Morning Folks

“He has none and is actually “not that great” with kids.” But he dates women with kids??

“What should you do if you aren’t “kid friendly” but you really want things to go well?” Don’t date women with kids, it may be a small pool but there actually are some out there.

“Do you think dating a single parent is harder when you don’t have kids too?” This all depends on the person and how mature they are.

“Should there be a serious and exclusive relationship before you bring your kids around the person you are dating?” This is a double edge sword, you should at least find out if they like kids, and how they react around them before deciding to get serious, because actions always speak louder than words!

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I would never date a women with kids. It’s just asking for trouble.

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HAs more than one baby daddy

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Oh and by the way my puddy does smother the D and sing,and it does ooze a mysterious but hallucinating rich aroma….hahahahaha

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Not being great with kids and not liking kids are two different things. I can say I’m not great with other people kids but my own kids I’m great with. It reads as if the reader has some hesitations toward the woman and using the kids as a scapegoat for not moving forward into a more meaningful relationship. When a man is really into a woman, no amount of kids she has will prevent him from not only loving her but her kids too. He will step up to the plate and do the darn thing.

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Bubbette, there’s no such thing as a HAPPILY married man. That’s why divorce attorneys are so popular.

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I’ve dated a guy who was a single parent and this guy was ubber protective of her. He used to look at me side ways if I even asked how was she doing. In my experience the single dads are just as protective of his kids as mother are when introducing kids to a new flame.

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@Big Al, that leave great liars. Surprise surprise!

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dag ex. you are going hard against the unmarried parents this a.m. some would say that your children are your blessing regardless of how they got here. sure, the argument could be made that folks should wait to be married before having kids but a lot of folks also would never have kids if they did wait. compatibility is compatibility. granted, I’m not out there checking for the single parent fathers myself but still having children isn’t the end of the world. I’d date a single parent father that met most of my “checklist” requirements before I dated a childless man who wasn’t hitting on anything.

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Bubbette, no all of us aren’t married.

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Disco, how you doing this morning. yes most say children are blessing no matter how you got them, but how can you say you sinned and got blessed with something?

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When I was involved with my recent ex 10 years ago, I babysat his kid, so when we got into a relationship, it was no big deal to see his son again. His son came to stay with us during the summer and at Christmas time. I loved him dearly! Unfortunately, my ex was a terrible father. His son would talk to me about how he felt and I would encourage him to talk to his father, but he’ll write him off at some point. It was sad. I always questioned if I would want to have a child with the ex because of how I saw him as a father…THANK GOD it never happened!!!

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When I was a single parent, my rule was always that I had to know you were going to be someone who was going to be around long term before you met my kid. I didn’t want my son to have a series of men in and out over him because that was not the model I wanted him to grow up with. But, again, personal preference. I know people who have done it diffferently and their kids have turned out seemingly fine. But for me, there ae definitely guidelines to meeting the children.

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Grown children living with parents, now that’s a whole nother can of worms (LOL)

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Good Morning S/H! How you do today?

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Exile there are tons upon tons of May/December marriages that lasts. My girlfriend is 8 years older than her hubby and guest what she was a single parent also!

I co sign @ Common Cents

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Single I can’t see a woman I’m dating with toddlers running around………LOL

I know some dudes 40 up still living with their moms.

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Hello Single

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Single I’ll be 51 this December.

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Okay black, same age but you no I have wide age range, so I may get a toddler or 2 in there but sure don’t see marriage in that future, just having fun

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With the market the way it is, probably won’t be buying another house, but sure won’t have those grown children up in there. sometimes I can see it to a point if they are contributing in some kind of way, but if they’re just there doing nothing but living their lives then they have to go! If I can’t run around my own house nekid then what’s the point of having one (LOL)

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Off Topic (Sorry C!) Did y’all see the game last night?!? I predict that the lockout will be over before the week is out or the players/coaches are going to kill one of those replacement refs!

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C~ I’m going under the stairs now for bringing up football this morning. Can I at least take some coffee and a cinamon roll with me?

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Comon Cents – It seems to be anything goes around here….knock yourself out.

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@ C. You just gave up on it, huh?

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Grown kids living at home is a no go for me.

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we are talking about grown kids living at home though for some of us, we are approaching the age of having to consider elderly parents moving in. anyone dead set against that idea?

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C~ Gave up on me not bringing up sports in the mornings.

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disco~ Not aainst my parents moving in with me because they are the ones who took care of me and prepared me for life. It is my job and my honor to care for them in their golden years. Mooching azz kids is different.

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disco I was 17 when I left my mom and dad house and haven’t gone back except to visit them. If I’m married I would discuss it with the spouse but I certainly would angle for my parents to live with me. my oldest sister takes care of my grandmother who is 94 and we have never sent a family member to a nursing home and I wont be the first generation to start.

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BF/button – yep. things happen. yep. the economy is jacked. still, I think there is a big difference between a parent helping an adult child and a parent carrying an adult child. I’ve mentioned my most recent ex who has an adult daughter with a degree, a full time job and two children who lives at home rent free and daddy pays her car note. a friend called me the other day whining and crying about drama going on in her house with her adult son. as far as I’m concerned that’s not necessary. he’s grown, he can get to stepping. just me though.

CC – I think the bigger issue for some isn’t their own parents but their significant other’s parents. I know it sounds like it should be a non-issue but it apparently comes up a lot. also, I hear about a lot of bickering between siblings. you keep them, no you keep them. it happens.

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Right disco, there is a huge difference! and NO I will not take care of an adult child who is healthy and have the resources to take care of themselves. Absolutely not! Some parents are enablers.

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@ disco I hear about a lot of bickering between siblings. you keep them, no you keep them. it happens. LOL yes that does happen.

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Morning Gang!!!

Some parents are enablers

Are you kidding me? I would say at least 70 percent I meet are enablers. That’s why a lot of these overgrown toddler adults can’t do anything for themselves and can’t make it on their own! Companies don’t want to hire them, nobody wants to marry them. Parents have to set a good example and raise their kids for the world.

As for the topic – No responsible parent should want a revolving door situation. The home should always be respected and a place comfortable for everyone. Strangers in and out make for bad situations. I’m for introducing the kids as soon as you feel comfortable, so all of you can get a feel for each other. There are extremes – the chicks you read about in the news letting their weird man they’ve known for 2 weeks babysit their little girl. Then the other extreme – those who think their kids is heir to the british throne and won’t introduce anyone to the kid until 5 years down the line and they’ve gotten a FBI top level security clearance.

And hey, if you don’t like kids don’t date anyone with them. Period. Enough with this seeing someone just for “fun” stuff, you’re not in high school. Grow up.

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Kimmie Enough with this seeing someone just for “fun” stuff, you’re not in high school. Grow up.

Here here, Kimmie. I would call that using folks. Nothing attractive about that. Have you told the person they’re just for fun? If you haven’t then it’s using. If you have, then y’all have at it….lolololol

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Hey Kimmie, @10:57 you tear the roof off this mutha sucka every time. I loves it.

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Celisea – I’m not saying everyone has to get married, but it just seems like after a point it should get old!

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Yes that’s it @ Kimmie & Comon Cents.

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Blackfoote – LOL!! Thanks!! Hey, I love kids, but their parents and the way some of them are about and with their kids is what irritates me. I’m finding out that more as I get older. Some parents absolutely ruin their kids. They really make me sick sometimes!

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i must say, you ladies make me feel much better about my “exactly when are you getting the he!! out?” approach to mothering.

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cz~ I always let mine know, I am saving college money. Not bail money. Not finance your lifestyle money. Not buy a new car money. So, if they have any plans on doing anything other than college, they won’t be surprised when I don’t give them a dime.

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Disco @ your 10:14, you’re right, who are we to judge. Don’t judge me because your sins are different. And when I made that statement about the blessing, that’s a personal belief, not a judgement call.

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disco I think it’s a parallel thought. Most single parents, atleast the ones I’m familar with are clinging to their kids for dear life. Can’t and won’t let go. Mothers make dates with son, it’s sad. They look to the son as the man in her life. I just can’t or live her life vicariously through her daughter.

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These clingy parents, whether single or married, are parents that don’t know their role as parent. They are the very ones that try to be “friends” with their kids instead of raising them. And mama’s boys are the absolute worst. I’ve seen just as many mama’s boys come from single parent homes as married homes. I’ve seen rotten-to-the-core kids come from all walks of life.

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CzBrat, this seems to be the generation where we carry our kids. I just can’t do it. I’ll singing tunes whistling while I am child free in a couple of years. My oldest tries to test me every now and then to see if I would go along with her program but I snap her back into reality with the quickness, She keeps throwing hints about her friends how’s moved back home after college or still living at home at 23!! She love to tease me, she knows how to push my buttons.

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Right @ Kimmie, you can’t be friends and a parent, pick one and play the role. I am quick to tell my kids I. AM. NOT. YOUR. FRIEND. DON’T. GET. IT. TWISTED.

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comon, i had to let mine know i was saving money for my retirement. college is entirely on them. i made it through on grants and scholarships; they can too.

i’m happy to provide food and shelter for a kid that’s working and going to school, until they get themselves off to a solid start. the goal is to leave and not have to come back.

thing 1 has been out of my home for almost three years and is doing wonderful.
thing 2 is setting off on his own next month. i expect he’ll have a rougher road cuz he’s not one to listen and learn, but i’ll continue to pray for him.
still changing my locks, though. but i’ll pray for him.

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Button, that sounds like my son. Was upset and was thinking about getting out of the military, I asked him where was he going to stay, because him, his wife, and 3 children at the time couldn’t come live with me, and he knows they can’t go stay with his mother, that ended that conversation, now he’s a career military man (LOL)

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Good for you Single and Happier, they will test you to see what you got, some will win their parents over though, I have co workers who’s always complaining about their grown kids and how they don’t do anything to help out at home, not even take out the trash let alone pay bills. Not I says the cat.

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S/H~ Where are they supposed to turn if they need some help? Depends on what kind of help. If you need advice, look to me. If you need encouragement, look to me. If you need some money… I’ll help you look.

Cz~ I have saved for retirement, but I have had a 529 for my kids since my son was born. My parents helped me through school for undergrad but grad school was on me. So, I guess I believe in helping tem get through the first step. That is not to say I didn’t work going through undergrad. I did. My parents covered tuition and books (I lived at home until junior year). I am willing to give my kids that same luxury.

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lmao @ single’s 11:47. that’s what i call a reality ✔

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S/H~ I feel the same way. If they choose not to go to college, I will have an even nicer retirement on them.

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Comon, I’m talking about where are the parents supposed to turn, not the kids. If my mother needs something I don’t have a problem helping her, but on the other hand if my mother is helping a no good lazy sibling, then I can’t be a part of that.

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Comon it’s both, didn’t want anymore, so got fixed where I can’t have anymore. (I’m not scared of a little pain)

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Thanks Button!

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Button about the culture, In Jamaica you see the big 2 and 3 story houses, it’s because there’s 3 families living in that house. One of the bus drivers made a comment about a vacation community where single families live and how it was such a waste .

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In other countries adult children live at home until they marry. In the event they never marry, they never ever leave home or forced to leave.
button, i’m planning a trip home for my birthday in a couple months. let’s just say i’ll be able to catch up with my aunt, four of my cousins, their spouses and all their children in one stop. =/

they’re no kennedy’s, but they do have a compound.

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disco~ That has always been my motto. I figure with all I am putting out for private school and extra-curriculars right now, once you are on your own, YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN!!! :lol;

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Single – I’ve had friends cry on my shoulder about situations like that. I tell them how I’ve handled them – don’t get involved with dude from jump. Guys who did not want kids or a different religion from me were eliminated off the rip. When I got criticized for that, I told them no need in me looking crazy down the road after I’ve caught feelings. I dated a guy once that told me a year in he didn’t want anymore kids and was about to go get snipped. I thanked him for letting me know, wished he had let me know sooner, but I respected his decision and let him go. He kept trying to come back, saying he MIGHT change his mind, etc, but for me it was over.

She’ll have to decide for herself if it’s a dealbreaker. She has to be honest with herself if she decides to stay. She doesn’t want any resentment down the road.

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@ comon, panama.

how ironic is it that i’m happy to do anything for those trying to help themselves.
but you flat-out NEEDY. uh-uh. don’t come round me for nothin.

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My husband was living with his parents when I met him. At first, I gave him the side eye, but he was cute so I decided to not let that be a dealbreaker in getting to know him.

As I got to know him better and he shared with me his reasons for continuing to live at home although he was well able to afford a place of his own, it made sense, not only from a financial standpoint, but there was also a need to be in place to care for aging parents.

That being said, I learned that to judge a person for living at home while not knowing the circumstances it shortsighted on my part.

However, an adult living at home because they are a deadbeat and taking advantage of their parents is a loser.

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kimmie, on our first official date i told s/o i wasn’t looking to get serious, didn’t want to remarry, and certainly done with young’uns. but i didn’t have the good sense to say “no. thank you.” when he suggested i just “keep an open mind and see where this goes”.

now look at me.

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Kimmie – Exactly. I already knew, when out his Dracy (that was his name…and my nephew named after him…go figure), was coming at me with that crap, that I would not be moved from what I was rooted in. I may have sway (in doing wrong), over the years but I’ll never stop believing what was instilled in me. To have differences and arguments is “looking crazy” waiting to happen.

I agree. I have walked away from someone with religious differences. I don’t want to beat you over the head with mine, and I don’t want to beat over the head with yours.

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“when hanging out” and “swayed”…is what I meant

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disco – I don’t want to be sick and dying and buddy move all crosses, bibles, etc. Imma need him to “help pray me over”, if it comes to that. And I’ll do the same for him….lol

I’m saying that sort of teasing but I think religious beliefs can cause huge fallouts, as well as money or the lack thereof or not agreeing on how it should be spent. That’s another thing, you need to have yours and I have mine…while we’re dating.

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czBrat – That sounds like a win win…lol As long as we’re meshing along the same lines it’s allllll good

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disco – I know me – I was never open when it came to faith. Can’t deal with an atheist at all, but won’t deal with anyone of a radically different faith either. Different denomonation – fine.

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” I don’t want to be sick and dying and buddy move all crosses, bibles, etc.”

Cel — I’m with you there (well, from the opposite perspective, but I agree with your sentiment). I remember back when I had cancer and I was getting ready to get wheeled back to the O/R, my parents had their preacher there praying over me & I had to sit there and pretend I didn’t think it was bullsh!t. All the while thinking, who is this supposed to be helping? Me or them?

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Comon she has no kids

Kimmie this was one of those fun things for both of us that turned into something else.

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If she is not stacking, she’s stupid and he is even more so.

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“….AND HE BREAKS! He acknowledged God and went on to meet his maker.”

Or, from the other perspective, he finally appeased his incessant family so they would shut the hell up already & he could die in peace. All about perspective…

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Swiss now that wasn’t nice, but I’m sort of the same way when someone dies and the family is saying keep me in your prayers, I’m thinking why, what’s wrong with you?

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celisea, i still recall being so touched when my daddy decided to attend a bible study with me and the munchkins when i was an active jehovah’s witness. he wanted to know “what these people were all about”.

afterward, he said it was too late for him to change religion (lifelong catholic), but he was very impressed and pleased to leave us in their hands. that meant the world to me.
still does.

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C, cz that is the big problem, most are just not open minded enough to see anything else.

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Single and Happy – Nope…not when it comes to someone wanting me to believe I just popped up from somewhere. Not when it comes to someone wanting me to believe my life, health and strength comes from the one and only sovereign….God Almighty. Nope, not when it comes to him determining my fate, holding my life in his hands, making ways out of no ways…nope. Can’t find that in a book

BTW, what happened to Dreams? He never posts anymore

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wanting me to NOT believe all my health and strength comes from above…. now, had to fix that

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Single – Sorry

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Off topic:

As I’ve always known….just so so sad to be wrapped this tight with controlling the whole thing. SMDH. A man at that…tsk tsk tsk. Just plain moist. lololololol Po thang

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tried my turkey mini-loafs with a can of hot rotelle (sp?) this time. they are delish!!

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“Should there be a serious and exclusive relationship before you bring your kids around the person you are dating? ”

Yes, the relationship should be “serious” before you bring the kids into the picture. As a Man I would never introduce my children who are adults to anyone I am not “serious” about. If I had minor children I would be especially careful. Some men do not know what is appropiate and inappropiate behavior when it comes to dating. For example I have a female friend who brought a new date home for the Thanks Giving holiday. She only knew the guy for a couple of weeks. She has 3 very nice looking daughters and her date tried to molest her oldest daughter (17 yrs old). She was out of her mind with grief for a long time because of the decision she made that caused harm to her daughter. I hope all women/men on this site use common sense when it comes to family and relationships.

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Comon, was it a catch or not? It was a catch allright an interception by the Pack.

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BF~ Hells yeah! I am not a fan of the Pack, but they got robbed last night! I think that was the worst call I have seen in awhile. I think the lockout will be over by this weekend…

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I’m not one either Comon but they got short changed bad.

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As long as my kids are in school,they’re free to live in my house!
Graduate school included!

Once they step outta school or want to quick march themselves into life without the necessary skills against my advice,they’re on their own..Out!

And my home is the Ultimate security for my kids,recession or no recession,thru life’s struggles.

When they are down,I expect them to have the security of coming to lay and be comfortated by us,the parents.

Parent = security!

My patents(mama) does the same for us.

Do I sound like a mama’s boy?!

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Or sorrry u onto American handball Now

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I had heard that the replay officials are not replacements…anyone know?

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Bluz no the replay officials are not replacements, and they still got the call wrong.

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Gotcha…I’m not into pro ball, so I don’t know all of their rules nor did I watch the game…I’m about to look up the video

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swiss~ I don’t disagree that the “higher power” probably does not resemble the current religious dogma, but IDK how someone could go through the process of having a baby and see what you have seen and still say there is no God. The amount of precise timing that is required to make sure a baby is born healthy and fully formed is AMAZING. I simply do not believe that is circumstance or coincidence. And science has failed to be able to explain many aspects of it. Kind of like creation. IJS…

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“but IDK how someone could go through the process of having a baby and see what you have seen and still say there is no God”

Comon — I don’t say “there is no god.” I say religion is BS. Those are very different things.

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http://www.ajc.com/news/news/local/atlanta-man-accused-of-rape-shooting-wife-step-dau/nSLCm/

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“And science has failed to be able to explain many aspects of it.”

For thousands of years, science failed to explain why the sun rose in the east and set in the west. But that doesn’t mean that the earth is flat. Just took time to uncover the needed evidence.

I guess for me, I’m just more comfortable saying “I don’t know” to the unexplained questions of life than accepting an explanation that makes no sense to me and for which there is not only no evidence, but in many cases, evidence to the contrary.

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Comon — None at all.

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Yeah…he was obviously having an episode of some sort. I found it interesting for the fiance’s cousin to comment that he was a laid back easy going guy.

s/n – the plane that just pulled up outside my office had the loudest engines ever and they won’t shut the dern things off.

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swiss…I can use a drink myself! How about a Long Island Iced Tea? I’m still on the wagon in real life, but it’s ok to drink on the blog right?

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Bluz — Not only that, but you can have some NSA, freaky, FWB blog sex, too, if you’ve got an itch to scratch. Here’s that Long Island.

disco — In that case, one Golden Grain on the rocks, coming right up.

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Speaking of alcohol, did anybody else hear about the UT frat boys who ended up in the hospital after giving each other “alcohol enemas”??? If that’s not textbook #whitepeopleproblems I don’t know what is.

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swiss – I didn’t hear that, but have heard in the past about teens doing that. I wouldn’t even say that’s a white people problem…that’s just a stupid people problem! Who would want to try that?!?!?!

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I also heard in the past about girls soaking tampons in vodka and inserting them. WTF is wrong with people?!?!

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I’m amazed at all the ways people can come up with to get high. But then again, I’m a person with a two drink maximum. Get me to a slight relaxed buzz and I’m good. No need for drunk or high here.

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Englebert Humperdinck (Lawd is this is real name or stage name)
Why these words are in my head, I don’t know….but they just came to mind. I certainly don’t want or need my job to release me

Please release me, let me go
For I don’t love you anymore
To waste our lives would be a sin
Release me and let me love again

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Maybe he was a humper…shrugs

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Of course, just random thoughts as I sit here at my desk

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CC – I would but I’m not a beer drinker. wine is fine but liquor is quicker. lol. still, beer is cheaper and I really oughtta give it another chance.

bluz – re that being a white person’s problem. stereotype or not, I’ve got to agree. if y’all remember I’m the one that told my son and brother as they headed off for college to not try to drink with the white kids. white folks tend to take drinking to a whole nother level.

Mrs. SC – two drink max? blasphemy. lol.

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disco – I’m a lightweight.

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Yeah – I cannot imagine that it was a Black dude that came up with sniffing bath salts. #CouldBeWrong

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mrs. – apparently so. two drinks. that’s like eating one lay’s potato chip.

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ITL — Pucker up, here’s your lemon drop. Pleasure & pain, huh? What else have you had pierced? Do tell…

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I’m doing the “Lady” now…just posting stuff. Imma have to tell her I was mocking her today

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@Mrs SC: But the question I had re: the bath salts is who the heck was the first one to say, “Hey! I think we could get high from sniffing this?!?!?” I have never picked up a box of Calgon and thought, “Hmmmmm……out of liquor, don’t feel like going to the store, I wonder……”

smh. Craziness.

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ITL – I had mine pierced at 25, let it grow over, and just re-pierced it a few weeks ago…

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ITL – you have never been a junkie. where there’s a will there’s a way.

and… speaking of high, drunk and junkies – celiesea, are you on anything today? lol. do you need an intervention? I mean really, englebert doesn’t come to mind everyday.

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@Swiss: Can I plead the 5th?!?!?

@Bluz: I’ve wanted to get my repierced, but I don’t think it would go over well in my office…

@Comon: Are you equating the adrenaline rush of a piercing to being tipsy/drunk?

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I thought “bath salts” was just a euphemism, no? I thought it was some concoction white trash folks whip up in their bath tubs, a’la crystal meth? Is it literally just bath salts? Or maybe that’s just one ingredient? Of course, in either case, ITL’s question of who thinks to themselves “I’m gonna get high on this” is still valid…

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Come to think of it…I don’t think I’ve seen very many black or latino people get stupid, sloppy drunk

@Bluz: Remind me to take you to a BBQ at the ex’s BFF’s house sometime.

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Random thought: Does AirTran have seatbelts?

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ITL – My boss would freak if she knew I did it, but they don’t see it. I’m very careful as to how far I open my mouth in front of the big wigs. It’s also pierced further back, so it’s not as obvious…Just do it! LOL!

I’ve often wondered who was the first to try smoking leaves until they found something that made them feel good? Can you see someone smoking oak leaves, pine straw, etc before they found the Mary Jane?

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ITL~ I too was pierced at one point (the reason that I know the direct line to the bloodstream thing)

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OK ITL – please do take me! Maybe it’s more that I don’t see them get stupid sloppy drunk in public like I see white people…

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disco – LOLOLOLOLOL That’s why I told the chick here no can do. Nuh uh. That was funny… I’ve never flown AirTran and I don’t plan to anything in the future. I think I would opt to walk…lolololol

A friend of mine was talking about he flew one-way to Detroit and there seemed to be turbulence the entire flight… He swore he could see the wings flapping through the window…lol I was rolling at that.

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Mrs. SC~ I heard about the bacon shortage thing. My son is literally about to cry thinking there will be no bacon next year. LOL!

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Alright, I’m outta here for the day…woohooo

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ITL – I have told many a folks not to sleep on the drug dealers. say what you will about their “occupation” but a successful drug dealer has to have good people skills, communication skills, math skills, chemistry, marketing, etc. heck, street pharmaceuticals is a business. and, on a related note, I remember reading once that some country or other was rehabilitating their prostitutes as customer service workers. in short, does not the very act of being a prostitute require some bomb A customer service skills? lol.

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@Comon Cents:

No Ma’am, I don’t believe in having children outside of wed-lock or having sex before marriage. I am old school like that, and yes I am still a virg, I still date women who have had sex I don’t hate, but they have respect me and my faith is all. Not bad for a 35 year old white boy. I just want my own family not someone else’s, I know that may come off as selfish but I know what I want. I know some may make fun that I am still pure, that’s OK I am used to it.

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disco~ From dealing with them daily, I will tell you that the “higher ups”, not the street slingers or the yayo boys, but the guys who are actually making bank selling dope are some of the smartest individuals you will ever meet. And beyond the intelligence that it takes to run their “business” you would be amazed at the machinations that go on in the background to make sure that should they get pinched, their assets are protected. I have no doubt that if any one of them put their minds to it, they could be some of the most successful (and ruthless) business men you have ever seen. Not only that, these days you would be amazed how man women are in the game. It baffles the mind.

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ITL — I don’t know. I think being crazy made that dude eat face and the “bath salts” were just an excuse. But that’s just me…

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Shows ya’ how little I know about drugs and getting high.

Although…I did sit on our back patio with my husband and tried his hookah pipe. (I wasn’t impressed.)

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Mrs. SexyC — Next time put some weed in it.

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@SC: I tried the hookah at a middle Eastern restaurant. There was combination of strawberry and mint tobaccos in there. I liked it.

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Mrs. SC – for some reason your post made me think of when we were kids and we’d spin around in circles to get dizzy and then walk around pretending to be high or drunk. guess all you need is a few spins. lol.

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Here you go, ITL:

http://www.forbes.com/sites/melaniehaiken/2012/06/04/bath-salts-a-deadly-new-drug-with-a-deceptively-innocent-name/

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I’m sleepy as ish. I may need to put a couch in my office.

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Disco the worst is when you’re breaking up with someone they’re talking about missing your blessing (if you’re my blessing then I really need to watch what I pray for) (LOL)

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See ya ITL!!!

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disco~ Not saying that he is blocking his blessings, but just to be aware that the best laid plans…

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comon going back looking at rich’s statement, he’s not looking for what god sends him, he’s looking for what he wants. You know the old saying “watch what you wish for cause you just might get it!”

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Mrs sexy, why do you follow any folks on twitter. I was just looking at my Facebook page thinking about unfriending 90% of friends (LOL)

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I rarely look at my Twitter…usually, I’ll use it to vent about things I may not say on Facebook…I have to approve you as a follower, so only my closest friends get to be on there…

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S/H – let’s be real. most of us really do wish god would send us what we want. some folks would take what they want over what they need any day. since you are here, let’s get back in your business. if old girl gives up on the kid thing just how soon are you willing/planning/preparing to propose?

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disco! I was trying not be a nosy heifer! I was going to leave it alone!

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Comon I’ve heard that one to, only it went ” when Paul went to heaven and meet god he ask lord why did you forsake me, god answered how did I forsake you, Paul replied I ask you for a good job I never got it, I asked you for a home I never got it, I ask you for a wife, she never came. God answered I sent you a good job, only it wasn’t good enough, I gave you a nice home, it wasn’t nice enough, I sent you a good woman she wasn’t good enough.” Sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees, and sometimes I see them damn trees, you aint fooling me (LOL)

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Black planet, was just supposed to be fun times (LOL)

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Computer love

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I want a computer love

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Disco part of my problem with some women is they say I’m content because I don’t have goals. but after putting me on they “your not my type/friend list” they find out that I don’t have goals because when I want to do something I don’t talk about, I be about it (LOL)

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Comon, you can ask away I have no problem say NYB (LOL) you might be a lawyer, but you’re not Nancy Grace (LOL)

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S/H – and to add to that, just because I don’t share my goals with you doesn’t mean I don’t have them. that’s what a lot of folks don’t get.

CC – I can’t gauge how many folks have lied to me about it but I have several friends and acquaintances who have married folks they met online.

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Does the fact that I know her count? She went to law school at Mercer with several friends of mine.

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Ugh, something about Nancy Grace just makes me want to punch her in the face.

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In the immortal words of Richie Cunningham: youza youza youza! Benita, hold on a moment, I’ll be there!

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swiss – ditto.

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celisea isn’t here so I’ll be the one to insinuate that Benita and rich might be the same person. it’s been known to happen before.

S/H – too funny

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Why did Benita Applebum just stroll through my head? LOL!

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disco – I was just about to say something similar since she’s ALWAYS insinuating that sort of thing…

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Disco that was an awful quick connection (LOL) you wana? yea, you wana? yea then lets do it (LOL)

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Where do I sign up for the “Punch Nancy Grace” line?

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LOL CC!!! Yep…it’s me…NOT!!!

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disco…I’m not saying you’re wrong here…It is pretty fishy. Ijs that I’ve been accused by a certain person of being fake or posting under multiple names when I’ve been nothing but 100% honest…

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Mrs.SC~ I just don’t like the way she twists the law to suit whatever angle she is taking on the story.

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Well, she may be real even if he’s not. Go google the name. IJS…

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Mrs. SexyC — All that, and plus her face. Oh, and her voice, too. Literally makes my bung-hole clinch up every time I hear it.

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I don’t have the time or energy to try to keep up with different monikers…I can’t imagine it’s very fun…I am who I am…

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Disco trying to be fake just takes to much energy

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Completely OT – Element Electronics su-hux!!!

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Ummm…no thanks, BMW…

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Benita, you’re not offending me, you have nothing to prove to none of our words. Be whomever you want to be and don’t worry what we think.

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I’ve been blogging with MIA since 2004.

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S/H – one shouldn’t worry about what we think but one also shouldn’t be insulting our intelligence. geez.

I was going to say I’ve been reading for a year but I guess maybe I’ve been reading for closer to two years. started posting last year. that sounds about right but I’ll tell you, time gets away from me.

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We used to have another blogger named BMW – Black Magic Woman, also known as Black Mamba, also known as Stace.

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Thank you, Single and Happier “Life Happens!” (these folks are lucky I love what I do) and Comon Cents. I have nothing to prove. Disco, you are free to go back and see where I have posted in the evenings, in the past. I have nothing to prove. I am myself.

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swiss – Now, that was funny right there!!!

S/H – I think someone has insinuated that you and I are the same person even though we are TOTALLY different in all ways!!!

BMW – You kind of are starting to offend me…

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you are right BMW. maybe you said it in fun (the little comment about hooking bluz up with a guy that you don’t even know and only just exchanged information with just in case the two of you don’t hit it off). personally I think it’s whack but I know people who roll like that so maybe it’s legit. what do I know? it’s certainly not important enough for me to dig up old posts. I’m taking the current posts at face value and, well, it is what it is – suspect.

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Goodbye everyone! I will not be back!

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Whatever…not going to indulge this one…

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Looking for computer love? Does that mean you have a hard time meeting guys in real life or you just want to meet a guy on the computer? BTW, I have to co-sign on disco’s 5:02 in that, you haven’t even MET dud yet. How you gonna offer him to Bluz when you know nothing about him? (or her for that matter?)

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SwizzBeats – ijs…

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bluz yep we are so different (LOL) but it’s all good, time to go play in traffic

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what’s a born again virgin??

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and your upload / download speed…

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ITL would you like me to insert my disc (LOL)

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S/H~ Not implying that it is, but if you only want computer love, why would you be opposed to meeting someone in the real world as opposed to on the computer if it’s all the same? BTW, A born again virgin is someone who believes that when they dedicate themselves to Christ they are a new creature and all the old has passed away. Therefore, everything about them is born again. Including their punani.

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Benita I’m serious, what’s a born again virgin?

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BMW – what I say? (lol) Oh…come back and play. We are harmless.

SAH – That’s something church folks made up.

“I may not be a virgin anymore, but I’ve still got the package it came in.” ~ Unknown

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Ok, Benita, if you are going to hang out on the blog, you have to stop being so sensitive. Everytime someone says something you don’t like you can’t snatch up your toys, per se, and go home. All that “Goodbye” and “You guys are univiting and bullies” crap is for the birds. If you’ve been lurking (as you said you have) then you know that we all have our little spats on the blog. C and I had one when I first came. Bluz and C have had one since I’ve been here. I’m sure there are others that Mrs. SC could fill us in on since she’s been here the longest (I think) Isay that to say, talk to those who talk to you and move on from the ones that don’t. But when you throw something out there, don’t be surprised when people come back at you. That’s my 2 cents…

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S/H~ Re-read her 5:02. She also posted it earlier when you said you met the soon to be Mrs. Married and Happier on Black Planet. That’s how she and Rich’s hookup started.

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yea cosigning what comon said, on here opinions are like arse holes, we all have one and they’re all full of isht (LOL) Hell I’m admiring you already, we hide behind our monikers you put it all out there (LOL)

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Hhhhmmmm….I wonder if my BlackPlanet page is still up. Hell, I wonder if BlackPlanet is still up? Is it?

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Mrs Sexy, yep it’s still there, and folks still hooking up on it (LOL)

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Okay…found BlackPlanet….

Let me see if I remember my login…

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Sorry, S/H I wasn’t trying to strike your nerve. LOL! I just find this interesting. Y’all know I am still relatively new to blogging and Benita is the first “new” person who has really shown up to blog since I came. Maybe I’m just tired of being the newbie so I want to believe her and have her stay?

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Disco, I’ve never understood how you could get upset at someone you don’t know. I used to be on this chat line called WBS and once this girl told me to watch what I say her big brother was standing behind her, I was like what’s he going to do, beat up the keyboard (LOL)

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I have NO IDEA what my log in password is – I think my bp name was dlcat or dlcat13….

Hhhhhmmmm….

And not still hooking up…..stop it….

Why did my gf tell me that her sister’s cousin who has moved to GA from NY and is staying with her sister (sleeping on her couch) is meeting dudes from the chat lines, bringing them to the house and having sex with them on said couch? O’ nasty behind…..sheesh…

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What, Comon?!?!?!? You don’t like ALL of my stories?!?!?

I’m leaving. Goodbye!

(not)

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Mrs. SC~ That actually made me LOL!

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S/H~ You ain’t married yet… Go get you some Benita computer love.

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Mrs. SC~ Please don’t tell me she’s having 3 ways on the couch with the skanky dudes sis is picking up from the chat lines. At that point, I gotta go…

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S/H~ I’m just guess, but I think she’s looking for something serious…

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I’m out. I’ll catch you guys tomorrow.

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you aint dialing yet Mrs sexy?

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I live in a “transitioning” neighborhood. It’s a cross between yuppies, buppies, grandmama’s, tenants and now, the (temporary) club for alternative lifestyles.

#StraightHoodtastic

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