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Dating: Step your game up

When you find yourself stuck in a dating rut, you probably don’t even realize that you have started to let things slip. Your efforts become less then enthusiastic. You start going through the motions. This is the best time to take a break from dating and focus on something else.

The dating scene in Atlanta is all about image and personality. You want to be able to stand out and make a connection with someone you find attractive. If you are not into it, it definitely comes across as aloof, uninterested, or obnoxious. Sometimes we have to step our game up and become a little more sharp!

Do you ever feel as if you are in a dating rut? What are ways to break out of it?

What are some ways to step your dating game up in flirting, mingling, or approaching someone you are interested in?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

356 comments Add your comment

SchizoFunkenstein

September 14th, 2012
7:28 am

To be or not to be, that is the question. My brain is so big and I’m so smart! I don’t need dates! I date one of my own personalities!

Yours truly,

ranuknlolitlcomblurowmaroddbigeliatldresinpop AKA SchizoFunkenstein

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 14th, 2012
7:34 am

Step up your game = try being someone else (lmao) When I want to step up my game I buy a new one for my PS3 (LOL)

Lily

September 14th, 2012
7:37 am

No game needed. Things are working!

Elijah

September 14th, 2012
7:56 am

Looking for my babe! Yeah!

Big Al

September 14th, 2012
8:04 am

Dumbest blog ever. We need less ‘games’ in the dating world, not more.

SchizoFunkenstein

September 14th, 2012
8:08 am

I outsmart them all! I’m SchizoFunkenstein!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
8:10 am

If I’m flirting and approaching her that aint no game, I’m too old to play hopefully she is to.

Good Morning:

Hey Lily, games should be left at Toy-R-Us stores.

Single when you reach our age we play games on a board not in their head.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 14th, 2012
8:15 am

Fantastic Friday!!!!

Good Friday topic too! Eager to read our dating experts~ ;)

Lily

September 14th, 2012
8:20 am

Hello Blackfoote!

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
8:50 am

On topic~ I have nothing. Happily married and didn’t have to play games to get there.

Off Topic~ Did y’all watch the game last night? Hate that Chicgo lost, but it was a good game.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 14th, 2012
8:56 am

I feel you on that one Black, also if you get other things to occupy your time there will be no such thing as a dating slump, there is more to life than the next piece you’re going to hit!!

Comon, it shouldn’t have surprised anyone that they lost I mean their qb is J. Cutler (LOL)

SlimUno

September 14th, 2012
9:01 am

Good morning

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:05 am

Morning!!

Who needs game when you “got it?” But really I didn’t take “game” to mean trickery or bamboozling. I took game to mean polish up, improve your “whatever it is you’re doing…or”

But I agree, when it comes to “games” and playing games, let’s leave that for the kiddies please!

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:05 am

improve your “whatever it is you’re doing…or not” Don’t know what happened to the “not” in my post

Exiled!

September 14th, 2012
9:07 am

Is Diva a serial dater…on the prowl,all the time….dating,dating and dating…wining and dining….
Looking for what?

Or a complete failure?

I’m sure everybody gotta look at themselves in the mirror at some point.

Off topic: last evening,round about 6pm I leave work heading home and I’m looking for a barbershop…in a new neighborhood. So I find one in a Latino shopping complex…past my complex…as I drive back to my diggs,still looking and thinking,there gotta be a barber shop in this strip I passed,I don’t have to drive thar far…I see a neon sign that reads,’Good Head’

It really caught my eye! :lol: ‘Good Head?’ I’m musing…surely there can’t be a brothel in these good parts that can’t be true….so what do meeelo do….I say let me go check it out! :lol:

So I swing my truck that way in that strip mall and drive closer by the shop….

Yeah surely it reads ‘Good Head’ and more….there is a picture on the side window of a Maryline Manrow looking leggy white chic,sitting on a chair,amorously posing,her long bare Leggs stretched out! ‘Good Head ha’ I’m thinking…. So what is this shop?

As I scan the lettering verbiage on the window panes on the other side that’s when I notice the other signage….

Yeah,it’s a Barber shop!

:lol: So I drove away,taking note…for the next appointment.

:lol:

SlimUno

September 14th, 2012
9:29 am

Only Meeeeelo, only you bro :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
9:32 am

Comon Chicago didn’t look good at all, they gave up 7 sacks. WTH

Single exactly so much more in life than trying to hit all the women in America.

Hey Cely I thought the same to sharpening of skills, when the word game is used it takes on a different conotation.

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:41 am

Blackfoote – Yes, we are thinking along the same lines this morning :)

Meello – What are we going to do with you? Huh? Humor me because I’m curious. What if it had been the type of establishment you suspected? What would have done with that?

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:43 am

Nookie is a man’s kryptonite (had MMeello turning his truck around)…lol

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
9:47 am

BF~ Green Bay gave up almost as many. IJS…

SlimUno

September 14th, 2012
9:48 am

O/T: How can you help or console a friend who says they just aren’t happy with their life?? However, when you throw out questions to see the things they feel need to change, what they would want to be different or may help them to be happy they don’t have a clue. :???:

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
9:48 am

C~ Had it been the type of establishment he expected, you already know what he would have done. :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
9:48 am

LOL………@Cely that’s how a woman brings us to our knees.

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
9:50 am

SlimUno~ Chalk that up to a lost cause. I kid, I kid.

I think that when someone is at a point that they are unhappy they first need to pin point what part of their life is causing them to be unhappy before they can think of a way to try and fix it. Generally, when you are unhappy with your life, it is not your WHOLE life that you are unhappy with; that grey cloud over one area just makes it seem that way.

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:52 am

CC/Blackfoote – Honestly, I don’t think he would have done a thing. Ran maybe…lol But uh uh, MMeello is more bark than bite (blog love you Mmeello). IJS

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:53 am

Bluzy – I didn’t see your alter ego name until late. I wasn’t leaving you off on purpose…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
9:54 am

Comon the Pack didn’t look that good either, San Fran and the dirty birds will be the teams to beat this year.

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
9:56 am

Maybe the sign was an advertising ploy to work exactly the way it did. Got MMeello to turn around, come back and take a look…lol

I’m just making convo :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
9:56 am

To beat In the NFC.

SlimUno

September 14th, 2012
9:58 am

CC – That was my same thought because the answer I got was, “Life in general”. I’m sitting there looking peturbed because from the outside looking in, it does not appear that their life is bad. Maybe they are at a point to where they feel they are just going through the motions of life without a purpose but to say life in general baffles me. This person has a pretty decent job, own house, no kids, never been married, doesn’t struggle with any addictions so i’m having hard time coming up with a starting point. I know that material things don’t bring eternal joy but damn, give me something to work with.

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:00 am

We’re going to start penalizing and sending folks to the corner for starting off with sports convos…lol And if you’re a woman (ahem Comon) and start it off, you’re getting double the demerits (Celisea’s arms folded and patting her feet).

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:01 am

I should say patting my foot. Hard patting both feet at the same time

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
10:06 am

LOL…….@Cely I already live there.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 14th, 2012
10:07 am

Slim is the person ever happy with their life, because there are some who are only happy until the newness wears off.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
10:07 am

In the corner under the bridge.

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
10:07 am

Sorry, C. I can’t help it. I may spend a lot of time in the corner because I LOVE football season.

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:09 am

Blackfoote – You went from under the stairs to the corner? I thought we set you free some months ago? C’mon tell, what did you violate? lol

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:10 am

CC – Well, until FB season is over with, Imma ask Blackfoote to move over. He seems to stay either under the stairwell or in the corner…lol

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
10:11 am

Slim~ You are bring us back on topic (sort of) Maybe your friend is just caught in a rut. Life can definitely cebome tedious when you feel that there are no breaks in the monotony of day to day living. Yes, you have nice tings and are secure but SOMETHING is missing and you can’t put your finger on what it is. People tend to call that unhappiness, but what it really is is tedium. Perhaps our friend should pick up a new hobby or something to break the day to day grind. Volunteer with the less fortunate, become a big sister, etc. All of things help to shake up the day to day and help you to appreciate more the situation that you have.

Comon Cents

September 14th, 2012
10:12 am

BF~ So, since it seems we gonna be cozy in the corner, whatcha drinking? :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 14th, 2012
10:14 am

Comon I’m beginning to think we need to put you on a 12 step program, but I guess it’s always 5pm somewhere (LOL)

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:15 am

Anybody got BIG plans for the weekend?

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:16 am

Outside of mentioning attending some game…lololol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
10:19 am

Cely no violations in the past few years been watching my steps. I like under the stairwell gives me piece of mind while I finish doing my mission work. J/K

DuShawn

September 14th, 2012
10:22 am

Speaking of head….Several years ago, me and some bruz took a road trip to Kentucky. We were at a house party and I asked this girl what school she attended. She said Morehead. My response was …..”I ‘m good right now….but check with me later!” She didn’t see the humor in that.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
10:23 am

Comon come on down/over that is, I got stock piles of everything ready for you to mix.

Celisea

September 14th, 2012
10:25 am

Blackfoote – How about you shuck the basement/under the stairwell altogether and take it at least to ground level? I’m sure you can find peace of mind anyplace other than the basement or under the stairs…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
10:25 am

Don’t worry I won’t bite.

disco

September 14th, 2012
10:30 am

good morning. I haven’t read posts yet but I like the whole idea of upping one’s game if for no other reason than I say that all the time. bring your game, step your game up, get your game on. game recognize game. lol.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 14th, 2012
10:31 am

Cely at one time I was in the penthouse, then inflation hit and I had to move everything to the stairwell…….LOL