Size matters.. and it doesn’t?
Fill a room with single women and ask them the most debatable question about men: Does size matter? You probably could divide the room down the middle on each side of the issue. A man’s size matters. It doesn’t matter. It depends.
I often wonder if men worry about their size as much as women worry about their weight. Are they self-conscious? Do they feel anxiety before they are intimate with their partner?
I know one thing, it is something some men definitely don’t want to talk about! I can recall having an awkward conversation with my ex-boyfriend Curry. He admitted that he was self-conscious about his size. We had been together for a long time before he ever admitted this to me.
Of course, women know to treat this with sensitivity (no pun intended, really!) but what should we do to reassure men that it doesn’t matter?
What happens if it does matter, though?
Has the size question ever come up in conversation with someone you dated/are dating? Is it something that should be avoided?
When it comes to dealing with issues with size, what is the best plan of action in your opinion?
P.S. I know it’s a sensitive topic…let’s still keep the conversation PG, please? Happy Friday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog.
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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
10:55 am
Black you know how people act like they’re amazed when a short man can do anything (LOL)
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
11:01 am
Where’d everyone go? I need the entertainment this Friday!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
11:10 am
Hey bluz, how you doing?
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
11:12 am
Hey S/H…I’m doing pretty well. Just tired!!!
How are you? Any big plans this weekend?
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
11:13 am
I see we’ve got all the blog ladies with visions of yule logs dancing in their heads…
Well let me chime in then…yes size does matter. I’ve heard that played out, “It ain’t the size of the ship but it’s the motion in the ocean” adage but that’s bull.sht and I’m calling foul on the play. Both men AND women want to be satisfied and honestly when all you have is a lil twig versus a nice sized “log”….someone is going to feel ….underwhelmed and itching for a scratch.
What’s even sadder is when there’s been soooo much anticipation(i.e. trash talking,petting/touching, making out,etc.) and when you finally take it there you’re looking like
Is that it?… That is such a let down…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
11:13 am
I’m doing great Bluz, working and relaxing this weekend
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
11:15 am
BIG things come in small packages sometimes
True
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
11:16 am
Good morning all!
Does size matter? I have to agree with ITL. Within a range, no. But if you are outside of the +/- error of margin, then yes. Too big and there is no way it’s going to work. Too small and it’s like giving a whale a tic tac.
Hey, Light, I think I will be at the game tomorrow! (Yay!!) A friend of mine is being honored at the game tomorrow as well.
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
11:16 am
I hope to relax some this weekend, but gotta drive up to the mountains on Sunday to finalize things for the benefit I’m doing next Sat. I think tonight, I’ll kick back and watch a movie.
After going to a concert in the middle of the week, I’m still exhausted! It was well worth it, though!!!
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
11:17 am
I’m so jealous of CC and ITL! I wanna go to the game!!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
11:18 am
Sassy, are we speaking from experience
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
11:21 am
Bluz if it’s like last week, I only got out the bed when I had on Sunday (LOL)
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
11:23 am
Nice! I could use one of those weekends where I don’t have to do anything!!! Maybe I can schedule one in a few weeks! LOL
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 21st, 2012
11:25 am
lunch time maybe every one will be awake by the time i get back, or maybe just thinking about the size has made everyone either want to go check their size or get all creamy inside thinking about being filled (LOL)
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
11:29 am
Single…ladies always speak from experience.
And when u approach a sister..besides the shoes,her eyes will hover your ego area…
take notice Single….trying to detect a hump,I would think..
Ofcourse the shows give a hint but I doubt that’s reliable!
Sorry you guys who wear 6 and 7 !
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2012
11:35 am
Morning All,
Size does matter to both genders. The folks that tell you it doesn’t are just being defensive to a degree. Of course the dudes that talk about it obsessively are usually either lying (exaggeration) or napoleanic (haha). Same with the Ladies. The ladies that only want the biggest have prob never had one that big or either are so stretched out that they need a yule log. At any rate I agree with the Ladies that have a acceptable range of which most dudes would probably fit.
Personally and luckily for me I happen to fit into that just right range. On the extreme edges I’ve ran into a couple chicks that I just couldn’t do anything with. That didn’t bother me so much as knew I wasnt lacking. I have also run into a few chicks that couldnt do anything with me. At first its a ego boost to hear the ooh and ahhs, slow down, stop, wait a minute until it just got to be too much. Having a chick tap out on you may boost the ego but it does nothing for blue balls.
With that being said give me that chick that fits like a glove. We can work some magic. No braggadocia needed.
SlimUno
September 21st, 2012
11:40 am
I know we’re talking about men and their 3rd leg, but MENFOLK, do you all ever really tell if a chick is “loose”? Does it feel different after a chick has had a baby? Do you assume she’s been around the block if her muscles aren’t tight?
Into the Light
September 21st, 2012
11:52 am
@CC: Cool!!! Hope to see you there!
Off to lunch.
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
11:53 am
On topic, I have to co-sign with Willie D. Size does matter, and it goes both ways. You’ve just gotta find someone who’s the right fit for you (literally and figuratively). I’ve been with some chicks where it felt like I was dipping it in the ocean, so I know I couldn’t have been doing much for them. I’ve also been with some chicks where I had to take it super slow and couldn’t even get it all in because it was hurting them. It’s not just w@ngs that come in all sizes…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 21st, 2012
12:06 pm
Single @10:55 aint nothing wrong being short when you have character.
WillieD @11:35 I fit in that category.
Swiss @ 11:53 I’ve fallen in the ocean a time or two. Today is a good day to pull out that Titanium Wang………LOL
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 21st, 2012
12:10 pm
I’m goin home I’ve been up allnight and half the day. Have a great weekend everyone.
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:10 pm
I’m so about to fall asleep at my desk…boring day!!!
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 21st, 2012
12:13 pm
amazing~
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
12:13 pm
Sliim
U bet…but I ain’t hitting the sack until maybe two months after the baby.
There been chics where it don’t stay in..it keeps popping out.and clearly her outer walls have no grip…
U just go by the fellas usual put down that her nether has seen some mileage but who knows?!
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:14 pm
By BF! Have a good one
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:15 pm
What’s amazing Lady?
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
12:19 pm
Totally off topic — I give The Killers new album 2 thumbs up.
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
12:20 pm
Matter of fact, I might even like it enough to throw in a pinky.
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:21 pm
I like the Killers…I’ll have to check it out…
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
12:23 pm
The new Ben Folds Five is pretty decent, too. Next up on my list for today: Grizzly Bear.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
12:25 pm
It matters, luckilly, I fall into the “Good and Plenty” range, I might not have the biggest one ever, but if I was in a lineup, I would proudly put my hands on my hips and give the world a bright smile, Sweet Peeda can stand his ground.
As Willie stated, the ego boost is okay, but it can be aggravating. I ran into some big’ens too, never to big….if its big on you, prop that puddy up, like Colt 45, “it works every time”.
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:25 pm
swiss…you ever listen to punk music back in the day?
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
12:26 pm
After magnum I’m sure Bluz was a little sore…..unless shes a trooper herself down there
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:27 pm
Ex…Yes…I was sore…in a VERY good way!!!
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
12:30 pm
Bluz — I’m not really a big punk fan. I like some of the more commercial, punk-ish pop stuff like The Clash or old Billy Idol, but that’s about it.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
12:34 pm
Okay, its Freaky Friday soooooo, Ladies, sure most of you enjoy the backshots/doggy, whatever you call it, what is your take on him filling the other space and “thumbing it”.
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
12:36 pm
Bluz~ IDK about you, but I like a little pain in that area. Not too much, but just a little.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
12:38 pm
Which area Comon?
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
12:42 pm
I like a little pain in that area. Not too much, but just a little.
Uhh huh..that’s when it “hurts so good”
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
12:43 pm
You ladies pretending you didn’t see Jake’s question?
Bluzgirl
September 21st, 2012
12:47 pm
swiss…I just asked because I went to see The Adicts Wed night and it was AWESOME!!! I used to be a punk rock chick…
Jake – I’m not a fan of that…a finger can feel ok sometimes, but I’m usually not up for that.
CC – I’d rather have a little pain than feel nothing!!!
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
12:48 pm
Swiss, they smoothly ignoring that one I guess, but I have figured out that if someone doesn’t like something, they will voice it, We know the answer..
“Thumb in the Bootay drives them Nutty”….I have always kept my fingernails cut….lol
Comon Cents
September 21st, 2012
12:49 pm
Not pretending I didn’t see it, I thought Sassy answered it.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
12:50 pm
You ladies pretending you didn’t see Jake’s question?
Nobody’s pretending…the lack of response is speaking volumes
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 21st, 2012
12:51 pm
No Comon I didn’t answer it. When I posted what I did that was before Jake went there with that isht…
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
12:51 pm
Jake,tell the truf and shame the devil..u asking coz u been asked to slide it up there right, when doing rear entry?
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 21st, 2012
12:52 pm
I hear ya Bluz, one vote for occassionally.
Exiled!
September 21st, 2012
12:53 pm
Ok Common and Sassy now uall see it.
Let’s address that gorilla! Lmaof
i'm swiss
September 21st, 2012
12:53 pm
“the lack of response is speaking volumes”
Indeed. And it’s saying, “um, yeah, I like that, but um, DON’T YOU TELL NOBODY!”
Willie Dynamite
September 21st, 2012
12:55 pm
ladies are quick to talk about size but have them try and talk about their skills. What do they do when they find a just right size for them. Sit there and just get sore or are they active participants. Some Ladies just act like its a privilege to give a due some puddy. Im past that, shiiiid whatchu working with. You got any hula hoop skills? You afraid of the sweat? what are you bringing other than some puddy.