My beau has this thing about giving me fashion/style suggestions. The first time he did this, we were getting ready to go to one of his co-workers parties. I got the sense that he wanted to make sure I was “on point” and represented him well.
I am not going to lie, this did not go over well with me. I’ve been dressing myself for years and no man has ever given his opinion about what I wore, how I wore, or why. Yet, here I was having an actual discussion about my dress and shoe selection with the guy I am dating. How did I get here!? I mean, the fact that we are dating shows he already liked my style, doesn’t it? I was actually offended.
After I had a talk with beau and determined he wasn’t trying to be a controlling jerk, we got to a mutual understanding: I won’t throw my fabulous shoe at his head for making fashion suggestions. He won’t try to treat me like some trophy girl that he dresses to his personal liking. It’s all about compromise, people!
My friend was teasing me that we were Kanye and Kim Kardashian. Apparently, Kanye wanted to give Kim a makeover and was making fashion choices for her. That’s just great, now some men will think this is perfectly acceptable behavior.
Would it bother you if the person you were dating had strong opinions about what you wore? Do we have a right to dress our dates like their our little ken and barbie dolls?
Is this supposed to be the new foreplay? Instead of men plotting to get us out of our clothes, they try to get us in clothes? Does that turn men on? Enlighten me, please.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog