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Dating outside your age range?

Ok listen, I just saw a picture of Denzel Washington on the cover of GQ magazine. I have no words. The man is just…well, he is 57! I am going to be perfectly honest and say that I have not been looking at men in that age range – but should I start? First, I should ask: Do men in their late 50s look like Denzel?!

Taking the totally superficial part out of the equation, how does dating outside your age range really work? I am talking about the generational gaps that can lead to awkward conversations, family disapproval, misunderstandings, mismatched libidos…I could go on!

Relationships can be challenging enough to get started. How do you start one with someone who is not in your “normal dating range”?

Have you ever dated someone 10-15 years or more older/younger than you? What advice would you give to a couple with a significant age gap? How do you think it differs from dating someone the same age as you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

438 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

September 19th, 2012
3:14 pm

I think the Rich boy is in trouble..Mitt Caymen Roomney!

just wanted to pop in and say Hie(BIG HUGG ((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))) MIA! :lol:

will read u tonite..as i go to bed! lol

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
3:15 pm

Jake…I acknowledge that a lot of wrongs were done historically, but it wasn’t my ancestors…mine were overseas, or in Mexico, or wronged against because they were American Indian…

SexyCool

September 19th, 2012
3:15 pm

OT – I think I’m addicted to Pinterest.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:16 pm

Bluz most blacks don’t hold it against you, there are some who will play the race card every time they get a chance, just like there are some white who will say you only got there because you are black. It’s just the way it is.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:16 pm

I think the Rich boy is in trouble..Mitt Caymen Roomney!

I dang shole hope so. Talking all that smack on how you REALLY feel. Yeah, oust his shady tail!

disco

September 19th, 2012
3:17 pm

SCool – firm, fair, consistent.

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
3:18 pm

SexyC – I’ve thought about it, but my company really doesn’t seem to care. I’ve been here 14 years…my boss has been here close to 20 (but only has been my boss for the last 5 or 6). We are a pretty small company. If I bring it up, I will most likely be punished in some way. I know how they work here and nothing will be done. I have mentioned in the past to her boss that I felt like my boss was trying to keep me down because she didn’t like me and I see that she treats others differently. Nothing was ever done…

SlimUno

September 19th, 2012
3:18 pm

CC – I didn’t cry but I did feel totally surprised and made a joke about it. I had one gray on each lip which looked like whiskers to me. So I was acting like I was crying talking about I had a catfish puddy. :lol:

Cel – Dang 54yrs, WOW!!!!!!!

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

Slim – And was “coupling” until the day he died :) Real love!

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

SCool: I have BEEN addicted to Pinterest. I don’t access it from work anymore, because I’d never get anything done. :lol: I was in the salon the other day when this girl came in for a pedi and pulls up a site to show the technician the design she wants (which was super cute). Yep, it was on Pinterest.

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

S/H~ I identify as Republican because I hold more closely with their beliefs, however, I vote for the person that I think will do the best job.

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
3:20 pm

S/H – Oh…I know there are extremes on all sides of each race. It’s just a shame. I hope one day that the race lines can be erased. It probably won’t be in my lifetime, but in the future…

disco

September 19th, 2012
3:21 pm

slim / cel – my grandparents celebrated their 57 year anniversary this summer.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:22 pm

disco – That’s a beautiful thang. I’m happy to see couples surviving and making it.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:23 pm

Dang comon we must be alike (LOL) I’ve been accused of being one, even though I think all politicians lie to get what they want.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:23 pm

My dad died second from the last. All his brothers have now passed. The only survivors are the wives. My dad was married the least amount of time of them all (except for pau pau..his wife died of cancer in the 80s). They were all married 60 years plus

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:25 pm

Bluz “keep hope alive”

SexyCool

September 19th, 2012
3:25 pm

That is unfortunate. I would guess that, at this point, you’ve figured out how to work around the foolishness, but it would be hard for me. If you and your co-workers can provided detailed accounts with dates and involved parties, filing an EEOC complaint may not be out of line.

However, I know that sometimes, you just don’t want to rock the boat too much. Today, I had a situation where an employee came to me and informed me of something that is going on, but didn’t want it gotten out that she had made the report. I told her what I tell all of my employees, “Sometimes, when you bring me information, I have no choice but to address it and there are times when I cannot do so without revealing my source. Now, I understand that you want to avoid conflict. But, there are times when conflict is necessary to affect change. And as for me, I don’t mind rocking the boat because I know how to steady it.”

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 19th, 2012
3:26 pm

It doesn’t make sense to me that just because I have different political beliefs (which is third party…not Dem or Rep), it makes me a racist because I don’t agree with the first black president.

Hey Bluz/ITL…here is the Race story within the story…1st Black President (1st non-white)….the good ole U.S.A. been here since 1776….that was 2008.,,LET IT Marinate!!!!

SexyCool

September 19th, 2012
3:27 pm

ITL – I’ve seen it referred to as “fantasy football for chicks.” (lol)

disco

September 19th, 2012
3:28 pm

C – yes ma’am. loves my grandparents. went to visit not too long ago and went to church with them. how come my grandfather gave me a dollar to put in the collection plate. I was trying to tell him I had money but he made me put my purse down and put that dollar in the plate. talk about déjà vu. I thought it was cute though.

SexyCool

September 19th, 2012
3:28 pm

What name do you pin under?

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:29 pm

disco – Awwww, that’s so sweet. Not a dollar….lololol Chile, do like he say and put that dollar in!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:29 pm

Jake, how does it go, we get our first black president, and immediately we need to take “our” country back, WTH

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
3:30 pm

S/H~ I get accused and I don’t care. All politicians are just out to suck on the government b00b for everything they can get. I believe that it was Ben Franklin who said “Politicians and diapers should both be changed often and for the same reason”

cba

September 19th, 2012
3:32 pm

@SC~ a belated CONGRATS on your marriage….having read your posts over the last year or so, it appears you guys had built a solid foundation before taking that final step up.
Oh, do you still have the dog??

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
3:32 pm

SexyC – There would be too much boat rocking here for sure. We have all threatened to do something, but since we are a small company, we are afraid of what may happen to us. Even some the the AA girls are willing to step in because they don’t agree with it. One day, it will all come to a head. For now, I just keep praying she really messes something up and gets fired!!! The higher ups just don’t see or care how she does.

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
3:33 pm

I hear you, Jake. Remind me, though, how many female presidents we’ve had…… (not trying to be funny, but being female I do have a small inkling of understanding)

SlimUno

September 19th, 2012
3:33 pm

Cel – So you took a poll to see if your Granny Cootie would be discriminated against or looked down upon (no pun intended) lol

SH – It doesn’t bother me anymore…it is what it is.

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
3:35 pm

Jake/S/H~ What I don’t agree with is anyone who doesn’t agree with the President and happens to be white is a racist.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:35 pm

Slim – I guess you could say that…lol I just wanted to get his feelings behind that kind of stuff…lol Like I said, both being over 40 shouldn’t come as a shock. If I got them, so does he. But, you know some dudes get hung up on certain stuff. IMO, it’s like the dude that likes the fit and slim trim chick but he’s got a gut himself :oops:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:35 pm

Comon I’m interested to see what these Tea Party candidates are going to do, one of their platforms was to the guys out that had been there to long. Are they going to do 2 terms and get out or will they be another Strom Thurmond and have to be carried out. The last election I didn’t like any of the candidates because they all were there watching the ship hit the ice berg and didn’t say a word, until they thought they could get their chance to be captain of the ship, then they could tell you what they could do to fix the leak!

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
3:36 pm

C~ Slim1 brought me back to my question. What did dude say about the granny puddy poll? :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

Comon I agree, but don’t be one of those that said the Dixie Chicks were wrong ! then you are racist!

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

S&H, exactly, they act like someone broke in, stole the country and pawned it…I guess that is what happened, but Obama is innocent…that was the Clinton/Bush combo, that pawned us to China, but now everyone is taking the easy way out, say it wit me, “the black guy did it”…lol

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

CC – I resent that! lol I think “granny” is a bit harsh. Everybody is happy :mrgreen:

SexyCool

September 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

cba – thanks so much. I do believe that we have a solid foundation…and we are both committed to working hard to have a stable relationship.

Yeah…it looks like GiGi has earned a permanent spot in our household. We recently had her micro-chipped. Although, last week, I did threaten to put her on craigslist after she ate the yogurt that I had left sitting open on the couch while I went upstairs.

That’s it, Bluz. Keep praying. It changes things.

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
3:38 pm

@SCool: It’s under my “real” name. I don’t mind sharing it with you via email. ;) Fantasy football for chicks…now that’s funny!!

SexyCool

September 19th, 2012
3:40 pm

email me – sjeasmith@yahoo.com.

I pin under “SexyCool” – lol – no surprise there.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:42 pm

Happy International Talk Like a Pirate Day! arrrgghhhh they got a day for everything me mattes (LOL)

SlimUno

September 19th, 2012
3:43 pm

disco – Awww, now that’s what i’m talking about fiffty seveeem yerrrrs!!

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
3:44 pm

S/H~ The reality is: Name another job where the only way you get a pay cut is if you vote to give yourself one. Name another job where you are given health benefits(and excellent ones at that) for life (even after you have left the job). And the isht always runs downhill. Things will not get better until we get the Lobbyists out of the Congress & government officials’ pockets.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:45 pm

Jake I guess as far as they are concerned he broke in the white house
From RoseWood

“Dem N got a piana! Aint no N got no business having no piana, and I aint got no piana
But daddy you don’t know how to play no piana
Don’t make no difference whether or not I know how to play one, they just don’t need one! “

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:46 pm

Comon I know, I know.

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 19th, 2012
3:48 pm

ITL-point taken, I have previously stated that I am gentlemanly chauvinistic so I likely wouldn’t vote for a lady…not just because its a woman, but I would be weary of a woman’s emotional nature and natural changes that occur in women that cause irrritability and discomfort. I don’t want Hillary with her hand on the red button while experiencing Menopause…say what you want about me, but I’m honest.

OAN-Did anyone see the story where they want to ban Father/Daughter Dances and Mother/son activities because it “violates” gender discrimination laws in Rhode Island, the ACLU says it fosters Gender streotypes-Gay Agenda Alert

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:49 pm

Jake, everything you do now offends someone, and there is always someone to back you up!!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
3:50 pm

Time to go play in traffic, lata peeps

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 19th, 2012
3:54 pm

I heard the story, and literally got upset….Something has to be done, okay, some kids don’t have a dad or mom and will be deprived…such is life, so the other kids should not get to have memories with their father/mom because little Richie has 2 moms…crazyworld

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
3:57 pm

@Jake: Is that the way it was? I heard Bert talking about it on the Bert Show this morning, but I thought he said it was because a single mom said it wasn’t fair to kids who didn’t have a mom or dad, respectively.

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
3:58 pm

@Jake: So that applies to women across the board, regardless of race or any other factor?