Do men notice all the glam?
If men ever got a glimpse of our pre-date rituals, they would see all the work that some women put into looking good. It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!
The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love! Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?
I don’t know if men notice all the extra trimmings women add on to enhance their beauty. I am not even sure women are only doing it for male attention, either.
If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?
Ladies, are you approached more when you are dressed to the nines or casual and comfortable?
Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
1:27 pm
oh my I see. ok bye too lol
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:34 pm
Bluz ~ you have told us time and time again, that you and beer do not get along. A few beers may lead you to Phillips Arena. I believe Disney is in town…be careful (lolol).
Robert ~ that list definitely will not prevent a child from getting tatted.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:37 pm
Bluz ~ just having a few laughs. I’ll stop.
Robert
October 5th, 2012
1:40 pm
@Leggs – My list worked on my child because I am involved in her life and she respects my opinions. As a concerned Father I always balance love, patience and fear. Children react to knowing the consequences of their actions. When they become young adults they remember and would rather not face the consequences. Teach your child and they will conform to society rather than be lost in a world that is unforgiving.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:42 pm
C not trying to take this anywhere, just having a little friendly debate.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:46 pm
Leggs, Woman thou art loose is at Phillips, so she may fit right in. (LOL) IJK
Why in the world would you need to schedule time to talk to your child??
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
1:47 pm
I recently had a conversation with my pre-teen daughter about tattoos. It went like this:
Daddy I want a tattoo.
Only idiots get tattoos
You have some
Daddy is an idiot.
Daddy, Imma get my belly button pierced.
And Imma beat the black off you!
Aunti Nikki got one.
She’s an idiot.
Daddy, she has a Undergraduate degree in Micro Biology and a Masters in Chemistry.
Go to your room.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:51 pm
Dushawn, I see you have a very smart daughter (LOL)
When they are children, you should lead them in the right direction but allow them to have some freedoms. When they become adults it up to them to find the right direction for themselves.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
1:51 pm
I said and I will say it again I don’t care who has or want to get a tattoo. That’s their business and it doesn’t affect me one tiny bit. My dad has tattoo’s that didn’t make me want one, he wore earings still that didn’t make me want to wear earings, but if somebody else want to adorn themself fine don’t ask me for my opinion because I don’t care.
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
1:52 pm
Du- now that’s funny. No manual or list for that one.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:54 pm
“Teach your child and they will conform to society rather than be lost in a world that is unforgiving.”
WOW
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:57 pm
This world is only unforgiving when you let it bother you!
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:57 pm
LOL Leggs!!! That is pretty funny, I must admit!
I have a feeling that Robert’s daughter will go hog wild one day soon…
I couldn’t imagine teaching someone to conform to society and not be themselves.
I guess we ran off someone who didn’t like a differing opinion. I think I’ll go cry now…NOT!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
1:58 pm
I’m taking it a little further I’ve dealt with people in prison, hospitals, food banks, the homeless all types of people in all kinds of situsations. From the very wealthy (and I mean Arthur Blank wealthy) to down trotten folks that have nothing to sit on. I got along with each individual without judging, no I’m not an authority on anything but myself and that’s where I keep my balance.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:00 pm
Howdy, Comon. Like I said, my example was purely anecdotal, with a small sampling size, so it certainly doesn’t apply to everyone, I’m sure. But I do think it’s just human nature to make preliminary assumptions about people based on how they present themselves. I wouldn’t say that’s small minded, it’s just a fact of life. Unfortunately, in some cases that initial impression is the only chance you get to make an impression in some circumstances. Hell, when I was in college, everybody thought I was a frat boy. I wasn’t — and, actually, I’m about as far from a frat boy as you can possibly get — but I looked the part, so people made assumptions. It is what it is…
It’s kind of like that Dave Chappelle bit we mentioned the other day — “FINE, you are not a HO. But you ARE wearing a HO’s uniform…”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:00 pm
oh I just saw your moniker bluz, don’t do it. (some unsolicited advice, but she can’t beat me down)
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:00 pm
Robert ~ glad your list worked for your child. Exclusive just for you and her.
From what I’ve gathered on this blog for those of us who are parents, each and every one of us are involved in our children’s lives and daily teach them the pitfalls of life. However, we also know that they have minds of their own and like we all have, will make mistakes. Tattoos, bad boyfriends, wrong friends, etc. We can only hold their hand for so long before they go out in the world and make their own mark. It’s not always going to be with our map in their back pockets.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
Black, you have to remember when you use I, me or any other first person term, what you say after that is irrelevant, because it’s not you!
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:02 pm
my boo is surprised I don’t have not one tattoo…..nothing against them or folks who have them….its just nothing in this world that needs to go on my body in print for any reason….never been interested~ but trust i can already tell my child will proudly have one or two…..when she is grown sure….its on her
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:04 pm
Bluz ~ that’s why I mess with you. You have a great sense of humor.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:04 pm
S/H – I’m ready for just a beer or two…last weekend and the weeks leading up to it were stressful! I have to drive tonight, so only a couple. I’m working tomorrow night, so no drinking then. I’ll be a good girl!!!
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:05 pm
Who knows…I might get there tonight and decide not to drink at all! We’ll see when I get there…
Leggs – when it comes from you, I know it’s all in good loving fun!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:05 pm
LOL……@Single that’s good for my first laugh of the day.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:07 pm
Speaking of tats, what part of the body will yield the least amount of pain. I’ve always wanted one on the back of my right shoulder.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:10 pm
“Speaking of tats, what part of the body will yield the least amount of pain?”
Leggs — Try the vulva.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:11 pm
Bluz, find another way to relieve stress, alcohol and meds don’t mix.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs, you opened yourself up for that one, no pun intended (LOL)
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs I’m guessing but I think it depends on the type of needle they use. I’ve seen some that were raised lettering on the surface of the skin and the traditinal kind that’s flat. Where the least amount of pain occurs I don’t know that one.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:13 pm
Leggs – I’ve heard the foot is really, really bad! My shoulder was my first one and it wasn’t so bad. Near the ankle bone hurts and the wrist was a little unpleasant (but only for the 15 minutes it took to do it).
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:13 pm
dead swiss lol
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:15 pm
Exactly, Bluz.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:23 pm
Tattoos goes back to the begining of time, tribal people all over the world wore them. But yeah you can tell when they became a fad here because folks wanted to be associated with thug and gangs without being in them. When Tupac showed his thug life tattoo on his stomach in the ninety’s that’s when to me tattoos exploded into the general population and everybody felt they had to have one. Still who ever wants it can have it some are sweet and others dicey but do as you will.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:23 pm
swiss ~ to be honest, I thought of that spot while typing that. Something I would never do, but thought someone might state that spot and there YOU GO (lol).
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:24 pm
You’re right, Single. I definitely did.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
2:29 pm
I can’t imagine any spot not hurting.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
2:31 pm
Honestly, I sometimes regret all the tattoos and brands and other reminders of my misguided youth I have put on my body over the years. I can’t even wear a polo type shirt to the office. If my colleagues ever saw my arms and forearms their opinion of me, my abilities and intellect would forever be altered.
Hell, they might schedule another background check and drug screening.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:32 pm
Leggs @ 2:29 you’re entering into another realm………..LOL Is that where you’re heading?
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:33 pm
Leggs / Lady — It’s just fun to say “vulva.”
C’mon, say it with me… 
Personally, I think tats on the puddy are just superfluous, and actually kinda distracting. I had an ex who decided to get the Cat in the Hat’s hat — just the hat — right on top of her vajajay. She thought it was super funny — i.e. her “cat” with a hat. I thought it just looked stupid. I felt like I was getting a BJ from Dr. Seuss every time I f__ked her after that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:35 pm
LOL……@DuShawn I feel you on the background and drug screen. Don’t you know some right wing dude is sitting back waiting on anything to fall out on the floor.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:35 pm
Now, on the other hand, if chicks want to use a puddy tattoo as an excuse to drop trow and show me their cooter, then I’m all for it…
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:36 pm
swiss last time i heard that the OB was saying you are having a girl! lol smh lol yous a fool!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
2:36 pm
LOL……..damn Swiss
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
2:38 pm
Tasteful with 9 tattoos?
watch my puke as it splashes on ur shoes!
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:39 pm
Lady — We are, indeed, having a girl. Maybe there really is a god after all and he’s punishing me.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
2:42 pm
Robert ~ Funny, my parents did everything on that list and I’m still tatted…. Hmmm.
Not only am I tatted, I’m also pierced.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
2:42 pm
It all hurts some…just some spots more than others! I wish my brother was still a tattoo artist…a tat would be a Christmas or birthday present for me!
Exiled!
October 5th, 2012
2:43 pm
When is the shower Swiss just in case I’m around..
Wi bring my Mrs..
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
2:43 pm
Wow Swiss~ Amazing stuff enjoy your ride most girls here lately are daddy girls! she will melt your heart away!!!!
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:43 pm
“Not only am I tatted, I’m also pierced.”
Comon — Flag on the play! You know that you can’t just throw out those kind of statements on the blog without provided visual evidence. IJS…
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
2:44 pm
*providing, that is…