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Size matters.. and it doesn’t?

Fill a room with single women and ask them the most debatable question about men: Does size matter? You probably could divide the room down the middle on each side of the issue. A man’s size matters. It doesn’t matter. It depends.

I often wonder if men worry about their size as much as women worry about their weight. Are they self-conscious? Do they feel anxiety before they are intimate with their partner?

I know one thing, it is something some men definitely don’t want to talk about! I can recall having an awkward conversation with my ex-boyfriend Curry. He admitted that he was self-conscious about his size. We had been together for a long time before he ever admitted this to me.

Of course, women know to treat this with sensitivity (no pun intended, really!) but what should we do to reassure men that it doesn’t matter?
What happens if it does matter, though?

Has the size question ever come up in conversation with someone you dated/are dating? Is it something that should be avoided?

When it comes to dealing with issues with size, what is the best plan of action in your opinion?

P.S. I know it’s a sensitive topic…let’s still keep the conversation PG, please? Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog.

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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
6:47 am

I once heard Eddie Griffin say Asian men had the littlest d in the world. That was funny but the fact remains no matter what the size if a dude performance is majical and he is working his hip motion well a lady will be pleased. Yeah I know there’ll be guys lying on the d claiming they are super size and I’m cool with that. I tell friends all the time never overstate yourself.

Good Morning:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
6:51 am

I beat Lilly again.
Lily only because I’ve been up all night working.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
6:58 am

If a man strokes it well there shouldn’t be any problems about the size. But women like to see large things not necessarily to have it, they’re just amused by it.

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
7:08 am

I think Lily’s man is sensitive about this issue no wonder she is tentative this morning…biting her tongue and twiddling her fingures,weighing what to say….he he he,tough one for u Lily. :lol:

Thank God Mandingos are closer to Kunte Kinte nature (than our cousins Onshore) so this is where we def trump our’ Onshore-force_repatriated cousins’, whose genes got tempered with by mixing with blue bloods…size has been compromised!!! Blasphemy! :lol:

And Diva,u equate men’s size issues with women’s weight issues? As if women don’t have nether issues of their own! What hypocrisy,what favoritism is that?! How about comparing men nether deficiency with some women’s inability to blow a whistle( :lol: ) or low esteem due to missing tatas, or flat chiseled behind,or over and gazilion endowed chest,to name a few?

Level(comparison) playing field anyone?
Nether to Nether if u want comparisons.

Weight my foot! :lol:

Hey MIA! :lol:

Lily

September 21st, 2012
7:11 am

Good morning Blackfoote!

I’m slipping :) Like your posts. I could add more, but that will suffice.

Lily

September 21st, 2012
7:14 am

@Exiled, a bit animated this morning? Ahhh, what dramatics.

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
7:22 am

Let me tell u all some about some parts of African culture that uall don’t know….do u know that in some parts of Africa..the women will do a hand clap(special palm shape to do the clap) and that their man after a do…going some this,’ thank Daddy,thank Lion,the protector of the kids and the women,king of the hills,the tiller of the soil,the protector of the clan….’ etc each tribe has its own unique praise words…

The African women Value the man’s D….!

:lol:

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
7:24 am

and thank their man..after a Do

Into the Light

September 21st, 2012
8:17 am

Good morning, all!

When we say size doesn’t matter, we mean WITHIN A RANGE! Okay, maybe I shouldn’t say “we” because all women are different, but if the whole motion of the ocean thing is true (to a degree) if he fits within “the range”. What I’m trying to say is, yes, there is such a thing as too big or too small.

Heeeeey, BF! I cooked breakfast for you this morning! Surprise! :)

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
8:44 am

6:58..Blackfoote. I don’t think u and I know altho I want to hazard a guess…..why size matters…

Grip..

SlimUno

September 21st, 2012
9:07 am

Good morning and I see we’re actually going to have a Freaky Friday for once. lol Personally, I believe that the extremes are where potential problems lie. If buddy is waaaaaaaay on the itsy bitsy teeny weeny little dizzle side of the coin, then it’s going to be hard to work, wave, flip it, rub it down oh noooooo because of pure mehanics/physics/geometry etc. Also, if buddy is on the Jolly green giant side of the spectrum, that could very well be an uncomfortable situation…. unless of course, as a woman, you fall into the fisting bowling pins in your hooha then that would be ideal for you.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
9:07 am

Hi Light thanks for making breakfast I neeeeed it.

Ex we know they like to see magnun size men on a sly.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
9:10 am

LOL…….@Slim1

Celisea

September 21st, 2012
9:20 am

Good morning lovelies,

Does size matter? Hmmmm, good question. I use to believe not so much but given time and experience and (not even) a handful of lovers, to some degree, yes. A man cannot help what he was blessed (or not) to work with. By the same token, those that got….well, they got it!! I agree with the notion that it’s how you work it, yada yada yada, but still you cannot discount how “fulfilling” it is to be with a man that gives you that “full” feeling. I will give props to those that can “make do” and do all that other stuff….dining at the “Y”, acrobatics, flipping, tricks and whatnot, good and great! Still and even so, if you can show me a nice time purely on whatcha working with, just the plain ole basics (i.e. size) sans the fanfare (and don’t be mistaken, I like fanfare), that just does it for me. :mrgreen:

Big Al

September 21st, 2012
9:21 am

Size of your weapon shouldn’t matter along as you hit the target with your bullets.

Into the Light

September 21st, 2012
9:24 am

You’re welcome, BF! I thought it was about time I returned the favor. :)

Dang, Slim…..bowling pins?!?!? ET say OUCH!

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 21st, 2012
9:25 am

Morning C & MIA~

Just heard this morning the size 25 years ago was more than now by 25% for men~ Interesting….environment, air population, illness, ect are factors that decrease size oh and STRESS~

Happy Friday~ ;)

Celisea

September 21st, 2012
9:30 am

Heeeey there Lady(bug), what’s crackalackin this morning?

Bluzgirl

September 21st, 2012
9:31 am

Size is only part of the equation. I had a relationship many years ago with a man who was very small. He knew he was, so he made up for it in other ways. We slept together for about a year…I kept going back because he was wonderful in bed despite his size.

Now, I once was with another man who was small and he did nothing special. I could have won an Oscar that night. After it was done, I got up, went to the bathroom, put my clothes on and left. It was terrible. Now, he’s married to a beautiful woman and I just don’t get it! She must not be into sex very much. LOL!

I don’t even need to go into the most recent one cause I’ve talked about it enough! ;-)

Kat

September 21st, 2012
9:31 am

Does size matter? Yes. And for those who say that it doesn’t matter, you are lying. Yes, you!

Bluzgirl

September 21st, 2012
9:32 am

Hey ITL! You pumped about tomorrow? I’ll be watching from the comforts of my own home…need to go buy some football food!

disco

September 21st, 2012
9:34 am

good morning. does size matter? what a fun topic for a Friday. I will say that as a woman I have given much more consideration to a man’s size (in general and in his pants) than I have ever given to my own weight. I’ve always been small, come from small people. weight issues were just never on my radar.

BF – I beg to differ that the stroke makes all that much difference. I’ve heard men use the argument that they can get a chick of with their finger. thing is if I wanted to get off with a finger I could use my own.

Into the Light

September 21st, 2012
9:35 am

Hey Bluz!

Yes ma’am. I’m so ready for some football. Making the shopping list now for tailgate goodies. :)

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
9:37 am

Dining at the ‘Y’

ummmm Cel..that’s new menu title that one! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
9:39 am

Hey Lady
Cely you got me cracking up, so you want to see how big it can get?………LOL

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
9:40 am

I think I’ll just feign sickness today and take freaky Friday off…can’t miss it for Nothing! :lol:

I think Diva has a date trending freaky…she never like this ! :lol:

Celisea

September 21st, 2012
9:40 am

Mmello – Nothing new about that…not for me anyway

Blackfoote – Not scavaging, just say nicely sized ain’t a bad thing. Too much of anything though is not good for any one. I have my limits.

Lady~sharpness is > than smartness

September 21st, 2012
9:44 am

Hey BF!!!

C same ole stuff nothing new sis~ lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 21st, 2012
9:46 am

Does size really matter? wouldn’t know, don’t worry about the things I have no control over

Celisea

September 21st, 2012
9:46 am

Lady – Just a different day…lol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 21st, 2012
9:47 am

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
9:49 am

disco I know you like size on a dude, shoood I know women like to have the full weight of the man on her especially if she feel he’s hitting it right.

disco

September 21st, 2012
9:56 am

BF – sho you right. imo, the little lightweights ain’t hitting on nothing. I need the dudes that you have to be careful with. he mess around and fall asleep on you and you might mess around and suffocate or break something. just like I’m not trying to pick up sticks with my legs tangled around some little short dudes legs. our bodies should be lined up “just so”.

also in thinking about big I was thinking about how folks always say my brother (the sorry one) has a big heart. he’s not worth a wooden nickel but he’s nice, he’s helpful, he’s considerate, etc. all good character traits but he’s on the worthless side. he can barely provide for himself let alone his children or a woman.

disco

September 21st, 2012
9:57 am

oops. meant should NOT be lined up just so. we laying there seeing eye to eye, lined up torso to torso, knee to knee, ankle to ankle. you see where I’m going with this?

Into the Light

September 21st, 2012
10:01 am

I’m not trying to pick up sticks with my legs tangled around some little short dudes legs

Made me LOL

Monroe

September 21st, 2012
10:02 am

I think this works both ways. If a woman isn’t a 36D or bigger, it just doesn’t do it for me. A total turn-off. My experiences have always been better with a woman who has a serious rack of lamb going on.

But that’s just me.

Exiled!

September 21st, 2012
10:07 am

Single? 9:46 I don’t hear arrogant confidence there..more like u throwing ur hands up in the air and offering God excuses! :lol:

Say sum my brother….u missing ur usual step

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 21st, 2012
10:07 am

Disco, there you go with that short thing again (LOL)

disco

September 21st, 2012
10:09 am

Monroe – and that’s perfectly okay. everything ain’t for everybody.

when I see the couples where the woman is a lot larger than the male I only thank my maker that I’m small. I’ve been with a small man before but I can’t imagine being with one that was smaller than I am.

S/H – you know I don’t mean nothing by it. besides, it’s the topic. lol.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 21st, 2012
10:09 am

Ex nothing to really say either they like what I’m working with, or they move on to the next one, not that serious, cause what one doesn’t like another one will. But also haven’t had any complaints either :-D

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 21st, 2012
10:10 am

Disco, the subject is size not height (LOL)

disco

September 21st, 2012
10:13 am

size, height, weight, length, volume, big feet, small hands, flat booties, same same.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 21st, 2012
10:15 am

mmmmm hmmm disco mmmmm hmmmm :-”

SlimUno

September 21st, 2012
10:19 am

disco – I dated a small guy for almost 3yrs (small as far as his stature, not his weenie size) but let me just tell you, BIG things come in small packages sometimes :oops:

disco

September 21st, 2012
10:21 am

slim – so I’ve heard, so I’ve heard.

SlimUno

September 21st, 2012
10:23 am

He had a Prince build :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 21st, 2012
10:27 am

Y’all got me falling out, disco I know exactly what you’re talking about. Slim1 I’ve heard women say the same thing about small stature men.

i'm swiss

September 21st, 2012
10:30 am

Morning, folks. I see we’ve got all the blog ladies with visions of yule logs dancing in their heads… :lol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WCvULMRUq8

disco

September 21st, 2012
10:38 am

hey swiss.

BF – thanks for that confirmation.

i'm swiss

September 21st, 2012
10:48 am

Howdy, disco. Wow, what happened? The topic seems to have kind of petered out. [rim shot]