Do men notice all the glam?
If men ever got a glimpse of our pre-date rituals, they would see all the work that some women put into looking good. It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!
The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love! Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?
I don’t know if men notice all the extra trimmings women add on to enhance their beauty. I am not even sure women are only doing it for male attention, either.
If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?
Ladies, are you approached more when you are dressed to the nines or casual and comfortable?
Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?
Happy Friday!
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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
7:20 am
“If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?” Its okay, if it’s not over done. but I would rather you be the person that attracted me in the first place.
“Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?”
makeup-a lil dab will do you, but I prefer women that don’t wear make-up.
Hair-weave, why??
“The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love!”
First, why o you feel the need to live by societies standards, second life shouldn’t always be about finding someone!
“Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?”
When I see you dressed down, you’re actually being yourself, comfortable in your own skin. When you feel you have to dress to impress, and that’s really not you, then it’s your representative.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
7:55 am
“Men, what do you think of makeup, hair”
A little make up is ok, although there’s nothing like a natural beauty. I know some women wear weaves so they don’t have much work to do on their hair. No offense to any lady or man I don’t care for fake hair. I can only suggest we find who we like and let the rest do what they want to do.
“If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed”
No! I am not I’d rather she be herself, not faking it trying to impress.
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
8:16 am
Only Diva………
:eyeroll:
Happy Friday!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
8:17 am
I find this alarming, a woman who is already atrractive put on so much make up she is no longer atrractive. Why does she do that, is it she don’t know where to stop or is it something that’s she’s accustomed to and don’t realize how much make up she just applied?
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
8:20 am
We know make up makes sumofuall tolerable,bearable,lookeable..:lol:
Big Al
October 5th, 2012
8:21 am
There are circus clowns that wear less makeup than some women. If you are wearing that much makeup then you must have something to hide.
Roberta
October 5th, 2012
8:38 am
Could it be that how much makeup a woman wears is directly proportional to her level of self confidence?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
8:42 am
Roberta, IMO yes it is.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
8:59 am
Roberta wait, are you saying women wear make up because they aren’t atractive? Some women don’t have to wear it all does that mean her confidence level is higher than those who do?
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
9:05 am
Morning,
I don’t wear make-up. Have never worn make-up. The only times make-up has been applied? Homecoming. Tenth grade and twelfth grade. Aside from those two times, I have never worn it. I don’t knock other women, but for me, I’m more of a “like to look good in what I’m wearng” type person. The only thing I buy/keep is a lip gloss with a hint of color in it. My ritual for my face is to wash with a clean cloth no soap, just warm water. Just in the last two or three years have I applied a bit of lotion and that’s Oil of Olay. Only because of the dryness I feel after washing.
Off topic: I had the nicest time yesterday but I didn’t get home until after dark. I was soooo tired that I couldn’t sleep. I’m aching this morning with soreness, but I learned a bit about golf
I didn’t realize there was as much structure as my coworker taught me. He and I was placed on the 8th hole to watch for (when the golfers tee’d off) whether or not the ball was in the green. So, there were 18 holes played, 52 sets of quads…meaning I was standing on the 8th hole UNTIL 5:30!!! 
Now, for you golfers, if some of what I’m writing don’t sound right, forgive. I ain’t a golfer…lol The weather was beautiful and a nice breeze. The cart chick was bringing beer, snacks and drinks. Lunch was packed so we took with us out on the golf course. Chairs had been placed so we could take a squat…lol There had to have been close to four hundred folks attending the dinner afterwards. A really really nice time. Got me thinking about taking up golf….seriously 
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
9:06 am
have not has and “there is as much structure” not was
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
9:09 am
I’m a jeans and t-shirt girl who does not wear make up often. I don’t like to get all glammed up to meet a guy because I want him to like me for who I am, not my representative. Don’t get me wrong…I’ll get dolled up every once in a while, but I’d much prefer jeans and a comfy top…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
9:14 am
Ok Roberta left, well I’m this way a lady can wear as much make up as she likes. If that makes her feel confident I don’t know, what I know is men I talk to say women should keep it light. Women that pack on make up like she’s icing a birthday cake should be advised it’s not neccessary, show your true beauty is all we’re asking.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
9:21 am
Cely some women you can see don’t need the extra dressing to look good. I pictured you that way and you confirmed it, I like lip gloss on a woman I think that is the sexiest look on a lady along with eye liner.
Lucinda
October 5th, 2012
9:22 am
Too much is too much, but there are plenty of men who LIKE a woman who is “done”. Mine likes the bright red lipstick, although I prefer a much more toned down shade. He likes eye makeup, although I could do with just some mascara. Not that he wants Tammy Faye, but he does like makeup. Maybe that’s unusual??
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
9:23 am
Bluz jeans and a corporate pencil skirt are two extremes but they are the most sexiest to me.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
9:26 am
When I first met the hubs, he had come to my house to pick something up early in the morning and I was still in bed. When I answered the front door, I had hastily thrown on a robe and run downstairs to answer the door. Years later, he told me that one of the reasons he married me was that he had seen me at my worst and I was still attractive so he could only imagine that I must clean up pretty well.
I don’t do the makeup thing. My face feels like it can’t breathe. No weaves, no color in the hair. I’m pretty conservative.
Good Morning all! Happy Friday!!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
9:27 am
Lucinda I’m not against women wearing make up I like to know why put on so much?
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
9:28 am
Blackfoote – Exactly! Like I said, I don’t knock other folks…lol Its weird, IMO to see men encouraging make-up.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
9:30 am
C~ We have the same ritual in the morning. I recently started to use a little Oil of Olay for the same reason. Here’s one you may not have tried, I use a little Noxema to wash my face while in the shower and it reduces that dry feeling without feeling weighted down by moisturizing lotion.
Also, on the lip gloss thing, I do the same. I love the C. G. Bigelow’s stuff from Bath & Body Works!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
9:32 am
Hey Comon that’s what I always say. see how a man or woman look in the morning you’ll appreciate them all day long. Yeah folks need time to fix themselves up but when they do that’s the beauty of it all.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
9:37 am
Most men I know prefer women with minimal additives. However, some females do need the help. All I ask is that if you choose to wear makeup, study your craft. Read some essence beauty tips; learn about the “smoky eye” application and other subtle techniques. I hate to see a chick whose neck is two shades darker than her face because her foundation is caked up. One more thing, the eye shadow the same color as the weave is not cute….and stop wearing your pajama bottoms in public…and house shoes are made for the house!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
9:42 am
Comon – I have ALWAYS gotten compliments on beautiful skin. Honey, I can bet you the minute I put something on it will be the time my skin breaks out…lol
I was tried to throw a bit of business Mac’s way but I didn’t like any of their lip gloss. I found a beautiful brown shade by CG but wouldn’t you know they discontinued?? What did they think black folks don’t patronize them too much? LOL
Oh, forgot to mention, I counted the blacks at the outing yesterday….SIX!!! LOL Two of which played. Sorry, can’t help it, I was looking
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
9:44 am
I can’t claim I’m all beautiful and stuff in the mornings. I’m just me…it is what it is…lol
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
9:46 am
C~ Same with the beautiful skin. And I ain’t trying to put NOTHING on mine cause I know I will break out. Heck, I had someone hug me with makeup on and it brushed against my face and I broke out. Negative! Cannot do that!
I have a warm copper from C.G. Bigelows that I love, but on the day to day it is the clear cinnamon flavored that I like.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
9:51 am
The only make up I wear daily is a little bit of concealer to help with the little imperfections. When I do get dressed up, I wear just a little bit of make up. We laugh at the girls with the caked up make up. It just looks so fake!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
9:56 am
trying not tried….I’m feeling rough today….lol
I don’t like men that are superficial. I don’t like men that expects women to be all modelly (model like) and stuff. I ain’t a model, so don’t expect that. I ain’t Hawaiian Tropic, no pin-up, no star. So, don’t expect that and don’t bring that mentality/behavior. Honey, if you’re not 25 then you can expect the little imperfections to start rearing. I like men that are realistic, first about themselves and secondly about their mates/partners. If it’s a model you want, then I suggest you find one….lolololol
Button
October 5th, 2012
10:00 am
TGIF, There are some men who love the glam look and others that don’t. I myself don’t care for too much make up, I wear under eye shadow to cover up the dark circles, I hate these things! Thanks for genetics. I wear my lip gloss sometimes it’s colored sometimes it’s not. But I don’t wear the clown make up, blush and foundation and such. I did once and I actully looked like a clown, lol. Some women and men do need make up, that’s just how it it. I’ve always heard growing up that make up ages a woman quick.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
10:00 am
C~ We are >>>>here<<<< with the wanting a model thing. I sooo cannot do it! Nor would I want to! Too much work in addition to the stuff that I already do everyday.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
10:03 am
What attracts my attention is happiness. I’m a people watcher. I enjoy hitting the local watering hole and watching people interacting and enjoying themselves. The woman that is talkative, engaging, smiling, has a good aura, and a life loving vibe is the one that intrigues me the most. She may not be the finest chick in the room, but that’s the one I’m interested in. Physical beauty quickly fades and sometimes the most beautiful people do the ugliest things.
Button
October 5th, 2012
10:06 am
The make up case! my old roommate had a huge make up case filled with all the colors of the rainbow and some. She lugged that case everywhere she go.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:08 am
Comon – Yep, we’re on the same page
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
10:10 am
DuShawn~ Unfortunately for her, you are also interested in the finest chick in the room and the old chick from back in the day, and your wife, etc. etc. etc.
Sorry, I couldn’t resist.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
10:11 am
C~ I once told a girl that maybe she should eat all tha makeup she had on her face so maybe she could try to be pretty on the inside too.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:13 am
Comon – That’s bad
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
10:20 am
LOL CC!!!
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
10:24 am
Hey, for all of those people who said they were leaving the country if their candidate doesn’t win the election, here’s your opportunity…
http://www.jetblueelectionprotection.com/
Funny stuff!
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
10:28 am
Common>>>>you got jokes ..(she tried me with that one..lol) I can see how my comments in this forum could mislead the readers about the content of my character. I mean, I’m just a username typing some words, but in reality, I’m an extraordinary, husband, daddy, and helluva good man.
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
10:30 am
Morning all! Happy Friday! I am not really a make-up type of person; never have been. I usually wear Mac or Wet n Wild lip gloss, sometimes eye liner, but that is it. Maybe once a year at a formal event I will wear eye shadow & lipstick. I cannot do the pancake face. I have worn weave for the versatility (when I wanted an up do and when I wanted a short cut without cutting my own hair). I am a pretty down to earth kind of person, not high maintenance at all.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
10:34 am
I’m not into the hollywood model types, some men may be it’s not for me. I like a pretty face and I know I have to be up to her standards to but it’s all about staying in reality and not a superficial glamorous world.
Jake-"I'm Smooth, and You Love It"
October 5th, 2012
10:34 am
What up folks, I don’t mind the make-up or weave, but be reasonable.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:35 am
Morning All!!
I admit I am a glamour girl! I know how to work it though – I wear makeup artfully and sparingly to work because it gives me a polished, professional look. There was actually a study that came out recently that women who wear tasteful makeup & get their hair styled make 40 to 50 percent more than those that don’t. Hey, don’t shoot the messenger!LOL!!
I love glamming it up for a special occasion as well. As for my hair, like the ladies above get compliments on their skin, I get them on my hair. So whether I wear it long or short or in between, it’s alway my own! I keep it tight – again a polished professional look that does not require a lot of upkeep. A simple bob, a pony tail when it was long, a cute Halle cut, I’ve done it al and get nothing but positive reviews!
Keeping myself up makes me feel good, always has, not just to catch a man. Men don’t know what they want most of the time, so I never have cared what they said. The very ones going on about how they love a woman without makeup & weaves end up chasing just the opposite!LOL!
I LOVE to see my sisters looking good and making an effort. I’d rather see a person try than go around looking tired and dead. Sure, there will always be folks that overdo it! It’s not the majority though.
Hey, I just enjoy being a girl!!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:39 am
That’s another thing, I use to be into long/lengthy hair. I’ve been wearing my hair sort of short and layered in the top area. I like it! I dunno, the older I get the less I fret or worry about these kinds of things. Don’t get me wrong, I like looking good and feeling good but it’s not the top of the list for me.
I want to know how men feel about women when they disrobe. IJS
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:41 am
Crazy me, I actually love the look and the packaging of cosmetics. I have a ton of makeup that I haven’t even used, I just got it because it is pretty! I am crazy with it too – I have a special drawer and case for it and I hate it when it gets smeared or dusty. It’s all clean and pretty when I open the drawer or the case. I have beautiful perfume bottles displayed on a glass tray in our master bathroom. Don’t judge me!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
10:44 am
Cely that is the sexiest thing a woman can do is come out of her clothes in front of me.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
10:45 am
Well one of them.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
10:47 am
I have notice a lot women going back to their natural hair texture as of late. It’s this fly one in my office, she got the real low Ceasar cut, but she is a strikingly beautiful and elegant. Very little make up and a tongue ring with the raw corporate skirt suits and pumps. I really dig her style.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:48 am
Blackfoote – Well yeah…lol What man don’t think it’s sexy? lololol Are you gazing at her or are you just “going with it?” I don’t like “gazing”, just go with me, let it flow.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
10:49 am
See, Shawn. And you wonder why I got jokes…
kimmie~ No judgement. I have the perfume bottle collection too.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:52 am
Dushawn – See that’s what I’m talking about. I love to see my sisters in whatever look they want!
I love Solonge Knowle’s afro she rocks. They feature her alot on Essence.com. There was a pic of her last week rocking her fro and this fierce white dress at some fashion event. Fashion Police even gave her props for that look.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
10:53 am
Darn I missed it all, but who want’s June Cleaver?
C, so you felling rough today
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
10:55 am
I’m a go with it kind of guy, I may help you disrobe. I dont sit there and gaze like I’m at a strip club I want to gently touch and caress her body and firmly grip her butt.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:56 am
Single – There you go again confusing me….”felling rough?”
Who said anything about June Cleaver? Or did I miss something? You ain’t gotta be a clown to be sexy…right? I, for one, have never worn make-up so why start now? Now as far as sexy, I think each woman has it in her to pull that off. The thing is though, trashy ain’t sexy. And if a dude has only been exposed to trashy, he might not “get it” when sexy knocks him over.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:57 am
Blackfoote – You are the man….lol!!! Yeah, that’s kind of where I was going. I have more questions but not now. Maybe later.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:57 am
Single – Hey don’t sleep on June! There is a way to work a sexy June that’ll have Ward rushing to get home!LOL!!
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
10:58 am
CC- The reason god gave women booty……I mean beauty, is for MEN to admire and enjoy. Like the ocean or the setting of the sun, they are gifts from the most high. I’m just obeying his divine order.
Jake-"I'm Smooth, and You Love It"
October 5th, 2012
10:58 am
Ladies are beautiful naturally, the enhancements work for some better than others, but how she carries herself is a greater measure of her beauty than anything she can put on.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
10:59 am
I know see, I know (LOL)
You never saw June Cleaver not done up (for the lack of a better term) no matter what time of the day it was.
to me the sexiest women are the ones with enough confidence to leave home with whatever on.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:59 am
Jake – Love your post!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:00 am
Nicely said Jake…there’s where I was going.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:01 am
“It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!”
I definitely hope the men do the same getting ready for a date. This isn’t to impress, it’s simple hygiene and social skills. Who wants to stink and look unkempt while out on a date.
Speaking of looking or being natural. I was asked out on a date after a water gun fight at a social gathering at a park. He told me that out of all the women screaming don’t shoot me, don’t get my hair and makeup wet, I was one of the few who didn’t seem to care about all that nonsense. He said he liked that about me. Hell, I had a blast (literally). Makeup is cool as long as you don’t apply it looking like a circus clown (sorry Bluz). It doesn’t necessarily hide an insecurity. BUT, if you’re checking your face in the mirror every 15 mins, there is a problem.
There’s a lady in bathroom at work always reapplying her makeup, carrying a huge makeup case. My case consist of eyebrow pencil (a must staple), lip brush and lipstick. Not sure why one needs to reapply foundation throughout the day. That’s too much makeup, and I would think your face would probably tend to crack by day’s end.
Good morning.
disco
October 5th, 2012
11:02 am
good morning. I’m all late and catching up.
CC – re your comment about first meeting the hubs in your robe. that sounds like a good how we met story.
dushawn – re wanting the happiest chick in the room. do you expect her to all happy all the time? what happens when happy chick has a bad day?
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:03 am
to me the sexiest women are the ones with enough confidence to leave home with whatever on.
Single – I know what you are going for and I know I’m talking extremes. But when I see women and men out in public with “whatever” on, I call that lazy, not confidence. My sisters and brothers, show some pride. PJ’s, house shoes, boxers showing, rusty feet all belong INSIDE the house, not out!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
11:04 am
Disco, I’ve noticed that most happy people we don’t have bad days.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:05 am
I actually think the June Cleavers of yesteryear did sexy. I think mostly what’s aired and displayed is trash…but again that’s just me. I was looking at a Fred Astaire movie the other day and Rita Hayworth was his costar. Absolutely stunning. What she wore, is what I call classy and sexy. No T&A hanging out but clothes that fit to a tee. Classy and classically stylish. THAT’S what I call sexy. But of course and again, to each his own.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:05 am
Welcome back Leggs!!
disco
October 5th, 2012
11:06 am
kimmie – is that some kind of disorder? make up hoarding? lol.
HEY LEGGS!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
11:07 am
Kimmie, to me that shows confidence, and pride in yourself, because you could care less what the rest of the world thinks about you. Those people at Walmart that are looking down on you will never do anything to enhance your life.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:07 am
Cel – Your 11:05 – absolutely! That is the definition of classy and sexy. Not overdone, just right!!!
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:09 am
Disco – I think so, I admit I have a problem!LOL!!
Single – Totally disagree. I know they could care less about what I think, but it makes me feel bad to see my people out that way. Our people used to have more pride than that.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:09 am
Kimmie – Those ladies of yesteryear were so refine and graceful. That’s how I am am and what I envision when I think sexy. Give me a pair of sexy pumps and a little black dress or a well fitted suit and I’m goooood
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
11:14 am
Morning all,
Count me in with the minimal (very) makeup crowd. I have always been attracted to the as you are type chick. Heavy makeup gives the perception of either you are hiding something or just not comfortable in your own skin. Checking the mirror and constantly touching up is a turn off to me.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
11:14 am
C, Kimmie it wasn’t the refine, she was made up when she went to bed, she was made up when she went to got up, reminds me of Sasha on Meet the Browns, always in heels and made up, realistically, who does that.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:15 am
Hey there, kimmie! Girl, I appreciate you!
Hey disco!
Thanks to all of you checking on me. I truly appreciate it.
BF, you are the man!
kimmie ~ I do not understand how someone can come out the house with rusty feet. It doesn’t take much to apply lotion or Vaseline if needed. Even if one is coming out the house in sweats, be neat and presentable. I do not believe in looking sloppy while out in public.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:17 am
Single – Now you know that’s for TV!!
I was talking about the well-fitted dresses cinched in the waist she wore, with the heels & pearls. Greeting “Ward” at the door after work with slippers and a martini, that type of “June”!!
Robert
October 5th, 2012
11:23 am
“Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive?”
I hate to see a younger woman dressing like a “slutt” (fake eyelashes, hair weaves, tatoos, etc.). I hate to see a older mature woman dress like an immature younger woman (clothes, hair, etc.).
My preference is for “natural” hair styles and very litle make-up (lipstick, eye shadow, only). I love “sun dresses” that accent the body (leggs, etc.) and leave plenty to the imagination. I love to see a woman who looks, acts and dresses appropriately.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:24 am
Leggs!!! Glad to “see” you back!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:25 am
Single – People have to put on clothes. You can’t leave the house nekkid so, yeah you gotta get dressed. In getting dressed you can either go classy, trashy, skimpy, whatever. But just because you ain’t got stuff hanging out everywhere don’t mean you’re not comfortable or fronting. It just means your preference is to wear clothes…lol I don’t look down at folks that do the “hop nekkid” but I don’t want someone calling me “booghie” in return because I don’t. I think you’re projecting the reverse.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:27 am
Back in June Cleaver’s day, that was sexy and should be sexy today. Being neatly dressed for your man when he returns home from work, house cleaned, food on the stove, etc. No man should come home to rollers in the hair, pjs and slippers at 7 in the evening (unless you’re on some type of STD)
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:27 am
Single – I agree with Kimmie, those were tv characters. Still, I say refined because during that era, that’s the way the majority of women dressed. That was America at that time. So, really what you saw on tv is pretty much what you saw in passing. Refined and graceful
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:29 am
Robert~ Why do tattoos have to be sluttyy?!?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
11:31 am
Hello Leggs glad you’re back!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:37 am
I shole don’t feel like working. The wind has been let out of my sail just a tad. This portfolio I’m getting is messy. I see right now, Imma have to tick some folks off to get it cleaned up. I just got copied on an emial where the chick leaving is trying to “engage” another chick (different role, same portfolio) on something she needs to do and she’s telling her (the chick leaving), to just call the client…sort of on her behalf. Ummm, I don’t do lazy, I don’t do getting pushed over or walked on or used. I see right now, Imma have to whip folks in shape. That means enemies before friends. Sigh
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:38 am
Sorry…just lightly venting
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
11:39 am
Hey Leggs! I see you had to bring up the clown again. LOL!!!
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
11:39 am
People’s sense of style can be very entertaining. Last weekend my little man had a football game in Jonesboro. The girls and I were on the side line watching. One of the kids from the opposing team caught a pass and scored. The child’s mother and grandmother rush out the stands screaming “That’s my baby!!” They were jumping up down all excited. The mom had on some black lace, see thru, tights with red panties. The grandma didn’t have on a bra, breast flopping from her chin to her waist. They both had on flip flops and their feet…..whew! Oh my goodness. Me and my daughters looked at each other and just bust out laughing.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:41 am
I guess T I T S, got my post banned…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
11:41 am
I said earlier a woman in a corporate pencil (conservative mini skirt)skirt will grab my attention all day long. Executive secrectaries dress the way I like to see women, classy is the best way to go. I’ve seen women out in pj’s at the store nothing I’ll subscribe to but again I’m not on their mind when they come out that way either.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
11:44 am
Only time I’ve gone out in my pj’s is if I just have to hit the drive-thru! Certain time of the month, I may be craving a Blizzard, so I will happily drive there in my pj’s!!!
Robert…what is slutttyyy about tattoos?
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:50 am
Hey Bluz!
That was all for you, chica.
“I’ve seen women out in pj’s at the store nothing I’ll subscribe to but again I’m not on their mind when they come out that way either.” – Ummm, a tall, dark handsome man is always on someone’s mind.
Some just don’t know that wearing pjs in public won’t catch his eye (lololol).
I’m always conscious of something going wrong, i.e., car accident, so not going outside in my pjs or braless.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
11:51 am
Robert – I’m sold on your 11:23, I saw a young girl with fake eye lashes almost up to her eye brows. That’s a strange looking look to see.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:54 am
Funny you should say that Leggs. My mother always used to say I should wear nice underwear in case I was in an car accident or something like that and I remember thinking If I get in an accident, not only will they not be nice, they might not be clean…
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:55 am
BF~ So you are a tottoo hater too?
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
11:58 am
That was my question Common. I just got my first and only tat last year (mediun-sized starburst on my shoulder) after much thought and it is not trashy in the slightest. When I wore a weave, it was either a short cut or below shoulder length; no blond waist weave. I keep in mind that I have to project a professional image most of the time.
I believe that a woman can be sexy without showing all of her ASSets; it is more the way she carries herself. I can feel and look good in jeans and sweats as well as a suit, but after wearing a suit all day when I go home, I get comfortable (usually shorts & a tee) to walk around the house.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
12:00 pm
The fake eyelashes are a somewhat recent development. They were popular decades ago and have now resurfaced. I’m cool with the lashes and the tramp stamps.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:01 pm
No Comon I can handle tatoo’s to a degree, I told here once I saw this chic at the store had tatoo’s all over her FACE, NECK and arms which is cool for folks that’s into body art. And still I beleive a lot folks get them because they see other people (rappers) with them and they want to copy what they see. Too much of a fad and I’m not into fads.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
12:05 pm
MsAtl~ I find myself in the same boat as you. Being in Atl, I know you have seen it too; The “attorney” (and I use that term loosely) who shows up in court looking like she hopped off the stripper pole a few hours ago. SMDH… I just really wonder how the heck they left their house in the morning thinking that was a good idea and where in the HEYALL did you go to law school?!? That being said, I am tatted but not in any place that a judge or opposing counsel would ever get to see. My tats are for me; no one else. And I definitely don’t think that they make me “slutty”…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:09 pm
And the tatoo’s this chic was displaying weren’t of the artful kind they were rapper/ganster type tatoos. Still it’s her body and she can put a tatoo in every crevice of it as far as I’m concerned. Who is going to hire somebody with all that going on but to each their own.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:15 pm
Where did my dear Leggs go, your throne has been waiting for your return. Come, claim your rightful place Queen amongst Queens.
disco
October 5th, 2012
12:15 pm
I don’t have any tattoos. I don’t see myself ever having any. I can, however, appreciate them on other people though I also think sometimes they go to extremes. a friend of mine has a son who is 24 years old. for the most part the boy has been locked up since he was 14. he made parole about 2 years ago and comes home with tattoos down the entire left side of his face. prison tats at that. I told his mother that I hate to say it but no redemption for that kid. I also know countless folks with name tattoos of former significant others. tragedy. lol.
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
12:18 pm
Common, yes I have seen it and looked to see if someone was setting up a pole. I saw an attorney show up to argue in the Tennessee Supreme court wearing a yellow sundress. -_- I have never gone to court in less than a full suit, but I have often had opposing counsel show up in pants & shirt or skirt & shirt, one in jeans and a flannel shirt. I read a Bar article where judges (I think 9th Circuit) complained that it was hard (no pun intended) to concentrate on what the female attorneys were saying because they wore low cut tops and too-short skirts. I often wear pants suits (unless I am in the COA or the S. Ct) because I have worked too hard not to be taken seriously.
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
12:23 pm
People like what they like. The tagged up chick/dude may not be your cup of tea. The Corp type may not be your cup of tea. Me personally I run/play and do business regularly with all of them and have a comfort level in various settings that may seem extreme to some. Judgemental or not I say be comfortable in your own skin and let others do the same.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
12:23 pm
BF ~ Cute! I had to make me some breakfast. I lost a few pounds due to not eating much. Just made me a delicious, juicy ranch cheeseburger for breakfast. Damn, it was good!!! Downed it with some Ruby Red Grapefruit juice.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:26 pm
WillieD – I agree. I don’t really know of any group that I can’t sit down and break bread with or have a convo. Now, I may not do crazy folks or folks that don’t like me (cause I don’t play games), but folks and their outer appearance? It’s neither here nor there to me. Still, I have a preference on what I like and what works FOR ME, but you have to do you and what works for you. It might read trashy TO ME, but if that’s how you roll and we’re cool? Heck I’m good too
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:31 pm
On that note Leggs I think I’ll go get some lunch.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
12:33 pm
I have 9 tattoos and I think they are all tasteful! They stay covered, except the ones on each wrist. I have a heart on one and a cross on the other. Nothing offensive. If a guy wants to judge me because of my tattoos, then that’s on him. He’s not the guy for me!
Robert
October 5th, 2012
12:34 pm
@Comon Cents “Why do tattoos have to be sluttyy?!?”
In my opinion “tattoos” inked on a woman’s body are not attractive. My daughter who is in hers 20’s wanted a tattoo. I told her men will look at you and will think you are a slutt and a easy target because you are a follower not a leader. Just like she does not want to date a young man with dreadlocks, wearing a baseball cap, sneakers and his pants on the ground because he looks like a “thug”. I also told her when she gets older and much more mature she will thank me for telling her the truth no matter how she feels about it at this point in her life. Employers will use this as an excuse not to hire her and a good man with morals, values and standards will not see her as a woman worthy of being his wife because of the decisions she made in her 20’s to adorn her beautiful body with disgusting tattoos.
I wish all men were Real Fathers and would tell their daughters the truth about tattoos and not let them make a mistake that will last a lifetime.
I hope any young woman reading my post will thank twice before they “mark” their bodies with tattoo’s. Learn how to live and conform to society before you are judged for your stupidity.
abc
October 5th, 2012
12:37 pm
Most guys are most attracted to women that look great without all the paint and cake on.
Most guys consider women in war paint to have self-image problems, else why would they subject themselves to all that, plus the cruel shoes, just to try and impress somebody?
It’s good to be a guy.
abc
October 5th, 2012
12:40 pm
And, no offense to anyone, but in my opinion there is no such thing as a ‘tasteful tattoo’. I would think that the prevalence of tattoos that don’t show when dressed indicates that even people that have them agree with that, else they wouldn’t feel as if they need to hide them.
Once upon a time, tattoos were appropriate for only sailors and bikers. I guess I still think like that.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
12:42 pm
Howdy folks…
I won’t go so far as to say that tattoos are slutty…
But I can say is, of all the girls I’ve dated/slept with, every girl I’ve personally been with who either a) was a smoker or b) had tattoos gave it up on the first night. Obviously, that’s not a scientific sampling, so it could be pure coincidence. But IJS…
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
12:42 pm
Some of the coolest most sincere folks I’ve known in my life were what some would consider ghetto or thuggee out. Then some of the most rotten cold hearted folks I’ve met are the corp types. I do get what y’all are saying tho.
Pookie may steal your purse and shaniqua might slash ya tires. But, Winston will get your 401K and Samantha will get promoted by you then file a HR complaint. Ijs
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
12:44 pm
Wow Robert…you’re pretty judgemental. Why should one have to learn to live and conform to society. I have a great, professional job, even with my tattoos. I agree that no one should get them on their face or neck, but what one does with their body is their choice…
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
12:45 pm
It’s also good to be a woman. Those shoes are only “cruel” when a woman buys a size that doesn’t fit her. Also, a woman wearing “war paint” doesn’t say she has self-image problems. Makeup enhances a woman’s beauty when applied appropriately.
BTW, abc, do you buy pants and/or suits to enhance your body. Bet you don’t just throw on anything because it’s against the law to go out in public naked.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
12:45 pm
Back again, I’m a if you like it I love it type of guy. C, there are places you can come out nekid (LOL)
“a good man with morals, values and standards will not see her as a woman worthy of being his wife because of the decisions she made in her 20’s to adorn her beautiful body with disgusting tattoos.”
Would this be a really be a good man? Passing judgement like they never made any decisions that others felt weren’t right?
“I wish all men were Real Fathers and would tell their daughters the truth about tattoos and not let them make a mistake that will last a lifetime.”
Real fathers will give their CHILDREN the right tools to make the right decision for them when they’re grown.
disco
October 5th, 2012
12:45 pm
tattoos are getting blasted. I can appreciate them for their art form. some are really nice. some are in poor taste. some folks probably had nice body parts when they first got the tattoo but things done changed. what about brands? I won’t front. I have seen some frat brands that looked pretty darned sexy.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:47 pm
Let’s just conclude, without judgement, you got good folks and bad folks everywhere, in all walks of like. Some that will do you in, some that will have your back. Some that are trashy but good people, some that are stuck up but ratchet through and through. I think that’s one of the biggest mistakes all of us make as people. We stop at the outside, never seeking to learn or know the person.
Like I said though, you come with some BS, Imma tell you to kick rocks and move on past me. You come insincere and transparent, again, kick rocks. I ain’t dealing with “jokers” either…lol
Now, when it comes to dating, there is a type that gets my eye, and I don’t date everything that comes my way but I will be friends or cool with anybody
I don’t wrote folks off. I think though, I’ve sort of grown into being like this over the last few years. 
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:49 pm
Single – I’m a if you like it I love it type of guy. C, there are places you can come out nekid
I think I am too…to a certain degree. And getting nekkid, well naturally. But leaving the house, or the job or the streets ain’t the place. So, if you gotta cover up…and yes, you do then it may as well be tip top
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
12:50 pm
Speaking of tattoos, I remember when people would pay to see someone with a lot of tattoos, now it’s the norm.
Robert
October 5th, 2012
12:53 pm
@Bluzgirl – “Wow Robert…you’re pretty judgemental.”
No I am not judgemental, I am a Real Father who loves his 20 year old child and will do anything to make sure she is not in harms way. Just because someone else thinks it’s cool does not make it acceptable.
Are there any other Men who feel like I do when it comes to their children? What Father wants his child to make this kind of mistake?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
12:53 pm
C I try not to judge those people when I see them, because I don’t know their story, I don’t know their life. Most are so quick to judge someone by what they see on the outside.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:57 pm
Single – I agree. I don’t judge folks but I do see folks and know they should know better or seek to learn better. There’s difference. I don’t really do trashmart but if and when the occasion arises, I can’t help but see things that I know can be done better. Am I judging? Not at all. We can have a convo at the register. By the same token, I’m not blind. If it’s the young chick with 3 kids on her ankle and she’s looking ghetto fab, it’s because that’s her way of thinking. Can she do better? I’m more than certain. Will I judge her? Not at all. If I get an opening to advise her, I’m taking it. Gotta be able to discern that though. Don’t wanna get butt whip overstepping the lines…lol But what I can conclude without judging is that, that’s her environment, way of life and thinking. And until or unless she changes, that’s the norm for her. So again, I don’t pass judgement but I hope that she finds a better path.
And again, if she’s happy and that’s life and living, she like it, I love it. But still, I know better than that.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
12:59 pm
Robert…if you really love your child, then you can voice your opinion but not judge her if she goes against you. Young adults should be taught to embrace themselves and learn about their personalities, not “conform to society.” Let her be her…she’s 20…let go of the ropes a bit…
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:00 pm
excuse my typos….my baaaad
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:01 pm
Single – One thing about me that you probably can’t read through the screen is, my kid says it all the time…”mama you will talk to anybody”….lol that’s a compliment by the way
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:02 pm
C if they’re happy with their life, then there’s really no advice to be giving,
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
1:03 pm
abc~ The reason that my tattoos are in places that they can’t be seen has nothing to do with my shame about being tattooed; it has to do with small minded people like you and Robert who make assumptions about my character based on the fact that I have a tattoo.
Robert~ My husband is a man with good morals and values and he married me. In fact, he waited almost 20 years to marry me. He is now tattooed as well and his ONLY tattoo is my name on his left upper shoulder. Kind of like a permanent wedding ring. IDK about anyone else on this blog, but MsAtl seems to have her stuff together to me and I know I have my stuff together and we are both tattooed. I guess the only difference between people with tattoos and people without tattoos is that I don’t judge you for not being tattooed.
Sidebar for swiss~ I am tattoed and I have NEVER given it up on te first date. Nor would I. That IS slutty. IJS…
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:05 pm
Single – You do better when you know better. And when you know better, you should do better. If you’re born and bred eating slop, you’ll think slop i sit. Let me introduce you to a Ribeye…lol Think you’ll go back to slop? Not likely. Some folks do what they do because it’s all they know. All most folks need is an opening or opportunity.
To see someone and know they can do better is not judging.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
1:09 pm
CC – I second all of what you said.
Tattoos don’t make some slutty…their personality does.
Robert – by the way…my parents hated tattoos, but that didn’t stop me. In fact, my brother used to be a tattoo artist. My parents finally came around and my mom got her first tattoo when she turned 50. A cross on her shoulder. After she beat kidney cancer last year, she and I went to get matching tattoos of the kidney cancer ribbon…she got it on her wrist, along with the medical jargon, so if anything happens to her, they will see that she no longer has her left kidney…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:10 pm
C how do you know they can do better? If I’m eating slop and I’m happy with it, it doesn’t mean that I don’t know rib-eye is out there, I just prefer slop.
Comon, bluz well said.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
1:11 pm
I would never think to offer “advice” to a stranger in the grocery store about their personal choices. To each their own.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:12 pm
I’m not tatted, but always wanted one. I may get one on my next bday. I’ve been saying this for years and still haven’t done it. Probably never will, but I keep saying I will. I is scared of needles and PAIN.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:12 pm
Single – Say what you will about folks being happy with their lives. I’ll go one further and say, the bottom for anybody ain’t never a good place to be. And folks ain’t skipping to take that place.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:13 pm
Off to lunch
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:15 pm
Leggs – I ain’t gonna lie…it hurts, but only while it’s being done. Once finished, it feels like a minor scrape. In fact, my brother told me that I don’t need to tell people how it feels because I have a low pain tolerance! LOL! If you get something small, it may only take 10-15 minutes, so not much pain! I also have a fear of needles, but tatts are different! I have two that took over 3 hours each and that was a little much! Stick with something small for your first one!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:17 pm
C, your bottom may not be their bottom. It’s all about living your life by your standards, not what others think you should be doing.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:17 pm
I get a little fired up when it comes to tattoos because too many people place judgement on others for having them (or not having them). It’s a personal choice and expression. I don’t care what others think of mine. They all have a personal meaning to them…
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:17 pm
Amen S/H!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:20 pm
Bluz offering unsolicited advice can get you a beat down (LOL)
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
1:21 pm
90minutes! Happy Friday MIA~
C come back lol
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:22 pm
Bluz ~ put the wagon in the barn and leave it there. It’s doesn’t seem to be a good vehicle for you (lol).
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:22 pm
Single – Where you’re taking this is not where I’m going. Nope, not today. When I do what I do and say what I say with the best of intents, so, I keep on doing what I do and saying what I say. Cause ya know me, how others think or feel about it is neither here nor there to me.
Where ever I can be of help to anybody without resentment, judgement or offense, I get it done!! Say what you will, every person lending someone a helping hand or a step up is never wrong. Y’all got “judging” miscontrued. But, that ain’t my issue 
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:22 pm
That’s right. I, for one, try to keep the beat downs to a minimum! LOL
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:23 pm
Heeey there Lady, what’s crackalacking? I’m headed outside. It’s such a lovely day
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:24 pm
Leggs…I’m not going hog wild…I promise. I’m going to a show at Smith’s Olde Bar tonight and just ready to have a couple of beers…that’s all! I made it over a month, though!
Off to lunch…be back in 30
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:25 pm
Bluz I have a very high tolerance for pain, but I hate needles, so I will never get a tattoo.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:25 pm
Lady – Honey, hit me up on texts. I’m out of here for today
I keep with those keeping things light and nice and sweet!! Miss me with the bs
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
The devil is a lie and is ALWAYS busy!!
Have a good weekend folks!!
Robert
October 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
How To Keep Your Child Tattoo Free – Legal age is 18 years old
1. Know who their friends are and meet their parents. Draw a line.
2. Decide what TV channels are appropriate. You pay the cable bill.
3. Disconnect BET, and other video channels that are offensive.
4. Turn off the TV,IPad, PC and other gadgets after 9:00pm.
5. Set aside 1 hour daily for talking to each other (dinner, porch, etc.).
6. Be involved in your childs education. Encourage excellence from them.
7. Schedule time to read together (library, book store, Bible, etc.).
8. Talk to your child about life (alcohol, drugs, sex, etc.).
9. Know your neighbors and their kids.
10. Prevent businesses from setting up shop in your neighborhood (strip clubs, tattoo palors, etc.)
And last but not least visit the tattoo palor(s) and make them an offer they can not refuse. Sometimes you just gotta take matters into your own hands. It is your child and your neighborhood.
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
yup I am going to absorb this weekend in the sun~ Did I tell y’all the SEC grew on me?!? ready for some college football (can’t believe I said that) but I am ready for the Carolina/UGA game and yes go gamecoks and for sunday go falcons daggit!
5-0 is the goal~
glad I am off monday~
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
1:27 pm
Common- yes I do have my stuff together, thanks. Coincidentally, when I got my tat, my grown son tried to “rub it off” because he said he knew his mom would never get a tat, and My niece said “not Martha Stewart, Betty Crocker getting a tat, that’s not real!”
Lol Leggs, it hurt a little while I was getting it done, then burned like hell when I put Lubriderm on it (the tat guy told me to; probably as punishment for not buying the lotion from him), but it was not unbearable.
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
1:27 pm
oh my I see. ok bye too lol
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:34 pm
Bluz ~ you have told us time and time again, that you and beer do not get along. A few beers may lead you to Phillips Arena. I believe Disney is in town…be careful (lolol).
Robert ~ that list definitely will not prevent a child from getting tatted.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:37 pm
Bluz ~ just having a few laughs. I’ll stop.
Robert
October 5th, 2012
1:40 pm
@Leggs – My list worked on my child because I am involved in her life and she respects my opinions. As a concerned Father I always balance love, patience and fear. Children react to knowing the consequences of their actions. When they become young adults they remember and would rather not face the consequences. Teach your child and they will conform to society rather than be lost in a world that is unforgiving.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:42 pm
C not trying to take this anywhere, just having a little friendly debate.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:46 pm
Leggs, Woman thou art loose is at Phillips, so she may fit right in. (LOL) IJK
Why in the world would you need to schedule time to talk to your child??
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
1:47 pm
I recently had a conversation with my pre-teen daughter about tattoos. It went like this:
Daddy I want a tattoo.
Only idiots get tattoos
You have some
Daddy is an idiot.
Daddy, Imma get my belly button pierced.
And Imma beat the black off you!
Aunti Nikki got one.
She’s an idiot.
Daddy, she has a Undergraduate degree in Micro Biology and a Masters in Chemistry.
Go to your room.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:51 pm
Dushawn, I see you have a very smart daughter (LOL)
When they are children, you should lead them in the right direction but allow them to have some freedoms. When they become adults it up to them to find the right direction for themselves.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
1:51 pm
I said and I will say it again I don’t care who has or want to get a tattoo. That’s their business and it doesn’t affect me one tiny bit. My dad has tattoo’s that didn’t make me want one, he wore earings still that didn’t make me want to wear earings, but if somebody else want to adorn themself fine don’t ask me for my opinion because I don’t care.
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
1:52 pm
Du- now that’s funny. No manual or list for that one.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:54 pm
“Teach your child and they will conform to society rather than be lost in a world that is unforgiving.”
WOW
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:57 pm
This world is only unforgiving when you let it bother you!
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:57 pm
LOL Leggs!!! That is pretty funny, I must admit!
I have a feeling that Robert’s daughter will go hog wild one day soon…
I couldn’t imagine teaching someone to conform to society and not be themselves.
I guess we ran off someone who didn’t like a differing opinion. I think I’ll go cry now…NOT!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
1:58 pm
I’m taking it a little further I’ve dealt with people in prison, hospitals, food banks, the homeless all types of people in all kinds of situsations. From the very wealthy (and I mean Arthur Blank wealthy) to down trotten folks that have nothing to sit on. I got along with each individual without judging, no I’m not an authority on anything but myself and that’s where I keep my balance.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:00 pm
Howdy, Comon. Like I said, my example was purely anecdotal, with a small sampling size, so it certainly doesn’t apply to everyone, I’m sure. But I do think it’s just human nature to make preliminary assumptions about people based on how they present themselves. I wouldn’t say that’s small minded, it’s just a fact of life. Unfortunately, in some cases that initial impression is the only chance you get to make an impression in some circumstances. Hell, when I was in college, everybody thought I was a frat boy. I wasn’t — and, actually, I’m about as far from a frat boy as you can possibly get — but I looked the part, so people made assumptions. It is what it is…
It’s kind of like that Dave Chappelle bit we mentioned the other day — “FINE, you are not a HO. But you ARE wearing a HO’s uniform…”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:00 pm
oh I just saw your moniker bluz, don’t do it. (some unsolicited advice, but she can’t beat me down)
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:00 pm
Robert ~ glad your list worked for your child. Exclusive just for you and her.
From what I’ve gathered on this blog for those of us who are parents, each and every one of us are involved in our children’s lives and daily teach them the pitfalls of life. However, we also know that they have minds of their own and like we all have, will make mistakes. Tattoos, bad boyfriends, wrong friends, etc. We can only hold their hand for so long before they go out in the world and make their own mark. It’s not always going to be with our map in their back pockets.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
Black, you have to remember when you use I, me or any other first person term, what you say after that is irrelevant, because it’s not you!
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
my boo is surprised I don’t have not one tattoo…..nothing against them or folks who have them….its just nothing in this world that needs to go on my body in print for any reason….never been interested~ but trust i can already tell my child will proudly have one or two…..when she is grown sure….its on her
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:04 pm
Bluz ~ that’s why I mess with you. You have a great sense of humor.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:04 pm
S/H – I’m ready for just a beer or two…last weekend and the weeks leading up to it were stressful! I have to drive tonight, so only a couple. I’m working tomorrow night, so no drinking then. I’ll be a good girl!!!
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:05 pm
Who knows…I might get there tonight and decide not to drink at all! We’ll see when I get there…
Leggs – when it comes from you, I know it’s all in good loving fun!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:05 pm
LOL……@Single that’s good for my first laugh of the day.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:07 pm
Speaking of tats, what part of the body will yield the least amount of pain. I’ve always wanted one on the back of my right shoulder.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:10 pm
“Speaking of tats, what part of the body will yield the least amount of pain?”
Leggs — Try the vulva.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:11 pm
Bluz, find another way to relieve stress, alcohol and meds don’t mix.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs, you opened yourself up for that one, no pun intended (LOL)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs I’m guessing but I think it depends on the type of needle they use. I’ve seen some that were raised lettering on the surface of the skin and the traditinal kind that’s flat. Where the least amount of pain occurs I don’t know that one.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:13 pm
Leggs – I’ve heard the foot is really, really bad! My shoulder was my first one and it wasn’t so bad. Near the ankle bone hurts and the wrist was a little unpleasant (but only for the 15 minutes it took to do it).
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:13 pm
dead swiss lol
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:15 pm
Exactly, Bluz.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:23 pm
Tattoos goes back to the begining of time, tribal people all over the world wore them. But yeah you can tell when they became a fad here because folks wanted to be associated with thug and gangs without being in them. When Tupac showed his thug life tattoo on his stomach in the ninety’s that’s when to me tattoos exploded into the general population and everybody felt they had to have one. Still who ever wants it can have it some are sweet and others dicey but do as you will.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:23 pm
swiss ~ to be honest, I thought of that spot while typing that. Something I would never do, but thought someone might state that spot and there YOU GO (lol).
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:24 pm
You’re right, Single. I definitely did.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:29 pm
I can’t imagine any spot not hurting.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
2:31 pm
Honestly, I sometimes regret all the tattoos and brands and other reminders of my misguided youth I have put on my body over the years. I can’t even wear a polo type shirt to the office. If my colleagues ever saw my arms and forearms their opinion of me, my abilities and intellect would forever be altered.
Hell, they might schedule another background check and drug screening.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:32 pm
Leggs @ 2:29 you’re entering into another realm………..LOL Is that where you’re heading?
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:33 pm
Leggs / Lady — It’s just fun to say “vulva.”
C’mon, say it with me… 
Personally, I think tats on the puddy are just superfluous, and actually kinda distracting. I had an ex who decided to get the Cat in the Hat’s hat — just the hat — right on top of her vajajay. She thought it was super funny — i.e. her “cat” with a hat. I thought it just looked stupid. I felt like I was getting a BJ from Dr. Seuss every time I f__ked her after that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:35 pm
LOL……@DuShawn I feel you on the background and drug screen. Don’t you know some right wing dude is sitting back waiting on anything to fall out on the floor.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:35 pm
Now, on the other hand, if chicks want to use a puddy tattoo as an excuse to drop trow and show me their cooter, then I’m all for it…
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:36 pm
swiss last time i heard that the OB was saying you are having a girl! lol smh lol yous a fool!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:36 pm
LOL……..damn Swiss
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
2:38 pm
Tasteful with 9 tattoos?
watch my puke as it splashes on ur shoes!
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:39 pm
Lady — We are, indeed, having a girl. Maybe there really is a god after all and he’s punishing me.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
2:42 pm
Robert ~ Funny, my parents did everything on that list and I’m still tatted…. Hmmm.
Not only am I tatted, I’m also pierced.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:42 pm
It all hurts some…just some spots more than others! I wish my brother was still a tattoo artist…a tat would be a Christmas or birthday present for me!
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
2:43 pm
When is the shower Swiss just in case I’m around..
Wi bring my Mrs..
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:43 pm
Wow Swiss~ Amazing stuff enjoy your ride most girls here lately are daddy girls! she will melt your heart away!!!!
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:43 pm
“Not only am I tatted, I’m also pierced.”
Comon — Flag on the play! You know that you can’t just throw out those kind of statements on the blog without provided visual evidence. IJS…
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:44 pm
*providing, that is…
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:45 pm
CC – I only have on piercing. I’m good with tattoos, but I’m scared of the pain from piercings!!! Also…the places I would want to get pierced would not go over well at my job…
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
2:45 pm
Where common
Where
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:47 pm
“When is the shower Swiss just in case I’m around..”
Me.lo — We’ve got showers each of the next 2 Saturdays (tomorrow & the 13th), both at 2pm at the Bahama Breeze at the corner of North Point & Haynes Bridge. Anyone is welcome to come to those. Or there was also some talk of doing a blog-specific meetup at a different time/location, but I don’t think anything’s been finalized on that.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
2:47 pm
Well, since the blog is not visual, how you figure?
I have two piercings, if you don’t count my ears. LMAO! I was not always an attorney…
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:48 pm
*one* not on…
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:52 pm
That cat in the hat story is too funny, swiss.
It’s never too late to do many things in life, but I’ve gone this long without a tat, might as well keep the body ink free. Last thing I need is for a tat to become keloid (sp?). Is that even possible?
Comon ~ I bet many parents did everything on that list and the child is tatted. Thanks for verifying what we all knew.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:53 pm
Lady — Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to have daddy’s little diva around. I’m quite sure she’ll have me wrapped around her little finger from day 1. But I’m also quite sure that little princess is gonna take a good 10 to 15 years off my life expectancy…
But that’s a trade I’m happy to make… 
Comon — Well, this is the web… link us to a pic. Or just
sext me a pic of those pierced titTAYStext it to me, if you prefer…Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:56 pm
Comon, you were a hard headed little girl, just think where you would be if you had listened to your parents (LOL)
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:56 pm
You like the way I transitioned from concerned dad-to-be to dirty horn dog on the web in 1 sentence in that last post. That takes talent, I tell you…
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:57 pm
That sounds great, swiss. Anybody interested in doing a blog meet up baby shower at Montana Grill (downtown Decatur). Drinks are delicious and their menu is very good? Or, any other place?
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:59 pm
swiss ~ do you remember the interview Janet Jackson gave to Oprah where she spoke on her boobs being pierced and how the tingling constantly makes her throb in her nether regions? She sat on that couch tingling and smiling throughout the entire hour (lol).
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:00 pm
Common,not counting the ears where are the others?
On the other two ears? LMAOF
Swiss,got u….
I’m distracted by Common,my bad Swiss.
I don’t think I will make the next two weeks…plan to be in town 26th
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
3:00 pm
I was the perfect little daddy’s girl until I turned 17…my dad did not like me very much for a couple of years because I became rebelious! We are very close now, though…
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
swiss~ long ago, I pierced my tongue (I think I was around 22). Now I wear a spacer when I am working, but I am not above putting the 12 gauge in on the weekends. And during bike week of ‘99 I got the Princess Albertina piercing with a group of friends.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
“she spoke on her boobs being pierced and how the tingling constantly makes her throb in her nether regions? She sat on that couch tingling and smiling throughout the entire hour (lol).”
Leggs — During my man-ho days, I f__ked this chick who had both nips & her cl!t pierced. Either she was a really good actress, or those piercings do have some effect, ‘cos she started c#mming before I even got The Matterhorn halfway in…
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
3:02 pm
Leggs – I considered getting those pierced, but decided against it. Afraid of messing up any sensation. Also, mine are already big and I don’t need anything else bringing eyes to them! LOL! Seriously, though…afraid that they would be noticeable on me…
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:03 pm
Maybe u actually call them wings Common
flying away in bliss..makes sense!
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
3:03 pm
be easy y’all! time to get lost in the city~
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
3:04 pm
Leggs, are you trying to spoil our fantasies about each other (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:04 pm
Bluz~ I didn’t pierce my nips for the same reason.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
3:06 pm
“And during bike week of ‘99 I got the Princess Albertina piercing with a group of friends”
Comon — Ah, even better.
So, you can answer the question for us — how much of a difference does the piercing make for sensation down there?
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:08 pm
swiss~ Let’s just say my 45 minute commute doesn’t bother me at all.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:10 pm
Not intentional, Single (lol).
What is a Princess Albertina?
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
@swiss…. aint nothing like them little girls. Mine are at the perfect age. I call their cell phone from my basement while I’m on the couch watching the game and tell them to fix Daddy a sandwich, man…. they bring the food(with chips and a pickle), grab me a cold one out the basement fridge, then ask me if I’m good. I asked my boy to do the same thing one day. It was taking so long I went upstairs to see what was up. This little mufukka eatin the dayum sandwich!
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
3:11 pm
CC – that’s another spot I don’t think I could ever pierce. I already am very sensitive there and would HATE it if that messed it up!!! I don’t want to mess with an already wonderful thing!
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
3:12 pm
“And during bike week of ‘99 I got the Princess Albertina piercing with a group of friends”
And on that note, this is a great example of another double standard that I whole-heartedly support. It’s totally cool (actually, it’s totally hot) for chicks to do sh!t like go out and get their puddies pierced together. But if one of my buddies ever said to me, “yo, dog, let’s go get our d!cks pierced,” I’d punch him in the face.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
3:13 pm
Dushawn, I like your son (rotflmao)
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:14 pm
Leggs~
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Princess_Albertina_piercing
Don’t judge me…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
3:16 pm
Comon, that’s going to keep your from getting anywhere in life, and from getting a good husband (rotflmao)
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
3:16 pm
As far as Robert’s list is concerned, I did 1-8, but I am sure if my kids want tats in the future, they will get them. Have they done things of which I did not approve? Sure! Have they done things of which I am proud? Sure! There is no one size fits all blue print for life. Had I listened to my mom, I would not have gone to Law School; I would have stayed home to “raise” my children, but having a mind of my own, I knew I could do both and do them well.
I am wondering about that whole “conform to society” thing. If I conformed to society where would I be right now? I don’t subscribe to stereotypes and “staying in my place.”
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:18 pm
S/H~ That probaby has helped me get further because I am able to keep my cool when things really should be upsetting me. As far as getting a good husband, that’s probably WHY I got a good husband.
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:19 pm
Gents?
Let’s do a collection to sponsor an Albertina for each of our blog chics…
It’s an investment
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:20 pm
Dushawn ~ that was funny. Girls wanting to please their daddy, while the sons eat all the food (lol).
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
3:20 pm
Comon, that’s not how society views it (lmao)
MsAtl, how dare you not conform to society, that’s why the world is so cruel to you (lmao)
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:20 pm
MsAtl~ Exactly! Female attorneys were unheard of when I was little. We could be legal secretaries or administrative assistants but definitely not an attorney! Shut your mouth!
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:23 pm
Comon ~ ARE YOU SERIOUS??? OH MY!
Girl, my eyes are wide and mouth wide open. Didn’t know there was a name for it. Like many are saying here, if you like it….well, glad you like it (rofl).
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:26 pm
“Comon, that’s going to keep your from getting anywhere in life, and from getting a good husband (rotflmao)” – Too funny. She’s an attorney, happily married, loving children, nice home, big fancy cars, 3 car garage, motorcycles but she’s screwed cuz she’s tatted and society won’t accept her.
BTW Comon, I know you have all those things because I peeked when we had dinner last week.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
3:28 pm
Leggs, just think where she would be if you hadn’t done those things (lmao)
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:28 pm
Leggs~ I said don’t judge.
Trust, when it was done, I was more than a little tipsy and I was with the girls who are now my sis-in-laws. We ALL got it done. However, that being said, I have never regretted it. As far as pain, not going to lie, it hurts like HELL for the first couple of weeks (about 4) but once it heals it is the most fabulous piercing ever. 
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
3:30 pm
Common, when I was up in North Georgia, I was the only Black female attorney in the circuit. Every time I went to court I was asked if I was the DFCS caseworker. Btw- you are pierced? Cheese & crackers! What kind of morals do you have? Sorry, couldn’t resist!
S/H, I guess I am just hard headed; I didn;’t have a list growing up, lol.
Swiss- lol at punching your buddy if he posed that question. One of my friends actually did suggest that we all go get vedazzled together, although I don’t know about the idea of bling on my vejayjay, lol.
Well all, I am off for the weekend. Great chatting with you guys! See ya next week and have a good one.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
3:31 pm
“I was with the girls who are now my sis-in-laws. We ALL got it done”
Comon — You do realize that Me.lo will now want to f__k your whole family, right?
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:31 pm
BTW Comon, I know you have all those things because I peeked when we had dinner last week.
LOL! I was wondering!
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:33 pm
Common..,does Mr Chef pull it a Lil..tantalizingly when he’s dining there?
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:34 pm
swiss~ Ummm… ok? My SILs are crazy, but they are fun. Even when the hubs and I were not together, they still claimed me as their sister because they knew we would get married eventually.
But I am in no way shape or form interested in f_cking any of them. All though there was this one time… I kid, I kid.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
Ex~ When Mr. Chef dines at the Y he does a lot more than pull it a little… IJS.
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:36 pm
Swiss
U right bout that!
No…I’m thinking Queen must also be Albertinised!
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:37 pm
MsAtl~ Vedazzled! Love it! Have a good weekend.
Jake-"I'm Smooth, and You Love It"
October 5th, 2012
3:38 pm
I’m back, had a work emergency, looks like I missed quite a bit
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:41 pm
Common was asking u a question Jake:
shes qualify folks for Albertina coupons
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:42 pm
Ex~ I think that would have to be the Queen’s choice. IJS…
So, back on topic, (kind of) I guess that we have discovered one area in which the men like glam…
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:42 pm
EX ~ I was just about to type now Ex is going home and convince Queen to be Albertized.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
3:45 pm
Ex~ So will you be doing your extra-curricular somewhere else for 4 weeks or just on lock down? Because I GUARANTEE you, she ain’t letting you touch the Y, let alone dine there, until it is completely healed!
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:45 pm
Laughing at you Jake. I hope it’s smooth because lumpy definitely isn’t good (roflmao).
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
3:59 pm
Did everyone take a smoke break?
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
3:59 pm
The offtime..It’s worth the Investment Common!
see Capital I there!
but she might need a Lil cajoling…how do I convince her
Jake-"I'm Smooth and Cool, and You Love It"
October 5th, 2012
4:01 pm
Leggs- Hey Sweets…..Let be add something to it so there isn’t confusion.
Comom-Uh, Uh, Uh,-its pierced, and you don’t mind your long drives and such….does it ever make you drip, or is it just goodness, ready to be unleashed at all times.
Bluz-what you know about the Band’s at Smith tonight, I was seriously thinking about heading there tonight.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
4:01 pm
lata blog society peeps
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
4:02 pm
I’m going to see the band in the Atlanta Room, called HoneyHoney. One of my favorites. I don’t know who’s playing upstairs…
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
4:02 pm
Ok peace
Off to Ohare then to west palm to enjoy my Caymens!
Good weekend!
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
4:16 pm
Ex~ You extol the benefits of it once it’s done and healed. Definitely worth the little bit of discomfort to get it done.
Jake~ Ewwww… Just ewww.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
4:18 pm
Enjoy, Ex!
I need a fun vacation from this convalescence.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
4:18 pm
Bluz~ You should come to Suburban Tap tonight. Davin and the boys are playing at 10. The hubs and I were thinking we might go out there.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
4:20 pm
Jake – if you show up, I’ll be in jeans and a black, gray, and white striped button up shirt. Come on up to me. Plan to get there around 8, when doors open…
Jake-"I'm Smooth and Cool, and You Love It"
October 5th, 2012
4:27 pm
Cool Bluz, that’s whats up…if I do I will definitely chop it up.
Comon- Wait, what; that was a serious question…you talking bout the tingling and such, so I was wondering…my bad
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
4:30 pm
I’m out ya’ll. Have a good weekend. I’ll be enjoying my Columbus Day off!!! See ya Tues
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
4:31 pm
Bluz ~ put more color in that outfit. Ditch that shirt and put on a flirty colorful blouse (lol).
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
4:31 pm
CC – I’ll look into the Suburban Tap, but not sure what time HoneyHoney is finishing…
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
4:31 pm
Oh well, she’s gone. My fashion savvy went out the window.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
4:33 pm
LOL Leggs! We’ll see…I may find something better to wear…But…this shirt looks cute on me. Ok, really…I’m out ya’ll!
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
4:51 pm
Jake~ If you are being serious. Let’s just say that it makes things moist but not sloppy. How bout that?
Kat
October 6th, 2012
5:54 pm
The woman puts makeup on to feel more confident about herself — a man is more likely to approach a woman who seems confident about herself.
Gorgeous Green Eyes
October 6th, 2012
11:51 pm
I am always styled perfectly…casual or upscale dress to the nines….I get looks no matter what because I am gorgeous and I take care of myself. I have alot of pride in my appearance…confidence I am wearing it well…..I have had some guys say”you don’t need to wear so much eye makeup…” but I don’t listen I do what I want…Never have a problem getting a man, been married 4 times to 3 men…date men as young as 27 all the way to 60…..enjoying my self and I have it going on baby!