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Dating: Reminisce!

Have you ever heard a song and was immediately reminded of an old flame? There are even times when I smell a certain cologne and the image of my ex pops in my head, and I smile. Reminiscing can be a really fun trip down memory lane.

Isn’t it fascinating how sounds, smells, or places can remind us of how we felt the first time we experienced them? I am a sentimental gal, so I have held on to a few mementos of former flames. When I want to think of the good memories, I pull out old photos or seek out reminders of happier times.

What are your best memories with someone you dated? What kind of things trigger particular memories of an old love?

Do you still have items from your past relationships that hold good memories for you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

369 comments Add your comment

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:31 am

but this one is so good he doesn’t want to share it

I’m mums the word. Don’t want to offend anyone. I’ve tossed out my thoughts and I’m stepping away.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:33 am

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:36 am

Jake are you an Omega?!? #curious

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 13th, 2012
10:43 am

Lady…I’m gonna answer you, but what brings on this curiousity?

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:45 am

reading in between the lines on surface it seems to be no judging bc i roll with them lol but my current boo is an Alpha #random lol

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 13th, 2012
10:54 am

No I’m not, but I am one of those naturally astute every man men….have been mistaken for a bruh of various organizations, been offered the Masonic handshake on many occassions, but I do have Fraternal ties though.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:56 am

My FB status this AM is “Don’t look back, You are NOT going that way” #fitting

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:56 am

Got you Jake! Thanks sir~

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:58 am

C, how would sweet lil ol you ever offend anyone (LOL)

MsAtl

September 13th, 2012
11:02 am

Yes, I will hear a song or see a car that will bring my ex to mind, but it is not thoughts of longing and I quickly banish those thoughts from my mind. Particularly songs will bring him to mind because we had just remarried in 2009 and had several songs on our wedding playlist. I subsequently found out that he took his mistress(that he was seeing at the time we remarried) out of town a year later on our 26th anniversary, but I digress. I passed on our wedding album to our oldest child and also set aside some family photos for our 2 sons. I didn’t want to deprive them of their memories and photos as we were together for 29 years and that was all the kids knew. I do have photos from our wedding cruise with only me in them that I am reluctant to toss because I look so good in them, lol. Other than that, I kept the gifts; don’t need anything else.

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:02 am

Single – Is there a “hint” of sarcasm in your statement? Mmmm hmmm. Don’t judge me…lol That’s easy to do through a screen :mrgreen: I am a sweet “lil ole me”

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
11:08 am

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 13th, 2012
11:08 am

MsATL…I want to ask a question, no pressure to answer, its kinda personal…but here goes..

Do you believe that your husband did not Love you when he acquired a mistress, or, did he just decide to cheat?

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:10 am

I will say, 29 years is a long time to be married and have to walk away.

Albert

September 13th, 2012
11:12 am

I still have photos of an old girlfriend. I wouldn’t think of getting rid of them.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:12 am

Interesting Jake?!? 0_o I wanna know that too

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:15 am

I passed on our wedding album to our oldest child and also set aside some family photos for our 2 sons. I didn’t want to deprive them of their memories and photos as we were together for 29 years

This is what I was saying earlier. If it was too painful to keep or I just didn’t feel it, for even holding on to pics, I would probably pass on too, for someone else in the family to hold as a keepsake. There’s something to be said for those pics serving as a means with gatherings or family reunions or history. Having on hand to show generations to come, how the family tree was built, might be a way for those old keepsakes (pics I mean), to serve in a good way.

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 13th, 2012
11:17 am

Do you still have items from your past relationships that hold good memories for you?

No…when the relationship is over I discard the items. It’s part of how I let go of the relationship and actually my breakups have been bad so I really don’t want to keep any physical reminders…the memories are enough.

That being said, there are a few songs that I hear that’ll remind me of happier times…or steamier times ;-) :oops:

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:21 am

So for the two items I have, would y’all get rid of them? I’ll just say one is a ring.

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 13th, 2012
11:22 am

Is the ring sentimental to you?…do you want it? Have you had it appraised?…how much is it worth?

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
11:25 am

Dushawn~ If I am reading between the lines, it seems that the reason you don’t want to introduce the wifey is not that you have a fear of being caught inflagrante, but that you are worried you may catch feelings for the ex and she might be the next ex-Mrs. Dushawn. Or someting along those lines. Here would be a better question, what is it about the ex that keeps you going back (besides the obvious of fire puddy) Is there more than that?

Lady~ Both my dad and my brother are Ques. The current hubby is Phi Beta Sigma. #randomtoo

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
11:26 am

Sassy~ You’re right there with me on the music thing. So, how does one “get rid of” those memories? :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
11:27 am

C Sell Sell Sell, I have one of those to come to think of it :-D
Also I can see passing on pictures to the kids, but not to hold, they are yours never to be giving back to me.

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:27 am

I’ve never had it appraised so I don’t really know the “true” value. I don’t “want” like that….you know? Honestly, I’ve never given much thought around it. Since he didn’t ask for it back, since that time, I just put it away. I’ve never told another dude I’m dating or have dated about it so, it’s never sparked convo. I’m sure though if I disclose, there would be some type of in-depth discussion.

All good questions though.

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:29 am

Single – You have a ring? You was almost booed up and took it back? Did you ask for it back or did the return just sort of happen?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
11:29 am

comon, what more of a reason do you need (LOL) I have an ex that I hooked up with recently that has that fire, I still wouldn’t date her for the same reason as 27 years ago, but it’s still good :-D

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:30 am

And I’m being very honest, I have NEVER thought to sell it. Thanks Single, maybe I’ll give it some thought now…lololol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:31 am

cool CC~

on the ring thing I lost mine on purpose long time ago…..lol #movingon

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
11:32 am

C, it’s a ring that someone gave me, it’s not exactly put away, but it’s somewhere that I don’t look at it often either.

And yes I’ve done the one knee thing twice and had to take the ring back the next day one was her decision, and one was mine (who happens to be the same ex with the fire) ! :-(

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:33 am

Lady – You didn’t “drop” it somewhere on purpose and then did an “oopsy” did you? lolololol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:33 am

i lost my class ring too and really want another one and my sgrho charm bracelet…..just got a nice watch recently trying to step my grown woman jewelry game up lol

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
11:34 am

On the ring thing, I gave mine to my mother to hold formy son in case he ever wanted them (I have my ex husband’s from the first marriage) I would supposed that she still has them, although that was 14 years ago. Never asked, don’t care. The second marriage, I just wanted him gone. Couldn’t wait to get the ring off and I sold it on Ebay.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:34 am

C and you know it~ it was over and I didn’t want the ring at all….lol I value my pictures more in a box in my garage go figure~

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:34 am

Single – Gotcha

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
11:35 am

Lady~ You’re a sgrho? I have some good friends from back in the day that are your sorors. I am DST for life.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:35 am

birthstone ring too in a marquis set~

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:36 am

Lady – I hear ya…lol

Whew buddy, memories!

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:37 am

yup~ good deal CC! ;)

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:41 am

Well, I can say this, I ain’t going back in the fire no matter how good the memories. Fire burns…lololol Can’t say I haven’t done it, cause not only does fire burn but fire is hot, but nuh uh.

Back around the topic, reminisce and then regroup! Don’t get hung up on the “good times.” Keep walking, just keeeep walking…forward :mrgreen:

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:44 am

And if looking at or handling stuff from past relationships still make you all tingly and feel butterflies, you might wanna go ahead and either give ole girl or buddy a call or get rid of it. That stuff shouldn’t still have an effect on you.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:44 am

all day C~ all day long! so what is the next topic?!? hahaha lol its a NFL Thursday!!!! wings and beer! yay!

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:45 am

Lady! NO SPORTS….yet…lol

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
11:47 am

Yay Football Thursday! Who you pulling for tonight, Lady?

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:48 am

C the NFL is on and poppin’ pull up your lawn chair and lets get it going talking smack~

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
11:49 am

Lady – If I’m sitting in the Dome, it’s all goooooood! I can get into it then.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:51 am

The Bears!!!!! Green Bay irks me lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
11:52 am

lolololol C~

DuShawn

September 13th, 2012
11:55 am

Comon – I’m relunctant to make the intro because It would be uncomfortable for everyone involved. To your other point, Nobody is replacing wifey, it’s just me and the sweetheart share a unique history.

MsAtl

September 13th, 2012
12:01 pm

Colt- I don’t think he did not love me; I honestly think he did in his own way, but not in the way I needed to be loved. That was not his first time on the merry-go-round with respect to cheating. He thought his professional status entitled him to whatever or whomever he wanted. Not to mention, I am convinced that there was some sociopathy going on also. He actually told me that his mistress could raise their child on her own. He wanted to be married to me but still have his various side pieces. I don’t share certain things and do not like any other women playing in my sand box, lol. Therefore, I chose to walk. Celisea, yes, 29 years is a long time; I had been with him since the age of 15, but I knew my worth and it was high time I acted like it rather than just going along with things. It wasn’t too painful to keep the wedding album. I let it go because to me, it was a lie. For us to get re-married in front of that many family members when all the while he was sleeping with someone (they have since had 2 kids in the past year and I suspect she was pregnant with one when we remarried, which would make 3 in 3 years), I would rather you just take your leave and save me the embarrassment and the money (does Carnival give refunds?) rather than put me and the kids through that. That said, I walked and have had no regrets. I am at peace with my decision and am happier for it.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
12:04 pm

I honestly think he did in his own way, but not in the way I needed to be loved <<<<<<<<Over time I finally got this concept with my ex hubby……now that brought back memories lol good post MsAtl~