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The height requirement

Everyone has those little dating preferences when it comes to looks and appearances. We think that what we are attracted to is a personal choice but I often wonder how much is influenced by other things?

Obviously, the idea of beauty and what constitutes attractiveness gets fed to us in many ways. I don’t know if we are always cognizant of how often this happens. This is especially true when it comes to having a height requirement.

Do you think that something like height can really make a difference in being happy with someone? I know of many women who actually believe that they could not make things work with a man who is as tall or shorter than them. It seems, I don’t know, naive?

Of course we all have those physical features we know we don’t want, but do you think that kind of thing matters ultimately?

Height, weight, hair, teeth, are seemingly small things but some of us base dating decisions on them. Is this a maturity thing? Do we ever outgrow the shallow things or do some of us stick to them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

326 comments Add your comment

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
2:39 pm

Cake in 22 minutes :mrgreen:

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
2:41 pm

kimmie~ Your 1:56 made me think of Verne Troyer (mini-me) and his too tall GF. He’s a midget and she is like 5′10.

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
2:43 pm

disco

September 27th, 2012
2:43 pm

cake? what kind of cake?

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
2:47 pm

don’t know the flavor yet, but it’s from Piece of Cake

13 minutes

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
2:49 pm

I’m actually ready. I went down and didn’t see anyting tasty. Was gonna go to the V but didn’t feel like walking. Then I had a coworker to hit me up at 2:32 for lunch??? Ummm, NOT!! It’s almost dinner time. So, considering I haven’t had lunch I’z ready

Button

September 27th, 2012
2:50 pm

Slim/Exile it’s a mess up in here.
Wait a minute Exile it could very well be a man, can’t leave them out.

Greggles

September 27th, 2012
2:53 pm

You must be at least this tall to ride this D.

cba

September 27th, 2012
2:54 pm

Celisea~ I had mentioned to my wife many times how you and others LOVE piece of cake and about two weeks ago, someone brought piece of cake cupcakes to her job. The way she talked about the cupcake, hell, I thought she had experienced a big “O” :lol:

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
2:55 pm

cba – She WAS experiencing the big O…lol Piece of Cake will “take you there” You should make a special trip this weekend and get the both of you a slice :mrgreen: Come back Monday and tell me what you think. I’m serious.

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
2:56 pm

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
2:56 pm

cba, you sure she didn’t (LOL)

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
2:56 pm

just ugly! Done lol bye C hold it down! lawd have mercy! ;)

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
3:00 pm

Lady – Just ride the clouds :) Have a good one!

DuShawn

September 27th, 2012
3:00 pm

“some chic at ur job is getting laid on the job”…That reminds me of this female I used to work with. She was cool as hell, attractive, elegant, smart, well spoken and helped me to get up to speed when I first came on board. One day she came in my office smelling like straight botussy (i.e booty and …sy.) When she left the odor remained. I began to sniff my own armpits, like dayum… is that me? I watched as she went on to converse with some female co-workers. I’m thinking, I know they smell this chick, one of them will pull her coat discretely. They let her walk off and snickered amongst themselves. I rationalized it by telling myself it’s an isolated occurrence. I know she got a man; they might have gotten a little freaky in the car on lunch break. A few days later, she was funky again. The girl was my friend; I decided I have to find a way to tell her without embarrassing her. I prepared a speech in my head, took her lunch, tried to approach the subject, but couldn’t do it. I didn’t want to hurt her feelings. I concluded, her man smells her every day, Let him tell her.

czBrat ♀

September 27th, 2012
3:04 pm

weeee’re baaaack!

good day, good people.
on topic: i stand fast on my height requirement, cuz i luvs me some 4-6″ heels. don’t wanna look down on my dude.
off topic: the overnight getaway was tons of fun; the concert itself, not so much. sade’s was better overall, but his purple highness’ talent is impressive.

cba

September 27th, 2012
3:04 pm

Celisea~ you gave me a good idea……next time I’m in the dog house, like last week :-(

S&H, if it weren’t from me, I don’t wanna know ;-)

disco

September 27th, 2012
3:04 pm

dushawn – all I’m going to say is that you sound realer than a mug. lol. your stories, friends, situations – just whew. I remember a girl I was friends with back in college got it in before she could get home and clean it off. she told me that she spent the rest of the day avoiding folks and trying not to move too much.

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
3:05 pm

Come on Single..if a chic says no she can’t date u coz u too short for her u mean to tell me its Bullshyzzle?

It’s the truf!

Somebody could tell the other chic no,can’t date u coz u too fat..

I mean,it may not be polite but face it..

Just move on! :lol:

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
3:11 pm

Her man can’t smell her anymore Dushawn,it’s his Normal.

Matter of fact,it maybe the funk that attracted him.

I had a subordinate once that had such body odor..nice chic..and I knew the hubby very well..grew up in same neighborhood and he was friends with my young sibs…

HR pulled this chic aside,I heard but No,u can’t address it..

Funny,at that job,coz chic was close to me,some dudes(managers) even thought I had banged her…she was on folks lips often and folks just observed her being close to me and assumed..,,

But no,didn’t bang this one…

I banged the other crazy light skinned one.

:lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
3:16 pm

(rotflmao) @ cba

Ex maybe it’s okay for you, but being a big boy, I know how to take no for an answer, don’t need an explanation, just like I don’t owe anyone an explanation. you should always treat people how you want to be treated.

I have a neighbor who I must have implied something to, because she once told me that she wasn’t going to date anyone because she was concentrating on her business, 2 weeks later she tell me she’s dating a former classmate. I knew that she was telling me I wasn’t her type, we’re great friends now, hang out together, been there when I need her, just like I’ve been there when she needed me, life isn’t always about having it your way.

MsAtl

September 27th, 2012
3:16 pm

Cel- at $32 for a dozen cupcakes, you’d better experience something other than an extra 2 pounds around your middle.

disco

September 27th, 2012
3:19 pm

Mrs. Atl – I remember a teacher saying way back in high school “a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips”.

S/H – re your neighbor. she was just offering up all this information? you weren’t asking her questions? isn’t she full of herself? lol.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
3:23 pm

Disco, her kids love me, and we had had a few chance meetings because she wanted to find out who this man was her kids were talking about all the time. I may have implied something, I love to talk junk. I’ve done some minor handyman things for her, we call each other our neighbor hood spouses now.

I got engaged once by talking junk (LOL)

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
3:24 pm

disco – Strawberry….AND an added treat, Cami Cakes. We don’t usually have both. Yaaah

cba – Wonderful, glad I could be of help. Not sure where you’re located but there’s a location on 41, on the end where you’re heading up near Vinings

Ms. Atl – Five bucks a slice will get you there…lol

czBrat ♀

September 27th, 2012
3:28 pm

It is a Chris Rock song…
he sings?

disco

September 27th, 2012
3:29 pm

S/H – got engaged? you might want to stop popping off at the mouth. you know the saying “your mouth will write a check your behind can’t cash”.

C – strawberry flavored cake or cake with fresh strawberries or both? look at me, playing with my own emotions. I’m not even in a cake frame of mind. somebody mentioned ice cream earlier. now that’s what I could go for right about now.

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
3:29 pm

I had to take a gang of icing off. Maybe because I haven’t had lunch the sugar seems to be a bit too much today. Whew

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
3:29 pm

Strawberry flavored cake

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
3:30 pm

Disco, open mouth, insert foot (LOL) would have told her that’s not what I meant, but little head said don’t you dare the puddy was/is too good (LOL)

disco

September 27th, 2012
3:37 pm

S/H – I never got a proposal out of doing the do. I have had a guy ask me what I want as in “girl whatever you want I will make it happen”. say what you will about me but I took that sucker to the cleaners one “I need”, “I want”, “I wish I had” at a time. lol.

czBrat ♀

September 27th, 2012
3:39 pm

I took that sucker to the cleaners one “I need”, “I want”, “I wish I had” at a time.
oh sweet jesus.
lmao

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
3:39 pm

Disco, the proposal didn’t come from doing the do, I told here when I saw her wedding announcement in the paper I wished it was me that she was marrying. Somehow she got a proposal out of that (LOL)

disco

September 27th, 2012
3:44 pm

well dang. she was really stretching it then wasn’t she? I hear those janky proposals all the time. “girl if I wasn’t (blank) or if you weren’t (blank), I’d marry you. never thought much of it past the time it took to laugh it off.

brat – it is what it is. i had to make it do what it do.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
3:50 pm

Disco, do talk is only good while we’re doing it, after that all bets are off (LOL)

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
3:53 pm

Single,u just sensitive,see I knew.

Let me play this dating scenario to u..

U make a play for a chic u like..u go for dranks etc and she trying to check u maybe,u checking her…then u go for the jagular,expressing to her ur desires..etc maybe after a week or so of seeing each other…now as for her,she ain’t feeling that right but she been cordial with u..

When chics say No,let’s just be friends,typically us dudes want to press…we don’t just lay off easy like that..we say ‘why baby,I like u like that!’

U tell me u different Single,u don’t press!?

I’m sure u do…..what if she just suddenly tells u,u height is not my type?

True for her…

She is wrong or she is candid in her feelings?

Or u saying U don’t appreciate the candidness? :lol:

disco

September 27th, 2012
4:00 pm

Ex – what the heck are you talking about?

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
4:01 pm

cz – I wouldn’t call it singing ;-)

czBrat ♀

September 27th, 2012
4:03 pm

do talk is only good while we’re doing it, after that all bets are off
my thought exactly. i pay no mind to (nor do i stand by) anything said in the throws of “O”s.
disco’s ex-dude got caught with his pants down, and couldn’t think fast enough to find a way out.
now he’s a very broke, very quiet lover and some poor chickadee has no idea why.

disco

September 27th, 2012
4:08 pm

brat – you funny. he wasn’t caught up in the throes of passion, he got caught up in the pillow talk. apparently didn’t know who he was messing with. I would have been fine if he’d rolled over and gone to sleep without uttering a word. heck, he could have got up and got dressed and mumbled something about calling and I wouldn’t have cared. lol.

goodness. is anyone still here?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
4:08 pm

Ex no I don’t press, if a woman tells me she just wants to be friends, it’s okay with me. I have had more friend sex than I can remember because I don’t press, everyone is not meant for everybody. I’ve had sex with the ones where my height was an issue because they figured out later they wanted to be more than friends, and thought that was the way to get me.

Being candid is one thing, telling me before you’re even sure I’m interested (you have to be this tall to ride this ride! ) is another.

disco

September 27th, 2012
4:09 pm

brat – what’s the little squiggle behind your name? a balloon? a lollipop? what?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
4:10 pm

Disco, that’s some crazy pillow talk, you must have whipped it on him (LOL)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
4:10 pm

time to cut a trail, lata peeps

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
4:13 pm

After a turn down by a chic Single does utter the words,’why baby’

@Disco

What dude does that?

Really unless u come in with a built in inferiority complex?

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
4:14 pm

czBrat ♀

September 27th, 2012
4:17 pm

I would have been fine if he’d rolled over and gone to sleep without uttering a word.
no time for the mushy stuff. you’re a girl after my own heart.

what’s the little squiggle behind your name?
girly symbol. :grin:

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
4:18 pm

Disco u may not understand this coz it don’t happen with u

When u turn down a dude and he says ‘why’ to u, u choke them! :lol:

disco

September 27th, 2012
4:21 pm

brat – you are right. I don’t do mushy. I don’t even like to hear women going “awwww”. just rubs me wrong.

ex – now that post I understood though I have never actually choked a man. I have, however, wished many many times that I was strong enough to successfully choke a man. dag. I’m ashamed to admit that I just got a little bit excited thinking about the prospect of choking a man. I’m shaking my head to clear the image.

czBrat ♀

September 27th, 2012
4:31 pm

disco, the key is to use your forearm, not your hands.