Do men feel pressure to marry?
I don’t know what its like to be single and male, but I can tell you being single and female definitely comes with pressure. The older you get *cough* the more people look at you and start to comment on why you aren’t married, how to fix it, and telling you that you have something left to do in life.
I have never heard of any of my guy friends talk of the same kinds of pressure to be someone’s husband, though. Some of them comment about feeling the need or pressure to have kids, but not necessarily with a wife. Do men feel pressure from family, friends, or even society to get married?
Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage?
Would you consider dating and marrying someone simply because you feel you should be dating and marrying?
Happy Monday!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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M. (pronouced M dot)
September 18th, 2012
11:03 am
Good day.
“Do you think that there are actual marriages that are a result of “pressure” from everyone else to be married? How do you think that impacts the health of the marriage?”
I think it’s a mixed bag. I think there are some genuine marriages where people are a perfect fit. I also believe that sometimes there are people that feel left out by their friends who are married so they succumb to the pressure of getting close and hitched with anyone rather than waiting for the right one.
I would not consider dating or marrying someone simply because I feel like I should be dating and marrying. I took the summer off from dating and it was one of the best things I could have done. I think that would be a waste of time and lead to the accumulation of baggage on both sides. Wait for your time and embrace where you are right now!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:04 am
C you know we all want our 15mins of fame (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:04 am
Single – LOLOL…you had to ask. Let’s say he’s still in the same place. Never understood, if nothing else if you put out “good” or right then that’s what’s returned. He could NEVER understand that. No easy outs, no short cuts…hard work, time and effort. If you hump to get babies, you had better be prepared and willing to take care of them.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:08 am
Single and Happy – Yep,15 minutes of fame is all some folks believe is the opportunity they need. Most don’t realize, it’s just gonna be 15 minutes. Not 15 minutes turned into a lifetime of fame. What are the odds of that happening? A rare thing for one in a gazillion…lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:08 am
I hear you C, that’s why I aint trying to hump and get anymore (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:09 am
Single – Boy stop…lol That’s why I ain’t getting humped…to get anymore either. I’m done and I feel good saying that.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:10 am
I wouldn’t say that much C, who would have thought any of these people would be on tv, they haven’t done anything in life but act stupid!!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:11 am
Single – Weeeeelll, I dunno. What we call stupid has “opportunity” written across it, for many others. You see folks on there, can sang a tap, but all geeked and gear up for seizing the moment. What moment?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:11 am
C never had a problem with paying child support, but sure don’t want to start over again (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:12 am
can’t not can
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:14 am
Single and Happy – never had a problem with paying child support
As should be
and
but sure don’t want to start over again
and again, as should be…lololol I dang sure ain’t starting over. Unless it’s some tragic event or unfortunate event and I’m sort of thrown in there to take care of a child, not happening
SlimUno
September 18th, 2012
11:15 am
I know to some babies =$ but if he aint paying for the others, where do you think you’re going to get some from? and when his career is over, what then??
SH – EXACTLY!!! And an even better question is if you’re making so much money, celebrity or otherwise, why NOT do your part and pay up as well as put in great Quality time with your kids???
czBrat ♀
September 18th, 2012
11:16 am
why does “speed dating” immediately bring to mind these “play dates” that are being held in cities all over the country. i think they’ve taken the place of “first fridays”.
problem is, in pics a friend recently posted at the last “play date atlanta”, i swear that game of twister was just one mass opportunity to feel up on some forbidden fruit.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:16 am
C I can see the shows like American Idol even though I don’t watch them, but the ones like the Kardashians, why are we so wrapped up in someones else lives and drama, I have to admit I have looked at BB Wive and RHOA but only because I like to drool over Royce and Kandi Burris (LOL)
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:18 am
disco -
Yes, Speed dating. I didn’t have a date with Mrs. PG. We met after the event while watching the 1998 NBA finals at the bar where the event was held. We watched Jordan shoot over Russell thinking that Jordan 1) pushed off and 2) had completed his second three-peat. She liked Sports and stuff and we hit off. Each of us agreed to list the other as just a friend relationship. Got email from the organizer of the event that stated us just a friend relationship.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:20 am
Single and Happy – Okay, I admit, I’ve watched BBW too, even though it’s trashy. I’ve peeked at the K’s but I can only stomach so much of that. RHONJ is the one show though, that I find myself unable to turn. The RHOA all seem so fake. I need you to have money if you gonna be out there living all posh…lol I know some of the cast of RHONJ have had financial issues but some have not. I can’t stomach all out gutter trash….lololol
Royce? Hmmm, so you like ‘em skanky (looking/acting) huh?
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
PG – wow. not only speed dating but speed dating back in 1998. I don’t think it was on my radar yet at that point. I’ve heard a few folks mention going to lock and key parties though I haven’t met any matches that came of it.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
I will watch AI or XFactor. I enjoy folks that can truly sing.
Comon Cents
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
PG~ It depends on the officer whether or not the case will be easier for his attorney. When you get stopped (arrested) for DUI you have to have an ALH (Administrative License Hearing) to determine if (and what type) your license will be suspended pending the adjudication of your charges. IF the officer shows up for that hearing (and it is a big IF) then he will end up making the deal with the devil; He will plead guilty to the DUI in order to keep his license. (That is an over simplification, but you get the gist) If the officer does not show for the hearing, he will get off because there is no evidence to support the DUI. (Again, oversimplification, but you catch it)
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:21 am
C very interesting! lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:23 am
Lady – LOLOLOL…I’m mostly watching “old” tv. I like Revenge and HFO (okay shoot me) but not too much current tv suits me.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:24 am
Now…give me a good movie and I’m gooooood.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:24 am
I think Jennifer on BBWs beats Allybat Evelyn in the looks department hands down.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:24 am
C I like what I like (LOL) but if either of them don’t show up in about 5 mins after I turn to the show, I can’t take more than that (LOL)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:25 am
Single and Happy – Seriously? Royce? Ooookie dokie then. You likes what you likes
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:26 am
Allybat Evelyn<<<<DEAD LOL!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:27 am
yea that Jennifer is a nice chocolate morsel
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:29 am
CC-
I understand the oversimplification.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:29 am
Lady – Evelyn is looking like umm fu fu now. Never realizing all that clowing and cutting up on folks was gonna come back and bite her in the butt.
Single – I don’t do “ladies” but I’m partial cause I’m chocolate. Jennifer is a nice looking woman.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:30 am
disco – we have been married since 2000.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:31 am
mmmmm chocolate (drooling)
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:32 am
Single – Where’s you bib? lol
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
I’m wearing it, Lunch time, lata
disco
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
I hate to be the one to bring up food but boy could I go for some red beans and rice right about now.
Poppa Grande
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
Disco -
Our event was at the Park Tavern. A few years later, the organizers of our event hooked up with 8 minute dating, a national speed dating group. I think that 8 min dating still exists.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:34 am
your…where’s YOUR bib
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:36 am
No lie, I was JUST thinking about the salad I had for lunch yesterday. Ever ate something so good, that it ate it slow because you hate to see it go? lol I savored my salad. Maybe because I had a taste for one, it was that much better
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:37 am
Single – I just hollered….I’m wearing it, Lunch time
I scared to ask
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:37 am
just ate nachos with black beans! yum!
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:38 am
Lady – I have Doritos in a baggie
Not sure what I’m having for lunch though.
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 18th, 2012
11:39 am
I don’t do “ladies” but I’m partial cause I’m chocolate. Jennifer is a nice looking woman.
Me either..but us chocolate sisters gotta unite. Jennifer is a nice looking woman…I wonder how lil lump lump feels now
Now I’m thinking about the cake from her divorce party..too funny…
ThirdWheel
September 18th, 2012
11:39 am
I use to think I wanted to be married because all of my friends were “happily” married. Come to find out my friends were faking their marriage and they only got married just to say they were married. One of my friends doesn’t even love her hubsand but she stays with him for the title of being married. If I ever escape my ex I don’t think I want to put up with another man again… I put in a lot of effort into this relationship just to see it die. I think I will go to David’s bridal try on some wedding dresses take some pictures and call it a day. Living life alone hopefully won’t be too bad….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
September 18th, 2012
11:40 am
disco since you brought up red beans and rice, I’m heading to Popeyes for lunch.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:41 am
Sassy – I wonder how lil lump lump feels now
I LOL’d on this one….lol Yes, yes, chocolate sisters unite
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:42 am
Blackfoote – I had Popeye’s last week…yuuuummmmm
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:43 am
Lawd have mercy. One more meeting and I’ll scream!!
@disco: Why did you have to say red beans and rice? After hearing that, this little ham sammich is not looking so appetizing.
@Third Wheel: You have taken sad to a whole new level.
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:43 am
I use to think I wanted to be married because all of my friends were “happily” married. Come to find out my friends were faking their marriage and they only got married just to say they were married.
Exactly!!
Into the Light
September 18th, 2012
11:43 am
@BF: can you swing by here and bring me a takeout?
Lady~sharpness is > than smartness
September 18th, 2012
11:45 am
chicken and beer has been my story here lately its time to change it up too! lol
Celisea
September 18th, 2012
11:46 am
Lady – I’m not a beer drinker but chicken? Girl, I can eat it eight days a week. Of course changing up here and there…chicken and fish