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Dating: Process of elimination?

My friend JB has a common dating dilemma that happens to the best of us: He has two really great prospects but is having a difficult time deciding which one he should eliminate and which one should get all of his attention.

Things have been pretty casual and laid back, but he knows this won’t last forever. At some point, he has to decide who is more suitable for him.
What do you do if you have two romantic interest and both seem worth the effort? Do you decide based on who you are most physically attracted to? Who you are most compatible with in terms of background, upbringing, values, etc.?

Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to figure out who to pursue and who to let go? How did you decide?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

292 comments Add your comment

disco

October 1st, 2012
11:47 am

CC – it’s amazing how many folks have horror stories re that first turkey. thank goodness my first turkey went off without a hitch. one of my friends had her family over and her first turkey wasn’t cooked through. her mother picked it up, wrapped it and said she would take it home to finish cooking it. talk about embarrassing.

celisea – I am familiar with the mayonnaise sandwich. never ate one though. now I still enjoy a good syrup sandwich every now and again. syrup on white bread, not cornbread. lol.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
11:53 am

I’ve been on the phone this morning with the guy that leads the portfolio I’m getting and ummm, I’m gonna really have to stretch out of my comfort zone. He really seems cool and excited to be working together but the chick that’s leaving apparently didn’t “train” him. He’s kind of needy…lol Imma have to “wean” him off of me eventually…lol But, at least he seems cool.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
11:55 am

disco – We did the syrup sandwhiches too.

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
12:04 pm

disco~ OMG! I am so glad that no one but the then hubby was around to witness my epic failure on that first turkey! Of course, it really didn’t matter because he told EVERYONE… Tell your friend it could have been worse. It could have been her MIL instead of her mother…

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
12:08 pm

I have a deacon at church that teases me to this day about my kid eating ketchup sandwiches. Apparently as a little kid the two of them had a convo and she told him about eating ketchup sandwiches. My kid is tiny (size 0) and has always been even as a little girl. Sooo, he’d say you better feed that baby something other than ketchup sandwiches so she can put some weight on. Of course he’s laughing, but the first time he said it was I was like what???? I don’t even shake a ketchup bottle unless it’s over FF. Well, she tells me one day about 5 or 6 years later where she’d eaten ketchup sandwiches. AT MY SISTER’S. Before my sister passed, she would keep my kid a lot. First starting off because I worked a second shift, but then because she was so fond of her. I told him that I finally found out where the ketchup sanwich thing started. She’s never eaten one at my house but apparently it was one of those things she and my sister liked doing. Go figure.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 1st, 2012
12:09 pm

Disco, I use jiffy and go by the instructions, been thinking about bricking up my house with them, just not the way mama used to make it (LOL)

disco

October 1st, 2012
12:17 pm

okay y’all. even though I just laughed at myself I’d appreciate if y’all didn’t laugh at me. how come I just ran my hand up the back of my neck and ran dead smack into a beady bead. I had to giggle. I worked it out as best I could with my fingers but what can you really do? I fluffed my hair a bit and now I have to let it go.

kimmie

October 1st, 2012
12:21 pm

Single – Get some butter flavor & add 1/2 teaspoon. Sub buttermilk for regular milk. Add a tablespoon of oil. I guarantee it will make a world of difference.

When you master that, add some corn kernals, either canned or frozen, about 2/3 cup, to the batter. Takes it to another level.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
12:22 pm

disco – You sport a natural right? I couldn’t do it. I was in the chair at the salon pronto Saturday. Had to get my naps pulled…lol

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
12:24 pm

I baked chicken breats yesterday but didn’t bring any for lunch. I’m starved. I COOKED!!!

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
12:24 pm

I have been wearing my hair shorter for the last year or so with a bit of layers. I likie!!

disco

October 1st, 2012
12:29 pm

celisea – yes. my hair is natural. and it’s real cute today. freshly washed last night and did a flat twist twistout. still, I admit I tend to ignore the neckline simply because my hair is long enough to cover it. lol.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
12:34 pm

breasts…I cooked chicken breasts yesterday.

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
1:31 pm

OK, so I am back and I have an issue to throw out for the blog if y’all are still here. I just got a call from Little Cent’s school telling me that my daughter is “very upset” because she apparently lost her tooth at school this afternoon and now she can’t find the tooth. I told the school I would talk to her when I pick her up this afternoon, but I’m not sure what to say! (We still do the tooth fairy thing), but IDK what to tell her with no tooth. :shock: Suggestions? FYI, I called the hubs and he said that we should try to fake her out with one of the old teeth that we already have, but I am not sure I am cool with that.

Exiled!

October 1st, 2012
1:32 pm

I think I give the Falcons bad luck!

I watched the game,starting from end of 3rd quarter and the Falcons almost got beat..

Really saved by Jesus!

I’m gon Not watch,hopefully the city can have some to cheer bout!

And No,Matt Ryan’s arm ain’t all that,never mind the Roddy White catch.
(yea I read some sports blogs early morning)

Exiled!

October 1st, 2012
1:36 pm

Yes Common,fake it with the old tooth.

Why u wanna be correct on this when the tooth fairy is well,fairy anyway? :lol:

You Funny!

Your hubs is 100! :lol: dudes are practical lol

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
1:40 pm

Ex~ You had better give Matty Ice his props! He hail mary’ed that ball and it got caught by Roddy White. But, realistically, it was Cam that gave up the game. Otherwise we would have been whooped.

On the tooth thing, I’m just afraid that we are going to get caught. It has nothing to do with the faking her out part. Where the heck did we get the tooth if she lost it at school?!?

SlimUno

October 1st, 2012
1:41 pm

CC – Have her write a note to the tooth fairy and put it under her pillow. lol

kimmie

October 1st, 2012
1:41 pm

CC – Tell her the tooth fairy knows she lost the tooth and will still come.

SlimUno

October 1st, 2012
1:41 pm

She can draw a picture of it too, make it fun.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 1st, 2012
1:43 pm

Comon tell her the tooth fairy is like Santa, she sees everything and she knows when someone looses their teeth and will still take care of it.

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
1:44 pm

Thanks Slim & kimmie. I like that idea better than taking the risk of getting caught up by trying to fake her out.

See, Ex, women are practical too. (And in a more truthful way I might add… )

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
1:47 pm

LOL, from the way y’all responded, I guess I am not the first parent to have this issue… :lol:

kimmie

October 1st, 2012
1:50 pm

Slim – Your sister’s situation reminds me of an episode of Dr. Phil I saw the week before you told us about it. The lady on the show’s husband was so jealous and paranoid, he would only let his wife take a shower every 2 days. He said if she wanted to take one every day, that meant she was cheating. He won’t let her wear dresses because it’s too easy access for her to cheat. He times her every time she leaves the house. He won’t let her go to the mailbox because she could hop in the mailtruck and run go cheat right quick. He was crazy as H–, but Dr Phil gave him props for actually coming on the show and admitting to everything. He said sometimes he lays next to her in their bed while she is sleep and touches her and just knows deep down she is cheating on him. He said his 1st wife cheated, so he wasn’t taking any chances this time. :shock:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 1st, 2012
1:52 pm

Kimmie and she’s still with him?? WOW

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
1:53 pm

Damn, kimmie! Dude would be one well left azz! I just couldn’t imagine trying to do my job and deal with day to day stresses while having my S/O sweat my every move. That would just be tiresome.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
1:55 pm

What’s up withe 60 something year old dike??? She bout to get elbowed cause I don’t play that…uuuuggggghhhh!!! She’s always looking (at all women), starring and standing to dang close. Just nasty!!!

SlimUno

October 1st, 2012
2:01 pm

kimmie – I told her this situation sounds like a Lifetime movie…when you mentioned him walking with her to the mailbox, this dude does that too. WOW! She plains to get a restraining order against him too in conjunction with the annulment. It was good to see her laughing and actually relaxing a little bit while she was up here. I can’t imagine feeling like you can’t even talk, text, chat, have drinks with co-workers, go anywhere by yourself etc EVERY DAY…not to mention being accused of cheating with EVERY DUDE. That would drive me pure D crazy.

kimmie

October 1st, 2012
2:01 pm

Single – They had a 2 yr old daughter together and she was young(26) & he was 40+. She was plain & overweight and probably thought she could not do any better. She said he had never hit her, but mentally abused her with his paranoia. :shock:

SlimUno

October 1st, 2012
2:02 pm

She said one day she was saying how she needed to pick up my niece a few items of clothing. This fool told her if he bought her one thing he’d leave her. Who does that???

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
2:02 pm

Heeeeey, my manager just awarded me with “silver award” yaaaaah!!!! For that live presentation I did :mrgreen: Okay, shamefully, I don’t know what all that includes….lolololol

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
2:03 pm

C~ She thanks you sure do have a purty mouth… :lol:

disco

October 1st, 2012
2:04 pm

CC – first things first. I’m somewhat tickled by your dilemma. second, let’s be real. the child is not slow. she KNOWS she lost her tooth. y’all might be able to trick the tooth fairy with an old tooth but I don’t think little cents is falling for it. oh. she might go along but she’ll be giving both of you the side eye.

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
2:04 pm

Slim~ Does your sis work outside the home?

kimmie

October 1st, 2012
2:05 pm

Slim – Was she scared he would hit her? Cause that would have been my out – “yeah I bought her a few things, so go on then”. Call his bluff.

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
2:06 pm

disco~ My thoughts EXACTLY! I told the hubs, she ain’t buying that BS! I like kimmie and Slim’s ideas though. I think that is the route I am going to take. Honestly, even at 6, I am pretty sure she realizes there is no tooth fairy, but she’s trying to ride out the money angle as long as possible.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
2:07 pm

CC – She bout to get knocked the heck out…nuh uh!!! She’s always looking at woment thought. I see her gazing at women in general.

i'm swiss

October 1st, 2012
2:07 pm

Comon — Just tell her Jesus found it, and had the Easter Bunny deliver it to the Tooth Fairy already, so her $ is in the mail.

Celisea

October 1st, 2012
2:08 pm

That mess ain’t cool mayne…IJS I like dudes…nothing but.

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
2:08 pm

I am not one to frown on anyone’s sexual orientation, however, just like I don’t like a wolfish man staring at my tittays (cue swiss’ arrival now that I brought up tittays…) I like a wolfish dyke staring at them even less. IJS…

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
2:09 pm

LOL @ swiss. (BTW, I knew you would arrive when tittays and sex came up. IJS…) :lol:

disco

October 1st, 2012
2:09 pm

swiss – you crazy. not that you put jesus and the easter bunny on the case. why don’t you just go and get your pliers and offer to remove another tooth for her? lol.

i'm swiss

October 1st, 2012
2:14 pm

Comon — I knew the had to be a reason my ball was tingling, so I figured it was time for me to peek in on the ol’ blog. :lol:

disco — Well, that could always be Plan B. :lol:

Exiled!

October 1st, 2012
2:15 pm

Common,my son lost his tooth too and asked same question.

My 14 year old gave me that idea coz we had the old one….

but dude paused the same question and asked’so what happened to my other tooth?’ lol it used to stay by the chimney.

Well,we said,’ the fairy god came and took it’

Damm lies I tell ya!

SlimUno

October 1st, 2012
2:15 pm

CC – Yeah she works at a doctors office. He would call her multiple times during the day. He’d drop her off in the morning, go all the way back for her entire hour lunch break, and come back later that afternoon to pick her up. If they ran past her normal quitting time to do charts or to finish up with patients, he’d assume she was sleeping with someone in there as to why she wasn’t out 5 on the dot. But she has let her co-workers and manager know what’s going on and she advised he has no reason to come up there.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 1st, 2012
2:16 pm

I knew you would arrive when tittays and sex came up.

good segue..

Just passing through and still asking…what’s up with lil Ms.Suise Mochette’s baby shower/blog meen n greet? If it’s still a go…the let’s throw out some dates for this month…

i'm swiss

October 1st, 2012
2:17 pm

BTW… we’ve got a new hire at my company, essentially supposed to be “me” but for a different client. Let’s just say this chick ain’t me. Holy f__k, whatever happened to figuring sh!t out??? This chick is getting on my last nerve with all the stupid questions…

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

October 1st, 2012
2:17 pm

I knew the had to be a reason my ball was tingling

the Uni-baller has arrived… :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

October 1st, 2012
2:18 pm

C funny thing about your lesbo coworker, if that was man doing that, HR would be all over it

Comon Cents

October 1st, 2012
2:18 pm

Sassy~ I’m all in for that. Like I said, we can do it at the clubhouse in my neighborhood if someone wants to throw out some dates.