Dating: Unlearn bad habits!
There comes a time in every person’s romantic life when you have to stop and take self-inventory. You know those gut check moments when you start to realize that a lot of misadventures, drama, and disappointments all share something in common: YOU.
I know, it’s not sexy or fun, but it is definitely necessary. How many old attitudes and bad dating habits are we clinging to that run off potentially great matches? There is a lot to be said about self-awareness. Many of us lack it!
Some men think they are projecting some alpha male image and it attracts women to them. They may not realize that they go overboard sometimes and can appear cold and distant. Some women believe they have the hot body and great sex to offer and that is enough to get and keep a man (It’s not, by the way).
So maybe it is worthwhile to figure out what dating habits we need to drop. Determine those old attitudes about the opposite sex that are most likely making us bitter about love. Are you guilty of clinging to bad dating habits?
If you meet someone with awful dating behavior, do you take the time to call them on it?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
2:45 pm
Afternoon, all.
Came up for some air and thought I’d pop in and see what was shakin’ in Blogsville.
@Swiss re: Saturday’s debacle: Outcoached. Plain and simple. I was at a family reunion in South Cackalacky watching with a bunch of Gamecocks. All I can say is thank God there was plenty of alcohol and I didn’t have to drive.
Hey, Leggs! Glad to see you feeling better and back to blogging.
I’ve missed (most of) y’all!
Lady~cool beans :-)
October 9th, 2012
2:46 pm
interesting~ cool lol~
peace y’all!
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
2:51 pm
ITL — I hate to say it, but I just don’t know if Richt is asshole enough to be an elite coach. When you look at the guys who have success at the college level, you pretty much have to be a hard-ass to be consistently successful. Otherwise, your teams end up being undisciplined and soft, just like what we witnessed Saturday night.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
2:56 pm
Bluz — The discouraging thing about the game is that is was just a continuation of a 6 to 7 year trend (or more, in some respects) of the exact same issues: looking undisciplined/unprepared on defense & an offensive line that (yet again) is not SEC-caliber. Doesn’t matter how good your skill positions are if you can’t block anybody.
Swiss – Unprepared/undisciplined on both lines, which is a coaching issue. I would add lack of strength and conditioning in the mix, too. I will respectfully disagree re: your thoughts on the O-Line not being SEC-caliber. They are, but they’re young and undercoached.
The most frustrating thing to me is to year-in and year-out see enormous talent come through the program, and we don’t have anything to show for it. I love Richt, but if he’s not hungry enough or doesn’t have the skill set to coach the Staffords/Morenos/Jenkins/Murrays etc to a championship, then he needs to move on. And Bobo? He needs to GO GO. A long time ago.
Rich
October 9th, 2012
2:57 pm
Using unrealistic reasons, threats or guilt trips to try and make someone give up there V is a big no no.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
2:58 pm
Richt used to be more of a hard a$$…I don’t know why he seems to have softened up. It’s a shame. I’ve always liked him (not to mention how hot he is)!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
2:58 pm
And where is Poppa G? I figured he’d be on here all cock-a-doodle-doing and strutting…..
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:01 pm
swiss/Leggs – Well it’s a double edged sword…if I really make you bust a nut then all we have are two shots before the game is over lol
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:01 pm
Then, there would be nothing left but a dead ball
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:01 pm
@Bluz: Richt has never been a harda$$, but he has definitely lost his edge over the last 5+ years.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:02 pm
Is Richt the coach for UGA? If so, perhaps he needs to stop making truck commercials and strategize with his team a little more…IJS cuz I know squat about football.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:03 pm
“if I really make you bust a nut then all we have are two shots before the game is over lol” – Slam Dunk.
I see your point. I see your point
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:04 pm
But you’ll still have the bat. Isn’t that the best part?
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:04 pm
” I will respectfully disagree re: your thoughts on the O-Line not being SEC-caliber.”
I actually think this has been our biggest & most consistent problem of Richt’s tenure — the inability to field a strong OL. In the past 12 years, I can think of only 2 seasons when we actually had what I would even call a “solid” OL — 2002 & 2005. Every other year, we’ve constantly had to try to patch an OL together. Conversely, you look at teams like Bama & LSU & I can’t ever remember them having an OL that wasn’t at least solid, and in most cases outstanding. Considering that we brought in Searles from LSU (where his OLs were consistently good) and he had no luck, either, I’m thinking we’re not doing a good enough job recruiting OL.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:04 pm
ITL~ Hey! There you be! I just asked about you earlier. You were here the day Benita (?) “fell in love” on the blog with born again virgin ish, weren’t you? I could have sworn ol boy’s name was Robert…
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:07 pm
CC – could it have been Rich, who just posted at 2:57?
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:07 pm
swiss~ I definitely don’t think it’s that we don’t have the weapons this year; we do. They just got outcoached and outplayed on Saturday.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:08 pm
Hey ITL…glad you peeped in. You have to laugh while working and this is one of the best places to get your laugh on.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:10 pm
LOL@Leggs and the truck commercials.
@Swiss: I see your point, but I still think we have talent that could be “coached up” to where they need to be.
LOL@Slim. Instead of Two-Buck Chuck, it’ll be Two and Blew Swiss.
Hey, CC! I vaguely remember that, but I don’t recall what the guy’s name was.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:11 pm
Hey ITL…glad you peeped in. You have to laugh while working and this is one of the best places to get your laugh on.
@Leggs: It definitely is. Especially when the fun folks are here and drama is at a minimum.
Speaking of fun folks, where’s disco????
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:11 pm
Maybe, Bluz, Maybe…
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:11 pm
Comon — I’m not saying we don’t have weapons. I’m saying we don’t have anyone who can block for those weapons.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:12 pm
At least not against a top-tier defense…
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:14 pm
swiss, I agree with ITL. I think that the talent is there, but the coaching is not. It could be worse. We could have gotten beat by the Wolfpack…
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:15 pm
I’m glad we have a bye this week. It will be interesting to see how we correct going into Lex and Jax. I can guarantee you that, with his job on the line, Joker is studying film like there is no tomorrow. Will the Thrill, too.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:15 pm
disco was here a little bit ago!
ITL – it’s good to have my blog buddy back on here!
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:16 pm
Yes…a bye week is very good right now…we need to regroup!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:16 pm
We could have gotten beat by the Wolfpack (or Middle Tennessee State. Or Louisianna Monroe). I kid, I kid.
Awww, thanks, Bluz! I’m glad to be here. At least for a little while.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:17 pm
But you’ll still have the bat. Isn’t that the best part?
Leggs – Depends on if you like a big splash at the finish line.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:18 pm
ITL~ Not even gonna go there with the MTSU loss. SMDH… Like I said, I think Paul Johnson will be looking for a job at the end of the year. GT seems to have just given up on this season…
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
3:18 pm
Umm as the resident Gator fan here I must say something. The Dogs are a better team than they showed Saturday. They got down early and the gameplan went out the window. Richt is not the problem. The OL is not the problem. I don’t know what the problem is but I think it would be really hard to do better than Richt.
Dayum that was hard.
MsAtl
October 9th, 2012
3:20 pm
Hey all,
Occupied today but wanted to drop in and say hello. Bad habit- I checked my phone several times during a date. I’ve stopped though.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:21 pm
WOW!!!!
Leggs, do you have WD’s office phone number??? You better call and let him know he’s been hacked and someone is posting as him. Either that or call his admin and ask her to make sure he’s still breathing, because I know that 3:18 must’ve nearly killed him.
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:23 pm
Seriously, though, WillieD, we are certainly a better team than we showed on Saturday. But I still think undercoaching/not playing to our potential is a problem that plagues us year after year.
PS – I picked your gators to beat LSU on Saturday.
Leggs
October 9th, 2012
3:23 pm
“Depends on if you like a big splash at the finish line.” Damn, chica. Nice comeback. But, the splash still comes out the hole at the top of the bat.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:24 pm
Willie D — I agree with you to an extent… I think Richt is a good coach — I definitely think he knows what he’s doing (and I actually think Bobo is a good OC, despite the criticism he gets). I just don’t think Richt has the personality to be an elite coach. He’s too soft. I think we’ve plateaued — I don’t see us ever getting to a legit NC contender level with him. Now, making a change is a crap-shoot, too, because the odds of the next guy being worse are probably better than the odds of the next guy being a step up…
disco
October 9th, 2012
3:25 pm
aww thanks ITL. I’ve been called a lot of things lately. I’ll take fun any day. got a little busy and just finished catching up. looks like I missed the fun part. I roll back in at football time.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:28 pm
swiss~ Maybe they will hire Paul Johnson and Groh? I kid, I kid…
I will say that the QB coach for SC definitely knows what he’s doing. G.A. went to HS with my bro and he has always had a crazy amount of knowledge and talent when it comes to calling plays. Maybe we should hire him away. I am sure he would LOVE to come back to GA…
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:30 pm
Dang, Swiss….if I didn’t know better I’d swear you were my ex. Your comments are almost verbatim what he emailed me this morning. But, as I did with him, I will disagree re: Bobo. Maybe keep him as QB coach, but calling plays? Nah….
@disco: LOL. You are fun! You always make me laugh. Sorry for the football talk; I’m sure it will run its course.
Willie Dynamite
October 9th, 2012
3:30 pm
Since UGA beat FLA last yr I will not take any jabs until we win in a few weeks. Then it’s on
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:31 pm
Sitting here avoiding doing a write up for two employees. They used to be friends, roommates even. Got into it over some foolishness on FB.
So…the one on the lease put the other one out. The one on that got put out comes back to work and starts telling folks that she has a gift that keeps on giving. (which is apparently true)
The affected one then responds by telling every one that will listen that the other is a “deadbeat baby momma.”
And now I’ve got to deal with this childishness hood mess….
FML….
Oddly enough though…I love my job.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:33 pm
And in other news, I am making it a point to cook more fresh food and buy less processed ish.
SlimUno
October 9th, 2012
3:34 pm
But, the splash still comes out the hole at the top of the bat
Leggs – It’s sort of like the tools of a fireman. Yeah, he uses a hose to douse the fires but that hose is hooked up to some form of hydrant, if you catch my drift. lol
I need to stop while i’m ahead since the fireman, hose and hydrant is 500+ miles away.
Bluzgirl
October 9th, 2012
3:35 pm
Mrs. SC – Sounds like you work in a high school!
Into the Light
October 9th, 2012
3:35 pm
@WillieD: Alright now. Just because you beat an overrated LSU, don’t be getting all high and mighty.
disco
October 9th, 2012
3:35 pm
MrsSC – on the outside looking in that’s almost kind of funny. I’d say that’s why you don’t cozy up to co-workers but they are roommates. were they friends/roommates first or co-workers first? oh, and by the way, I wish I could write somebody up. I’d be writing on the back, there’d be little asterisks talking about “see attached”. I’d write till my fingers cramped up. lol.
i'm swiss
October 9th, 2012
3:36 pm
I will say this, though — I do definitely think the c*cks are the team to beat (pun intended) in the east. I think the gators are a little overrated & will lose at home to c*cky. They’ll fare better than we did because their defense is better, but I don’t think they’ll have much luck offensively against the c*cks & Lattimore & Shaw will make enough plays to win.
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:36 pm
Some days it feels like it.
On top of that, I’ve got the corporate safety manager in my office this week, not understanding why we do ish the way that we do. I’m working real hard to maintain my professionalism.
Comon Cents
October 9th, 2012
3:38 pm
Wow, Mrs. SC.
Please tell me you only have to deal with these people on a limited basis…
Sidebar~ If she got “the gift that keeps on giving” sounds like they were more than friends/roomates because you don’t get that ish from the toilet seat…
Mrs. SexyCool
October 9th, 2012
3:38 pm
They were friends/roommates first. The one that did the evicting is the one that told the other one about the job. They both know all of each other’s business and have told it all.
They are being written up for being in violation of our company policy on gossiping and personal conduct that is abusive to others.