Dating: Ready to meet the kids?
One of our readers has been seeing a woman for about 8 months and things are getting serious. The woman he is seeing has decided that she feels comfortable enough to introduce him to her children. He has none and is actually “not that great” with kids.
He wants help in figuring out if he is ready to meet the kids. How do you know when it is time to introduce your kids to your date? Should there be a serious and exclusive relationship before you bring your kids around the person you are dating?
What should you do if you aren’t “kid friendly” but you really want things to go well?
Do you think dating a single parent is harder when you don’t have kids too?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:01 pm
Englebert Humperdinck (Lawd is this is real name or stage name)
Why these words are in my head, I don’t know….but they just came to mind. I certainly don’t want or need my job to release me
Please release me, let me go
For I don’t love you anymore
To waste our lives would be a sin
Release me and let me love again
Bluzgirl
September 25th, 2012
3:03 pm
You’re probably right about that swiss…makes us all look bad! LOL
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:03 pm
Maybe he was a humper…shrugs
Bluzgirl
September 25th, 2012
3:04 pm
CC – What does tongue piercing have to do with shoving alcohol up the bum?
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:04 pm
Of course, just random thoughts as I sit here at my desk
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:06 pm
Englebert….hmmm wonder if that was his daddy’s name. I’m gonna look him up on Wikipedia
Random thought
disco
September 25th, 2012
3:07 pm
CC – I would but I’m not a beer drinker. wine is fine but liquor is quicker. lol. still, beer is cheaper and I really oughtta give it another chance.
bluz – re that being a white person’s problem. stereotype or not, I’ve got to agree. if y’all remember I’m the one that told my son and brother as they headed off for college to not try to drink with the white kids. white folks tend to take drinking to a whole nother level.
Mrs. SC – two drink max? blasphemy. lol.
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:07 pm
Afternoon, all!
Lawdy mercy. I show up late, and y’all are already drankin’.
Swiss, I’d love a lemon drop….
Mrs. SexyCool
September 25th, 2012
3:08 pm
disco – I’m a lightweight.
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:09 pm
Tongue piercing?? Mine used to be pierced, but I eventually let it grow back. Was a thrill, though, getting it done. *shrugs* Guess I’m one who likes to tiptoe up to the line between pleasure and pain….
Mrs. SexyCool
September 25th, 2012
3:09 pm
Yeah – I cannot imagine that it was a Black dude that came up with sniffing bath salts. #CouldBeWrong
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:09 pm
DO NOT BOOK MY FLIGHT ON AIRTRAN….nuh uh!!!!
disco
September 25th, 2012
3:09 pm
mrs. – apparently so. two drinks. that’s like eating one lay’s potato chip.
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:11 pm
Ohhhh snap, Englebert was German. Well, I can see the name now…lololol
i'm swiss
September 25th, 2012
3:11 pm
ITL — Pucker up, here’s your lemon drop. Pleasure & pain, huh? What else have you had pierced? Do tell…
Comon Cents
September 25th, 2012
3:11 pm
Bluz~ When you first get a piercing, it is a direct line to the blood stream. Ergo, alcohol goes in bypassing the liver just like sticking it up your bum.
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:12 pm
I’m doing the “Lady” now…just posting stuff. Imma have to tell her I was mocking her today
Bluzgirl
September 25th, 2012
3:12 pm
Come to think of it…I don’t think I’ve seen very many black or latino people get stupid, sloppy drunk…I just can’t believe anyone would come up with those things period!!!
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:12 pm
@Mrs SC: But the question I had re: the bath salts is who the heck was the first one to say, “Hey! I think we could get high from sniffing this?!?!?” I have never picked up a box of Calgon and thought, “Hmmmmm……out of liquor, don’t feel like going to the store, I wonder……”
smh. Craziness.
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:12 pm
Pleeeeeeeease release me, let me go. Iiiiiiiii don’t love you anymooooo
Bluzgirl
September 25th, 2012
3:14 pm
ITL – I had mine pierced at 25, let it grow over, and just re-pierced it a few weeks ago…
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:14 pm
chuckle
disco
September 25th, 2012
3:14 pm
ITL – you have never been a junkie. where there’s a will there’s a way.
and… speaking of high, drunk and junkies – celiesea, are you on anything today? lol. do you need an intervention? I mean really, englebert doesn’t come to mind everyday.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 25th, 2012
3:15 pm
Bluz – you need to be around more Black/Latino people. My grandfather used to get so wasted – white boy wasted – (lol) – that one of my guy friends called him “the drunkest man I’ve ever seen.” And he was military – who are notorious for drinking – so you know that was pretty damn drunk.
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:15 pm
@Swiss: Can I plead the 5th?!?!?
@Bluz: I’ve wanted to get my repierced, but I don’t think it would go over well in my office…
@Comon: Are you equating the adrenaline rush of a piercing to being tipsy/drunk?
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:15 pm
disco – I’m on a natural high
i'm swiss
September 25th, 2012
3:16 pm
I thought “bath salts” was just a euphemism, no? I thought it was some concoction white trash folks whip up in their bath tubs, a’la crystal meth? Is it literally just bath salts? Or maybe that’s just one ingredient? Of course, in either case, ITL’s question of who thinks to themselves “I’m gonna get high on this” is still valid…
Button
September 25th, 2012
3:16 pm
o_O @ czBrat @12:04
Religion is improtant to me but I’m wise enough to know that we might not be in the same place but that doesn’t mean that God doesn’t have a plan in place.
drinking already? heck i guess so, it’s 5 o’clock somewhere
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:17 pm
Come to think of it…I don’t think I’ve seen very many black or latino people get stupid, sloppy drunk
@Bluz: Remind me to take you to a BBQ at the ex’s BFF’s house sometime.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 25th, 2012
3:17 pm
Fk what ya’ heard – the real news is that there may be a bacon shortage next year. (lmao – but I’m serious)
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:19 pm
Random thought: Does AirTran have seatbelts?
disco
September 25th, 2012
3:19 pm
swiss – so I guess I’m the only one giving credit to the “hustler” spirit in the addict? that make a way out of no way character trait that is admired in others gets shot down in addicts. double standards…
Bluzgirl
September 25th, 2012
3:20 pm
ITL – My boss would freak if she knew I did it, but they don’t see it. I’m very careful as to how far I open my mouth in front of the big wigs. It’s also pierced further back, so it’s not as obvious…Just do it! LOL!
I’ve often wondered who was the first to try smoking leaves until they found something that made them feel good? Can you see someone smoking oak leaves, pine straw, etc before they found the Mary Jane?
disco
September 25th, 2012
3:21 pm
celisea – girl you are tripping. to answer your question. no. they hand out short lengths of rope. you say to your neighbor “I’ll hold yours in place if you’ll hold mine in place”. it’s the buddy system.
Comon Cents
September 25th, 2012
3:21 pm
ITL~ I too was pierced at one point (the reason that I know the direct line to the bloodstream thing)
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:21 pm
LOL@disco. I’ll admit that folks can be clever when it comes to making a way where there is none. Shoot, I watch Lockup on MSNBC and am stunned at some of the inventions/concoctions the inmates devise. I think to myself, “Man…if you’d used that intelligence for good while you were out, you could be the CEO of your own startup by now!”
Bluzgirl
September 25th, 2012
3:22 pm
OK ITL – please do take me! Maybe it’s more that I don’t see them get stupid sloppy drunk in public like I see white people…
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:22 pm
@Bluz: Go with me! We’ll swing into Psycho Tattoo and then hit Darwins! LOL
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:24 pm
disco – LOLOLOLOLOL That’s why I told the chick here no can do. Nuh uh. That was funny… I’ve never flown AirTran and I don’t plan to anything in the future. I think I would opt to walk…lolololol
A friend of mine was talking about he flew one-way to Detroit and there seemed to be turbulence the entire flight… He swore he could see the wings flapping through the window…lol I was rolling at that.
i'm swiss
September 25th, 2012
3:24 pm
“Man…if you’d used that intelligence for good while you were out, you could be the CEO of your own startup by now!”
ITL — Folks have different talents. Some have a talent for building successful businesses, other have talent for making toilet wine.
disco — To the contrary, I admire their creativity, if not their teeth.
Comon Cents
September 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
Mrs. SC~ I heard about the bacon shortage thing. My son is literally about to cry thinking there will be no bacon next year. LOL!
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
What happened to Single and Happy?
Celisea
September 25th, 2012
3:26 pm
Alright, I’m outta here for the day…woohooo
Single and Happier "Life Happens!" (these folks are lucky I love what I do)
September 25th, 2012
3:26 pm
comon I believe in god, I also believe in a lot of other things, I don’t believe in someone trying to make me believe in something they believe in. I know death is inevitable, so I enjoy life and the lives of those around me so when they pass on I won’t feel bad about it.
Comon, if I was open to the idea of having more children, I wouldn’t have got snipped. I love my sons, but the thought of having/wanting children never crosses or crossed my mind.
disco
September 25th, 2012
3:27 pm
ITL – I have told many a folks not to sleep on the drug dealers. say what you will about their “occupation” but a successful drug dealer has to have good people skills, communication skills, math skills, chemistry, marketing, etc. heck, street pharmaceuticals is a business. and, on a related note, I remember reading once that some country or other was rehabilitating their prostitutes as customer service workers. in short, does not the very act of being a prostitute require some bomb A customer service skills? lol.
Comon Cents
September 25th, 2012
3:27 pm
On the bath salts y’all have me cracking up! It’s not literally Calgon. It’s a synthetic drug (like meth) but the look like the bath salts your mom used to use back in the 70’s and 80’s.
Rich
September 25th, 2012
3:29 pm
@Comon Cents:
No Ma’am, I don’t believe in having children outside of wed-lock or having sex before marriage. I am old school like that, and yes I am still a virg, I still date women who have had sex I don’t hate, but they have respect me and my faith is all. Not bad for a 35 year old white boy. I just want my own family not someone else’s, I know that may come off as selfish but I know what I want. I know some may make fun that I am still pure, that’s OK I am used to it.
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:29 pm
@Swiss: I guess….but it still seems like such a waste of a good mind. You can build a working gun out of toilet paper, ramen noodles, and a battery but you’re locked up. Sad.
Just so we’re clear, bath salts are the ones that make people eat faces, right?
Comon Cents
September 25th, 2012
3:31 pm
disco~ From dealing with them daily, I will tell you that the “higher ups”, not the street slingers or the yayo boys, but the guys who are actually making bank selling dope are some of the smartest individuals you will ever meet. And beyond the intelligence that it takes to run their “business” you would be amazed at the machinations that go on in the background to make sure that should they get pinched, their assets are protected. I have no doubt that if any one of them put their minds to it, they could be some of the most successful (and ruthless) business men you have ever seen. Not only that, these days you would be amazed how man women are in the game. It baffles the mind.
Into the Light
September 25th, 2012
3:33 pm
@disco: My point exactly!! Which begs the question: do they choose that lifestyle because it’s easier or because other avenues are closed to them? Makes you stop and think….
sn: I almost typed “tink” instead of “think”…..Po lil Tink Tink…..