Do men notice all the glam?
If men ever got a glimpse of our pre-date rituals, they would see all the work that some women put into looking good. It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!
The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love! Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?
I don’t know if men notice all the extra trimmings women add on to enhance their beauty. I am not even sure women are only doing it for male attention, either.
If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?
Ladies, are you approached more when you are dressed to the nines or casual and comfortable?
Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?
Happy Friday!
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MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
12:18 pm
Common, yes I have seen it and looked to see if someone was setting up a pole. I saw an attorney show up to argue in the Tennessee Supreme court wearing a yellow sundress. -_- I have never gone to court in less than a full suit, but I have often had opposing counsel show up in pants & shirt or skirt & shirt, one in jeans and a flannel shirt. I read a Bar article where judges (I think 9th Circuit) complained that it was hard (no pun intended) to concentrate on what the female attorneys were saying because they wore low cut tops and too-short skirts. I often wear pants suits (unless I am in the COA or the S. Ct) because I have worked too hard not to be taken seriously.
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
12:23 pm
People like what they like. The tagged up chick/dude may not be your cup of tea. The Corp type may not be your cup of tea. Me personally I run/play and do business regularly with all of them and have a comfort level in various settings that may seem extreme to some. Judgemental or not I say be comfortable in your own skin and let others do the same.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
12:23 pm
BF ~ Cute! I had to make me some breakfast. I lost a few pounds due to not eating much. Just made me a delicious, juicy ranch cheeseburger for breakfast. Damn, it was good!!! Downed it with some Ruby Red Grapefruit juice.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:26 pm
WillieD – I agree. I don’t really know of any group that I can’t sit down and break bread with or have a convo. Now, I may not do crazy folks or folks that don’t like me (cause I don’t play games), but folks and their outer appearance? It’s neither here nor there to me. Still, I have a preference on what I like and what works FOR ME, but you have to do you and what works for you. It might read trashy TO ME, but if that’s how you roll and we’re cool? Heck I’m good too
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:31 pm
On that note Leggs I think I’ll go get some lunch.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
12:33 pm
I have 9 tattoos and I think they are all tasteful! They stay covered, except the ones on each wrist. I have a heart on one and a cross on the other. Nothing offensive. If a guy wants to judge me because of my tattoos, then that’s on him. He’s not the guy for me!
Robert
October 5th, 2012
12:34 pm
@Comon Cents “Why do tattoos have to be sluttyy?!?”
In my opinion “tattoos” inked on a woman’s body are not attractive. My daughter who is in hers 20’s wanted a tattoo. I told her men will look at you and will think you are a slutt and a easy target because you are a follower not a leader. Just like she does not want to date a young man with dreadlocks, wearing a baseball cap, sneakers and his pants on the ground because he looks like a “thug”. I also told her when she gets older and much more mature she will thank me for telling her the truth no matter how she feels about it at this point in her life. Employers will use this as an excuse not to hire her and a good man with morals, values and standards will not see her as a woman worthy of being his wife because of the decisions she made in her 20’s to adorn her beautiful body with disgusting tattoos.
I wish all men were Real Fathers and would tell their daughters the truth about tattoos and not let them make a mistake that will last a lifetime.
I hope any young woman reading my post will thank twice before they “mark” their bodies with tattoo’s. Learn how to live and conform to society before you are judged for your stupidity.
abc
October 5th, 2012
12:37 pm
Most guys are most attracted to women that look great without all the paint and cake on.
Most guys consider women in war paint to have self-image problems, else why would they subject themselves to all that, plus the cruel shoes, just to try and impress somebody?
It’s good to be a guy.
abc
October 5th, 2012
12:40 pm
And, no offense to anyone, but in my opinion there is no such thing as a ‘tasteful tattoo’. I would think that the prevalence of tattoos that don’t show when dressed indicates that even people that have them agree with that, else they wouldn’t feel as if they need to hide them.
Once upon a time, tattoos were appropriate for only sailors and bikers. I guess I still think like that.
i'm swiss
October 5th, 2012
12:42 pm
Howdy folks…
I won’t go so far as to say that tattoos are slutty…
But I can say is, of all the girls I’ve dated/slept with, every girl I’ve personally been with who either a) was a smoker or b) had tattoos gave it up on the first night. Obviously, that’s not a scientific sampling, so it could be pure coincidence. But IJS…
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
12:42 pm
Some of the coolest most sincere folks I’ve known in my life were what some would consider ghetto or thuggee out. Then some of the most rotten cold hearted folks I’ve met are the corp types. I do get what y’all are saying tho.
Pookie may steal your purse and shaniqua might slash ya tires. But, Winston will get your 401K and Samantha will get promoted by you then file a HR complaint. Ijs
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
12:44 pm
Wow Robert…you’re pretty judgemental. Why should one have to learn to live and conform to society. I have a great, professional job, even with my tattoos. I agree that no one should get them on their face or neck, but what one does with their body is their choice…
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
12:45 pm
It’s also good to be a woman. Those shoes are only “cruel” when a woman buys a size that doesn’t fit her. Also, a woman wearing “war paint” doesn’t say she has self-image problems. Makeup enhances a woman’s beauty when applied appropriately.
BTW, abc, do you buy pants and/or suits to enhance your body. Bet you don’t just throw on anything because it’s against the law to go out in public naked.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
12:45 pm
Back again, I’m a if you like it I love it type of guy. C, there are places you can come out nekid (LOL)
“a good man with morals, values and standards will not see her as a woman worthy of being his wife because of the decisions she made in her 20’s to adorn her beautiful body with disgusting tattoos.”
Would this be a really be a good man? Passing judgement like they never made any decisions that others felt weren’t right?
“I wish all men were Real Fathers and would tell their daughters the truth about tattoos and not let them make a mistake that will last a lifetime.”
Real fathers will give their CHILDREN the right tools to make the right decision for them when they’re grown.
disco
October 5th, 2012
12:45 pm
tattoos are getting blasted. I can appreciate them for their art form. some are really nice. some are in poor taste. some folks probably had nice body parts when they first got the tattoo but things done changed. what about brands? I won’t front. I have seen some frat brands that looked pretty darned sexy.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:47 pm
Let’s just conclude, without judgement, you got good folks and bad folks everywhere, in all walks of like. Some that will do you in, some that will have your back. Some that are trashy but good people, some that are stuck up but ratchet through and through. I think that’s one of the biggest mistakes all of us make as people. We stop at the outside, never seeking to learn or know the person.
Like I said though, you come with some BS, Imma tell you to kick rocks and move on past me. You come insincere and transparent, again, kick rocks. I ain’t dealing with “jokers” either…lol
Now, when it comes to dating, there is a type that gets my eye, and I don’t date everything that comes my way but I will be friends or cool with anybody
I don’t wrote folks off. I think though, I’ve sort of grown into being like this over the last few years. 
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:49 pm
Single – I’m a if you like it I love it type of guy. C, there are places you can come out nekid
I think I am too…to a certain degree. And getting nekkid, well naturally. But leaving the house, or the job or the streets ain’t the place. So, if you gotta cover up…and yes, you do then it may as well be tip top
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
12:50 pm
Speaking of tattoos, I remember when people would pay to see someone with a lot of tattoos, now it’s the norm.
Robert
October 5th, 2012
12:53 pm
@Bluzgirl – “Wow Robert…you’re pretty judgemental.”
No I am not judgemental, I am a Real Father who loves his 20 year old child and will do anything to make sure she is not in harms way. Just because someone else thinks it’s cool does not make it acceptable.
Are there any other Men who feel like I do when it comes to their children? What Father wants his child to make this kind of mistake?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
12:53 pm
C I try not to judge those people when I see them, because I don’t know their story, I don’t know their life. Most are so quick to judge someone by what they see on the outside.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
12:57 pm
Single – I agree. I don’t judge folks but I do see folks and know they should know better or seek to learn better. There’s difference. I don’t really do trashmart but if and when the occasion arises, I can’t help but see things that I know can be done better. Am I judging? Not at all. We can have a convo at the register. By the same token, I’m not blind. If it’s the young chick with 3 kids on her ankle and she’s looking ghetto fab, it’s because that’s her way of thinking. Can she do better? I’m more than certain. Will I judge her? Not at all. If I get an opening to advise her, I’m taking it. Gotta be able to discern that though. Don’t wanna get butt whip overstepping the lines…lol But what I can conclude without judging is that, that’s her environment, way of life and thinking. And until or unless she changes, that’s the norm for her. So again, I don’t pass judgement but I hope that she finds a better path.
And again, if she’s happy and that’s life and living, she like it, I love it. But still, I know better than that.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
12:59 pm
Robert…if you really love your child, then you can voice your opinion but not judge her if she goes against you. Young adults should be taught to embrace themselves and learn about their personalities, not “conform to society.” Let her be her…she’s 20…let go of the ropes a bit…
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:00 pm
excuse my typos….my baaaad
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:01 pm
Single – One thing about me that you probably can’t read through the screen is, my kid says it all the time…”mama you will talk to anybody”….lol that’s a compliment by the way
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:02 pm
C if they’re happy with their life, then there’s really no advice to be giving,
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
1:03 pm
abc~ The reason that my tattoos are in places that they can’t be seen has nothing to do with my shame about being tattooed; it has to do with small minded people like you and Robert who make assumptions about my character based on the fact that I have a tattoo.
Robert~ My husband is a man with good morals and values and he married me. In fact, he waited almost 20 years to marry me. He is now tattooed as well and his ONLY tattoo is my name on his left upper shoulder. Kind of like a permanent wedding ring. IDK about anyone else on this blog, but MsAtl seems to have her stuff together to me and I know I have my stuff together and we are both tattooed. I guess the only difference between people with tattoos and people without tattoos is that I don’t judge you for not being tattooed.
Sidebar for swiss~ I am tattoed and I have NEVER given it up on te first date. Nor would I. That IS slutty. IJS…
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:05 pm
Single – You do better when you know better. And when you know better, you should do better. If you’re born and bred eating slop, you’ll think slop i sit. Let me introduce you to a Ribeye…lol Think you’ll go back to slop? Not likely. Some folks do what they do because it’s all they know. All most folks need is an opening or opportunity.
To see someone and know they can do better is not judging.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
1:09 pm
CC – I second all of what you said.
Tattoos don’t make some slutty…their personality does.
Robert – by the way…my parents hated tattoos, but that didn’t stop me. In fact, my brother used to be a tattoo artist. My parents finally came around and my mom got her first tattoo when she turned 50. A cross on her shoulder. After she beat kidney cancer last year, she and I went to get matching tattoos of the kidney cancer ribbon…she got it on her wrist, along with the medical jargon, so if anything happens to her, they will see that she no longer has her left kidney…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:10 pm
C how do you know they can do better? If I’m eating slop and I’m happy with it, it doesn’t mean that I don’t know rib-eye is out there, I just prefer slop.
Comon, bluz well said.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
1:11 pm
I would never think to offer “advice” to a stranger in the grocery store about their personal choices. To each their own.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:12 pm
I’m not tatted, but always wanted one. I may get one on my next bday. I’ve been saying this for years and still haven’t done it. Probably never will, but I keep saying I will. I is scared of needles and PAIN.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:12 pm
Single – Say what you will about folks being happy with their lives. I’ll go one further and say, the bottom for anybody ain’t never a good place to be. And folks ain’t skipping to take that place.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:13 pm
Off to lunch
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:15 pm
Leggs – I ain’t gonna lie…it hurts, but only while it’s being done. Once finished, it feels like a minor scrape. In fact, my brother told me that I don’t need to tell people how it feels because I have a low pain tolerance! LOL! If you get something small, it may only take 10-15 minutes, so not much pain! I also have a fear of needles, but tatts are different! I have two that took over 3 hours each and that was a little much! Stick with something small for your first one!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:17 pm
C, your bottom may not be their bottom. It’s all about living your life by your standards, not what others think you should be doing.
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:17 pm
I get a little fired up when it comes to tattoos because too many people place judgement on others for having them (or not having them). It’s a personal choice and expression. I don’t care what others think of mine. They all have a personal meaning to them…
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:17 pm
Amen S/H!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:20 pm
Bluz offering unsolicited advice can get you a beat down (LOL)
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
1:21 pm
90minutes! Happy Friday MIA~
C come back lol
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
1:22 pm
Bluz ~ put the wagon in the barn and leave it there. It’s doesn’t seem to be a good vehicle for you (lol).
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:22 pm
Single – Where you’re taking this is not where I’m going. Nope, not today. When I do what I do and say what I say with the best of intents, so, I keep on doing what I do and saying what I say. Cause ya know me, how others think or feel about it is neither here nor there to me.
Where ever I can be of help to anybody without resentment, judgement or offense, I get it done!! Say what you will, every person lending someone a helping hand or a step up is never wrong. Y’all got “judging” miscontrued. But, that ain’t my issue 
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:22 pm
That’s right. I, for one, try to keep the beat downs to a minimum! LOL
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:23 pm
Heeey there Lady, what’s crackalacking? I’m headed outside. It’s such a lovely day
Bluzgirl - Jumping off the wagon this weekend!
October 5th, 2012
1:24 pm
Leggs…I’m not going hog wild…I promise. I’m going to a show at Smith’s Olde Bar tonight and just ready to have a couple of beers…that’s all! I made it over a month, though!
Off to lunch…be back in 30
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
1:25 pm
Bluz I have a very high tolerance for pain, but I hate needles, so I will never get a tattoo.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:25 pm
Lady – Honey, hit me up on texts. I’m out of here for today
I keep with those keeping things light and nice and sweet!! Miss me with the bs
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
The devil is a lie and is ALWAYS busy!!
Have a good weekend folks!!
Robert
October 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
How To Keep Your Child Tattoo Free – Legal age is 18 years old
1. Know who their friends are and meet their parents. Draw a line.
2. Decide what TV channels are appropriate. You pay the cable bill.
3. Disconnect BET, and other video channels that are offensive.
4. Turn off the TV,IPad, PC and other gadgets after 9:00pm.
5. Set aside 1 hour daily for talking to each other (dinner, porch, etc.).
6. Be involved in your childs education. Encourage excellence from them.
7. Schedule time to read together (library, book store, Bible, etc.).
8. Talk to your child about life (alcohol, drugs, sex, etc.).
9. Know your neighbors and their kids.
10. Prevent businesses from setting up shop in your neighborhood (strip clubs, tattoo palors, etc.)
And last but not least visit the tattoo palor(s) and make them an offer they can not refuse. Sometimes you just gotta take matters into your own hands. It is your child and your neighborhood.
Lady~must be nice!
October 5th, 2012
1:26 pm
yup I am going to absorb this weekend in the sun~ Did I tell y’all the SEC grew on me?!? ready for some college football (can’t believe I said that) but I am ready for the Carolina/UGA game and yes go gamecoks and for sunday go falcons daggit!
5-0 is the goal~
glad I am off monday~
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
1:27 pm
Common- yes I do have my stuff together, thanks. Coincidentally, when I got my tat, my grown son tried to “rub it off” because he said he knew his mom would never get a tat, and My niece said “not Martha Stewart, Betty Crocker getting a tat, that’s not real!”
Lol Leggs, it hurt a little while I was getting it done, then burned like hell when I put Lubriderm on it (the tat guy told me to; probably as punishment for not buying the lotion from him), but it was not unbearable.