Put the man in Romance!
I have a friend who has admitted that she is romantically challenged. She has NO idea how to be romantic with her guy. The relationship is new so he has spent most of the time and effort in romancing her. Now she is eager to reciprocate – and if not the same degree of romance, something very close.
So far he has surprised her with tickets to a play, made a picnic for them inside his living room when the weather didn’t cooperate. He even took her car to be cleaned! The man is a keeper, ya’ll! He needs to be pampered and doted on just as much. So what do men consider romantic gestures? (You know the sexy things they enjoy doing before we get naked??)
What are the best ways to romance a man who has been so romantic in his own efforts? Should women feel pressure or obligation to match the same level of romance?
What is the most romantic gesture a woman has ever shown you, guys?
Ladies, do you consider yourselves to be romantic or romantically challenged? Be honest! What is the last romantic thing you did for someone?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Exiled!
September 20th, 2012
10:01 am
Ok my fun is over have a good day everyone!
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
10:04 am
Better?
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:05 am
Anybody else completely baffled as to what Ex just said? Either he needs a translator, or I need more coffee. IJS….
disco
September 20th, 2012
10:06 am
ITL – I’m baffled/perplexed by ex’s comments about 50-75% of the time. still when he says something I get, I really do get it. go figure.
MsAtl
September 20th, 2012
10:07 am
Morning all! I would say two things are tied for the romantic things I have done lately. 1- arranged a weekend getaway to the beach, complete with a NASCAR racing experience (so he can get it out of his system without getting a ticket from Georgia’s finest) and 2- helped with home renovations, painting, etc (a little bit of OCD; I don’t like being dirty). He, on the other hand, details my car as well as some other things.
On driving each other’s cars; I prefer to drive my own car rather than anyone else’s. I don’t mind him driving my car (which leaves me having to adjust the seat back, lol).
MsAtl
September 20th, 2012
10:08 am
Blackfoote- sweet comment re your 8:31…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
10:14 am
Enter your comments here
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
10:15 am
Ex sounds like a lot of my clients, so I don’t have a hard time translating him most of the time.
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
10:17 am
I drive the wife’s car about once bi-weekly. I like to make sure that it is driving ok. She doesn’t like driving my car at all. I really would prefer that she drive my car more regular. He car isn’t isn’t bad shape. She loves her car because it an Explorer and rides pretty high. My car is a luxury car and doesn’t ride as high. According to her, it is sitting up high.
However, I drive the wife’s ride to make sure brakes are good. I check the squeaks, and possible grinding sounds. I check the oil, Coolant/Antifreeze, transmission fluid, etc on a weekly basis.
Other than for maintenance I drive my car. I know that my wife spends the majority of her driving time on the cell phone with her friend or sorors. Which means that she isn’t listening for sounds. She wouldn’t know what to do if she heard one anyway.
Exiled!
September 20th, 2012
10:18 am
ITL..ok I peeked back… Addicted!
I don’t write like a blue blood coz I aint a blue blood
I am African!
I think in one lingo,try a translation a write in blue blood lingo…
U gotta learn to comprehend me…don’t throw snides
Otherwise we ain’t gon communicate
Carry on
I had to get that off my big Mandingo chest!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
10:19 am
CC I’m with disco, on the switching cars thing tried it, didn’t like it.
ITL it can be rocket surgery when you don’t know how to look, and can’t see the forest for the trees.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
10:21 am
morning, all! i see the blog is rolling strong already. great topic too.
i am the romantically challenged one on our ship. s/o is amazing with the romance, surprises, extras and all that. just yesterday he surprised me with the news that we’re heading to chi-town next week to catch prince in concert.
admittedly, i cannot match his level of romance financially … but it turns out he really appreciates the little things. it’s hard to impress an amateur chef with a home-cooked meal, but he luvs it when i make the effort.
and like ITL said, even if it’s just quiet time on the couch watching a game, as long as we’re wrapped skin-to-skin like a twizzler, he’s as happy as a doodlebug.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
10:23 am
PG, does your wife know how do any of that herself?
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
10:26 am
PG~ Things are exactly the opposite in our ouse. Before I was addressed as counselor, I was addressed as Service Manager.
Worked for Firestone for 6 years. I can fix anything on my car. Hubs doesn’t even change his own oil. LMAO! That is the reason I take the car for service. They would try to rook him for real. I take it to someone I used to work with who now works close to my office. But I still hate driving his vehicle.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:27 am
@Ex: I wasn’t throwing snides, I was just stating that I didn’t understand what you wrote. And, clearly, I also indicated that perhaps it was just me (the needing more coffee statement). Glad you were able to get that off your big mandingo chest, though.
@Stamps: Yeah, if he’s that oblivious, I’m not interested anyway.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
10:28 am
cz~ You’re going to see my baby daddy? Tell him I said “Heeeyyy!”
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:30 am
@cz – I am so JEALOUS! I can’t wait to hear all about the concert. Love, love, love me some Prince.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
10:31 am
Hey PG! how goes it?
i curtsey to you on your 10:17.
when s/o and i first got together i told him the two things that make me weak in the knees. a man that takes care of my car (i just want to push the button and go!). and a man that leads me with his hand on the small of my back.
lmao @ mrs. uc. will do!
disco
September 20th, 2012
10:32 am
CC – prince? a baby daddy? just doesn’t sound right. lol.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
10:33 am
Mrs UnComon Cents, you trying to let us know before we holla (LOL) I don’t change my on oil anymore, it became cheaper for me to pay someone else to do it, now I don’t have to pay for it anymore.
PG if you’re going to drive you should know somethings about your car. One of my exes went through 4 engines because she didn’t get reminded to change to oil. I tried to teach her how to check the oil and look at the sticker, but it didn’t work. But the oddest thing to me was a letter to dear abby from a ladies who’s husband had died and she was saying how lost she was without him because he took care of everything even putting gas in the car, she didn’t even know how to do that. What made it odd maybe a few weeks later I was at a gas station and this old lady pulled up and ask me if I would show her how to put gas in the car, she had the same story.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
10:33 am
disco~ Trust. Prince would have been my baby daddy if I couldn’t gotten my hands on his little 4′9″ azz. LOVE me some Prince. I have seen him in concert 27 times. I even flew to Minneapolis to see im in concert because it is the only place he performed “Adore” back in the day.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:34 am
@PG: co-signing cz’s 10:31.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
10:35 am
Hold up Mrs.UnComon, prince lil bit of tail can get some and I can’t (rotflmao)
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:37 am
@Stamps: My grandmother, God rest her soul, never pumped gas a day in her life. After my grandfather passed, she went to the one full serve station in town.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
10:38 am
S/H~ IDK, do you talk to women like the lyrics that Prince writes? rotflMao.
disco
September 20th, 2012
10:38 am
S/H – I have a male friend who’s been married for 30+ years. his wife can’t do a daggone thing. lol. she drives but only locally in their little small town (and when I say small this little town doesn’t have a school, a grocery store, nothing. kids have to go to school in a neighboring town). anything else and she’s too nervous to drive. she’s never paid a bill, balanced a checkbook. nothing. he just provides and provides and provides. I told him I hope she goes first.
CC – I like me some prince but I definitely won’t say all that. he’s all yours.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:39 am
shirts vs. blouses…..game: blouses!!
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
10:41 am
As for romantic, I would not call myself romantic. I do try though.
I am very cost conscious. For example, I will do more things after valentines than the actual day. Why spend more for roses that day when on the next day it will cost less.
I say that I know my wife to do that without getting the side eye. One of may romantic endeavors went like this. I actually wrote a poem and put it in an envelope. I asked by best friend to deliver it since he worked nearby. He delivered it to the receptionist. At the end of the poem, it stated that she should be prepared to be picked up and we have a dinner. I used carey limo and they send a town car to pick her up. I dropped a teddy bear off at carey. i knew some of them from previous years of calling them when i drank to much. As I look back, this is the stupid part of the story. The teddy bear wore 1.5 carat diamond earring. Nothing fancy but I looked it as if they get lost, i can buy some more. They weren’t super expensive from the jewelry store.
Anyways she saw the teddy bear and loves it to this day. It was a build a bear. So I had personal stuff on it. Including it was wearing a wedding dress with those earring. Long story short we met up for dinner at the Imperial Fez. I was already there waiting when she drove up. I didn’t propose that night. But, I wanted to let her know that I was on the same page with her in knowing how she wanted this courting process to pan out.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
10:44 am
light, i’m not really a fan, but he’s s/o’s fave. i expect it will be pretty impressive, tho.
can’t wait to see s/o grinnin’ and groovin’.
and your 10:37 …. now THAT’S exactly how it should be.
don’t get me wrong, i know all about fluids and maintenance. i can change a tire. i can jump a battery. BUT I DON’T WANT TO!! i call roadside assist or i let the man handle it. cuz i’m a brat like that!
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:45 am
PG, you rock!
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
10:47 am
@cz: I know exactly what you mean. I can do it if I have to, but I don’t want to “have to”…..I want it to be automatic for him to take care of those things…
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
10:49 am
S&H-
I’ve taught her those things as well. I guess that I do it so regularly is because is to keep my mind clear. I know that such and such has been checked.
I know that some of the stuff has stuck. Recently, she had a check engine light on. She checked some things that I know that I mentioned to her. Some of the sorors were riding with her and mentioned that she checked those things. It turned out to be one of the sensors that tell the car’s computer about emissions.
I’m with you on teaching her though.
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
10:53 am
S&H
I taught her things on my car, too which is a Mercedes. I remember telling her that the wipers have sensors that make them start automatically. It still freaked her out when they started wiping. I showed her under the hood and she liked the “pretty cover over the engine”.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
10:56 am
whatever on the
, poppa. y’all know you luv us!
disco
September 20th, 2012
10:58 am
someone mentioned build a bear. shoot, y’all going to make me build a blog man. lol. take a little bit of each of y’all and see what I can come up with.
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
10:59 am
CC-
You sound like me in regards to concerts. Concerts were my splurge and love as a single guy. I had no problem going by myself. For me it was Sade. I flew int Madison Square Garden to see her there because I love that venue for concerts. I flew to London to see her perform too. It wasn’t Wembly Stadium, though.
Janet in the 90s was a good concert and you got sensual and you got the dance stuff.
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
11:03 am
CzBrat-
I didn’t say that I didn’t love y’all.
I know females could write a book from the actions of males that make females go
Y’all would have bestseller because I see more females buying books than men,. There aren’t many men bookclubs around.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
11:05 am
ITL~ Would you like some eggs? B!tch? LMAO!
PG~ Yes, concerts were and still are my splurge. Just went and saw Mar J and D’Angelo at Chastain a few weeks ago. Went and saw Lindsay Buckingham at Center Stage before that. Mary looks GOOD! And she is such a show woman. Hoping to catch some of Music Midtown this weekend. LOVE LOVE LOVE live music shows.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
11:07 am
@Mrs. UC: When Chapelle was on, he was ON! Charlie Murphy!
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
11:09 am
Show Charlie Murphy yo tittays! I agree ITL; he was the best.
Into the Light
September 20th, 2012
11:10 am
@disco: Ooooh, that would be fun. What would we take from each blog guy?
From PG, I think I’d take his natural instinct to provide and protect
From Swiss, his sense of humor
From BF, his compassion and ability to cook….
What else…….
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
11:17 am
CC-
I’ve seen Mary a few times myself. I hope that the vocals would improve for me, but they didn’t. D’Angelo was good years ago. I took the wife to Savannah to see Maxwell a few years back. I felt that he was better in small venues. Same for Jill Scott. Seems better in smaller venues. Big arena are still good. I’ve seen Jill perform many times.
Music Midtown was my thing back in the day. I have seen many greats because if it: Jimmy Cliff, Booker T & MGs, Al Green, Rick James, Me’chelle Negeocello, OutKast, Salt N Peppa, the Black Crowes, Buju Banton, Def Leopard, etc. I miss it and will probably miss it this year because I got plans at the Biltmore in Asheville.
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
11:17 am
y’all don’t get me thinking about the old chapelle skits. i don’t think i’m supposed to be ctfu during this concert.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
11:19 am
ITL , there are no Full Station service anymore
czBrat ♀
September 20th, 2012
11:21 am
well, im gonna put it out there, light.
i know nothing of these blog dudes (personally), but based on moniker alone, let’s give our superman willie d’s *cough* anatomy.
you ladies carry on building the mushy stuff.
Poppa Grande
September 20th, 2012
11:24 am
The Wayne Brady episode of Chapelle get better each time I watch it. l love the Rick James episode, but that episode was just hilarious.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 20th, 2012
11:25 am
Disco, you mean you haven’t been to the build a man workshop yet??
disco
September 20th, 2012
11:27 am
O/T – I’ve mentioned before the pet peeve of folks claiming. you know the ones that always say “my husband/my wife, my boyfriend/my girlfriend” even though everyone knows their s/o so they can just say their name? I think it’s even worse when you have a married couple in the workplace.
S/H – where do I sign up?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 20th, 2012
11:28 am
MsAtl thank you, I’m not a needy man. I want attention when she doles it out but harrasing her for it is just not me.
Mrs UnComon Cents
September 20th, 2012
11:29 am
cz~ LMAO! IDK, what about Sweet Peda Jeeter The Womb Beater?