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Dating: Reminisce!

Have you ever heard a song and was immediately reminded of an old flame? There are even times when I smell a certain cologne and the image of my ex pops in my head, and I smile. Reminiscing can be a really fun trip down memory lane.

Isn’t it fascinating how sounds, smells, or places can remind us of how we felt the first time we experienced them? I am a sentimental gal, so I have held on to a few mementos of former flames. When I want to think of the good memories, I pull out old photos or seek out reminders of happier times.

What are your best memories with someone you dated? What kind of things trigger particular memories of an old love?

Do you still have items from your past relationships that hold good memories for you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

369 comments Add your comment

Exiled!

September 13th, 2012
7:20 am

First!!!(waving at Lily…he he he,she caught in traffic! :lol: )

I do reminisce sometimes…

My ex flame M..the way she used to moan…

Chic was loud!

Morning MIA

…hope Cee’s draws are on point today! :lol:

SchizoFunkenstein

September 13th, 2012
7:24 am

What’s love got to do with anything? I can’t remember what I last ate. How can I remember my last conquest? Why would an insignificant other be relevant?

Exiled!

September 13th, 2012
7:26 am

easy Lily,easy…don’t bang the steering wheel in angst…u be here in time…

But I gotta take today’s title…runaway easy winner really..

Just sticking the winner’s knife in..and twisting it for winner’s delights!

Lily! :lol:

Exiled!

September 13th, 2012
7:28 am

Schizo?

U just fuc prostitutes?

Lily

September 13th, 2012
7:36 am

I only hold memories in my heart, at best. My new love wouldn’t be pleased with memorabilia from an old flame. Out with the old, in with the new.

@Exiled: morning to you!

SchizoFunkenstein

September 13th, 2012
7:54 am

No slumming. Just need to see the back of the head. LOL

Bluzgirl

September 13th, 2012
8:56 am

Music gets me the most. Certain songs make me think of certain people. I do have an old memory box of my first love, my ex fiance. We went to prom together and he wrote me love letters. Every once in a while, I like to look through it and I smile.

Now, the recent ex…I threw away every single reminder of him…deleted every picture and video of him. I want nothing to remind me of him.

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
9:05 am

Good Morning! Bluz, I will cosign with you. Ususally it is the music that takes me back. Certain songs or certain things that were done to those songs… :oops:

Also cosign on the recent ex thing. My last husband? Couldn’t wait to get all of his isht out of my house. Packed it all in a box and left it in the garage for him. :lol: The current hubs used to write me love letters and poetry when we dated the first time and I had kept it all until 2008 when it was lost in a house fire.

Bluzgirl

September 13th, 2012
9:12 am

I’m about to go into a meeting that I’m dreading. Hope it will be over by 1:00…my ADD doesn’t like long meetings! At least I’ll get free lunch!

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
9:31 am

Morning and oh my 0_o lol……..hmmmmm with the topic………..its really here nor there, they are an old flame for a reason….it didn’t work regardless of the memories~ ;)

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
9:40 am

Morning,

Yes, I’ve heard a tune that took me back to that special place in time. Once the song ended, so did the reminiscing…lol I only have two items from over the years, not thrown away. At one time, I can admit it was about the other person. Now? Not so much. I can’t bring myself to throw out something that’s got monetary value as well. And as I’ve said before on here, both are tucked away and unless I’m cleaning or something or need to go to that spot where they’re stored, I don’t even think about those items nor the men that gave to me.

Mmeello – Yes, my drawers are comfy and on point today…lolol :mrgreen:

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
9:43 am

C I have a box in my garage with my former wedding album and other family pictures that are neither here or there….lol my boo saw a few in passing in my garage and chuckle @ them……..really its the past. lol he said I was a pretty bride and that was the extent of that……..those were pricey pics……but like you said beyond one or two things I didn’t hold on to much and luckily we didn’t have much property together………

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 13th, 2012
9:44 am

No Momento’s….but there are definitely reminders, see a vehicle of the same make/model, music, etc…

Hey Lady….don’t necessarily buy into the “they are your ex for a reason” notion, some relationships don’t work due to stage/space in life. Some just flame out, but value is to be had in each hopefully…if you loved them, there was something special about them…the failed relationship doesn’t make them less than what they were….its the ebb and flow of life, high and low tides of love…the nature of being alive…

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
9:46 am

Lady – And that’s what moving on does. I wouldn’t toss out wedding pics either, no matter which marriage…lol Good he can look at them, chuckle and move it right along. I think there’s something to be said for someone with a shrine to old loves. I would have a probalby with a dude holding on to a bunch of stuff from past loves.

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
9:48 am

I guess Monica was into the reminescing business. She not only kept the dress, she kept the spunk that went on it. That’s a little too much. :lol: Ewwww…..

C~ What’s with your panties?

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
9:50 am

I was uncomfy yesterday….Mmeello must have gone back to read yesterday’s posts…lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
9:54 am

Good point Jake but for my past loves I can point to reasons and I still stand by for me they didn’t work for specific reason but I see your point nonetheless~

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
9:56 am

lol! Those are always bad days indeed. I really hate when I buy a pair thinking that they are going to be WONDEFUL and they turn out to be uncomfy. :(

DuShawn

September 13th, 2012
10:00 am

My childhood sweetheart recently moved to Atlanta. We had sex when we were 13 thru 18, then reconnected at 25, then we hooked up a few more times when I was in my early thirties. I had not seen nor spoken to her for over a decade. We had a phone conversation the other night that lasted an hour. The energy was like we were kids again. We met for lunch a few days ago. She’s divorced now, but I’m married. I value and miss her friendship. We have both agreed to behave ourselves and respect my situation. I’m struggling with the decision if I should introduce her to wifey or not. What are your thoughts?

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:02 am

DuShawn still rolling with a trio…lol

Nope, don’t do it. Of course that’s just me.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:04 am

long time DuShawn~ hmmmmm stay focused! ;)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:04 am

Reminiscing now :-D

Comon, remember it was Tripp who convinced her to keep that dress, and Monica did seem like a little airhead.

C, there are somethings that you keep, but wedding pictures, they got to go somewhere, I don’t care where, but they got to get out of here (LOL)

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:08 am

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:08 am

Dushawn first if you had to agree to respect your situation, Need to let it go. If you’re struggling with the decision, you NEED TO LET IT GO!

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:09 am

Single and Happy – Awwww, don’t be like that. You said you’ve never been married so how do you know how you’ll feel if ever one day you marry, divorce and decide the photos are keepsakes. You’re just saying that now. You just never know.

Hey, was that you one The X Factor last night? I don’t know why (cause I don’t know you),but I thought of you. There was a dude on there 50 years old singing Candy Girl, or something like that.

He was saaaalty when they gave him a resounding NO…lol He told all of them to kick rocks. He didn’t display very good sportsmanship…lol

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:10 am

I want to know what’s the “situation?” Being married?

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 13th, 2012
10:10 am

DuShawn….Uh,Uh,Uh

Its obvious that the thought of tapping it is has occurred……Can’t help you there

I would prolly not make the introduction, it isn’t needed, is it?

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:12 am

C LMBAO! maybe~ lol

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:12 am

Off topic:

I watched Revenge last night for the first time. It was pretty good.

Too, I waited too long to eat something solid. I had a migraine to onset and was nauseated as a mug. I had to hurry and eat and get meds to slow that thing down.

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:13 am

Lady – Hmmmmm….lol

Comon Cents

September 13th, 2012
10:13 am

DuShawn~ If you had to discuss whether or not to behave and you still “miss” ol girl, you should not be having any sort of friendship with her. And if wifey knew the details, she definitely would not be cool with you having the relationship. And if you can’t tell your wife about the relationsip, you are setting yourself up for arguments and heartache down the road.

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:13 am

Okay, I have vowed, gonna diligently work today.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:14 am

C, no I’ve never been married, but but I have been deeply in love, and there are no pictures around of the ones I was in love with. So I know I would have no reason to keep pics around of my wedding.

If that had been me, the competition would have been over :-D (LOL)

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:16 am

C, calling being married a situation just doesn’t sound right huh (LOL)

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:18 am

Single and Happy – I have been deeply in love too. Once it’s over, it’s over. I still wouldn’t toss out anything of value though that resulted from that relationship. Pics of y’all in the photo booth or riding the scream machine (AT SIX FLAGS!), on a beach, not so much. Expensive wedding photos, not tossing. If I just can’t bear to have them around, I would at least give to a close endeared relative (i.e. mom or sibs). Just because they’re gone, IMO the split shouldn’t deplete the value of the item(s). But that’s just lil ole sentimental me…lol

Competition would have been over? Yeah, okay…lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:19 am

C I have caught up and have a few minutes…..finally! lol plus good a good review for my work…..it made me smile! I like working under pressure…..lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:20 am

meant “got a”

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:20 am

Single – Well, DuShawn has posted in the past many many delectable stories and being married was never an issue for 3somes or that “extra” fun gal pal. So, when he mentions “situation”, that seems to be maybe something more than just being married. Cause being married with the extra seemed to be the norm.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 13th, 2012
10:23 am

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:23 am

Lady – That’s fantab! I got a sparkling midyear review as well. Good for you in catching up and having a bit of time to spare :) Diligence always pays off. I don’t have anything pressing but I have stuff to do. I decided today is the day I’m gonna dig in and get stuff done….lol I mean I’m working, but I need to concentrate on my stuff more so.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:24 am

C, I would keep pictures of the scream machine because they would be in a album with other pics that were long forgotten. Wedding pics on the other hand are in a dedicated place just for them, that’s why they would go to a dedicated place :-D And I may have payed alot for them but they would hold no value.

yea the competition would have been over, the judges would have been deaf after hearing me sing (lmao)

DuShawn

September 13th, 2012
10:24 am

Comon / Jake – I know all of that. To make the temptation worst, she lives 10 mins from my office. Those could be some fiya lunch breaks or after work happy endings…I meant hours.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:25 am

C, then I retract my statement, maybe he should introduce her to the ex (LOL)

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:26 am

Single – Gotcha. I guess it just depends on where each individual places value. Understood.

Oooooooooooh, I thought you meant it would have been a shut out with your bad (as in good) pipes….lol Well, at least you know. Buddy didn’t have a clue….lol

Exiled!

September 13th, 2012
10:27 am

The good husband in you says introduce her…Dushawn I know that’s tha hardest part about this!!

Follow ur gutt bad boy! Lol

If ur wife won’t flip it or smell ,back in the day scents,then intriduce her..that removes the urge on both u and ex to go for the jagular… :lol:

Women are more likely to take the higher road usually for not wanting to mess another woman’s life once they know her personally..

That’s my sense seeing she was married to…hope she divorced not outa cheating her husband.

But I do know better tho..a Jeffers will always be a Jeffers regardless :lol:

Cel.. Yea I read after hours… That’s my life now. Lol

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:28 am

Single – Looks like that’s teetering. Most times, if you ask, you already know….lol

Exiled!

September 13th, 2012
10:30 am

A heffer! Dammn typo

Celisea

September 13th, 2012
10:30 am

MMeello – What’s crackalackin? Did you steal away today?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 13th, 2012
10:30 am

Teetering, looks like he’s sliding down the slippery slope, but this one is so good he doesn’t want to share it

Jake-Colt 45 "It Works Every Time"

September 13th, 2012
10:30 am

Well Dushawn, you already know, if you do decide to have a slice, “stay within your time window”….nothing gets you jammed like being, “unrepresented for”