What makes a man attractive?
I am always astounded by the totally ridiculous reasons women dump guys. I’ve heard things like, “He breathed too loudly” or “He owned too many dogs.” You just can’t predict the random things that turn women off. We are complex creatures, what can I say!
While we may vary on what makes a man unattractive, most women can agree on what makes a man attractive and irresistible. When a man has “that thing” or that sex appeal oozing from his pores, we all take notice.
I think a lot of men believe it’s their money or power, or even their status that draws women to them. That’s not necessarily true. Although those things have been known to attract a certain type of woman, smart women know it’s about a man’s character.
I always like to poll my coupled up friends and find out what it was that made them fall for their partner. I’d say a lot of the answers surprised their significant other! They had no idea there was something so specific and small that got their mate’s attention in the beginning.
I wonder if we really know what draws people to us? What makes a man attractive? What makes a woman stand out? Do you think you know what it is that brings all the boys/girls to the yard..besides your milkshake? (Shout out to Kelis)
Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?
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disco
October 10th, 2012
3:38 pm
Leggs – don’t make me laugh at myself. I knew I had already put it out there but just in case you missed it I didn’t want you to think I was igging you. lol. I can tell you about the learning tree (Gordon parks I think). in fact, it’s just been put on dvd and I’ve been meaning to order it since my grandma jacked my vhs copy years ago.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:43 pm
Another excellent read by James Baldwin is Just Above My Head. I read this one twice, before leaving it in the back seat of a NY cab.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:45 pm
The Learning Tree is one of my ALL TIME FAVORITE movies. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen it. I immediately thought of the movie when I saw the “giving tree.” Even liked A Tree Grows in Brooklyn.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:49 pm
leggs – did everyone else leave us? when I think of learning tree I always think “it was chauncey. Chauncey Cavanaugh”. that and about old boy in the juke joint singing “my baby’s gone”. yeah. I need to go pick that up at barnes and noble.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:52 pm
It’s like those guys that drive to particular spots picking up workers. They came by here and picked up everyone and threw you and I back.
Yes ma’am “it was Chauncey. Chauncel Cavanaugh!!!!”
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
3:56 pm
I’m still here…just not much to chime in regarding books…
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
3:57 pm
On the subject of kids and books, I remember we were having some wireless issues at the house and I had to hook my laptop to the cable to do some work. My pre-teen daughter kept sweatin me for the computer to do some school report. I finally told her to use the 15 year old, still brand new, dusty encyclopedia Britannicas and some pen and paper like I used to. She said, “ Daddy, I don’t know how to use an encyclopedia.” …But she could put together a helluva Power Point presentation, with sound effects, music and moving pictures and words on each slide….. Technology babies.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:57 pm
bluz – what are your favorite movies? there’s a good chance they are based on books.
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:00 pm
dushawn – re technology babies. a friend of mine has a 2 year old and he’s not potty trained yet. she’s always going on and on about how smart he is. he can do this that and the other and apparently the kid is an ipad wiz. I told her none of that matters until he can wipe his own behind.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:01 pm
Speaking about technology babies, Dushawn, have you seen the toddler who has a magazine in front of her and doesn’t know how to turn the pages? She keeps tapping on the cover expecting it to light up or icons appear…then she starts sliding her little stubby fingers across the page. Our kids never had to pull an Encyclopedia Brittannica or a Funk & Wagnalls off the shelf or from under the living room coffee table.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
4:01 pm
Had to pop out for a few, but I am back. The Giving Tree is by Shel Silverstein and he was my first introduction to poetry. If you want your brats to love poetry, Shel Silverstein is a good place to start.
Another book to throw out tere, Death of a Blue Eyed Soul Brother. Powerful reading!
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:03 pm
awww heck. it’s poetry. I’m taking it off my list. not a fan of poetry at all. don’t get me wrong I can appreciate it but I’m not trying to read it.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:04 pm
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:06 pm
I am cracking up at your disco re: 4:03 cuz I feel the same way. When swiss said it was a children’s book, I had already taken it off my list.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:11 pm
I have so many favorite movies, it’s hard to choose. Love Quintin Tarantino movies…recently watched Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close and it was EXCELLENT!!! I subscribe to Netflix and try to watch a couple of movies a month.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:16 pm
I think Quitin Taratino is touched by the same hands SKing is touched by..perhaps by a cousin twice removed.
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:16 pm
leggs – I obviously missed the children’s book reference or either I figured since Stephen king was bedtime reading…ijs.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:19 pm
I do like some of the Stephen King movies, but never got into reading his books. I really hate that I’m not much of a reader. It is so hard for me to concentrate and finish a book, so it’s harder for me to even pick one up and start it.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
4:28 pm
It’s not poetry. Shel Silverstein generally writes potry, but the Giving Tree is a story about a relationship where one person gives everything that they have and at the end, you wonder if all they have given is appreciated by the recipient. To be a children’s book, there are very stron metaphors in there.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:30 pm
Comon ~ how old are the people in the relationship in the book?
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:41 pm
I do love some Shel Silverstein…haven’t read him in ages!
disco
October 10th, 2012
4:43 pm
re the giving tree. okay, I’ll put it on my “browse” list for the next time I’m just hanging out at BN. I’ll pick it up and give it a thumb thru. I may put it on my xmas gift giving list. think I mentioned I generally give books as gifts. there’s more than a few kids who probably don’t even want to open my gift. lol.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:46 pm
One book I have and to this day still haven’t cracked the spine is “Think Like a Woman, Act Like a Man.”
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
4:54 pm
@Leggs- Isn’t that title backwords..lol, but I know what you mean. Read ya later.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
Leggs~ The “boy” in the book progresses from age probably 5 or 6 to late 80’s. The tree is, obviously, well a tree. And it is grown from the beginning of the book.
Disco~ If you browse it, you will read the whole thing in the store. LOL! It’s not long at all. But an extremely touching and poignant book.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
4:55 pm
Leggs – I’ve heard that one is pretty good and may read it one day…
Ok ladies…I’m out. Check in tomorrow!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
4:58 pm
I’m tired, Dushawn, but yep I typed that wrong! Now, wouldn’t that be something!
Bluz ~ sorry, to this day I don’t understand the hype behind that book. Can’t really figure out what advice is in the book that a grown woman shouldn’t already know. And, saw the video a few weeks ago, and it was all that I thought it to be, WHACK!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
5:00 pm
I think I’m biased on comon sense being dispensed as “sage” advice. Yep, that’s probably my problem.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
5:08 pm
Whew lawd. I’m back.
disco/Leggs: I can’t believe you have kids and have never read The Giving Tree. It’s the sweetest book. But it looks like CC gave y’all the Cliffs Notes version already.
Okay, my major project for today is wrapped up. We still hanging out, or has everyone gone? If we’re hanging around, I need a drink. IJS….
Honeyamber1
October 10th, 2012
8:25 pm
I love to read the blog when that C girl is hardly blogging. I think she does have that personality disorder that ITL mentioned. ijs