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What makes a man attractive?

I am always astounded by the totally ridiculous reasons women dump guys. I’ve heard things like, “He breathed too loudly” or “He owned too many dogs.” You just can’t predict the random things that turn women off. We are complex creatures, what can I say!

While we may vary on what makes a man unattractive, most women can agree on what makes a man attractive and irresistible. When a man has “that thing” or that sex appeal oozing from his pores, we all take notice.

I think a lot of men believe it’s their money or power, or even their status that draws women to them. That’s not necessarily true. Although those things have been known to attract a certain type of woman, smart women know it’s about a man’s character.

I always like to poll my coupled up friends and find out what it was that made them fall for their partner. I’d say a lot of the answers surprised their significant other! They had no idea there was something so specific and small that got their mate’s attention in the beginning.

I wonder if we really know what draws people to us? What makes a man attractive? What makes a woman stand out? Do you think you know what it is that brings all the boys/girls to the yard..besides your milkshake? (Shout out to Kelis)

Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Celisea...blogging from the Ritz

October 10th, 2012
5:35 am

Gooooooood morning!! :mrgreen:

What makes a man attractive? Being a man of his word. A man of honor. A man that handles his business.

Let me tell you, boy oh boy did I get the BIGGEST laugh off reading yesterday’s posts. I gotta say y’all got a “bwah ha ha ha ha” and a LOL’d out of me, whew buddy…lol Now, y’all know I beckoned a couple of coworkers before heading out of the office to meet friends for dinner and showed them. They wanted to know what got me to laughing so. We all had a good laugh really. Naturally I had to explain cause they didn’t get it at first. Even they had a big giggle….lol One thing is for sure, I can always depend on a good laugh. Thanks miscreants!!!

Alright, got a long day and breakfast and a cab in the next hour. Got a team meeting with my new portfolio bright and early! I’m certain I’m gonna crash and burn eventually. Since Saturday, I’ve been operating off about 3 or 4 hours of sleep nightly.

Toddles aaaaaaand…….winning!!! Y’all have a FANTAB day! :mrgreen:

Celisea...blogging from the Ritz

October 10th, 2012
5:52 am

One more, I was so honored and moved yesterday. I know at least six times, after being introduced the person’s expression changed to “oooh you’re Celisea” followed by being told they’d heard nothing but good things! Awww how nice to hear and a good feeling! Not to mention my host coworker took me to the fifteenth floor where I finally put faces to a team of folks I interacted with post merger during 2004. I was amazed most of them were still in that group. Soooo nice putting names with faces, exchanging contact information and eating dinner with a couple of them that tagged alone last night :)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 10th, 2012
7:23 am

“Would you be surprised to learn what makes you attractive to other people?” No! Different strokes for different folks.

Infield Fly Rule

October 10th, 2012
8:30 am

I agree. Different strokes for different folks. But there are some physicial qualities that men pocess that are usually very desirable.

1) Hair – Women usually like men with a full head of hair. It is a sign of youth and good health.
2) Height – Men who are 5′10″ or taller are more attractive than short men.
3) Weight – No beer bellies
4) Eyes – Women like clear, beautiful eyes. Blue eyes are very popular with women.
5) Voice – Women are attracted to strong, deep voices.
6) Humor – Men who are witty and who have a good sense of humor are more attractive.
7) Smart – Women like brains (insert zombie joke here)
8) Square jaws and well-defined brow ridges – Women love this
9) Trimmed Nails – Women notice this
10) Body posture – Women norice this, too.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:33 am

Too many Dogs would surely make a clean woman run away…..that’s not surprising. Two dogs is enough for one man.
Money and suave will drop panties,no doubt! Women luv money…All of them. But money alone won’t do it.

If all he has is money and no glib,some(sly) women will dig the gold and get laid elsewhere. Some women do that,absolutely!
What make a woman attractive?
Will chime in later for the rebuttal after we hear from the fairer sex!

Common..I haven’t made the Albertina pitch,yet. :lol:

Celisea..u sound so happy! Howdee?!!

Hey MIA!

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
8:34 am

Good morning, all!

In honor of Bluz and Lady’s discussion of National Mental Health Week, I thought I would post the following. Please, if someone you know meets the following criteria, get them help immediately:

Narcissistic personality disorder
Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition in which people have an inflated sense of self-importance and an extreme preoccupation with themselves.

Causes, incidence, and risk factors
The causes of this disorder are unknown. An overly sensitive personality may affect the development of this disorder.

Symptoms
A person with narcissistic personality disorder may:

•React to criticism with rage, shame, or humiliation

•Take advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals

•Have excessive feelings of self-importance

•Exaggerate achievements and talents

•Be preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, beauty, intelligence, or ideal love

•Have unreasonable expectations of favorable treatment

•Need constant attention and admiration

•Disregard the feelings of others, and have little ability to feel empathy

•Have obsessive self-interest

•Pursue mainly selfish goals

Tabitha

October 10th, 2012
8:34 am

LeeH1

October 10th, 2012
8:36 am

There is no such thing as a homely millionaire.

To be attractive, the man has to be the same social class, or higher, than the woman. Men can marry down, but women can’t also marry down. Or won’t.

Ditto with height. Women won’t date or marry men who are shorter than they are. They worry more about the snide comments of their girl friends than they do about their own happiness.

A man who commands other men is attractive to women. Brains are not attractive- being the Team Captain is.

Men who rescue women are attractive heroes. Men who need rescuing are unattractive losers. Funny, but they are often the same man at different times in their life. And with different women.

Men with a sense of humor are attractive, unless the woman doesn’t have one. Then he is simply foolish in her eyes. He should find another woman.

The rebel without a cause and without a job, who stands up to and against all authority, is attractive to women. The hard working man who sings in a glee club and has a steady but unremarkable job is not.

Women want the wise, loving and comfortable guy to be their friend, confidant and back-up dating partner. They want the snarly, dope filled loser who treats them like dirt as their boyfriend.

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:36 am

Is Lily alive? She ok.. And not in jail.

Where is Lily?

Hope she fine tho.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 10th, 2012
8:39 am

Hey ITL, do you know someone like that?

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:41 am

LeeH1!

Brilliant!

Women won’t marry down! Ditto!

The ingrained gold digger gene!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 10th, 2012
8:41 am

Infield Fly Rule, that’s a long list, the problem is most that want that, can’t bring anything to the table to go along with it.

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
8:42 am

Stamps: Not personally, thankfully. But I have observed behavior that fits the description to a “T”

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 10th, 2012
8:45 am

ITL, we all have :-)

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:46 am

ITL..

Is that about mental health or bout blog beef? :lol:

U won’t touch the topic today in honor of mental health?

Maybe that UGA weekend fantab,brilliant,no words-to-describe-it beating at the hands of Mr. Spurrier jolted u towards Ms mental health advocate now! :lol:

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:48 am

Single? Are u retired

:lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 10th, 2012
8:49 am

Celisea......blogging from NC

October 10th, 2012
8:50 am

Heeeeey there Mmeello!!! I’m am happy :mrgreen: Nothing but blessings from the Almighty. Sorry I offer nooooo apologies for the bliss bestowed!!!

Have a great day ALL :)

Hey Lady!

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:51 am

If a woman marries down then u know she runs this thang in the home!

We have seen that! :lol:

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
8:52 am

Exiled: What a silly question! I had nothing to say on topic, as what attracts one to another is not the same across the board.

As for the beatdown, yep….we got one. But I bleed red and black and will ALWAYS be proud to be a Dawg. So do I like totin’ that a$$ whoopin’? No. But I will. :)

Celisea......blogging from NC

October 10th, 2012
8:53 am

Mmeello LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

Gotta run

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:55 am

Ok single. U sound(write) so free and happy.

Ok Cel..u sound happy but not free from the j o b of ofcourse unlike Single with an air of being in Aruba or somewhere. Glad u good.

Happy and not free either…waking up now to shower..the j o b calls!

Out!

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
8:56 am

@Stamps: see 8:42. Game, set, match.

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
8:57 am

Awwww, Ex. Leaving so soon??? Have a great day.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 10th, 2012
8:57 am

umm okay ex??

Exiled!

October 10th, 2012
8:57 am

Why silly ITL? why u frowning? :frown:

Just a qstion….jeeeez :lol:

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
9:01 am

@Ex: Silly as in you’re joking first thing this morning. :) You know it is not that serious, man! :)

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

October 10th, 2012
9:05 am

Hey C and a big LOL too! too funny~ ok back to work for a moment! lol

Hugh G. Rection

October 10th, 2012
9:05 am

Women confuse obnoxious and boorish for confidence. They also tend to overlook many failings if the bank balance is adequate, so I’d say income level is a draw, especially in the plastic-fantastic city of Atlanta.
The ‘dope-filled loser’ referenced above qualifies as a ‘back-door man,’ not necessarily a boyfriend. He’s the dude who women have on the side – getting the no-strings-attached action, while the actual boyfriend with a decent job, or business of his own, is out of town or otherwise busy all week. Not that men don’t have side-action as well, as there are plenty of women who are only around for the dinners and entertainment, knowing they only have to spread ‘em to keep it going, believing that one day he will tire of his steady girlfriend and call them in from the bullpen.

Sorry to sound so cynical, but it’s more commonplace than folks like to admit. And, people tend to look the other way these days, chalking it up by saying “well, they deserve to be *happy*!!!”

Morals and integrity!? C’mon.

Celisea......blogging from NC

October 10th, 2012
9:11 am

Heeeey Lady (waving). I have about 10 minutes so, I’m looking out the window enjoying the scenery. Sometimes just being a lady will cause a gentleman to speak on your behalf :) As Sha nae nae says… I’m a laaaaady!

Glad you can laugh too. THE DEVIL IS A LIE!!!

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
9:14 am

Oh, mercy. Everybody has jokes this morning.

I’m off to finish a project. Y’all have a great morning!

Bluzgirl

October 10th, 2012
9:20 am

ITL – I love it! Thanks for making people aware of this mental disorder. I have seen this behavior quite recently and it’s not pretty…

On topic…like ITL, not much because it will be different across the board. As far as looks, I’ve dated bald headed men, and long haired men, short men, tall men…it’s not the looks that matter so much. It’s what is on the inside.

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
9:21 am

Awwww, bless her heart. Putting kittens in the oven won’t make them biscuits, even if you call them biscuits.

Lack of breeding and class will always show…..

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
9:22 am

@Bluz: You’re welcome! :)

Leggs

October 10th, 2012
9:25 am

What makes a man attractive? How he carries himself, how he gives respect to people. Good grooming is a plus.

“Women confuse obnoxious and boorish for confidence….” – Ummm, maybe on Mars.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

October 10th, 2012
9:26 am

YES, the devil is a liar~ I needed that today sis! ;)

Celisea......blogging from NC

October 10th, 2012
9:29 am

Lady :mrgreen:

Have a good one hon…..I’m out

Comon Cents

October 10th, 2012
9:31 am

Good Morning!

Confidence. All of those other things listed may help to make a man more interesting and attractive but there is nothing that wets the panties like a confident man. I have seen some men that were not wealthy or particularly atractive in my estimation work a room based on their confidence.

ITL~ Are you talking about me?!? You had better not be talking about me! I am the most beautiful, intelligent attractive woman ever! :lol:

Tabitha~ :lol: @ Fabio.

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
9:33 am

LOL@CC. You figured it out!! But of course, being narcissistic and everything being about you, it’s no wonder you were able to easily discern the message behind my post. :lol: :lol:

Bluzgirl

October 10th, 2012
9:42 am

LOL @ ITL and CC!!!

Into the Light

October 10th, 2012
9:47 am

Alas, parting is such sweet sorrow, but I must finish a project.

Hope to see y’all this afternoon. :)

Comon Cents

October 10th, 2012
9:54 am

ITL~ I had help. Leggs actually emailed me and told me that I was too narcissistic and I needed to tone it down a bit. Also, I went to see Bluz therapist on my day off. Maybe I need a work vacation like C now, a vacation to the casinos with Ex and a vacation to the Islands to ang with S/H and then I will have completed my blog self help tour?

abc

October 10th, 2012
10:04 am

What men want most is companionship; what women want most is security. So, what about appearance equates to security for a woman? Youth, health, physical stature, social stature, and whatever looks like an ability to abundantly provide.

You can take the best looking male model in the world and dress him in a fast food uniform and put him behind a cash register, and chicks won’t take much notice — they may see some nice features, but they won’t be interested.

Bluzgirl

October 10th, 2012
10:05 am

Haha CC! I hope my therapist did you well! I like the idea of all the vacations!

Leggs

October 10th, 2012
10:07 am

Comon ~ do not go back to Bluz’ therapist! He/she is a thief.

Comon Cents

October 10th, 2012
10:15 am

Legs~ Actually, I found Bluz therapist refreshing. He validated all of the choices I thought were questionable and told me I should drink more. All for the bargain basement price of $500/hr. What do you mean s/he is a thief?

Bluzgirl

October 10th, 2012
10:17 am

Hey now!! Ya’ll think I’m bad now, you should have seen me before therapy! Actually…I’m down to once a month now. My therapist (and myself) is proud of how I’ve handled several issues lately. I’m making a lot of positive steps forward in my life.

Leggs

October 10th, 2012
10:18 am

And on that note, you’re prime to go back to corporate America. :wink:

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

October 10th, 2012
10:21 am

I am an advocate for group therapy~ I look forward to teaching and conducting it one day……#random

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

October 10th, 2012
10:22 am

What men want most is companionship; what women want most is security.<<<I agree~