Put the man in Romance!
I have a friend who has admitted that she is romantically challenged. She has NO idea how to be romantic with her guy. The relationship is new so he has spent most of the time and effort in romancing her. Now she is eager to reciprocate – and if not the same degree of romance, something very close.
So far he has surprised her with tickets to a play, made a picnic for them inside his living room when the weather didn’t cooperate. He even took her car to be cleaned! The man is a keeper, ya’ll! He needs to be pampered and doted on just as much. So what do men consider romantic gestures? (You know the sexy things they enjoy doing before we get naked??)
What are the best ways to romance a man who has been so romantic in his own efforts? Should women feel pressure or obligation to match the same level of romance?
What is the most romantic gesture a woman has ever shown you, guys?
Ladies, do you consider yourselves to be romantic or romantically challenged? Be honest! What is the last romantic thing you did for someone?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
11:33 am
dunno know that moniker. mrs. uc. is he new?
i’ll stick with willie. he’s been on the blog longer than me.
and staying power is crucial in this area.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
11:35 am
@Stamps: You seem very argumentative today. As clarification, when my grandma was still alive and able to drive, there was a station in her small town that still offered full service.
@cz: For realsies???? I never heard WD’s um, you know, mentioned. But if it’s all that, yep, let’s add it.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
11:37 am
Okay, I’m off to lunch and then a meeting. Who schedules a meeting for right after lunch??? Blah.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2012
11:39 am
Light you hit the nail on the head there with compassion. I know everyone don’t feel the same as me but I love all people. Including the one’s I don’t like. I’m the kind if I hurt you a few minutes later I’ll ask if you’re ok. I know it goes both ways I can get hurt too and if I do he was the better man that day.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
11:42 am
light, i’ve not heard “it” mentioned either. it’s just the image that his moniker brings to mind.
MY mind.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2012
11:44 am
CZ I know you’re not thinking naughty things are you?
disco
September 20th, 2012
11:46 am
BF – I giggled a bit. I’m the kind that if you hurt me and turn around and ask if I’m okay I will not be responsible for my words or actions. that’s a straight up GTFOH moment. lol.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2012
11:52 am
LOL……..@disco I know it’s really to antagonize and make sure he feel defeated.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
11:52 am
i am, black
snakefoote.indeed, i am.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
11:53 am
CZ~ I believe that is Jake’s add on, if I’m not mistaken. SPJTWB = Sweet Peda Jeeter the Womb Beater.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2012
11:57 am
CZ you’re my type of lady……..LOL
Exiled!
September 20th, 2012
11:59 am
ITL..cool!
As for ur 11:10
Then u take Ex’s Big stick into the bedroom!
capping off the day!
LMAOF!
disco
September 20th, 2012
11:59 am
BF – as a child when we (siblings/cousins) fought amongst each other sometimes we got away with it, sometimes we got in trouble for it. I absolutely hated the hole “kiss and makeup” routine. can I just sit here and be mad for awhile? was that really too much to ask for?
SlimUno
September 20th, 2012
12:00 pm
I have not caught up just yet but I feel inspired to do something out of the daily routine…Mmmm
disco
September 20th, 2012
12:01 pm
slim – up for a little truth dare double dare promise or repeat?
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
12:02 pm
lol @ mrs. uc. gotcha. my ADD prohibits me from reading too far into the more intricate monikers.
you’re my type of lady
i get that a lot.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
12:08 pm
disco~ You are like Little Cents. When she was around 3 and she would do something wrong, I would send her to her room until she was “ready to apologize”. You know that little heffa would sit up there all afternoon?
disco
September 20th, 2012
12:14 pm
CC – lol. whatever she did or said she apparently meant it. I, for one, am not mad at her.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:15 pm
i know nothing of these blog dudes (personally), but based on moniker alone, let’s give our superman willie d’s *cough* anatomy… it’s just the image that his moniker brings to mind.
cz don’t feel bad…he11 when I first read Willie’s moniker I blushed…still do from time to time. And I’ve never met him either
disco
September 20th, 2012
12:16 pm
CC – I will say that being stubborn did cost me a lot as a child. I just couldn’t cave in. I missed out on trips to movies, amusement parks. couldn’t go to bday parties. all kinds of stuff just because I was mean and spiteful (my mother’s words, not mine).
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
12:16 pm
just luv this girl ^
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
12:19 pm
woops. disco slipped in there.
hey sassy lady!
disco, my mum’s thing was always telling me i was spiteful. she’d say i would cut off my nose to spite my face. and as a grown woman i freely admit, she was entirely correct. i’d hold a f*cking grudge until i got the chance to nail a mufu good!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:20 pm
I just couldn’t cave in.
disco- I’m still like that…it’s just not in me. I have to be in dire straights and even then I might not cave in. I’m a work in progress…
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
12:22 pm
and she nicknamed myself and my sister “evil” and “miserable”, respectively.
with her accent it was more like “eeville” and “mizairable”.
all in good fun, but a lot of truth to it.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:22 pm
i’d hold a f*cking grudge until i got the chance to nail a mufu good!
I think we some kin…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:24 pm
with her accent it was more like “eeville” and “mizairable”.
Ooooh lawd I almost sprayed my monitor with soup!!!
disco
September 20th, 2012
12:24 pm
I’m just glad to know I’m not the only one. you’d think I had the ability to fold a grudge up and carry it around in my purse. lol.
disco
September 20th, 2012
12:25 pm
brat – I’ve been called mean, evil, hateful, spiteful, vindictive but never miserable. lol.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
12:26 pm
disco~ For Little Cents’ first halloween, I dressed her up as a cow because she was such a little heifer.
I agree with your mother’s words. However, I do not try to break that in her because I believe that it will serve her well when she is older.
Tere is one specific incident I remember from Kindergarten. When she first started school, chick HATED to give up her afternoons to do homework. So, I came up with this plan to brainstom about it in the morning and write down her little ABC’s so all she would have to do is copy it over to the scool paper in the afternoon thus avoiding the crying and fighting session. She comes home from school and I present her homework paper. She proceeds to cry and whine about copying the information over. In a moment of exasperation, I said to her “I thought we brainstormed tis morning so we wouldn’t have to do this this afternoon!!!” and she stopped crying (I mean, turned it off like a faucet) and looks me in the eye and says in this very adult, flat voice “Well, I guess you didn’t think that through very well, did you Mommie?” It was like someone threw cold water on me.
I always tell people she is either going to be a rocket scientist or a serial killer.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
12:30 pm
I’m a work in progress…
here too, sassy. and i generally progress rather well.
but when the mechanism fails, it fails on a global level.
disco, i do take small comfort in that “miserable” only applied to my sister. lmao!
my eldest sister (there are three of us) is the goody-goody one; the one that folks tend to take advantage of.
all things considered, i’d rather be the evil one, and let you know you only got yay far to push me before i snap.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:32 pm
you’d think I had the ability to fold a grudge up and carry it around in my purse.
Chile boo…I’ve got a cute lil “carrying case” that fits in any bag…in small print on the bottom it says, “Use when needed”..lol
disco
September 20th, 2012
12:36 pm
CC – my reply was jacked twice. not going to try to figure out the offensive word. point was, you were wrong for dressing child like a cow but it’s funny and I get it.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:36 pm
when the mechanism fails, it fails on a global level.
That’s common knowledge about me…when I’m there just leave me the f@#k alone and get outta the way.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
12:46 pm
when I’m there just leave me the f@#k alone and get outta the way.
s/o’s greatest challenge because he wants to be mr. fix-it.
i have to remind him the only safe place is directly behind me.
sassy, disco … has it been your experience that folks don’t believe you when you give them fair warning to NOT get on your bad side?
o/t sitting here having this zatarain’s jambalaya for lunch. my first time trying it.
the plate has turned yellow. the fork has turned yellow.
the napkin is yellow-stained every time i wipe my mouth.
something tells me imma have to run out and buy a toothbrush before our date tonight.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
12:49 pm
disco~ She was a heifer and I have a very random sense of humor. I always tell the hubs our job is to give them love, security and just enough dysfunction to make them funny.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 20th, 2012
12:56 pm
i have to remind him the only safe place is directly behind me
That’s part of my disclaimer I give early on.
has it been your experience that folks don’t believe you when you give them fair warning to NOT get on your bad side?
Actually no…most times I don’t have to say much. I only give the disclaimer to my current S.O. I’ve been told that I sometimes have this look of “kickassedness” about myself and demeanor so folks get it. But for the ones that refuse to heed…their a$$e$ will get scraped up without a second thought…
SlimUno
September 20th, 2012
1:03 pm
up for a little truth dare double dare promise or repeat?
disco –
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
1:08 pm
i think my happy, peaceful, live-and-let-live aura causes folks to think i’m approachable.
and f*uckwithable.
aight. off to get some dental supplies to fizz these nola spices off my enamel.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
1:19 pm
Mrs Uncomon at your 10:38, yea I talk women like that, romancing someone has never been a problem for me:-D
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
1:23 pm
Disco about the BAM workshop, I couldn’t tell you where the work shop is, but there must be several, because women are always trying to build them a man. Don’t want one already built.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
1:29 pm
S/H~ So, why aren’t you famous? Most of the men that talk to women like that are famous… IJS.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
1:33 pm
Mrs. UC I guess most isn’t all
MsAtl
September 20th, 2012
1:35 pm
Lol Cz- I am having Zatarain’s gumbo for lunch. Next time you fix the rice, add a package of Mathatma rice in it (don’t forget to add the extra water). I also add chicken, shrimp & sausage to mine.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
1:37 pm
Ok. Someone just sent me this (talking abou tmaybe I should go defend her)
What would make this a good idea?!?
http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-504083_162-20016662-504083.html
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
1:37 pm
S/H~ True. True.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
1:40 pm
Mrs UC so which one was the dumb move, giving the MJ to her daughter, or being even dumber by sending it to someone??
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
1:41 pm
Also Mrs UC what would she plead IDAH (I’m dumb as hell)
Mrs. SexyCool
September 20th, 2012
1:43 pm
Hello, My name is Mrs. SexyCool and I am romantically challenged.
(lol)
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
1:48 pm
Funny you should say that, I have told other attorneys that there should be a plea of stupidity.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
1:48 pm
Awww. SC, you can’t be that romantically challenged. ou just got maried and I bet it was VERY romantic.