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Put the man in Romance!

I have a friend who has admitted that she is romantically challenged. She has NO idea how to be romantic with her guy. The relationship is new so he has spent most of the time and effort in romancing her. Now she is eager to reciprocate – and if not the same degree of romance, something very close.

So far he has surprised her with tickets to a play, made a picnic for them inside his living room when the weather didn’t cooperate. He even took her car to be cleaned! The man is a keeper, ya’ll! He needs to be pampered and doted on just as much. So what do men consider romantic gestures? (You know the sexy things they enjoy doing before we get naked??)

What are the best ways to romance a man who has been so romantic in his own efforts? Should women feel pressure or obligation to match the same level of romance?

What is the most romantic gesture a woman has ever shown you, guys?

Ladies, do you consider yourselves to be romantic or romantically challenged? Be honest! What is the last romantic thing you did for someone?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

280 comments Add your comment

Lily

September 20th, 2012
7:26 am

I’m a huge romantic. The last thing I did was planned and lead an entire evening of activities. I started with picking him, blindfolding him to ending up at a really beautiful B&B. He was immensely pleased!

Lily

September 20th, 2012
7:30 am

I had to outdo him because he is mister romance. (lol)

Good day!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 20th, 2012
7:33 am

“The relationship is new so he has spent most of the time and effort in romancing her. The man is a keeper, ya’ll!” WTH For that one, have we got out of the representative phase yet? At least let the newness wear off before you make that decision!

“What are the best ways to romance a man who has been so romantic in his own efforts?” Be yourself, don’t try to match the things that he has done, For me things that I want to do to romance someone in the beginning are things I want to do, because I don’t really know what she likes enough to romance her in her way. She should do the same

What is the most romantic gesture a woman has ever shown you, guys? Really can’t narrow that down, because everyone of them has done so many things with out knowing it, that just stick out in my mind.

WHERE WAS MY WAKE UP CALL THIS AM :-?

Shaunie

September 20th, 2012
7:37 am

Imma lurk because I have decided not to waste being romantic on my challenged boyfriend. He is selfish and totally un-romantic. His idea of romance is football, hotwings, cuervo and sex. So over him. smdh

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 20th, 2012
7:39 am

Okay Shaunie, so enlighten us as to why he’s your boyfriend?

Shaunie

September 20th, 2012
7:41 am

@S&H – Good question, I guess its time for a little self reflection. Thanks S&H!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 20th, 2012
7:44 am

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
7:58 am

‘The sexy things they enjoy doing before we get naked’!

Diva,that was romantic and a surprise to hear u utter the word ‘naked’. U caught me off guard there. U yourself disrobe in front of a man…or u are one of those that dilly dally,wait for him to go in bed first,then come in under the cover of darkness? Laugh..

Anyway…on topic:

Lily…I don’t know about your idea of romantic…blindfolding? I thought that would be for ‘in bed,when doing the dos and ohhs’

My queen likes eating,hotels and travel. So we go to breakfast places every so often..Romantic? I don’t know about that.
But we hitting West Palm beach in 2 weeks and I know she will like that!

She likes shopping too but I ain’t going to the mall with nobody,I’m sorry there…

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
8:01 am

Morning, all!

@Stamps: You get a wake-up call? Do you live in a hotel??? I kid, I kid….

@Shaunie: See, it’s all in the eye of the beholder…..because a date to a football game (or to watch football) with wings and beer is A-OK with this girl. But if you’re not a sports fan, I can see your point.

Most romantic gesture? Would be hard to pick just one, and while I love the surprise weekend away or the grand gestures, the little day to day things that really make a difference. The things he does just to make my life more pleasant. My car is dirty? He details it. My car is low on gas? He fills it up. Tomorrow is garbage day? He gathers all the trash and takes it out. Little things, but they make me happy. :)

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
8:03 am

As for me…I just like to see a woman clean..no too much yappy yappy and good company and convo..sitting at a patio somewhere sipping on some coffee or other dranks and nibbling on some eats..that’s Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Romantic to me.

I dont need too much

But if u quarrelsome I ain’t getting nekkkid….nah

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 20th, 2012
8:22 am

ITL, yes I stayed in a Holiday Inn Express last night, so you better watch out today (LOL)

I’m a guy and I’m sorry but watching any kind of sports would not be a romantic date for me. :-D Like you said it’s all in the eye of the beholder. Take time to find out what they like and plan accordingly.

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
8:29 am

@Stamps: Hey…different strokes for different folks. To me, spending a day or evening doing something we both enjoy is romance. Maybe not the fireworks 4th of July kind of romance, but the warm-fuzzy kind of romance. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
8:31 am

I tell my woman don’t feel any pressure to match my romantic advances. It’s not a requirement for me, if she wants to do something good fine but she’s not obligated and it’s not held against her. Being her man I don’t need anything except her loyalty and trust.

Good Morning:

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
8:32 am

Heeeeey, BF! You know what I’m gonna ask, so just go ahead and tell me….. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
8:37 am

If anyone cares to know I spoke to Leggs yesterday and she is doing well. She asked me to tell everyone she miss you guys and will be back as soon as she can.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
8:41 am

Hey Lightness can you have chic-fil-a catered to your office, enough for 25 people?

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
8:44 am

@BF: Sure can! The vultures folks I work with would love it! :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
8:48 am

Single I have to ask Shaunie the same question, may not get an answer which is cool.

Shaunie there are plenty of good friendly men out here why do you accept a selfish unromanctic guy? If it’s love excuse me for asking.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
8:49 am

LOL……@Light

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
8:54 am

Cool tell them this treat is from you to them for being great co-workers.

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
8:54 am

Hey BF – what’s your favorite tailgating food?

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
8:55 am

BF: Ha! I would be hero for a day. These folks LOVE to eat. :lol:

Shaunie

September 20th, 2012
8:56 am

Enter your comments here

Shaunie

September 20th, 2012
8:57 am

Lady~

September 20th, 2012
8:58 am

Ex love your 8:03. the simple things rocks! Merging mutual hobbies here and there twoo are cool too. balance is key……….Morning!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 20th, 2012
9:04 am

Shaunie, what love to you, do you think he loves you?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 20th, 2012
9:13 am

ITL to get to something you both enjoy, you have to first find out what the other person enjoys.

Lady merging mutual hobbies it great, but sometimes you finding someone that has hobbies is hard, because we confuse hobbies with things we enjoy doing.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
9:15 am

Light we put anything edible on the grill, my favorite’s are Heinz 57 sauce mixed in hamburger meat. Shrimp skewers, ribs, hot dogs. We also bring a fryer for fish and fries.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 20th, 2012
9:17 am

Shaunie I wish you nothing but the best with him.

disco

September 20th, 2012
9:17 am

good morning. I admit I am romantically challenged. just not overly big on the notion. now, in my defense, I’m a planner and organizer by nature so I can create a bomb event I just don’t tend to look at it from a romantic point of view.

ex – again you tickle me. not going to the mall. lol.

Lady~

September 20th, 2012
9:20 am

yeah I see your point. I enjoy watching sports and love the company of someone that does too and its not a hobby…..but I am also active in other organizations and its important for me to be with a mate that are aware of those hobbies and can rock and roll with me or if we are apart will understanding why Iam involed…. point taken S&H~

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:28 am

Good Morning!

I’m with ITL on this topic. Football wings and beer is very romantic date for me. Especially if my team wins! LOL!

Seriously, the most romantic date I’ve had in a long time was last year on my B-da. Hubby bought tickets to Silk, Dru Hill & Toni! Tone! Tony! down in Macon and made all arrangements for the kids and hotel, kidnapped me for the weekend. It was lovely and the concert was great. He arranged for us to have our pictures taken with Dwayne for Triple T and Little G from Silk. (We did not get to meet Sisqo, but oh well!) We have the picture in our living room now and every time I see it, it makes me smile. Very romantic!

ITL~ Glad I’m not the only one with vultures in my office…

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
9:28 am

@BF: mmmm mmmmm. That sounds good. We’re doing burgers this weekend. I’m trying to think of good appetizers/snacks that we haven’t done a million times, but my brain is not cooperating. :)

SlimUno

September 20th, 2012
9:31 am

I don’t have an issue being romantic and I have to say that beau is not all that creative when it comes to that. I think the closes thing to ‘romantic’ he’s done is taken a flower out of the yard and put it in my hair or had it waiting on my car to find when I left for work. Now he has done things like, he’ll be outside washing his car while i’m dilly and dallying inside and he’s sneak and wash mine too. Or he’ll pick up something he knows I like if he goes to the store. He is not a tomatoes person but he knows i like to put them on my grilled hot dogs. So he’ll be sure to get me one if he’s buying stuff to cook out with. He bought me one of my favorite desserts to cheer me up when i was feeling down about something…so it’s really the little things.

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:31 am

Shaunie~ What is it that you love about him? Because reading your 7:37 does NOT sound like love to me. IJS…

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
9:33 am

ITL to get to something you both enjoy, you have to first find out what the other person enjoys.

Stamps: True. But it’s not rocket surgery.

Him: Hey, what’s up for this weekend?
Me: Headed to Athens Saturday, and then watching the Falcons on Sunday
Him: Wow! You like football?
Me: I love it. Especially the Dawgs and the Falcons.
Him: Cool. I love the birds.

See how easy that was? ;)

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:35 am

Slim1~ Speaking on cars, and totally off topic, I wantted to knowif you guys on the blog drive each other’s cars. The reason I ask is, I had to drive the hubby’s car yesterday to get it serviced. I HATE driving his car and generall we do not drive each other’s cars. (Usually if I drive his car, we are going someplace together and I am the DD and vice versa) But the driving on the day to day just for GP? We don’t do that. When I said something to my friend about hating to drive his car, she thought that was very weird, especially since we’re married. What say you, miscreants?

disco

September 20th, 2012
9:41 am

ITL – yeah. “that” was easy. lol. too bad it’s not always that easy.

CC – I have no significant other but I’m not, and have never been, a fan of driving other people’s cars. if something comes up and I have to, fine but it’s nothing I want to do just because.

SlimUno

September 20th, 2012
9:44 am

CC – Why exactly do you hate driving his car? Is it jacked up on 40inch rims with two 15’s in the trunk and a nekkid lady spray painted on the side door?

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
9:47 am

Yea Lady..but u know,arranging a surprise gateway to a spot and then have dinner,a nighter and morning breakfast is always Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Romantic…..

Since Diva brought naked into it…don’t judge me here….

Fellas…make sure she ain’t trending towards that monster devil red,’No go there’ date coz that may spoil it…. :shock: kills romance!(u be like aghhhh,sitting on ur back in disgust) :lol:

That surprise is Always a panty peeler…I know from experience!

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:47 am

Slim~ Nope. It’s a standard Toyota. But it’s not MY car. I know that shound stupid, but it is what it is. He has said the same thing about my car. I drive a Hyundai. Not kitted out of booming system. Just not my car. **shrugs** IDK…

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
9:48 am

sleeping in ur back,I meant.

@Common u marrried? U wear a ring?

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:48 am

Ex~ No red wings for you? LMAO!

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
9:49 am

On not in
Dang aghhhh

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:49 am

Ex~ Yes, I wear a ring. The hubs would have it no other way.

Into the Light

September 20th, 2012
9:50 am

Yay, miscreants!

LOL@Slim! Can you picture CC rolling up to the law firm in that?

“Mr. Smith, your 8:00 is here…..oh no, wait. It’s CC!” :shock:

Lady~

September 20th, 2012
9:51 am

Yup Ex it is! I feel ya!

Comon Cents

September 20th, 2012
9:55 am

ITL/Slim~ If he drove a car like that, he would have to get his own service done because I’d NEVER drive that isht! LMAO!

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
9:56 am

Slimuno?

What kinda relationships are u into you single folks…

If there is no Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrr so what’s gon take the relationship over the hump to marriage?

Unless u all stuck on shacking?

Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrr takes a relationship to make the man have the butterflies to utter the dreaded three
words..’ I lubbbbb luv u!’ :arrow: marriage possible after.

I tell yu,if ur single status relationship feels like cardboard(No Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrr) ,it’s gon end like cardboard! :lol:

In the trash! :lol:

(Slim…start doing something just something)

Exiled!

September 20th, 2012
9:59 am

Common…u write so romantic sometimes that a dude may holla

Ijs

So henceforth why not change ur monikker to Mrs UnCommon?

Unless u don’t mind dudes stumbling..coz we holla inhere! :lol: