Do men notice all the glam?
If men ever got a glimpse of our pre-date rituals, they would see all the work that some women put into looking good. It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!
The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love! Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?
I don’t know if men notice all the extra trimmings women add on to enhance their beauty. I am not even sure women are only doing it for male attention, either.
If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?
Ladies, are you approached more when you are dressed to the nines or casual and comfortable?
Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?
Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
10:53 am
Darn I missed it all, but who want’s June Cleaver?
C, so you felling rough today
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
10:55 am
I’m a go with it kind of guy, I may help you disrobe. I dont sit there and gaze like I’m at a strip club I want to gently touch and caress her body and firmly grip her butt.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:56 am
Single – There you go again confusing me….”felling rough?”
Who said anything about June Cleaver? Or did I miss something? You ain’t gotta be a clown to be sexy…right? I, for one, have never worn make-up so why start now? Now as far as sexy, I think each woman has it in her to pull that off. The thing is though, trashy ain’t sexy. And if a dude has only been exposed to trashy, he might not “get it” when sexy knocks him over.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
10:57 am
Blackfoote – You are the man….lol!!! Yeah, that’s kind of where I was going. I have more questions but not now. Maybe later.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:57 am
Single – Hey don’t sleep on June! There is a way to work a sexy June that’ll have Ward rushing to get home!LOL!!
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
10:58 am
CC- The reason god gave women booty……I mean beauty, is for MEN to admire and enjoy. Like the ocean or the setting of the sun, they are gifts from the most high. I’m just obeying his divine order.
Jake-"I'm Smooth, and You Love It"
October 5th, 2012
10:58 am
Ladies are beautiful naturally, the enhancements work for some better than others, but how she carries herself is a greater measure of her beauty than anything she can put on.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
10:59 am
I know see, I know (LOL)
You never saw June Cleaver not done up (for the lack of a better term) no matter what time of the day it was.
to me the sexiest women are the ones with enough confidence to leave home with whatever on.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
10:59 am
Jake – Love your post!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:00 am
Nicely said Jake…there’s where I was going.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:01 am
“It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!”
I definitely hope the men do the same getting ready for a date. This isn’t to impress, it’s simple hygiene and social skills. Who wants to stink and look unkempt while out on a date.
Speaking of looking or being natural. I was asked out on a date after a water gun fight at a social gathering at a park. He told me that out of all the women screaming don’t shoot me, don’t get my hair and makeup wet, I was one of the few who didn’t seem to care about all that nonsense. He said he liked that about me. Hell, I had a blast (literally). Makeup is cool as long as you don’t apply it looking like a circus clown (sorry Bluz). It doesn’t necessarily hide an insecurity. BUT, if you’re checking your face in the mirror every 15 mins, there is a problem.
There’s a lady in bathroom at work always reapplying her makeup, carrying a huge makeup case. My case consist of eyebrow pencil (a must staple), lip brush and lipstick. Not sure why one needs to reapply foundation throughout the day. That’s too much makeup, and I would think your face would probably tend to crack by day’s end.
Good morning.
disco
October 5th, 2012
11:02 am
good morning. I’m all late and catching up.
CC – re your comment about first meeting the hubs in your robe. that sounds like a good how we met story.
dushawn – re wanting the happiest chick in the room. do you expect her to all happy all the time? what happens when happy chick has a bad day?
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:03 am
to me the sexiest women are the ones with enough confidence to leave home with whatever on.
Single – I know what you are going for and I know I’m talking extremes. But when I see women and men out in public with “whatever” on, I call that lazy, not confidence. My sisters and brothers, show some pride. PJ’s, house shoes, boxers showing, rusty feet all belong INSIDE the house, not out!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
11:04 am
Disco, I’ve noticed that most happy people we don’t have bad days.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:05 am
I actually think the June Cleavers of yesteryear did sexy. I think mostly what’s aired and displayed is trash…but again that’s just me. I was looking at a Fred Astaire movie the other day and Rita Hayworth was his costar. Absolutely stunning. What she wore, is what I call classy and sexy. No T&A hanging out but clothes that fit to a tee. Classy and classically stylish. THAT’S what I call sexy. But of course and again, to each his own.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:05 am
Welcome back Leggs!!
disco
October 5th, 2012
11:06 am
kimmie – is that some kind of disorder? make up hoarding? lol.
HEY LEGGS!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
11:07 am
Kimmie, to me that shows confidence, and pride in yourself, because you could care less what the rest of the world thinks about you. Those people at Walmart that are looking down on you will never do anything to enhance your life.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:07 am
Cel – Your 11:05 – absolutely! That is the definition of classy and sexy. Not overdone, just right!!!
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:09 am
Disco – I think so, I admit I have a problem!LOL!!
Single – Totally disagree. I know they could care less about what I think, but it makes me feel bad to see my people out that way. Our people used to have more pride than that.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:09 am
Kimmie – Those ladies of yesteryear were so refine and graceful. That’s how I am am and what I envision when I think sexy. Give me a pair of sexy pumps and a little black dress or a well fitted suit and I’m goooood
Willie Dynamite
October 5th, 2012
11:14 am
Morning all,
Count me in with the minimal (very) makeup crowd. I have always been attracted to the as you are type chick. Heavy makeup gives the perception of either you are hiding something or just not comfortable in your own skin. Checking the mirror and constantly touching up is a turn off to me.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 5th, 2012
11:14 am
C, Kimmie it wasn’t the refine, she was made up when she went to bed, she was made up when she went to got up, reminds me of Sasha on Meet the Browns, always in heels and made up, realistically, who does that.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:15 am
Hey there, kimmie! Girl, I appreciate you!
Hey disco!
Thanks to all of you checking on me. I truly appreciate it.
BF, you are the man!
kimmie ~ I do not understand how someone can come out the house with rusty feet. It doesn’t take much to apply lotion or Vaseline if needed. Even if one is coming out the house in sweats, be neat and presentable. I do not believe in looking sloppy while out in public.
kimmie
October 5th, 2012
11:17 am
Single – Now you know that’s for TV!!
I was talking about the well-fitted dresses cinched in the waist she wore, with the heels & pearls. Greeting “Ward” at the door after work with slippers and a martini, that type of “June”!!
Robert
October 5th, 2012
11:23 am
“Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive?”
I hate to see a younger woman dressing like a “slutt” (fake eyelashes, hair weaves, tatoos, etc.). I hate to see a older mature woman dress like an immature younger woman (clothes, hair, etc.).
My preference is for “natural” hair styles and very litle make-up (lipstick, eye shadow, only). I love “sun dresses” that accent the body (leggs, etc.) and leave plenty to the imagination. I love to see a woman who looks, acts and dresses appropriately.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:24 am
Leggs!!! Glad to “see” you back!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:25 am
Single – People have to put on clothes. You can’t leave the house nekkid so, yeah you gotta get dressed. In getting dressed you can either go classy, trashy, skimpy, whatever. But just because you ain’t got stuff hanging out everywhere don’t mean you’re not comfortable or fronting. It just means your preference is to wear clothes…lol I don’t look down at folks that do the “hop nekkid” but I don’t want someone calling me “booghie” in return because I don’t. I think you’re projecting the reverse.
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:27 am
Back in June Cleaver’s day, that was sexy and should be sexy today. Being neatly dressed for your man when he returns home from work, house cleaned, food on the stove, etc. No man should come home to rollers in the hair, pjs and slippers at 7 in the evening (unless you’re on some type of STD)
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:27 am
Single – I agree with Kimmie, those were tv characters. Still, I say refined because during that era, that’s the way the majority of women dressed. That was America at that time. So, really what you saw on tv is pretty much what you saw in passing. Refined and graceful
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:29 am
Robert~ Why do tattoos have to be sluttyy?!?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
11:31 am
Hello Leggs glad you’re back!
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:37 am
I shole don’t feel like working. The wind has been let out of my sail just a tad. This portfolio I’m getting is messy. I see right now, Imma have to tick some folks off to get it cleaned up. I just got copied on an emial where the chick leaving is trying to “engage” another chick (different role, same portfolio) on something she needs to do and she’s telling her (the chick leaving), to just call the client…sort of on her behalf. Ummm, I don’t do lazy, I don’t do getting pushed over or walked on or used. I see right now, Imma have to whip folks in shape. That means enemies before friends. Sigh
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:38 am
Sorry…just lightly venting
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
11:39 am
Hey Leggs! I see you had to bring up the clown again. LOL!!!
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
11:39 am
People’s sense of style can be very entertaining. Last weekend my little man had a football game in Jonesboro. The girls and I were on the side line watching. One of the kids from the opposing team caught a pass and scored. The child’s mother and grandmother rush out the stands screaming “That’s my baby!!” They were jumping up down all excited. The mom had on some black lace, see thru, tights with red panties. The grandma didn’t have on a bra, breast flopping from her chin to her waist. They both had on flip flops and their feet…..whew! Oh my goodness. Me and my daughters looked at each other and just bust out laughing.
Celisea
October 5th, 2012
11:41 am
I guess T I T S, got my post banned…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
11:41 am
I said earlier a woman in a corporate pencil (conservative mini skirt)skirt will grab my attention all day long. Executive secrectaries dress the way I like to see women, classy is the best way to go. I’ve seen women out in pj’s at the store nothing I’ll subscribe to but again I’m not on their mind when they come out that way either.
Bluzgirl
October 5th, 2012
11:44 am
Only time I’ve gone out in my pj’s is if I just have to hit the drive-thru! Certain time of the month, I may be craving a Blizzard, so I will happily drive there in my pj’s!!!
Robert…what is slutttyyy about tattoos?
Leggs
October 5th, 2012
11:50 am
Hey Bluz!
That was all for you, chica.
“I’ve seen women out in pj’s at the store nothing I’ll subscribe to but again I’m not on their mind when they come out that way either.” – Ummm, a tall, dark handsome man is always on someone’s mind.
Some just don’t know that wearing pjs in public won’t catch his eye (lololol).
I’m always conscious of something going wrong, i.e., car accident, so not going outside in my pjs or braless.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
11:51 am
Robert – I’m sold on your 11:23, I saw a young girl with fake eye lashes almost up to her eye brows. That’s a strange looking look to see.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:54 am
Funny you should say that Leggs. My mother always used to say I should wear nice underwear in case I was in an car accident or something like that and I remember thinking If I get in an accident, not only will they not be nice, they might not be clean…
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
11:55 am
BF~ So you are a tottoo hater too?
MsAtl
October 5th, 2012
11:58 am
That was my question Common. I just got my first and only tat last year (mediun-sized starburst on my shoulder) after much thought and it is not trashy in the slightest. When I wore a weave, it was either a short cut or below shoulder length; no blond waist weave. I keep in mind that I have to project a professional image most of the time.
I believe that a woman can be sexy without showing all of her ASSets; it is more the way she carries herself. I can feel and look good in jeans and sweats as well as a suit, but after wearing a suit all day when I go home, I get comfortable (usually shorts & a tee) to walk around the house.
DuShawn
October 5th, 2012
12:00 pm
The fake eyelashes are a somewhat recent development. They were popular decades ago and have now resurfaced. I’m cool with the lashes and the tramp stamps.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:01 pm
No Comon I can handle tatoo’s to a degree, I told here once I saw this chic at the store had tatoo’s all over her FACE, NECK and arms which is cool for folks that’s into body art. And still I beleive a lot folks get them because they see other people (rappers) with them and they want to copy what they see. Too much of a fad and I’m not into fads.
Comon Cents
October 5th, 2012
12:05 pm
MsAtl~ I find myself in the same boat as you. Being in Atl, I know you have seen it too; The “attorney” (and I use that term loosely) who shows up in court looking like she hopped off the stripper pole a few hours ago. SMDH… I just really wonder how the heck they left their house in the morning thinking that was a good idea and where in the HEYALL did you go to law school?!? That being said, I am tatted but not in any place that a judge or opposing counsel would ever get to see. My tats are for me; no one else. And I definitely don’t think that they make me “slutty”…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:09 pm
And the tatoo’s this chic was displaying weren’t of the artful kind they were rapper/ganster type tatoos. Still it’s her body and she can put a tatoo in every crevice of it as far as I’m concerned. Who is going to hire somebody with all that going on but to each their own.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
October 5th, 2012
12:15 pm
Where did my dear Leggs go, your throne has been waiting for your return. Come, claim your rightful place Queen amongst Queens.
disco
October 5th, 2012
12:15 pm
I don’t have any tattoos. I don’t see myself ever having any. I can, however, appreciate them on other people though I also think sometimes they go to extremes. a friend of mine has a son who is 24 years old. for the most part the boy has been locked up since he was 14. he made parole about 2 years ago and comes home with tattoos down the entire left side of his face. prison tats at that. I told his mother that I hate to say it but no redemption for that kid. I also know countless folks with name tattoos of former significant others. tragedy. lol.