Size matters.. and it doesn’t?
Fill a room with single women and ask them the most debatable question about men: Does size matter? You probably could divide the room down the middle on each side of the issue. A man’s size matters. It doesn’t matter. It depends.
I often wonder if men worry about their size as much as women worry about their weight. Are they self-conscious? Do they feel anxiety before they are intimate with their partner?
I know one thing, it is something some men definitely don’t want to talk about! I can recall having an awkward conversation with my ex-boyfriend Curry. He admitted that he was self-conscious about his size. We had been together for a long time before he ever admitted this to me.
Of course, women know to treat this with sensitivity (no pun intended, really!) but what should we do to reassure men that it doesn’t matter?
What happens if it does matter, though?
Has the size question ever come up in conversation with someone you dated/are dating? Is it something that should be avoided?
When it comes to dealing with issues with size, what is the best plan of action in your opinion?
P.S. I know it’s a sensitive topic…let’s still keep the conversation PG, please? Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog.
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242 comments Add your comment
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
2:30 pm
Not true Ex…only sometimes!
I wasn’t liquored up last week!!!
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
2:30 pm
Jake – Well, i’m not going to hate on that…Giving/Receiving orders is fun
And I see you counting Azz Spades over there (I and a possible) 
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
2:30 pm
But…gotta be liquored up to even entertain the thought of the back door. I can tell you that Magnum will NEVER get to go there!!! OUCH!!!
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:31 pm
Jake why u need long shakespearan words for a rebuttal
Yes or nO suffices
Single is quiet today…he def don’tike this size topic
LMAOF
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:33 pm
Maybe we need to change the topic(afternoon anyway)
We need to be inclusive!
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
2:34 pm
Throw out a new topic, Ex!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
2:38 pm
EX-Yes sir, all thumbing is done concurrently while knockin her down, as to the other part of your question, I’ll be your Huckleberry.
Been there, done that….very, very, occassionally, but yes I have had an Azz Sammich before….lol
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:41 pm
Bluz maybe weekend music/fun/plans Bluz
Whatchu doing…no lay for a minute right?
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
2:43 pm
Only plans I have for now are going to the mountains for the day on Sunday. I would like to find something fun and free to do tonight or tomorrow, but I’ll be ok with just chilling…
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
2:53 pm
Bluz~ Where’s a good place with some live music in Marietta? I was going to take the hubs out for some dinner and music tonight. Can’t be too late though, gotta prep for the game tomorrow….
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
2:59 pm
CC-
You aren’t playing in the game, though. There shouldn’t be much prep.
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:01 pm
CC-
There is something big going on at The Cobb Energy Center tonite. I think Al Jareau. I think that traffic may be a little heavy over there.
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:02 pm
Yep, Ramsey Lewis and Al Jareau is tonight.
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
3:03 pm
Common…what does ur hubby do?
U not lawyerly at home are u..wanting to put logic and good argument into every decision
How u vibe at home?
U feisty? And ur hubby laid back?
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
3:05 pm
Altho I must add Common..nothing like fuc_ing a big brainy woman…it’s a thrill
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
3:05 pm
CC – Darwin’s is always good! That’s usually where I go when I’m make the trek up to Marietta…
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
3:10 pm
Me.lo — I’m on the same page w/ Jake on your earlier question. The thumb (or other finger) is always in conjunction with either tapping the vajajay from the back or going downtown. The vajajay treatment is the foundation, the back-door extra just takes it over the top.
And as for your other question, as I believe I’ve stated proudly on here before, I gladly toss Mrs. Swiss’ salad anytime. But she’s the only one.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
3:10 pm
Playing catchup, Ex no size problems here, so there is nothing to add to this convo (LOL)
butt comon and the back door, (when you gone let me be your militant midget, I’ll stand on a step stool) ROTFLMAO
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
3:13 pm
Back from my meeting…
You would probably be amazed at how many women that are not active participants.
I’ve NEVER understood that…I can’t just lay there and once I get on top…it’s a wrap cause you gone c.um for sho…I “garontee” it
Every dude in here has said “she look like she can fugg”.
Probably while looking as Sassy, too
I’ve gotten that a time or two but what I’ve been told by one of my old friends is that I look like once I get going…wheeeew buddy…
Are you offended by the question or something, you came back kinda strong Honey Boo Boo
Nah I’m too grown to be offended…you came at me hard and I responded in kind…that’s all. We cooler than the other side of the pillow.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
3:16 pm
There’s Swiss….I thought I was going to have to stand up for all the thumbing azz eaters of America all by myself….lol
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
3:17 pm
PG~ Not going to Al Jarreau.
We live in East Cobb, so there will be no traffic over that way.
Ex~ Hubby is a sous chef. And, yes, I am bossy and lawyerly at home. Very seldom do I let my hair down and just throw caution to the wind. (But when I do, boy, do I do it…
) Guess that is one of the reason I love the hubs; I can relax and just chill with him. (That and he never let’s me forget that I used to be Ashley Smashley back in the day) My husband says the same thing about the brainy isht. When I had to call Comcast and argue with them, he was mad that I didn’t wait til I got home to call them so he could listen in. 
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
3:19 pm
S/H~ I told you, you can be the next ex Mrs. Comon…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
3:22 pm
Ex Mrs. Comon, awww you getting real freaky in there now, you plan on turning me out (LOL)
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
3:23 pm
awww sookie sookie nah…
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
3:24 pm
Sassy…”you came at me hard and I responded in kind…that’s all”…..
Wait, what, too many question marks???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? but we’re cool.
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
3:25 pm
Ok Swiss!
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:26 pm
CC-
I live downtown ATL so I hate it when I get caught up in stuff at the Dome/GWCC/Philips Arena. If I know i can plan right. So good for u?
Me and the wofe let Comcast have recently. Our styles were surprisingly similar. The tech that came out had an funky attitude, especially having to get up on a ladder to trouble shoot our line.
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:27 pm
wife not wofe…This week has kicked my tail. Like Black Rob said, “Whoa”.
Into the Light
September 21st, 2012
3:27 pm
Step away for lunch and to finish a project and y’all are up to stuff when I get back….. I like it!
A co-worker just came by, talking about stopping by our tailgate tomorrow and asking me if we’d be playing flip cup. Really??? Dude…I’m over 30.
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
3:27 pm
Thnx Common…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
3:28 pm
I had a comcast tech out to my house yesterday to exchange my boxes, and I must say this the first one I’ve ever had that I didn’t have to show how to do it (LOL)
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
3:29 pm
There is a lady lawyer that I know
Wow..glad it was arms length but boy…!
That one!
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:30 pm
CC-
you might be in pumpkin area of East Cobb.
Well, it may have been changed from a pumpkin by now. There are various areas of Cobb that have the thing going own. Unfortunately, (well for my pockets fortunately) some end up in Family court/divorce court.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
3:31 pm
PG traffic around that area wouldn’t be so bad if they didn’t get out and try to direct it during events, they are the worse I have ever seen!
Into the Light
September 21st, 2012
3:31 pm
Pssssst, Bluz….did I see you mention Darwins???
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
3:33 pm
live downtown ATL so I hate it when I get caught up in stuff at the Dome/GWCC/Philips Arena.
I used to live downtown,too(Cone&Walton)…walking distance from EVERYthing and I loved it when stuff was happening at those venues. On a good weekend I’d sit outside and people watch n stuff…
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
3:37 pm
ITL…Have to plan another Darwin’s night! Probably not until week after next, though…gonna be swamped with benefit stuff all this week.
Into the Light
September 21st, 2012
3:39 pm
@Bluz: Absolutely!! That was too much fun!
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:40 pm
Sassy-
Trust me I love it. We live in Washington Park area. Not too far from Ashby MARTA Station.
I just don’t like getting caught in traffic when I don’t expect it. I get calendars from the GWCC/Dome that let me know. So, it is a me problem when I get caught in traffic. That darn Aquarium traffic can be crazy on the weekends. So, it is a no go for the weekend.
It was great this Monday night when I got tickets from out of the blue to the Monday night game. The owner gave us a great discount. he didn’t want a Broncos fan to get the seat. There is no problem for me to get home, change, and ride MARTA one stop, walk across the street to the Dome. That security to get into the Dome was the only holdup.
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
3:40 pm
CC – There’s a pretty good band playing at Brewster’s tonight. Wish I could go…
Into the Light
September 21st, 2012
3:44 pm
Bluz: Who’s playing?
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
3:45 pm
S&H
I think that APD was better about traffic when Pennington was chief. It was the only thing that I really liked about him.
He was from New Orleans and they know how to handle traffic in and out of the Superdome. I’ve been to many Saints/Falcons games in New Orleans. if with Wifey or with the Boys, we rented a car drove Metaire, the area when Anne Rice lived, etc. However, I have attended none since Katrina. :sad
Chief Turner has not continued the traffic patterns that Pennington used.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
3:46 pm
I hear you PG…thankfully I’ve never had a traffic issue b/c there are multiple ways to get to where I used to live. I miss it!! I miss being able to look out to my left and see the big red CNN letters on the building then being able to look directly in front of me and look over Centennial Olympic park..those were the days. I love my house but I miss living downtown…on a day like today man it’d be ON!!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
3:47 pm
Bluz-are you just into Blues, or do you listen to Alternative sounds as well—there is a great local band named Detroit Mutant Radio that are just about to blow!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
3:48 pm
PG, Maybe then need to go back to traffic school but it seem they have no sense of how to keep traffic flowing. Atlanta traffic lights are also the worse I’ve ever seen but they do a better job than the cops.
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
3:48 pm
you might be in pumpkin area of East Cobb. Well, it may have been changed from a pumpkin by now. There are various areas of Cobb that have the thing going own. Unfortunately, (well for my pockets fortunately) some end up in Family court/divorce court.
It’s now Pineapples. And I believe there was a write-up about it in the paper not too long ago. Yup, I live right in the heart of that area. Johnson Ferry & Post Oak Tritt.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
September 21st, 2012
3:49 pm
Afternoon All and TGIF!!
I’ve glanced a few posts, please tell me the topic has changed, LOL!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
3:49 pm
and speaking of traffic, time to go get in, hope everyone has a great weekend
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
3:53 pm
Hey Mo…glad you made it, 1st ?-How do you feel about a lil “thumbing”…lol
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
3:54 pm
ITL – It’s a band called Hoosier Daddy…rockin’ blues.
Jake – I’m into a lot of different music. I just typically go to blues shows because I know most people there and have fun. I’ll check out that band. Heck…Wed night, I went to a punk show! I have pretty diverse taste…