What makes a man attractive?
I am always astounded by the totally ridiculous reasons women dump guys. I’ve heard things like, “He breathed too loudly” or “He owned too many dogs.” You just can’t predict the random things that turn women off. We are complex creatures, what can I say!
While we may vary on what makes a man unattractive, most women can agree on what makes a man attractive and irresistible. When a man has “that thing” or that sex appeal oozing from his pores, we all take notice.
I think a lot of men believe it’s their money or power, or even their status that draws women to them. That’s not necessarily true. Although those things have been known to attract a certain type of woman, smart women know it’s about a man’s character.
I always like to poll my coupled up friends and find out what it was that made them fall for their partner. I’d say a lot of the answers surprised their significant other! They had no idea there was something so specific and small that got their mate’s attention in the beginning.
I wonder if we really know what draws people to us? What makes a man attractive? What makes a woman stand out? Do you think you know what it is that brings all the boys/girls to the yard..besides your milkshake? (Shout out to Kelis)
Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
10:23 am
Lady~ What’s the joke? Men have houses, cars and money because that’s what women want. Otherwise, they would be living in cardboard boxes swilling beer all day.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:24 am
o/t I feel the Falcons can beat the Raiders too in the Dome~ lol yes I live for a football filled fall weekend! I will be under radar this weekend~
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:24 am
you got it CC~
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:25 am
That’s great news, Bluz!! That’s the bottom line.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:26 am
I find a man that can dance well attractive!
Now, once I get to know a man better, how he interacts with others, how he faces adversity, and how he handles his business is all very attractive.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:27 am
“are all very attactive traits” is what I meant to say.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
10:28 am
Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people? <<<<,It would be interesting to discover
disco
October 10th, 2012
10:30 am
good morning. I must admit I giggled at the attack on bluz’ therapist. shucks, I recalled saying once or twice myself that he/she had a darned good hustle going. me, myself, personally – I’m that person that has always kind of dissed the idea of therapy. lately it’s sounding like therapy is the new thing to do. I’ve got several friends who have been touting their therapy sessions. one goes on and on about how much she loves it and it’s so refreshing. another is in couples therapy with her boyfriend. that surprised me. couples therapy with a husband I kind of understand. a boyfriend? guess they’re being proactive. another was ordered by the court to go to therapy years ago and is still in there. go figure.
speaking of group therapy – any of you watch monk? see the episode when his insurance stopped paying for private sessions and he had to go to group? lol.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:36 am
I love Monk. Not sure why I stopped watching (lol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:39 am
Women find atrractive that
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:40 am
Women find men atrractive when he shows confidence in all that he does.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:41 am
Not completing sentences is not attractive (lol).
Hey there. BJ! Cat got your tongue?
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:42 am
Good grief, didn’t mean BJ, meant BF!!!!
disco
October 10th, 2012
10:44 am
BF – I have to go and be contrary. while I respect and appreciate confidence and agree that a little confidence goes a long way I have to say that confidence alone does not the man make and isn’t always enough. he can still be an ignorant, disrespectful troll. lol. someone said there are no homely millionaires. I have to go against that statement too. money might make homely easier to tolerate but it doesn’t make it go away.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:46 am
Scared of the dark = women not atrracted
No confidence= women not atrracted
Yes man = women not atrracted
Has no money = women not interested
Have no excitement = women not interested
Show no love = women not interested
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
10:48 am
Black, I hope they know what their doing when they’re showing this confidence (LOL)
CC, I didn’t know you came by my house.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:48 am
LOL…….hey ya’ll you know me bumbling stumbling in the door.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:49 am
Scared of the dark = men laugh at her
No confidence= men walk in the another direction
Yes woman = men will walk over
Has no money = if the body is banging, men may overlook
Have no excitement = if the body is banging, men will try to ignite some type of excitement
Show no love = men will look elsewhere
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
10:49 am
Black, women do love YES MEN. “honey can I have a Chanel Purse, honey I want a new house, honey I want a new car etc etc etc” (LOL)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:52 am
LOL……@disco’s dissin troll
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
10:55 am
O/T: I’ve taken about all I can take. Had to go to my hidden space heater and bring it out. Hope I don’t get caught.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:56 am
LOL…..@Leggs
LOL…….@Single yes they do cause that gives them the power.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
10:59 am
Con-man = Confidence Man!! They can wow a room, and you right out of everything you own!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
10:59 am
LOL……..don’t blow out the circuit box again, I can picture you sitting looking innocent asking what happened to the lights.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:02 am
LOL…you got me pegged, BF!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
11:03 am
Single there’s plenty of con-men in this town. From what I gather some women can’t get over them either.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:04 am
Black, you hit the nail on the head! (LOL)
czBrat ♀
October 10th, 2012
11:08 am
nothing like starting the day with uncooperative computers and three co-workers out (in a company of only five employees). just ugh!
anywho. good day, good people. missed yas!
his attractive: a healthy balance of confidence and kindness.
my attractive: a good heart.
and it doesn’t hurt that we’re both cuties.
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
11:09 am
I’ve had to turn my little heater on the past couple of days. Last night, at home, I had to pull out the space heater. Why is it that 68 degrees outside feels really good, but in the house, it’s cold?!?!
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
11:11 am
Hey Brat!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
11:12 am
Damn it got to go, 1 oclock meeting at another office, of course I’m gonna have me a 2 hour lunch before the meeting.
Ya’ll have a great day and cool night. Loving this weather.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:13 am
Hey czB!! Is that a balloon by your name?
kimmie
October 10th, 2012
11:17 am
Morning All!
Single – SOME women may like a yes man when trying to get what they want out of him, gold diggers and such, but nobody realy RESPECTS a yest man. And from what I gather, respect matters much to men.
As for what I find attractive, some things are obvious, some are not. Sure, confident but not to the point of arrogant. Everyone has their insecurities because they are human, so he’s not going to be sure of everything. Comfortable in his own skin is attractive. Intense is not attractive to me. Calm and easy-going are.
What do I find attractive in a man? A man that finds me attractive, all that is me not just the outside. I like those who like me.
My husband is attractive on the outside. What I found irresistable was his calm manner, his intelligence, his ability to not over-analyze some things and just be in the moment. He is not calculating with me and I don’t have to worry that there is some ulterior motive behind things he does or says. He is a decent human being that lives a respectable lifestyle that does not make me uncomfortable. Some might even find it boring. I don’t need constant excitement, danger. He likes to have fun and enjoy himself, and loves a dirty joke. But he’s a grown-up and I like that.
Comon Cents
October 10th, 2012
11:22 am
Con-man = Confidence Man!! They can wow a room, and you right out of everything you own!
We didn’t ask what was GOOD for you; we asked what was attractive. Confidence = attractive. That’s why they can talk you out of everything you own.
czBrat ♀ ♫•*¨*•Liviiing Singllle•*¨*•♫♪
October 10th, 2012
11:24 am
hi bluz!
hey leggs! i found a girly sign on some website a while back and added it to my moniker. now i’m singing like latifah cuz thing 2 moved out and i is freeee!
how ya feeling?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:24 am
Comon, you are right, you never see and ugly con person (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:25 am
CZ brat, I like the old school, Cameo-Single Life
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
October 10th, 2012
11:27 am
just had chicken pot pie soup with waffle sweet potato fries, a banana and apple~
disco
October 10th, 2012
11:28 am
brat – getting her Amistad on. lol. nothing like freedom.
S/H – I’ve seen some ugly folks with mad talk game. don’t know if we will equate running talk game to running con but if it’s not the same it’s mighty close.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:29 am
Comon, here’s your Island get away
http://www.sandals.com/specials/3-day-sale.cfm?WT.mc_id=Sandals_EndOfSummer_MainImg_EC_Oct12&utm_source=Sandals_EndOfSummer&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Sandals_EndOfSummer_MainImg_EC_Oct12&spMailingID=4917762&spUserID=MjQ1Nzk2ODU1OTYS1&spJobID=55191207&spReportId=NTUxOTEyMDcS1
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 10th, 2012
11:30 am
Disco, it all depends, are they running game to get you our of your panties, or to take you for every dime you have.
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
11:31 am
Afternoon all,
That’s a very good question. I have to go back and read now. Normally a point blank question like this usually doesn’t get answered by the ladies. It is a hard question because for MOST the honest answer would be superficial.
disco
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
WD – what’s the point blank question? the topic or is there another question out there?
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
Brat- wait a min, you still fiancéd up right?
Bluzgirl
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
I was engaged to a “yes man” and it got really old after a while. I realized that he agreed with me on EVERYTHING and it got annoying. I even tried to get him to debate or argue with me and he wouldn’t. I knew life would be boring if I married him…
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:33 am
Thing 2 finally flew the coup! Good for you. I’m feeling great. A little tired since my sleep pattern is all messed up.
Umm, is this newly found freedom making you rethink and push the wedding date back???
Willie Dynamite
October 10th, 2012
11:34 am
Disco- the topic
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 10th, 2012
11:36 am
Don’t leave me this way
I can’t survivve, can’t stay alive
without your love,
don’t leave me this waaaaay
Aaaah baby my heart is full of love and desire for you
So come on down and do what you got to do
You started this fire down in my soul
Can’t you see it’s burning I can’t control
Come now and satisfy the need in me
Only your good loving can set me free
Don’t you leave me this way
Real men would never do it. Don’t you do it or she’ll be gone.
Leggs
October 10th, 2012
11:38 am
Single ~ I took the virtual tour, LOVELY!!!
disco
October 10th, 2012
11:41 am
WD – we (well I should say I so as not to speak for everyone) can’t really answer the question straight because there really is no straight answer. sometimes a person just wants what they want and they may not even be sure why they want it. sometimes there’s just a pull and you can’t quite put your finger on what that pull is. sure we have some idea of which qualities we like and prefer but every now and again something can throw us for a loop.