“it” is the only book i had to put down and re-group a couple times before i got through it.
usually something from king or dean koontz.
to this day, my daughter has a cherished old, tattered copy of “cujo” she keeps because it was her first bedtime story. LMAO. i didn’t do kiddie books. i snuggled up with my munchkins at bedtime and read them whatever i happened to be reading at the time.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
2:11 pm
ITL~ If you like the Stand, read Swan Song. Almost the EXACT same story, with different characters. Written at the same time so there could be no stealing of ideas. Stephen King and Robert McCammon were vibing! Excellent books!
On Stephen King, I read everything he wrote up until the gun slinger series.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:14 pm
IT was the first thing I ever read by SKing. It scared, but nearing the end of the book I put it down before finishing because I didn’t want the book to end. I picked it up a few hours later and finished it. He writes and you’re immediately transported into the storyline.
And as strange as SKing looks, not surprised he writes weird stuff like he does.
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:18 pm
ahh. we are talking books. I much prefer books to football but I know this blog isn’t about me. lol. I see we are talking about Stephen king. the man is indeed a literary genius. when I was in high school my mother accused me of reading “devil books”. she just doesn’t get Stephen king. I remember the first time I read intensity by dean koontz I actually flipped from the last page to the first and started re-reading it. he hit a lick with the title because it was intense.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
2:20 pm
I think that my favorite Stephen King book has got to be Insomnia. I got it Christmas Day the year it came out and I was done with it by the night after Christmas. Couldn’t put it down.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
2:22 pm
@Leggs: Yep, that’s the same version of the movie.
@CC: I’ll check out Swan Song. Although, it seems that the older I get, the bigger fraidy cat I am. I can’t take the scary stuff like I used to.
LOL@cz!!
cz: Thing1, Thing 2, are y’all in bed?
T1/T2: Yes ma’am
cz: Teeth brushed?
T1/T2: Yes ma’am
cz: Okay…time for your story. Once upon a time, there was a man named Jack…and Jack went to live at a big hotel called The Overlook with his wife and his son…..
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
2:23 pm
I much prefer books to football but I know this blog isn’t about me. lol.
Oh, come on, disco….there’s a not a wee little bit of narcissism somewhere down deep??? LOLOLOL
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
2:24 pm
Enter your comments here
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:27 pm
CC – I started to type that insomnia was one of my favorites but pulled back when I couldn’t remember why. I haven’t read it in years. all I remember was an old man not sleeping, seeing squiggly lines and talking to non-beings. I don’t recall what was going on. might have to see if the library has the ebook.
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
2:32 pm
My favorite author is Donald Goines. Although I tend to gravitate toward biographical narratives of successful or interesting people, when it comes to urban storytelling he’s the man. His writing style is so raw and intense.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:32 pm
light, you laughing but it’s true. i used to tell people it’s all about your tone. i could read scary books to my little ones and keep it in a soft, lighthearted tone of voice.
quality time + i did not scare them + i got a little further in my book = WIN! WIN! WIN!
to this day they kinda laugh at what passes for “scary” books and movies cuz they’ve been desensitized.
i'm swiss
October 10th, 2012
2:34 pm
Meh…
Never been much of a Steven King fan — though Shawshank Redemption is one of my favorite movies, so I should check out that novella.
I don’t know, somehow I just can’t get into the more contemporary writers who try to pull of the metaphysical. Nobody does it like Poe. At least not for me…
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:37 pm
ITL – narcissistic? me? never that. lol.
dushawn – once upon a time I had Donald goines and iceberg slim’s complete works. this was way back in the day. when I moved I left them with my mother (I was travelling light). needless to say, one day I have to replace both sets. I do have goines’ biography at home though.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:37 pm
ok. so some of yous read my first post that three of our five employees are MIA today. well, one of our vendors just popped in the office to pick up a check and let it slip that my maintenance tech is actually at another location doing a personal job for a client of his; not at his assigned property doing the repair work i CONFIRMED with him this morning.
so that officially makes me the ONLY one working in this whole damn company today.
and that officially pisses me off.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:41 pm
swiss, i got hooked on all things dark and dreary as early as grade school through poe.
little known trivia about the brat: my favorite poem is “the cremation of sam mcgee” by robert service.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
2:41 pm
personality disorders are the most complex to treat~ #mentalhealthfactoid Read y’all tomorrow MIA!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:41 pm
Speaking of books, disco, I am so, so very sorry that I never got back to you on “Life On The Colored Line.” I enjoyed the story, especially since it was true, but man those two boys had it rough. To be abandoned they way they were was heart wrenching. When I got to the pics in the book I said dayum, they look every bit white. No mulatto, pure d white. The book also shows how constant encouragement for one child can lead them to a successful life, while constant negative will lead another down the wrong path. The father should be more ashamed of himself than the mother because he was the one the children started out living with.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:43 pm
wait. what?
i’ve been blogging all day.
guess that constitutes improper use of the word “working”.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:46 pm
little known trivia about the brat: my favorite poem is “the cremation of sam mcgee” by robert service.
czB ~ you are too funny. Your chldren probably had nightmares before they even knew what a nightmare was (lol). Bet they love scary stuff now.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
2:47 pm
swiss – Poe is one of my all time favorites!!! I also love Kerouac…speaking of which, I need to read “On the Road” again…
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:50 pm
leggs – thanks for sharing your thoughts. I put it out there as one of my favorites but I certainly wasn’t going to nag “did you read it yet, did you read it yet”. I haven’t read it lately and I usually read that book once a year. that and rick bragg’s all over but the shoutin.
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
2:52 pm
@Disco – I currently have Goines and Beck’s complete works in mint condition on a book shelf in my home office. That will be required reading for my son when he becomes a teenager. That’s around the time when kids think they know it all and their parents are lame squares. Those books will let him know the game don’t change, just the players.
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:56 pm
dushawn – I always had lots of books around but my son was never a fan of reading. sure I forced him to read but him reading for his own pleasure wasn’t happening. I still remember when it all got turned around. he read nate mccall’s makes me wanna holler and something inside of him just opened up. since then he even asks for title recommendations. lol. I laugh because I wasn’t kidding when I said I had to force him to read.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:57 pm
disco ~ I wasn’t sure if he was going to wind up marrying a black woman or a white woman. Somewhat not surprised he married who he did considering the extremely rough upbringing they endured.
i'm swiss
October 10th, 2012
2:57 pm
My favorite book (that I never in a million years thought I would like before reading it): Lolita. It’s hilarious & disturbing all at once.
A Clockwork Orange is pretty amazing in that sense, also…
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:02 pm
leggs – and I was totally surprised by his marriage choice. didn’t see it happening since he so quickly adjusted and adapted to his “place”. not that I’m making a joke but it seemed like it was just too soon to go back in my opinion. he actually currently travels and does lectures. I missed him by a day the last time I was at home. I would like to hear him speak.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
3:04 pm
Ahhhh, Swiss and his Annabel Lee…..
I agree with you on Poe, though. (Hey….I made a rhyme! Maybe I’m a poet and don’t know it.)
I think my two fave Poe stories are The Telltale Heart and The Cask of Amontillado (sp?)
Fave poem? Hard to say, but Holy Sonnet 10 by John Donne is right up there. “Death, be not proud, though some have called thee mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so” I always thought it was so cool that someone could so eloquently tell death to kiss his a$$.
If I’m feeling more romantic, I’m a Pablo Neruda girl. His poems make me feel some kinda way…..
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
3:05 pm
@Disco..I was just about to mention Nathan McCall. “Make Me Wanna Holler” is a life changing book. I’ve read it several times. I was somewhat disappointed with his subsequent works. Sister Soulja’s “Coldest Winter Ever” was raw too. I bought that for wifey when it first came out, picked it up and couldn’t put it down.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
3:07 pm
Make me wanna holler is one of my favorite books, but for the life me I can’t remember what it was about.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:10 pm
S/H – some bad A little mannish A boys running trains on folks and robbing folks. lol. okay. guess it’s not funny but he was writing his truth.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
3:10 pm
Dushawn Coldest Winter was a page turner. seems like it was almost written for that girl from TSU I think that ended up doing all that time for her boyfriends drugs.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
3:12 pm
Disco, the only part that comes to mind is when he took the little girl to the abandoned apt, and those older guys took her from him and ran a train on her. and he said nothing and did nothing.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
3:12 pm
lmao @ leggs. you’re probably right.
when the original “saw” came out and instantly became their favorite movie OF ALL TIME! i knew i’d created a couple of gory little monsters.
light, “cask” is my poe fave.
disco, thankfully my kids are still avid readers. while clearing out thing 2s room last weekend, i set a whole lotta books aside to donate but boxed up his entire collection of goosebumps and harry potter for safekeeping. and his treasured copy of “the giving tree”.
aight. gotta get some work done. gotta make these last two hours look like eight.
ciao!
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:13 pm
dushawn – I was really feeling coldest winter ever even if it was fiction. they were bout it. that book had me all in crush with midnight. lol. when she did release the book midnight I was disappointed. not that it wasn’t good. it just didn’t take up from “winter”. there’s supposed to be a third book. I never followed up on it though. need to put it on my to read list.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
3:14 pm
Awwww, cz, The Giving Tree. Love that book, even though it makes me tear up everytime. (@disco – don’t say nothin’ about me being a crybaby….I already know I am!) LOL
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
3:16 pm
Don’t judge me, but a friend gave me Twilight to start reading…she said I would love it. We’ll see.
I’m not much of a reader due to ADD, but I try. The book just has to really suck me in.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:17 pm
ITL – I’m not going to call you out. I’m about to put giving tree on my list. I don’t think it’s on my radar. who’s the author?
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:23 pm
Dushawn/disco ~ Nathan McCall is definitely I must read. Coldest Winter Ever was beyond raw. A few years ago, a woman was selling her self published book inside Publix. I bought it. Similar to Coldest Winter Ever but there was such ugly rawness, cussing every 3 words, beyond hoodrat mentality that I had to throw the book away.
Now, I’ve read James Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room 4x. Love James Baldwin writings.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:26 pm
Pray tell, what is this “Giving Tree” about! A short spiel anyone?
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:33 pm
what? we’ve been on books this long. what’s up with that? of course, I’m not complaining. I’ve added two books to my list.
leggs – i would answer re giving tree except i don’t know.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:35 pm
Yeah, disco, we know you don’t know re your 3:17 (lol)
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
3:37 pm
Several years ago I read Jim Brown’s autobiography “Out of Bounds”. Jim Brown was that mufukka! He described a wild party he threw in L.A. that lasted about a week. He said he accidentally walked in on Kareem getting served by a few young ladies. Three days later he came back for more…and they were still at it. Jim’s real life was better than most fiction.
i'm swiss
October 10th, 2012
3:37 pm
Leggs / disco — The Giving Tree is a children’s book. Which reminds me, I need to start stocking up on children’s books to read to the little rugrat…
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:38 pm
Leggs – don’t make me laugh at myself. I knew I had already put it out there but just in case you missed it I didn’t want you to think I was igging you. lol. I can tell you about the learning tree (Gordon parks I think). in fact, it’s just been put on dvd and I’ve been meaning to order it since my grandma jacked my vhs copy years ago.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:43 pm
Another excellent read by James Baldwin is Just Above My Head. I read this one twice, before leaving it in the back seat of a NY cab.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:45 pm
The Learning Tree is one of my ALL TIME FAVORITE movies. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen it. I immediately thought of the movie when I saw the “giving tree.” Even liked A Tree Grows in Brooklyn.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:49 pm
leggs – did everyone else leave us? when I think of learning tree I always think “it was chauncey. Chauncey Cavanaugh”. that and about old boy in the juke joint singing “my baby’s gone”. yeah. I need to go pick that up at barnes and noble.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:52 pm
It’s like those guys that drive to particular spots picking up workers. They came by here and picked up everyone and threw you and I back.
Yes ma’am “it was Chauncey. Chauncel Cavanaugh!!!!”
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
3:56 pm
I’m still here…just not much to chime in regarding books…
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
3:57 pm
On the subject of kids and books, I remember we were having some wireless issues at the house and I had to hook my laptop to the cable to do some work. My pre-teen daughter kept sweatin me for the computer to do some school report. I finally told her to use the 15 year old, still brand new, dusty encyclopedia Britannicas and some pen and paper like I used to. She said, “ Daddy, I don’t know how to use an encyclopedia.” …But she could put together a helluva Power Point presentation, with sound effects, music and moving pictures and words on each slide….. Technology babies.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:57 pm
bluz – what are your favorite movies? there’s a good chance they are based on books.
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:00 pm
dushawn – re technology babies. a friend of mine has a 2 year old and he’s not potty trained yet. she’s always going on and on about how smart he is. he can do this that and the other and apparently the kid is an ipad wiz. I told her none of that matters until he can wipe his own behind.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:01 pm
Speaking about technology babies, Dushawn, have you seen the toddler who has a magazine in front of her and doesn’t know how to turn the pages? She keeps tapping on the cover expecting it to light up or icons appear…then she starts sliding her little stubby fingers across the page. Our kids never had to pull an Encyclopedia Brittannica or a Funk & Wagnalls off the shelf or from under the living room coffee table.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
4:01 pm
Had to pop out for a few, but I am back. The Giving Tree is by Shel Silverstein and he was my first introduction to poetry. If you want your brats to love poetry, Shel Silverstein is a good place to start.
Another book to throw out tere, Death of a Blue Eyed Soul Brother. Powerful reading!
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:03 pm
awww heck. it’s poetry. I’m taking it off my list. not a fan of poetry at all. don’t get me wrong I can appreciate it but I’m not trying to read it.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:04 pm
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:06 pm
I am cracking up at your disco re: 4:03 cuz I feel the same way. When swiss said it was a children’s book, I had already taken it off my list.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:11 pm
I have so many favorite movies, it’s hard to choose. Love Quintin Tarantino movies…recently watched Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close and it was EXCELLENT!!! I subscribe to Netflix and try to watch a couple of movies a month.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:16 pm
I think Quitin Taratino is touched by the same hands SKing is touched by..perhaps by a cousin twice removed.
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:16 pm
leggs – I obviously missed the children’s book reference or either I figured since Stephen king was bedtime reading…ijs.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:19 pm
I do like some of the Stephen King movies, but never got into reading his books. I really hate that I’m not much of a reader. It is so hard for me to concentrate and finish a book, so it’s harder for me to even pick one up and start it.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
4:28 pm
It’s not poetry. Shel Silverstein generally writes potry, but the Giving Tree is a story about a relationship where one person gives everything that they have and at the end, you wonder if all they have given is appreciated by the recipient. To be a children’s book, there are very stron metaphors in there.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:30 pm
Comon ~ how old are the people in the relationship in the book?
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:41 pm
I do love some Shel Silverstein…haven’t read him in ages!
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:43 pm
re the giving tree. okay, I’ll put it on my “browse” list for the next time I’m just hanging out at BN. I’ll pick it up and give it a thumb thru. I may put it on my xmas gift giving list. think I mentioned I generally give books as gifts. there’s more than a few kids who probably don’t even want to open my gift. lol.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:46 pm
One book I have and to this day still haven’t cracked the spine is “Think Like a Woman, Act Like a Man.”
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
4:54 pm
@Leggs- Isn’t that title backwords..lol, but I know what you mean. Read ya later.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
Leggs~ The “boy” in the book progresses from age probably 5 or 6 to late 80’s. The tree is, obviously, well a tree. And it is grown from the beginning of the book.
Disco~ If you browse it, you will read the whole thing in the store. LOL! It’s not long at all. But an extremely touching and poignant book.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
Leggs – I’ve heard that one is pretty good and may read it one day…
Ok ladies…I’m out. Check in tomorrow!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:58 pm
I’m tired, Dushawn, but yep I typed that wrong! Now, wouldn’t that be something!
Bluz ~ sorry, to this day I don’t understand the hype behind that book. Can’t really figure out what advice is in the book that a grown woman shouldn’t already know. And, saw the video a few weeks ago, and it was all that I thought it to be, WHACK!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
5:00 pm
I think I’m biased on comon sense being dispensed as “sage” advice. Yep, that’s probably my problem.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
5:08 pm
Whew lawd. I’m back.
disco/Leggs: I can’t believe you have kids and have never read The Giving Tree. It’s the sweetest book. But it looks like CC gave y’all the Cliffs Notes version already.
Okay, my major project for today is wrapped up. We still hanging out, or has everyone gone? If we’re hanging around, I need a drink. IJS….
Honeyamber1
October 10th, 2012
8:25 pm
I love to read the blog when that C girl is hardly blogging. I think she does have that personality disorder that ITL mentioned. ijs