Dating: Process of elimination?
My friend JB has a common dating dilemma that happens to the best of us: He has two really great prospects but is having a difficult time deciding which one he should eliminate and which one should get all of his attention.
Things have been pretty casual and laid back, but he knows this won’t last forever. At some point, he has to decide who is more suitable for him.
What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort? Do you decide based on who you are most physically attracted to? Who you are most compatible with in terms of background, upbringing, values, etc.?
Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to figure out who to pursue and who to let go? How did you decide?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:57 pm
I’ve never had a fantasy of what someone could be online, but I guess it’s because I have to see to believe.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:58 pm
Single – What the heck happened? I’m guessing sex?? You know that’s the same as love right? It just feels like that when the sex is really good…lololol
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:58 pm
I heard an interesting how we met story over the weekend (random but kind of fits in). girl I knew back in high school. short version, her daughter joins the military. daughter some kind of way puts mother and drill sergeant together. they communicate by phone/text up until daughter’s graduation when they met for the first time. fast forward a year plus and they are still giving it a go.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:59 pm
I dunno, chatting just seems like such a breeding ground for crazy folks. Some people though have success stories. Just not for me.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:59 pm
I probably killed the fantasy for many here too lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:59 pm
C we had talked on the phone for about 2 years before we meet, so it was about finally meeting, not about hooking up.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:00 pm
I guess if you don’t go in with a lot of expectations and don’t believe none of what’s posted…until you see for yourself. I imagine it would be a let down if someone sent the wrong pic, gave the wrong stats and pretty much lied about everything
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:01 pm
Single – So y’all were just buds or the convo was of a “best buddies” nature?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:01 pm
No C there was no sex, no heavy petting non of that, it was one of those moments, and it happened when she was dropping me off at the airport, ( we looked deeply into each other eyes and had a long passionate kiss) (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:01 pm
sex NOT the same as love..is what I meant
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:03 pm
C you can meet crazy folks anywhere, the media just love to add to it when they meet online.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:03 pm
Single – Awwwww, ain’t that sweet. See that’s what I’m talking about. Hanging out, having fun, no expectations…not even spooning.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:04 pm
Single – You ain’t lied there….lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:04 pm
Single we were friends, we talked about our lives and our problems, never anything about hooking up.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:05 pm
Sometimes, those are the best friendships/relationships. My best relationships started out as friends, nothing more or less top of mind. Well, not for me anyway.
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:06 pm
S/H – I agree that you can meet crazy anywhere however I think a person’s crazy meter is more likely to pick up something in person. there’s some folks you can just look at and know something’s not quite right. if you invest online time in them you might feel vested or obligated to put up with a little bit more than if they were just some stranger at the bar. just my take though.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:06 pm
Sooo, if I may, why are y’all “ex?” You said ex right? You ain’t gotta answer if it’s too personal.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:06 pm
C isn’t in funny how you always hear, never give out any pertinent information online, but they don’t give the same advice about meeting someone in Walmart?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:08 pm
Single – Yeah, ironic. I’m paranoid though. I ain’t giving out info online or in person….lol
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:08 pm
Slim~ Sorry I had to duck out for a sec. You got me dying over here with the stick-ups!
Sassy~ Restaurant is fine too. I was just throwing the suggestion out there. What area works best for everyone? I know swiss is North of the city, so maybe somewhere in Roswell/Marietta/Vinings area?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:10 pm
C things just didn’t work out
Disco, in a years time how many crazy’s kill someone right here in ATL that meet in person, I mean just last week, 3 people! Girlfriend, daughter and mistress!! it happens more from people meeting in person than online, but it’s not as big a story.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:11 pm
C that’s not paranoid, that’s good sense!
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:11 pm
Single – Gotcha
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:12 pm
Single – that’s not paranoid, that’s good sense!
Sho nuff! I just let folks call me paranoid and keep my stuff to myself….lol
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:14 pm
S/H – I’m not disputing that fact. it’s the sho’nuff truth.
celisea – how we both using sho nuff? lol.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:15 pm
disco – Cause on this issue, we’re <> <> (not sure if I did the eyes right) here…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:16 pm
Well, I had eyeballs in there, not sure what happened
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:17 pm
C thank god for cell phones and alternate email addresses (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:18 pm
Shoot, my kid is half a year shy of turning 18 and I still have her SS card tucked away in the place where I keep my corp card and healthcare card. She asked for it once and I was like, chile please. Guess I’ll turn it over to her when she turns 18, along with a lecture on protecting her name. First from herself and then others.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:18 pm
She must know somebody that knows somebody that knew somebody in order to get that job.
Slim, either that or she blew somebody that knew somebody in order to get that job…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:19 pm
Single – You got that right….on the alternate email addy. I don’t give out my cell like that. Nuh uh.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:20 pm
C I know (rotflmao)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:20 pm
Dang, I’m glad I’m not a trainee…lol Ain’t that what folks suppose to do?? Ask until they have an understanding??? I will get on somebody’s nerves then cause I ask until stuff clicks…lololol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:22 pm
How me and co-worker order lunch one day and he told me to call him when it came. I did and he wouldn’t answer the phone because he didn’t recognize the number (rotflmao)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:22 pm
C we forget we were a new hire at one time (LOL)
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:23 pm
C~ Somehow you don’t strike me as the type that needs directions on how to breathe. Questions about corporate culture? Sure. Questions about the job? Ask all you want. Stupid questions that you should n=know the answer to before you were hired? Not so much…
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:24 pm
S/H~ That’s called he was afraid you might be Bill…
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:25 pm
y’all are crazy. I hold onto info like it’s all I got. lol. I joke with folks that my own momma doesn’t know where I work. thing is, she doesn’t. she doesn’t really need to know. we live in separate states, my mother never calls me. my son and my youngest brother know where I work that’s it. most of my friends don’t know where I work. they know what I do but they don’t know where I do it. I remember some years back some coworkers were really feeling some kind of way because I wouldn’t tell them my son’s name. now, I thought they did good to know his nickname but I didn’t see the need to come up off of his government name. heck the majority of my family members don’t know his government name.
S/H – so what did you do? eat his lunch? lol.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:29 pm
C, I wouldn’t give a creditor my cell #
disco, I left it on his desk. and I can go one better, no one knows where I work (LOL) I’m like Tommy on Martin (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:31 pm
Single – Yep, I remember being the new kid. That’s ain’t exactly easy.
Single – Sometimes I will answer calls on unknown or numbers not recognized. Sometines, I just bump the calls.
CC – That was naughty of you…so not nice…lol
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:32 pm
Single – Why not?? They have your address, no?? LOLOLOLOLOL
disco
October 1st, 2012
3:33 pm
y’all single and happier ain’t got no job. (S/H – see how rumors get started?)
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
3:34 pm
Couple of notes on the baby shower:
First, you folks are awfully nice to think of us — thanks for that!
And second, just for logistics, we’ve got showers set for the next 2 Saturdays (the 6th & the 13th), both at 2pm & both at the Bahama Breeze at the corner of Haynes Bridge & North Point. So, if you want to come to one of those, you’re welcome. Or if you wanted to do a different day/time, that’s cool with us, too (my only request is to please either avoid UGA game times, or let’s do this at a place where the game will be on)
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
3:35 pm
CC – It’s who ya blow, not who ya know
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
3:37 pm
swiss~ So, who’d she blow?
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:38 pm
It’s who ya blow, not who ya know
Let me stay jobless then. Cause as sure as you do thing to get in, you’re gonna be blowing the life of your career.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:39 pm
C no they don’t ( I work in the building down there, yall know the one) LOL
Disco, my bills get paid (LOL) that’s all that matters (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
Single – Nuh uh…which one…lolololol
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
3:41 pm
Comon — Not sure, but it wasn’t me. so I’m feeling a little shafted for having to answer all these d@mn questions.
And, for the record, I don’t mind when folks ask questions — once, twice or even 3 times. But when you ask the same question over, and over, and over, and over, and over again, it gets to be a bit much. Especially since this isn’t rocket science & this chick is supposed to have been a developer. Heck, when I was hired, there was no one here to answer all of my questions — I just had to figure sh!t out.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
3:42 pm
C that white building, the one on the corner. stop playing (LOL)