Do men feel pressure to marry?
I don’t know what its like to be single and male, but I can tell you being single and female definitely comes with pressure. The older you get *cough* the more people look at you and start to comment on why you aren’t married, how to fix it, and telling you that you have something left to do in life.
I have never heard of any of my guy friends talk of the same kinds of pressure to be someone’s husband, though. Some of them comment about feeling the need or pressure to have kids, but not necessarily with a wife. Do men feel pressure from family, friends, or even society to get married?
Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage?
Would you consider dating and marrying someone simply because you feel you should be dating and marrying?
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Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
7:10 am
Yes people do tell you that you should get married, especially when they find out you’ve never been married. But the key to answering that question and not feeling pressure is to ask yourself, are you living your life for you, or others?
Lily
September 18th, 2012
7:33 am
I don’t operate under pressure or live worrying about what others think,. Unless they’re going to step in my shoes, living my life for me then no, they won’t have a say. Live your own life and to the fullest.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
7:48 am
20 years after a divorce it’s safe to assume I’ve felt no pressure to re-marry. I’ll never say never but if I don’t I’ll live and let die.
Good Morning:
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
8:01 am
I’m sure shot gun weddings still exist in the hills of the Apalachian mountains and else where here in the states. Royals around the world are notorious for setting up marriages for blue blood. Egyptians were consistantly under pressure to marry their brother or sister to maintain divine true blood. It’s not as bad as we think we have a different cultural understanding.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
8:20 am
Morning!
Exiled!
September 18th, 2012
8:23 am
Yes All people,men and women,feel pressure especially when they have never been married.
Getting married is the natural inclination for most normal people. And by normal I mean hetero!
You always look at a man in a kinda way if he has Never been married and in his late 40s.
And most women want to get married,they just can’t find suitable partners or they haven’t mastered.
the art of closing the deal.
Most women can’t cook which is a wholenuther issue here. They just wanna be married but don’t understand that getting married means taking care of hubby. The way to a man is through the stomach! I said ‘through’ the stomach coz that leads to other things. Follow me?
A woman who masters whatimtalkingbout will Never have a ‘Diva condition’. Will never face the pressure.
Diva condition= getting old and living alone,lonely ,never been proposed to.
Hey MIA!
Exiled!
September 18th, 2012
8:25 am
Most women can’t cook
correction
Some women can’t cook!
LeeH1
September 18th, 2012
8:44 am
Jane Austen said it neatly in Pride and Prejudice: “IT is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.” Women have been manipulating single men for generations in order to get them married and off the market. The pressure on men to marry is there, and it is not subtle nor kind.
From the male side, especially in the south, there is also that subtle pressure to have sons and keep the family name going for another generation. A family with all girls but only one boy is especially prone on having that one son marry quickly and have sons himself, so the family name will continue.
And recently, in talking to my younger male relatives, there is more of this “find a rich girl” pressure. Since so many women are out there with professions and good incomes, it will certainly help the family to find one. In the past, we looked for women with a father and large land holdings. Now we look for girls with either a profession or a trust fund. No woman with a million dollars is homely or undesirable.
It used to be that men could remain single past thirty. Now you are either looked upon as being gay, or possibly a pedaphile. If you are either one, the pressure is on for those men to get married quickly so other people whon’t discover the truth.
Finally, the worst pressure is on an only child (of either sex) with a single mother is to marry while young and settle down. Preferably close by to Mom.
HST
September 18th, 2012
8:45 am
No. I don’t fall into “Human Doctrine’s,” I could care less what “society” calls normal, and I do exactly what I want with my life.
FTR, I’ve been with the same woman for 12 years, and we’re happily unmarried. We don’t cheat, lie, or hurt each other – most of my married friends want a relationship like mine. It’s not that marriage can’t be done ‘right’ – that ‘right’ is very subjective – I just so rarely see a traditional happy marriage.
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
8:46 am
We decided to have a blog today, great!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
8:48 am
Morning!!!
BBL on topic
Big Al
September 18th, 2012
8:50 am
I’m a 37 year old single man and I’ve never felt pressured to be married. Half of all marriages end in divorce and the other half end in death. I oppose both divorce and death, so I’ll just stay single and happy.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
8:54 am
Good morning, all. Happy to see the blog is back today.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
8:55 am
Slim~ Agreed! I was in withdrawal yesterday! LOL!
On topic~ I think that the pressure for people to get married is increased if they are in a relationship. Also, if you have never been married people will constantly ask when you’re going to “settle down”. Settle down= get married and conform to societal norms.
If you have been dating someone for over a year, people will constantly ask when you’re going to “make it legal”. So, yeah, I think that there is pressure to marry at certain points.
Good Morning!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
9:01 am
Big Al at least you have 3 years before you are looked at funny (rotflmao)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
9:02 am
In every arena of my life, I don’t subscribe nor cave to what others think. I’ve been proposed to but the timing wasn’t right. I could have married my kid’s dad but he didn’t have his “stuff” together. Why would I go from the frying pan to the fire (on him) “cause it was the thing to do?” I think being snubbed and pressued to get married often comes from married folks. Well we all know the majority of marriages ain’t exactly thriving. So yeah, I’ll pass on their opinions…lol
What appealed to me as a young girl is so far removed from the reality of people, how they are, how life flows. Yes marriage is appealing when there are ideal, stand-up, suitable mates. When traditional values are upheld. But just jumping in with any ole somebody just because folks think and I should and folks feel I lack without being married is ludicrous.
HST
September 18th, 2012
9:02 am
LeeH1, I am surprised idealism is so prevalent with you. I’ll admit I have some idealism about a woman, and one of them is income from college, but really, she just needs to be able to support herself.
Big Al, I hear ya. When those are the real stats – who’d want to sign up for marriage. Eventually, I think marriage will be an antiquated way of approaching life in the next decade. So many ideals being blown out of “society’s” norm that tradition will soon be subjective like religion.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
9:07 am
God instituted marriage and I find no fault with that. I believe (and I’m no expert), things go wrong because people become selfish. I can’t see how somethng established by God, if done right, can go wrong.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
9:11 am
So HST you feeling that pressure yet since you finally came up for air (LOL) Big Al forgot one stat, while 50% of marriages may end in death, 100% of lives end in death, instead of worrying about the thoughts and labels that others put on you enjoy your life by doing what’s best for you. If you don’t want children, don’t have them, if you don’t ever want to get married then don’t do it.
HST
September 18th, 2012
9:11 am
God is a belief Celisea – that’s how. Now if God is what makes you and your partner do right; then it will work out as long as y’all keep the faith. People are selfish by nature, but acting on those impulses are the difference.
SchizoFunkenstein
September 18th, 2012
9:13 am
No pressure here. I’m every man. We are all present and accounted for today!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
9:14 am
HST – I have a right, as you, to post what I feel and believe. You do you and I’ll do me. I’m going to take a pass on the lecture and logic behind it all. I’m faith based so, I’ll pass
HST
September 18th, 2012
9:21 am
Single and Happier “Life Happens!”, I’m very aware that we all die, but Big Al could be speaking figuratively; as in marriage kills you one way or another.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
9:23 am
Hst the we all die part wasn’t directed at you it in general about enjoying life.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
9:27 am
HST/S & H~ I think that in certain ways, marriage, while it can be a great blessing, is also a great sacrifice and therefore requires that part of you die in order for the marriage to thrive.
SchizoFunkenstein
September 18th, 2012
9:29 am
In da house!!!
HST
September 18th, 2012
9:31 am
Celisea, I am in no way saying anything that you’ve implied to be false, however, it is a belief. I’m glad that you have a belief/faith no matter what that is – “good” beliefs do make us better as a species. “You do you and I’ll do me.” I live by those words, and this is usually my sig…
“It’s not what you got, it’s how you use it;
Be anything you want to be.
It’s not what you got, its how you use it;
You be you and I’ll be me.” ~ Ray Stevens
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
9:32 am
Comon that’s why IMO the older you get the harder it is for you to get married and stay married, both of you are set in your ways, and have lives that you have to be willing to change, and not many of us want to do that.
Willie Dynamite
September 18th, 2012
9:34 am
Morning All,
Pressure is everywhere and all encompassing. How you react and deal with it is probably a better question. As for Marriage I never paid attention to outside pressure. The pressure was from within. Once I realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her the pressure disappeared.
HST
September 18th, 2012
9:38 am
CC, I agree. A relationship is checks and balances, picking your battles, compromise, and a degradation to one’s self. Yet, it’s also fulfilling, rewarding, and etc. that’s so much more than being alone, IMO. Realizing ego is bigger than one’s self is the first step to being committed to another, IMO.
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
9:39 am
Dang, yall are some chatty catty’s I suppose because you’re backed up from no blog yesterday. lol
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
9:40 am
Well put, Willie Dynamite!
Good morning, all!
SchizoFunkenstein
September 18th, 2012
9:40 am
In da house, in full effect!!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
9:42 am
HST – Yes, no better way to live
Didn’t I see Lady? Morning!
Morning Blackfoote!
What’s up WillieD!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
9:43 am
Oh….Hey MMeello, I saw your post and had to laugh. I can cook
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
9:43 am
Once I realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her the pressure disappeared.
WD~ Do you think that is a harder realization for men to come to than women? My father always said women dream of being married and run towards it while men are constantly running away from it and get “caught”
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
9:46 am
Off Topic~ (Sorry, C) Did y’all see the game last night? The Broncos looked sloppy the first half.
And apparently Turner got a DUI after last nights game.
Willie Dynamite
September 18th, 2012
9:53 am
Pops/Cel – good morning.
Comon – I don’t know if a blanket statement would fit but I would guess that more women LOOK for marriage than Men.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
10:00 am
Hey there Cely, I figured it out that little green man reminds me of the song “Smiling Faces”. That’s why I crack up everytime I see it.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
10:02 am
Hey Comon did you get a call from Turner this morning…….LOL
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
10:03 am
CC – That game was all over the place last night…I was cracking up and I also heard about Turner’s DUI last night too.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:04 am
Blackfoote – I’m digging your post on not feeling pressure. IMO, “feeling pressure” is on you and what you allow. Folks can blow whistles, toot horns and yell all day, it’s on the individual whether or not they fall into such traps…lololol Yes yes, live life in a way that’s pleasing and satisfying to you.
I’d be lying if I said I’ve never thought of marriage or think of marriage but I’d be lying as well if I said I felt pressure. There are soooo many folks “stuck like chuck” because they’re unhappy. No way in the world I’m envious of that.
(this one is for you)
disco
September 18th, 2012
10:05 am
good morning guys.
ex – I so love it when you keep it real. either haven’t found a suitable mate or haven’t mastered the art of closing the deal. too funny.
lee – my son is an only child and the last thing I’m pressuring him to do is marry or have children in that order or any order. lol. folks are always asking me if I’m looking forward to grandchildren and I’m always looking at folks with the side eye.
celisea – your comment sounded like “misery loves company”. lol. all married folks aren’t as happy as they make out so they are trying to get folks to join the ranks. I’ve made a similar comment re “the joys of parenthood”. folks with kids try to bamboozle their childless friends into joining the ranks.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:06 am
When I say think of marriage, I don’t mean jonesing or yearning. I mean “think on it”…and that’s all….lol
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
10:07 am
BF~ I wish I had gotten that call this morning. Alas, I know who got it and it wasn’t me.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:08 am
disco – It’s only those married folks that will snub you but fighting like cats and dogs Willie Earl was caught talking to Sambooka at the club for folks over 40…lol I’m just saying. If it ain’t bliss or near heaven, don’t be tryna get my buy-in…lolololol
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
10:11 am
really? ages away from the blog and this is the topic i come back to? just ugh!
hey, good people! missed yas.
now lemme catch up and join the fray.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:13 am
Speaking of children, I have another grand nephew or niece on the way. Oh, and I was coloring with the (now) 3 y.o. last night
He was showing me the nick on his ear, done by daddy while getting his hair cut. Mmmmm, him shooo shweet 
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
10:15 am
CC-
1) Boys don’t usually spend our lives dreaming of weddings and such. We are taught to play more ball, war, and such than worrying about getting married. We think of getting the honeypot around the teen years, but not much about getting hitched.Then, in real life, girlie want him to tag her like cattle as his woman.If he hasn’t given it much thought, it can more of as pressure.
2) I saw the game (actually there), I learned what makes a football game very long….replacement refs that don’t know what they are seeing or don’t know the rules. They could no control the game during that long first half.
3. As for Turner, I don’t know the exact charge…I’ve heard DUI and I heard suspicion of DUI because he refused to take the breathalyzer. I haven’t seen any breathalyzer test results anywhere. So, I am truly not sure what he was booked in for other than speeding. Falcons are playing his old team this week (San Diego)
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 18th, 2012
10:18 am
What up…
Yep, I got married because I got caught, I got caught because I fell in love, I fell in love because she was special, she was special because life without her wouldn’t be the same!!
disco
September 18th, 2012
10:20 am
PG – my son is the one who had his wedding song picked out in junior high (earth wind and fire by the way). he’s quite the romantic. I’m fond of saying kids don’t take after strangers but I have no idea where he got that trait from.
jake – awww. (even though it sounds a bit like the old lady that swallowed the fly).
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:20 am
C I am here! bumpy morning but it finally is subsiding~ GO FALCONS too and what is with Michael Turner?!?
Anyway let me read the topic and chime in~
Thanks C~
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
10:21 am
Yes Cely, pressure will tear you away from the fabric of your life if you allow it to. That’s not saying you can’t deal with or handle it, to me little pressure equal less stress equal no drama.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:21 am
What’s crackalackin Lady! Pressure girl…lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:23 am
Blackfoote – I agree. I think society has turned so much so that really, pressure is all around is. IMO though, the only pressure you should feel is within. There are places and strides (in life), I for want to further advance. If it’s not those kinds of pressures, I don’t give it too much credence. We would be crazy changing on turn all because of how others view us or because of where others are in life (their station). You do you (not you Blackfoote, but in general) and I do me
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
10:24 am
well, seems lily and barefoot had my perspective well-covered by 8:30.
can’t say i’ve ever felt pressure to marry. my friends and fam generally follow the “we want for you whatever you want for yourself” support model. and i’m rather surprised that (in this day and age) anyone feels pressure to marry. having kids? yeah. i can believe there might be a push to get people to breed. but marriage? i just don’t see that at all. i mean, we’ve become so accepting of shacking up and same-sex relationships.
the last thing I’m pressuring him to do is marry or have children in that order or any order. lol. folks are always asking me if I’m looking forward to grandchildren and I’m always looking at folks with the side eye.
disco, once again, we are >>>>> here <<<<
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
10:25 am
Michael Turner has baby mama drama and stuff like that. TMZ folks have probably seen the fights between his baby mama and girlfriend. It has been on their website. He probably wanted to celebrate before dealing with the real life stuff. However, real life caught up with him before he made it home.
Robert
September 18th, 2012
10:25 am
“Do men feel pressure from family, friends, or even society to get married?”
I can only speak for myself. I feel “pressure” because I do not want to be “alone” in my golden years. For example I envey my friends who are married and have grandchildren to enjoy. I would give anything in the world to be so lucky. Even though I have grown children I miss the quality family time during the holiday’s, birthday’s and other special occassions. Something in my life that I can not replace.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:25 am
Look at all this reality tv. You think I’d waste months of my life on a show like Bachelor, competing with a gang of women because I feel pressured? Heck, the chance would be better and serve to my benefit walking the sidewalk in search of a mate. All because somewhere someone or something made them feel the pressure of “needing” to get it down…and on dang tv…lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:26 am
done not down
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:33 am
hmmmm yeah pressure~ #smirk
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
10:35 am
Hey CZ & Lady ,and disco, how are you lady’s doing?
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
10:36 am
Mornting Blog
I’m not looking for marriage…if it happens then fine and if it doesn’t, I’ll still be fine. Marriage is a wonderful institution but it doesn’t define me, my life or my happiness….
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
10:36 am
PG~ He went to jail because he DIDN’T blow (which is fully within his right and the correct course of action to have taken) However, he was still arrested for DUI because “Based on the officer’s training and experience” (LMAO) he detected the strong smell of alcohol and Mr. Turner exhibited characteristics of DUI. I love the things that officer’s say!)
As far as the baby momma drama, I believe the current tally s 7 kids by 5 different women (one of whom is Marquis Grissom’s niece) and they have had to fight him to take care of his kids. Sad. In the last 2 yers of a $35 million dollar contract and you don’t want to take care of what’s yours. SMDH…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
10:37 am
Hello C, speaking of reality shows they have a new game show hosted by Wendy Williams where someone has 2 S/O and chooses between them, WTH
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
10:38 am
HiYa, BF. i’m lovely. just lovely. yourself?
awww, robert. that’s so sweet.
only downside to having grandkids is that you have to go through having kids to get them.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:38 am
Would you consider dating and marrying someone simply because you feel you should be dating and marrying? Nope. I feel I deserve to love again and with that comes respect for a healthy relationship between two folks who aspire the same goals together moving forward. IF, it is not merging accordingly I will NOT save face and stay simply to be in a relationship and marry. I know the end results of that I lived it briefly. At any rate, if the relationship is flowing lovingly, respectfully, and on one accord why not explore and if it blossoms into matrimony hooray too! I will never know a loving partnership. Loving your kids is very differently from loving that one person that compliments your style.
disco
September 18th, 2012
10:39 am
we fine blackfoote (said like Shirley strawberry and ‘nem)
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
10:39 am
On a personal note, I did not feel any pressure ever. I broke off relationship with a good woman before I met Mrs. PG. The woman was good, I was good, but we weren’t good together, IMO. Ultimately, I broke up with her and let her go . I felt it was better than hoping that either she or I changed in that area that bothered me. About 4 months later, I met Mrs. PG during a speed dating event.
Before that particular woman, I was on a self made challenge of having sex on 6 of the 7 continents with women of the continent. Bachelor with money and free time (especially in the spring) . I got 5 of 7 continents. Never expected Antarctica, but I didn’t get Australia either. That is not a goal that is good for settling down and marriage. That South American stuff was so all that. I stopped the search after it. It wasn’t going to topped in Australia.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:39 am
Howdy BF!!!! All is well sir!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
10:40 am
Comon, hold up 7 kids by 5 different women, which means at least one has more than one, whats sad is that the woman are that ( don’t want to use the word that comes to mind)
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
10:40 am
CC – He might be going for that Holyfield record….12 kids by 6 different women.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
10:42 am
I love the things that officer’s say!
comon, try dating someone in law enforcement who speaks that way in normal convo. ick!
hola, sassy!
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
10:43 am
SH – Some women feel like babies = $$$ but the only beings getting hurt are the kids especially if they have dead beat dads. Folks will have to realize that $$ ain’t everything even though it does help. I would never want to try to have a kid(aka trap a dude) to get him to always be connected to me or for a paycheck.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
10:43 am
S/H~ Wallace or Walker (?) has two with him. In her defense, she was the 1st baby momma and she says they were in a relationship and she didn’t know he was spreading it around like that.
Slim~ We can add Cromartie to that group too.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:43 am
Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? Yes I do, what I have seen is the college sweetheart fairly tale that crumble many times for whatever reason. Yes, I know there are many that sustain from college also.
How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage? From, what I seen and lived it wasn’t healthy bc I feel the parties were not true to thy own self and did what was expected and not what they truly felt. Most times its an ugly selfish reason that ends the relationship.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:43 am
Single and Happy – Hey there. That’s the gist of most reality (love/relationship shows). Everybody is competing.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
10:45 am
Last I heard, Cromartie is getting ready to welcome babies 11 and 12 (twins) which will make 12 kids by 8 different women. At least he takes care of his though…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
10:45 am
Hola czBrat…¿Cómo estás?
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:45 am
I’m tossing the side eye to any woman or man that takes up with a person and they have 3 or 4 kids already. Unless those children are a product of a marriage between the two same individuals, I don’t think I could like anybody enough to start a relationship and they have loose ends.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
10:46 am
CC-
So I figured right on that Turner thing in regards to the test. I guess that makes his case easier for his attorney.
I didn’t comment on the reason for his drama. I just noted that he has drama.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
10:46 am
Comon, 1 mistake, 2 you knew better!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
10:48 am
C I feel you on the kids thing, you can tell when a man is taking care of his kids. So when they have one and then start complaining about what he aint doing, WTH did they think was going to make them so different??
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
10:48 am
Glad to see you lady’s doing well, I’m hanging CZ like a spider on a pine tree.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:50 am
earlier I meant I will never KNOCK a loving partnership not KNOW bc I have a great one going forward ironically…..smh lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:50 am
I can attest that you spend more time and energy chasing after a check (i.e. childsupport) than if you just did the dang thing yourself. Not saying men should not pay or get off scott free having babies, but not providing for. You can make bigger strides and move a little higher if you drop the dead weight. The worst thing in the world is “making” someone do something they absolutely despise doing.
For those women getting babies as a means to funds, that’s a never ending cycle of going nowhere, unless they wake up and wise up. That is just the craziest thing but it happens.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:51 am
Single and Happy – Exactly, so so true.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
10:51 am
lol @ bf. oookay. feeling any pressure to snag a lil sumpn in your web?
bien, bien, sassy. no complaints here.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
10:54 am
I’m not a reality tv show fan but I will say, I got a kick out of buddy getting the $250K on Bachelor Pad. They called him ruthless and heartless but he never caved to the pressure of what folks thought…lol He took the money and raaaaaaaaaaaan!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
10:55 am
That’s a good one CZ…….LOL
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
10:56 am
C the time spent chasing that child support check is part of having a child. True you shouldn’t have to chase anyone to take care of their child but in the end you owe it to the child to make that effort.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
10:59 am
C on that show with WW the person that doesn’t get picked gets a glass door slammed in their face so you can see their reaction, in the first episode the girl was standing there looking like she was really hurt. I’m thinking why would you want to go on tv and take that chance.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
10:59 am
C love your 10:50!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:00 am
Slim I know to some babies =$ but if he aint paying for the others, where do you think you’re going to get some from? and when his career is over, what then??
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:00 am
Single and Happy – I agree….somewhat. I made due diligence for taking the kid’s dad to court. Sometimes he paid, sometimes he made excuses. With the man hours, and aggravation of the system and how it works seemingly against the CP, after a while, I said forget it. I never felt like he wasn’t responsible nor did I feel like he shouldn’t be “made” to pay, but taking a chunk out of my life was not worth the time and effort IMO. I did it during my struggling years. When I started advancing and doing better, I found things came together much better for me and child. I resolved to allowing what was coming back on him for not doing, could do a much better job in whipping his behind than I could keeping him and myself tied up in court. So, I said “f a g e t a b o u t h i m”, and haven’t looked back since. Ask me how life turned out for him?
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:02 am
Lady – Thanks girlie. It’s all truth
Single – I just don’t get what folks don’t get about being contestants on reality tv. I guess some feel it’s their time to shine, or their opportunity in chasing their dreams…be it man or money. A lot of it though seems humiliating.
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:02 am
PG – speed dating? how cool. i never attended one. never knew anyone who attended one (or at least who owned up to it). only ever saw it on tv and in movies.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:02 am
CC-
He is spreading his seed. I hope that he has something set aside for when he retires. The payments must continue until he can get a modification.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:02 am
C okay, how did it turn out for him?
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:03 am
CC-
That previous post was about Cromartie.
M. (pronouced M dot)
September 18th, 2012
11:03 am
Good day.
“Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage?”
I think it’s a mixed bag. I think there are some genuine marriages where people are a perfect fit. I also believe that sometimes there are people that feel left out by their friends who are married so they succumb to the pressure of getting close and hitched with anyone rather than waiting for the right one.
I would not consider dating or marrying someone simply because I feel like I should be dating and marrying. I took the summer off from dating and it was one of the best things I could have done. I think that would be a waste of time and lead to the accumulation of baggage on both sides. Wait for your time and embrace where you are right now!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:04 am
C you know we all want our 15mins of fame (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:04 am
Single – LOLOL…you had to ask. Let’s say he’s still in the same place. Never understood, if nothing else if you put out “good” or right then that’s what’s returned. He could NEVER understand that. No easy outs, no short cuts…hard work, time and effort. If you hump to get babies, you had better be prepared and willing to take care of them.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:08 am
Single and Happy – Yep,15 minutes of fame is all some folks believe is the opportunity they need. Most don’t realize, it’s just gonna be 15 minutes. Not 15 minutes turned into a lifetime of fame. What are the odds of that happening? A rare thing for one in a gazillion…lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:08 am
I hear you C, that’s why I aint trying to hump and get anymore (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:09 am
Single – Boy stop…lol That’s why I ain’t getting humped…to get anymore either. I’m done and I feel good saying that.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:10 am
I wouldn’t say that much C, who would have thought any of these people would be on tv, they haven’t done anything in life but act stupid!!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:11 am
Single – Weeeeelll, I dunno. What we call stupid has “opportunity” written across it, for many others. You see folks on there, can sang a tap, but all geeked and gear up for seizing the moment. What moment?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:11 am
C never had a problem with paying child support, but sure don’t want to start over again (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:12 am
can’t not can
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:14 am
Single and Happy – never had a problem with paying child support
As should be
and
but sure don’t want to start over again
and again, as should be…lololol I dang sure ain’t starting over. Unless it’s some tragic event or unfortunate event and I’m sort of thrown in there to take care of a child, not happening
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
11:15 am
I know to some babies =$ but if he aint paying for the others, where do you think you’re going to get some from? and when his career is over, what then??
SH – EXACTLY!!! And an even better question is if you’re making so much money, celebrity or otherwise, why NOT do your part and pay up as well as put in great Quality time with your kids???
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
11:16 am
why does “speed dating” immediately bring to mind these “play dates” that are being held in cities all over the country. i think they’ve taken the place of “first fridays”.
problem is, in pics a friend recently posted at the last “play date atlanta”, i swear that game of twister was just one mass opportunity to feel up on some forbidden fruit.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:16 am
C I can see the shows like American Idol even though I don’t watch them, but the ones like the Kardashians, why are we so wrapped up in someones else lives and drama, I have to admit I have looked at BB Wive and RHOA but only because I like to drool over Royce and Kandi Burris (LOL)
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:18 am
disco -
Yes, Speed dating. I didn’t have a date with Mrs. PG. We met after the event while watching the 1998 NBA finals at the bar where the event was held. We watched Jordan shoot over Russell thinking that Jordan 1) pushed off and 2) had completed his second three-peat. She liked Sports and stuff and we hit off. Each of us agreed to list the other as just a friend relationship. Got email from the organizer of the event that stated us just a friend relationship.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:20 am
Single and Happy – Okay, I admit, I’ve watched BBW too, even though it’s trashy. I’ve peeked at the K’s but I can only stomach so much of that. RHONJ is the one show though, that I find myself unable to turn. The RHOA all seem so fake. I need you to have money if you gonna be out there living all posh…lol I know some of the cast of RHONJ have had financial issues but some have not. I can’t stomach all out gutter trash….lololol
Royce? Hmmm, so you like ‘em skanky (looking/acting) huh?
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
PG – wow. not only speed dating but speed dating back in 1998. I don’t think it was on my radar yet at that point. I’ve heard a few folks mention going to lock and key parties though I haven’t met any matches that came of it.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
I will watch AI or XFactor. I enjoy folks that can truly sing.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
PG~ It depends on the officer whether or not the case will be easier for his attorney. When you get stopped (arrested) for DUI you have to have an ALH (Administrative License Hearing) to determine if (and what type) your license will be suspended pending the adjudication of your charges. IF the officer shows up for that hearing (and it is a big IF) then he will end up making the deal with the devil; He will plead guilty to the DUI in order to keep his license. (That is an over simplification, but you get the gist) If the officer does not show for the hearing, he will get off because there is no evidence to support the DUI. (Again, oversimplification, but you catch it)
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
C very interesting! lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:23 am
Lady – LOLOLOL…I’m mostly watching “old” tv. I like Revenge and HFO (okay shoot me) but not too much current tv suits me.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:24 am
Now…give me a good movie and I’m gooooood.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:24 am
I think Jennifer on BBWs beats Allybat Evelyn in the looks department hands down.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:24 am
C I like what I like (LOL) but if either of them don’t show up in about 5 mins after I turn to the show, I can’t take more than that (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:25 am
Single and Happy – Seriously? Royce? Ooookie dokie then. You likes what you likes
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:26 am
Allybat Evelyn<<<<DEAD LOL!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:27 am
yea that Jennifer is a nice chocolate morsel
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:29 am
CC-
I understand the oversimplification.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:29 am
Lady – Evelyn is looking like umm fu fu now. Never realizing all that clowing and cutting up on folks was gonna come back and bite her in the butt.
Single – I don’t do “ladies” but I’m partial cause I’m chocolate. Jennifer is a nice looking woman.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:30 am
disco – we have been married since 2000.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:31 am
mmmmm chocolate (drooling)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:32 am
Single – Where’s you bib? lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
I’m wearing it, Lunch time, lata
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
I hate to be the one to bring up food but boy could I go for some red beans and rice right about now.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
Disco -
Our event was at the Park Tavern. A few years later, the organizers of our event hooked up with 8 minute dating, a national speed dating group. I think that 8 min dating still exists.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
your…where’s YOUR bib
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:36 am
No lie, I was JUST thinking about the salad I had for lunch yesterday. Ever ate something so good, that it ate it slow because you hate to see it go? lol I savored my salad. Maybe because I had a taste for one, it was that much better
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:37 am
Single – I just hollered….I’m wearing it, Lunch time
I scared to ask
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:37 am
just ate nachos with black beans! yum!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:38 am
Lady – I have Doritos in a baggie
Not sure what I’m having for lunch though.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
11:39 am
I don’t do “ladies” but I’m partial cause I’m chocolate. Jennifer is a nice looking woman.
Me either..but us chocolate sisters gotta unite. Jennifer is a nice looking woman…I wonder how lil lump lump feels now
Now I’m thinking about the cake from her divorce party..too funny…
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
11:39 am
I use to think I wanted to be married because all of my friends were “happily” married. Come to find out my friends were faking their marriage and they only got married just to say they were married. One of my friends doesn’t even love her hubsand but she stays with him for the title of being married. If I ever escape my ex I don’t think I want to put up with another man again… I put in a lot of effort into this relationship just to see it die. I think I will go to David’s bridal try on some wedding dresses take some pictures and call it a day. Living life alone hopefully won’t be too bad….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
11:40 am
disco since you brought up red beans and rice, I’m heading to Popeyes for lunch.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:41 am
Sassy – I wonder how lil lump lump feels now
I LOL’d on this one….lol Yes, yes, chocolate sisters unite
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:42 am
Blackfoote – I had Popeye’s last week…yuuuummmmm
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:43 am
Lawd have mercy. One more meeting and I’ll scream!!
@disco: Why did you have to say red beans and rice? After hearing that, this little ham sammich is not looking so appetizing.
@Third Wheel: You have taken sad to a whole new level.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:43 am
I use to think I wanted to be married because all of my friends were “happily” married. Come to find out my friends were faking their marriage and they only got married just to say they were married.
Exactly!!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:43 am
@BF: can you swing by here and bring me a takeout?
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:45 am
chicken and beer has been my story here lately its time to change it up too! lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:46 am
Lady – I’m not a beer drinker but chicken? Girl, I can eat it eight days a week. Of course changing up here and there…chicken and fish
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:47 am
yall funny! lol ok let me get a lil work done! lol
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
Celisea…I can’t get over that thing on his head…bue when she had him put on the divorce cake(lump included) I was too through
chocolate sisters unite
True!
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
BF/ITL – y’all just don’t know how I wish I could head to a popeye’s for some red beans and rice. I don’t even eat their chicken. just get the side and biscuit. I don’t think there are any near me.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
@Lady: I saw your Giants got it done on Sunday.
And skimming over, it looks like the birds may have already been discussed, but congrats to the Falcons.
sn: Put me on the field with a whistle. These substitute refs are the pits.
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
I really wish I could be like some of my friends though… they get divorced one month and marry again in the next month. I was trying to get married just one time and some of them are already on their 4th marriage.. What’s the secret? Does anyone know? @In the light how did I take sad to a new level? I really do want to see what a wedding dress will look like on me before I am too old and gassey to try one on.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:50 am
Giants?!? hmmmmm NOT lol MY FALCONS WON LAST NIGHT~ ugly as it may lol a win is a win!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
11:52 am
@In the light how did I take sad to a new level? I really do want to see what a wedding dress will look like on me before I am too old and gassey to try one on.
Baby gurl you just asked and answered your own question.
Ummm okay so we’ve got another one?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
11:52 am
3rdWheel living alone is something some people can’t do I understand that. I love it and it’s not bad when you know yourself and don’t feel left out of the party.
Now y’all talking about chocolate, the best flavor on the planet. I’m drooling typing this I need a bib now.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:52 am
@disco: There’s one not too far from here, but it’s so nasty outside right now. It is storming and pouring down rain.
@TW: Nevermind. Don’t let me rain on your parade.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:54 am
@Lady: Ooops. My bad. For some reason I was thinking you mentioned being a Giants fan.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
11:56 am
sassy, in that vane, kinda hard for me to choose chocolate over salsa; so i go with the more fiery personality. i have little patience for the OVERLY timid types.
speaking of yum-yum; any bloggers venture out to the taste of the food trucks saturday? luved it!
they get divorced one month and marry again in the next month.
wheel, why would you envy that? more often than not, it becomes a destructive pattern.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:56 am
Sassy – I hate I didn’t see a picture of the cake…lololol But I’m wondering what she’s really thinking now. I mean all of that played out on tv…just a dang fiasco. Where’s all that hot luvin now? See, that’s why your life shouldn’t be an open book…SMH
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
11:56 am
Hey Light, I’m walking outta here now. See ya in a few.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:57 am
Hey Lady – The BIG gun? LOLOLOL
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:58 am
Ummmm…..okay…..it just thundered so hard the building shook. AND it looked like the lightening was a foot from my window.
I love thunderstorms….but I might need to love this one from a distance.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:58 am
@BF: Woohooo!!! I”ll meet you at Security.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
ThirdWheel – The time for getting in a wedding dress is when the time is right for you. As you can look around society and see, nothing is the norm anymore. If it’s 50 and you feel like it, go for it. A lady blogged here one morning and I believe she said she was 62. She had a pretty nice post. I can’t say I’ll be looking for love at 62 but hey whatever floats your boat.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
I was trying to get married just one time and some of them are already on their 4th marriage..
What’s the secret?!? Marry someone you don’t give a isht about and you too can be on your 4th marriage. I should know. I am on my 3rd and the first 2 times I marries people I really couldn’t care less about. IJS…
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
thirdwheel – now that’s real right there. I don’t think I felt envious or anything the first time around when a lot of my friends married. but when chicks started getting divorced and remarried (and in some cases divorced and remarried again) I admit I was like “dang”.
ITL – I just looked it up. nearest popeye’s to me is 75 miles. I’d go home and cook some before I’d drive 75 miles for theirs. lol.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
YES C~ as it may lol
Willie Dynamite
September 18th, 2012
12:01 pm
Hmmmmmm Chocolate bought me out of lurking. Hahaha
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
12:03 pm
disco – How about a Bojangles? ( the name alone makes me laugh)
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:05 pm
not bojangles! slim, nearest one of those might be about 200 miles. last one i recall seeing was in beaufort, sc. lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:06 pm
WilllllliiiiieeeeeD – Cho co latte!!!!
Lady – Po thang…lol
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:07 pm
slim – child I don’t mess with bojangles like I don’t mess with church’s (although bojangles is plentiful in this neck of the woods). can’t say I don’t mess with KFC but I haven’t even had that in many, many years. I’ll just have to make do. wait for the craving to pass or be replaced by another.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:08 pm
And how come I wanna sing now? “Mr. Bojangles…..la la la da da daaaaa”
There’s one in Marietta, on 41 at the North Loop.
@disco: Next wash day, you better have that pot of beans on.
Now I’m wishing I’d put a chicken in the crock pot before I left this morning. Chicken and dumplings would be PERFECT for supper on a day like today.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:10 pm
light, i think that bolt just made it to dunwoody.
when craving great fried chicken, just head to your nearest publix deli. and pick up some mango black iced tea to wash it down.
that is all.
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
@Common well I have a friend who just got divorced two months ago and she is already planning a wedding for next year with her new boyfriend. She was married to her hubsand for at least 15 years so they loved each other. I just wish I know what the secret was to dumping someone finding someone else and getting married so quickly. Women are struggling to get married one time. I still live with my ex who would marry me tomorrow but why whould I do that to myself??
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
ITL – did you see the movie bojangles with Gregory hines? whenever I think bojangles I think “copacetic”.
I’ve made Sunday dinner two Sundays in a row. haven’t broke out the crockpot though it sounds like a good idea for next weekend. might have to check the 7 day forecast.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
Popeyes and KFC, the old “new” Krogers on Atlanta Road, is where I get chicken if I’m not trying to fry it up myself. I can’t do Publix chicken. The pieces are so big, that they look like pterodactyl…lol
Single – You still munching???
Lady – Are you having anything else besides beans and nacho chips? Girl, I would nearly pass out by 3:00…lol
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
I still miss Mrs.Winners…. I wish they would come back to Georgia…. they had the best chicken and biscuits!!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:14 pm
Church’s…ugh I get nauseated after one piece. I do love their peppers though!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:15 pm
Celi I guess that’s part of what you sign up for when on reality tv…plus it gave the show higher ratings which = more money…it is unfortunate that such a painful moment played out for the world to see but at least she is also seen getting her life together and having the courage to leave lil lump lump once and for all.
i have little patience for the OVERLY timid types.
Me either cz…it’s such a bore and a turn off…
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:16 pm
I still miss Mrs.Winners…. I wish they would come back to Georgia…. they had the best chicken and biscuits!!
namaste, my dear.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:19 pm
Cz~ There is a Bojangles on Highway 92 in Woodstoc/Roswell area. And there is one in Alpharetta. Those are the only two I can think of. Personally, I am a fan of Popeye’s and, unfortunately for my waistline, there is one right by my office.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:19 pm
I do love their peppers though!
and their honey butter biscuits…with strawberry preserves…not jelly, I said “preserves”..
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:19 pm
Sassy – I agree there. Hopefully that’s the wake-up call she needed. I believe it will help her have a better outlook on her behavior overall, not just the issue with Ocho. It is unfortunate that this sort of drama has to play but I agree too, money of the bottom line.
I was looking at Oprah’s Twitter page and it seems she was have a convo with Iyanla Vanzant and her special with Evelyn? I couldn’t find anything else on it. I would love to see that interview. They made mentioned of her having the “tough talk” with Evelyn. If what I gathered was true, that’s progress.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
Popeyes biscuits with grape jelly
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
money “being” the bottom line
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
@Celisea you are so right about Church’s!! Their poppers are excellent!! Their chicken is too greasy…. Love their biscuits too!!
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
cz – 200 miles???? Where in the world are you right now? lol
disco – As far as Church’s goes, i like their biscuits and fried okra…the chicken is just aight. Those pieces are so big it’s just scary to me lol Publix does have good rotisserie though
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
lol you funny C~ it was filling beef nachos and beans with a salad and of course my hot fries and an orange…lol yeah I will make it! i made it with less lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
ThirdWheel – Girl, the last time I ate Church’s, I got one leg down, after that I was done…lol I’m like that too about Burger King. I use to buy Whoppers cut in half. The last time I did that, I got nauseated just looking at it. I haven’t been back since…lololol
But yes girl, the peppers are yummy. I would ask for a “roll” when their biscuits first came out…lol
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:24 pm
sassy, comon … i was starting to wonder about prince’s ex on that other “wives” show. then she finally showed some spunk. i appreciate sweetness and all, but i just can’t get down with a total doormat.
jen needs to find her inner jersey. just a lil bit tho, not like tammy.
nuh-uh. not like tammy.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:25 pm
Lady – Not bad. I would need a snack around 3:00 ish…lol
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:26 pm
C – I don’t recall the last time I had a whopper though I do recall that I used to love them. don’t hit BK up much anymore except for the occasional croissanwich here and there. I only have mc donald’s maybe once or twice a year. I tear up chick fil a though. I need to quit. I’m hongry (yep, with an O).
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:28 pm
disco – McDonalds is good for coffee…or say wee hours of the morning for FF or their plain burger. Can’t do the other stuff on their menu. When I do, again it’s rare. BK, can’t do. If I had to, it would be a WJ. Cannot eat a Whooper…ugh Chickfila, I’ll take chicken salad sandwich over their chicfila sandwich, even though I like the fried chicken sandwich. I don’t ever drink their lemonade. Sometimes I’ll induldge and have sweet tea from there. THEIR MILKSHAKES AND ICE CREAM….yum yum yum.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:29 pm
@Slim: Man…I haven’t seen that movie in a long time. Might have to look for it.
@cz: I’m with you on the Publix chicken. We usually do that for at least one tailgate. Their sides are so good, too. I love their Southern Style potato salad.
Can’t do Church’s chicken but I do love those honey butter biscuits. Yum yum.
And KFC’s chicken pot pie.
Dang. Hungry.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:29 pm
lol @ slim. ijs. i don’t think i’ve ever seen a bojangles in the metro area. and comon’s 12:19 explains why.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:30 pm
Celi I was talking about Jennifer…not Evelyn. Have you ever seen Jen’s soon to be exhusband? That’s where the “lil lump lump” phrase came from…dude looks like an alien experiment in reproduction that went wrong somewhere…
Speaking on Iyanla..I wonder what she can do for Evelyn…from what I understand both she and her mom were on the show. Still, had she not gotten head butted she’d still be the loud,crass bully she likes to be. Now she’s the victim and she’s playing that to the hilt. I don’t condone domestic violence but those two were an accident waiting to happen and it did…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:30 pm
C/Slim1/disco/ITL/Cz~ But I don’t think anything can top tat Strawberry Fanta from Popeye’s.
The only time I want it is when I got there..
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:32 pm
Sassy – LOLOLOLOLOL….I’m still hanging on to the headbutting thing…
Girl, Jennifer’s ex is just too done. I wish that would have been me he tossed a drink on. He would have gotten a chair in his back when he walked away. A chair, a flower pot, something…a knife, but I wouldn’t have just sat there. He should be grateful she looked his way.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
ITL~ Speaking of Tailgating… are y’all gonna be posted up in your normal spot this Saturday? Pending a response from the babysitter (i.e. the grandparents) I am going with the hubs to see Vandy and I will try to catch up with you. You have to email me the location so I can print it out to have with me. Maybe if the hubs runs off with the frat, I can chill and drink with you.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
@CC: I was just talking about Fanta the other day. Every now and then I like one. But my all-time fave will always be a Peach Nehi. Mmmmmmmm mmmmmmm.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
CC – I don’t like their Strawberry sodas. I do like the Hi-C Orange at McDonalds. I just don’t have because of the sugar intake.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
disco, mickey-dees chocolate chip frappe has become an occasional indulgence of mine. other than that, i rarely darken their drive-thru window.
if i MUST deal with fast food, i’ll shoot for a baked potato and chilli from wendy’s.
btw … a fairly reliable source tells me arby’s roast beef is received dehydrated (like an MRE).
just eeew!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:34 pm
jen needs to find her inner jersey. just a lil bit tho, not like tammy.
Yes she does but you’re right not like Tammy….cause sista gurl will let you have it in a New York minute. I really wanted to see her and Evelyn brawl but Evelyn knew what it was….she bucked a little bit but not like she did with the other ladies.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
12:34 pm
yup part 2 starts then and it will be snack time indeed! long day…….i am just ready for the weekend again! lol
I will be @ the New Edition Concert rain or shine with my wine!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:35 pm
@CC: We are and I will.
We’re easy to find; you’d have to be blind in one eye and not able to see out of the other to miss us. 
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:36 pm
Sassy – I haven’t followed Iyanla over the years but I hear she’s got her own issues. I only saw the show Oprah aired where she and Iyanla were ironing their differences and misunderstandings. It seems they’re BFFs now.
CC – No can do the strawberry soda…lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
I’ve tried to like Tammy but she’s too alley for me.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
Lady – When is the concert?
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:38 pm
He would have gotten a chair in his back when he walked away. A chair, a flower pot, something…a knife
Gurl he might’ve had ME on his back after a stunt like that…woooosaaah… It would’ve been on and popping WWE AKA Evelyn style…
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:40 pm
celisea’s 12.32 is what i mean by overly timid. i think i saw a clip of that on a reunion show or something. i really could not believe anyone would just SIT there, dripping!
“lady-like” be damned. sometimes you just gotta sneak attack a mufu.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
12:41 pm
Saturday @ Chastain @ 7
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:41 pm
Sassy – It would’ve been on and popping WWE AKA Evelyn style
Sho nuff….I was mad for her. I would have just straight snapped. He was just a bitter brother, mad cause she was moving on and done hanging on to him and his mistreatment. Heck, hedda got a chair, simply how he talked all disrespectful to her. She was a good one though cause disrespect and philandering will get you out….for good, done!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:42 pm
No can do the strawberry soda…
I’ve had it before but not in a long time…I also like a really cold, almost kinda frozen Tahitian Treat…but haven’t had one in years. It’s not really conducive to the healthy lifestyle I’m into..although an occasional treat once in a while isn’t bad. Once I start it’s hard for me to stop so I just leave it alone all together.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:42 pm
Which is what I can’t understand about her. Why didn’t something just automatically snap????
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:44 pm
Sassy – I can’t do the strawberry sodas at Popeyes but Tahitian Treat (and Hawaiian Punch)….Lawd yes. I use to buy Tahitian Treats on my way home EVERY DAY!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:44 pm
He was just a bitter brother, mad cause she was moving on and done hanging on to him and his mistreatment.
I know right?!?!…ol fugly azz…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:48 pm
Now that y’all have made me good and hungry, I must go out and investigate the available diggs for lunch. BBL.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:48 pm
oooohh Hawain Punch…yeah that used to be one of my favs,too.
Why didn’t something just automatically snap????
Look how long it took her to even grow the cajones to leave dude…it was a WELL KNOWN fact that he cheated on her…ALOT…and EVERYone knew about it. So if she’ll withstand that kind of humiliation for years then a drink obviously didn’t faze her. Plus that might’ve been ammo for her lawyers,too…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:50 pm
*Hawaiin* mea culpa…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:51 pm
it’s still wrong…I’m done..y’all get it..
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:54 pm
sassy – I’m laughing because you tried to fix it. I, for one, didn’t think twice about the misspelling. on the blog I’m very forgiving about misspelled words. heck, some of us are typing under pressure. what, with trying not to get caught and all. lol.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:54 pm
Hollers……ol fugly azz…
I ran a grabbed a salad. I have a 1:00 with me manager
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:57 pm
LOL@Sassy. For some reason, when I read that, all I could think was “Hawayne” punch… (blood sugar must be low)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:57 pm
Sassy – Your 12:48, nip that mess in the bud and with the quickness. I don’t want to hear, just kidding, just playing, jokie joke on to “it won’t happen again”, “it was just that one time”…..nuh uh…if you don’t nip it, you’ll end up like her. With a dude that shows absolutely no respect for you.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
1:00 pm
Exactly Celi…
ITL…I think mine is low,too…
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
1:04 pm
Ummmm, my manager just caught me off guard…I’m doing a mock live meeting….ut oh
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
1:06 pm
i guess all the dudes left the building for lunch. since they don’t have to worry about their hair.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
1:08 pm
It finally stopped raining here, so I’m gonna make a run to Macy’s.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
1:11 pm
here too. and i’m headed to vickie’s. LUV my rewards cards!
kimmie
September 18th, 2012
1:25 pm
Hey Gang!
They workin me hard here, but all good!
Miss you guys!
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
1:34 pm
I’m glad I brought my lunch to work today….no rained out hair here until 5.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
1:45 pm
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
I really wish I could be like some of my friends though… they get divorced one month and marry again in the next month.
a little late, but that’s easy, just find someone as desperate to be married as you are, and do it, that’s why they’re on the 4th and 5th marriages, the newness wears off and you move on to the next one.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
1:47 pm
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
1:50 pm
C I’m through munching, trying to do a little work, very little (LOL)
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
just find someone as desperate to be married as you are
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
1:53 pm
that is funny!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
1:57 pm
Well, I did really well on my mock run but….I got some other news…not necessarily bad. I’m getting another portfolio…ugh…it’s in SC so I’ll have to fly there and meet folks. I don’t have a definite date for the travel piece but it’s around the corner. I’ve gotten spoiled by my team here.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
1:59 pm
LOL @ Sassy & S/H. Y’all stoopid! I come back from lunch to that comment and I almost spit my tea all over my keyboard.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:00 pm
Single – A little work eh? That’s what we all aim for….lolololol
I’m not feeling all “giddy” like my manager was wanting me to feel but I put on my game face. I got my folks here trained…clients and teammates…lol Everybody knows me and how I operate. It’s all good, nothing negative but my day is easy breezy cause I trained them…lol My manager did make mention that the portfolio is not as clean as mine. Well, that means Celisea is gonna be getting folks in tip top. Usually it’s painful (as it was here…took me two years), but Imma make it happen.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:01 pm
Single – Thanks for the laugh (1:45)….I did LOL’d at it.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
2:05 pm
S/H started it…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
2:05 pm
So, lat eon Friday I referenced that I had gotten som “upsetting news” so since it is a slow blog day, I will throw it out for y’all opinions.
Late Friday afternoon (about 4:45 to be exact) I got a call from one of the dean’s at my kids’ school that my son had been called the “N” word by 2 guys that play on his football team during recess. The exact sentence was “Little Cents is a b!@tch Azz ninja.” and “He can’t play basketball with us because he is naturally a better player because he’s black”.
So, I will let you guys tell me how you think it should be handled and I will tell you what I think we are going to do.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:06 pm
C, my little plan isn’t going to good right now
it’s a good thing I like my job ((LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:09 pm
Comon, Sassy I was just answering the question (trying to look innocent) (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:13 pm
Comon while I don’t like the N word in any form, I don’t care who it comes from, those kids are only repeating what they heard some other person, (probably a black person) say, they may not be fully aware that they are not supposed to say it. I know how I handled it when I was 7, I called him a cracker and almost got to fighting if it wasn’t for the teacher sending me home. but these days since it’s “supposedly” okay unless another race uses it I really would have to look at the context (if that’s the right word) of how it was said.
disco
September 18th, 2012
2:14 pm
CC – all I can do is shake my head. I’m not going to ask for more info and I’m going to try refrain from commenting. gee moe nelli and good googly goo.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
2:17 pm
LOL……@Single at being desperate.
Comon what ever you and the hubs decide to do, do it with class that could spiral out of control and be a lead story on CNN.
disco
September 18th, 2012
2:18 pm
S/H – and already I’m commenting when I said I wasn’t. lol. looking at it from your perspective I can kind of see them using the word knowing it was inflammatory but not necessarily understanding the full effect. still to call someone a BAN to their face is fighting words. to say it behind their back, well, then we know who the true BAN is.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:20 pm
Single and Happy – Ain’t it good to have a job and like it???
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:21 pm
Disco, the way the used it, was inflammatory, but probably in their minds it was no different than say MF. Not the degrading term that it is used by others, they wouldn’t have put the Bytch A$$ on it.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:22 pm
C yes it is, now all I have to do is become a morning person, and I will be all right (LOL)
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
2:22 pm
CC-
My response, since you have a plan in mind, would be to address the first statement with a lil one by expressing the importance of knowing to which names to answer. (What people call you does not mean as much as what you answer to) and have a talk to the AD/Coach most places it is the same person anyways. He can address it with the whole team in a way that he can,even if the kids hear that language at home.” It it likely that it will get back to parents who taught this language that you know that the language is out there and you aren’t afraid to address.
As to the naturally better because he black, let lil kids know that they cannot just get by with what they have be naturally blessed. They must still work towards improvement>
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
2:24 pm
Comon what ever you and the hubs decide to do, do it with class
Yes and I think it should involve a parent(both sets)/teacher/principle conference along with reasons as to why they felt it was acceptable to call him that and reasons as to why it’s NOT okay. Then maybe some sort of discipline such that is’t discouraged from happening again.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:25 pm
Single and Happy – You’re not a morning person? Really? I didn’t read that but hey, I don’t know you either. I’m a morning person!! Can you tell? lol I use to soooo not be, until a chick told me (after putting in her two weeks for leaving), that I was sooo cool to sit by at work and partner with, but that she just knew not to say anything to me until after noon. We laughed at it but it was a real eyeopener for me. From that point, I made every effort to shake the morning bear that was riding on my back every morning…lolol
YOU CAN CHANGE, YES YOU CAN
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
2:26 pm
BF –
One thing that all us attorneys learn in law school, not matter what area in which we practice, is to spin facts and present them to others. Usually are Judge and Jury, but sometimes it is public as well.
So, I am certain the CC can handle it even if it makes CNN. Maybe it would be a story to break all the “I approve this message” talk on TV.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:27 pm
C my coworkers used to say not to say anything to me until after 9 unless I went to the gym that morning, and they actually could tell the difference. (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:30 pm
CC – I just went back and read…just wow I would request a conference with the staff and the parents (with the boys). We would all have a sitdown and I would ask the staff to state in front of those parents whats acceptable and what’s not going to be tolerated. And if it continues what disciplinary actions will be taken.
disco
September 18th, 2012
2:32 pm
S/H – agreed.
y’all got me sitting here giggling at myself. yes, CC. please be a parent with class. don’t be a ghetto A parent like me. I would have been the one sending my son back to school to handle it. y’all know I’m tit for tat. I’d have been encouraging mine to talk about the other kid’s momma.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:34 pm
disco, disco, disco (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:35 pm
Single – At least it wasn’t “don’t say nothing to him before noon” lol
When I worked at Dun and Bradstreet, this white chick, a lesbo (was cool as ever with me and my sis) would ask my sister “where the little militant black midget today”
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
2:36 pm
Well, the reason that it did not end with that call of me having to go to the school because my boy was fighting was because I have been preparing him for this moment for about 5 years. I am well aware of where we live and with him always being one of a handful, I knew it was bound to happen sooner or later. I have always told him that you can’t change someone’s opinion by fighting any more than you can change someone’s religious beliefs by fighting.
So, over the weekend we watched the Herschel Walker story on YouTube (It originally aired on ESPN and if you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend it!) And I have a meeting to talk with the Headmaster and the AD on Thursday. Not sure what I am going to say yet, but I am sure it will come to me before I get to the meeting.
Hubs was of the opinion that we should give him a one time only free pass to whoop the boys azzes (I did tell y’all my hubby is from the SWAT originally, right?) But I told him that I don’t think that would help the situation. As far as calling the other parents in, I am pretty sure that is where these boys probably heard the word originally. And, no, I don’t think it was a “My bad, I didn’t know it was inflammatory”. I think that they intended to bait him into a fight.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:40 pm
C that all depends on what time you get to work, I’m here around 6:30 (LOL)
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
2:41 pm
disco~ You and the hubs are on the same page. LOL!
C~ Do you resally think that bringing the other parents in would help? I thought about it, but then I tossed it out because with one of the boys (not sure about the other) I am 95% sure that he learned that crap at home. IJS. Therefore, I didn’t think it would make any difference if I brought them in or not. Maybe wait until after the meeting with the AD and Headmaster to see if it is worth it/what they are willing to do to discipline the other children?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
2:41 pm
Poppa G you atty’s. have that great gift of using language that laymen like myself find difficult to understand. Speaking of language and not trying to turn to politics, did anybody hear the secretly recorded tape Romney made. He said to his wealthy constituents at a 50K dollar a plate dinner I’m not worried about the 47% who don’t pay taxes reffering to people receiving entittlements.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:42 pm
Comon you know these folks better than we do, but do you think that his say bytch a$$ n, or just N? they may have said the naturally talented part though.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:43 pm
I would say ten years ago I would have been HOT about the whole thing. My first thought now is what are they hearing at home and from folks (i.e. family members) they’re interacting with?
When we first moved to a predominately white neighborhood when I was about 7, I was called the N word a few years after moving there. By that time I was driving. I brought my car to a screeching stop (mom in passenger seat). I jumped out of the car and asked who said it as there were about 4 kids and a toddler standing there. Naturally they all said the baby said it. My mama explained to me then that what they hear from the adults raising them and their environment is what they put out and project.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:43 pm
Black, now that’s a surprise (LOL)
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
2:44 pm
disco -
**I’d have been encouraging mine to talk about the other kid’s momma.**
Yo mama joke bonding with the child, huh :lo:
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:45 pm
Single – LOLOLOLOL 6:30? You ain’t good til after 9? What’s wrong boo boo? Not good my man, not good. You getting better though right?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:45 pm
C I got to ask, you were driving at 10 (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:46 pm
C it all depends on the morning (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:49 pm
CC – Absolutely. It doesn’t matter if that’s what his environment. It’ high time he and parents learn to keep that crap at home and that’s it’s not welcomed in the world we live it (or shouldn’t be). That it’s children of all races/color will indeed have a safe haven for learning and growning and interacting. Show a united front (you and hubs, your kid and the school). That that mess won’t be tolerated.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
2:49 pm
@CC: Regardless of what those kids hear at home, it needs to be made clear to them that that type of language will not be tolerated….EVER.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:50 pm
Single – I said a few years later….I was called the N word often…OFTEN. It was a predominately white neighborhood. By the time I was diving and got my license, someone yelled it out.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
2:53 pm
I think that they intended to bait him into a fight.
They did and I know for certain the remark about him being a “natural athlete” sounds like something they’ve heard other adults say and are repeating it.
Hubs was of the opinion that we should give him a one time only free pass to whoop the boys azzes
Part of me would agree…just don’t do it on school grounds and catch their a$$es by surprise…but I digress.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
2:54 pm
BF-
I heard that mess. I thought that he may win this thing until I heard a speech that he made back during the summer at Papa John’s (the pizza guy) house in Indiana. He told people that kids shouldn’t get a loan to attend college. They should borrow money from their parents. I said at that point that he is too out of touching with the condition of the people in the USA. or simply he only wants rich kids to get a college education.
Actually, it made me purchase Papa John’s pizza. I turned to the Monster Slices of Cameli’s pizza on Ponce, instead.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
2:56 pm
Single the dude said blatantly people on welfare, food stamps, and the disabled can all vote for the President. “I don’t need their vote my concern lies with getting the Independent votes”. I thought the guy was trying to show the nation he is in touch with the little guys. He’s faking it in front of the media to snag the White House, but behind closed doors he really says what he thinks.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
3:00 pm
The one azz kicking proposal does have some grounds.
I had an experience where is kick a dude tail when I was in the 3rd grade and the dude was in the 6th grade. He jumped me when I got of the school bus. I grabbed some dirt and thew it in his eyes. The it was the Poppa G show. I damage his face so bad that his nose has remained crooked even when I last saw him. Word definitely got around that I kicked that tail. I never had an off football field fight again.
Oh, the reason for the fight: He wanted to show me my place by telling me to sit in the back of the schoolbus. It was 1983 and Clayton County was integrated.
A good legend of an azzkickin’ can help.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
3:02 pm
Poppa G I was floored to hear what he said and I now know for sure he aint making it to the White House.
Enjoy your evening folks will be in touch again.
disco
September 18th, 2012
3:02 pm
BF – re your comment re romney’s comments how come I spoke with a family member today at lunch. we were laughing about the fact that her mom buys stamps from folks and said she was trying to fill her freezer up just in case Romney wins and all of a sudden there is a food stamp shortage.
sassy – growing up we sho nuff knew that once you crossed the street after school the teachers couldn’t say anything to you. It was on and popping.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:06 pm
C~ I thought about the united front, but I also thought about the “momma’s boy” and “snitch” comments. I feel as though I am treading on a very shaky patch of ice right now and I know that my son is looking at me for the correct way to handle it.
Sassy~ The sneaking up and fighting them off campus problem is that we never see these kids outside of school. I don’t associate with their parents and he has friends from the neighborhood that he went to public school with that he hangs out with when he is home.
It should be duly noted that these kids are benchwarmers. My father think that it is just plain outright jealousy that he is better than they are and therefore, they need an excuse WHY he is better than them so they go to race. And you are right, Sassy, that is probably something they heard at home.
ITL~ While that is the message I would love to send, I guess that is why I am waiting for the meetin gon Thursday. I want to make sure that the school is willing to send the SAME message I am sending.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:08 pm
once you crossed the street after school the teachers couldn’t say anything to you. It was on and popping.
Damned sure couldn’t…that a$$ is grass buddy!!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
3:09 pm
CC – Bump that…lol Let them take it any way they want. You should be a replica of Madea sitting up in there…lololol
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
3:10 pm
Greetings, earthlings.
OT – I don’t know if the pressure that M felt when it came to being married was from the outside or an ideal that he saw for himself. I do know that he says that before meeting me that he had begun to think he may be single for life.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:11 pm
@CC: If the school is not willing to send that message, then I would question your son attending school there. Period.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:12 pm
Damned sure couldn’t…that a$$ is grass buddy!!
…..and CC’s son is the lawnmower!!!
Did y’all ever say that growing up? Guys I went to school with would say it all the time. That and the “I’ll cut you down so low…..” jokes.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:14 pm
I feel as though I am treading on a very shaky patch of ice right now and I know that my son is looking at me for the correct way to handle it.
Just as someone’s already posted you,the hubs and your son need to present a united front(I’m sure you will,though). Those bench warmers are jealous and were indeed trying to make him angry enough to fight and possibly get expelled/taken off the basketball team.
And quite frankly,Comon< they may have heard that at school,too…racism is VERY institutionalized.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:14 pm
Comon you know these folks better than we do, but do you think that his say bytch a$$ n, or just N? they may have said the naturally talented part though.
Not sure what you are asking me…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:16 pm
before meeting me that he had begun to think he may be single for life.
Congrats Mrs.!!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:16 pm
Heeeeey, Mrs. SexyCool! Congrats on the nuptials.
I hope your special day was all the two of you dreamed it would be.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:18 pm
ITL~ Yes, I have considered removing him from the school, but the issue then becomes that he has always been raised in environments where he was one of a few blacks. If I put him in a predominately black school then he will be “Uncle Tom” or “Oreo” or “You talk like you’re white” (Which is my pet peeve, coincidentally) and any other school I choose that is predominately white will most likely have the same issues. TBH, there are no racially balanced (at least moreso than we have now) schools that are even close to our area. We live in the East Cobb/Roswell area. (Hint hint. If anyone knows of a more balanced school in the area, please let me know)
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:20 pm
“I’ll cut you down so low…”
You’ll be able to smell grasshopper farts
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:29 pm
Taffer
September 18th, 2012
3:31 pm
I have always wondered why people around ones self have any business with your relationship status. The last thing I care about is what people think of me, they can think of me worse than dog poop, more power to them, but it will be funny if said person were to ever ask me for a favor. It’s kind of like nosey neighbors that feel they have a God given right to know your business especially when your neighborhood is NOT a HOA (cough cough Control freak Nazi’s) and you are doing nothing illegal or harmful to anyone, but there nose is predominately pressed against your colon. So please, someone, explain to why people feel that your business is there business???
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
3:34 pm
Comon that was supposed to be do you think those kids parents would use the term bytch a$$ n as opposed to those Ns
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:36 pm
I’ll cut you down so low…..
….you could commit suicide by jumping off a dime.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:37 pm
S/H~ Nope. Idon’t think they used the term BAN. I think that Sassy is right and that it is a blending of what they heard at home and what they hear at school.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:38 pm
@CC: Maybe I’m naive, but do you really think that that attitude is prevalent at all predominately white schools??
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:40 pm
it is a blending of what they heard at home and what they hear at school.
True…I think the B.A.N is something they’ve heard around school among their peers but the “natural athlete” part is definitely something they
ve heard either at home or school…I don’t usually hear children use phrases and terms like that unless they’ve heard it elsewhere.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:41 pm
I’ll cut you down so low…..
…..you could jump through a flaming Fruit Loop.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
3:43 pm
well time to go, lata peeps
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:44 pm
but do you really think that that attitude is prevalent at all predominately white schools??
Really?!…how much blatant racism have we witnessed towards the POTUS/FLOTUS by ADULTS? These same adults are also parents…so to think that it stops with them is wrong..just like those children heard and repeated “natural athlete” I’m more than sure they hear and repeat much worse at schools.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
3:45 pm
I’ll cut you down so low…..
that you can hoola hoop throgh a cheerio
It rhymes too, feel free to place in your next freestyle.
Another note: It looks like Doug E. Fresh will be half-time entertainment since one band cannot perform during the FAMU v. Southern game that’s upcoming.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:46 pm
ITL~ I can’t speak for evey predominately white school, but the area that we live in, I grew up in. I went to elementary school there and I went to HS there. I have also moved 19 times and, due to socieconomics, I have almost always lived in areas where I am one of a few minorities. So, even if it isn’t overt, it is always there. When I was in middle school, we lived in an area of SC where we couldn’t join the Country Club because we were black. I have had people that I thought were friends who would get upset and call me the N word. So, yeah, I think it is always there on some level and furthermore, it is often tolerated because it is so institutionalized and systematic. JMO…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:48 pm
I’ll cut you down so low…
at you’ll have to cary a sign around “Don’t spit. Can’t swim”
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:49 pm
it is always there on some level and furthermore, it is often tolerated because it is so institutionalized and systematic.
Cosign…
jackie russell
September 18th, 2012
3:50 pm
I don’t think a man is pressured by society to do but one thing regarding ‘love and marriage’…”do what You want to do.”
Therefore the hope of women who love and want to be with them rests in the examples of good male role models that raise and influence them.
MsAtl
September 18th, 2012
3:52 pm
I was married for 27 years prior to my divorce. I have had friends tell me that I need to get married again soon. I am not opposed to marrying again, however, there is absolutely no rush. I will not marry just for the sake of marrying. If I do, fine; if I do not, fine.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
3:54 pm
CC-
your post is similar to my experience. Until around 1996, majority of Clayton County was white. I remember when North Clayton was predominantly white, too. It wasn as long ago as you think. I put it to you this way: I remember President George HW Bush (Daddy Bush) coming down to the Panhandle area of Clayton County. I remember Lovejoy High School was a National School of Excellence and winning Odyssey of the Mind competition. Obama is US President number 44 and Daddy Bush was US President 41.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
3:54 pm
yawn…
I’s ret to go…
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
3:56 pm
CC – All of your 3:46. I was about to type something but you said it. If you’re not on this side of the coin then really, you have no clue or idea or realistic view of how many many people still live behind the sheet. We see it everyday. Only difference? Folks aren’t as brazen (well not before Obama) to be out with it.
Did anybody see the clip of Mitt Romney speaking at some fundraiser event and all the nasty things he was saying??? They played on GMA. They better not elect him. All hell is going to definitely break loose. If y’all have a minute, go to ABC/GMA website and pull it up.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
3:57 pm
Thanks, SassyM, ITL.
The day went by in a flash. I wish I could have put it on a ’slow advance’ setting.
We had a ball.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
3:58 pm
PG~ I’ll be even more specific. I graduated HS in 1991. Out of my graduating class of 827 students at Walton HS, there were 5 blacks in our class. Currently, I still live right around the corner from Walton and the percentage of blacks is right at 2%.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
3:59 pm
I don’t know.. I think we should be careful that ignorant acts, words, and beliefs of some not be taken as being representative of all.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:02 pm
I graduated from a predominantly white school in the Florida Panhandle. It is always so interesting to see how politics and opinions about current events are so radical across color lines.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:03 pm
C~ What you are talking about is “white privilege perspective”; ou can’t see the norm because you are the norm. No offense to anyone white, but you can google the term and that’s what it’s called.
In other words, I could ask any black woman on here if they would buy nude colored pantyhose and (unless they are VERY fair) the answer will be no. Because nude pantyhose are not nude for blacks
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:05 pm
Neither are nude colored shoes.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:05 pm
I wonder how much work really got done today around the ATL after that long game last night.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:05 pm
Nor are the those dresses with the peekaboo nude backgrounds.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:06 pm
ITL~ Not saying that they are respresentative of all. On the contrary, some of my BEST friends from HS were white (imagine that
) and we are still friends today. However, for the most part, even if other whites do not agree with the racial comments/ignorant slurs they are very slow to stand up and defend the other kid (especially as pre-teens/early tennagers) which produces and environment in which it is OK to bully someone about their race. You are seeing the same culture of abuse arise with Latinos and homosexuals now.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:06 pm
PG – I didn’t come to the office until 1p because of being at the Dome last night. (lol)
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:10 pm
SexyCool~ Or “flesh” colored band-aids.
Do you remember in the 80’s when all Barbie’s were white? (Hell, all baby dolls, for that matter) And people acted like they couldn’t understand why it was SOOO important to blacks to have black baby dolls?
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:10 pm
CC – your 406p – >>here<<
Some of my HS friends and I are still close *enough*. We can lunch and dinner and maybe even vacation together, but there are so many things that we just have to leave off the table in conversation or agree to disagree.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:11 pm
Mrs. SexyCool -
We left the game after 11 PM and still made it home to see the end. I am paying for it now.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:13 pm
47 minutes…yelling!!
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:13 pm
And then after all that, that dern Michael Turner gets arrested for DUI…wtdta?!?
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:14 pm
SexyCool~ Either that or you casually tip-toe around any issues that deal with race or politics.
Been there.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:16 pm
wtdta?!?…
Apparently Gwinnett County, Suwanee Georgia
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:17 pm
Yuuup…a lot of uncomfortable looks, awkward silences and nervous laughter…usually trying to make light of it…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:18 pm
At 5 AM local time. LMAO! He was leaving da club and just about right…
disco
September 18th, 2012
4:18 pm
CC – I pulled that white privilege on my neighbor (ms there goes the neighborhood). told her that her opinion was very white of her. lol. I give her credit though. she was firm in her stance even if it was janky as heck.
one piece of recommended reading. it’s kind of dated but I think they did a good job meeting objectives. it’s called “divided sisters: bridging the gap between black women and white women”. I forget the authors. they had me at jump when the foreword was two quotes. black woman said something to the effect that white women were too nosey, always up in folks’ business. the white woman said something to the effect that it was too difficult to get to know black women even after having worked with them for a long time.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:18 pm
Dumb? Arrogant? Or both?
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:18 pm
42 minutes!!! yelling!!!
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:20 pm
CC-
He’d probably been to Strokers…lol. They close around 3 am or so.
So, I’ve heard….
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:20 pm
It’s uncomfortable no matter your skin tone. There are a lot of misconceptions, across the board. I wish we could have more respectful, learning dialogue, and less tiptoeing.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:21 pm
Cel – according to Mitt, I want the government to support me and refuse to be self sufficient.
disco
September 18th, 2012
4:23 pm
ITL – ditto. some folks are just too comfortable, too uncomfortable or too daggone ignorant. they love to talk diversity but ain’t trying to live diversity.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:24 pm
SexyC – Okaaay…I was just too dang through after I heard that. Not that I was onboard…IJS Can you imagine how it’s gonna be if he wins when he believe 47% of Americans are trifling????
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:25 pm
And he’s not worried about that 47%…(lol)
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:25 pm
disco~ I will check that out. I am very interested in this subject as I am forced to walk this line almost constantly. I have tried to explain this to my white friends, but it is a foreign concept to them because they can’t “see” the things that I’m seeing. Often, when the subject is brought up, you get a whole lot of “Oh, I don’t think s/he meant it that way!” “You’re being overly sensitive” etc. And I don’t disagree that there are cases when the minority is overly sensitive to what’s going on HOWEVER many times there overly sentiveness comes from years of systematic slights and overt actions that have caused them to have to “always be on the lookout for the hook”.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:25 pm
@Mrs. SCool: Your 4:18????
@disco: There are some things I would LOVE to know, but have never asked even my closest AA friends, bc I always worry about crossing the line.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:27 pm
I ask my WF anything I want to know.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:28 pm
SexyC – Exactly…lol
I don’t really do the race relations talk too much because I’m probably gonna be a bit more frank that folks can swallow. Racial issues are real and if I talk about it, I want to say exactl like it is. No sugar coating, no skipping, no dancing around it. But keeping it real, is often too harsh for many.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:29 pm
31 minutes….screaming!!!
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:29 pm
The problem overall is that no one really wants to take a look at life for other people. The immigration attorneys here talk about the stories that people from other places do to get here. On the other side, those who have been here worry about folks just coming here for a free ride. Which is not totally true. Bankruptcy code has been used by the rich for years. (Look up how many times Trump business entities have filed bankruptcy. When the poor uses it to save a house, they didn’t manage their money well.. Just when people of either side get entrenced in a side, they don’t really want to see the other side.
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2012
4:30 pm
Afternoon, peeps.
RE: Romney & his 47% remarks… The funny thing to me is that he clearly doesn’t realize that a large portion of those 47% are some of the most hard core teabaggers around — old people, and low-income, rural white people. Then again, they probably don’t realize they’re part of that 47% themselves…
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:30 pm
I’m glad you can do that, SC.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:32 pm
ITL~ I am open to having that dialogue, but there are many who aren’t. I don’t CHOOSE to tip-toe; I’m forced to because of my career coices, where I live, etc. No one wants to live in the war zone, so we choose to ignore the elephant in the room.
SexyCool~ I’ll take dumb for $1000, Alex. 5 baby mommas? Yeah, dumb….
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:32 pm
Exactly, when MC Hammer filed for bankruptcy, it was not because he was broke. It was to protect his assets.
For rich people, BKs are a financial management tool. For poor people, they are a lifeline.
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2012
4:34 pm
“Just when people of either side get entrenced in a side, they don’t really want to see the other side.”
Just watch replays of Fox News talking heads from 2004 vs. today re: the US’ role in “spreading democracy” to see this in action. All for it when it was W doing the spreading — not so much now.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:34 pm
SwizzBeats – very good point. A *LOT* of the folk that I see in my timeline posting in support of Mitt wouldn’t get a second glance from him…and he wouldn’t spit on them if they were on fire.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:36 pm
No one wants to live in the war zone, so we choose to ignore the elephant in the room.
And that sucks. But I know that I would choose silence over being seen as ignorant or perceived as racist.
disco
September 18th, 2012
4:36 pm
ITL – if y’all are friends it should be cool to ask. If y’all are friends it should be cool to get in the occasional ethnic joke. IF y’all are friends. that’s not just directed at you but in general. as open as I am to racial/ethnic issues I’m not going to entertain a question by some nobody trying to be funny. last weekend I was with a Hispanic friend of mine. she has a son that is part black. she commented on some behavior he was exhibiting (won’t mention but it was stereotypical – lol). I laughed and told her that was his black showing.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:38 pm
Exactly, disco…
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:39 pm
Agree disco, definitely agree
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:39 pm
exactly Swiss-
Those are the “I want the government to keep their hands off my medicare” people. The breadbasket of the US such as Iowa and Nebraska get subsidies to grow or NOT grow corn and wheat. I bet that they feel entitled to that, too. I guess that people get VA or FHA loans don’t seem to realize that their loan is guaranteed by the US government, so they in effect live in some sort of government housing. If they don’t pay, the government has promised the pay these loan to the bank.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:40 pm
ITL~ We are anonymous here (for the most part) what is it you want to ask and haven’t?
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:40 pm
@disco: It SHOULD be, but I’m not the one that wants to take the chance that it might not be…..
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:43 pm
I do have a question to ask, but I’d like to know if the other bloggers are okay with me posting it.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
Go for it….
i'm swiss
September 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
I will give the GOP some credit — as a political machine, they are quite effective. They’ve managed to use stupidity, racism and evangelical nut-case-dom to bring in voters who would be much better off economically under more traditionally democratic policies. As a political strategy, it’s pretty brilliant.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:45 pm
Or better yet…if you like, you can email me…sjeasmith@yahoo.com
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:47 pm
PG/swiss~ The issue that I have is politics, not party lines. We have been waging a “war on poverty” for years, yet the more money we spend, the higher the number of people that are living in poverty. If you are a business owner, why should you pay more because you make more? Now we live in a country that wants to punish people for being successful? The more you make the more they take (unless you’re in the 1%). And while all the dems are bItching about the tax breaks for the ultra wealthy, none of them are paying in extra (based on what they think should be fair) Obama paid 13% last year. You do realize that is LESS than someone who makes 30K a year pays in, right?
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:47 pm
ITL~ Or me. Post away.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
4:48 pm
12 MINUTES!!!!!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
4:52 pm
Thanks, Mrs. SCool/CC. I’ll email you later today or tomorrow. I appreciate your willingness to educate.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:53 pm
ITL~ You might want to go with Mrs Sexy; I was raised with the white folks and may not know the answer… LMAO! I kid, I kid…
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
4:54 pm
We pay less in tax than the 1950s. I think the problem started with Ronald Reagan. Trickled down doesn’t work. Although I like it myself, our system feeds off greed. Capitalism means that you have to have something of value to put up to move forward. Greed is one of the deadly sins. Sloth would probable equate to socialism. Communism equate to a deadly sin, too.
I don’t care for either party. They play the american people for the same money (Lobby money). There should be term limits for everyone. I am nearing 40 and this congressional term was the first without a Kennedy in office during my lifetime. Citizens United ruling is gonna make it worse.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
4:56 pm
I don’t care for either party. They play the american people for the same money (Lobby money). There should be term limits for everyone. I am nearing 40 and this congressional term was the first without a Kennedy in office during my lifetime. Citizens United ruling is gonna make it worse.
Agreed. However, I don’t understand who it is greedy of me to want to keep what I have worked for and not greedy of them to want to take what I have worked for and “re-distribute” it to someone wo has not made te same sacrifices that I have made.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
4:57 pm
I agree with term limits for all offices. Growing up, we had the same sheriff from the time I was a kid until the time I moved away. It was like he owned the place.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
5:01 pm
Maybe I should run…naaahh!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
5:01 pm
@SCool: Did he walk around, chewing a toothpick, and saying, “What we have heyah, is a failyah to communicate…..” ????
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
5:02 pm
(lmao)
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
5:04 pm
Poppa, I’d vote for you. At this point, I would vote for anyone with a little common sense. (no pun intended) And that is sorely lacking in BOTH parties. For me, this election has come down to who will do the LEAST amount of damage for the next 4 years. Then maybe we can scrap this whole thing and start over.
Mrs. SexyCool
September 18th, 2012
5:04 pm
I would run, but somewhere somebody has pictures…(lol)
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
5:05 pm
The problem is Every one seems to theink their candidate is Obi Wan Kenobi and the opposing candiadte is Darth Vader when in reality, they are both Jar Jar. IJS…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
5:06 pm
Mrs Sexy~ While you’re joking, skeletons in the closet are the reason that most of the people who would do an excellent job WON’T run.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
5:10 pm
@PG: I can’t vote for you. You’re a Gamecock. Shoot, you might pick Darth Visor as your running mate.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
5:15 pm
LOL @ ITL. I didn’t even think about that… Hmmmm… Time to reconsider.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
5:18 pm
I’ll cut you so low…
You could hide in Kojak’s hair.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
5:20 pm
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
5:21 pm
No, Darth Visor is too old. I will remember that he is at his heart at Gator. He was a Gator player and a Gator Coach. The only plus for me would be that no one would want to kill me and make him president. Then again, he may call China the UGA of the world.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
5:22 pm
I was born and raise in Georgia. I have no real hate for UGA. They offered me a free education. I always respect them and Auburn. The creamcicles on the other hand and the Great Pumpkin otherwised known as Phillip Fulmer are people that I like to see lose. You can’t spell Citrus without UT.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
5:23 pm
The Kojack one is a good….a little dated, but good.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
5:30 pm
PG~ Well, I was a kid when we were doing these so Kojack was the isht. I guess you could update it to Ceelo. Better?
SchizoFunkenstein
September 18th, 2012
6:13 pm
Today was a great day! I got a chance to voice many thoughts.
Have a wonderful evening, all. I know we will!