Dating: Process of elimination?
My friend JB has a common dating dilemma that happens to the best of us: He has two really great prospects but is having a difficult time deciding which one he should eliminate and which one should get all of his attention.
Things have been pretty casual and laid back, but he knows this won’t last forever. At some point, he has to decide who is more suitable for him.
What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort? Do you decide based on who you are most physically attracted to? Who you are most compatible with in terms of background, upbringing, values, etc.?
Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to figure out who to pursue and who to let go? How did you decide?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:19 pm
Single – If that was a man, I might be all over him. I KID I KID!!!!
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:19 pm
slim – no offense or disrespect toward your sister but I am always AMAZED when I hear tales of this foolishness. I just can’t imagine ever being in a situation that got that far out of hand. I look at some women when they talk about being verbally abused and I’m like really? verbal abuse. that’s even more far fetched to me than physical abuse. I can see you being out muscled but out-mouthed? I don’t get it. I’d resort to the tried and true “your momma” before somebody ever just out and out got over on me with their words.
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:19 pm
swiss~ maybe the new chick at your job is the reaon your ball is tingling. She getting on your last damn nerve. (I have a feeling that is where the last nerve is located on men… )
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:20 pm
Okay we have a fairly new co-worker and she has an odor….my old coworker is sitting next to her and said she has on tennis shoes with no socks and she can now smell her feet too. I nearly choked laughing because the chick also has a space heater on and it’s probably blowing that hot smell in the other workers cube.
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
2:20 pm
Slim?
Why is it so hard for your sister to walk away?
….I don’t even get it, wld u not take her if she came to your house,for example?
What’s the Big deal about walking away…?
Please let me know
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:20 pm
Kimmie so he’s insecure, found someone with low self esteem and he’s going to make sure it stays that way
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:21 pm
Slim~ Sounds like odor eaters at the office Christmas party this year.. LMAO!
Comon Cents
October 1st, 2012
2:22 pm
BTW, has anyone heard from Leggs and, if so, how is she doing?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:22 pm
C for a minute I took that the wrong way, as in she looks so good I want her.(rotflmao) but I’m hoping you meant “dude what the freak you keep watching me for” (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:23 pm
Let me tell you something, it’s not that I don’t have empathy for women (or men) in abusive relationships, not saying that at all, some are a bit weaker than others. I can love a dude to death, even put forth the effort of “working it out”, but abuse?? Noooo buddy, no can do. I don’t kid (he he ha ha) or joke or play with kind of mess. Give a ninja an inch and he’ll take a mile. You talk ugly to me, in my mind the physical is next. And if you talk ugly to me, we’re done…after I talk it back to you. IJS
Exiled!
October 1st, 2012
2:23 pm
Tennis shoes
No socks
A woman doing that?
Willie Dynamite
October 1st, 2012
2:25 pm
Afternoon all,
Topic- I give dude some kudos for trying to settle down. Hard to do when you have 2 that both qualify. Good luck with the choice. The pessimist in me says buddy will always think dang I chose wrong, what if. If he’s ready then man up and choose. If not then wolf up, eat your cake and lick the icing while you can.
CC- I’m not an advocate of Santa, tooth fairy etc. when they start school that fairy tale isht is over. My son actually told me at 6 he knew and just wanted to see how long we’d keep it up. Hahaha
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:27 pm
we can do it at the clubhouse in my neighborhood if someone wants to throw out some dates.
Comon thanks for throwing that out there…I only wonder about decorating,cleaning up,who’s bringing what to eat and things like that. I’m only bringing that up b/c I don’t want any of us to have to worry about any of that…or work at all for that matter. I was kinda leaning towards a restaurant or something like that… BUT if the general concensus votes for the club house then I’m all in
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:27 pm
ex – I went jogging with a friend a few weekends ago. picked her up at her house and she put her bare feet into her nikes. I was like “girl, you’re not going to put socks on?” she said she never wears socks with tennis shoes. to each his own but I remember thinking to myself it was nasty.
willie d – I didn’t do any of that make believe stuff either. worked too daggone hard trying to make stuff happen for some figment of somebody else’s imagination to get the credit. bump that.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:28 pm
Single – I’m not sure how you got the wires twisted. I initially said I was grossed out by the old lesbo hag. On the comment of if it were a man, I was just kidding.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:29 pm
If not then wolf up, eat your cake and lick the icing while you can.
cake…cake…cake…cake..cake…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:29 pm
I don’t do make believe either.
kimmie
October 1st, 2012
2:30 pm
Willie – We had to shut that tooth fairy stuff down fairly recently. Little Miss 9 year old was using that as a source of income!LOL!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:30 pm
Willie D, my mom said when she was pulling that santa stuff, she came home one day and I was playing with my toys, she asked me what I was doing and I told her santa came early and left it in the closet (LOL) didn’t hear anything about santa after that (LOL)
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:31 pm
sassy – I’m not there but I’m with you on the take it to the restaurant thing. everybody in and out with no extra responsibilities other than volunteering to help carry gifts to the car.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:31 pm
C it was only for a split second (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:33 pm
Tennis shoes and no sock, anybody doing that!!!
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:33 pm
question re the blog meet and greets. not that I’m attempting to put anyone on the spot or anything but I’m curious. have you all ever got together for some reason or another and some person showed up that just – for lack of a better term – didn’t fit? lol. somebody that once you met them you almost didn’t even want to blog with them anymore? I know. I’m kind of mean for thinking that way. lol.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:33 pm
Single and Happy – LOLOL…gotcha That ain’t even a cute fantasy. I’m not spring chicken and she’s a hag…ugggh
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:34 pm
OMG…. I can’t take it. I don’t think this girl could figure out how to wipe her own ass without me giving her a step-by-step run down. And even then, she’d come back and ask the same question the next time she had to sh!t.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:36 pm
Exiled – She is walking away…she just let it be known all this was going on. I guess she got to her threshold so we’re all standing by to support her.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:37 pm
Disco, that happened one time with a chatline meet and greet, but it was because some people lied about everything, even had fake pictures.
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:38 pm
swiss – okay. is she really that dumb or could she possibly like you? asking a man a lot of questions (even stupid ones) is akin to pulling a girls pony tail. lol. she’s trying to flatter you by making you feel smart. is she giggling and blushing and all that when you answer her questions? in short, is she trying to push up?
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:40 pm
CC – We’re supposed to dress up for Halloween this year at work. If she asks for suggestions, I’ll tell her she should be a STICK UP
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:40 pm
I was reading an article where some older woman was writing in for advice. She was in her 60s and connected with a dude around her same age. They chatted for about 6 months and decided to meet. She took another person with her for safety reasons and said everything went off just fine. Well, they continued to be in contact and finally decided to “spend time together.” They did the weekend thing, became intimate and he went back home. After that, she never heard from buddy again. Sixty something and still getting duped. The dude manning the column did a ton of “grandma” jokes before answering her. His answer was sometimes, real playas never die. He told her to chaulk it up and move on.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:40 pm
Disco…no
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:41 pm
Single – That was for you. They met online
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:42 pm
CC – Matter of fact, I think we are going to sneak and put some stick ups on the back of her desk when she isnt here.
i'm swiss
October 1st, 2012
2:42 pm
“she’s trying to flatter you by making you feel smart. is she giggling and blushing and all that when you answer her questions? in short, is she trying to push up?”
disco — Well, this is over IM, so it’s hard to say. But if that’s her plan, it ain’t working. It’s not making me think “wow, I’m really smart” — it’s making me think “how does this b!tch figure out how to breathe without somebody constantly reminding her to inhale… now, exhale… now inhale… now exhale…”
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:43 pm
C so he was on OP, (orignal Playa) (LOL)
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:43 pm
it was because some people lied about everything, even had fake pictures.
Never understood the retionale behind that..really?…you’re so ugly or so boring you have to lie about it? Must suck to be them…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:44 pm
Slim buy the odor eaters, and leave them on her desk (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:45 pm
Single – Yeah, I guess so…lol Buddy snatch the goodies and ran. That’s so wrong though. See why I say I’m closing shop early?? Can’t have nobody making a fool out of me…lololol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:46 pm
Sassy me either, how you going to hide it if you ever meet these people.
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:46 pm
swiss – I’m laughing because you paint a picture of a straight up dizzy broad. lol. good luck with that.
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:46 pm
swiss – She must know somebody that knows somebody that knew somebody in order to get that job.
disco – I think sometimes it can kill the fantasy of it all. We naturally form some idea of what a person looks like, acts like etc on the blog and when you see something totally different you’re like dayum. I can’t even read you the same way anymore lol
SlimUno
October 1st, 2012
2:47 pm
how does this b!tch figure out how to breathe without somebody constantly reminding her to inhale… now, exhale… now inhale… now exhale
OMG i’m dying over here!!!!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:48 pm
C that’s why you go in only looking for a good time, so no one should feel like they have been duped. whatever happens, happens, and we move on.
Sassy Me...PYT ;-)
October 1st, 2012
2:49 pm
how you going to hide it if you ever meet these people.
Precisely…just doesn’t make any sense…
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:50 pm
Single – Okay, if you say so.
I’ve met a few blog folks and I didn’t feel disappointed. I thought it was good finally putting faces/names with the monikers.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:50 pm
OT the other day i was watching Peoples Court, and this couple was on there, he was 6′6″ and she ws 5′, and didn’t wear heels, talk about an odd looking couple. But she said her mother so proud of her (LOL)
disco
October 1st, 2012
2:52 pm
Slim – the concept of killing the fantasy works. I was fishing for something but wasn’t too sure of what it was.
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:53 pm
disco – I was fishing for something but wasn’t too sure of what it was.
Now that’s what I thought when you put it out there.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
October 1st, 2012
2:55 pm
Single – That was for you. They met online (LOL)
When I finally meet my ex in person, we both were like naw, we can just be friends, but by the end of the weekend we were in love (LOL) don’t know what the heck happened in those 3 days (LOL)
Celisea
October 1st, 2012
2:57 pm
Single – C’mon now, you meet someone “online” which seems to be the platform for hooking up, with the intents of being “just friends?” By the end of the weekend in love? Alright now…do yo thang