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Do men notice all the glam?

If men ever got a glimpse of our pre-date rituals, they would see all the work that some women put into looking good. It’s shower, shave, hair, outfit preparation…listen, you best believe we are ready to impress!

The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love! Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?

I don’t know if men notice all the extra trimmings women add on to enhance their beauty. I am not even sure women are only doing it for male attention, either.

If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?

Ladies, are you approached more when you are dressed to the nines or casual and comfortable?

Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 5th, 2012
7:20 am

“If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed to see all the make up and the glam on date night?” Its okay, if it’s not over done. but I would rather you be the person that attracted me in the first place.

“Men, what do you think of makeup, hair, and all the extra things women do to look more attractive? Is there a limit to it? When is it too much?”

makeup-a lil dab will do you, but I prefer women that don’t wear make-up.

Hair-weave, why??

“The irony is that when the men actually see us for the first time, we aren’t all super fabulous! I always joke that society tells us that single chicks don’t get days off. We don’t get to leave the house in sweats and a ponytail because that would mean we’ve given up on finding love!”

First, why o you feel the need to live by societies standards, second life shouldn’t always be about finding someone!

“Or something, equally annoying reason women can’t be dressed down. That is when some women get the most attention, though! Explain that?”

When I see you dressed down, you’re actually being yourself, comfortable in your own skin. When you feel you have to dress to impress, and that’s really not you, then it’s your representative.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
7:55 am

“Men, what do you think of makeup, hair”
A little make up is ok, although there’s nothing like a natural beauty. I know some women wear weaves so they don’t have much work to do on their hair. No offense to any lady or man I don’t care for fake hair. I can only suggest we find who we like and let the rest do what they want to do.
“If a guy spots someone attractive and she is dressed down, no makeup, looking au naturel, is he disappointed”
No! I am not I’d rather she be herself, not faking it trying to impress.

Exiled!

October 5th, 2012
8:16 am

Only Diva………

:eyeroll:

Happy Friday!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
8:17 am

I find this alarming, a woman who is already atrractive put on so much make up she is no longer atrractive. Why does she do that, is it she don’t know where to stop or is it something that’s she’s accustomed to and don’t realize how much make up she just applied?

Exiled!

October 5th, 2012
8:20 am

We know make up makes sumofuall tolerable,bearable,lookeable..:lol:

Big Al

October 5th, 2012
8:21 am

There are circus clowns that wear less makeup than some women. If you are wearing that much makeup then you must have something to hide.

Roberta

October 5th, 2012
8:38 am

Could it be that how much makeup a woman wears is directly proportional to her level of self confidence?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 5th, 2012
8:42 am

Roberta, IMO yes it is.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
8:59 am

Roberta wait, are you saying women wear make up because they aren’t atractive? Some women don’t have to wear it all does that mean her confidence level is higher than those who do?

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
9:05 am

Morning,

I don’t wear make-up. Have never worn make-up. The only times make-up has been applied? Homecoming. Tenth grade and twelfth grade. Aside from those two times, I have never worn it. I don’t knock other women, but for me, I’m more of a “like to look good in what I’m wearng” type person. The only thing I buy/keep is a lip gloss with a hint of color in it. My ritual for my face is to wash with a clean cloth no soap, just warm water. Just in the last two or three years have I applied a bit of lotion and that’s Oil of Olay. Only because of the dryness I feel after washing.

Off topic: I had the nicest time yesterday but I didn’t get home until after dark. I was soooo tired that I couldn’t sleep. I’m aching this morning with soreness, but I learned a bit about golf :) I didn’t realize there was as much structure as my coworker taught me. He and I was placed on the 8th hole to watch for (when the golfers tee’d off) whether or not the ball was in the green. So, there were 18 holes played, 52 sets of quads…meaning I was standing on the 8th hole UNTIL 5:30!!! :oops: Now, for you golfers, if some of what I’m writing don’t sound right, forgive. I ain’t a golfer…lol The weather was beautiful and a nice breeze. The cart chick was bringing beer, snacks and drinks. Lunch was packed so we took with us out on the golf course. Chairs had been placed so we could take a squat…lol There had to have been close to four hundred folks attending the dinner afterwards. A really really nice time. Got me thinking about taking up golf….seriously :)

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
9:06 am

have not has and “there is as much structure” not was

Bluzgirl

October 5th, 2012
9:09 am

I’m a jeans and t-shirt girl who does not wear make up often. I don’t like to get all glammed up to meet a guy because I want him to like me for who I am, not my representative. Don’t get me wrong…I’ll get dolled up every once in a while, but I’d much prefer jeans and a comfy top…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
9:14 am

Ok Roberta left, well I’m this way a lady can wear as much make up as she likes. If that makes her feel confident I don’t know, what I know is men I talk to say women should keep it light. Women that pack on make up like she’s icing a birthday cake should be advised it’s not neccessary, show your true beauty is all we’re asking.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
9:21 am

Cely some women you can see don’t need the extra dressing to look good. I pictured you that way and you confirmed it, I like lip gloss on a woman I think that is the sexiest look on a lady along with eye liner.

Lucinda

October 5th, 2012
9:22 am

Too much is too much, but there are plenty of men who LIKE a woman who is “done”. Mine likes the bright red lipstick, although I prefer a much more toned down shade. He likes eye makeup, although I could do with just some mascara. Not that he wants Tammy Faye, but he does like makeup. Maybe that’s unusual??

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
9:23 am

Bluz jeans and a corporate pencil skirt are two extremes but they are the most sexiest to me.

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
9:26 am

When I first met the hubs, he had come to my house to pick something up early in the morning and I was still in bed. When I answered the front door, I had hastily thrown on a robe and run downstairs to answer the door. Years later, he told me that one of the reasons he married me was that he had seen me at my worst and I was still attractive so he could only imagine that I must clean up pretty well. :lol:

I don’t do the makeup thing. My face feels like it can’t breathe. No weaves, no color in the hair. I’m pretty conservative.

Good Morning all! Happy Friday!!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
9:27 am

Lucinda I’m not against women wearing make up I like to know why put on so much?

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
9:28 am

Blackfoote – Exactly! Like I said, I don’t knock other folks…lol Its weird, IMO to see men encouraging make-up.

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
9:30 am

C~ We have the same ritual in the morning. I recently started to use a little Oil of Olay for the same reason. Here’s one you may not have tried, I use a little Noxema to wash my face while in the shower and it reduces that dry feeling without feeling weighted down by moisturizing lotion.

Also, on the lip gloss thing, I do the same. I love the C. G. Bigelow’s stuff from Bath & Body Works!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
9:32 am

Hey Comon that’s what I always say. see how a man or woman look in the morning you’ll appreciate them all day long. Yeah folks need time to fix themselves up but when they do that’s the beauty of it all.

DuShawn

October 5th, 2012
9:37 am

Most men I know prefer women with minimal additives. However, some females do need the help. All I ask is that if you choose to wear makeup, study your craft. Read some essence beauty tips; learn about the “smoky eye” application and other subtle techniques. I hate to see a chick whose neck is two shades darker than her face because her foundation is caked up. One more thing, the eye shadow the same color as the weave is not cute….and stop wearing your pajama bottoms in public…and house shoes are made for the house!

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
9:42 am

Comon – I have ALWAYS gotten compliments on beautiful skin. Honey, I can bet you the minute I put something on it will be the time my skin breaks out…lol

I was tried to throw a bit of business Mac’s way but I didn’t like any of their lip gloss. I found a beautiful brown shade by CG but wouldn’t you know they discontinued?? What did they think black folks don’t patronize them too much? LOL

Oh, forgot to mention, I counted the blacks at the outing yesterday….SIX!!! LOL Two of which played. Sorry, can’t help it, I was looking

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
9:44 am

I can’t claim I’m all beautiful and stuff in the mornings. I’m just me…it is what it is…lol

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
9:46 am

C~ Same with the beautiful skin. And I ain’t trying to put NOTHING on mine cause I know I will break out. Heck, I had someone hug me with makeup on and it brushed against my face and I broke out. Negative! Cannot do that!

I have a warm copper from C.G. Bigelows that I love, but on the day to day it is the clear cinnamon flavored that I like. :)

Bluzgirl

October 5th, 2012
9:51 am

The only make up I wear daily is a little bit of concealer to help with the little imperfections. When I do get dressed up, I wear just a little bit of make up. We laugh at the girls with the caked up make up. It just looks so fake!

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
9:56 am

trying not tried….I’m feeling rough today….lol

I don’t like men that are superficial. I don’t like men that expects women to be all modelly (model like) and stuff. I ain’t a model, so don’t expect that. I ain’t Hawaiian Tropic, no pin-up, no star. So, don’t expect that and don’t bring that mentality/behavior. Honey, if you’re not 25 then you can expect the little imperfections to start rearing. I like men that are realistic, first about themselves and secondly about their mates/partners. If it’s a model you want, then I suggest you find one….lolololol

Button

October 5th, 2012
10:00 am

TGIF, There are some men who love the glam look and others that don’t. I myself don’t care for too much make up, I wear under eye shadow to cover up the dark circles, I hate these things! Thanks for genetics. I wear my lip gloss sometimes it’s colored sometimes it’s not. But I don’t wear the clown make up, blush and foundation and such. I did once and I actully looked like a clown, lol. Some women and men do need make up, that’s just how it it. I’ve always heard growing up that make up ages a woman quick.

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
10:00 am

C~ We are >>>>here<<<< with the wanting a model thing. I sooo cannot do it! Nor would I want to! Too much work in addition to the stuff that I already do everyday.

DuShawn

October 5th, 2012
10:03 am

What attracts my attention is happiness. I’m a people watcher. I enjoy hitting the local watering hole and watching people interacting and enjoying themselves. The woman that is talkative, engaging, smiling, has a good aura, and a life loving vibe is the one that intrigues me the most. She may not be the finest chick in the room, but that’s the one I’m interested in. Physical beauty quickly fades and sometimes the most beautiful people do the ugliest things.

Button

October 5th, 2012
10:06 am

The make up case! my old roommate had a huge make up case filled with all the colors of the rainbow and some. She lugged that case everywhere she go.

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
10:08 am

Comon – Yep, we’re on the same page

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
10:10 am

DuShawn~ Unfortunately for her, you are also interested in the finest chick in the room and the old chick from back in the day, and your wife, etc. etc. etc. :lol:

Sorry, I couldn’t resist.

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
10:11 am

C~ I once told a girl that maybe she should eat all tha makeup she had on her face so maybe she could try to be pretty on the inside too. :lol:

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
10:13 am

Comon – That’s bad

Bluzgirl

October 5th, 2012
10:20 am

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
10:24 am

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Funny stuff!

DuShawn

October 5th, 2012
10:28 am

Common>>>>you got jokes ..(she tried me with that one..lol) I can see how my comments in this forum could mislead the readers about the content of my character. I mean, I’m just a username typing some words, but in reality, I’m an extraordinary, husband, daddy, and helluva good man.

MsAtl

October 5th, 2012
10:30 am

Morning all! Happy Friday! I am not really a make-up type of person; never have been. I usually wear Mac or Wet n Wild lip gloss, sometimes eye liner, but that is it. Maybe once a year at a formal event I will wear eye shadow & lipstick. I cannot do the pancake face. I have worn weave for the versatility (when I wanted an up do and when I wanted a short cut without cutting my own hair). I am a pretty down to earth kind of person, not high maintenance at all.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
10:34 am

I’m not into the hollywood model types, some men may be it’s not for me. I like a pretty face and I know I have to be up to her standards to but it’s all about staying in reality and not a superficial glamorous world.

Jake-"I'm Smooth, and You Love It"

October 5th, 2012
10:34 am

What up folks, I don’t mind the make-up or weave, but be reasonable.

kimmie

October 5th, 2012
10:35 am

Morning All!!

I admit I am a glamour girl! I know how to work it though – I wear makeup artfully and sparingly to work because it gives me a polished, professional look. There was actually a study that came out recently that women who wear tasteful makeup & get their hair styled make 40 to 50 percent more than those that don’t. Hey, don’t shoot the messenger!LOL!!

I love glamming it up for a special occasion as well. As for my hair, like the ladies above get compliments on their skin, I get them on my hair. So whether I wear it long or short or in between, it’s alway my own! I keep it tight – again a polished professional look that does not require a lot of upkeep. A simple bob, a pony tail when it was long, a cute Halle cut, I’ve done it al and get nothing but positive reviews!

Keeping myself up makes me feel good, always has, not just to catch a man. Men don’t know what they want most of the time, so I never have cared what they said. The very ones going on about how they love a woman without makeup & weaves end up chasing just the opposite!LOL!

I LOVE to see my sisters looking good and making an effort. I’d rather see a person try than go around looking tired and dead. Sure, there will always be folks that overdo it! It’s not the majority though.

Hey, I just enjoy being a girl!! :wink:

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
10:39 am

That’s another thing, I use to be into long/lengthy hair. I’ve been wearing my hair sort of short and layered in the top area. I like it! I dunno, the older I get the less I fret or worry about these kinds of things. Don’t get me wrong, I like looking good and feeling good but it’s not the top of the list for me.

I want to know how men feel about women when they disrobe. IJS

kimmie

October 5th, 2012
10:41 am

Crazy me, I actually love the look and the packaging of cosmetics. I have a ton of makeup that I haven’t even used, I just got it because it is pretty! I am crazy with it too – I have a special drawer and case for it and I hate it when it gets smeared or dusty. It’s all clean and pretty when I open the drawer or the case. I have beautiful perfume bottles displayed on a glass tray in our master bathroom. Don’t judge me! :cool:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
10:44 am

Cely that is the sexiest thing a woman can do is come out of her clothes in front of me.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

October 5th, 2012
10:45 am

Well one of them.

DuShawn

October 5th, 2012
10:47 am

I have notice a lot women going back to their natural hair texture as of late. It’s this fly one in my office, she got the real low Ceasar cut, but she is a strikingly beautiful and elegant. Very little make up and a tongue ring with the raw corporate skirt suits and pumps. I really dig her style.

Celisea

October 5th, 2012
10:48 am

Blackfoote – Well yeah…lol What man don’t think it’s sexy? lololol Are you gazing at her or are you just “going with it?” I don’t like “gazing”, just go with me, let it flow.

Comon Cents

October 5th, 2012
10:49 am

See, Shawn. And you wonder why I got jokes… :lol:

kimmie~ No judgement. I have the perfume bottle collection too.

kimmie

October 5th, 2012
10:52 am

Dushawn – See that’s what I’m talking about. I love to see my sisters in whatever look they want!

I love Solonge Knowle’s afro she rocks. They feature her alot on Essence.com. There was a pic of her last week rocking her fro and this fierce white dress at some fashion event. Fashion Police even gave her props for that look.