Temptation: Avoid or resist?
If you have a serious problem staying faithful to your significant other, how do you handle all the temptation that comes your way? I ask because my friend has a history of infidelity from his last marriage. He is just starting a new relationship and claims to have learned a lot from his divorce. Unfortunately, I see many of the same behaviors that led to his cheating in the past.
When it comes to temptation, is it better to avoid it all costs or find ways to resist it? I believe that a lot of people think they can handle flirting, number exchanges, or inappropriate conversations. The reality is, they don’t and it won’t be long before you are tempted…again.
If you are in a relationship, are you ever tempted to explore “extracurricular activities” with someone else? Have you ever been the person who tempted someone? What did/do you get out of it?
How do you handle temptation?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Robert
October 4th, 2012
2:19 pm
“I wonder how many men are “addicted” to women?”
This is a very serious problem. People are addicted to a lot of things such as sugar, alcohol, food, sex and anything that gives the mind and/or body feelings of pleasure. For example a “fat” person has a problem avoiding the “temptation” to eat food especially during the holiday’s, an alcoholic avoiding traditional holiday drinks (eggnog, etc.) out of fear of having a relapse and a diabetic person avoiding cakes and pies and other sugar treats. During this time of year I meet many women through family & friends, office parties and other (golf, football/basketball games, concerts/plays, etc.) events. I would be lying if I said I was not “tempted” to share a sexual moment with an attractive,desirable and available woman. Just like any other “addict” my drug of choice is women.
kimmie
October 4th, 2012
2:19 pm
Comon – Yeah, I see nice eye candy every day. So I see a good-looking dude, I’m not blind. Whatever. Don’t feel I gotta jump on or even speak to said dude. Note his handsomeness in my head and keep moving! Not that hard.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
2:25 pm
Robert everything you named except diabetes is a choice, if you want to do them, do them, but don’t blame them on temptation. Because it is so easy to just walk away.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
October 4th, 2012
2:28 pm
addiction is the ongoing theme~ duly noted
Robert
October 4th, 2012
2:31 pm
@Single and Happier – “Because it is so easy to just walk away.”
Yes, it is easy for a woman to walk away, BUT a man does not think or act like a woman. Real Men are “predators” looking for “prey” and always looking for the thrill or score just like an “addict”.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
October 4th, 2012
2:32 pm
When you’re young you find yourself chasing illusions, but once you get some age on you just to find and hold on to something real. <<<<<or vice versa?!? hmmmmmm lol #random
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
October 4th, 2012
2:33 pm
Robert you are so amusing I just LOL~
Okay good people enjoy the funnies and let me skip to my lou~ #igetitclearly ha! peace!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
2:34 pm
Robert, it’s a good thing you don’t speak for every man. Just like all addictions, it’s a sign of weakness.
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
2:35 pm
A sidebar about my sidebar? Obviously, you didn’t read my 2:08.
S/H~ I never had that problem.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
2:38 pm
Good thing you’re not a man comon (rotflmao) you wouldn’t be able to say no. (LOL)
SlimUno
October 4th, 2012
2:42 pm
My ex was addicted to women and puddy
Robert
October 4th, 2012
2:43 pm
@Single and Happier – I hope my testimony will help someone who is struggling with “temptation” in their relationship. Everybody has some weaknesses and need help. No I do not speak for every man and I hope if any man is having feelings of “temptation” to examine his self and seek professional counseling especially if his relationship is at risk because of “temptation”.
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
2:44 pm
LMAO! S/H~ The problem with Robert’s argument, is that all of the other things he listed as addictions have physical side affects. (In fact, with drinking and drugs, withdrawing too quickly can kill you!) Somehow, while you uys may have had some killer puddy, I don’t recollect ever hearing of anyone dying from lack of puddy. IJS.
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
2:46 pm
Slim~ Had he only been addicted to your puddy, no problem!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
2:49 pm
Comon to me, and I only speak for me, we love to hide behind addictions, temptations, and any other excuse we can use. If you want to have many women, have them, why is this so wrong! Just make sure they know it and can do the same.
You may not die from a lack of puddy, but getting caught can have some serious side effects, (bobett) (LOL)
I’m no saint, I’ve cheated, and I’ve been faithful, didn’t need an excuse to do either.
SlimUno
October 4th, 2012
2:53 pm
Had he only been addicted to your puddy, no problem
CC – The double whammy was he was addicted to mine as well
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
2:54 pm
And there you have it…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
2:54 pm
awww slim got that addictive love (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
2:55 pm
Slim~ Well, I guess that sucks for him then. ave lots or puddy and be addicted to it all or have your favorite puddy but no other puddy…. Hmmmm
SlimUno
October 4th, 2012
3:03 pm
SH – Well, if you break it down, I would not say that mine is addictive as much as he just had/has a problem period. I got a clearer idea of who he really was after we broke up. Like an idiot, he was posting stuff on twitter about his litle rendevous or what not…He hosted something called Freak Fest and I’m scared to know what went on there. He also was messing with several married chicks…involved himself in lesbian threesomes etc…
For Real
October 4th, 2012
3:04 pm
What up Blog Fam!
Tempation is all around us and it will never ever go away. Everyone on this planet will be tempeted but you don’t have to act.
O/T Obama was playing it close to the vest or else be called an angry black man. In the words of Paul Mooney “if a black man ain’t grinning from ear to ear and waving magic hands then he is angry.”
I believe we have become to loose with the definition of addictions. Here is my definition of Addiction: If you ain’t willing to kill yourself for it then it ain’t an addiction. You are just one weak minded individual looking to excuse your behavior.
SlimUno
October 4th, 2012
3:08 pm
For Real
October 4th, 2012
3:13 pm
Oh make no mistake about it… The Puddy be calling us but that why you got to put your hands to your ears and go LALALALALALALALALLALAALLALALALA!!!!!
kimmie
October 4th, 2012
3:13 pm
4 Real – Do you watch Dexter?
SlimUno
October 4th, 2012
3:18 pm
For Real – You ever seen that movie “Idle Hands”…buddy would wake up with blood on his hands and not have any recollection of what had happened the previous night???? Well, somma yall act like you have the IDLE PENIS SYNDROME…wack up with some other chicks dried up juices on your wang and claim you don’t remember or you were so clumsy that you just fell in
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
3:23 pm
For real, to me it’s a problem when you start lumping diseases in with addictions. Helping to make the excuse even more.
MsAtl
October 4th, 2012
3:31 pm
Slim- were you dating my ex? I kid! I kid! Just that he also was posting stuff on Twitter about his affair and baby. His very first tweet was that he was going to start posting & he dared anyone to put him on blast. Well he put himself on blast because the investigator that took his license for messing with a patient had his twitter page printout as proof of the affair and the baby and the patient was responding to the tweets on his page with her real name. As one of you said before, if only there was a way to plead stupidity! And your “idle penis” remark!- bwahahaha.
For Real- I agree with you on the addiction thing; it is often an excuse and a poor one at that.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
3:41 pm
Slim you know addicts have to have more than one dealer.
SlimUno
October 4th, 2012
3:45 pm
SH – Yeah, I guess you have a good point there. But with that said, if you have that kind of issue, why try to maintain a relationship with someone that obviously wants to be monogamous…just stay single hanging out in adult chat rooms, swingers clubs, skrip clubs etc. Don’t come round my way with all that foolishness. I have a heart and don’t take too lightly to one wiping their leftover cheating puddy juice all over it.
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
3:51 pm
Slim~ You are in rare form today, hon! Idle Penis Syndrome? Wiping leftover puddy juice on it?
ROTFLMAO!!! 
Comon Cents
October 4th, 2012
3:52 pm
MsAtl~ If it wasn’t your ex, It might have been the first ex-Mrs. Cents.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 4th, 2012
4:04 pm
Slim, that’s just one I can’t answer, never understood it either.
Exiled!
October 4th, 2012
4:09 pm
For Real?
Some erections have been known to kill..
I ain’t no biologist but if blood is gushing more to one area of the body,incessantly and continoudl 24/7..,,….
Houston somebody might die!
But on balance I prefer an erection than No erection.
Eyeing Fine five star ranked mignon steak on a platter when u don’t have teef must be real painful!
Ijs
For Real
October 4th, 2012
4:22 pm
Kimmie: yeah i seen dexter but I just can’t get with the storyline. I found myself calling BS alot tho.
Slim: IDLE PENIS SYNDROME now that’s a real sickness that been proven by NASA. For Real now using alcohol swabs on his wang.
Ex: Yes they have but that condition is PHETCD aka Penis Hard Enough To Cut Diamonds syndrome and yes it has killed before but the major side effect is slapping the ish out of a chick cause she said no when PHETCD has set in.