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The height requirement

Everyone has those little dating preferences when it comes to looks and appearances. We think that what we are attracted to is a personal choice but I often wonder how much is influenced by other things?

Obviously, the idea of beauty and what constitutes attractiveness gets fed to us in many ways. I don’t know if we are always cognizant of how often this happens. This is especially true when it comes to having a height requirement.

Do you think that something like height can really make a difference in being happy with someone? I know of many women who actually believe that they could not make things work with a man who is as tall or shorter than them. It seems, I don’t know, naive?

Of course we all have those physical features we know we don’t want, but do you think that kind of thing matters ultimately?

Height, weight, hair, teeth, are seemingly small things but some of us base dating decisions on them. Is this a maturity thing? Do we ever outgrow the shallow things or do some of us stick to them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

326 comments Add your comment

Lily

September 27th, 2012
6:58 am

Yes, height is a requirement. Sorry to all the shorties! lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
6:59 am

“Do you think that something like height can really make a difference in being happy with someone?” NO!!

“Of course we all have those physical features we know we don’t want, but do you think that kind of thing matters ultimately?” They only really matter in the beginning, the thing about it, unless you’re put in a setting where you would get to know that person, you probably won’t get to know any of the other great things about them.

And since I’m vertically challenged I’ve heard the height excuse plenty of times, but had it turn into an “I can deal with it” situation after getting to know me and my other qualities. But by then it’s usually too late.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
7:50 am

Lily, don’t miss your blessing (rotflmao)

Lily

September 27th, 2012
8:03 am

@Single when character deficit is apparent and an added, there’s nothing blessed about that. Let’s see,

a boob
a crybaby
an instigator
a hater
no translates to YES!

Short may not be the worst a man can be, but poor character traits coupled with a height deficit is a deal breaker! lol Now, if you’re tall, WE MIGHT BE ABLE TO WORK IT OUT! lol

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
8:11 am

Single,u vertically challenged….thanks for the disclaimer….coz u have to sell urself…and u did put an informercial out there ofcourse.

On topic:

Height requirement?

It’s all about what pleases the eye! I would not eat food that does look good in my eyes,I don’t care what ‘good’ nutrients the food might contain.

Bless those who are not vane,like myself,who will see an ‘ugly sighting’ and think about the ‘gold’ inside of that. They have the ‘what would Jesus do’ thing in them.

I am not Jesus,I’m gon be Meelo! And Meelo is human!

I can take an’ ugly’,unpleasant to my eyes .. relative,no problem. I got no choice there..it’s blood.

Dating and stuff…yes I can be more discriminatory.

Hey MIA!
Nah…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 27th, 2012
8:16 am

Ok height matters to women and I’m grateful I meet that criteria and I understand it’s a woman’s preference. Character trumps height and I know guys lacking it and hate everybody for their short comings. Then you have the guy who embraces what he is and is comfortable with himself. Lady’s to me you’re better off with the latter.

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
8:16 am

And short men Always have to over impose themselves,over compensate themselves..

I do understand tho….us tall folks don’t do nothing…folks just assume we got authority! :lol:

:lol: sorry Single,that wasn’t a shot at u personally.

I got a short boss..ughhh he grates my nerves smetimes :lol:

Thankfully he knows his stuff.

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
8:20 am

Morning MIA & oh my with the topic~ hmmmmm…….. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 27th, 2012
8:20 am

Lily your list is amusing.

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
8:22 am

And short men Always have to over impose themselves,over compensate themselves..<<<<<<<lol it does seem that way 0_o #smirk

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 27th, 2012
8:23 am

Hey Lady, morning to you.

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
8:34 am

Howdy & Morning BF!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 27th, 2012
8:37 am

Wow Lily, so tall men can’t be those things :-?

Ex, have never and will never try to sell myself, over impose, or compensate, it is what it is, either you like it or you don’t. When someone tells me I’m not their type because I’m short, I move on, but if by chance we become friends, don’t tell me about your TALL man problems :-D

“I do understand tho….us tall folks don’t do nothing…folks just assume we got authority!”
and here lies the reason why you hardly ever find a short con man!!

Exiled!

September 27th, 2012
8:50 am

No sheet con man?

So why uall can’t just be easy …instead of over hyping,over emphasizing and rigid? Why…

Tall folks…we easy..laid back! :lol:

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
9:03 am

Good morning,

As long as we can at least see eye to eye, i’m not picky on height.

disco

September 27th, 2012
9:04 am

good morning. if I were a woman who was 5’10” tall I wouldn’t trip over dating a guy the same height as me. I’m not. I’m short. to date a man the same height as me would almost leave me to dating 5th graders. I also recognize that no one characteristic truly stands alone. for me short and nice looking might beat out tall and ugly. short and muscular would beat out tall and out of shape. I’m not even going into personality traits. we all have shortcomings (no pun intended). lol.

disco

September 27th, 2012
9:08 am

ex – that comment re tall folks having “assumed” authority put me in mind of the phrase “yellow-wasted”. are you familiar with it? that theory that light skin is good in itself but it’s even better if you have good hair, thin features and not brown eyes to go with it? I say that to say that I’ve also had occasion to comment on someone being tall-wasted or fine-wasted or smart-wasted or whatever. just because you have the feature, trait or characteristic doesn’t mean you are willing/able to take the most advantage of it. sometimes the good features/traits are wasted on the wrong individual.

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:15 am

Morning lovelies,

I see we’re off and rolling this morning.

Height: My preference is tall. But, I can work with someone “not so tall” as long as he’s pretty decent. I’m short, so I tend to not want to date short men. I don’t necessarily have to go over 6′0″, somewhere around 5′8″ (my fingers struggled to type that…lol) and up I guess is okay.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 27th, 2012
9:20 am

Morning Slim1, disco, and Cely there aint a thing wrong for y’all liking tall men. I like the way disco @9:08 put it good traits are sometimes wasted on fugged up people.

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
9:26 am

Good Morning!

Height is important to me simply because I don’t want to be looking down on my significant other constantly. I think that there is something about looking up to a man that makes me feel more secure with him. Just personal preference.

However, if the rest of the personality traits were there, I think I could get past short. IJS. Tall and trifling or short and got it together? Yeah, height would go out of the window. :lol:

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:30 am

Morning Blackfoote

Button

September 27th, 2012
9:30 am

G’morning, I can honestly say, I’m not one who is into height, From my experince, tall men can be over compensating, overanalyzing and rigid! Entitled much…..I’m short, 5′4 and to date someone shorter, well he would be a midget. My short, is a man who is along the lines of 5′4 to 5′8. Anything taller than 5′8 is tall to me. And I don’t do the crick in my neck kissing him or tippy toes to put my arms around his neck. I like the eye to eye contact while standing up. We like what/who we like and for some there’s just no compromising. Only down size I had dating a short guy was not being able to wear my heels. The cute lil black dress does not look good with flats.

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:31 am

Yummmm, burrito in a bowl from good ole Chick-fil-a :mrgreen:

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:32 am

Slim – How was your business trip?

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
9:34 am

So, blog ladies, going by Button’s definition, if you met a man who was 5′4 but he had it together (I mean good job, nice car, nice house, no baby mommas,easy on the eyes, considerate, romantic, etc) would you date him?

MsAtl

September 27th, 2012
9:34 am

Lol, Disco- I agree with you on the fifth grader thing, I am vertically challenged too. Never heard the term “yellow-wasted,” but that theory always made me want to lecture someone about ignorance. I don’t have a height requirement, but I do require manners, decency, etc.

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
9:39 am

Oh my C~ lol typical sis! good initial post too! let me skip to my lou! ;)

disco

September 27th, 2012
9:40 am

mrs. atl – my grandmama and ‘nem (lol) used to say “yellow gone to waste”. at some point in time we changed it to “yellow wasted”.

CC – if dude had everything going for him and the only downside I could see was that he was short, I would be a fool to pass it up. I’m grown and understand that you can’t have everything. if the only true compromise was a height requirement I’d be way ahead of the game.

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
9:40 am

good traits are sometimes wasted on fugged up people.

BF – That sound like a perfect saying for a t-shirt line. ;-)

Cel – Thanks for asking, it went very well. We’re going to be phasing into some major changes as far as the programs we use for my job and I was part of brainstorming of what is needed and what is a waste of time.

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
9:44 am

disco~ Kevin Hart is 5′2. I just don’t know that I could go that short! I would look like the jolly black giant next to him. :lol:

I love me some Prince but I couldn’t have anything more than a one night (ok, maybe 5 night) stand with him. Too short.

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
9:46 am

:lol: A 5-night stand with Prince?!!!! Cel, do you think you could handle that many days/nights with that old skool freak? :lol:

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:47 am

Heeey there Lady(bug), what’s crackalacking? Thanks for liking my post :)

Slim – Cool. That says good things about you if you’re on the brainstorming team :) I love it when sisters get in where they fit in. I do :)

Bluzgirl

September 27th, 2012
9:47 am

Haven’t we had many discussions on the height issue in the past? :-)

I’m not picky about height. I’ve had taller, same height, and slightly shorter. One can’t help how tall they are, so I won’t hold it against him.

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:48 am

Slim – Nuh uh….lol

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
9:48 am

Slim~ IDK about Cel, but I am willing to try to be up to that challenge… :D

disco

September 27th, 2012
9:49 am

CC – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. I’ve never envied taller women. I’ve wanted to be a lot of things in my life but tall was never one of them. heck, my mother is only 5 feet nothing so I guess I’ve always felt tall just having a few inches on her.

in a quick round of who can hit it – Kevin hart or prince? I’d have to go with Kevin hart.

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
9:49 am

Naaaah, just give me easy lovin’ I might break something….lol And before someone calls me a prude, nope I’m not :mrgreen:

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
9:51 am

disco~ The only place that being a tall woman could be an advantage is when it comes to fashion. Other than that, the only plus I can think of is that I don’t need a step stool to get things off the top shelf…

disco

September 27th, 2012
9:56 am

CC – speaking of fashion, I’ve always bought average/regular pants instead of petites since I’m the tall end of petite and I wear heels all the time. ordered some stuff last week and I swear the pants just seemed super long. I pondered briefly if I was shrinking or if the store is changing their sizing system. I’m going to chalk it up to having received a reject pair of pants. lol.

Lady~must be nice!

September 27th, 2012
9:57 am

Prince?!? too intimidating his transformation is reserved and how can you dismiss his past?!? 0_0 lol

Kevin Hart irks me but his money looks great~ I am just not a huge comedy buff~ lol

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
10:00 am

Lady~ I don’t want to dismiss his pass. I kinda like the freaky/domination thing. I pay the cost to be the boss all day long. Don’t want to do it in the bedroom too. :lol:

Kevin Hart irks me but his money looks great :lol: :lol: :lol:

Comon Cents

September 27th, 2012
10:01 am

disco~ I think that they are changing the sizing system. Lately, I can’t order anything online. I have to go to the store and physically try stuff on. Ughhh!!!

Button

September 27th, 2012
10:02 am

My guy is short, and I don’t look at his idiosyncrasies as a result of him being short. Look we short people are always going to be made fun of or passed by for numerous of things. And we’re almost always labeled as having an attitude because of our height. I’ve learned to laugh it off but it does hurt sometimes esp when there’s malic behind it. Short people do have a reason to live!

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
10:08 am

Cel/CC/Lady – Yeah Prince does make me nervous but i’m sure he would have me leaving out of that Purple Palace a whole other person. I’m not sure the beau would be able to handle the Freakenstein Prince would create in a matter or days :oops:

Is it too early for O/T’s?

disco

September 27th, 2012
10:09 am

CC – generally I try almost everything on. I only online shop at NYCO because of the great discounts and the fact that I’ve worn their stuff for so long that I was (until now – lol) totally comfortable with their sizes.

button – the short thing, in my opinion, is another double standard. men are judged much more harshly for being short than women are. for women, being short is almost “cute”. almost like pudgy or chunky on a child is cute. not so cute on a grown up. it is what it is.

SlimUno

September 27th, 2012
10:10 am

just give me easy lovin’

Slim now humming, “Easy like Sunday morning..”….

Celisea

September 27th, 2012
10:10 am

Slim – Nope…not to early for off topics, please do…lol Toss it out there.

Yeah, I see Prince being Freakenstein too…lol

Willie Dynamite

September 27th, 2012
10:14 am

Morn all,
Height is a preference that tends to get attention b4 other traits (good\bad) can be portrayed. I thought I liked dark,short and down to earth cool chicks. Well I married a red, tall, vain model type chick. Go figure.

disco

September 27th, 2012
10:16 am

WD – now that’s funny. by the way, it’s not that you don’t like dark, short and down to earth. just turns out you liked wifey better. besides, she could be dark, short and down to earth on the inside. lol.

islandgirl

September 27th, 2012
10:16 am

Height is important but is not a deal breaker. I am 5′9′ without shoes…add stilettos then I stand at 6′0′ so my obvious preference is for men who are taller than I am. However, I can deal with some who is slightly shorter than I am as long as he is comfortable with my height and my preference to wear high heels. The issue goes both ways. His character and love (for me) is more important than his height.