Dating: Process of elimination?
My friend JB has a common dating dilemma that happens to the best of us: He has two really great prospects but is having a difficult time deciding which one he should eliminate and which one should get all of his attention.
Things have been pretty casual and laid back, but he knows this won’t last forever. At some point, he has to decide who is more suitable for him.
What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort? Do you decide based on who you are most physically attracted to? Who you are most compatible with in terms of background, upbringing, values, etc.?
Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to figure out who to pursue and who to let go? How did you decide?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:42 pm
S/H~ You really starting to sound like Tommy now.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:43 pm
Single – Which white building and what corner…lol
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:44 pm
hey swiss. are we there yet? huh? are we there yet. huh? I’m not touching you, I’m not touching you. lol. I’m sorry. as much I can’t stand for folks to be on my nerves I’m the last one to play nerve games. swiss, blog drink on me. what’ll you have?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:45 pm
comon that’s because those were Tommy’s lines (LOL)
C the one next to that red building. not that corner the other corner (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:45 pm
Ain’t no white buildings on the corner where I work. So, I need more details
TommySingle. Is your business card clear?? LOLOLOL Remember that episode where they thought Martin was in the hospital and Tommy gave his business card and it was clear?SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
3:46 pm
Heck, when I was hired, there was no one here to answer all of my questions — I just had to figure sh!t out.
More evidence of the wussification of society.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:47 pm
When I’m training, I have a notepad, a chair and 3 or 4 pens…lol Then I pull up right next/on the person. Wonder if that works their nerves??? I must say though, it’s been a loooooong time since I sat with someone for training. When I landed this position in 2010, I was just tossed in. They looked at my resume and figured I had laid enough ground work and knew the business to get things rolling.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:48 pm
Back on little Miss Suisse Mochette~ Do either of the above dates and place work for anyone else? Bahama Breeze is cool for me and since I think my Jackets are doomed this season and it doesn’t interfere with the Dawgs kickoff time, I am game for one of those weekends.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:51 pm
Honestly, the last time I trained was 1998. I was in that position until 2004. There was an acquisition and they kept 3 of us and let the eniter deparment go. Our new “counterparts” did the same, looked at out background and tossed us in. I was a cash management officer then, and that was sort of my backround prior. But just thinking today, I haven’t “sat” with someone for training since 1998.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:52 pm
I’ve had 4 different positions since then and each one was sink or swim. Dannnng, I’m just thinking about this for real.
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
3:55 pm
Comon — About those NATS of yours… Whew… I generally love it when the bumblebees lose, but d@mn, that was even hard for me to watch. And it wasn’t like tech gave the game away themselves… Middle Tenn. State Finishing School (or whatever it’s called) was just flat out the superior team. They looked bigger, stronger, faster, better coached, you name it.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:02 pm
How about I received a girly email in my “supposed” blog name…lol
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:06 pm
C – what’s a “girly” email?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:07 pm
“Girly” risque…lol I just burst out laughing. It came in my spam on my phone.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:08 pm
swiss~ I think after the loss to Miami, we have just given up. IDK. But we looked sloppy and un-coordinated on Saturday. SMDH… I think I have lost all hope now.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
4:11 pm
Do either of the above dates and place work for anyone else
I just looked it up and got directions…it’ll take me over an hour to get there…so I don’t know about that…sorry.
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:13 pm
CC – I’m not a football fan so it could be that I know not what I speak of but I still have to tell you to “keep hope alive”. lol.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:16 pm
disco~ I think that hope has died for us this season. IDK what’s going on with the Jackets, but they have made two dubious overtime calls that cost us games and now they got beat by a school that I am halfway sure is a junior college. I feel like Sylvester’s son in the old Looney Toons cartoons. Oh, the shame!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
4:20 pm
C I feel you on that sink or swim, I have one of those jobs where you’re supposed have experience on most of the things and be able to pick up on the rest, yet we have people that have been here as long as me still talking about I never got training on that.
Well time for me to leave my fake job, with my clear card (LOL) tomorrow peeps.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:23 pm
I shole don’t want my left overs for dinners.
Shaunie
October 1st, 2012
4:31 pm
When you have to make a choice between the person you love and the person who loves you, choose the person who loves you because, you can learn to love someone but, you can not teach someone to love you.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:41 pm
Shaunie~ I must disagree. You can’t “learn to love somebody” You can learn to tolerate somebody, but that would be an awful and unfulfilling relationship IMO.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
4:47 pm
Not another one..I wonder if her and ol gurl some kin…
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:50 pm
CC – I agree with you thought I was giving shaunie the benefit of the doubt. I took it to mean “grow to love” as oppose to “learn to love”. of course, I’m not trying to hang around hoping to grow to love either but I’ve heard tell that it happens. lol. I just channeled my grandma with that “I hear tell”.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:50 pm
or pray tell
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:51 pm
Not another one..I wonder if her and ol gurl some kin…
lolololol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:53 pm
Swiss thinks he’s got problem. How about a scrambled egg head coworker that can’t ever remember stuff??? We just had to do a conference call cause she’s over committed herself on covering for folks at vacation time and now reniging (sp) saying since she didn’t write it down, she mut not have committed
I had to hold myself. My manager was like we ain’t gonna go there. I almost went.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:54 pm
And she’s my primary backup
disco
October 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
C – you retarded. a scrambled egg head? that’s funny in a preschool sort of way. lol. scrambled egg head. I giggle just thinking that one.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
Since she didn’t write it down she must not have committed? Who the hell says that? Y’all aren’t going to allow her to renege are you?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:56 pm
4 minutes!!!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
4:57 pm
disco~ Maybe she did mean “grow to love” but all the same, that’s a crappy relationship. IJS. May they are some kin… I wonder if she and ol dude hit it off when he found out she wasn’t a REAL virgin, but a born again virgin.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
4:57 pm
Single – I almost went through the phone at this chick
CC – Thanks for dropping the correct spelling for renege. My manager said she’ll decide who’s gonna do what and will send out an email. Bet Imma end up covering for the chick taking two weeks. I HATE to cover for her.
Shaunie
October 1st, 2012
4:58 pm
@Cents & pyt – it will never be even steven in love. Truth!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:00 pm
Good thing though, we met on 2/10/2012 (a quad of us) to work things out and I sent the email to my manager on 2/13/2012 with a snapshot on the calender with her as my backup. I’m anal like that and believe in the CYA or if you said or wrote it, I recorded it policy.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
5:02 pm
Shaunie~ I don’t expect it to be “even steven”, but I do expect to be in love. You can’t learn to love someone or grow to love someone in a way that will be meaningful and fulfilling. (On both sides) And if you’re keeping score to see if you’re “even steven” then you’re not in love. Truth.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
5:05 pm
C~ So, therefore she can’t renege. You have a snapshot of the calendar and independent witnesses. Stick it to her, C! I hate wen someone drops something like that on me at the last minute. Attorneys do it all the time. Give you a case file and ask you to cover because tey didn’t file a LOA or Letter of Conflict and they have to be somewhere else. Can’t stand that.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:07 pm
CC – Well, my manager did agree and say “now that’s what I have” but we’ll see. Imma be mad as heck. I initially started out asking the scrambled egghead to cover for me during Thanksgiving as I have a trip (potentially) planned that week to Savannah. If I can get the coverage, I’m going!!!!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:10 pm
I’m not saying I agree with Shaunie, really I didn’t look too deep or give it deep thought. I believe you can grow to love someone but I believe that’s usually circumstances where it’s non-intentional and something you sort of fell into (but that’s the norm right). I think if you meet someone and there’s not that flame or connection and you try and force it, then that’s gonna eventually be a bust. Maybe not in all cases, but the majority for the most.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
5:11 pm
those are circumstances
Shaunie
October 1st, 2012
5:28 pm
@Cents Touche’
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