Size matters.. and it doesn’t?
Fill a room with single women and ask them the most debatable question about men: Does size matter? You probably could divide the room down the middle on each side of the issue. A man’s size matters. It doesn’t matter. It depends.
I often wonder if men worry about their size as much as women worry about their weight. Are they self-conscious? Do they feel anxiety before they are intimate with their partner?
I know one thing, it is something some men definitely don’t want to talk about! I can recall having an awkward conversation with my ex-boyfriend Curry. He admitted that he was self-conscious about his size. We had been together for a long time before he ever admitted this to me.
Of course, women know to treat this with sensitivity (no pun intended, really!) but what should we do to reassure men that it doesn’t matter?
What happens if it does matter, though?
Has the size question ever come up in conversation with someone you dated/are dating? Is it something that should be avoided?
When it comes to dealing with issues with size, what is the best plan of action in your opinion?
P.S. I know it’s a sensitive topic…let’s still keep the conversation PG, please? Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog.
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Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
12:55 pm
Laughing at Common
she wants Sassy to answer question for her….
Let’s have ur closing argument counselor
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
12:56 pm
No shame in my game. I like it. (When it is done right). Not too often, but everyone in awile. BUT, that is not what I was talkign about. I was talking about the pain of a little pen!le stretchage in the good old vajayjay. That’s the good isht…
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
1:02 pm
Ex….you crazy, not at all, not a big Anal fan, but I do like to keep busy when I’m back there. There is method to the madness, spit, let it roll down, thumb massage, then….can’t jam it, just like you can’t jam the puddy….
And Shame on yall Ladies for clamming up to a legitimate Freaky Friday Question…..I own it, a freak by nature…if you let me hit, “I am showing up to show out.”
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
1:03 pm
I like u Common!
I think Disco wld say the same
me goading Disco to come to the podium!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
1:04 pm
1& a possible
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
1:08 pm
Sassy???????????????….lol
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
1:09 pm
You got any hula hoop skills?
You afraid of the sweat?
Playa puhleaze once I get my scrunchy and pull my hair back in a pony tail…brang it. I have no problem meeting the alligator in the middle of the swamp….here I go
what are you bringing other than some puddy.
Now I’ll let yoU answer that when you wake up
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
1:09 pm
Jake~ Once you’re IN you can plunge it like you plunge the puddy, but you gotta warm me up to it first. No going in like a bull in a china shop…
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
1:13 pm
Ya’ll are making me clench up back there!!! LOL!!!
I sure don’t just lay there…I make sure to do as much as my man in bed. I’ve been spoiled a lot, though, and don’t really have to do much. I ain’t afraid to get all sweaty!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
1:14 pm
Comon, exactly, gotta tickle that fancy first…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
1:16 pm
Sassy???????????????….
Nu.gga pleaze….HERE I GO!! The answer to your question is no…hell the f.u.c.k. no. Never been a fan of anything or one touching my anus….now you can kiss my a$$(pun maybe..I’on know) all you like but “that” um no. And actually I’m so sensitive I can barely handle that but I do love the feel of soft lips on my booty…
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
1:17 pm
Bluz~ I am spoiled, but I like to give as good as I get. My hubs calls the “early in the morning while he still sleeping hop on top and get it” my Mission Impossible moments. I’ve got both him and we there before he can crack an eyelid good. LOL!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
1:18 pm
And going back to Willie’s post…who the heyal just lays there?…I thought the “coffin rides” went out with highschool? I put in work whether on the bottom or the top…BOTH people involved should put in work.
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
1:24 pm
Where is Slim1 today?!? This convo would be right up her alley! LMAO!
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
1:27 pm
Feeding into this line of thought, do you think that there are certain types of women who are pre-disposed to be more aggressive in bed? For example, most of the female lawyers I know are very aggressive personalities (I know I am) and I would assume that, like for me, it carries over to the bedroom. When I meet a mousey, timid woman one of my first thoughts is “I wonder if she’s this timid in bed?” Anyone?
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
1:34 pm
Jake – I’m curious, what does thumbing a chick’s bootay do for you?
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
1:39 pm
There is method to the madness, spit, let it roll down, thumb massage…
Jake – Um, spitting is a pet peeve of mine so that right there would NOT be the business.
CC – Right up my alley? Not my back alley
(well not when anyone is looking anyway…can’t say i’ve mastered enjoying that just yet)
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
1:49 pm
‘what does thumbing a chick’s bootay do for you?”
Why am I now hearing “what can brown do for you?”
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
1:51 pm
CC – I hear the quiet timid ones are the most freaky but I haven’t slept with any chicks so I’m probably not a great source to consider. lol
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
1:52 pm
Slim — Serious answer to your question (even though it wasn’t directed at me): It depends on the chick. If she likes it (and some chicks reaaaaaaally like it), it gets her off early & often, which is always the goal.
Guys like Jake and myself, we’re givers, you see. 
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
1:56 pm
Realaxing is the key to good back alley action. Definitely suggest trying it on a night when there have been a few cocktails (no pun intended…)
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2012
1:56 pm
Sassy – That ? was just for you. I know youv’e mentioned the hula hoop skills before. You would probably be amazed at how many women that are not active participants. Dudes will tell you its hard to find bad puddy if it even exists, But there are bad lays. Justlike women size dudes ups wondering what he’s packing. Men size chicks up. Every dude in here has said “she look like she can fugg”.
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
1:59 pm
what can brown do for you? EWWWWW
I’m never going to look at the UPS man the same again.
swiss – So i know yall often times do a finger smell check on the puddy. You know where I’m going with this
????
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
2:00 pm
Every dude in here has said “she look like she can fugg”.
Probably while looking as Sassy, too.
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
2:00 pm
*at, not as
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2012
2:01 pm
Swiss – Exactly
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
2:03 pm
Slim —
Actually, I’ve gotta come clean. The thought of going there never even crossed my mind until I met Mrs. Swiss, and she is the most obsessively clean person I’ve ever met in my life. All sniff tests on her come back clean as a whistle, regardless of locale.
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
2:06 pm
WD~ My husband always says for men, sex is like pizza; even when it’s bad it’s still good. This is definitely not true for women.
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
2:07 pm
And, by the way, I figured this was self evident, but you only go 5-hole after a nice thorough shower…
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
2:07 pm
swiss – On the real, how is a booty not going to smell like a booty?
Just messing with ya
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2012
2:07 pm
Slim – I’m with Swiss on this one. I never even thought of going there until I was Married. Even now its not a big deal and rarely even thought of. We have quite enough fun without even thinking about that.
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
2:08 pm
Or sometimes during a nice, thorough shower.
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:08 pm
Looks like the BOB crowd ain’t participating today…..
Was just wondering if BOB comes in same standard size or it also varies
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2012
2:10 pm
Comon – your husband is partially correct. puddy in hand is better than no puddy. BUT, Once you become a connossieur (sp) you recognize the difference in a good pie.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
2:11 pm
Slim-It ain’t really for me, as Swiss alluded to, it helps some ladies, but there isn’t much space there so when my thumb is there, I can feel what Sweet Peeda is doing below, nothing especially erotic about it…just interesting…As for the spit, you don’t want a dry rub, this ain’t a BBQ, it kinda the same as when you might be giving some face and your dude says spit on it…or is that just me.
Sassy-A simple No would have been sufficient.. Are you offended by the question or something, you came back kinda strong Honey Boo Boo
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
2:12 pm
BOB comes in various sizes (not ashamed, I have those too
) Although, I have to say, I have never seen one that was small outside the error of margin range…
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
2:13 pm
Ex – Now you can play dumb or coy all you want. Who doesn’t know that BOB’s come in all kind of shapes, sizes, textures, settings, different intensities, colors and capabilities
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
2:15 pm
Years ago, my best friend and I used to make a list of favorite quotes for our wild weekend. One of mine was “Boy…I didn’t know alcohol could make my a$$ hurt like this”!
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
2:16 pm
As for the spit, you don’t want a dry rub, this ain’t a BBQ
love it!!
Jake – As far as giving some face, there is a way to ensure there is enough lubrication without actually having to hock a luggy on it.
(private property of the WLB code W3T-D)
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:17 pm
I raise my hand on dumbness there Slim..I don’t like the competition so we don’t need that assist.
So i have no way of knowing
But thanks for the info
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
2:18 pm
I can just speak for myself…the quiet timid ones were the wildest. They neva talked about what they gonna do, they just did it and did it well.
The one area where I agree with Ex., I’ve caught more than one female glancing my shoes and then looking directly at the funzone. Then, I was asked about my shoe size. If I had small feet, I’d tip over.
Poppa Grande
September 21st, 2012
2:19 pm
On topic: I have two real rules in life,
1) I don’t care about another man’s wallet.
2)I don’t care about what another man pack’s in the funzone.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
2:22 pm
Slim-I don’t doubt that, sometimes I just like the visual and sound effects that follows a good, “Spit On It”….plus I like giving out orders….lol
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
2:22 pm
Ex – Just check Queen’s closet and look for the big boot shoe box
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:23 pm
So Jake..u spit on the back alley whilst…?
Is licking the hole outa line…wld that be a yellow flag violation?
Or maybe that’s a question for both Jake and Swissie!
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
2:24 pm
Jake~ Funny you should say that. The hubby went with me to get waxed and he said it turned him on when the little asian girl was ordering me around while she had her hands all in the puddy.
Really?!?
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
2:25 pm
I have been licked there before and really didn’t care for it.
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:26 pm
My note book is filling up
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
2:26 pm
As I said before, not a big Anal fan, I prefer the feel of warm womb, for context, i was specifically talking about the Thumb and Womb Special before you guys went deeper into the Anal convo.
Thumb Count:
Yes-1&a possible
No-1
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
2:27 pm
U always liqored up when u give it up Bluz I dont trust ur judgement!