What makes a man attractive?
I am always astounded by the totally ridiculous reasons women dump guys. I’ve heard things like, “He breathed too loudly” or “He owned too many dogs.” You just can’t predict the random things that turn women off. We are complex creatures, what can I say!
While we may vary on what makes a man unattractive, most women can agree on what makes a man attractive and irresistible. When a man has “that thing” or that sex appeal oozing from his pores, we all take notice.
I think a lot of men believe it’s their money or power, or even their status that draws women to them. That’s not necessarily true. Although those things have been known to attract a certain type of woman, smart women know it’s about a man’s character.
I always like to poll my coupled up friends and find out what it was that made them fall for their partner. I’d say a lot of the answers surprised their significant other! They had no idea there was something so specific and small that got their mate’s attention in the beginning.
I wonder if we really know what draws people to us? What makes a man attractive? What makes a woman stand out? Do you think you know what it is that brings all the boys/girls to the yard..besides your milkshake? (Shout out to Kelis)
Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?
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Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:57 pm
@Leggs: Probably not.
I love old B&W movies. Paul Newman starred in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof with Elizabeth Taylor, and it’s another favorite. I watch it everytime TCM runs it.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
1:58 pm
IT ~ to this day, I don’t like walking near street gutters for fear someone is going to snatch me by the ankles and drag me in.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
1:59 pm
@Leggs: Don’t watch the Halloween Wars show on Food Network. One of the competitions is to carve an evil clown. Some of them make Pennywise look like Bozo. Creeps me out just thinking about it. And yet, I watched (part of) it……
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:01 pm
Believe it or not, but I loved Jane Eyre (sp?). It was a very slow movie, but it eventually engulfs you in their strange but committed love for one another. Also loved Wuthering Heights.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:02 pm
Pennywise would scare anyone!
And, I know I can’t watch Halloween Wars. Too gruesome.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
2:05 pm
There are several versions of Jane Eyre. Which one are you referring to? If it’s the one that was on TCM a few months ago, Elizabeth Taylor is also in that one. She plays Jane’s only friend at the boarding school, the one who dies…..
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:09 pm
The one with Orson Wells.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:10 pm
“it” is the only book i had to put down and re-group a couple times before i got through it.
usually something from king or dean koontz.
to this day, my daughter has a cherished old, tattered copy of “cujo” she keeps because it was her first bedtime story. LMAO. i didn’t do kiddie books. i snuggled up with my munchkins at bedtime and read them whatever i happened to be reading at the time.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
2:11 pm
ITL~ If you like the Stand, read Swan Song. Almost the EXACT same story, with different characters. Written at the same time so there could be no stealing of ideas. Stephen King and Robert McCammon were vibing! Excellent books!
On Stephen King, I read everything he wrote up until the gun slinger series.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:14 pm
IT was the first thing I ever read by SKing. It scared, but nearing the end of the book I put it down before finishing because I didn’t want the book to end. I picked it up a few hours later and finished it. He writes and you’re immediately transported into the storyline.
And as strange as SKing looks, not surprised he writes weird stuff like he does.
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:18 pm
ahh. we are talking books. I much prefer books to football but I know this blog isn’t about me. lol. I see we are talking about Stephen king. the man is indeed a literary genius. when I was in high school my mother accused me of reading “devil books”. she just doesn’t get Stephen king. I remember the first time I read intensity by dean koontz I actually flipped from the last page to the first and started re-reading it. he hit a lick with the title because it was intense.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
2:20 pm
I think that my favorite Stephen King book has got to be Insomnia. I got it Christmas Day the year it came out and I was done with it by the night after Christmas. Couldn’t put it down.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
2:22 pm
@Leggs: Yep, that’s the same version of the movie.
@CC: I’ll check out Swan Song. Although, it seems that the older I get, the bigger fraidy cat I am. I can’t take the scary stuff like I used to.
LOL@cz!!
cz: Thing1, Thing 2, are y’all in bed?
T1/T2: Yes ma’am
cz: Teeth brushed?
T1/T2: Yes ma’am
cz: Okay…time for your story. Once upon a time, there was a man named Jack…and Jack went to live at a big hotel called The Overlook with his wife and his son…..
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
2:23 pm
I much prefer books to football but I know this blog isn’t about me. lol.
Oh, come on, disco….there’s a not a wee little bit of narcissism somewhere down deep??? LOLOLOL
Exiled!
October 10th, 2012
2:24 pm
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disco
October 10th, 2012
2:27 pm
CC – I started to type that insomnia was one of my favorites but pulled back when I couldn’t remember why. I haven’t read it in years. all I remember was an old man not sleeping, seeing squiggly lines and talking to non-beings. I don’t recall what was going on. might have to see if the library has the ebook.
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
2:32 pm
My favorite author is Donald Goines. Although I tend to gravitate toward biographical narratives of successful or interesting people, when it comes to urban storytelling he’s the man. His writing style is so raw and intense.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:32 pm
light, you laughing but it’s true. i used to tell people it’s all about your tone. i could read scary books to my little ones and keep it in a soft, lighthearted tone of voice.
quality time + i did not scare them + i got a little further in my book = WIN! WIN! WIN!
to this day they kinda laugh at what passes for “scary” books and movies cuz they’ve been desensitized.
i'm swiss
October 10th, 2012
2:34 pm
Meh…
Never been much of a Steven King fan — though Shawshank Redemption is one of my favorite movies, so I should check out that novella.
I don’t know, somehow I just can’t get into the more contemporary writers who try to pull of the metaphysical. Nobody does it like Poe. At least not for me…
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:37 pm
ITL – narcissistic? me? never that. lol.
dushawn – once upon a time I had Donald goines and iceberg slim’s complete works. this was way back in the day. when I moved I left them with my mother (I was travelling light). needless to say, one day I have to replace both sets. I do have goines’ biography at home though.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:37 pm
ok. so some of yous read my first post that three of our five employees are MIA today. well, one of our vendors just popped in the office to pick up a check and let it slip that my maintenance tech is actually at another location doing a personal job for a client of his; not at his assigned property doing the repair work i CONFIRMED with him this morning.
so that officially makes me the ONLY one working in this whole damn company today.
and that officially pisses me off.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:41 pm
swiss, i got hooked on all things dark and dreary as early as grade school through poe.
little known trivia about the brat: my favorite poem is “the cremation of sam mcgee” by robert service.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
2:41 pm
personality disorders are the most complex to treat~ #mentalhealthfactoid Read y’all tomorrow MIA!
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:41 pm
Speaking of books, disco, I am so, so very sorry that I never got back to you on “Life On The Colored Line.” I enjoyed the story, especially since it was true, but man those two boys had it rough. To be abandoned they way they were was heart wrenching. When I got to the pics in the book I said dayum, they look every bit white. No mulatto, pure d white. The book also shows how constant encouragement for one child can lead them to a successful life, while constant negative will lead another down the wrong path. The father should be more ashamed of himself than the mother because he was the one the children started out living with.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
2:43 pm
wait. what?
i’ve been blogging all day.
guess that constitutes improper use of the word “working”.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:46 pm
little known trivia about the brat: my favorite poem is “the cremation of sam mcgee” by robert service.
czB ~ you are too funny. Your chldren probably had nightmares before they even knew what a nightmare was (lol). Bet they love scary stuff now.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
2:47 pm
swiss – Poe is one of my all time favorites!!! I also love Kerouac…speaking of which, I need to read “On the Road” again…
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:50 pm
leggs – thanks for sharing your thoughts. I put it out there as one of my favorites but I certainly wasn’t going to nag “did you read it yet, did you read it yet”. I haven’t read it lately and I usually read that book once a year. that and rick bragg’s all over but the shoutin.
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
2:52 pm
@Disco – I currently have Goines and Beck’s complete works in mint condition on a book shelf in my home office. That will be required reading for my son when he becomes a teenager. That’s around the time when kids think they know it all and their parents are lame squares. Those books will let him know the game don’t change, just the players.
disco
October 10th, 2012
2:56 pm
dushawn – I always had lots of books around but my son was never a fan of reading. sure I forced him to read but him reading for his own pleasure wasn’t happening. I still remember when it all got turned around. he read nate mccall’s makes me wanna holler and something inside of him just opened up. since then he even asks for title recommendations. lol. I laugh because I wasn’t kidding when I said I had to force him to read.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
2:57 pm
disco ~ I wasn’t sure if he was going to wind up marrying a black woman or a white woman. Somewhat not surprised he married who he did considering the extremely rough upbringing they endured.
i'm swiss
October 10th, 2012
2:57 pm
My favorite book (that I never in a million years thought I would like before reading it): Lolita. It’s hilarious & disturbing all at once.
A Clockwork Orange is pretty amazing in that sense, also…
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:02 pm
leggs – and I was totally surprised by his marriage choice. didn’t see it happening since he so quickly adjusted and adapted to his “place”. not that I’m making a joke but it seemed like it was just too soon to go back in my opinion. he actually currently travels and does lectures. I missed him by a day the last time I was at home. I would like to hear him speak.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
3:04 pm
Ahhhh, Swiss and his Annabel Lee…..
I agree with you on Poe, though. (Hey….I made a rhyme! Maybe I’m a poet and don’t know it.)
I think my two fave Poe stories are The Telltale Heart and The Cask of Amontillado (sp?)
Fave poem? Hard to say, but Holy Sonnet 10 by John Donne is right up there. “Death, be not proud, though some have called thee mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so” I always thought it was so cool that someone could so eloquently tell death to kiss his a$$.
If I’m feeling more romantic, I’m a Pablo Neruda girl. His poems make me feel some kinda way…..
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
3:05 pm
@Disco..I was just about to mention Nathan McCall. “Make Me Wanna Holler” is a life changing book. I’ve read it several times. I was somewhat disappointed with his subsequent works. Sister Soulja’s “Coldest Winter Ever” was raw too. I bought that for wifey when it first came out, picked it up and couldn’t put it down.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
3:07 pm
Make me wanna holler is one of my favorite books, but for the life me I can’t remember what it was about.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:10 pm
S/H – some bad A little mannish A boys running trains on folks and robbing folks. lol. okay. guess it’s not funny but he was writing his truth.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
3:10 pm
Dushawn Coldest Winter was a page turner. seems like it was almost written for that girl from TSU I think that ended up doing all that time for her boyfriends drugs.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
3:12 pm
Disco, the only part that comes to mind is when he took the little girl to the abandoned apt, and those older guys took her from him and ran a train on her. and he said nothing and did nothing.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
3:12 pm
lmao @ leggs. you’re probably right.
when the original “saw” came out and instantly became their favorite movie OF ALL TIME! i knew i’d created a couple of gory little monsters.
light, “cask” is my poe fave.
disco, thankfully my kids are still avid readers. while clearing out thing 2s room last weekend, i set a whole lotta books aside to donate but boxed up his entire collection of goosebumps and harry potter for safekeeping. and his treasured copy of “the giving tree”.
aight. gotta get some work done. gotta make these last two hours look like eight.
ciao!
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:13 pm
dushawn – I was really feeling coldest winter ever even if it was fiction. they were bout it. that book had me all in crush with midnight. lol. when she did release the book midnight I was disappointed. not that it wasn’t good. it just didn’t take up from “winter”. there’s supposed to be a third book. I never followed up on it though. need to put it on my to read list.
Into the Light
October 10th, 2012
3:14 pm
Awwww, cz, The Giving Tree. Love that book, even though it makes me tear up everytime. (@disco – don’t say nothin’ about me being a crybaby….I already know I am!) LOL
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
3:16 pm
Don’t judge me, but a friend gave me Twilight to start reading…she said I would love it. We’ll see.
I’m not much of a reader due to ADD, but I try. The book just has to really suck me in.
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:17 pm
ITL – I’m not going to call you out. I’m about to put giving tree on my list. I don’t think it’s on my radar. who’s the author?
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:23 pm
Dushawn/disco ~ Nathan McCall is definitely I must read. Coldest Winter Ever was beyond raw. A few years ago, a woman was selling her self published book inside Publix. I bought it. Similar to Coldest Winter Ever but there was such ugly rawness, cussing every 3 words, beyond hoodrat mentality that I had to throw the book away.
Now, I’ve read James Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room 4x. Love James Baldwin writings.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:26 pm
Pray tell, what is this “Giving Tree” about! A short spiel anyone?
disco
October 10th, 2012
3:33 pm
what? we’ve been on books this long. what’s up with that? of course, I’m not complaining. I’ve added two books to my list.
leggs – i would answer re giving tree except i don’t know.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
3:35 pm
Yeah, disco, we know you don’t know re your 3:17 (lol)
DuShawn
October 10th, 2012
3:37 pm
Several years ago I read Jim Brown’s autobiography “Out of Bounds”. Jim Brown was that mufukka! He described a wild party he threw in L.A. that lasted about a week. He said he accidentally walked in on Kareem getting served by a few young ladies. Three days later he came back for more…and they were still at it. Jim’s real life was better than most fiction.
i'm swiss
October 10th, 2012
3:37 pm
Leggs / disco — The Giving Tree is a children’s book. Which reminds me, I need to start stocking up on children’s books to read to the little rugrat…