Dating: Process of elimination?
My friend JB has a common dating dilemma that happens to the best of us: He has two really great prospects but is having a difficult time deciding which one he should eliminate and which one should get all of his attention.
Things have been pretty casual and laid back, but he knows this won’t last forever. At some point, he has to decide who is more suitable for him.
What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort? Do you decide based on who you are most physically attracted to? Who you are most compatible with in terms of background, upbringing, values, etc.?
Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to figure out who to pursue and who to let go? How did you decide?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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292 comments Add your comment
Lily
October 1st, 2012
7:06 am
Diva, I’m impressed that he knows he can’t have his cake and eat it too. That is a wonderment! Most won’t be as decent as he. Truly truly commendable!! He should hand out lessons: How to be a Gentleman 101
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
7:12 am
Lily I got to say it, what else do you do with cake (ROTFLMAO)
On topic, you have to make up your mind what each of you are looking for, if it’s long term then choose one, if it’s casual dating, doesn’t make a difference. Just make sure everyone is on the same page.
Lily
October 1st, 2012
7:15 am
IMO you have to think longterm and life time. Weigh the pros and cons and eliminate according to the one you can see yourself spending a life time with. Most times, when having to decide, I’ve had to cut mister uber handsome. Usually there’s a character deficit going on. Sorry, but looks cannot substitute for all other areas where it matters. Honesty, no game playing, forthcoming, etc. What good is it choosing the one that wears the best on my arm, but rotten to the core?! No thank you! That’s a rotten tooth waiting to happen!
Lily
October 1st, 2012
7:22 am
@Single and Happy: Just on your statement alone (since you didn’t ask), you read like that man that plays dumb, never take issues seriously and plays dumb. LMAO
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
7:28 am
Lily life is what you make of it, Can’t make an issue out of everything .
And yea I’ve been accused of not taking issues seriously, but I have to remind them, their issues are not my issues 
Lily
October 1st, 2012
7:33 am
As I figured and there you have it.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
7:51 am
So lily because I don’t take on others issues I’m playing dumb?
Lily
October 1st, 2012
8:02 am
Single and Happy, no. I just read you to say if a woman has an issue with you having cake and eating it too, that’s her issue, not yours. In relationships or the effort to have one, sometimes there are issues between two that must be addressed. Sometimes there is an issue for one that would need to be taken seriously by both. It doesn’t seem fair to say that’s your issue, not mine and you deal with it if you are both in it together.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
8:46 am
Good morning!
Lily & S/H are off to a start this morning! I have to agree with Lily, though. If you know a woman wants an exclusive relationship and you don’t tell her you have another prospect on the horizon, that is YOUR issue and not hers. You are setting the situation up for failure. On the other hand I agree with S/H that as long as you are upfront and everyone is on the same page, it’s not an issue.
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
9:02 am
Well,well,well…,happy Monday ofcourse!
The issue is Not that dude is double dipping…
The issue is Who should dude chose?
The guy has done a wonderful jobthus far,attracting the attention of two worthwhile prospects,now the dilemma?
Go with your gutt.
If he wants to chose for the purposes of long term commitment,it’s usually easy if you are true to yourself first. But if the sweet tooth is messing with your head,you are going to be confused by the physical prowess of the other. That ain’t as important tho!
He needs to decide early before he gets caught. Otherwise they are going to decide for him. And the impetuos one will just bolt. Angry at that for being played.
But not before she slashes some tyres!
Happy Monday MIA!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:06 am
Rainy morning folks,
The only folks I know that are cool with you having a rotation or “more than one”, are the ones doing the same. No one in their right mind wants you doing and saying to them, the same things you’re doing and saying to another. I have read it here often that you cannot concentrate and really give it your all in having several….or more than one. The best way to elimate, in my experience has been to go with the one that’s more relationship minded. Not about (all the time) whooping it up and living in the moment and come tomorrow, he can’t remember what you (with me), just the day before. I, like Lily, have had to go with the one who’s core is true and forthcoming, who is serious about me and how he treats me. Who values life, himself, who values me and what I think, the one who’s principles and values run parallel with mine. Not just shrug off what it’s important to me as just my issue or my problem. Not the one that says I should be grateful how he treats me, just in the moment and is treating another women equally nice the next week. One that “gets it” when it’s not sufficient that I be happy with scraps and crumbs. Not some dude that only wants to play on the playground. Frankly that kind should only get his chicks from the same playground….lol
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
9:08 am
But Lily..u just cut Mr handsome just becoz without any proof….
Really!
That’s called low self esteem,I think!
Now granted,Mr handsome will have a menu of chics , I agree but it don’t necessarily follow,he will follow thru on the tasting..tasting ..tasting ……am I being biased here …..
Because on the female side,I do believe that a beautiful woman is a multiplication of problems!
disco
October 1st, 2012
9:12 am
good morning. I must say, as far as the topic goes, that there’s a good problem to have. lol.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
9:15 am
It’s Mundane Monday….and a wet one too.
As far as the topic, I think it’s already been answered. However, he not only has to figure out if he’s just looking for short-term fun or long term committment but he needs also to know what each women is looking for as well. It very well could be that she doesn’t want exactly what he wants. But it if all lines up, then that should help even more with the decision process.
Will give my update a little later in the afternoon…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:33 am
And if I can just clarify, even though I spoke on rotation, this situation isn’t exactly that. This dude seems like he’s wanting to do the right thing. But, if he can’t or won’t decide soon, then it’s heading to “rotationville”…lol Again and right now he reads as pretty stand-up and ready to do the right thing rather than greedy and trying to have both.
disco
October 1st, 2012
9:38 am
not to jump topic so soon but did the radio show address last week’s dilemma re old boy dipping with “it is what it is”?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:47 am
disco – I’ve been listening and have earplugs in now, unless I missed something, they’ve not said too much on it. I bet they’re still trying to either get him on or he declined.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:50 am
They just said it…the closure call will be concluded tomorrow! Stay turned!
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
9:50 am
But uuggh…I think he has already dipped tho Celisea….but it has been casual and laid back….I think those are three adults there..canoodling and what not…no pressure..altho to be honest…there is a blind side in both chics that they don’t recognize….
Now if he continues dipping…,u know u females…the casual starts with,’why don’t u just spend the nite’
to the point where u park the car each day and she making dinner! 
meanwhile the other one is buzzing on the cell and leaving multiple messages! ‘Terrel,where are you,Terrel’
He needs to drop one do the right thing.
Coz good puddy will compromise a stand up dude’s principles.trust!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:50 am
Bert said “it is what it is, it is another woman”….lol I agree
disco
October 1st, 2012
9:51 am
celisea – either that or she ran him over with her car over the weekend.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:54 am
Mmeello – Let me further clarify, you know me, I don’t advocate playing several(as in more than one) folks. It’s wrong…period. Treat others how you want to be treated. In all fairness, it should be an assumption, unless a person outright says otherwise, that they’re may be others they’ve casually dated. Frankly, I think he’s in a good place.
Now unless the both of y’all are cool casually seeing other people and you both have put that on the table, then have at it. Keep it though, to the folks all playing on the same playground…lol Don’t take playground behavior to the world where grown folks live.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:55 am
disco – Ummm, I would say he ran her over….lol She was pretty distraught. No, I’m kidding, I felt bad for her Friday.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:56 am
And I say him cause he was snuffing out the problem….I’M KIDDING
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:56 am
Well, I found something for the golf tourney. Now, if it would just rain Thursday, that would be even better
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
9:57 am
MMeello – I do believe that a beautiful woman is a multiplication of problems!
Good thing I’m average
disco
October 1st, 2012
9:58 am
C – all I can think of is all the crazy chicks in the movies who went there. fatal attraction, thin line line between love and hate and one that doesn’t generally make the list but she tickled me – daishiki in don’t be a menace (in south central while drinking your juice in the hood) – lol. remember she was reading poetry and then she went all “the next MF that leaves me, I’m going to take my knife”. maybe old girl was distraught on Friday but by the time Saturday rolled around she had something for his behind.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:02 am
disco – Yeah, and the dudes are almost always looking like WTHeck??? It it was an affair, I would add, “should have thought about that first.” It’s it’s been nine years and you just layed on her, I’ll say again “should have thought about that”, but if it’s just a break-up then, I’m there with him (or her), whichever one on the receiving end of the crazied…lol Actually, I didn’t see Don’t Be a Menace but I caught the boiling rabbit scene from Fatal Attraction.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:03 am
“If” it was an affair…is what I meant
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:06 am
don’t be a menace was definitely a stupid movie but I thought it was funny and it had a “message”. lol. the boiling rabbit scene was something but to me I thought the better scene was when he came home and old girl was sitting up in his house engaged in conversation with his wife. that’s deep right there.
where is everybody?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:09 am
Yep, Fatal Attraction was a movie to be remembered. Even I was scared and I was just watching…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:10 am
Slim popped in and said she’ll be back later. It’s raining, we’re the only two working. Everybody else is booed up.
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:13 am
we’re the only two working? or maybe the only two hardly working. lol.
why they gotta be boo’ed up? why can’t they just be skipping work? maybe they got a flat tire and are stuck on the side of the road. maybe they are at work but the computers are down. maybe they wanted to get a head start on picking out Halloween costumes and so they are out shopping. you see I’m willing to go with anything other than boo’ed up on a rainy day.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:15 am
disco – That’s the reality of (somewhat) chilly rainy weather. Everybody called in sick and hanging out with their boo. Maybe I should have done it too…lololol
And I’ll give you “hardly working.” lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:16 am
Lily, the having your cake and eating it too was in reference that being one of those saying that folks use that doesn’t make sense. Never had a cake that that I didn’t eat.
And as far as issues, I’m a change the the things you can and don’t worry about those that I can’t type of person. So if my woman comes to me with an issue that I can change, then we will do that, if I can’t then she needs to make up her mind if she can deal with it or not, but we’re not going to keep discussing it. and the same goes for me.
Now for making a choice, when that time comes for me, it’s not that hard, I know which one I want to be with.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
10:20 am
Cel – I’m still here…I just didn’t want to sway the convo so early in the morning. lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:20 am
Slim – You got something you want to toss out there?
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
10:21 am
I’m popping in and out this morning. I was sick as a dog on Friday and over the weekend so I had to bring my tail in today, but I don’t think I am going to make it the whole day. Wishing I was boo’ed up…
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:21 am
C – doesn’t someone on this blog have some magic fairy dust or something? can we put a blog potion on the folks who called in to lay up? yeah. I might be hating but like old boy said, it is what it is. lol.
S/H, slim – thanks for joining us. slim, if you have something to put out there. have at it.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:23 am
Slim how was the weekend with your sister?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:25 am
disco – You’re gonna have to “hate” alone this morning. I’m not hating on the folks booed up…lol I’m just not TODAY because I don’t hang out of work. Fifteen years ago maybe…lol I guess just knowing if I wanted to get my “booed up” on today, I could have
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
10:28 am
disco~ Beware, that magic potion might backfire and you might end up boo’ed up… IJS.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:30 am
I was actually thinking of taking someone with me next week but that might not be a good thing to do. I can easily get it done because I’m traveling alone, rather than a group of folks. I see folks doing it all the time and heck, we’re in a conference. Meaning, everybody sees their companion hiking along with the group. It always seems tacky to me. Tacky as in all out in the open, nothing discrete about it.
What do y’all think?
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
10:33 am
IDK, C, I guess I would only think it’s tacky if this is not a long term thing. You know, you have those people that are sloppy with it and bring serial dates to company functions. But if this is a long term boo and you know he will be around, I don’t think it’s tacky.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
10:34 am
You just made think of a lawyer who used to work here and we didn’t even give his girls names anymore. There were so many we just started numbering them… LOL!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:40 am
C if it’s somewhere the person can entertain themselves while you do your work stuff, would be fine.
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:40 am
CC – not that y’all were walking around talking about “have you met twelve?” that’s funny.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:40 am
Well, I’m not nor have I ever been the revolving door type gal. Not my style. I dunno….I’m still weighing if it’s a good move.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:41 am
Single – That’s the other thing. They would have to keep entertained because I have to work and will be tied up until the evening.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:42 am
Shoot, I know me, I can chill and order room service, maybe step outside a bit, but I would have no problems finding “stuff” to do…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:45 am
Plus, I’ve already committed to hanging out after hours with a couple of friends. Sooooo, do I want to take this person along with my other friends?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:45 am
C do you know what they like to do? and if it’s available?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:48 am
Off topic, how do you make moist cornbread?
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:48 am
C – the more you type the more it sounds like you really don’t want to take this person along. it almost sounds like you want them to go but to take them might be a slight inconvenience or might disrupt the flow just a bit. that’s just me on the outside looking in though.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:49 am
I have a pretty good idea. That’s not so much the issue though honestly. It’s just do I want to, you know? If I invite, I need to do it today because I need to allow for them to make adjustments to their schedule. If I don’t ask today, I’m not asking.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:50 am
C is it what disco said, but you feel like you at least need to ask, hoping they will say no?
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
10:50 am
I really didn’t have anything to throw out there but more so an update. My sister and niece came up to visit so my sister could get away for a few days. I believe I told yall that her new hubby is actually still married in LA so she’s about to get theirs annuled. Anyway, she looked so frail to me due to loss of weight from being stressed. I ended up having to take her to the ER Friday night because she was doubled over in pain, could barely walk etc. So come to find out that she was severely dehydrated due to lack of really eating during this whole ordeal. Apparently, she had been keeping all this stuff to herself as far as how crazy this dude is. Every human with a wang was someone she was trying to sleep with (according to him), even the 65 yr old door greeter at Walmart.
I was glad to see her finally getting an appetite later on Saturday and able to sleep. We didn’t get home from the ER until 5 that morning so she got some good zzzz’s in there. It was nice to spend time with my niece too
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:52 am
disco – I want the person to go and have that quick overnight getaway as I think the time together would be nice. But not sure if the timing is just right yet. Yeah, what you said about disrupting the flow…I’m just now seeing that post.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:52 am
Slim your sister is crying out for help, she’s not saying the words, but she’s asking.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
10:54 am
C wait until you feel the timing is right, somethings don’t need to be rushed. (for the lack of a better term)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:56 am
Single – LOL…not at all…that was funny. I don’t do that kind of stuff mayne…lol If I hope you say no, I’m not asking. I don’t mean any harm but that’s sort of juvenile. I don’t feel “pressured” like that. No, this person is cool as ever. Just not sure if timing is right on…along with keeping entertained and that kind of stuff. No, he’s cool as ever.
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:56 am
well C – like in spades if you think long, you think wrong. let this be a work trip like it is. you all can plan a getaway later.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
10:57 am
Single – If I don’t, there will be plenty of time for getting away. Plus it’s business. I think if it was an opportunity to say get to the mountains or a long weekend getaway, that kind of stuff, no work, just able to sit back and enjoy the time,then I would have no problem asking.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
10:59 am
I cosign with disco’s 10:56.
disco~ Yes, we really walked around calling them by number. He would come in and say “I went out with so and so to the movies last night.” and we would all be like “What number is she?”
disco
October 1st, 2012
10:59 am
slim – did you or your momma or somebody throw down this weekend? I’m not even a fan of the kitchen but I would have been in their snapping peas and shucking corn for my sister. anything she thought she wanted to eat was going to be right there for the grabbing.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:00 am
Off Topic~ If anyone has been sick with te funk that has been going around, I highly recommend the Halls Warm-Ups (Apple Cider flavor).
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:01 am
Slim~ Your sister is extremely lucky to have a family that is so supportive during this terrible time. While I don’t do family law, there are several attorneys here that do and I am always amazed at how unsupportive some families can be when someone is in a situation like this.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:02 am
disco – Yep, that’s what I just said. I was sort of in deep thought this weekend if that was a good move or not. Okay, ‘preciate being about to bounce off y’all this morning.
Slim – Glad to see your sister is on the slow path to recovery. Hope she ocntinues uphill on this one and keep the little one close and protected
I didn’t tell y’all my great nephew (y’all know he’s my weakness…lol) wanted me to sit outside Thursday while he road his bike…lol He’s sooo cute with his deep voice. He was at my mom’s because my sister was babysitting him and his brother. He said “Aunt Celisea come sit outside with me” (talking through the burglar door). When I said, I don’t wanna, he said “pleeeeease”…lol I took it further to say “noooo, you didn’t want to speak to me the other day” and he said “okaaaay, HEEEEY”
He talks and stares at me more than the other brother so I mention him more often. I always wonder what he’s thinking…cause he’s ALWAYS looking at me…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:04 am
rode not road…my baaaad
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:08 am
Sometimes I’ll ask him “why are you staring at me” and he’ll just smile…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:10 am
Single – Lady is one that cooks and Kimmie. You might have to check with them on the “moist cornbread” question. I can do cornbread on top of the stove but not so much in the oven
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
11:14 am
Morning Gang!
I am so glad its a rainy day, so no soccer practice later. Yay!!!
On topic – Like Disco said, kind of a nice problem to have. The few times it happened to me, though, it didn’t take long for one guy to stand head & shoulders above the other. You can’t hide true character but for so long.
Celisea – I am glad you were listening to Bert this morning. I tried to hand out in the car to listen but I had to go on in and I never listen to the shows at my computer once I get in and get hit with work. They were busy talking to Kristin, who I can’t stand, about her wanting to be a bride but not a wife. Why was it even a topic? At least she was honest about it.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:17 am
Kimmie – I was headed down to get coffee on that part. She’s special. I don’t like her too much either. Before Bert signed off, he said they’re going to try and do the closure call tomorrow. He didn’t say whether or not buddy agreed to come back on or if in fact they were able to contact him, but tomorrow try and listen in.
I have FM radio on my phone, so when it’s something I want to listen to I’ll plug my earphone in. Listening to live radio has been blocked here…lol
Albert
October 1st, 2012
11:18 am
Yes, and I ultimately didn’t get either one.
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
11:19 am
Single – My mom used to make the absolute best cornbread. I watched her and while I don’t completely have her technique down , I do remember some things. The hubs & kids love Jiffy, which I could do without, but I doctor it up so it passes my touch standards! I use buttermilk sometimes instead of regular milk, add butter flavoring to it, and add a little oil or melted butter to the batter. Make sure you oil the pan really well so it will be easy to get out. It should come out nice and moist.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:20 am
I use to come in and read the responses to the Strawberry letter and would be ca-racking up at all the insults posted but that’s been blocked as well. I guess being such a big company and folks plugged in all day to various sites caused them to block mostly anything “social” or any sites where there’s too much accessing during the work day. Yahoo mail was the first to go, then FB and then the live radio shows. All I can access is LinkedIn. Even to that, I can no longer answer incoming mail…THAT’S BLOCKED TOO. I can access my profile or send a request to connect but that’s it…lol
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
11:20 am
Tough, not touch!!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:23 am
Single~ On the moist conrbread question, 2 cups of cornmeal, 1 egg, 1/4 cup of corn oil, 2/3 cup of milk (you can add sugar if you like yours sweet, but IDK how much because I don’t do sweet cornbread), 1/2 teaspoon of baking powder. Blend well and pour into a greased cast iron skillet. Cook it in the oven for 20-25 minutes at 375. When it comes out, butter the top and “viola!” moist cornbread!
disco
October 1st, 2012
11:26 am
re the cornbread. I was thinking “moist” cornbread? I didn’t know if he meant moist in general (like it’s supposed to be in my opinion) or if he meant moist as in something new I wasn’t hip to yet. then I got to thinking that I have had some dry, crumbly cornbread before. usually it’s the little flat, bare bones, didn’t have all the ingredients but I did have corn meal, milk and eggs cornbread. lol. speaking of cornbread, this past weekend I was thinking of chili. the temps are starting to drop so it’s just about that time.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:26 am
kimmie~ I’m with you on the Jiffy thing. Just “Blech!”. Even doctored it doesn’t work for me. Too sweet!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:27 am
disco~ I thought of chili last week, but then I got sick so I ended up making chicken and dumplings to knock my cold out. But I might make chili this week…
LeeH1
October 1st, 2012
11:28 am
“Kissin’ don’t last; cookin’ do.” – traditional Amish saying about courtship.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:29 am
I don’t do Jiffy…that’s a step shy of eating cake…lol There was a lady at church (I mentioned here before I think), that was old and retired but would sell dinners at her home after church. Cars would be lined up outside of her house. I’m talking a gang of food for five bucks. Of course that was in the eightys so that’s about the right price. Anyhoo, she could cook absolutely anything….except cornbread and cake. She would always put a slice of both on every plate. Cornbread and coconut cake. The only difference seemed to be the icing on one piece versus not. Otherwise they both taste the same!!!
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
11:31 am
Cel – FB is blocked, and certain websites like Vicky’s Secret!LOL!
Kristin was okay when she was saying she loves parties and party -planning and thinks the idea of a day just about you, like a bride, is fun. She said she just didn’t see her ready to take on the role of wife. Okay, like I said, at least she’s being honest. She also said her parents divorced and everyone she knew was divorce, etc, so she was scared. Fine. Then she starts on the “we don’t need a piece of paper” stuff, which I have very little patience with. You don’t need it until you “need” it. She & dude have been shacking for 6 years & sounds like she’s the major breadwinner. So call it what it is – she knows she’s taking care of dude & marriage might not be much of a benefit for her. But miss me with the “we don’t need a piece of paper to declare our love” mess!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
October 1st, 2012
11:35 am
What up wit yall, the man had that foot square on me neck last week…..
S/H-on the CBread, Cornmeal/Milk+equal parts, 2eggs beaten to each cup of Cornmeal, mix might seem a little runny, but will bake up just right…throw a half cup of sugar in for sweeter taste, 2 teaspoons of oil in the mix
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:35 am
Kimmie – There are those that believe you can live eternally set up like that. And I still say what I said about shacking versus your place or mine, but in reality the paper makes a world of difference. I can’t see a man saying he loves me and would do anything for me…except marry me?? I don’t get that. I’m not sure she was being honest though. I caught the part where she said she wouldn’t mind a wedding day but then I turned it off after that. I, for one, don’t want to be laid up…just laid up…like forever.
I can get to Vickys…lol
Where is Lady this morning???
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
11:36 am
Cel/Comon – They slurp that Jiffy down like it’s going to run away!! Little man eats the leftovers for breakfast with his juice! I make is just for them!
Martha White actually has a pretty decent mix that is not sweet like Jiffy, and when I doctor it, it comes closer to my mom’s. Nothing will ever touch her’s and that buttery goodness it had!
disco
October 1st, 2012
11:37 am
I remember hearing my mother and one of her sisters dogging somebody out way back in the day because that person used jiffy cornbread to make dressing with. and my mother’s baby sister still gets clowned for putting too much sage in the dressing the first time she tried to make it and it came out tinted a little bit green. that might have happened 30+ years ago and folks still talk about her.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:37 am
Is it just me or does Vicky’s bras not have good support?? I have never liked their bras. Too, I don’t like contured cups.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:38 am
Kimmie – My sister was the Jiffy queen. I cannot do sweet cornbread. Too, I like to eat cornbread with jelly or syrup so it can’t start off sweet. The only time I don’t is if I’m eating with greens. Then I eat as is.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:39 am
kimmie~ I completely get you on the mom’s cornbread thing. My recipe was my grandma’s, but I swear when she gave it to me, she left something out because mine NEVER comes out at good as hers.
C~ I feel you on the “I’ll do anyting for you but marry you” thing. I can’t do that mess either. Just sloppy, IMO.
Robert
October 1st, 2012
11:40 am
“What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort?”
As my Big Sister would say – “This is a good problem to have. Keep them both.” She believes in planning for the future. Her favorite saying is “you always need a good spare tire to keep you rolling.”
I love my Big Sister. She tells it like it is.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:40 am
Comon – That’s says to me, I’ll do almost anything for you.
disco
October 1st, 2012
11:41 am
C – that’s a new one. corn bread with jelly or syrup? never heard of that.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:43 am
disco~ On the cooking horror story, when I got married the first time, I got married right before Thanksgiving. When we got back, everyone was gone for the holidays, so I decided I was going to be a good wife and make us Thanksgiving dinner. Called my dad and asked him how to cook the turkey. He never mentioned to me that there was a giblet bag inside the turkey. So, I stuffed the turkey, giblet bag and all. Turkey cooked for about 3 hours. House smelling good. I think “I got this!” Yeah, right as the turkey exploded… I swear I cleaned turkey out of the oven for MONTHS!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:43 am
disco – Really? Honey we grew up with that. Slice that bad boy open, put in a pat of butter and pour in jelly or syrup and VWALLA…you have your snack. That went right along the lines of mayonnaise sandwiches…lol I didn’t eat them but my sister did…ugh We would do that over the summer mostly. My sister know she was a cornbread eating sister. She kept syrup for that and pancakes…lolololol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:44 am
not “pour jelly” but you get it
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
11:44 am
Cel – Bert was saying himself that piece of paper makes a huge difference. If you want to shack forever, for whatever reason, cool, do you. But bottom line, there are just some things that have to be wrapped up nice and legal-like if you want the desired outcome down the line. I just don’t believe in getting tied up financially with someone that’s not a legal relation. That’s the practical side to me. I protect the heart by requiring a ring and date set before moving in together. Until then I carried my behind on home!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
11:47 am
C~ I did the honey and jelly as a kid, but I can’t do it now. It’s just too sweet to me. But I mostly have cornbread with beans or greens so I guess that nips the sweet thing in the bud anyway. The hubs does this thing where he puts the cornbread in a bowl and eats it with milk. I still can’t watch him do that. Blech!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:47 am
Kimmie – I agree with all of that, the legal ramifications and all. And more importantly, why build a life together that’s never defined or established?? I don’t get that either.
disco
October 1st, 2012
11:47 am
CC – it’s amazing how many folks have horror stories re that first turkey. thank goodness my first turkey went off without a hitch. one of my friends had her family over and her first turkey wasn’t cooked through. her mother picked it up, wrapped it and said she would take it home to finish cooking it. talk about embarrassing.
celisea – I am familiar with the mayonnaise sandwich. never ate one though. now I still enjoy a good syrup sandwich every now and again. syrup on white bread, not cornbread. lol.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:53 am
I’ve been on the phone this morning with the guy that leads the portfolio I’m getting and ummm, I’m gonna really have to stretch out of my comfort zone. He really seems cool and excited to be working together but the chick that’s leaving apparently didn’t “train” him. He’s kind of needy…lol Imma have to “wean” him off of me eventually…lol But, at least he seems cool.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
11:55 am
disco – We did the syrup sandwhiches too.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
12:04 pm
disco~ OMG! I am so glad that no one but the then hubby was around to witness my epic failure on that first turkey! Of course, it really didn’t matter because he told EVERYONE… Tell your friend it could have been worse. It could have been her MIL instead of her mother…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
12:08 pm
I have a deacon at church that teases me to this day about my kid eating ketchup sandwiches. Apparently as a little kid the two of them had a convo and she told him about eating ketchup sandwiches. My kid is tiny (size 0) and has always been even as a little girl. Sooo, he’d say you better feed that baby something other than ketchup sandwiches so she can put some weight on. Of course he’s laughing, but the first time he said it was I was like what???? I don’t even shake a ketchup bottle unless it’s over FF. Well, she tells me one day about 5 or 6 years later where she’d eaten ketchup sandwiches. AT MY SISTER’S. Before my sister passed, she would keep my kid a lot. First starting off because I worked a second shift, but then because she was so fond of her. I told him that I finally found out where the ketchup sanwich thing started. She’s never eaten one at my house but apparently it was one of those things she and my sister liked doing. Go figure.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
12:09 pm
Disco, I use jiffy and go by the instructions, been thinking about bricking up my house with them, just not the way mama used to make it (LOL)
disco
October 1st, 2012
12:17 pm
okay y’all. even though I just laughed at myself I’d appreciate if y’all didn’t laugh at me. how come I just ran my hand up the back of my neck and ran dead smack into a beady bead. I had to giggle. I worked it out as best I could with my fingers but what can you really do? I fluffed my hair a bit and now I have to let it go.
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
12:21 pm
Single – Get some butter flavor & add 1/2 teaspoon. Sub buttermilk for regular milk. Add a tablespoon of oil. I guarantee it will make a world of difference.
When you master that, add some corn kernals, either canned or frozen, about 2/3 cup, to the batter. Takes it to another level.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
12:22 pm
disco – You sport a natural right? I couldn’t do it. I was in the chair at the salon pronto Saturday. Had to get my naps pulled…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
12:24 pm
I baked chicken breats yesterday but didn’t bring any for lunch. I’m starved. I COOKED!!!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
12:24 pm
I have been wearing my hair shorter for the last year or so with a bit of layers. I likie!!
disco
October 1st, 2012
12:29 pm
celisea – yes. my hair is natural. and it’s real cute today. freshly washed last night and did a flat twist twistout. still, I admit I tend to ignore the neckline simply because my hair is long enough to cover it. lol.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
12:34 pm
breasts…I cooked chicken breasts yesterday.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
1:31 pm
OK, so I am back and I have an issue to throw out for the blog if y’all are still here. I just got a call from Little Cent’s school telling me that my daughter is “very upset” because she apparently lost her tooth at school this afternoon and now she can’t find the tooth. I told the school I would talk to her when I pick her up this afternoon, but I’m not sure what to say! (We still do the tooth fairy thing), but IDK what to tell her with no tooth.
Suggestions? FYI, I called the hubs and he said that we should try to fake her out with one of the old teeth that we already have, but I am not sure I am cool with that.
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
1:32 pm
I think I give the Falcons bad luck!
I watched the game,starting from end of 3rd quarter and the Falcons almost got beat..
Really saved by Jesus!
I’m gon Not watch,hopefully the city can have some to cheer bout!
And No,Matt Ryan’s arm ain’t all that,never mind the Roddy White catch.
(yea I read some sports blogs early morning)
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
1:36 pm
Yes Common,fake it with the old tooth.
Why u wanna be correct on this when the tooth fairy is well,fairy anyway?
You Funny!
Your hubs is 100!
dudes are practical lol
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
1:40 pm
Ex~ You had better give Matty Ice his props! He hail mary’ed that ball and it got caught by Roddy White. But, realistically, it was Cam that gave up the game. Otherwise we would have been whooped.
On the tooth thing, I’m just afraid that we are going to get caught. It has nothing to do with the faking her out part. Where the heck did we get the tooth if she lost it at school?!?
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
1:41 pm
CC – Have her write a note to the tooth fairy and put it under her pillow. lol
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
1:41 pm
CC – Tell her the tooth fairy knows she lost the tooth and will still come.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
1:41 pm
She can draw a picture of it too, make it fun.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
1:43 pm
Comon tell her the tooth fairy is like Santa, she sees everything and she knows when someone looses their teeth and will still take care of it.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
1:44 pm
Thanks Slim & kimmie. I like that idea better than taking the risk of getting caught up by trying to fake her out.
See, Ex, women are practical too. (And in a more truthful way I might add… )
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
1:47 pm
LOL, from the way y’all responded, I guess I am not the first parent to have this issue…
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
1:50 pm
Slim – Your sister’s situation reminds me of an episode of Dr. Phil I saw the week before you told us about it. The lady on the show’s husband was so jealous and paranoid, he would only let his wife take a shower every 2 days. He said if she wanted to take one every day, that meant she was cheating. He won’t let her wear dresses because it’s too easy access for her to cheat. He times her every time she leaves the house. He won’t let her go to the mailbox because she could hop in the mailtruck and run go cheat right quick. He was crazy as H–, but Dr Phil gave him props for actually coming on the show and admitting to everything. He said sometimes he lays next to her in their bed while she is sleep and touches her and just knows deep down she is cheating on him. He said his 1st wife cheated, so he wasn’t taking any chances this time.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
1:52 pm
Kimmie and she’s still with him?? WOW
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
1:53 pm
Damn, kimmie! Dude would be one well left azz! I just couldn’t imagine trying to do my job and deal with day to day stresses while having my S/O sweat my every move. That would just be tiresome.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
1:55 pm
What’s up withe 60 something year old dike??? She bout to get elbowed cause I don’t play that…uuuuggggghhhh!!! She’s always looking (at all women), starring and standing to dang close. Just nasty!!!
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:01 pm
kimmie – I told her this situation sounds like a Lifetime movie…when you mentioned him walking with her to the mailbox, this dude does that too. WOW! She plains to get a restraining order against him too in conjunction with the annulment. It was good to see her laughing and actually relaxing a little bit while she was up here. I can’t imagine feeling like you can’t even talk, text, chat, have drinks with co-workers, go anywhere by yourself etc EVERY DAY…not to mention being accused of cheating with EVERY DUDE. That would drive me pure D crazy.
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
2:01 pm
Single – They had a 2 yr old daughter together and she was young(26) & he was 40+. She was plain & overweight and probably thought she could not do any better. She said he had never hit her, but mentally abused her with his paranoia.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:02 pm
She said one day she was saying how she needed to pick up my niece a few items of clothing. This fool told her if he bought her one thing he’d leave her. Who does that???
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:02 pm
Heeeeey, my manager just awarded me with “silver award” yaaaaah!!!! For that live presentation I did
Okay, shamefully, I don’t know what all that includes….lolololol
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:03 pm
C~ She thanks you sure do have a purty mouth…
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:04 pm
CC – first things first. I’m somewhat tickled by your dilemma. second, let’s be real. the child is not slow. she KNOWS she lost her tooth. y’all might be able to trick the tooth fairy with an old tooth but I don’t think little cents is falling for it. oh. she might go along but she’ll be giving both of you the side eye.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:04 pm
Slim~ Does your sis work outside the home?
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
2:05 pm
Slim – Was she scared he would hit her? Cause that would have been my out – “yeah I bought her a few things, so go on then”. Call his bluff.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:06 pm
disco~ My thoughts EXACTLY! I told the hubs, she ain’t buying that BS! I like kimmie and Slim’s ideas though. I think that is the route I am going to take. Honestly, even at 6, I am pretty sure she realizes there is no tooth fairy, but she’s trying to ride out the money angle as long as possible.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:07 pm
CC – She bout to get knocked the heck out…nuh uh!!! She’s always looking at woment thought. I see her gazing at women in general.
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:07 pm
Comon — Just tell her Jesus found it, and had the Easter Bunny deliver it to the Tooth Fairy already, so her $ is in the mail.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:08 pm
That mess ain’t cool mayne…IJS I like dudes…nothing but.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:08 pm
I am not one to frown on anyone’s sexual orientation, however, just like I don’t like a wolfish man staring at my tittays (cue swiss’ arrival now that I brought up tittays…) I like a wolfish dyke staring at them even less. IJS…
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:09 pm
LOL @ swiss. (BTW, I knew you would arrive when tittays and sex came up. IJS…)
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:09 pm
swiss – you crazy. not that you put jesus and the easter bunny on the case. why don’t you just go and get your pliers and offer to remove another tooth for her? lol.
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:14 pm
Comon — I knew the had to be a reason my ball was tingling, so I figured it was time for me to peek in on the ol’ blog.
disco — Well, that could always be Plan B.
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
2:15 pm
Common,my son lost his tooth too and asked same question.
My 14 year old gave me that idea coz we had the old one….
but dude paused the same question and asked’so what happened to my other tooth?’ lol it used to stay by the chimney.
Well,we said,’ the fairy god came and took it’
Damm lies I tell ya!
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:15 pm
CC – Yeah she works at a doctors office. He would call her multiple times during the day. He’d drop her off in the morning, go all the way back for her entire hour lunch break, and come back later that afternoon to pick her up. If they ran past her normal quitting time to do charts or to finish up with patients, he’d assume she was sleeping with someone in there as to why she wasn’t out 5 on the dot. But she has let her co-workers and manager know what’s going on and she advised he has no reason to come up there.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:16 pm
I knew you would arrive when tittays and sex came up.
good segue..
Just passing through and still asking…what’s up with lil Ms.Suise Mochette’s baby shower/blog meen n greet? If it’s still a go…the let’s throw out some dates for this month…
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:17 pm
BTW… we’ve got a new hire at my company, essentially supposed to be “me” but for a different client. Let’s just say this chick ain’t me. Holy f__k, whatever happened to figuring sh!t out??? This chick is getting on my last nerve with all the stupid questions…
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:17 pm
I knew the had to be a reason my ball was tingling
the Uni-baller has arrived…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:18 pm
C funny thing about your lesbo coworker, if that was man doing that, HR would be all over it
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:18 pm
Sassy~ I’m all in for that. Like I said, we can do it at the clubhouse in my neighborhood if someone wants to throw out some dates.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:19 pm
Single – If that was a man, I might be all over him. I KID I KID!!!!
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:19 pm
slim – no offense or disrespect toward your sister but I am always AMAZED when I hear tales of this foolishness. I just can’t imagine ever being in a situation that got that far out of hand. I look at some women when they talk about being verbally abused and I’m like really? verbal abuse. that’s even more far fetched to me than physical abuse. I can see you being out muscled but out-mouthed? I don’t get it. I’d resort to the tried and true “your momma” before somebody ever just out and out got over on me with their words.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:19 pm
swiss~ maybe the new chick at your job is the reaon your ball is tingling. She getting on your last damn nerve. (I have a feeling that is where the last nerve is located on men… )
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:20 pm
Okay we have a fairly new co-worker and she has an odor….my old coworker is sitting next to her and said she has on tennis shoes with no socks and she can now smell her feet too. I nearly choked laughing because the chick also has a space heater on and it’s probably blowing that hot smell in the other workers cube.
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
2:20 pm
Slim?
Why is it so hard for your sister to walk away?
….I don’t even get it, wld u not take her if she came to your house,for example?
What’s the Big deal about walking away…?
Please let me know
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:20 pm
Kimmie so he’s insecure, found someone with low self esteem and he’s going to make sure it stays that way
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:21 pm
Slim~ Sounds like odor eaters at the office Christmas party this year.. LMAO!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:22 pm
BTW, has anyone heard from Leggs and, if so, how is she doing?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:22 pm
C for a minute I took that the wrong way, as in she looks so good I want her.(rotflmao) but I’m hoping you meant “dude what the freak you keep watching me for” (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:23 pm
Let me tell you something, it’s not that I don’t have empathy for women (or men) in abusive relationships, not saying that at all, some are a bit weaker than others. I can love a dude to death, even put forth the effort of “working it out”, but abuse?? Noooo buddy, no can do. I don’t kid (he he ha ha) or joke or play with kind of mess. Give a ninja an inch and he’ll take a mile. You talk ugly to me, in my mind the physical is next. And if you talk ugly to me, we’re done…after I talk it back to you. IJS
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
2:23 pm
Tennis shoes
No socks
A woman doing that?
Willie Dynamite
October 1st, 2012
2:25 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- I give dude some kudos for trying to settle down. Hard to do when you have 2 that both qualify. Good luck with the choice. The pessimist in me says buddy will always think dang I chose wrong, what if. If he’s ready then man up and choose. If not then wolf up, eat your cake and lick the icing while you can.
CC- I’m not an advocate of Santa, tooth fairy etc. when they start school that fairy tale isht is over. My son actually told me at 6 he knew and just wanted to see how long we’d keep it up. Hahaha
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:27 pm
we can do it at the clubhouse in my neighborhood if someone wants to throw out some dates.
Comon thanks for throwing that out there…I only wonder about decorating,cleaning up,who’s bringing what to eat and things like that. I’m only bringing that up b/c I don’t want any of us to have to worry about any of that…or work at all for that matter. I was kinda leaning towards a restaurant or something like that… BUT if the general concensus votes for the club house then I’m all in
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:27 pm
ex – I went jogging with a friend a few weekends ago. picked her up at her house and she put her bare feet into her nikes. I was like “girl, you’re not going to put socks on?” she said she never wears socks with tennis shoes. to each his own but I remember thinking to myself it was nasty.
willie d – I didn’t do any of that make believe stuff either. worked too daggone hard trying to make stuff happen for some figment of somebody else’s imagination to get the credit. bump that.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:28 pm
Single – I’m not sure how you got the wires twisted. I initially said I was grossed out by the old lesbo hag. On the comment of if it were a man, I was just kidding.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:29 pm
If not then wolf up, eat your cake and lick the icing while you can.
cake…cake…cake…cake..cake…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:29 pm
I don’t do make believe either.
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
2:30 pm
Willie – We had to shut that tooth fairy stuff down fairly recently. Little Miss 9 year old was using that as a source of income!LOL!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:30 pm
Willie D, my mom said when she was pulling that santa stuff, she came home one day and I was playing with my toys, she asked me what I was doing and I told her santa came early and left it in the closet (LOL) didn’t hear anything about santa after that (LOL)
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:31 pm
sassy – I’m not there but I’m with you on the take it to the restaurant thing. everybody in and out with no extra responsibilities other than volunteering to help carry gifts to the car.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:31 pm
C it was only for a split second (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:33 pm
Tennis shoes and no sock, anybody doing that!!!
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:33 pm
question re the blog meet and greets. not that I’m attempting to put anyone on the spot or anything but I’m curious. have you all ever got together for some reason or another and some person showed up that just – for lack of a better term – didn’t fit? lol. somebody that once you met them you almost didn’t even want to blog with them anymore? I know. I’m kind of mean for thinking that way. lol.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:33 pm
Single and Happy – LOLOL…gotcha That ain’t even a cute fantasy. I’m not spring chicken and she’s a hag…ugggh
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:34 pm
OMG…. I can’t take it. I don’t think this girl could figure out how to wipe her own ass without me giving her a step-by-step run down. And even then, she’d come back and ask the same question the next time she had to sh!t.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:36 pm
Exiled – She is walking away…she just let it be known all this was going on. I guess she got to her threshold so we’re all standing by to support her.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:37 pm
Disco, that happened one time with a chatline meet and greet, but it was because some people lied about everything, even had fake pictures.
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:38 pm
swiss – okay. is she really that dumb or could she possibly like you? asking a man a lot of questions (even stupid ones) is akin to pulling a girls pony tail. lol. she’s trying to flatter you by making you feel smart. is she giggling and blushing and all that when you answer her questions? in short, is she trying to push up?
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:40 pm
CC – We’re supposed to dress up for Halloween this year at work. If she asks for suggestions, I’ll tell her she should be a STICK UP
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:40 pm
I was reading an article where some older woman was writing in for advice. She was in her 60s and connected with a dude around her same age. They chatted for about 6 months and decided to meet. She took another person with her for safety reasons and said everything went off just fine. Well, they continued to be in contact and finally decided to “spend time together.” They did the weekend thing, became intimate and he went back home. After that, she never heard from buddy again. Sixty something and still getting duped. The dude manning the column did a ton of “grandma” jokes before answering her. His answer was sometimes, real playas never die. He told her to chaulk it up and move on.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:40 pm
Disco…no
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:41 pm
Single – That was for you. They met online
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:42 pm
CC – Matter of fact, I think we are going to sneak and put some stick ups on the back of her desk when she isnt here.
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:42 pm
“she’s trying to flatter you by making you feel smart. is she giggling and blushing and all that when you answer her questions? in short, is she trying to push up?”
disco — Well, this is over IM, so it’s hard to say. But if that’s her plan, it ain’t working. It’s not making me think “wow, I’m really smart” — it’s making me think “how does this b!tch figure out how to breathe without somebody constantly reminding her to inhale… now, exhale… now inhale… now exhale…”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:43 pm
C so he was on OP, (orignal Playa) (LOL)
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:43 pm
it was because some people lied about everything, even had fake pictures.
Never understood the retionale behind that..really?…you’re so ugly or so boring you have to lie about it? Must suck to be them…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:44 pm
Slim buy the odor eaters, and leave them on her desk (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:45 pm
Single – Yeah, I guess so…lol Buddy snatch the goodies and ran. That’s so wrong though. See why I say I’m closing shop early?? Can’t have nobody making a fool out of me…lololol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:46 pm
Sassy me either, how you going to hide it if you ever meet these people.
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:46 pm
swiss – I’m laughing because you paint a picture of a straight up dizzy broad. lol. good luck with that.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:46 pm
swiss – She must know somebody that knows somebody that knew somebody in order to get that job.
disco – I think sometimes it can kill the fantasy of it all. We naturally form some idea of what a person looks like, acts like etc on the blog and when you see something totally different you’re like dayum. I can’t even read you the same way anymore lol
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:47 pm
how does this b!tch figure out how to breathe without somebody constantly reminding her to inhale… now, exhale… now inhale… now exhale
OMG i’m dying over here!!!!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:48 pm
C that’s why you go in only looking for a good time, so no one should feel like they have been duped. whatever happens, happens, and we move on.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:49 pm
how you going to hide it if you ever meet these people.
Precisely…just doesn’t make any sense…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:50 pm
Single – Okay, if you say so.
I’ve met a few blog folks and I didn’t feel disappointed. I thought it was good finally putting faces/names with the monikers.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:50 pm
OT the other day i was watching Peoples Court, and this couple was on there, he was 6′6″ and she ws 5′, and didn’t wear heels, talk about an odd looking couple. But she said her mother so proud of her (LOL)
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:52 pm
Slim – the concept of killing the fantasy works. I was fishing for something but wasn’t too sure of what it was.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:53 pm
disco – I was fishing for something but wasn’t too sure of what it was.
Now that’s what I thought when you put it out there.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:55 pm
Single – That was for you. They met online (LOL)
When I finally meet my ex in person, we both were like naw, we can just be friends, but by the end of the weekend we were in love (LOL) don’t know what the heck happened in those 3 days (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:57 pm
Single – C’mon now, you meet someone “online” which seems to be the platform for hooking up, with the intents of being “just friends?” By the end of the weekend in love? Alright now…do yo thang
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:57 pm
I’ve never had a fantasy of what someone could be online, but I guess it’s because I have to see to believe.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:58 pm
Single – What the heck happened? I’m guessing sex?? You know that’s the same as love right? It just feels like that when the sex is really good…lololol
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:58 pm
I heard an interesting how we met story over the weekend (random but kind of fits in). girl I knew back in high school. short version, her daughter joins the military. daughter some kind of way puts mother and drill sergeant together. they communicate by phone/text up until daughter’s graduation when they met for the first time. fast forward a year plus and they are still giving it a go.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:59 pm
I dunno, chatting just seems like such a breeding ground for crazy folks. Some people though have success stories. Just not for me.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:59 pm
I probably killed the fantasy for many here too lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:59 pm
C we had talked on the phone for about 2 years before we meet, so it was about finally meeting, not about hooking up.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:00 pm
I guess if you don’t go in with a lot of expectations and don’t believe none of what’s posted…until you see for yourself. I imagine it would be a let down if someone sent the wrong pic, gave the wrong stats and pretty much lied about everything
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:01 pm
Single – So y’all were just buds or the convo was of a “best buddies” nature?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:01 pm
No C there was no sex, no heavy petting non of that, it was one of those moments, and it happened when she was dropping me off at the airport, ( we looked deeply into each other eyes and had a long passionate kiss) (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:01 pm
sex NOT the same as love..is what I meant
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:03 pm
C you can meet crazy folks anywhere, the media just love to add to it when they meet online.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:03 pm
Single – Awwwww, ain’t that sweet. See that’s what I’m talking about. Hanging out, having fun, no expectations…not even spooning.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:04 pm
Single – You ain’t lied there….lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:04 pm
Single we were friends, we talked about our lives and our problems, never anything about hooking up.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:05 pm
Sometimes, those are the best friendships/relationships. My best relationships started out as friends, nothing more or less top of mind. Well, not for me anyway.
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:06 pm
S/H – I agree that you can meet crazy anywhere however I think a person’s crazy meter is more likely to pick up something in person. there’s some folks you can just look at and know something’s not quite right. if you invest online time in them you might feel vested or obligated to put up with a little bit more than if they were just some stranger at the bar. just my take though.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:06 pm
Sooo, if I may, why are y’all “ex?” You said ex right? You ain’t gotta answer if it’s too personal.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:06 pm
C isn’t in funny how you always hear, never give out any pertinent information online, but they don’t give the same advice about meeting someone in Walmart?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:08 pm
Single – Yeah, ironic. I’m paranoid though. I ain’t giving out info online or in person….lol
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:08 pm
Slim~ Sorry I had to duck out for a sec. You got me dying over here with the stick-ups!
Sassy~ Restaurant is fine too. I was just throwing the suggestion out there. What area works best for everyone? I know swiss is North of the city, so maybe somewhere in Roswell/Marietta/Vinings area?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:10 pm
C things just didn’t work out
Disco, in a years time how many crazy’s kill someone right here in ATL that meet in person, I mean just last week, 3 people! Girlfriend, daughter and mistress!! it happens more from people meeting in person than online, but it’s not as big a story.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:11 pm
C that’s not paranoid, that’s good sense!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:11 pm
Single – Gotcha
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:12 pm
Single – that’s not paranoid, that’s good sense!
Sho nuff! I just let folks call me paranoid and keep my stuff to myself….lol
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:14 pm
S/H – I’m not disputing that fact. it’s the sho’nuff truth.
celisea – how we both using sho nuff? lol.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:15 pm
disco – Cause on this issue, we’re <> <> (not sure if I did the eyes right) here…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:16 pm
Well, I had eyeballs in there, not sure what happened
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:17 pm
C thank god for cell phones and alternate email addresses (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:18 pm
Shoot, my kid is half a year shy of turning 18 and I still have her SS card tucked away in the place where I keep my corp card and healthcare card. She asked for it once and I was like, chile please. Guess I’ll turn it over to her when she turns 18, along with a lecture on protecting her name. First from herself and then others.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:18 pm
She must know somebody that knows somebody that knew somebody in order to get that job.
Slim, either that or she blew somebody that knew somebody in order to get that job…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:19 pm
Single – You got that right….on the alternate email addy. I don’t give out my cell like that. Nuh uh.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:20 pm
C I know (rotflmao)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:20 pm
Dang, I’m glad I’m not a trainee…lol Ain’t that what folks suppose to do?? Ask until they have an understanding??? I will get on somebody’s nerves then cause I ask until stuff clicks…lololol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:22 pm
How me and co-worker order lunch one day and he told me to call him when it came. I did and he wouldn’t answer the phone because he didn’t recognize the number (rotflmao)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:22 pm
C we forget we were a new hire at one time (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:23 pm
C~ Somehow you don’t strike me as the type that needs directions on how to breathe. Questions about corporate culture? Sure. Questions about the job? Ask all you want. Stupid questions that you should n=know the answer to before you were hired? Not so much…
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:24 pm
S/H~ That’s called he was afraid you might be Bill…
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:25 pm
y’all are crazy. I hold onto info like it’s all I got. lol. I joke with folks that my own momma doesn’t know where I work. thing is, she doesn’t. she doesn’t really need to know. we live in separate states, my mother never calls me. my son and my youngest brother know where I work that’s it. most of my friends don’t know where I work. they know what I do but they don’t know where I do it. I remember some years back some coworkers were really feeling some kind of way because I wouldn’t tell them my son’s name. now, I thought they did good to know his nickname but I didn’t see the need to come up off of his government name. heck the majority of my family members don’t know his government name.
S/H – so what did you do? eat his lunch? lol.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:29 pm
C, I wouldn’t give a creditor my cell #
disco, I left it on his desk. and I can go one better, no one knows where I work (LOL) I’m like Tommy on Martin (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:31 pm
Single – Yep, I remember being the new kid. That’s ain’t exactly easy.
Single – Sometimes I will answer calls on unknown or numbers not recognized. Sometines, I just bump the calls.
CC – That was naughty of you…so not nice…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:32 pm
Single – Why not?? They have your address, no?? LOLOLOLOLOL
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:33 pm
y’all single and happier ain’t got no job. (S/H – see how rumors get started?)
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
3:34 pm
Couple of notes on the baby shower:
First, you folks are awfully nice to think of us — thanks for that!
And second, just for logistics, we’ve got showers set for the next 2 Saturdays (the 6th & the 13th), both at 2pm & both at the Bahama Breeze at the corner of Haynes Bridge & North Point. So, if you want to come to one of those, you’re welcome. Or if you wanted to do a different day/time, that’s cool with us, too (my only request is to please either avoid UGA game times, or let’s do this at a place where the game will be on)
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
3:35 pm
CC – It’s who ya blow, not who ya know
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:37 pm
swiss~ So, who’d she blow?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:38 pm
It’s who ya blow, not who ya know
Let me stay jobless then. Cause as sure as you do thing to get in, you’re gonna be blowing the life of your career.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:39 pm
C no they don’t ( I work in the building down there, yall know the one) LOL
Disco, my bills get paid (LOL) that’s all that matters (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
Single – Nuh uh…which one…lolololol
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
Comon — Not sure, but it wasn’t me. so I’m feeling a little shafted for having to answer all these d@mn questions.
And, for the record, I don’t mind when folks ask questions — once, twice or even 3 times. But when you ask the same question over, and over, and over, and over, and over again, it gets to be a bit much. Especially since this isn’t rocket science & this chick is supposed to have been a developer. Heck, when I was hired, there was no one here to answer all of my questions — I just had to figure sh!t out.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:42 pm
C that white building, the one on the corner. stop playing (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:42 pm
S/H~ You really starting to sound like Tommy now.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:43 pm
Single – Which white building and what corner…lol
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:44 pm
hey swiss. are we there yet? huh? are we there yet. huh? I’m not touching you, I’m not touching you. lol. I’m sorry. as much I can’t stand for folks to be on my nerves I’m the last one to play nerve games. swiss, blog drink on me. what’ll you have?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:45 pm
comon that’s because those were Tommy’s lines (LOL)
C the one next to that red building. not that corner the other corner (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:45 pm
Ain’t no white buildings on the corner where I work. So, I need more details
TommySingle. Is your business card clear?? LOLOLOL Remember that episode where they thought Martin was in the hospital and Tommy gave his business card and it was clear?SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
3:46 pm
Heck, when I was hired, there was no one here to answer all of my questions — I just had to figure sh!t out.
More evidence of the wussification of society.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:47 pm
When I’m training, I have a notepad, a chair and 3 or 4 pens…lol Then I pull up right next/on the person. Wonder if that works their nerves??? I must say though, it’s been a loooooong time since I sat with someone for training. When I landed this position in 2010, I was just tossed in. They looked at my resume and figured I had laid enough ground work and knew the business to get things rolling.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:48 pm
Back on little Miss Suisse Mochette~ Do either of the above dates and place work for anyone else? Bahama Breeze is cool for me and since I think my Jackets are doomed this season and it doesn’t interfere with the Dawgs kickoff time, I am game for one of those weekends.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:51 pm
Honestly, the last time I trained was 1998. I was in that position until 2004. There was an acquisition and they kept 3 of us and let the eniter deparment go. Our new “counterparts” did the same, looked at out background and tossed us in. I was a cash management officer then, and that was sort of my backround prior. But just thinking today, I haven’t “sat” with someone for training since 1998.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:52 pm
I’ve had 4 different positions since then and each one was sink or swim. Dannnng, I’m just thinking about this for real.
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
3:55 pm
Comon — About those NATS of yours… Whew… I generally love it when the bumblebees lose, but d@mn, that was even hard for me to watch. And it wasn’t like tech gave the game away themselves… Middle Tenn. State Finishing School (or whatever it’s called) was just flat out the superior team. They looked bigger, stronger, faster, better coached, you name it.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:02 pm
How about I received a girly email in my “supposed” blog name…lol
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:06 pm
C – what’s a “girly” email?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:07 pm
“Girly” risque…lol I just burst out laughing. It came in my spam on my phone.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:08 pm
swiss~ I think after the loss to Miami, we have just given up. IDK. But we looked sloppy and un-coordinated on Saturday. SMDH… I think I have lost all hope now.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
4:11 pm
Do either of the above dates and place work for anyone else
I just looked it up and got directions…it’ll take me over an hour to get there…so I don’t know about that…sorry.
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:13 pm
CC – I’m not a football fan so it could be that I know not what I speak of but I still have to tell you to “keep hope alive”. lol.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:16 pm
disco~ I think that hope has died for us this season. IDK what’s going on with the Jackets, but they have made two dubious overtime calls that cost us games and now they got beat by a school that I am halfway sure is a junior college. I feel like Sylvester’s son in the old Looney Toons cartoons. Oh, the shame!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
4:20 pm
C I feel you on that sink or swim, I have one of those jobs where you’re supposed have experience on most of the things and be able to pick up on the rest, yet we have people that have been here as long as me still talking about I never got training on that.
Well time for me to leave my fake job, with my clear card (LOL) tomorrow peeps.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:23 pm
I shole don’t want my left overs for dinners.
Shaunie
October 1st, 2012
4:31 pm
When you have to make a choice between the person you love and the person who loves you, choose the person who loves you because, you can learn to love someone but, you can not teach someone to love you.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:41 pm
Shaunie~ I must disagree. You can’t “learn to love somebody” You can learn to tolerate somebody, but that would be an awful and unfulfilling relationship IMO.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
4:47 pm
Not another one..I wonder if her and ol gurl some kin…
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:50 pm
CC – I agree with you thought I was giving shaunie the benefit of the doubt. I took it to mean “grow to love” as oppose to “learn to love”. of course, I’m not trying to hang around hoping to grow to love either but I’ve heard tell that it happens. lol. I just channeled my grandma with that “I hear tell”.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:50 pm
or pray tell
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:51 pm
Not another one..I wonder if her and ol gurl some kin…
lolololol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:53 pm
Swiss thinks he’s got problem. How about a scrambled egg head coworker that can’t ever remember stuff??? We just had to do a conference call cause she’s over committed herself on covering for folks at vacation time and now reniging (sp) saying since she didn’t write it down, she mut not have committed
I had to hold myself. My manager was like we ain’t gonna go there. I almost went.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:54 pm
And she’s my primary backup
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
C – you retarded. a scrambled egg head? that’s funny in a preschool sort of way. lol. scrambled egg head. I giggle just thinking that one.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
Since she didn’t write it down she must not have committed? Who the hell says that? Y’all aren’t going to allow her to renege are you?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
4 minutes!!!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:57 pm
disco~ Maybe she did mean “grow to love” but all the same, that’s a crappy relationship. IJS. May they are some kin… I wonder if she and ol dude hit it off when he found out she wasn’t a REAL virgin, but a born again virgin.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:57 pm
Single – I almost went through the phone at this chick
CC – Thanks for dropping the correct spelling for renege. My manager said she’ll decide who’s gonna do what and will send out an email. Bet Imma end up covering for the chick taking two weeks. I HATE to cover for her.
Shaunie
October 1st, 2012
4:58 pm
@Cents & pyt – it will never be even steven in love. Truth!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:00 pm
Good thing though, we met on 2/10/2012 (a quad of us) to work things out and I sent the email to my manager on 2/13/2012 with a snapshot on the calender with her as my backup. I’m anal like that and believe in the CYA or if you said or wrote it, I recorded it policy.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
5:02 pm
Shaunie~ I don’t expect it to be “even steven”, but I do expect to be in love. You can’t learn to love someone or grow to love someone in a way that will be meaningful and fulfilling. (On both sides) And if you’re keeping score to see if you’re “even steven” then you’re not in love. Truth.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
5:05 pm
C~ So, therefore she can’t renege. You have a snapshot of the calendar and independent witnesses. Stick it to her, C! I hate wen someone drops something like that on me at the last minute. Attorneys do it all the time. Give you a case file and ask you to cover because tey didn’t file a LOA or Letter of Conflict and they have to be somewhere else. Can’t stand that.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:07 pm
CC – Well, my manager did agree and say “now that’s what I have” but we’ll see. Imma be mad as heck. I initially started out asking the scrambled egghead to cover for me during Thanksgiving as I have a trip (potentially) planned that week to Savannah. If I can get the coverage, I’m going!!!!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:10 pm
I’m not saying I agree with Shaunie, really I didn’t look too deep or give it deep thought. I believe you can grow to love someone but I believe that’s usually circumstances where it’s non-intentional and something you sort of fell into (but that’s the norm right). I think if you meet someone and there’s not that flame or connection and you try and force it, then that’s gonna eventually be a bust. Maybe not in all cases, but the majority for the most.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:11 pm
those are circumstances
Shaunie
October 1st, 2012
5:28 pm
@Cents Touche’
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