Isn’t dating a contact sport?
One of my friends recently had a first date with a guy she met at church. She was looking forward to the date because she had been scoping the guy out for weeks. Things were going really great until Church Boy went from Christian Gentleman to Christian Grey in a span of about two hours.
She cringed when he made some inappropriate remarks about her breasts but things took a turn for the worse when he started pawing her like a piece of meat. She was immediately turned off and she wonders why he felt compelled to be so “hands on” with her in the first place.
I joked with her that dating is a contact sport! Of course you want to get close to your date. However, it is also important to read the body language and follow the cues that your date is giving! If he could clearly tell by her facial expressions and attitude shift that she was not cool with his behavior. So why didn’t he get the hint?
When do you usually feel okay getting physically closer and affectionate with someone? Do you usually go by the connection and chemistry or some predetermined time frame?
Do you think dating is a contact sport? How can you tell when it is okay to make that kind of move?
What would you do if someone was out of bounds with their dialogue or physical contact with you on a date? Would you bother giving them another date?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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174 comments Add your comment
Willie Dynamite
September 26th, 2012
3:23 pm
hahaha we might need to put the B.A.B. posters back in the budget.
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:24 pm
Lsdy – Well, she seems to be the expert on stuff in your field
Hopefully she can help. Ahhh, we’re like one big family. All resourceful and stuff
For Real
September 26th, 2012
3:24 pm
Celisea: I have never asked you this before but describe your “truly great dude” if you don’t mind.
Physical
Character
Personality
Education
Profession
i'm swiss
September 26th, 2012
3:25 pm
Did Cel just say she was diddling herself?
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:25 pm
Dern, we ain’t had a B.A.B moment/episode in a minute….lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:25 pm
Indeed~ She really helped me before ****crossing my fingers****
For Real
September 26th, 2012
3:26 pm
Lady: 4 out 5 women in your field tend to get the most inspiration from Zipppppppppppppppp!!!!
For Real
September 26th, 2012
3:27 pm
“he really helped me before” – That’s what Bluz said to me
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:28 pm
LMBAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I DIED! DEAD LOL
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:30 pm
For Real…first, where are we going with this?
Swiss – Nuh uh, not me…lol
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:31 pm
Interesting C……………
For Real
September 26th, 2012
3:31 pm
“Did Cel just say she was diddling herself?” – Nope but I wouldn’t recommend using that green crayon.
Momma!! Somethings wrong with this green crayon. Everytime I use it color comes out purple.
i'm swiss
September 26th, 2012
3:31 pm
Cel — Even better, someone else is appropriately touching you, eh? Dangit, where’s my camera?
i'm swiss
September 26th, 2012
3:32 pm
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:33 pm
wow. let me get to work! #pow
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:34 pm
For Real – I’ll say for your list (above), physical and personality was last on the list. IMO, he possessed character, education and was financially astute. Honestly, he was 10 years older than me and was a bit heavier than my preference but it was his inability to not be a grouch (most of the times and change some of his way of thinking/doing things). But, I have to give buddy credit, he was ALWAYS there for me. Checking on me, looking out for me and kid, making sure everything was always there and in place. I didn’t say take care of me.
For Real
September 26th, 2012
3:35 pm
“first, where are we going with this?” – Why so distrusting Cel? I’m just trying to see what type of man you go for. Come now… Look have a seat on my lap. No, no, not the right side… there you go. Here I made you some pudding and I put some berries in there for you. Now describe your great guy. But first put your right arm around my neck and arc your back. No, don’t worry I will feed you the pudding. Go on I’m listening.
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:36 pm
Lady – Nuh uh, don’t leave me here alone.
For Real – Shet it up!!!
Swiss – No action here….
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:37 pm
I am here C til 5 but wow with MIA! the plot continues to thicken as always 0_o say it ain’t so! #urbanlegend
disco
September 26th, 2012
3:38 pm
for real – it sounds like you’ve worked the lap before. ijs.
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:39 pm
disco – Maybe
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:41 pm
Well, I thought we were about to jump start the blog…shrugs
kimmie
September 26th, 2012
3:41 pm
4 Real – I know you saw the Breaking Bad season end. What did you think?
I really still like Walter, even though he is bad. I keep trying to justify my like of him to my hubs!LOL!!
SlimUno
September 26th, 2012
3:42 pm
For Realz – Inappropriately touch this….my arse
Bluzgirl
September 26th, 2012
3:42 pm
Lady – mail call!
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:44 pm
Thanks I just responded~
i'm swiss
September 26th, 2012
3:44 pm
“Inappropriately touch this….my arse”
Uhhh, gladly?
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
3:45 pm
C you stoppid! LOL!!!!!! get krunk~
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
3:46 pm
I was trying…..in the name of fun. Not crazies nor shenanigans
Single and Happy (LG Life is good)
September 26th, 2012
3:46 pm
Hey again
For Real
September 26th, 2012
3:48 pm
Cel that’s interesting.. I think Truth put it best when he said women are looking for security which is appears what you got from that dude. I also find it interesting that you said that physical and personailty were last on your list. Why come? Oh and Imma have scoot you over a lil bit Disco wants to join our conversation. And you can attest to Disco that sitting my lap comforting and thought provoking. Now there you Disco. How’s that.. Now what are thoughts on my query of Cel? But before you answer do mind if Cel shared some of her berry filled pudding with you? Cool… So you were saying? I’m sorry for interupting but Cel do you mind feeding Disco while I hold the bowl and Disco why don’t you put your arm around my neck on top of Cel’s arm and arc you back… Hey now we set. Go on ladies the floor is yours.
disco
September 26th, 2012
3:54 pm
for real – I don’t know if celisea is a big booty chick or not but I sincerely doubt you have enough lap for the both of us. talking all that good game and mess around and have your knees go out. it would be booty and pudding all over the place and you wouldn’t be able to do nothing with it.
Bluzgirl
September 26th, 2012
3:56 pm
For Real – you wish!!!
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:01 pm
For Real….not happening…lol I don’t lap share
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:01 pm
Y’all ever heard the song Games by Chukii Booker~ great song!
SlimUno
September 26th, 2012
4:02 pm
booty and pudding jut doesn’t give me a very nice visual
SlimUno
September 26th, 2012
4:03 pm
just
i'm swiss
September 26th, 2012
4:03 pm
I’ll say this, if I’m having booty pudding, I don’t want any berries in mine.
disco
September 26th, 2012
4:04 pm
slim – does nothing for me either but this isn’t my fantasy. it’s for real’s fantasy. if it’s booty and pudding he wants who am I to judge? besides I said it sounds like he’s no stranger to the lap thing. he might not be a stranger to pudding either. maybe he gets off impersonating bill cosby. lol.
disco
September 26th, 2012
4:05 pm
lady – that was pretty random. i like the song though.
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:05 pm
I am a pretty random lady that loves ole skool tunes~ it just crossed my mind! lol
DuShawn
September 26th, 2012
4:07 pm
I was visiting a potnah of mine recently. He’s divorced, just retired (Army LT. Col.), palatial home, a few toys. He is truly getting his bachelor on. While I was there, he must have introduced me to 4 high caliber, bad chicks that he was currently dating. He went on to tell me, …”don’t call this one by the other one’s name accidently”, then he had to use my phone to lie to one and say he can’t find his. His current situation was messy and way too much work. I told him that we were far beyond this level and how did he get into this. He explained, it just happened, met one.. then another… then another. After analyzing his predicament, we concluded that a grown man needs one and one half women. One is not enough and two is too many. The key is that the half a chick has to embrace her role as the half. She can’t possess an inkling of ambition nor desire to become number two. She has to know about, and more importantly, respect number one. Most women with pride and self esteem would not settle for 2nd place. That’s why it’s important to effectively communicate to her that she is not number 2……she’s ½. Let her know that it is easy for a man to find number 1, but finding a good half is like a needle in a hay stack. That’s free game.
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:08 pm
Hail Mary~
For Real
September 26th, 2012
4:08 pm
“it would be booty and pudding all over the place” – For Real loves when a plan comes together.
kimmie
September 26th, 2012
4:12 pm
4 Real – Why you putting the ig on me? I guess I’m not as interesting.
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:12 pm
Lady – I am caracking up…NOT HAIL MARY…lolololololol
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:13 pm
Girl I am so distracted my ADHD is at a 20! wow with MIA! lol
SlimUno
September 26th, 2012
4:14 pm
I’ll say this, if I’m having booty pudding, I don’t want any berries in mine
swiss – I’m about to be crying over here laughing at your crazy ass.
disco – I can see For Real now sticking his finger in it, pulling it and out and saying he now has a Jello Pudding Poooooooooop
Lady~cool beans :-)
September 26th, 2012
4:14 pm
DuShawn where did you do undergrad at?!? regards for the rhetorical question…….
Celisea
September 26th, 2012
4:16 pm
Anybody see an episode of Good Times recently??