Do men feel pressure to marry?
I don’t know what its like to be single and male, but I can tell you being single and female definitely comes with pressure. The older you get *cough* the more people look at you and start to comment on why you aren’t married, how to fix it, and telling you that you have something left to do in life.
I have never heard of any of my guy friends talk of the same kinds of pressure to be someone’s husband, though. Some of them comment about feeling the need or pressure to have kids, but not necessarily with a wife. Do men feel pressure from family, friends, or even society to get married?
Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage?
Would you consider dating and marrying someone simply because you feel you should be dating and marrying?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:30 pm
C/Slim1/disco/ITL/Cz~ But I don’t think anything can top tat Strawberry Fanta from Popeye’s.
The only time I want it is when I got there..
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:32 pm
Sassy – LOLOLOLOLOL….I’m still hanging on to the headbutting thing…
Girl, Jennifer’s ex is just too done. I wish that would have been me he tossed a drink on. He would have gotten a chair in his back when he walked away. A chair, a flower pot, something…a knife, but I wouldn’t have just sat there. He should be grateful she looked his way.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
ITL~ Speaking of Tailgating… are y’all gonna be posted up in your normal spot this Saturday? Pending a response from the babysitter (i.e. the grandparents) I am going with the hubs to see Vandy and I will try to catch up with you. You have to email me the location so I can print it out to have with me. Maybe if the hubs runs off with the frat, I can chill and drink with you.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
@CC: I was just talking about Fanta the other day. Every now and then I like one. But my all-time fave will always be a Peach Nehi. Mmmmmmmm mmmmmmm.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
CC – I don’t like their Strawberry sodas. I do like the Hi-C Orange at McDonalds. I just don’t have because of the sugar intake.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:33 pm
disco, mickey-dees chocolate chip frappe has become an occasional indulgence of mine. other than that, i rarely darken their drive-thru window.
if i MUST deal with fast food, i’ll shoot for a baked potato and chilli from wendy’s.
btw … a fairly reliable source tells me arby’s roast beef is received dehydrated (like an MRE).
just eeew!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:34 pm
jen needs to find her inner jersey. just a lil bit tho, not like tammy.
Yes she does but you’re right not like Tammy….cause sista gurl will let you have it in a New York minute. I really wanted to see her and Evelyn brawl but Evelyn knew what it was….she bucked a little bit but not like she did with the other ladies.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
12:34 pm
yup part 2 starts then and it will be snack time indeed! long day…….i am just ready for the weekend again! lol
I will be @ the New Edition Concert rain or shine with my wine!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:35 pm
@CC: We are and I will.
We’re easy to find; you’d have to be blind in one eye and not able to see out of the other to miss us. 
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:36 pm
Sassy – I haven’t followed Iyanla over the years but I hear she’s got her own issues. I only saw the show Oprah aired where she and Iyanla were ironing their differences and misunderstandings. It seems they’re BFFs now.
CC – No can do the strawberry soda…lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
I’ve tried to like Tammy but she’s too alley for me.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:37 pm
Lady – When is the concert?
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:38 pm
He would have gotten a chair in his back when he walked away. A chair, a flower pot, something…a knife
Gurl he might’ve had ME on his back after a stunt like that…woooosaaah… It would’ve been on and popping WWE AKA Evelyn style…
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:40 pm
celisea’s 12.32 is what i mean by overly timid. i think i saw a clip of that on a reunion show or something. i really could not believe anyone would just SIT there, dripping!
“lady-like” be damned. sometimes you just gotta sneak attack a mufu.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
12:41 pm
Saturday @ Chastain @ 7
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:41 pm
Sassy – It would’ve been on and popping WWE AKA Evelyn style
Sho nuff….I was mad for her. I would have just straight snapped. He was just a bitter brother, mad cause she was moving on and done hanging on to him and his mistreatment. Heck, hedda got a chair, simply how he talked all disrespectful to her. She was a good one though cause disrespect and philandering will get you out….for good, done!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:42 pm
No can do the strawberry soda…
I’ve had it before but not in a long time…I also like a really cold, almost kinda frozen Tahitian Treat…but haven’t had one in years. It’s not really conducive to the healthy lifestyle I’m into..although an occasional treat once in a while isn’t bad. Once I start it’s hard for me to stop so I just leave it alone all together.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:42 pm
Which is what I can’t understand about her. Why didn’t something just automatically snap????
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:44 pm
Sassy – I can’t do the strawberry sodas at Popeyes but Tahitian Treat (and Hawaiian Punch)….Lawd yes. I use to buy Tahitian Treats on my way home EVERY DAY!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:44 pm
He was just a bitter brother, mad cause she was moving on and done hanging on to him and his mistreatment.
I know right?!?!…ol fugly azz…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:48 pm
Now that y’all have made me good and hungry, I must go out and investigate the available diggs for lunch. BBL.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:48 pm
oooohh Hawain Punch…yeah that used to be one of my favs,too.
Why didn’t something just automatically snap????
Look how long it took her to even grow the cajones to leave dude…it was a WELL KNOWN fact that he cheated on her…ALOT…and EVERYone knew about it. So if she’ll withstand that kind of humiliation for years then a drink obviously didn’t faze her. Plus that might’ve been ammo for her lawyers,too…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:50 pm
*Hawaiin* mea culpa…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:51 pm
it’s still wrong…I’m done..y’all get it..
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:54 pm
sassy – I’m laughing because you tried to fix it. I, for one, didn’t think twice about the misspelling. on the blog I’m very forgiving about misspelled words. heck, some of us are typing under pressure. what, with trying not to get caught and all. lol.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:54 pm
Hollers……ol fugly azz…
I ran a grabbed a salad. I have a 1:00 with me manager
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:57 pm
LOL@Sassy. For some reason, when I read that, all I could think was “Hawayne” punch… (blood sugar must be low)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:57 pm
Sassy – Your 12:48, nip that mess in the bud and with the quickness. I don’t want to hear, just kidding, just playing, jokie joke on to “it won’t happen again”, “it was just that one time”…..nuh uh…if you don’t nip it, you’ll end up like her. With a dude that shows absolutely no respect for you.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
1:00 pm
Exactly Celi…
ITL…I think mine is low,too…
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
1:04 pm
Ummmm, my manager just caught me off guard…I’m doing a mock live meeting….ut oh
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
1:06 pm
i guess all the dudes left the building for lunch. since they don’t have to worry about their hair.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
1:08 pm
It finally stopped raining here, so I’m gonna make a run to Macy’s.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
1:11 pm
here too. and i’m headed to vickie’s. LUV my rewards cards!
kimmie
September 18th, 2012
1:25 pm
Hey Gang!
They workin me hard here, but all good!
Miss you guys!
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
1:34 pm
I’m glad I brought my lunch to work today….no rained out hair here until 5.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
1:45 pm
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
I really wish I could be like some of my friends though… they get divorced one month and marry again in the next month.
a little late, but that’s easy, just find someone as desperate to be married as you are, and do it, that’s why they’re on the 4th and 5th marriages, the newness wears off and you move on to the next one.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
1:47 pm
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
1:50 pm
C I’m through munching, trying to do a little work, very little (LOL)
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
just find someone as desperate to be married as you are
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
1:53 pm
that is funny!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
1:57 pm
Well, I did really well on my mock run but….I got some other news…not necessarily bad. I’m getting another portfolio…ugh…it’s in SC so I’ll have to fly there and meet folks. I don’t have a definite date for the travel piece but it’s around the corner. I’ve gotten spoiled by my team here.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
1:59 pm
LOL @ Sassy & S/H. Y’all stoopid! I come back from lunch to that comment and I almost spit my tea all over my keyboard.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:00 pm
Single – A little work eh? That’s what we all aim for….lolololol
I’m not feeling all “giddy” like my manager was wanting me to feel but I put on my game face. I got my folks here trained…clients and teammates…lol Everybody knows me and how I operate. It’s all good, nothing negative but my day is easy breezy cause I trained them…lol My manager did make mention that the portfolio is not as clean as mine. Well, that means Celisea is gonna be getting folks in tip top. Usually it’s painful (as it was here…took me two years), but Imma make it happen.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
2:01 pm
Single – Thanks for the laugh (1:45)….I did LOL’d at it.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
2:05 pm
S/H started it…
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
2:05 pm
So, lat eon Friday I referenced that I had gotten som “upsetting news” so since it is a slow blog day, I will throw it out for y’all opinions.
Late Friday afternoon (about 4:45 to be exact) I got a call from one of the dean’s at my kids’ school that my son had been called the “N” word by 2 guys that play on his football team during recess. The exact sentence was “Little Cents is a b!@tch Azz ninja.” and “He can’t play basketball with us because he is naturally a better player because he’s black”.
So, I will let you guys tell me how you think it should be handled and I will tell you what I think we are going to do.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:06 pm
C, my little plan isn’t going to good right now
it’s a good thing I like my job ((LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:09 pm
Comon, Sassy I was just answering the question (trying to look innocent) (LOL)
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
2:13 pm
Comon while I don’t like the N word in any form, I don’t care who it comes from, those kids are only repeating what they heard some other person, (probably a black person) say, they may not be fully aware that they are not supposed to say it. I know how I handled it when I was 7, I called him a cracker and almost got to fighting if it wasn’t for the teacher sending me home. but these days since it’s “supposedly” okay unless another race uses it I really would have to look at the context (if that’s the right word) of how it was said.
disco
September 18th, 2012
2:14 pm
CC – all I can do is shake my head. I’m not going to ask for more info and I’m going to try refrain from commenting. gee moe nelli and good googly goo.