Dating: Reminisce!
Have you ever heard a song and was immediately reminded of an old flame? There are even times when I smell a certain cologne and the image of my ex pops in my head, and I smile. Reminiscing can be a really fun trip down memory lane.
Isn’t it fascinating how sounds, smells, or places can remind us of how we felt the first time we experienced them? I am a sentimental gal, so I have held on to a few mementos of former flames. When I want to think of the good memories, I pull out old photos or seek out reminders of happier times.
What are your best memories with someone you dated? What kind of things trigger particular memories of an old love?
Do you still have items from your past relationships that hold good memories for you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 13th, 2012
1:13 pm
C you are a hot mess! lol
MsAtl
September 13th, 2012
1:13 pm
Lol colt. Since I am at work, I sporadically come back to the page throughout the day; gotta get work done. I agree with your remark about perceptions because when I first found out, my initial thought was you really can’t love someone to bring them in front of friends & family for a wedding ceremony while you are cheating and then to take that person out of town on your anniversary? However, I had to balance that with what I knew about him and his thought process. I have come to realize that his behavior is a reflection on him; not me but it took a minute to get over the embarrassment of the farce he put me through in front of my family as well as the public nature of his affair (via FB, Twitter, and two doggone reporters called me on my job about it).
Off topic- I am dying over here about the alter egos because I joke about having to let “Aquanetta” out the box. Nice to know I am not alone…
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 13th, 2012
1:23 pm
Via The Wendy Williams Show
Fantasia’s ex, Antwaun Cook, admitted in court the he had an affair with Fantasia while still married. Antwaun’s wife can now sue Fantasia for “Alienation of Affection,” which is a North Carolina law, if she wants to.
Do you think spouses should be able to sue the person their husband or wife had an affair with?
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 13th, 2012
1:24 pm
Fantasia has not released a statement on the report
Ain’t isht to release. She should’ve left dude alone when she was pregna the FIRST time and tried to kill herself but nooo she couldn’t get enough of his funky stuff. Now that she has a son with him, he’s still with someone ELSE…I wonder how she feels…
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 13th, 2012
1:28 pm
Do you think spouses should be able to sue the person their husband or wife had an affair with?
I think the spouse should be sued b/c Cook knew he was married. If a person knowingly and willingly participated in a relationship with a married person they should be sued,too. There are situations where one may not know the person they’re dating is married(yes it can happen) and I believe they shouldn’t be sued.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:31 pm
Lady, no she shouldn’t the other person owes you nothing, it’s the spouse who owes you everything, they are the one who made the promises and told the lies.
Comon, I hate to be nosy, but how many times you been married?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:33 pm
Sassy the term for suing the spouse is good divorce lawyer (LOL)
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 13th, 2012
1:33 pm
I concur you two~
Fanny is topping the news today~
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:38 pm
I don’t keep up with celebs and they life, but is Antwaun Cook a celeb?
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 13th, 2012
1:39 pm
H——NO!!!! lol
Fanny is but she can’t wipe NC roots off her! lol
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
1:40 pm
C~ Even though there is the chance of crap, the reward if there is not far outweighs heartbreak if there is.
S/H~ I have been married 3 times. Once to my son’s father once to my daughter’s legal father and I am now married to the man I should have married the first time. (And you don’t hate to be nosy… IJS)
Sassy~ Count me in on the baby shower. I would love to meet you all in person.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:40 pm
so that’s why she want’s to sue fanny, does dude have any money.
Maybe I need to move to NC
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
1:40 pm
Sidebar~ I hate the mail carrier for our building!!!!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:41 pm
Comon, I was just wondering why the good women on here can’t find a good man, you done took them all (LOL)
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 13th, 2012
1:43 pm
& the plot thickens~
Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)
September 13th, 2012
1:44 pm
Count me in on the baby shower. I would love to meet you all in person.
Cool beans..as I’ve said I’d like participation from ladies AND gents…I don’t want Swiss to be the only man in the room
I’ll bring this topic up again on Monday when I think we’ll have more of an audience…
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
1:44 pm
Just getting back to my desk and getting caught up…
My alter-ego is Shelly. No one wants to see Shelly. I have my co-workers cracking up when I’m in a bad mood and I say that Shelly came in instead. They know to leave me alone! My ex used to tell me that he’s not talking to Shelly anymore…
Anyway…as far as suing the other woman/man…I don’t know about that. It’s your spouse who should be held accountable. She just wants to sue Fantasia because she has money. Yes…it is wrong to knowingly get involved with a married person, but I don’t think it’s right to be sued for it. Just be prepared to get a good a$$ whoopin!
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
1:45 pm
My thing is this, the guys always seem to walk away scott free after they are the ones that caused the drama to begin with. Like I told mine, if I ever caught him fishing in other seas, it would not be the girl who needed to watch out. She has no committment to me. He is the one that made a committment to me and she can only do as much as he lets her.
Brangelina was the same way. Everyone hated on Angie, but Brad was FULL well aware that he was otherwise committed.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:48 pm
Bluz, the only person that should be getting the whoppin is the spouse, unless there are extenuating circumstances IE: they get caught in your house, they were your close friend or relative and was all up in yo face.
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
1:52 pm
S/H~ That damn sure ain’t the truth. The first was a philanderer, the second was just an a$$hole. So, no, I have not taken all the good men. Only one. And, if I am honest, he’s been mine for a long time, it just took me some living to get that through my thick skull.
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
1:53 pm
I had a situation with the ex where he was talking a little provocatively (sp?) to a mutual friend. She knew us as a couple. Now…I held them both accountable. I sent her an email blasting her for saying the things that she said and asking her why she would go there with someone else’s man when she has a man of her own? She wrote back a long apology and admitted that she felt terrible and blocked us both on Facebook. Anytime we ran into her, she would stay on the other side of the room. She knew she did wrong and she owned up to it. The ex, on the other hand, got a lot of screaming and cussing. It took me a long time to get over that one. He wondered why I wanted to check his emails and his Facebook account…it was because the one time I had access, I found messages…
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
1:54 pm
The only reason I didn’t whoop her is because she owned up to what she did wrong…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:55 pm
comon, you will probably slap me for this if we ever meet, but probably like with all relationships they don’t become bad until it’s almost over before then they are all good people.
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
1:56 pm
See! My point is made. You blasted her and had no further contact, but you yelled and screamed at him and then stayed. WTF?!? Even if she knew you as a couple, she wasn’t in a relationship with you; he was.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:56 pm
Bluz and you stayed with him Duh!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
1:57 pm
Dang comon, great minds think alike (LOL)
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
1:58 pm
Yes…I stayed in the relationship when I shouldn’t have. I guess I justified it because nothing physical had happened…it was just sharing fantasies through messages. Trust me…I look back now and wish I had quit him a year before I did! Would have saved me a of troubles…BUT…I learned a lot of lessons
DuShawn
September 13th, 2012
2:01 pm
Comon –“If you and the sweetheart have such a “unique history” how did she not end up being Mrs. DuShawn?”
A lot was timing (different Universities, lived in different cities, when she came home I had moved away and vice versa, then marriages and children). Additionally, she did have a few personality traits that bothered me.
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
2:02 pm
S/H~ I will slap you on GP if we ever meet. However, with the first husband, he was 10 years older than me and I was very young. I didn’t see him for who he was until AFTER we were married. With the second husband, he was an a$$hole before we were married but as I said in an earlier post, I was on the rebound from the 4 year relationship with the now husband and I thought I could change him. It’s kind of like when someone says “He’s anice guy once you get to know him” Translation= He’s an a$$hole but you’ll get used to it.
No shame in my game, with the 2nd husband, I went down some rabbit holes and sewer lines that I never thought I would go down. I ended up going to counseling towards the end of the marriage to help myself understand why I did/put up with some of the things I did.
The 3rd hubby is not perfect BUT he is perfect for me. Infidelity is not a fear. Where I lack, he makes up. We are a good fit. But we both had some changes that had to be made before we could be together long term.
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
2:04 pm
DuShawn~ But not enough to stop you from repeatedly tapping that azz. I think that if you move forward with a “friendship” with this woman, you are buying trouble. JMO.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
2:07 pm
Comon, if he’s perfect for you, then he’s perfect! since your opinion is the only one that really counts there.
Willie Dynamite
September 13th, 2012
2:08 pm
Afternoon All,
Long nights, short days. Ric Flair wooo
Anything good popping off in here?
Exiled!
September 13th, 2012
2:09 pm
Just for a second Cel..I’m here..
Okay random,I’ve always to ask this question to Bluz:
Here go..since u are on some dude Trojan narcotic..,
Have u ever had black wood?
Do u like black wood?
(ima be gone but Swiss can ask on
My behalf additional set of questions)
Ltr!
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
2:09 pm
Comon, you know us guys don’t stop thinking with the little head until the little head doesn’t work anymore, and since we have viagra now, we never stop thinking with it.
Exiled!
September 13th, 2012
2:09 pm
Wanted
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
2:10 pm
S/H~ It helps that he feels the same. He never married. He told his friends and family when we were young that if he ever married, it would be to me. (Awww… Yeah, I had that moment)
Our biggest diagreement is kids. He wants some and I am done. (Fixed like a stray cat, y’all) and at almost 40, the thought of trying to do IVF or have it reversed is just untenable to me.
Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"
September 13th, 2012
2:10 pm
MsAtl-”However, I had to balance that with what I knew about him and his thought process. I have come to realize that his behavior is a reflection on him;”
Who is that that say, worth repeating…lol
Fellas, forgive me, bout to give a lil bit of the store away, but they know this anyway…cheating is never about her…the she pushed me away, blah, blah,blah is just some something we say to try to smooth it out.
Alter Egos-I knew ya’ll had split personalities
And NC needs to get rid of that backwardazzed law
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
2:12 pm
WD – I love me some Ric Flair! Wooooooooo
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
2:12 pm
Comon, that sounds like me and my girl, she want’s kids, and I’ve told her that should would have to get with someone else to have them, cause I’ve been clipped, and there was a reason I got clipped.
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
2:15 pm
Ex – I have never been with a black man, but I’m not at all opposed to it. Just haven’t met one yet where we were a match.
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
2:16 pm
Bluz, from what you’ve posted, what’s a match for you??
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
2:16 pm
S/H~ How long have you been together? And do you already have children? In our case, it is more of an age thing. I would love to have his baby if I was about 5-10 years younger. In our case, I feel like he waited for me and we waited too long. We have talked about adoption but he really wants to “make” a baby.
Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)
September 13th, 2012
2:17 pm
lol Ex~
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
2:17 pm
Honestly S/H – I don’t even know anymore what a match for me is…I just want to be with a good, nice guy who has his isht together…
Comon Cents
September 13th, 2012
2:18 pm
Ex~ You got me hollering with that one! How you gonna fix your mouth to ask that?
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
2:18 pm
Comon 3 years, I have 2 grown sons, and 5 grands. adoption isn’t an option for me, I don’t want anymore kids.
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
2:19 pm
By the way…Mags is going out with me tonight to the blues jam…Why am I nervous? I think it’s because it will be the first time we’ve seen each other since “that night” and I’m afraid it will be awkward. I think we’ll both act like nothing ever happened and just keep it moving…
Single and Happier "Life Happens!"
September 13th, 2012
2:19 pm
yea ex, how you going to fix your mouth to ask what we were thinking (LOL)
Bluz if that’s what you want now, just what did you want before?
Bluzgirl
September 13th, 2012
2:21 pm
Well…I’ve always wanted that…just seems like I’m drawn to men who are not that. I’m trying to figure out what it is about me that is drawn to them and why I attract them…
Willie Dynamite
September 13th, 2012
2:23 pm
Dang what does that say about brothers? This chick been with Clowns, alcoholics, schizophrenics and homeless dudes but no brothers. J/k j/k