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Dating outside your age range?

Ok listen, I just saw a picture of Denzel Washington on the cover of GQ magazine. I have no words. The man is just…well, he is 57! I am going to be perfectly honest and say that I have not been looking at men in that age range – but should I start? First, I should ask: Do men in their late 50s look like Denzel?!

Taking the totally superficial part out of the equation, how does dating outside your age range really work? I am talking about the generational gaps that can lead to awkward conversations, family disapproval, misunderstandings, mismatched libidos…I could go on!

Relationships can be challenging enough to get started. How do you start one with someone who is not in your “normal dating range”?

Have you ever dated someone 10-15 years or more older/younger than you? What advice would you give to a couple with a significant age gap? How do you think it differs from dating someone the same age as you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

438 comments Add your comment

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
9:56 am

Bluz that’s why I don’t hang around the parents to much, reminds me of how old I am (LOL)

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
9:57 am

Good Morning, Bluz!

I have to have mad jokes about the age difference, however, it will not be funny when you are 60 and changing his diapers. Ewww… There is just an icky factor there for me after a certain amount of space. What was the movie with Adam Sandler where his girl cheated on him with the old dude and he was talking about saggy b@lls? Yeah. That’s what pops into my head…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
9:59 am

Comon, when my girl gets 60 she’ll be trying to figure out how to retire and collect my SS check (if it’s still around) (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 19th, 2012
10:00 am

About the note on my car it was very flattering, and when I found out who she was you could have knocked me over with a wave of your hand. We didn’t work together, but she came to have lunch with me a few times and my co-workers male and female were like damn she’s beautiful what the hell do she see in you……….LOL

disco

September 19th, 2012
10:01 am

C – the dude in my building who left the note – I never addressed it. just acted like I never got it. the guy I passed the note to was actually working in a restaurant at the time. I didn’t know until later that he also worked at a club. needless to say dude put my name at whatever list they keep at the door and I never paid a cover.

CC – you are talking about big daddy. lol. I know it’s corny but I love that movie.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:01 am

Blackfoote – Your stock just went up…lol Look at you. Pulling “women” at the tender age of 25…lolol You go boy!

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
10:02 am

LOL CC!!! Yes…that thought does cross in my mind when I start dating a man that much older. I’ve decided that 10 years should be the max, but willing to make an exception for the right person.

The ex who was 21 years older had so many health problems, but I really loved him a lot and was willing to take care of him (in fact, I did take care of him through several health issues). He’s the one who died in March. I look back and know that part of him didn’t want to commit to me because he didn’t want me to have to take care of him when I had my whole life ahead of me. God spared me from having to deal with his issues getting worse and worse over the last few years. I don’t think I could have handled it…

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:03 am

For me 15 years is dangerously close to changing pampers. And 15 years younger would just work my dang nerves…I already know. He would still have milk on his breath….lol

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:04 am

And I’ll say this, nothing, absolutely nothing works my nerves more than a young cat with a degree but don’t know jack about life, but always tryna get in the driver’s seat. And it’s funny too because all they can tie in is what they did in school and stuff they learned in class. Imma need you to keep up. Get out of the books and tell me something I don’t know.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:05 am

Dang C, how old are you (LOL) from changing pampers to milk breath, that’s a 60 year gap (LOL)

Poppa Grande

September 19th, 2012
10:06 am

Blackfoote sounds like my belief of dating. Dating is about learning. I looked at dating as a positive. I learned what I didn’t like and what I liked. I learned that just because someone is good and I am good that doesn’t mean that we were gonna be good together. Sometimes we didn’t mix well. Whether it just a bad mix of pheromones or just a personality clash after the representative left. Dating was as learning experience as anything else that I’ve done in my life.

Age didn’t really matter as much as I thought. Being evenly yolked matter more. Mrs. PG and I are more of an ying-yang.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:06 am

I said ALMOST changing pampers. Don’t front. I’m not as old as you!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:08 am

C I can’t tell (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 19th, 2012
10:08 am

LOL…….Of course I had to ask did she put the note on the right car before we got into the who are you conversations.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:09 am

Single – Yeah you can

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:10 am

C, comon the good thing about dating someone younger, at least you have someone to change your pampers, if your the same age what you gone do when both of your pampers need changing (LOL)

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:11 am

Hey, Bluz! I am feeling MUCH better. Getting ready to hit the Classic City this weekend!

@PG: Dang! Somebody put Miracle Gro in your milk. :) You were practically growing overnight.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:11 am

The hot male nurse :mrgeen:

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
10:11 am

C~ I definitely don’t want to dude that is smelling like Similac; too much to teach. :lol: However, if we are talking about a no strings attached little side ting? He’s the dude I’m looking for cause you know he would come up in there and break yo back! LMAO!

disco~ Big Daddy! That’s it. I love that movie too.

Bluz~ I’m sorry about your fiancee. That is rough.

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:13 am

CC – Naaaah, I don’t do side flings…lol It goes one way or the other. She’s gotta get him off her ankles from being whipped or he’s running from an older chick he’s turned out.

Poppa Grande

September 19th, 2012
10:14 am

When in Cincy, I received a card in the mail from an admirer. I was flattered about 3 minutes, then a little freaked out when I realized that the card was sent to my P.O. Box. Which means that she took time to research this P.O. Box and then use it. There were pictures in that card, too. Then when I didn’t respond (we were in a spring minicamp) she sent a letter that had information about my parents and my sibling. I had to nip it in the bud…..

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:14 am

C he quit!! (LOL)

My sister works at an assisted living facility and she was telling me that they were about to put this 80 something man out because he was trying to screw everything in there. (LOL) you gotta love viagra (LOL)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:16 am

C on that changing pampers thing, the way people are taking care of themselves these days, you could be changing pampers a 40 or 50 IJS

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 19th, 2012
10:17 am

Poppa G me to I learned a lot and it still resonates today.

LOL…..@Cely I know exactly what you’re talking about, I had a friend like that she was book knowlegde central from college and no comon sense. Drove me nuts because she couldn’t do any easy task it had to be something hard and complicated to jog her senses.

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:18 am

@Stamps and CC: STOP IT with the h0rny old men references. ICK. The visual makes me wanna gag.

@PG: Evenly yoked=the key

abc

September 19th, 2012
10:18 am

I’d go up to 10 years younger, up to 5 years older. More than 10 years younger, they’re just in a different stage of life than me, and it’s irritating to have to deal with all over again. More than 5 years older, I tend not to be attracted on a physical level.

SchizoFunkenstein

September 19th, 2012
10:19 am

I’m 40, 38, 37, 50. We like 25, 26, 27, 28 year olds.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:19 am

ITL gag now, but when you’re that age, you’ll be say cmer big daddy (LOL)

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:20 am

Single – That’s not a issue for me because I don’t dabble in the pamper pool…lol Neither am I dabbling in the playpen either :)

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:20 am

Single – The man is juuuust right :mrgreen:

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:21 am

COMPLETELY OFF TOPIC: How come I dreamed about the blog last night? We were all at a meet and greet and a blogger introduced herself to me, and I’m like, “YOU are so and so???? I thought for sure you were _________.”

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:22 am

@Stamps: I might be. But I betcha before he climbs in my Craftmatic adjustable bed, I’ll be clapping to make sure the lights are off. :lol:

Poppa Grande

September 19th, 2012
10:22 am

ITL

That means that you are truly addicted to the blog.

Comon Cents

September 19th, 2012
10:23 am

S/H~ I find it amazing that we can’t cure any diseases but we can create a pill that will give you wood til you die. Shows where our priorities are… LOL!

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:23 am

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL….whew buddy!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:24 am

ITL yea you better clap before he does, (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 19th, 2012
10:24 am

Single that’s funny they trying to put old out the house.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 19th, 2012
10:25 am

“old dude”

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:25 am

Comon, we can’t stop death, but we can try to make you happy on your way there :-D

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 19th, 2012
10:26 am

Black and to top it off, he’s married (LOL)

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:27 am

@PG – No doubt. When I was home sick last week, I found myself wondering what y’all were talking about. I think I might need a 12-step program.

Hi…my name is ITL, and I’m addicted to MIA…..

@Stamps: It might be a photo finish seeing who can get the lights out the quickest. :lol:

SchizoFunkenstein

September 19th, 2012
10:28 am

I’m on a field trip to visit the looney bin

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:30 am

LOLOLOLOLOLOL…..how ironic.

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
10:30 am

ITL – I’m jealous!!!!

CC – Thanks…it has been rough still…

I did have a one night fling with a much younger guy that I was majorly crushing on. This was about 5-6 years ago. I was excited that I finally got to hook up with him. That was all that I wanted out of him. It was a bit disappointing…very vanilla. Next time I saw him, he was avoiding me and being immature even though we had talked the next morning about nothing changing. I cornered him and said “dude…we agreed that nothing would change between us. We had fun one night and lets leave it at that. We are friends…” We never hooked up again, never flirted, nothing. It didn’t bother me. I had conquered him and I was good!

Poppa Grande

September 19th, 2012
10:30 am

CC-

**I find it amazing that we can’t cure any diseases but we can create a pill that will give you wood til you die. Shows where our priorities are… LOL!**

It was an accident that Viagra was created. They were trying to develop angina medication. At first, they were disappointed that the meds were a flop.Then they noticed that the monkeys hard woods every time that they took the meds. Now, impotency medication. Yay for spammers everywhere.

Bluzgirl

September 19th, 2012
10:32 am

ITL – Funny cause I had a similar dream a couple of nights ago! LOL

Lady~

September 19th, 2012
10:33 am

Interesting topic………….I am involved with someone 14 years older………its interesting too! ;)

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:33 am

Heeeey there Lady – Careful, there’s dog poop on the floor

Celisea

September 19th, 2012
10:33 am

Into the Light

September 19th, 2012
10:34 am

@Bluz: You had “conquered” him?!?!?!? Dang….if I hadn’t met you in person, I’d be wondering if you had cavewoman tendencies. :lol:

I’ll save you a seat at the 12-step meeting. Maybe we could have it at D’s. ;)