Have you ever heard a song and was immediately reminded of an old flame? There are even times when I smell a certain cologne and the image of my ex pops in my head, and I smile. Reminiscing can be a really fun trip down memory lane.

Isn’t it fascinating how sounds, smells, or places can remind us of how we felt the first time we experienced them? I am a sentimental gal, so I have held on to a few mementos of former flames. When I want to think of the good memories, I pull out old photos or seek out reminders of happier times.

What are your best memories with someone you dated? What kind of things trigger particular memories of an old love?

Do you still have items from your past relationships that hold good memories for you?

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My friend Jeff was offended that a woman he asked over to his house for a first date declined his offer. She has known him for months but they only started dating a couple of weeks ago. She told him she was not comfortable having a date at his house.

I can understand why she feels that way. When you invite someone over to your house, it sets things up for a certain level of intimacy. For a lot of women, we have to work up to that point. Not everyone is itching to going all domestic and nestling during those house dates.

Jeff thinks she just wants him to spend money on her and take her out. I’m sure that’s possible, but I would argue that this lady just knows what she wants and is fine with waiting to the appropriate time to go to a man’s house. Should she be penalized for that? Cut her some slack!

What do you think? When is the right time to invite someone over to your house? When someone asks you to a “at home” date, does that mean they are in to you? Does it always …

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Have you ever been out somewhere, minding your own business, and you get approached – when you really don’t want to be? Things can get kind of awkward but it only gets worse when someone’s massive ego gets bruised and they can’t handle it.

In the last few days, I have heard disturbing stories of people completely losing their cool when they get turned down. It’s like they go from sweet talk to rage speak in sixty seconds! Whatever happened to bowing out gracefully or going away quietly?

Of course, letting someone down should be done in a gentle manner, but why do you think some people don’t just move on? What do you do if things escalate?

What is the best way to say you are not interested in someone?

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I had the honor of hosting a really fun event this weekend at the Woodruff Arts Center’s Rich Theater. Yours truly was hostess for the It’s Complicated Live! Tour with matchmaker and TV host, Paul Brunson. Paul has guest blogged on Misadventures in Atlanta and it was great to finally meet him in person.

It was such a fun night! First off, there were a lot of sexy people there, including me (at least I felt sexy!). It was wonderful to see people networking without the pressure of meeting a date. Paul even challenged us with the task of exchanging contact information with at least 3 people before we left. Not necessarily of the opposite sex, either. I accomplished that task…all three were men.

Paul Brunson’s presentation was engaging, informative, entertaining, and I even managed to crack a few laughs with the audience! In a separate part of the evening, I went up for a “demo” on how I approached men. I sort of failed miserably at impressing my target but I was happy to see …

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My friend Justin recently asked me, “How many dates does it take for you to figure out if you want to know more about someone?” – which sort of made me pause. I hadn’t thought of an arbitrary number before because I guess I always knew on date one whether or not there was a connection. Is one date enough, though?

Chemistry is such a weird and unpredictable thing. A lot of times, there are no sparks on the first date, or second date! Heck, you may not feel the boom until date four! The problem is – we usually don’t wait that long for it to show up!

First dates are not everything. Perhaps we all should give our potentials a little time to “cook” to see how hot things could get. Do you think three dates is enough to know if you want to continue seeing someone?

How many dates does it take before you decide the chemistry is there or not there?

What do you like to see, think, or feel about someone to decide whether or not you two are compatible?

Happy Friday!

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Think of your biggest, most colossal dating failures and ponder one thing: Could it have been avoided? I know we like to think we have it all figured out and that we have learned from past mistakes. I hope that is the case! However, history tells us that we humans don’t always remember to follow our instincts.

We see red flags and ignore them. We have an inner voice telling us to steer clear and we ignore it. Why do you think we make choices that goes against what we feel instinctively?

Is our need to connect with someone so deep that we are willing to take risks we probably should never take?

When it comes to dating, do you trust your own instincts? Do you think your judgment gets clouded by other things?

Have you ever gone against your instinct and started seeing someone? Did you regret it or were you happy you decided to take a chance?

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Leave it to Taylor Swift to write a perfectly titled break up song. The thought of getting back together really does not work for everyone. When we consider the dating experiences that were “character building” as my Dad says, we have to know when it is really over.

It is important to remember that no matter how many right things some of our exes say, reuniting with them is a bad idea. I always say that you can love someone but not have to be with them. It is possible to be bad for each other!

Do you have an ex that you are absolutely sure about why you are no longer together? There was no need for closure or continued friendship. Things are so over, you can never go back. Do you think they feel the same way about you?

Have you ever told someone that you could never be with them again? If that is how you feel, do you think it is good to tell someone that to their face? How much honesty should we have in a break up?

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If a new relationship is going really good, chances are, things lead to physical intimacy. This means that the dynamics of the relationship will change. Does it have to? Not necessarily, but when you bring sex in to the situation, things generally take a shift.

It seems there a lot of expectations, so I always think it is good to talk about what those are before you start to get physical. It may make it easier to handle the difference after things get intimate. It’s not just women who change either! A lot of men are known to switch their behavior after sex is introduced in a relationship.

Why do you think sex changes a relationship dynamic so much?

How does it make a difference when it comes to how two people relate?

Do things have to change after sex?

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