Isn’t dating a contact sport?
One of my friends recently had a first date with a guy she met at church. She was looking forward to the date because she had been scoping the guy out for weeks. Things were going really great until Church Boy went from Christian Gentleman to Christian Grey in a span of about two hours.
She cringed when he made some inappropriate remarks about her breasts but things took a turn for the worse when he started pawing her like a piece of meat. She was immediately turned off and she wonders why he felt compelled to be so “hands on” with her in the first place.
I joked with her that dating is a contact sport! Of course you want to get close to your date. However, it is also important to read the body language and follow the cues that your date is giving! If he could clearly tell by her facial expressions and attitude shift that she was not cool with his behavior. So why didn’t he get the hint?
When do you usually feel okay getting physically closer and affectionate with someone? Do you usually go by the connection and chemistry or some predetermined time frame?
Do you think dating is a contact sport? How can you tell when it is okay to make that kind of move?
What would you do if someone was out of bounds with their dialogue or physical contact with you on a date? Would you bother giving them another date?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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174 comments Add your comment
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
September 26th, 2012
4:17 pm
Lady I have that song on 12inch, talk about old school (LOL)
disco
September 26th, 2012
4:19 pm
dushawn – free game? that’s bs. I pity the stupid heffa that falls for it. lol. okay, I’ll rephrase I pity the chick that falls for it, not the chick that recognizes game and goes in to get what she gets. sounds like your boy is balling hard. the right chick might be a half long enough to take him for some dollers and bounce.
for real – did you miss the part about your knees going out? if you think that I for one am compassionate enough to help a brother out when he’s down you got me stuck. heck, I might rob you while you can’t chase me.
kimmie
September 26th, 2012
4:21 pm
I might rob you while you can’t chase me.
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:21 pm
ha!
Mrs. SexyCool
September 26th, 2012
4:23 pm
Four high caliber chicks?!? All at one time?!?
I must say, they are not that high caliber if they don’t recognize that they are in rotation. And said questionable caliber should be downgraded even further if they do recognize the rotation and have agreed to participate.
For Real
September 26th, 2012
4:25 pm
Kimmie: ig… I ain’t heard that in a while but I’m not igging you.. I don’t see Walt as bad. I see Walt with a bad situation and a bad wife. I mean whatelse does he have to live for when your wife tells you she is waiting on the cancer to come back and kill you? Also, since it seems like me and your husband have similar personalities ask him if he has ever watched Wilford on FX?
Alright good people For Real is out of here. Come back tomorrow when I discuss Post 60’s Existentialism with Kimmie and Slim over a Frosty from Wendy’s.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
September 26th, 2012
4:26 pm
DuShawn, is he just dating them,
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:27 pm
C I am running out too! I am getting a slight headache from the laughter! lol Peace folks!
kimmie
September 26th, 2012
4:27 pm
Mrs SC – I was thinking the same thing. Exactly what makes them high caliber anyway? Their caliber obviously isn’t that high if they are messing with a dude that, from where I’m sitting, doesn’t appear too high caliber himself!LOL!!
Mrs. SexyCool
September 26th, 2012
4:29 pm
Dernit, ForReal – you leave just as I get here. Hope all is well with you, homey!
We gotta hit up TGIFridays soon.
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:29 pm
Lady – I got half and hour and I’m logging off…lol
kimmie
September 26th, 2012
4:30 pm
I gotsta roll out too.
Be easy!
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:31 pm
half an hour…thuty minutes…ll
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:32 pm
I have not watched one iota of this movie
For Real
September 26th, 2012
4:32 pm
Disco: For the record I am strong and besides everyone knows I leave my wallet in the car with my clothes.
For Real now trying to find his car keys in the dark while nekked.
Mrs. Scool: Congrat! Now you know by caliber he talking physical. Men don’t give a ish about a women’s character except when they believe she fugg up his car or when they thinking about marrying them.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 26th, 2012
4:34 pm
If appearance is the only qualifying criteria, um…yeah…okay….high caliber? Riiiigggghhhhtttt….
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:35 pm
Night folks…
DuShawn
September 26th, 2012
4:36 pm
He just respectfully dating all of them while enjoying his freedom.. and for the record ,they were some fly, educated, grown women with their own nice homes, cars and expensive shoes.. @Lady_ I dont want to answer the school quesiton. Why do u ask?
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
September 26th, 2012
4:36 pm
Mrs sexy, you know everyone loves a little eye candy on their arms? (don’t talk, just stand there and look pretty)
DuShawn
September 26th, 2012
4:38 pm
Obviously i dont know their character, but they look dayum good.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
September 26th, 2012
4:40 pm
DuShawn, they’re probably telling one of their friends the same thing, (LOL) don’t call him by the others guys name
disco
September 26th, 2012
4:46 pm
S/H – yep. everybody is baby or sweetie or honey.
DuShawn
September 26th, 2012
4:46 pm
Ironically,
One of the same women I met, ended up getting him. He took her on some trips and even was with him we he visisted me in the A.
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
September 26th, 2012
4:51 pm
Disco, yea I remember those days,