Do men feel pressure to marry?
I don’t know what its like to be single and male, but I can tell you being single and female definitely comes with pressure. The older you get *cough* the more people look at you and start to comment on why you aren’t married, how to fix it, and telling you that you have something left to do in life.
I have never heard of any of my guy friends talk of the same kinds of pressure to be someone’s husband, though. Some of them comment about feeling the need or pressure to have kids, but not necessarily with a wife. Do men feel pressure from family, friends, or even society to get married?
Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage?
Would you consider dating and marrying someone simply because you feel you should be dating and marrying?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:47 am
yall funny! lol ok let me get a lil work done! lol
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
Celisea…I can’t get over that thing on his head…bue when she had him put on the divorce cake(lump included) I was too through
chocolate sisters unite
True!
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
BF/ITL – y’all just don’t know how I wish I could head to a popeye’s for some red beans and rice. I don’t even eat their chicken. just get the side and biscuit. I don’t think there are any near me.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
@Lady: I saw your Giants got it done on Sunday.
And skimming over, it looks like the birds may have already been discussed, but congrats to the Falcons.
sn: Put me on the field with a whistle. These substitute refs are the pits.
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
11:48 am
I really wish I could be like some of my friends though… they get divorced one month and marry again in the next month. I was trying to get married just one time and some of them are already on their 4th marriage.. What’s the secret? Does anyone know? @In the light how did I take sad to a new level? I really do want to see what a wedding dress will look like on me before I am too old and gassey to try one on.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:50 am
Giants?!? hmmmmm NOT lol MY FALCONS WON LAST NIGHT~ ugly as it may lol a win is a win!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
11:52 am
@In the light how did I take sad to a new level? I really do want to see what a wedding dress will look like on me before I am too old and gassey to try one on.
Baby gurl you just asked and answered your own question.
Ummm okay so we’ve got another one?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
11:52 am
3rdWheel living alone is something some people can’t do I understand that. I love it and it’s not bad when you know yourself and don’t feel left out of the party.
Now y’all talking about chocolate, the best flavor on the planet. I’m drooling typing this I need a bib now.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:52 am
@disco: There’s one not too far from here, but it’s so nasty outside right now. It is storming and pouring down rain.
@TW: Nevermind. Don’t let me rain on your parade.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:54 am
@Lady: Ooops. My bad. For some reason I was thinking you mentioned being a Giants fan.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
11:56 am
sassy, in that vane, kinda hard for me to choose chocolate over salsa; so i go with the more fiery personality. i have little patience for the OVERLY timid types.
speaking of yum-yum; any bloggers venture out to the taste of the food trucks saturday? luved it!
they get divorced one month and marry again in the next month.
wheel, why would you envy that? more often than not, it becomes a destructive pattern.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:56 am
Sassy – I hate I didn’t see a picture of the cake…lololol But I’m wondering what she’s really thinking now. I mean all of that played out on tv…just a dang fiasco. Where’s all that hot luvin now? See, that’s why your life shouldn’t be an open book…SMH
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
11:56 am
Hey Light, I’m walking outta here now. See ya in a few.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:57 am
Hey Lady – The BIG gun? LOLOLOL
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:58 am
Ummmm…..okay…..it just thundered so hard the building shook. AND it looked like the lightening was a foot from my window.
I love thunderstorms….but I might need to love this one from a distance.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:58 am
@BF: Woohooo!!! I”ll meet you at Security.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
ThirdWheel – The time for getting in a wedding dress is when the time is right for you. As you can look around society and see, nothing is the norm anymore. If it’s 50 and you feel like it, go for it. A lady blogged here one morning and I believe she said she was 62. She had a pretty nice post. I can’t say I’ll be looking for love at 62 but hey whatever floats your boat.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
I was trying to get married just one time and some of them are already on their 4th marriage..
What’s the secret?!? Marry someone you don’t give a isht about and you too can be on your 4th marriage. I should know. I am on my 3rd and the first 2 times I marries people I really couldn’t care less about. IJS…
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
thirdwheel – now that’s real right there. I don’t think I felt envious or anything the first time around when a lot of my friends married. but when chicks started getting divorced and remarried (and in some cases divorced and remarried again) I admit I was like “dang”.
ITL – I just looked it up. nearest popeye’s to me is 75 miles. I’d go home and cook some before I’d drive 75 miles for theirs. lol.
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:59 am
YES C~ as it may lol
Willie Dynamite
September 18th, 2012
12:01 pm
Hmmmmmm Chocolate bought me out of lurking. Hahaha
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
12:03 pm
disco – How about a Bojangles? ( the name alone makes me laugh)
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:05 pm
not bojangles! slim, nearest one of those might be about 200 miles. last one i recall seeing was in beaufort, sc. lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:06 pm
WilllllliiiiieeeeeD – Cho co latte!!!!
Lady – Po thang…lol
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:07 pm
slim – child I don’t mess with bojangles like I don’t mess with church’s (although bojangles is plentiful in this neck of the woods). can’t say I don’t mess with KFC but I haven’t even had that in many, many years. I’ll just have to make do. wait for the craving to pass or be replaced by another.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:08 pm
And how come I wanna sing now? “Mr. Bojangles…..la la la da da daaaaa”
There’s one in Marietta, on 41 at the North Loop.
@disco: Next wash day, you better have that pot of beans on.
Now I’m wishing I’d put a chicken in the crock pot before I left this morning. Chicken and dumplings would be PERFECT for supper on a day like today.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:10 pm
light, i think that bolt just made it to dunwoody.
when craving great fried chicken, just head to your nearest publix deli. and pick up some mango black iced tea to wash it down.
that is all.
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
@Common well I have a friend who just got divorced two months ago and she is already planning a wedding for next year with her new boyfriend. She was married to her hubsand for at least 15 years so they loved each other. I just wish I know what the secret was to dumping someone finding someone else and getting married so quickly. Women are struggling to get married one time. I still live with my ex who would marry me tomorrow but why whould I do that to myself??
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
ITL – did you see the movie bojangles with Gregory hines? whenever I think bojangles I think “copacetic”.
I’ve made Sunday dinner two Sundays in a row. haven’t broke out the crockpot though it sounds like a good idea for next weekend. might have to check the 7 day forecast.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
Popeyes and KFC, the old “new” Krogers on Atlanta Road, is where I get chicken if I’m not trying to fry it up myself. I can’t do Publix chicken. The pieces are so big, that they look like pterodactyl…lol
Single – You still munching???
Lady – Are you having anything else besides beans and nacho chips? Girl, I would nearly pass out by 3:00…lol
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
12:13 pm
I still miss Mrs.Winners…. I wish they would come back to Georgia…. they had the best chicken and biscuits!!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:14 pm
Church’s…ugh I get nauseated after one piece. I do love their peppers though!
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:15 pm
Celi I guess that’s part of what you sign up for when on reality tv…plus it gave the show higher ratings which = more money…it is unfortunate that such a painful moment played out for the world to see but at least she is also seen getting her life together and having the courage to leave lil lump lump once and for all.
i have little patience for the OVERLY timid types.
Me either cz…it’s such a bore and a turn off…
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:16 pm
I still miss Mrs.Winners…. I wish they would come back to Georgia…. they had the best chicken and biscuits!!
namaste, my dear.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
12:19 pm
Cz~ There is a Bojangles on Highway 92 in Woodstoc/Roswell area. And there is one in Alpharetta. Those are the only two I can think of. Personally, I am a fan of Popeye’s and, unfortunately for my waistline, there is one right by my office.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:19 pm
I do love their peppers though!
and their honey butter biscuits…with strawberry preserves…not jelly, I said “preserves”..
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:19 pm
Sassy – I agree there. Hopefully that’s the wake-up call she needed. I believe it will help her have a better outlook on her behavior overall, not just the issue with Ocho. It is unfortunate that this sort of drama has to play but I agree too, money of the bottom line.
I was looking at Oprah’s Twitter page and it seems she was have a convo with Iyanla Vanzant and her special with Evelyn? I couldn’t find anything else on it. I would love to see that interview. They made mentioned of her having the “tough talk” with Evelyn. If what I gathered was true, that’s progress.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
Popeyes biscuits with grape jelly
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
money “being” the bottom line
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
12:20 pm
@Celisea you are so right about Church’s!! Their poppers are excellent!! Their chicken is too greasy…. Love their biscuits too!!
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
cz – 200 miles???? Where in the world are you right now? lol
disco – As far as Church’s goes, i like their biscuits and fried okra…the chicken is just aight. Those pieces are so big it’s just scary to me lol Publix does have good rotisserie though
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
lol you funny C~ it was filling beef nachos and beans with a salad and of course my hot fries and an orange…lol yeah I will make it! i made it with less lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:23 pm
ThirdWheel – Girl, the last time I ate Church’s, I got one leg down, after that I was done…lol I’m like that too about Burger King. I use to buy Whoppers cut in half. The last time I did that, I got nauseated just looking at it. I haven’t been back since…lololol
But yes girl, the peppers are yummy. I would ask for a “roll” when their biscuits first came out…lol
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:24 pm
sassy, comon … i was starting to wonder about prince’s ex on that other “wives” show. then she finally showed some spunk. i appreciate sweetness and all, but i just can’t get down with a total doormat.
jen needs to find her inner jersey. just a lil bit tho, not like tammy.
nuh-uh. not like tammy.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:25 pm
Lady – Not bad. I would need a snack around 3:00 ish…lol
disco
September 18th, 2012
12:26 pm
C – I don’t recall the last time I had a whopper though I do recall that I used to love them. don’t hit BK up much anymore except for the occasional croissanwich here and there. I only have mc donald’s maybe once or twice a year. I tear up chick fil a though. I need to quit. I’m hongry (yep, with an O).
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
12:28 pm
disco – McDonalds is good for coffee…or say wee hours of the morning for FF or their plain burger. Can’t do the other stuff on their menu. When I do, again it’s rare. BK, can’t do. If I had to, it would be a WJ. Cannot eat a Whooper…ugh Chickfila, I’ll take chicken salad sandwich over their chicfila sandwich, even though I like the fried chicken sandwich. I don’t ever drink their lemonade. Sometimes I’ll induldge and have sweet tea from there. THEIR MILKSHAKES AND ICE CREAM….yum yum yum.
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
12:29 pm
@Slim: Man…I haven’t seen that movie in a long time. Might have to look for it.
@cz: I’m with you on the Publix chicken. We usually do that for at least one tailgate. Their sides are so good, too. I love their Southern Style potato salad.
Can’t do Church’s chicken but I do love those honey butter biscuits. Yum yum.
And KFC’s chicken pot pie.
Dang. Hungry.
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
12:29 pm
lol @ slim. ijs. i don’t think i’ve ever seen a bojangles in the metro area. and comon’s 12:19 explains why.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
12:30 pm
Celi I was talking about Jennifer…not Evelyn. Have you ever seen Jen’s soon to be exhusband? That’s where the “lil lump lump” phrase came from…dude looks like an alien experiment in reproduction that went wrong somewhere…
Speaking on Iyanla..I wonder what she can do for Evelyn…from what I understand both she and her mom were on the show. Still, had she not gotten head butted she’d still be the loud,crass bully she likes to be. Now she’s the victim and she’s playing that to the hilt. I don’t condone domestic violence but those two were an accident waiting to happen and it did…