Dating: Unlearn bad habits!
There comes a time in every person’s romantic life when you have to stop and take self-inventory. You know those gut check moments when you start to realize that a lot of misadventures, drama, and disappointments all share something in common: YOU.
I know, it’s not sexy or fun, but it is definitely necessary. How many old attitudes and bad dating habits are we clinging to that run off potentially great matches? There is a lot to be said about self-awareness. Many of us lack it!
Some men think they are projecting some alpha male image and it attracts women to them. They may not realize that they go overboard sometimes and can appear cold and distant. Some women believe they have the hot body and great sex to offer and that is enough to get and keep a man (It’s not, by the way).
So maybe it is worthwhile to figure out what dating habits we need to drop. Determine those old attitudes about the opposite sex that are most likely making us bitter about love. Are you guilty of clinging to bad dating habits?
If you meet someone with awful dating behavior, do you take the time to call them on it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea...blogging from Hartsfield
October 9th, 2012
6:01 am
I’m sort of from the belief that folks can’t be re-raised….whether by self or another individual (i.e. he ain’t my daddy). (lol) Having said that, I believe we can adjust. People get set in their ways after so long. As with not being able to unhear or unsee…not too much “un” anything is happening in adults.
I’m blogging before the blog’s boob and his/her interchangeable mascot: the mutt gets in. Apparently I have sexy ankles, as some animal is always yapping at me
Morning and make it a fantab day!!!
Exiled!
October 9th, 2012
7:55 am
Bad habits:
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1. Not being on time
2. Overdressing thinking it’s sexy
3. Hoochie dressing
4. Eating waaay too much on a first/second date….please! Don’t take advantage!
5. Exposing too much skin..the Ho uniform issue….men will wanna take a ‘quick hit’ and run
6. Too thirsty…don’t grope me,see (6)
7. Slow down the talking and swallow before u talk(I mean swallow food..
8. Slow down on the liquor,see (6)
9. Please,I don’t wanna hear about your exes….
10.I hope u ain’t checking your phone All nite on our date
Happy Tuesday MIA!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
8:04 am
“If you meet someone with awful dating behavior, do you take the time to call them on it?” What may be awful to me, may be okay with someone else, so that means their just not the person for me.
“There is a lot to be said about self-awareness. Many of us lack it!” No truer word have ever been spoken.
“Are you guilty of clinging to bad dating habits?” No, because I am who I am, not changing to satisfy everyone’s needs.
You have to make up your mind what habits you are willing to change for yourself, and what habits you are willing to deal with in someone.
“when you can’t change the people around you, change the people around you!!!”
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
8:20 am
I cosign on C’s 6:01. Can’t teach an old dog new tricks, nor am I interested in trying. All that does is frustrate you and the dog.
Good morning bloggies!
Celisea...blogging from NC
October 9th, 2012
8:21 am
And for the record (before I start my day), I don’t have to blog as others to say what I want…I’m no boob!! I will say though, it caracks me up when someone other than myself get it said. Apparently things aren’t transparent to just me…..lolololol
Just wanted to get that said since another time folks attached me in my absence.
Celisea...blogging from NC
October 9th, 2012
8:24 am
Attacked……my baaaaad
bye!!!
Exiled!
October 9th, 2012
8:33 am
Sexing while liqoured then dating
Getting liquored,getting laid then falling in luv with him
Getting sexed then wanting to ‘claim’ the man,’ the sex makes the relationship’ theory!
Giving it up quick is no guarantee..see above
Giving it up waay late does not help either unless he is also celibating..learn to know when is right.
Don’t solicit me for money to pay this or that after we sex …that is a Ho move. Pay your own damn bills!
Sexing u does not give u the excuse to blow my phone…u grown,take the sex in stride!
(I gave u a sexing license there ladies)
Lady~cool beans :-)
October 9th, 2012
8:54 am
Howdy C & MIA~
Interesting topic!!!!
LOL @ Ex as always!
let me get settled in a long work day awaits!
Kimmie
October 9th, 2012
9:02 am
Morning all!
I am not trying to change anyone. I constantly work on improving myself tho. Not just for my man, but myself and the world. I aim to always be a pleasant person to be around.
Like I said earlier, I am not trying to change anyone. Though if I really care about someone and they r doing something they might be unaware of that is offensive to people, if I feel close to them I may kindly bring it to their attention. Other than that I leave it alone. Some dudes freak at any slight thing & think u r trying to change them. Naw dude, do u & what works for u and I’ll do the same.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
9:12 am
Some dudes freak at any slight thing & think u r trying to change them.
Ain’t that the truth, kimmie?!?
disco
October 9th, 2012
9:15 am
good morning.
ex – re the ho move. I think of the comedian (adele givens maybe) and the joke “you can call me a ho but you can’t call me broke”.
as for my bad dating habits. I’m not claiming. lol.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
9:17 am
disco~ You? With bad dating habits?!? I couldn’t imagine!
Seriously, I don’t know that wielding honesty like a blunt instrument is a bad dating habit, per se…
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
9:26 am
Morning,
Exiled – Nice list there pahtna
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
9:33 am
Slim~ You gonna give him the female version of the list of don’ts?
disco
October 9th, 2012
9:36 am
CC – I suppose I have bad “pre-date” habits. might explain why I haven’t had a date in a while. of course, I’m the person who insists that there is a difference between a “date” and two folks going to get something to eat. lol.
O/T – next weekend erykah badu will be here. thing is she’s with rick smiley. I love erykah badu, I can’t stand rick smiley. decisions decisions.
halo46
October 9th, 2012
9:37 am
i did a bad habit just yesterday. paying for lunch on a blind date because after one glimpse, i knew i never wanted to see him again. for some reason, this is my move to let him down easy.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
9:39 am
disco~ Again, blunt honesty is not a bad habit IMO.
I have been accused of the same thing, but it doesn’t bother me in the least. If you can’t handle honesty, you definitely can’t handle me…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
9:44 am
halo~ Not sure that would qualify as a bad habit to me either. That’s just common courtesy…
disco
October 9th, 2012
9:46 am
CC – you know how folks put quotes on the end of their emails. my current standby quote is “respect the truth”. I got that from a woman in a store who was schooling her daughter. the little girl was maybe 8 or 9 and apparently had been teased in school. the mother was telling her that it didn’t matter what folks said about her if it was true and it didn’t matter what folks said about her if it was a lie. she told the girl she had better learn to respect the truth. I wanted to high five that woman but I don’t suppose she would have taken kindly to my eavesdropping.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
9:46 am
CC – How about you kick off the list while I get these reports done. Lemme brainstorm a minute lol
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
9:47 am
halo – Who hooked yall up? How did the blind date come about? I know I would never want to break bread with any dude I had not at least seen pics of.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
9:56 am
Slim/Ex~ Ok. Here we go:
1. Don’t expect because you bought dinner you bought some puddy.
2. Cologne should be a subtle hint, not a bash over the head. (If you smell like you bathed in it, Ugh!)
3. Do not eye fondle other women wile you are out with me.
4. Too much liquor is not a good look for a dude. (Please don’t double fist…)
5. Don’t tkae me to some loud, overcrowded spot and then expect me to yell over the background noise to “get to know you”
halo46
October 9th, 2012
9:59 am
I was set up by a lady i met at the gym. don’t really know her but she showed me some professional pics of him. the pics were gorgeous. however, he showed up in his UPS uniform, unshaven, and a scull cap. wth. I always try to bring my A game on a first date. if he couldn’t figure that out, he doesn’t deserve to see me again.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
10:07 am
halo~ UPS uniform = employed. IDK, was he coming from work? If he came to meet you straight from the J, I might have to give him a pass…
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
10:09 am
halo – CC has a good point…I’m sure when you all decided on that time, that someone made mention that they would be leaving directly from work, yes or no?
halo46
October 9th, 2012
10:11 am
cc: really? professional men were staring at us in the restaurant, like what is she doing with him? It was my day off, so all I had on were jeans and stilleto heels. i just wasnt feeling him that way. oh, and also, he had a silver tooth on the side. lol just not my type. his body is probably tight, but it was hidden in the jacket. nothing i saw turned me on. lol
disco
October 9th, 2012
10:11 am
CC – don’t know if you were around when I recalled a couple of bad dates on here. one guy (lady at church wanted to hook me up with her visiting brother in law) showed up to the movie late (love and basketball by the way), he was smelling like he crawled out of a barrel of beer and he took a phone call during the movie. neither he nor his sister in law seemed to understand when I said I would pass on a repeat. went to the zoo with another guy, cousin of a co-worker, and he insisted on carrying his gun which to me was already a bad sign. I convinced him to leave the gun in the car. turns out the gun wasn’t the worst of it. dude was like dr. Doolittle up in the spot. literally making animal sounds. imagine a grown man barking like a seal. after the zoo I advised him that I didn’t really care for Chinese food but he still took me to a Chinese restaurant. I got to work Monday and told old girl that she knew her cousin was crazy. lol. so, to add to the list.
1) be on time or even reasonably late (dude showed up around the time sanaa lathan returned to omar epps being engaged)
2) don’t drink too much beforehand. if you have to get liquored up to date me you obviously picked wrong. throw me back.
3) barring straight up emergencies, don’t make phone calls. it’s rude.
4) leave your gun at home. lol.
5) don’t take me someplace that I already told you I don’t want to go to.
6) not even going to address talking to animals.
halo46
October 9th, 2012
10:13 am
slimuno: no actually he said he was leaving the gym at 11am. So we met a 1pm. he starts work at 4pm. so he had an opportunity to clean up and bring his A game. maybe he didn’t expect for me to be attractive. whether he did or not, he still should have tried his best. at least take off the skull cap and put on a tight ups sweater or something.
halo46
October 9th, 2012
10:16 am
another test that i do for me is if i offer to buy lunch, as a gentleman, you should say ‘no, let me get it’. steve harvey 101. lol
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
10:24 am
disco ~ did you sit at the table with your arms folded staring him down as he scoffed down his food. Sounds like he’s the “scoffing” type. And, anybody talking on the phone in the movies needs to be kicked in the shin!
It’s rare that I’m late for anything (other than work). I expect the same from my dates. Be on time, and if you can’t try not to be more than 10-15 mins late.
MORNING!
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
10:28 am
halo – I sort get your point but if someone offered to pay for my lunch I wouldn’t argue with them lol…that’s what happens when you spring a pop quiz on a person.
disco
October 9th, 2012
10:31 am
good morning leggs – I didn’t show out too much. this was the fool with the gun in the car. lol. I didn’t even go in the restaurant. when I realized we had arrived at a Chinese restaurant I was feeling some kind of way. told him to go ahead and get himself some takeout and take me back to my car.
halo46
October 9th, 2012
10:37 am
slimuno – you are correct! lol thus, my bad habit.
Celisea...blogging from NC
October 9th, 2012
10:39 am
OooooomaLord, there are sooooo many fine brothers here that it’s unreal!! And how big of a coincidence that I ran into Reggie?? We area scheduled for lunch tomorrow. Didn’t have my specs on and almost missed him. I asked my friend who was that waving so hard…..she said “Reggie” Of course my voice moved up about 3 octaves….saying “Reggie so and so?” lololol He said I was tryna be cute….lol
Soooo many fine men. Waaaay more than what we have at home
Hey lady! Just popping in for a hot sec.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
10:42 am
Make sure your nails are clean and cut…not doing any chester chester child molester fanga’d dudes.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
10:45 am
fee, you got some ’splaining to do. How come you never mentioned the fine men in NC???
Celisea ~ don’t drool too much. Enjoy the eye candy!
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
10:49 am
Sandusky gets 30 to 60 years!
Bluzgirl - The blogs boob?!?! LMAO!!!
October 9th, 2012
10:50 am
Everyone has some bad habits and we must take a look at what they are and change them. For example…always accusing people of things they are not doing…
Celisea...blogging from NC
October 9th, 2012
10:52 am
Leggs – I’m just mad Atlanta ain’t setup like this…..lol There are 7 towers connected
Lady~cool beans :-)
October 9th, 2012
10:53 am
Enjoy C~
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
10:56 am
Ummm, I need to find some relatives in NC and pay them a visit.
Celisea...blogging from NC
October 9th, 2012
10:56 am
Thanks!
I’m out
disco
October 9th, 2012
11:05 am
leggs – I’m in NC. maybe I’m in the wrong place. lol.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
11:09 am
I’m cracking up, disco! Damn, you’ve definitely rained on that parade (lololol).
Bluzgirl - The blog's boob?!?! LMAO!!!
October 9th, 2012
11:10 am
Leggs – I wonder how long Sandusky will actually be alive in prison. They don’t like child molesters in there at all…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:14 am
” Some dudes freak at any slight thing & think u r trying to change them. Naw dude, do u & what works for u and I’ll do the same.”
That’s not just a dude thing
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
11:14 am
Well, he’s not with the general public and will probably only get an hour in the courtyard (or wherever they let him get some air/sunshine on his skin). Anything can happen in that hour.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:17 am
halo~ Ok, I feel you. I just wanted to make sure dude wasn’t getting a bad rap and had just come from work. In this economy, employed = viable candidate.
disco~ The worst date I ever heard of was a friend from college. She got set up on a date with a guy we went to school with. She had called dude and they had arranged to meet at his place and then go on to meet up with a group of his friends. When she arrived, dude was not dressed, already drinking. Then he informed her that she would need to drive as his license was suspended.
He took her to a gay bar. None of the people they were “supposed” to be meeting up with were tere and dude proceeded to hustle gay guys for drinks. At one point, he was double fisting vodka with no chaser. She then makes excuses for why they have to leave. As they are going to her car, dude proceeds to try to get her to go to another bar. When she politely refuses and they have arrived at her car, dude is on the ground “looking for bombs” under the cars. WTF?!? So, she goes to drive him back to his dorm and dude passes out (mercifully, I guess). When they arrive at his apartment and she wakes him up, dude tries to grope her. She politely extricates erself from the situation and jets. By the time she had called me, dude was calling her on the phone telling her what a great time he had and he felt like they really had a connection.
He then proceeded to call her repeatedly for the next few days trying to get her to go on a second date because “they were meant to be together”…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:19 am
Playing catch up, why would one bring their A game for a blind date?
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:19 am
On topic…seriously…I know that I’ve had some really bad habits in regards to “dating” (like skipping the dating part and moving straight into relationship mode) – I’m working on changing those and feel like I’ve made a few positive steps forward.
CC and disco – I totally agree with your lists.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:19 am
Bluz~ What’s with the “blog’s boob”? I miss a few days and y’all got new ish up in here?
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:21 am
CC – OMG! That is a funny story, but I sure feel for that girl! I think I would have pushed him out of my car onto the ground without waking him up.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:24 am
CC – look at today’s first comment…I’m pretty sure it was directed at me. Some people just like to hold onto negativity and start their day off with it. I just laugh at it!
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:25 am
The funniest part is that there was nothing bad said on Friday…It’s just plain comical to me. When people are so paranoid, it makes you wonder what they are up to
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
11:27 am
I might have left him at the gay bar hoping someone there would give him a ride!
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:27 am
Ahhh.. Ok. I guess I missed all of that. (Thankfully)
Back to my friend, she had a string of bad dates (dude being the worst) but she finally got a great dude and they are married with a baby now. So, I guess happy endings are possible even if you are a serial bad dater.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:27 am
Leggs~ I believe that she tried to leave him, but couldn’t shake dude.
halo46
October 9th, 2012
11:28 am
S&H: Idk, mayble it’s just me. Bring your A game on a blind date or 1st date, so there will be a second date. First impressions go a long way.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:28 am
Comon, you will get headache, trying to figure out what some people are talking about.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:31 am
S/H – I get a feeling you and I are supposedly the same person again. LOL!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:33 am
Halo, for me blind dates are going to casual, no pressure dates, because I may not want a second date. If I’m going to bring my A game its going to be because I want to get to know you. Not because someone thought we might be good together, but to each his own.
But also for me, blind dates and first dates are different.
Blind date = quick lunch or something similar so if we don’t mesh, it’s over quickly
1st date = I put some thought into what where we are going, and I’m trying to get to know you.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:33 am
S/H~ Is that the pounding I’m feeling? I thought it was just work stress…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:34 am
I guess bluz, not even trying to figure it out.
disco
October 9th, 2012
11:34 am
CC – re old girl’s date. I went out once a few years ago with a guy I met at a friend’s house party. first date was cool, we met at a restaurant for brunch. after that I noticed in subsequent phone conversations re making plans to get up he always suggested I drive. finally got to the bottom of it and turns out he had a breathalyzer attached to his steering wheel.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:34 am
It may be comon, it may be (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
11:36 am
Bad dating habits = you’re dating the same people and complaining about it.
Just dating = you’re dating the same people and it’s not a problem.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:36 am
OK – Not gonna waste any more of my time on her…
disco – that is crazy…I think I would laugh my a$$ off if I saw a breathalyzer attached to dude’s car. Then again…with the guys who are attracted to me, I wouldn’t be surprised if it happens one day! LOL
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
11:39 am
If the UPS man had looked like his professional pictures just coming from work, I would think that he wouldn’t need to be set up on a blind date.
*Almost* everybody looks great in professionally done shots.
But if he didn’t do it for you, he didn’t do it for you.
When I met my husband, he didn’t really do ‘it’ for me right out of the box. But he had a great smile, nice eyes and a soothing voice. I thought it was worth coming back for a second look.
disco
October 9th, 2012
11:39 am
bluz – I actually never saw the breathalyzer. he eventually came clean as to why he was always inviting me places and asking me to drive. by the way, we only ever had the one date for brunch. I drove my car, he drove his. after that I was insistent that we could meet wherever and he was always pushing for me to pick him up. needless to say, that went nowhere fast.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
11:40 am
And yes, like Comon said…UPS = solidly employed.
But then again, I guess he really didn’t compare to all of the professional men who caught your eye instead.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
11:44 am
The bad habits that I had to learn were giving in to physical urges too soon, giving no thought to what I really wanted in a mate when choosing to date a person, seeing something that wasn’t there, thinking every connection was a love connection.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
11:53 am
“…finally got to the bottom of it and turns out he had a breathalyzer attached to his steering wheel.”
I know I wasn’t supposed to laugh, but I did.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:57 am
with the guys who are attracted to me, I wouldn’t be surprised if it happens one day! LOL
If that happens, please don’t tell the blog, because I would be forced to tease you unmercifully and I would HATE to have to do that…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
11:57 am
Leggs~ Don’t feel bad. I laughed too.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:58 am
Mrs. SC – I pretty much have those same habits that I’m learning to break…
disco
October 9th, 2012
11:58 am
MrsSC – I know I am a bit on the cynical side but re your comment about thinking every connection was a love connection. am I the only one who has that friend who is in love with each and every single person she talks to? am I the only one who has ever listened to someone repeat what her guy told her and I’m thinking “and you believe that BS”? I’m just curious. is it just me?
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
11:59 am
CC – I think I would keep that one secret and keep it moving away from that guy! I’m learning to be careful what I tell ya’ll! LOL!
Robert
October 9th, 2012
11:59 am
” Are you guilty of clinging to bad dating habits?”
As a Man I am constantly reminded of my past and the dating choices I have made. I have dated women who think I send the wrong kind of perceptions. For example most women think because I have traveled a lot and lived in many major cities (DC, NY, CH, ATL, etc.) that I am a “Player” and I am not looking to settle down. Regardless of how much time, energy, love & passion I put into the relationship I still can not overcome this perception even if it is not true. Women will still believe you have not changed your bad habits. Will somebody please give an honest man a chance? “Perception” is 9/10th of the law.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
12:01 pm
Bluz ~ we are aware of your bad habits. Anybody can change, or rather re wire themselves to yield better outcomes. However, one must want to do it with more than mere words.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:02 pm
disco~ No, it’s not just you. However, I don’t tend to STAY friends with in them in the long term. Go back to that “honesty like a blunt instrument” comment. Either they get sick of the honesty or I get sick of their stupidity. **shrugs** Go figure!
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:02 pm
lol. robert – that read, to me, like “will someone please hook a brother up”.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:03 pm
Robert~ So what happened with Benita (that was her name, right?) You guys seemed all hot to hook up… IJS
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
12:03 pm
With Bluz‘ luck, the breathalyzer would probably also make little honking sound when dude blew in it… he-honk he-honk
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:03 pm
Possesion, not perception is 9/10ths of the law… IJS
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:04 pm
swiss – stop.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:05 pm
swiss~
That actualy made me SOL. (snort out loud)
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:08 pm
I had an old friend who fell in love with every single man that showed her interest and she would be devastated when he didn’t like her back. She went full steam on each of them…I tried to help her with it and tell her to chill some, but she was not capable.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
12:09 pm
“…most women think because I have traveled a lot and lived in many major cities (DC, NY, CH, ATL, etc.) that I am a “Player” – Really??? That’s no reason to think someone is a player…are you tooting your own horn (lol). J/K
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:10 pm
swiss – Now that was funny right there…
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
12:10 pm
Bluz ~ sounds like you have a twin!!!!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
12:11 pm
Oh and one more bad habit…not trusting my own instincts.
disco – you are not the only one. I have just learned to nod and smile with one of my friends. I am glad that some so-called friends have weeded themselves out and that the majority of the friends who now make up my closest friends have good sense…most of the time.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:12 pm
Leggs – I do think I’m starting to get better at re-wiring. I know that I did start off on the wrong foot with Magnum, but I did see pretty quickly that we were not a love match and didn’t put up with his bs. That was actually a pretty big step for me. Not chasing him after I knew he was wrong for me…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:14 pm
Leggs – Trust me…she was bad about it. I know ya’ll think that I fall for every guy, but I really don’t. There have been plenty that I did not give a second look too.
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:16 pm
leggs – to quote nelly. just kidding like Jason, unless you gone do it. you were kidding but you meant it or at least i think you meant it. lol.
re different strokes and all that. forgive me for thinking all crazy and warped but, any of y’all ever think about the adult nerd population (think the band geeks and the audio visual squad and the chess club kids all grown up) and what player means to them. lol. we all have an idea of what a player is but whose to say someone else doesn’t have a completely different idea. those pocket protector wearing brothers could be running mad game.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
12:21 pm
Bluz ~ you’re still fooling yourself with your 12:12. You didn’t see it quickly, you pratically forced a love match and you did put up with his bs, he refused to put up with yours. Now, you can rewire once you’ve faced the truth.
Motto for today “respect the truth!”
Now, you’re a better woman!
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:23 pm
Daaannnnggg! Leggs coming back from convalescing hard! No sugar coating anymore.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
12:24 pm
I meant it, disco!
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
12:25 pm
disco – you just made me think of The Big Bag Theory – Sheldon and Amy Farrah Fowler (or something like that…)
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
12:27 pm
Sugar coating and I have never really been good friends. It’s best to be truthful while trying to remain respectful. Only then can a person grow.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:30 pm
Leggs~ True. True…
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:31 pm
leggs – I figured you meant it but didn’t want to be putting words in your mouth. you know how folks on here can be sometimes. lol. trying to minimize the drama. glad you like the “respect the truth” mantra. it’s amazing how many folks never learned it. I know there’s at least one little girl in the world who’s working on it. her momma meant business. lol.
MrsSC – I’ve been told that I should watch that show. haven’t got around to it yet.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:31 pm
And what state is CH?
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:32 pm
CC – I figured he meant good old chi-town. of course, he could have meant Chattanooga.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:33 pm
Sorry, What state is CH in? I’m familiar with DC, NY and ATL. Not familiar with CH. Did he mean CHI?
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:33 pm
Ok, disco, I thought it was just me…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:35 pm
Leggs – I see what you’re saying. The way I see it, though, is that had this been a couple of years ago, I would have been chasing him down, even with the bs. I haven’t posted on here about him in a while. There has been some bs just at the friend level in the past month and I’m not having it anymore. Trust me when I say that it’s way different for me than it would have been (or has been) in the past. I only put up with a very small amount of bs from him…after that, I was done with it. He’s still trying a little, but I’m not falling into that trap.
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:37 pm
good for you bluz. good for you. you let those busters know that the new and improved bluz “don’t play that”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:37 pm
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
11:40 am
And yes, like Comon said…UPS = solidly employed.
But then again, I guess he really didn’t compare to all of the professional men who caught your eye instead.
And probably made just as much or more than those “professional men”
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:37 pm
That’s right disco…I am seeing the bs a little faster than before. I ain’t putting up with it anymore!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:38 pm
Enter your comments here
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:39 pm
Good job, Bluz! Now, if you can just break the pattern to begin with, you will really be getting somewhere. No busters!!! (And no breathalyzers… lol)
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:39 pm
I just have to point something out real quick…S/H – if we are the same person, how can our posts have the same exact time on them? LOL! Ok…enough with that!
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:40 pm
CC – Trust me…I’m working on breaking those patterns too. I’m becoming more and more self aware and “growing up” and will not continue down the same path I’ve been on.
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:42 pm
S/H – I’m not going to shoot down halo. sure she complained that he showed up in his UPS gear. maybe that’s not what she was expecting. still, it seems like she was more perturbed by the skullie and the silver tooth. may have been another faux pas in there but I don’t recall. did she come off as a tad bit superficial? yeah, maybe just a little but it is what it is.
bluz – don’t front. one of you could be sitting some place with two laptops, have entered two comments and hit enter at the exact same time. lol.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:42 pm
Bluz, I’m using 2 computers to keep everyone on their toes (lmao)
Exiled!
October 9th, 2012
12:43 pm
A real man will try invite u to the crib,he’s most comfortable in his den..
If u accept,expect he will press!
Now don’t fake by saying previsit,’oh so nothing is gon happen,right?’
The mere statement and question is an acknowledgement to him that u expect it to go down.
Go if u want it.
Decline if u don’t.
No 3 ways on this!
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
12:43 pm
“if we are the same person, how can our posts have the same exact time on them?”
Pretty easy, actually. Two separate computers (or really even just 2 separate browsers), signed in as different people, type messages, then hit submit on both at the same time. Plus the time shown here only goes to the minute, so there’s a pretty big window.
I don’t think y’all are the same person, but from a technical standpoint, that’s not a solid alibi. (Sorry, the nerd in me had to point that out).
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:44 pm
Disco, I’m not shooting her down, but being blue collar I get that professional man all the time, at the end of the day for me it’s about the income, not the job title.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:45 pm
LOL disco and S/H!!! Shhh…don’t tell our secrets!
A lot of UPS men look hot in their uniforms. I guess this one didn’t cut it. What a shame!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:45 pm
Disco, we must be the same person, we were typing practically the same thing at the same time (LMAO) again
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
12:45 pm
S/H & disco — I think we all 3 forgot to add or so I’ve heard to the end of our posts…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:46 pm
Ex~ Off topic: Were you able to get the Queen Albertina’ed this weekend?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:46 pm
Well bluz you can’t blog for awhile, I have to go the dentist (LOL)
Tomorrow peeps
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:47 pm
Swiss, this blog is not that serious to try and fool someone (LOL) or so I’ve heard (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
12:48 pm
Disco, I’m not shooting her down, but being blue collar I get that professional man all the time, at the end of the day for me it’s about the income, not the job title.
My hubby is blue collar and I love him. I deal with “professional” tpes all day and I’ll be damned if I want to go home and deal with the same stodgy atitude at night. Blech! However, I don’t think that blue collar was the problem with halo’s UPS man. I think silver (gold) tooth might have been more of an issue than not professional. IJS. M hubby may be blue collar, but he is always sharp as a tack. I couldn’t do sloppy either and what she described sounded sloppy to my ears.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:49 pm
swiss – I didn’t think about that. BUT…I think most of ya’ll can tell that we are not the same people due to our writing styles and thoughts are very different from each others! I just get tired of the accusations…
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
12:50 pm
Damn Leggs on that 12:21!!! That truth for yo ass
disco
October 9th, 2012
12:50 pm
S/H – I know. you be repping for our blue collar brothers. I know some of them are making mad bank. I have a few friends who consistently make six figures (even if some of it is attributed to overtime). if anything, I don’t think halo’s issue was that he worked for UPS (she probably knew that going in), I think she was a bit put off that he showed up in his uniform. apparently appearances matter to her. personally I may have been able to get past the uniform but the tooth would have been a problem for real.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
12:50 pm
See ya S/H!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 9th, 2012
12:59 pm
CC, Disco, I didn’t think it was the ups thing either, but more of the image he put out there, and it had nothing to do with his job.
gone for real this time.
Exiled!
October 9th, 2012
1:01 pm
Common..no I did not coz the weekend was eventful with kids etc..we went vacationing.
But today is her birfday so when we chat again tonite,I’m gon be lovey dovey and slide the Albertina in there somewhere. She don’t know what that is,I’m sure but I’m gon slide ur website link in there for good measure.
I’m laughing coz u know us men know,to score with a woman,ask another woman!
What say u Common..tidbits?
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
1:01 pm
She just felt stupid sitting at the spot with her pageant dress on sitting across from a UPS man.
Robert
October 9th, 2012
1:03 pm
@Common Cents – “Possesion, not perception is 9/10ths of the law”
Once a person says it they can not take it back. People will preceive what they think. No matter how much you try to change their “perceptions” the damage is already done. You can tell the truth 100% but women will only remember what she already thinks and believes.
Exiled!
October 9th, 2012
1:06 pm
There are some ups truckers who owner operate their trucks and make good bank for sure.
Don’t sleep in the truckers.
The downside:they’re like Delta pilots especially if they go long distance.
Small houses in every state!
Robert
October 9th, 2012
1:10 pm
@Disco – “will someone please hook a brother up”.
I am always searching for a new love. I am an equal opportunity lover and I do not discriminate. I love women in all colors, shapes and sizes. My Daddy told me a long time ago. He said “never turn down any woman. All women need love and happiness”
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:11 pm
Robert~ And men are different how?
You kill me with your cro-magnon values and then wonder why you ain’t got a woman. So, you gonna fill us in on what happened with bonita Benita? I noticed that you skipped over that question…
halo46
October 9th, 2012
1:18 pm
You guys are so right. I love a blue collar man, probably moreso than the professional men who don’t know how to let loose and have some fun. I knew he was blue collar working full time at UPS and part time at another blue collar job. He says he is also working on his BS in Management, finishing in February. The thing was the silver tooth and the skullie and unshaven. His pics showed him having all kinds of muscles, and i go for that. But, why brotha, didn’t you just clean up your act. I am now saying show up in a suit, but at least shave and show off that curly hair I saw in the professional photographs. He is still texting, and we may move into the friend zone. I may give him another chance to make a good impression. He seemed like a geniune brotha.
Robert
October 9th, 2012
1:21 pm
@common Cents – “So what happened with Benita”
She is still a good friend and I am very lucky to have known her. We had a great time together and I hope and pray one day she can trust me enough to leave our past in the past and move forward. She was afraid to love me as much as I loved her becuase she was afraid of getting her feelings hurt regardless of how much I loved and adored her. This is a good example of trying to undue your bad habits and how women will have a perception problem with your past life.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
1:22 pm
Glad to read all that, Bluz. Now, stick to your guns and keep working on the re-wiring. Don’t short circuit yourself!!!
Ex~ Off topic: Were you able to get the Queen Albertina’ed this weekend? – Comon, now you know that’s going to take quite a few conversations. Suggesting it one time isn’t getting those lips cut!
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:23 pm
Ok. I am now thoroughly confused. Didn’t y’all just meet and hook up on the blog like 2 weeks ago?!? How could you be at the “She was afraid to love me as much as I loved her becuase she was afraid of getting her feelings hurt regardless of how much I loved and adored her.” phase that quickly?!? I call BS…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:24 pm
Leggs~ With enough drinks it will…
That’s all it took for me. IJS
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
1:26 pm
“She just felt stupid sitting at the spot with her pageant dress on sitting across from a UPS man.” – Girl, you wrong for that. Still funny…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:26 pm
halo~ I vote for a second chance. While you never get a second chance at a first impression, maybe he will come forward with some explanation for his appearance that first meeting. Maybe he’s like S/H and he looks at a blind date as not needing to bring his A game. Maybe he IS S/H…
I kid, I kid…
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
1:28 pm
What have I missed? S/H hooked up on the blog? Now the short-lived relationship is kaput???
Robert
October 9th, 2012
1:28 pm
@Common Cents –
We met In Jan 2012 and her name is not Benita. Perhaps you have me confused with someone else.
halo46
October 9th, 2012
1:32 pm
I had on jeans and a sweater. I threw on stilletos for the sex appeal, that’s all. I was thankful I didn’t wear the sweater dress with booties that I originally had on. See I knew I was going to meet a potential suitor, so I carefully considered what to wear. I would have just liked him to do the same.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
1:33 pm
I haven’t posted on here about him in a while. There has been some bs just at the friend level in the past month and I’m not having it anymore.
Bluz – I thought yall were good friends before dating attempt occurred. So what did he possibly do within the last month on a ‘friend level’ that ticked you off?
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
1:39 pm
halo – You ever think that he was testing YO azz? POP QUIZ TIME
Robert
October 9th, 2012
1:40 pm
Laides I hate to bust your bubbles but most blue collar Men who work for UPS, FedEx, etc. are hired part-time. It takes years to make it a full-time job.
Exiled!
October 9th, 2012
1:41 pm
Enter your comments here
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
1:42 pm
Slim…we were friends before. I don’t know…maybe I’ve just seen a different side of his personality since we did sleep together. He has just been unreliable. He was supposed to help me out with something about a week and a half ago. He got stuck in S. GA for a job (which I can’t fault him), but I had asked him to please keep in touch to let me know if he could come at all. I didn’t hear from him for 4 days…at which point, he just b*tched about his new job and didn’t apologize for bailing on me and not keeping in touch. It’s really just stupid stuff like that. I can’t count on him, yet he wants me to do stuff for him. I won’t be helping him out with things he wants since I can’t depend on him to help me out!
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:42 pm
Robert~ Ok, maybe I am missing it, but there was a dude on here named Robert about 2 weeks ago spouting how he was looking for a virgin and chick (her name was Benita I believe) said she was a virgin. Put her email out and the whole 9. Does anyone else remember this or am I on some really good drugs and hallucinated it?!? Disco? S/H? Y’all were there for that BS right?
Robert
October 9th, 2012
1:42 pm
Ladies, I hate to bust your bubbles but most blue collar Men who work for UPS, FedEx, etc. work part-time. They can become full-time employees after a few years.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:43 pm
Bluz~ My question would be the same as Slim’s. Was he unreliable before and you just chose not see it or is he flaking on you all of a sudden because there is some weirdness there?
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
1:47 pm
I don’t think I really depended on him for anything before…yes, we were friends, but didn’t really start hanging out until a few months ago. He was friends with me and with my ex, so we all hung out, but he never volunteered for things before and I never asked him for things before. It’s kind of hard to explain. He’s just been flaky about returning texts in a timely manner (when asking a question about gigs and stuff). Maybe I just didn’t see it before because we weren’t as close of friends before. He did write me on Sunday and invited me to a party for Oct 20th. All I said was “Maybe…” I’m pretty irked at him still.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
1:49 pm
CC – I do remember that, but don’t remember the guy’s name being Robert…he was a newbie that day, I think…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
1:49 pm
I gotta run and eat lunch…I’ll be back in about 30 minutes or so…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
1:51 pm
Bluz~ Just glad to know none of my clients slipped me a mickey…
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
1:52 pm
Afternoon all,
Nothing on topic from me. Anything else going on today worth reading?
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
1:54 pm
Bluz – He seems lackluster,at best, with dealing with you overall. You may want to reconsider your verbage with that ‘friend’ term. Yall are acquaintences…lol
halo46
October 9th, 2012
1:58 pm
wow! you regulars are so mean. lol try to run newbies away from blogging with YO azz. i don’t know if he was testing me or not. but he failed, not me. he was telling me how fine i was, and how he liked seeing my smile showing my pretty white teeth…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:04 pm
halo~ If you survive baptism by fire, you’ll be fine. I am still a “newbie” relatively. I think I have been on the blog for about 2 months now (came sometime in Aug) and I got my blog vest shortly after. (When Leggs deemed I was going to survive. It has been fun being added to the miscreants. Speaking of miscreants, where has ITL been?
halo46
October 9th, 2012
2:06 pm
Thanks CC for those words of encouragement. It is blog under fire. lol I lurk alot, but most times reluctant to chime in.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:07 pm
“…I carefully considered what to wear. I would have just liked him to do the same.” – Perhaps he did if he came straight from work. Now, he could have popped that ugly silver tooth out. Hey, doesn’t UPS drivers wear shorts. Did you at least get to check out his legs (lololol). Sorry…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:09 pm
Leggs~ She said that he was coming from the gym, meeting her and then going to work. So, no excuse for buddy, he had the opportunity to clean up a bit before he met her. Maybe the tooth is one of those old school fillings and he can’t help it? (As you can see, I am trying to be on the brother’s side…)
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
2:09 pm
halo – I didn’t mean any harm in YO AZZ but I can tell ya right now, if YO AZZ makes you want to run away, you probably won’t be around very long. We are like sisters and brothers on here. We’ll get into it with each other, say all kind of stuff then be back to our jovial, laughing and joking selves. Blogsville correct me if i’m wrong. And by all means, don’t let lil ole me run you off. It’s not that serious.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:10 pm
halo~ Don’t be scaired. We don’t bite. Well, except maybe Meelloo….
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:11 pm
Slim~ Cosign…
I think I have more fun with y’all than I do some people I know in real life…
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
2:14 pm
Slim bout to run folks off
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
2:17 pm
WD – Stop instigating…you know I’m harmless…but I can’t say the same for the CT
CC – You find a way to crack me up almost everyday.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:20 pm
“you know I’m harmless…but I can’t say the same for the CT”
Slim’s CT is the real reason I’ve only got 1 nut. So IJS, tread lightly…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:22 pm
Slim~ I may crack you up but you and swiss crack me up CONSTANTLY! swiss~ stop boy! You stoopid! Speaking of which, how did the first baby shower go?
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:23 pm
I’ll second your 2:09, SlimUno.
Comon ~ you can on the blog July 26th. I know this because 2 weeks later when I gave you your vest was a special friend’s bday. Easy to remember the date.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:24 pm
you came on…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:24 pm
off topic~ (and totally random) I got my first glimpse of Honey Boo Boo this weekend. Now that my eyes have stopped bleeding, I must say Honey Boo Boo sounds like something Winnie the Pooh would do after eating too much honey… IJS
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:25 pm
Comon — It went well… good turn out, and there was beer, so I was good.
Got home in plenty of time to get good & liquored up before watching my DAWGS get embarrassed on national TV, so that was good — I needed every drop of whiskey I could get my hands on for that debacle.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:25 pm
During my convalesence, I watched some of the movie Willie Dynamite…that dude was funny as hell. His furs were on point (for that era).
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
2:25 pm
CC – You soooooo stuuuuupid Pooh Bear taking a honey boo boo
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
2:26 pm
Slim I wasn’t instigating that was “yo azz” hahaha
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
2:27 pm
halo – If you like, we can see if we can find one of the old pleather blog tester vests used for short visits?
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:27 pm
“Honey Boo Boo sounds like something Winnie the Pooh would do after eating too much honey”
And looks (and probably smells) like it, too…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:27 pm
Thanks, Leggs. I will have to add my anniversary to my Outlook calendar. LOL!
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:27 pm
Whatcha saying, swiss…you got a hold of some dynamite pootang and blew one of your ballz? Whatcha saying (rofl).
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:29 pm
Leggs — IJS… When you bust a nut with Slim, you really bust a nut…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:30 pm
swiss~ The Dawgs game was brutal. The Jackets game was brutal. Thank God for the shining beam of light that is the Falcons right now. Off topic~ Did you see that the Jackets fired our Defensive Coordinator? I think Paul Johnson’s days might be numbered too. IJS…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:31 pm
IJS… When you bust a nut with Slim, you really bust a nut…
Oh my…
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:34 pm
Comon — I did see that & I’m very disappointed. As a DAWG fan, I was hoping both Groh & coach fish fry would stick around for a long, long time…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
2:35 pm
swiss~ I am doing the happy dance over here. If I didn’t like Paul Johnson before, I am liking him even less now…
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:36 pm
“…we can see if we can find one of the old pleather blog tester vests used for short visits?” – Now, that’s actually a great idea.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
2:37 pm
CC – I messaged ITL today and she said she’s been pretty swamped at work, so no time for the blog right now. I miss her, though!!!
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:37 pm
Leggs — IJS… When you bust a nut with Slim, you really bust a nut…
You are straight up a fool!
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
2:37 pm
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:38 pm
Comon — On a serious note on Tech. Any DC they bring in there under coach fish fry is doomed to failure. You just can’t get your defense quality reps against the types of offensive sets you have to be able to stop as long as they’re running the triple option. Just not going to happen. Totally different techniques, totally different styles of players — at every position, including OL.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:39 pm
Slim — Oh, it was a compliment, trust me.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
2:39 pm
I can’t even talk about the Dawgs game…we just didn’t show up. No excuses. I can say though that I’m disappointed that anyone would egg and TP Aaron Murray’s house. He wasn’t the only one who played badly. I would blame the defense even more. SC just rolled right over our guys.
Lady~cool beans :-)
October 9th, 2012
2:39 pm
Bluz how was the benefit concert?!? How are you celebrating National Mental Health Awareness Week sis?!?
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:43 pm
Bluz — The discouraging thing about the game is that is was just a continuation of a 6 to 7 year trend (or more, in some respects) of the exact same issues: looking undisciplined/unprepared on defense & an offensive line that (yet again) is not SEC-caliber. Doesn’t matter how good your skill positions are if you can’t block anybody.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
2:43 pm
The benefit concert was GREAT!!! We are still working on calculating how much money we made…not as many people there as we hoped, but the people had a great time and spent a lot of money on the silent auction! I’m so glad it’s over, though!!!
I think I’ll be celebrating National Mental Health Awareness Week by posting facts and articles on Facebook, as well as maybe some things that I deal with. I did go to my shrink yesterday…didn’t even think about that kicking off the week! LOL
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
2:44 pm
swiss, I took it as a compliment that’s why I laughed while Comon and SlimUno had
and 
faces.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
2:45 pm
swiss – I agree. This was our first real team we played this year and it’s sad that we can score 40+ points the first five games and struggle just to get 7 in this one. Even my SC fan friend couldn’t talk too much junk to me today because I already knew how bad we were!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
2:45 pm
Afternoon, all.
Came up for some air and thought I’d pop in and see what was shakin’ in Blogsville.
@Swiss re: Saturday’s debacle: Outcoached. Plain and simple. I was at a family reunion in South Cackalacky watching with a bunch of Gamecocks. All I can say is thank God there was plenty of alcohol and I didn’t have to drive.
Hey, Leggs! Glad to see you feeling better and back to blogging.
I’ve missed (most of) y’all!
Lady~cool beans :-)
October 9th, 2012
2:46 pm
interesting~ cool lol~
peace y’all!
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:51 pm
ITL — I hate to say it, but I just don’t know if Richt is asshole enough to be an elite coach. When you look at the guys who have success at the college level, you pretty much have to be a hard-ass to be consistently successful. Otherwise, your teams end up being undisciplined and soft, just like what we witnessed Saturday night.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
2:56 pm
Bluz — The discouraging thing about the game is that is was just a continuation of a 6 to 7 year trend (or more, in some respects) of the exact same issues: looking undisciplined/unprepared on defense & an offensive line that (yet again) is not SEC-caliber. Doesn’t matter how good your skill positions are if you can’t block anybody.
Swiss – Unprepared/undisciplined on both lines, which is a coaching issue. I would add lack of strength and conditioning in the mix, too. I will respectfully disagree re: your thoughts on the O-Line not being SEC-caliber. They are, but they’re young and undercoached.
The most frustrating thing to me is to year-in and year-out see enormous talent come through the program, and we don’t have anything to show for it. I love Richt, but if he’s not hungry enough or doesn’t have the skill set to coach the Staffords/Morenos/Jenkins/Murrays etc to a championship, then he needs to move on. And Bobo? He needs to GO GO. A long time ago.
Rich
October 9th, 2012
2:57 pm
Using unrealistic reasons, threats or guilt trips to try and make someone give up there V is a big no no.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
2:58 pm
Richt used to be more of a hard a$$…I don’t know why he seems to have softened up. It’s a shame. I’ve always liked him (not to mention how hot he is)!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
2:58 pm
And where is Poppa G? I figured he’d be on here all cock-a-doodle-doing and strutting…..
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:01 pm
swiss/Leggs – Well it’s a double edged sword…if I really make you bust a nut then all we have are two shots before the game is over lol
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:01 pm
Then, there would be nothing left but a dead ball
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:01 pm
@Bluz: Richt has never been a harda$$, but he has definitely lost his edge over the last 5+ years.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:02 pm
Is Richt the coach for UGA? If so, perhaps he needs to stop making truck commercials and strategize with his team a little more…IJS cuz I know squat about football.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:03 pm
“if I really make you bust a nut then all we have are two shots before the game is over lol” – Slam Dunk.
I see your point. I see your point
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:04 pm
But you’ll still have the bat. Isn’t that the best part?
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:04 pm
” I will respectfully disagree re: your thoughts on the O-Line not being SEC-caliber.”
I actually think this has been our biggest & most consistent problem of Richt’s tenure — the inability to field a strong OL. In the past 12 years, I can think of only 2 seasons when we actually had what I would even call a “solid” OL — 2002 & 2005. Every other year, we’ve constantly had to try to patch an OL together. Conversely, you look at teams like Bama & LSU & I can’t ever remember them having an OL that wasn’t at least solid, and in most cases outstanding. Considering that we brought in Searles from LSU (where his OLs were consistently good) and he had no luck, either, I’m thinking we’re not doing a good enough job recruiting OL.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:04 pm
ITL~ Hey! There you be! I just asked about you earlier. You were here the day Benita (?) “fell in love” on the blog with born again virgin ish, weren’t you? I could have sworn ol boy’s name was Robert…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:07 pm
CC – could it have been Rich, who just posted at 2:57?
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:07 pm
swiss~ I definitely don’t think it’s that we don’t have the weapons this year; we do. They just got outcoached and outplayed on Saturday.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:08 pm
Hey ITL…glad you peeped in. You have to laugh while working and this is one of the best places to get your laugh on.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:10 pm
LOL@Leggs and the truck commercials.
@Swiss: I see your point, but I still think we have talent that could be “coached up” to where they need to be.
LOL@Slim. Instead of Two-Buck Chuck, it’ll be Two and Blew Swiss.
Hey, CC! I vaguely remember that, but I don’t recall what the guy’s name was.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:11 pm
Hey ITL…glad you peeped in. You have to laugh while working and this is one of the best places to get your laugh on.
@Leggs: It definitely is. Especially when the fun folks are here and drama is at a minimum.
Speaking of fun folks, where’s disco????
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:11 pm
Maybe, Bluz, Maybe…
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:11 pm
Comon — I’m not saying we don’t have weapons. I’m saying we don’t have anyone who can block for those weapons.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:12 pm
At least not against a top-tier defense…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:14 pm
swiss, I agree with ITL. I think that the talent is there, but the coaching is not. It could be worse. We could have gotten beat by the Wolfpack…
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:15 pm
I’m glad we have a bye this week. It will be interesting to see how we correct going into Lex and Jax. I can guarantee you that, with his job on the line, Joker is studying film like there is no tomorrow. Will the Thrill, too.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:15 pm
disco was here a little bit ago!
ITL – it’s good to have my blog buddy back on here!
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:16 pm
Yes…a bye week is very good right now…we need to regroup!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:16 pm
We could have gotten beat by the Wolfpack (or Middle Tennessee State. Or Louisianna Monroe). I kid, I kid.
Awww, thanks, Bluz! I’m glad to be here. At least for a little while.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:17 pm
But you’ll still have the bat. Isn’t that the best part?
Leggs – Depends on if you like a big splash at the finish line.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:18 pm
ITL~ Not even gonna go there with the MTSU loss. SMDH… Like I said, I think Paul Johnson will be looking for a job at the end of the year. GT seems to have just given up on this season…
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
3:18 pm
Umm as the resident Gator fan here I must say something. The Dogs are a better team than they showed Saturday. They got down early and the gameplan went out the window. Richt is not the problem. The OL is not the problem. I don’t know what the problem is but I think it would be really hard to do better than Richt.
Dayum that was hard.
MsAtl
October 9th, 2012
3:20 pm
Hey all,
Occupied today but wanted to drop in and say hello. Bad habit- I checked my phone several times during a date. I’ve stopped though.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:21 pm
WOW!!!!
Leggs, do you have WD’s office phone number??? You better call and let him know he’s been hacked and someone is posting as him. Either that or call his admin and ask her to make sure he’s still breathing, because I know that 3:18 must’ve nearly killed him.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:23 pm
Seriously, though, WillieD, we are certainly a better team than we showed on Saturday. But I still think undercoaching/not playing to our potential is a problem that plagues us year after year.
PS – I picked your gators to beat LSU on Saturday.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:23 pm
“Depends on if you like a big splash at the finish line.” Damn, chica. Nice comeback. But, the splash still comes out the hole at the top of the bat.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:24 pm
Willie D — I agree with you to an extent… I think Richt is a good coach — I definitely think he knows what he’s doing (and I actually think Bobo is a good OC, despite the criticism he gets). I just don’t think Richt has the personality to be an elite coach. He’s too soft. I think we’ve plateaued — I don’t see us ever getting to a legit NC contender level with him. Now, making a change is a crap-shoot, too, because the odds of the next guy being worse are probably better than the odds of the next guy being a step up…
disco
October 9th, 2012
3:25 pm
aww thanks ITL. I’ve been called a lot of things lately. I’ll take fun any day. got a little busy and just finished catching up. looks like I missed the fun part. I roll back in at football time.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:28 pm
swiss~ Maybe they will hire Paul Johnson and Groh? I kid, I kid…
I will say that the QB coach for SC definitely knows what he’s doing. G.A. went to HS with my bro and he has always had a crazy amount of knowledge and talent when it comes to calling plays. Maybe we should hire him away. I am sure he would LOVE to come back to GA…
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:30 pm
Dang, Swiss….if I didn’t know better I’d swear you were my ex. Your comments are almost verbatim what he emailed me this morning. But, as I did with him, I will disagree re: Bobo. Maybe keep him as QB coach, but calling plays? Nah….
@disco: LOL. You are fun! You always make me laugh. Sorry for the football talk; I’m sure it will run its course.
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
3:30 pm
Since UGA beat FLA last yr I will not take any jabs until we win in a few weeks. Then it’s on
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:31 pm
Sitting here avoiding doing a write up for two employees. They used to be friends, roommates even. Got into it over some foolishness on FB.
So…the one on the lease put the other one out. The one on that got put out comes back to work and starts telling folks that she has a gift that keeps on giving. (which is apparently true)
The affected one then responds by telling every one that will listen that the other is a “deadbeat baby momma.”
And now I’ve got to deal with this childishness hood mess….
FML….
Oddly enough though…I love my job.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:33 pm
And in other news, I am making it a point to cook more fresh food and buy less processed ish.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:34 pm
But, the splash still comes out the hole at the top of the bat
Leggs – It’s sort of like the tools of a fireman. Yeah, he uses a hose to douse the fires but that hose is hooked up to some form of hydrant, if you catch my drift. lol
I need to stop while i’m ahead since the fireman, hose and hydrant is 500+ miles away.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:35 pm
Mrs. SC – Sounds like you work in a high school!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:35 pm
@WillieD: Alright now. Just because you beat an overrated LSU, don’t be getting all high and mighty.
disco
October 9th, 2012
3:35 pm
MrsSC – on the outside looking in that’s almost kind of funny. I’d say that’s why you don’t cozy up to co-workers but they are roommates. were they friends/roommates first or co-workers first? oh, and by the way, I wish I could write somebody up. I’d be writing on the back, there’d be little asterisks talking about “see attached”. I’d write till my fingers cramped up. lol.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:36 pm
I will say this, though — I do definitely think the c*cks are the team to beat (pun intended) in the east. I think the gators are a little overrated & will lose at home to c*cky. They’ll fare better than we did because their defense is better, but I don’t think they’ll have much luck offensively against the c*cks & Lattimore & Shaw will make enough plays to win.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:36 pm
Some days it feels like it.
On top of that, I’ve got the corporate safety manager in my office this week, not understanding why we do ish the way that we do. I’m working real hard to maintain my professionalism.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:38 pm
Wow, Mrs. SC.
Please tell me you only have to deal with these people on a limited basis…
Sidebar~ If she got “the gift that keeps on giving” sounds like they were more than friends/roomates because you don’t get that ish from the toilet seat…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:38 pm
They were friends/roommates first. The one that did the evicting is the one that told the other one about the job. They both know all of each other’s business and have told it all.
They are being written up for being in violation of our company policy on gossiping and personal conduct that is abusive to others.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:38 pm
FML….Oddly enough though…I love my job
Mrs. SC – I think I hear a new line of t-shirts in there somewhere….Hmmm, FMJ but I love my life…..FML but I love my job…??? I’ll have to play with it for a few
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
3:39 pm
Touche, Overrated seems to be rampant. Ijs
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:40 pm
Yeah, let’s stop SlimUno!
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:40 pm
Willie D — Yep, the DAWGS were (and probably still are) overrated, for sure.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:44 pm
@WilleD: You talking to me?!?!?
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:45 pm
Um, Swiss??? I know you are a graduate of the Larry Munson School of Philosophy, but buck up, little camper. It was only one game. We could still bounce back and run the table. IJS….
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
3:48 pm
Yep, ftr I think UF is overrated.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:56 pm
Who is ftr????
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:57 pm
DUh. For the record, right?
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
4:02 pm
mail call….
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
4:02 pm
Yep
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
4:03 pm
Ah, ITL, I have missed your humor…
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
4:07 pm
Ding, ding, ding, ITL.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:12 pm
I have to say that it’s been pretty pleasant in here this afternoon!
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
4:15 pm
I see you guys been knocking off early (before 5:00).
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
4:16 pm
Tell me what I’ve won, Leggs. A year’s supply of Turtle Wax? A washer and dryer?
@Bluz: Hmmmmm, wonder why that is….. LOLOLOLOL
Po’ thang….
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:17 pm
disco
October 9th, 2012
4:17 pm
be good ITL. as I typed ITL I was thinking “ittle” like skittles.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:21 pm
disco…but she’s more fun when she’s not being good! LOL
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
4:21 pm
@disco: be good? As in behave???? I always behave. Most of the time. If I’m not drinking. Or it’s a holiday. Or a day that ends in “y”……..
disco
October 9th, 2012
4:23 pm
alright. don’t say nothing when ya get called out later. lol.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
4:23 pm
@Bluz: funny you should say that….. i was just thinking about shots…..
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
4:26 pm
ITL — I can’t help it. My inner Larry is taking over. I’m now trying to figure out how we’re going to handle that long-stapper for GA Southern…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:28 pm
No shots ITL! No liquor for me for a while…only beer!
I guess I could chug a beer while you do a shot! LOL
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
4:28 pm
disco~ There you go…
disco
October 9th, 2012
4:31 pm
CC – had to earn my keep this afternoon.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:37 pm
O/T – on Friday, we were talking about getting all glammed up or not. I had to laugh because I talked about how I don’t hardly ever wear make up and don’t care to get dolled up. Well, one of my girl friends went to Smith’s Olde Bar with me and she curled my hair up, made me put on make up, and picked out a cute shirt to wear with my jeans! I just thought it was funny how we were talking about it earlier in the day. I was just going to pull my hair back and wear the same shirt I wore to work! I did look cute…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
4:39 pm
So, did you wear the shirt that Leggs advised against or something else?
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
4:42 pm
Off Topic~ I’m thinking about switching firms. I was takling with a friend who is an attorney the other day and as much as I love my drunk/drug clients, I am getting a little bit tired of chasing the almighty dollar as a solo practictioner. She is in HOA/Property disputes and although the money is good, I am not sure I want to go to the corporate envirnoment. What say you, bloggies?
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
4:43 pm
@Swiss: Did you say long-strapper? Give him my number….. LOL
What is this about “there you go” and “earning your keep”…..do I have to get a blog job???
@Bluz: Ha! Like you can stay on the wagon when you’re out with me. LOL
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:43 pm
I wore something else…a cute black top that slims me down…My hair hasn’t been curled in probably over 10 years…I actually liked it! Unfortunately, there were no cuties to hit on…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:46 pm
ITL – Well…I’m off the wagon, but seriously only sticking to beer for a bit. Liquor is not my friend!!!
CC – You need to think about what would really make you happy. I have a friend who does civil and criminal cases (I think she ends up with mainly divorces). She likes it, but her initial goal when going to law school was to become an entertainment attorney…I think you should weigh the pros and cons for each…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:46 pm
Then again…one shot won’t hurt me!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
4:47 pm
@Bluz: Honey, liquor is not anyone’s friend….it’s your old uncle that says inappropriate things and dances on the coffee table and hits on your mom’s best friend but you love him anyway.
MsAtl
October 9th, 2012
4:49 pm
Common- to your O/T: I haven’t worked in the private sector; only legal aid and government sector. Good thing about being a solo practitioner is that you could go back if you absolutely hate the corporate environment.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
4:49 pm
Bluz~ It always starts with one shot. That’s how you ended up a miscreant to begin with…
As far as the job, IDK what I want to do right now. I love what I do, but I spend a lot of evenings and weekends meeting with clients and I would prefer to spend that time with my hubby/kiddos now. Sadly, I used to LOVE being away from home and my job was my refuge. No I find it tedious to have to be away. I never really saw corporate as the route for me, but stable money and regular hours sure does sound good…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
4:51 pm
Ms.Atl~ There you are. Do you like legal aid/government work? And is there any money in it? I know I don’t want to go into family law (Blech! Just typing it makes my skin crawl) But I am not sure what direction to move in that I would find as interesting as criminal but with more regular hours.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
4:51 pm
Yay, miscreants!!!
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:53 pm
LOL ITL! True…true…
Well…it’s about time for me to hit the road home. I enjoyed hanging with ya’ll today! “See” you tomorrow!
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
4:55 pm
Comon ~ I’ll say stay away from the corporate sector. But, that doesn’t matter. Jot down the pros and cons of coming back to corporate vs solo. Then, you’ll have your answer.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
4:56 pm
“Unfortunately, there were no cuties to hit on…”
Right now, that’s a “fortunate!”
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
4:57 pm
Hey now Leggs!! I saw that right as I was about to log off… I was hoping for some cute, good men to be there! LOL!
Ok…I’m logging off now…will check in when I get home…
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
5:01 pm
LOL@Leggs. (sorry, Bluz, but you know she’s right…..)
MsAtl
October 9th, 2012
5:03 pm
Common- when I was in legal aid, I did everything except criminal. I wasn’t too crazy about the protective orders and divorces. I am not in government work and although I enjoy it, no, there is no money in it. Although I suppose you could pay off your student loans and get rich if you bought the 99 cent pack of oyster crackers and ate 5 a day to stretch them out along with tap water, lol.
MsAtl
October 9th, 2012
5:03 pm
“now” in government work
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
5:07 pm
Did everybody leave??? Okay, guess I’ll jet, too. Gotta go home and get the chili and cornbread going…..
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
5:09 pm
Well, MsAtl, that answers my question on government/legal aid. (Which is what I assumed anyway) I like the flexiblity of being on my own, but it is a lot of hours right now. My friends that went corporate are pretty much cruising. And they have been trying to get me to come over to the dark side for a minute. lol.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
5:11 pm
Then again…one shot won’t hurt me!
And that’s where things started going wrong (lol).
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