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Isn’t dating a contact sport?

One of my friends recently had a first date with a guy she met at church. She was looking forward to the date because she had been scoping the guy out for weeks. Things were going really great until Church Boy went from Christian Gentleman to Christian Grey in a span of about two hours.

She cringed when he made some inappropriate remarks about her breasts but things took a turn for the worse when he started pawing her like a piece of meat. She was immediately turned off and she wonders why he felt compelled to be so “hands on” with her in the first place.

I joked with her that dating is a contact sport! Of course you want to get close to your date. However, it is also important to read the body language and follow the cues that your date is giving! If he could clearly tell by her facial expressions and attitude shift that she was not cool with his behavior. So why didn’t he get the hint?

When do you usually feel okay getting physically closer and affectionate with someone? Do you usually go by the connection and chemistry or some predetermined time frame?

Do you think dating is a contact sport? How can you tell when it is okay to make that kind of move?

What would you do if someone was out of bounds with their dialogue or physical contact with you on a date? Would you bother giving them another date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 26th, 2012
7:23 am

“Church Boy went from Christian Gentleman to Christian Grey” Wow that’s a suprise the someone in the church could actually act like that. (LOL)

“When do you usually feel okay getting physically closer and affectionate with someone? Do you usually go by the connection and chemistry or some predetermined time frame?” This isn’t something that I usually plan, but it just happens.

“Do you think dating is a contact sport?” No, there are laws against that, and not playing any games.

What would you do if someone was out of bounds with their dialogue or physical contact with you on a date? Simple tell them

“Would you bother giving them another date?” I believe in second chances, but third and forth, probably not you’ve proven to me who you really are.

Roberta

September 26th, 2012
8:49 am

“What would you do if someone was out of bounds with their dialogue or physical contact with you on a date?” I’ve put a lot of thought into this and think I just may have come up with an answer. I’d tell them to stop.

Exiled!

September 26th, 2012
8:50 am

Is dating a contact sport?

Really?

Church boy ofcourse missed the memo coz he was reading the bible(joke). But seriously,u wanna touch the one who is open to being touched and not on a first date unless uall had mega,long term phone chemistry!
Online daters will go from talking on the phone to meeting and humping each other in five minutes….well going off topic here :lol:

But umm…where was I?

Contact sporting……church boy still has to learn reading facial expression,speech tone and body language. U learn that then I’ll know when to excuse urself and run for the heels,when the date should be cut short,when u need to plan for a second date or whether u should excuse yourself right there on the first date even,dart across the road to the convenience store and get urself some ribbed three pack of troj!

It maybe about to get haawt once u get outta there coz she ready! :lol:
Morning MIA!

(Single? U wanna punch Nancy Grace? that was hilarious !) :lol: Boy I laughed.

Exiled!

September 26th, 2012
8:52 am

Excise spelling..ur boy is in bed.

Exiled!

September 26th, 2012
8:53 am

disco

September 26th, 2012
8:54 am

good morning folks.

Ex – he missed the memo because he was reading the bible? that was funny. thanks for starting my day with a laugh. guess old boy was just “laying on hands”. lol.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
9:03 am

Morning!

On topic: Well, I don’t quite understand what “church” got to do with this. There are gentlemen in church as well as out. And there are sheep’s in wolves clothing out of church as well as in. My issue is that he’s disrespectful….period. I don’t think she should be surprised, offended maybe but not surprised.

I remember having the BIGGEST crush on Kevin, the Kappa! He wasn’t a Kappa when I first started crushing on him as I knew him when we were kids. I didn’t hang around him too much cause there was always a gang of chicks hanging onto him. And one thing about me, I ain’t sweating a dude everybody’s hanging on…it’s a pride thing. My 12th grade year (I may have mentioned on here before), I was walking to my aunt’s (my mom picked me up there), from band practice and I spotted him turning into the entrance leading to the back of the school. To this day, he didn’t know I did. This was a couple of weeks prior to school starting. Some of y’all know the marching band always started practice ahead of the school year. Well, he didn’t live on that side of town but his grandmother did, which is where he spent the summer. There and hanging in the back of the school with the cheerleaders. Well, apparently he saw me and turns into the school but turns his car around and pulls to the driveway entrance as I’m approaching (I was walking from the front of the school), and pretends he was leaving!!! lol He asks if I wanted a ride down. So me, being the eager beaver, hop in. I never let on that I saw him whip his car around. We talked and he asked for my number. We chatted a few times but didn’t do too much hooking up. Over the years we keep in touch. He joins the AF ahead of pledging and just happens to be home visiting. He calls me. We go out. Good Lawd buddy was fine as heck. I take him to our company picnic. He tries a few tricks but nothing…lol Soooo, I guess pulling out all the stops, he goes for the gusto and invites me to church. After church, we stop for dinner and take it back to his mom (cause he was still in the AF). I’m digging him but VERY skeptical because of there’s always a gang of chicks swarming around him. We get back to his mom, eat dinner and it starts. He was all over me like fly on fly paper. I was peeling him off me. His brother happen to come in, and for me was my saving grace. I talked to him a few times after then but I NEVER gave it up….mainly cause he was too dang anxious and I was offended. But I did tell him he was gonna burst hell wide open cause he was all up in the church service but was all over me shortly thereafter.

Off topic: I had the biggest laugh at y’all….seriously. IT AIN’T SERIOUS. I was reading last night and saw the accusations and what not. Honestly, I’m flattered, considering…..

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
9:09 am

Haven’t seen eye candy in a few weeks….I just had the pleasure of looking up and there he was!! lol

disco

September 26th, 2012
9:09 am

good morning C. you went back down memory lane with your story this morning. I had a friend back in high school. went to visit her and her brother let me in. thing was, she wasn’t home. needless to say I tussled with brother and finally got out of there. told my brother and cousins. they got into it with her brother. girl got mad at me because my peeps got with her brother. she and I finally had at in the cafeteria all because her brother was “touchy feely”.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
9:16 am

morning disco – Yes yes, I can definitely relate. I think if buddy was just a bit more patient, he might have snagged me….lol But yeah, I was seriously peeling him off me. That’s no joke. I didn’t call for backup (lol), but I was dang shole getting up out of there. Funny thing, we talked a lot after then but I never trusted him from that point. I remember getting invited (post pledging) to his condo with a gang of other folks and that was the first reality check I had of women and all the stuff they do. Not saying in a bad way, but I was still green-eyed and a virgin. I didn’t know nothing. Just knew to hang on to the goods….lol Shoot, if I hadda told my brothers, there would have been hell to pay.

I did get it big time from my mama once. I was about 18 and he wanted to come over. No one was there. My mom plainly said, she wasn’t cool with me having company while she and pops wasn’t there. She outright said it…thangs happen….lol Well he called and I did NOT want to turn him away. So I let him come over but sat in the car. I was thinking well, she said nothing about the car. Honestly we talked…and that was all. But wouldn’t you know my mama called and there was no answer. By the time she got home, we were sitting outside. She was all nice and polite but I knew to get on out the car. She and pops were waiting on me when I went in. IT WAS WORTH IT….lol

disco

September 26th, 2012
9:21 am

C – the best part of that story was the “it was worth it” at the end. dude must have been some kind of fine for you to be willing to face the consequences and repercussions.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
9:30 am

disco – I ain’t gonna lie…..good Lawd in heaven. Not only was he handsome, he was fine as heck…whew I shole wanted to give him some. I just couldn’t risk getting use. He was kinda cruel to chicks. I just gave him a run for his money. We haven’t talked in years but when I do see him, there’s alwasy that air of being cool as ever.

Yep, that was worth the lecture and the smack my mama gave me…for being hardheaded…lol

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
9:32 am

I can’t play today. I have a dentist appointment which means I’m out of here early, which means I have to work. Anxiety will set in when I’m pulling up…lol

disco

September 26th, 2012
9:48 am

first a paper cut that required medical attention and now a slow blog. it’s going to be a long day.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 26th, 2012
9:54 am

Hey Disco, how you get a paper cut that required medical attention, I thought that only happened where I work (LOL)

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
9:55 am

Celisea, I C U really feel like typing this morning. Dayum!

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
9:56 am

Dushawn – My baaaaad! I started out recalling the story and typed as the recollection popped in my head…lol Actually, I had to condense a bit :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 26th, 2012
9:57 am

A man senses ought to be acute enough to signal when a woman is ready to commit sexually. Grabing, pulling, and yanking on a woman doesn’t go well with trying to establish a comforting mood. On dates the man grabs the bull by the horns and the lady holds all the marbles. Set the mood don’t say or do anything that can be construed as negative, if she likes you like that you will be the first to know.

disco

September 26th, 2012
9:58 am

S/H – I was attacked by a killer envelope. that thing was fierce. and, of course, by medical attention I mean I had to break out one of my emergency bandaids that I keep in my purse.

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
10:01 am

I went on a date with a guy with a filthy mouth and grabby hands. It was such a turn off. He tried to shove his tongue down my throat when I just wanted to give him a little peck. I had no problem backing away and getting the heck out of there as soon as I could. He called for a couple of days and I never answered or called him back.

Trust me…I’ll let you know if it’s ok to touch me…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 26th, 2012
10:01 am

Hello to you good people.

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
10:02 am

Good morning BF!

disco

September 26th, 2012
10:04 am

bluz – re your comment “I’ll let you know if it’s okay to touch me”. I had to giggle because it made me think of when I’ve had guys tell me that I’m too bossy and that they can even imagine that I’m too difficult to have sex with because I’d probably spend the whole time issuing orders. I had to laugh because there’s a bit of truth to it. no point in going with something that’s not working and not speaking up. lol

good morning REAL blackfoote.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 26th, 2012
10:05 am

“Trust me…I’ll let you know if it’s ok to touch me…”

Hey there Bluz that’s a classy feminine line.

disco

September 26th, 2012
10:06 am

BF – what’s with the moniker? do you have really black feet? is one foot darker than the other? is it secret code for something else. I’m not a person that goes barefoot. I think it’s nasty and I don’t even go without shoes in my own house. I’m always grossed out when I see people and the bottom of their foot is just black. how long do you have to go shoeless for your feet to get like that? oops. guess I went down a path there. sorry.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 26th, 2012
10:09 am

Hey disco and Cely………..LOL

disco @10:04 I can visualized that.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
10:11 am

So it ain’t just me? I never walk around barefeet. Ever! I wear bedroom shoes or flipflops in the house. Only in my room will I take off my shoes and that’s hopping on the bed or getting in my chair. When I vacation or travel, I always take rubber flipflops and stand in them in the shower. That’s the only time I’m not taking a bubbly…lol I’m not sitting where a gang of folks have sat, nor walking.

Okay…back to work

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
10:12 am

Hey there Blackfoote…

I gotta get some work done…

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
10:15 am

Howdy MIA & C~ what is poppin’ today?!? lol ;)

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
10:15 am

Heeeeey there Lady! What’s crackalackin??

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
10:16 am

LOL disco! I can see you being like a drill sergeant!

I gotta say that I love walking around barefoot! I can’t wait to take my shoes and socks off when I get home. As a matter of fact, I keep my shoes off under my desk at work. I can’t stand having my feet confined unless it’s really cold!

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
10:20 am

I left my lunch on my bed and someone needs to be nice and bring me lunch today C~ silly me! what we do for our kids I am making sure she has everything and overlook me~ lol #motherhood :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 26th, 2012
10:22 am

LOL…..@disco my feet are normal clear toe nails and flush red color on the bottom, no crust around the ankles or fungus underneath the nail bed. I can wear sandals without having my feet looked bad upon, I’ve seen guys with sandals on and it makes me sick just glancing at them. I can’t walk around the house barefoot either.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 26th, 2012
10:22 am

Disco, yea those things sure do hurt LOL) and there’s nothing wrong with a bossy woman (LOL)

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
10:24 am

Lady – The perfect excuse to buy lunch!!! lol Splurge a bit and getchaself something tasty. Yuuummm!!!

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
10:25 am

Lady – You should get your boo to bring something buy and eat outside together :mrgreen:

disco

September 26th, 2012
10:30 am

BF – now you ain’t never lied about the state of some men’s feet (some women too for that matter). whew lawd is all I can say to that. thick, scaly, crusty, hard, discolored, corns, bunions. ick.

S/H – it’s funny. I never really thought of myself as bossy or pushy. I don’t run around trying to tell people what to do. I admit I have a somewhat aggressive or abrasive demeanor but bossy? i blame it on birth order (being the oldest)

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
10:31 am

hmmmmm C~ time isn’t on our side for that lol but he may drop something by~ lol

yeah I am probably going to do a to go order from Tin Drum and move on sis~ I am just ready to go! okay what is the daily topic lol

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
10:36 am

Lady – Well just danggit then….lol

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
10:38 am

Is dating a contact sport?!? hmmmmm lol @ Ex lol

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
10:55 am

welp it is quiet around here let me go get some DSM work completed……sigh lol bbl perhaps~ :)

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
11:00 am

Morning All!!

SMDH at the topic & Wise’s story! Seriously, dude was THAT dense and disrespectful?? Pawing and grabbing – who does that? It’s so not necessary. If all he wanted was sex, it’s plenty out there to get without acting a fool. Now she has to see his tired behind at church too! Idiot!

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
11:02 am

Oh and I haven’t read Shades of Grey, but from what I heard CG is pretty smooth with his words and his actions. So dude above is not a good comparison!

LeeH1

September 26th, 2012
11:03 am

The guy has to learn the non-verbal signals about how far to go.
The woman has to learn non-verbal signals about how far to go, too. Miscommunication is often a two-way street.

disco

September 26th, 2012
11:07 am

hey there kimmie! why did I just think of the scene from my best friend’s wedding where they were calling kimmie in the bathroom?

I wish I could leave work, drive to the airport, walk up to the ticket counter and by the next ticket to wherever.

lee – non verbal my behind. dude would have got “MF if you don’t get your GD hands off of me”. oops. we talking “church” folks. he would have overheard me talking to my jesus “dear lord, please help this man to remove his hands from my person before I have to come back and ask you to forgive me for my actions”.

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
11:08 am

This may sound punkish….But I have been on the opposite end of the “too much grabbing and touching” scenario. I’m trying to watch the game; she’s steadily grabbing the front of my boxers, nibbling on my ear, playing with my chest. I’m moving my head, restraining her hands and trying to look over her shoulder at the next play, all while thinking, this is how women must feel when being groped by a dude.
I really wanted to say “Dayum, would you chill for a minute?!” Finally, I said ……….”Just hold me”………..Yeah right……..….you know I whipped it out!

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
11:11 am

disco – Preach!LOL!!!

disco

September 26th, 2012
11:14 am

du shawn – I’ve heard that complaint before. the real issue for many isn’t the groping so much that old girl is trying to interrupt the game. some women really do think they have to compete with football for your affection. hence the term “football widows”. still, your post made me think of all the times when we females sat around and talked about the guys who acted like they were afraid of the booty. some guys are you know. they want it but they don’t know what to do with it. lol.

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
11:37 am

Afternoon all,
Buddy need to work on a few things. He tried to get some and if he wouldve chilled ol girl mightve just gave him some. Some dudes can’t get outta they own way.

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
11:37 am

-Disco- “…..all the times when we females sat around and talked about the guys who acted like they were afraid of the booty.” That is the ultimate Jedi Mind Trick. When I would date a woman, that is exactly what I wanted her to think. Unlike the unsuccessful suitor who played himself on the first date by being too aggressive, I want a woman to believe that the booty is the furthest thing from my mind. All the while knowing, when she gives it to me….I’m never giving it back.

disco

September 26th, 2012
11:46 am

dushawn – unh unh. nope. mind trick my behind. there are some men who have just always been intimidated by the fairer sex. if you think on it you might know one or two.

disco

September 26th, 2012
11:48 am

of course it could be a personality thing. I have one friend who insists she likes to be “talked into it”. she’s got a hang up about initiating anything. feels it’s not a “woman’s place”. I’m like whatever, you better go for yours. I suppose there are men who feel pressured (read scared) if a woman is more brazen than he’s comfortable with.

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
12:18 pm

Disco – So if dude is getting touchy feely with you its MFer get your GD hands off me. BUT if you are getting touchy feely with him and he hesitates its he’s scared or intimidated.

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
12:32 pm

Nice topic…

BUT if you are getting touchy feely with him and he hesitates its he’s scared or intimidated.

Been there..done that back in college and a time or two in my post collegiate days . In a way it kinda strokes one’s ego cause you’ve got’em shook and I’ve even laughed (to myself of course) a few times…thankfully it didn’t happen too often. Patience is definitely a virtue..

disco

September 26th, 2012
12:36 pm

WD – it’s just another one of those double standards. they’re everywhere (double standards that is, not scared men). lol.

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
12:49 pm

Sassy – heyyyyen

Disco – true that hahaha. I don’t think I’ve ever been shook or intimidated but I have gotten some touchy feely attention from a chick that I just didnt want. Guess to her I was scared of it.

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
12:50 pm

I dated a chick in college who always seemed to be at her horniest whenever I really needed to study/write a paper/take an exam/etc. That chick was a baaaaaaaad influence on me, because I was never the most studious to begin with. But then to have writing a term paper compete with getting some puddy??? Academics are coming in 2nd in that race every time! :lol: I failed a Portuguese class because I stayed in bed f__king her instead of going to take the final exam. :shock: And before you ask, yes, that puddy was worth it. :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)

September 26th, 2012
12:53 pm

“I’m trying to watch the game; she’s steadily grabbing the front of my boxers, nibbling on my ear, playing with my chest. I’m moving my head, restraining her hands and trying to look over her shoulder at the next play,”

I can find out who won later!! (LOL)

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
12:54 pm

There’s some puddy we should be scared of. There are some things a shot of penicillin won’t clear up. :lol:

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
12:55 pm

I failed a Portuguese class because I stayed in bed f__king her instead of going to take the final exam.

Woooow….talk about that “thayow”. I remember once before Mr. Bermuda moved back to the “A” he was here visiting and I made him so late for the airport he was running like O.J. did in that commercial back in the day :lol:

Heey Willie ;-)

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
12:55 pm

disco/WD – I agree, a double standard. It could also set the tone for what type of relationship will follow. If chick is all over dude off the rip, yall might just have a FWB situation at the most.

I’ve never been a “football widow” and never understood women like that. I guess growing up with 4 brothers and a dad that loved all sports, as well as loving football myself shaped my mindset there. It would never occur to me to try to get up in a dudes face while he’s trying to watch the game! That’s stupid! There is plenty time for that before and after! Even if I’m not into the game, I’m usually trying to get my drink & food on anyway!

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
12:56 pm

Hmmm… I just noticed “penicillin” sounds like “penis healin’” said really fast. Coincidence….?

disco

September 26th, 2012
12:56 pm

WD – I also think it may come into play a little bit more when a guy feels he’s out of his league. yeah, I know most men won’t admit to being in over their heads but there’s a few men that have admitted to me that they were struck with performance anxiety when a real bad chick offered it up. guess the threat of performance anxiety is enough to make a brother act scared. lol.

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
12:58 pm

Sassy — Yeah, I was thinking to myself, mid-stroke, “If I bust now, I can still make it in time… aaaah, f__k it, I’ll re-take it in summer school” :lol:

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
1:03 pm

Swiss- Very poor study habits!!! :lol:

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
1:04 pm

Swiss – Dayum man, hahaha

Disco – I just cant relate to that personally. heyal if anything I’d probably pull a hamstring or something trying my damndest to tedatazzup. hahaha

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
1:37 pm

It would never occur to me to try to get up in a dudes face while he’s trying to watch the game! That’s stupid!

Ain’t it though…I’d be trying to watch the game my da.mned self…now halftime might be a different story ;-)

“If I bust now, I can still make it in time… aaaah, f__k it, I’ll re-take it in summer school”

Now that’s that “good,good”. Well we’re glad you still graduated Swiss :mrgreen:

guess the threat of performance anxiety is enough to make a brother act scared.

And the last thing we’d want is a hasty deposit with anearly withdrawal :-(

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
2:03 pm

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
2:07 pm

“…..I’d probably pull a hamstring or something trying my damndest to tedatazzup…..” yall know all the blog men are super studs. However, Imma keep it real and fess up to the extremely rare, few and far between episodes of performance anxiety. I know I’m not the only dude on here that has had to excuse himself to the rest room for the Penis Pep Talk… Be in there like:”C’mon buddy, please don’t do this to us. Not now man! We have been setting this up for months!! Get right Dog, this is what we do. Now Let’s get out there and beat it!!! Buddy, do this one for me, I promise I’ll stop choking you so often.”

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
2:10 pm

Buddy, do this one for me, I promise I’ll stop choking you so often.”

:lol:

You guys <em<do that?…

disco

September 26th, 2012
2:13 pm

dushawn – the blog men are more than just the world’s best lovers. they are the best husbands, boyfriends, fathers, baby daddy’s, neighbors, athletes, employees, employers, friends. they are favorite cousins, uncles, and the one that got away. what? you didn’t know about the blog men? I wasn’t talking about “them”. I was talking about the rest of the easily intimidated, performance anxiety stricken adult male population.

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
2:18 pm

Howdy folks! I don’t take too kind to the Gropy Creeper Dude…We all naturally have a certain amount of intimate space. If we’ve just met, then you need to stay OTISP (ouside the Intimate Space Perimeter) Only after I feel some comfort and trust in you will there be any inappropriate touching. I have to check dudes at my job on that note more times than I should. The space around a woman’s waist is considered intimate. A church hug will suffice but under no circumstances should your arms find their way around that zone of my body.

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
2:26 pm

Wow…only on page 2?!?!

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
2:27 pm

Only after I feel some comfort and trust in you will there be any inappropriate touching.

For some reason I found this funny :lol:

I have to check dudes at my job on that note more times than I should.

I do,too but it’s almost always my hair…guys just think it’s okay to touch my hair like it’s okay and I’m very funny about that. Sometimes they ask but most times they don’t and that irks me…

Sassy Me...PYT ;-)

September 26th, 2012
2:28 pm

only on page 2?!?!

Not unless you’d like to share something…

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
2:35 pm

Only after I feel some comfort and trust in you will there be any inappropriate touching

Sassy – Now that I’ve re-read my statement, it is pretty funny :lol:

disco

September 26th, 2012
2:36 pm

I never have anything to share (my life is just boring like that) but I thought about my new year’s resolution earlier today (1 trip every 2 months and 1 ticketed event per month). I went back over my calendar and did a tally. so far I’ve got in 5 trips and 10 events. think I’ve got the resolutions licked this year.

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
2:51 pm

I am staying over to complete some work so how does 3- 5 rock in here…………………sitting at my desk currently dreading completing these tasks……………..sigh!

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
2:57 pm

Yall funny,
Shiiiiid Im honest bout my mini me. Heyal I told y’all bout wifey getting the best of me then talking isht the whole next day. Yep it happens, babe Ruth didn’t hit a homerun every time.
I had this lil friend girl in college. Nothing special bout her at all but every time as did the do I couldn’t last no more than 5 or 10 mins. After bout the 3rd time I just threw in the towel.

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
2:59 pm

Sassy…nothing to share for once! LOL!!!

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
2:59 pm

I remember trying to date this coach dude. He was not really that attractive but whenever we were around each other, he had great convo…I remember when I was at his spot before we went out and he was like, why are you sitting waaaaaay over on that end of the couch. It was so awkward…it just wasn’t there.

Rich

September 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

I really hate that, people pretending to be a Christian, and then when you go out with them or spend time with them, they turn into a sexual maniac. Ruining it for us good Christian men and women, that’s why I like dating non-Christians because most of my own kind is worse than everyone else. Well even though I am not perfect, darn it, there is at least one person trying to put his best foot forward. Have a Blessed Day!

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:03 pm

fun stuff huh~ #life #random lol

disco

September 26th, 2012
3:06 pm

dang y’all this is bad. we’re not talking about reality tv, serial killers, james evans’ tight pants. nothing.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:08 pm

Just got home from the dentist. One cavity and a filing “not sealed”…..just great.

How come the truly great dudes NEVER had chemistry (with you)? Not that a dude ain’t said the same (about me).

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

For Real: Hey Slim can I touch your CT?

Slim: Only after I feel some comfort and trust in you will there be any inappropriate touching.

For Real: Well if you look over there you will see a bible on the coffee table and here let me get that lumbar pillow. And I put your keys on the fire place so they don’t get lost. Oh and Zipppppppppppppppp!!!!

Slim: Ohhhh For Reallllllllllll!!!!!!!

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
3:11 pm

Cel – actually we have pretty good chemistry. I just happen to be taken, sorry. smile

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:12 pm

Dern…just 2 pages??? C’mon we can do better than this I know!!!

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:13 pm

Slim is now inappropriately touching For Real.

For Real: Oh my now inappropriately touch this. Heyyy alright then now inappropriately touch this… WHAO!!!!

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:13 pm

WillieD – :) Hahahaha I guess I should have included dudes taken as well. I’ve had about 3 encounters in my life where the chemistry was there off the top but, somebody was taken. All I could do was move away from it…lol

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:14 pm

“How come the truly great dudes NEVER had chemistry (with you)?” – Cause his wife be trippin!

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:16 pm

Or me taken :mrgreen:

Shet it up For Real

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:17 pm

WillieD – I’m goooood, over my way :mrgreen:

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:19 pm

Y’all ain’t got nothing???

Exiled!

September 26th, 2012
3:19 pm

Fu_c the end of term exam if there is a chance to retake it!! :lol:

@Swiss!

U decline puddy when it’s offered,especially if it’s the first time,u ain’t gon get a second chance.
And the woman is properly gon start a whisper campaing on u.

Co-sign Swiss on that!
F_c the professor too!
(hand me that $200 gold pen Disco or Celia) :lol:

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:19 pm

Bluz I need your assistance with something…..shoot me an email please ma’am msjenkins8@gmail.com

Exiled!

September 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

Blog is slow guys what’s wrong?

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

I have 3 inquires C~ lol work! I need help though sigh hopefully Bluz can help~

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

Well, I just put in a movie and I hope it’s good. Of course I’m working too!

Soooo, I guess none of us aren’t getting inappropriately touched. I’m not…getting in appropriately touched :mrgreen:

Imma wear mr green out…ha ha ha ha ha

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

“I really hate that, people pretending to be a Christian, and then when you go out with them or spend time with them, they turn into a sexual maniac.”

This passive-aggressive message was brought to you by the committee to Get Barry Azz Barry some.

Willie Dynamite

September 26th, 2012
3:23 pm

hahaha we might need to put the B.A.B. posters back in the budget.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:24 pm

Lsdy – Well, she seems to be the expert on stuff in your field :mrgreen: Hopefully she can help. Ahhh, we’re like one big family. All resourceful and stuff

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:24 pm

Celisea: I have never asked you this before but describe your “truly great dude” if you don’t mind.

Physical
Character
Personality
Education
Profession

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

Did Cel just say she was diddling herself? :lol:

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

Dern, we ain’t had a B.A.B moment/episode in a minute….lol

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

Indeed~ She really helped me before ****crossing my fingers**** ;)

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

Lady: 4 out 5 women in your field tend to get the most inspiration from Zipppppppppppppppp!!!!

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

“he really helped me before” – That’s what Bluz said to me

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:28 pm

LMBAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DIED! DEAD LOL

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

For Real…first, where are we going with this?

Swiss – Nuh uh, not me…lol

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:31 pm

Interesting C……………

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:31 pm

“Did Cel just say she was diddling herself?” – Nope but I wouldn’t recommend using that green crayon.

Momma!! Somethings wrong with this green crayon. Everytime I use it color comes out purple.

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
3:31 pm

Cel — Even better, someone else is appropriately touching you, eh? Dangit, where’s my camera? ;-)

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:33 pm

wow. let me get to work! #pow

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:34 pm

For Real – I’ll say for your list (above), physical and personality was last on the list. IMO, he possessed character, education and was financially astute. Honestly, he was 10 years older than me and was a bit heavier than my preference but it was his inability to not be a grouch (most of the times and change some of his way of thinking/doing things). But, I have to give buddy credit, he was ALWAYS there for me. Checking on me, looking out for me and kid, making sure everything was always there and in place. I didn’t say take care of me.

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:35 pm

“first, where are we going with this?” – Why so distrusting Cel? I’m just trying to see what type of man you go for. Come now… Look have a seat on my lap. No, no, not the right side… there you go. Here I made you some pudding and I put some berries in there for you. Now describe your great guy. But first put your right arm around my neck and arc your back. No, don’t worry I will feed you the pudding. Go on I’m listening.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

Lady – Nuh uh, don’t leave me here alone.

For Real – Shet it up!!!

Swiss – No action here…. :mrgreen:

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:37 pm

I am here C til 5 but wow with MIA! the plot continues to thicken as always 0_o say it ain’t so! #urbanlegend

disco

September 26th, 2012
3:38 pm

for real – it sounds like you’ve worked the lap before. ijs.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:39 pm

disco – Maybe :mrgreen:

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:41 pm

Well, I thought we were about to jump start the blog…shrugs

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
3:41 pm

4 Real – I know you saw the Breaking Bad season end. What did you think?

I really still like Walter, even though he is bad. I keep trying to justify my like of him to my hubs!LOL!!

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
3:42 pm

For Realz – Inappropriately touch this….my arse :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
3:42 pm

Lady – mail call!

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:44 pm

Thanks I just responded~

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
3:44 pm

“Inappropriately touch this….my arse”

Uhhh, gladly? :lol:

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
3:45 pm

C you stoppid! LOL!!!!!! get krunk~

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
3:46 pm

I was trying…..in the name of fun. Not crazies nor shenanigans

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

September 26th, 2012
3:46 pm

For Real

September 26th, 2012
3:48 pm

Cel that’s interesting.. I think Truth put it best when he said women are looking for security which is appears what you got from that dude. I also find it interesting that you said that physical and personailty were last on your list. Why come? Oh and Imma have scoot you over a lil bit Disco wants to join our conversation. And you can attest to Disco that sitting my lap comforting and thought provoking. Now there you Disco. How’s that.. Now what are thoughts on my query of Cel? But before you answer do mind if Cel shared some of her berry filled pudding with you? Cool… So you were saying? I’m sorry for interupting but Cel do you mind feeding Disco while I hold the bowl and Disco why don’t you put your arm around my neck on top of Cel’s arm and arc you back… Hey now we set. Go on ladies the floor is yours.

disco

September 26th, 2012
3:54 pm

for real – I don’t know if celisea is a big booty chick or not but I sincerely doubt you have enough lap for the both of us. talking all that good game and mess around and have your knees go out. it would be booty and pudding all over the place and you wouldn’t be able to do nothing with it.

Bluzgirl

September 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

For Real – you wish!!! :-)

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:01 pm

For Real….not happening…lol I don’t lap share

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:01 pm

Y’all ever heard the song Games by Chukii Booker~ great song!

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
4:02 pm

booty and pudding jut doesn’t give me a very nice visual :shock:

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
4:03 pm

i'm swiss

September 26th, 2012
4:03 pm

I’ll say this, if I’m having booty pudding, I don’t want any berries in mine. :lol:

disco

September 26th, 2012
4:04 pm

slim – does nothing for me either but this isn’t my fantasy. it’s for real’s fantasy. if it’s booty and pudding he wants who am I to judge? besides I said it sounds like he’s no stranger to the lap thing. he might not be a stranger to pudding either. maybe he gets off impersonating bill cosby. lol.

disco

September 26th, 2012
4:05 pm

lady – that was pretty random. i like the song though.

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:05 pm

I am a pretty random lady that loves ole skool tunes~ it just crossed my mind! lol

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
4:07 pm

I was visiting a potnah of mine recently. He’s divorced, just retired (Army LT. Col.), palatial home, a few toys. He is truly getting his bachelor on. While I was there, he must have introduced me to 4 high caliber, bad chicks that he was currently dating. He went on to tell me, …”don’t call this one by the other one’s name accidently”, then he had to use my phone to lie to one and say he can’t find his. His current situation was messy and way too much work. I told him that we were far beyond this level and how did he get into this. He explained, it just happened, met one.. then another… then another. After analyzing his predicament, we concluded that a grown man needs one and one half women. One is not enough and two is too many. The key is that the half a chick has to embrace her role as the half. She can’t possess an inkling of ambition nor desire to become number two. She has to know about, and more importantly, respect number one. Most women with pride and self esteem would not settle for 2nd place. That’s why it’s important to effectively communicate to her that she is not number 2……she’s ½. Let her know that it is easy for a man to find number 1, but finding a good half is like a needle in a hay stack. That’s free game.

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

For Real

September 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

“it would be booty and pudding all over the place” – For Real loves when a plan comes together.

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
4:12 pm

4 Real – Why you putting the ig on me? I guess I’m not as interesting. :(

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:12 pm

Lady – I am caracking up…NOT HAIL MARY…lolololololol

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:13 pm

Girl I am so distracted my ADHD is at a 20! wow with MIA! lol

SlimUno

September 26th, 2012
4:14 pm

I’ll say this, if I’m having booty pudding, I don’t want any berries in mine

swiss – I’m about to be crying over here laughing at your crazy ass. :lol: :lol:

disco – I can see For Real now sticking his finger in it, pulling it and out and saying he now has a Jello Pudding Poooooooooop :lol:

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:14 pm

DuShawn where did you do undergrad at?!? regards for the rhetorical question…….

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:16 pm

Anybody see an episode of Good Times recently??

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

September 26th, 2012
4:17 pm

Lady I have that song on 12inch, talk about old school (LOL)

disco

September 26th, 2012
4:19 pm

dushawn – free game? that’s bs. I pity the stupid heffa that falls for it. lol. okay, I’ll rephrase I pity the chick that falls for it, not the chick that recognizes game and goes in to get what she gets. sounds like your boy is balling hard. the right chick might be a half long enough to take him for some dollers and bounce.

for real – did you miss the part about your knees going out? if you think that I for one am compassionate enough to help a brother out when he’s down you got me stuck. heck, I might rob you while you can’t chase me.

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
4:21 pm

I might rob you while you can’t chase me.

:lol:

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:21 pm

Mrs. SexyCool

September 26th, 2012
4:23 pm

Four high caliber chicks?!? All at one time?!?

I must say, they are not that high caliber if they don’t recognize that they are in rotation. And said questionable caliber should be downgraded even further if they do recognize the rotation and have agreed to participate.

For Real

September 26th, 2012
4:25 pm

Kimmie: ig… I ain’t heard that in a while but I’m not igging you.. I don’t see Walt as bad. I see Walt with a bad situation and a bad wife. I mean whatelse does he have to live for when your wife tells you she is waiting on the cancer to come back and kill you? Also, since it seems like me and your husband have similar personalities ask him if he has ever watched Wilford on FX?

Alright good people For Real is out of here. Come back tomorrow when I discuss Post 60’s Existentialism with Kimmie and Slim over a Frosty from Wendy’s.

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

September 26th, 2012
4:26 pm

DuShawn, is he just dating them,

Lady~cool beans :-)

September 26th, 2012
4:27 pm

C I am running out too! I am getting a slight headache from the laughter! lol Peace folks!

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
4:27 pm

Mrs SC – I was thinking the same thing. Exactly what makes them high caliber anyway? Their caliber obviously isn’t that high if they are messing with a dude that, from where I’m sitting, doesn’t appear too high caliber himself!LOL!!

Mrs. SexyCool

September 26th, 2012
4:29 pm

Dernit, ForReal – you leave just as I get here. Hope all is well with you, homey!

We gotta hit up TGIFridays soon.

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:29 pm

Lady – I got half and hour and I’m logging off…lol

kimmie

September 26th, 2012
4:30 pm

I gotsta roll out too.

Be easy!

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:31 pm

half an hour…thuty minutes…ll

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:32 pm

I have not watched one iota of this movie

For Real

September 26th, 2012
4:32 pm

Disco: For the record I am strong and besides everyone knows I leave my wallet in the car with my clothes.

For Real now trying to find his car keys in the dark while nekked.

Mrs. Scool: Congrat! Now you know by caliber he talking physical. Men don’t give a ish about a women’s character except when they believe she fugg up his car or when they thinking about marrying them.

Mrs. SexyCool

September 26th, 2012
4:34 pm

If appearance is the only qualifying criteria, um…yeah…okay….high caliber? Riiiigggghhhhtttt….

Celisea

September 26th, 2012
4:35 pm

Night folks… :mrgreen:

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
4:36 pm

He just respectfully dating all of them while enjoying his freedom.. and for the record ,they were some fly, educated, grown women with their own nice homes, cars and expensive shoes.. @Lady_ I dont want to answer the school quesiton. Why do u ask?

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

September 26th, 2012
4:36 pm

Mrs sexy, you know everyone loves a little eye candy on their arms? (don’t talk, just stand there and look pretty)

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
4:38 pm

Obviously i dont know their character, but they look dayum good.

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

September 26th, 2012
4:40 pm

DuShawn, they’re probably telling one of their friends the same thing, (LOL) don’t call him by the others guys name

disco

September 26th, 2012
4:46 pm

S/H – yep. everybody is baby or sweetie or honey.

DuShawn

September 26th, 2012
4:46 pm

Ironically,
One of the same women I met, ended up getting him. He took her on some trips and even was with him we he visisted me in the A.

Single and Happy (LG Life is good)

September 26th, 2012
4:51 pm

Disco, yea I remember those days, :-D