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At home dinner dates?

My friend Jeff was offended that a woman he asked over to his house for a first date declined his offer. She has known him for months but they only started dating a couple of weeks ago. She told him she was not comfortable having a date at his house.

I can understand why she feels that way. When you invite someone over to your house, it sets things up for a certain level of intimacy. For a lot of women, we have to work up to that point. Not everyone is itching to going all domestic and nestling during those house dates.

Jeff thinks she just wants him to spend money on her and take her out. I’m sure that’s possible, but I would argue that this lady just knows what she wants and is fine with waiting to the appropriate time to go to a man’s house. Should she be penalized for that? Cut her some slack!

What do you think? When is the right time to invite someone over to your house? When someone asks you to a “at home” date, does that mean they are in to you? Does it always mean they are going to try and make a move towards physical intimacy?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

224 comments Add your comment

Lily

September 12th, 2012
7:04 am

I don’t know calendar wise or the exact number of dates where it becomes okay, as I assume its lays to each woman’s level of comfort, but date one is certainly not the time. I’m sorry if you’re offended or assumptions run rampant.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
7:21 am

Morning, Okayhe’s known her for months, started dating a couple of weeks ago, and they are just going out on their first date?? UMMM okay. where dey do that at (LOL)

The right time is when BOTH of you feel comfortable with it.

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
7:57 am

Well just as he thinks she just wants him to spend his money on her, she could very well feel like he just wants her in his lions den in hopes to get increase the chance of getting some of her puddy. They can have a date outside of the house that does not require a lot of money to be spent. He could take the same food or whatever he was going to have for them at the house and turn it into a picnic, then a walk around the park or something….ride bikes, feed the ducks, go out for an icecream date. He is starting off out of the gate with a fighting attitude if you ask me.

Annnnnddddd Good morning gang!

Exiled!

September 12th, 2012
8:25 am

Has Jeff even kissed the chic yet,feeling her nips and tatas with his hard hand as he does so….that’s the thermometer you use to elevate the home date invite.

Jeff’s whining to Diva suggests he ain’t smooth with it. :lol:

When you play it well,and look intensely in her eyes as you extend the invitation to cook her dinner at your crib,her smile and amorous look will tell indicate to you it’s going down’ as she nods in agreement.

Tell Jeff how to play the game Diva! :lol:

Morning MIA!

Exiled!

September 12th, 2012
8:29 am

So Slim,when is your bow legged, bellied boss taking you to vacation,I
mean outta state workation? :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
8:59 am

I don’t understand why he would be so offended that she turned it down on the first date. The first date is not the time for an at home dinner date. That should be saved for when you’re comfortable with each other and possibly if you are ready to head to bed together. Once in a relationship, I see no problem with at home dates if he can cook! :-)

disco

September 12th, 2012
8:59 am

good morning.

S/H – re where they do that at. I do believe I’ve mentioned that I know folks who have kids together who have yet to go out on their first date. lol.

on topic – I’m not checking for an in-house date right out the gate. that reeks of game to me. I’m not even going to call dude cheap. just going to say he’s running game. setting the bar low. reducing her expectations from the giddy up.

LeeH1

September 12th, 2012
9:01 am

If a woman senses a control issue, it is better not to go to the man’s house on the first date, nor have a second date. If she senses the man wants the power of his own turf, then he wants her to be at a disadvantage.

On the other hand, if she senses he wants to be open and showing off his pride and home, it can be a welcoming thing. Depends upon the people and the situation.

But whatever, the woman should drive ehrself to the date, and have a way to leave on her own.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:05 am

Morning,

For me personally, I don’t think an “at home” date, the first date is appropriate. It doesn’t matter that they knew one another prior to dating. I would think placing a person in an environment not comfortable would be considered. Let’s say his intentions are innocent and let’s say her intent is not to make him dole out cash. On a first day, there some be some sort of medium or compromise. And I guess for me, a given that I’m not coming to your place. I wouldn’t think a man would be offended if I opt to pass and ask can we “meet” somewhere. I would hope not. Of course I could be wrong. Seems like this could very well be doomed before getting started.

Mmeello – You’re a riot man…seriously…lol

We have continental breakfast in the lobby every other Wednesday. The cinnamon bun tastes like it could have baked a little longer.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:07 am

Smells like game to me as well

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
9:22 am

Morning Crew!

What is good C?!?

disco

September 12th, 2012
9:24 am

ex – re your comment on elevating the home date invite. there will always be chicks that will immediately jump to the home date whether they are the invitee or the inviter. personally, I think a lot of those are the ones that are just so anxious to be with someone, up under someone, that they expedite the whole process. or to use a formerly overused blog term – they are thirsty. lol. a lot of folks do things on super speedy time tales. have folks up under their kids immediately, are bringing folks home to meet the parents immediately, are moving in with each other immediately. it takes all kinds.

btw – where y’all at? i need y’all today.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 12th, 2012
9:29 am

Jeff shouldn’t be offended he should know women don’t come to your house to date until after a couple of dates. It’s likely some women would jump at it but it depends on the lady and how she feels the relationship is headed. After a few times out together somebody is going to make the suggestion to cook for the other. To ask for the very first date to be a home date sends many signals that you don’t want and may not be true. It would be best to let her come to you when she feels it.

Good Morning:

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:39 am

Lady – What’s crackalackin! I’m good this morning. Been tweaking my sister’s resume :)

Heeeey there Blackfoote, how goes it?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:40 am

Jeff shouldn’t be offended he should know women don’t come to your house to date until after a couple of dates

When I read the intial post, my thoughts were: he knows better But, I can bet, if he pokes around long enough, he’ll find a taker.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:41 am

When I read the post intially…..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 12th, 2012
9:42 am

Hey there Cely, it goes good over here hope it’s the same for you.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:44 am

Blackfoote – I’m well this morning, thanks :)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:47 am

Y’all know how I bragged and posted the menu out here for the Orient Express? Well, I was talking to friend this weekend, a electrian who did work there about a week ago. Said they had BUGS galore….ugggggh, that the food was in buckets ON THE FLOOR and just a plain nasty mess in the kitchen!!! He was telling me because we both frequent the place. I like the Chinese cuisine and he loves the Hibachi side.

WE BOTH SWORE OFF THE PLACE FROM NOW ON….UGGGGH AND EWWWW. I have a good mind to call the Health Department.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:54 am

I have a golf tournament to attend next month (insert blank stare here) :oops: I CAN’T HIT A LICK OF GOLF.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 12th, 2012
9:56 am

“the food was in buckets ON THE FLOOR”

Cely where are they located? That’s all I need to know I don’t do Chinese much but just in case a friend tell me they are going I can give them another option.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
9:58 am

Blackfoote – Down in “booghee” Vinings….just nasty

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
10:01 am

Good Morning, all

Topic: I cosign the notion that both parties should be comfortable on the first date. I’m not sure from the information given that he was trying to lay game. However, he shouldn’t be whiny regardless because it is her right to have her antenna up for protection.

Celisea: I have sworn off so many places since the state now posts the health scores online. I used to love the pizza place near the corner of Peactree Street and 17th. Then I read a health score of 68. I haven’t been back since. I occasionally have been in the area with it being close to Mr. Heturnedmywreckintoacheck’s office being near that intersection.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

September 12th, 2012
10:02 am

Wow in Vinings unbeleivable.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:06 am

Blackfoote – Yep, my mouth was hanging open. I was there not too long ago….just ugggh

PG – The rating to his recollection was 98…lol PREPOSTEROUS!!!!! Typically, I’m looking for 95 or better…lol

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
10:06 am

Cel – my best friend is in pest control and has told me to stay away from all Chinese restaurants because they are all nasty. I can’t stay away from them all, but I do check their scores…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
10:07 am

Disco, those folks that have kids together, probably don’t call themselves dating either. (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:08 am

Bluzygirl – That was the only place I would eat Chinese. I use to do Mulans until something in my rice looked funny. Haven’t been back since.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:09 am

He said the back door was just hanging open all willy nilly. Can you just see a fly landing on the raw meat? Just a case of the “sick” waiting to happen.

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
10:11 am

Ugh Cel! You’re making me nauseaus this morning! LOL

disco

September 12th, 2012
10:11 am

PG – health scores aren’t required to be displayed in establishments there? I ask because around these parts when you walk in a restaurant, go through a drive through, the score is right there for all to see. plus, the top and bottom scores of the week are listed in the newspaper.

S/H – you know my point. some folks are screwing but not dating. lol.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:11 am

On topic: I can recall only once, a dude making mention of “home dates.” This was the young cat that I regretfully gave my number to. When he called and started talking about mostly “chilling at the crib” and watching the game, he was on block from that moment. Of course the phone I had then would allow me to block individual numbers so I would bump his calls every time he called. He got the hint eventually.

All that is, is free booty. Ain’t gotta do nothing but lay on it. Nuh uh.

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
10:13 am

Morning All,
Topic- Jeff offended, really?

Side Topic – The AJC use to post scores,dates etc for all food inspections by county. I’m sure you can research rather easily.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:13 am

My bad…lol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:13 am

Restaurants are required to have the scores visibly posted. That’s the first thing I look for.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
10:15 am

Disco, I know but I was just trying to figure out how you know someone a couple of months, have dating for couple of weeks, and never went out on a date. If they had already did the horizontal samba, coming over his house for dinner shouldn’t be a problem (LOL) IJS

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
10:16 am

Yeah, health score are required there. However, the 90+ score was posted. It was the “second” chance score. I hear that they get time to correct the violations and problems. I hear that many of the ones posted in the restaurants are the ’second” chance ones. I’ve been told that many of the online ones are up to date. If they get a second chance, they sometimes don’t change the posting until after the second chance. The second chance is usually within a week or two of the first inspection. To me, you should have a 90+ score if you know that the inspector is coming. Many times the first inspection is the one where they didn’t know they were going to be inspected. So, how long after the 90+ grade are they going back to the old ways?

Exiled!

September 12th, 2012
10:17 am

Celisea..I don’t have ur email saved on my Iphcberry..I read something u wrote yesterday after some was said yesterday and thought errbody missed ur point…u gone laugh.. :lol:

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:18 am

MMeello – You want my addy?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:19 am

I think I still have yours…one sec

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
10:19 am

Eariler this year, there was a place in the food court at Lenox that scored a 29. On chance number 2, they scored 57, and then finally on chance number 3 they scored 89. This place’s score was so bad that it was on the news.

disco

September 12th, 2012
10:20 am

S/H – now that’s true. if you are already getting it in you might as well go get your grub on too.

re nasty food topics – not that this really applies – but some years ago when my son was still small a friend visiting told me they didn’t drink things that kids made. (i.e. koolaid). at the time I thought it was funny and joked that kids make the best koolaid and the best grilled cheese sandwiches. now that I’m living a relatively kid free life I don’t want to drink anything the kids make either.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:22 am

The Waffle House dude taught me something. Ask for “hot” water when dining out. You can place your silverware in that before eating. That will sterilize.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:24 am

MMeello – Found it…mail call

Dang, I deleted one email addy completely off my phone and I still have to go through a gang of stuff. I think I’ll clean my phone tonight. How about I have a memory card (duh…didn’t realize) on my phone but I can’t figure out how to move stuff there.

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
10:40 am

Cel – on the surface using water to sterilize utensils sounds like a good idea. Be careful tho because just warm/hot water will only create a breeding ground. If you are doing that make sure the water is scalding hot as close to boiling as possible. Most restaurants are gonna give you water that hot.

For those of you squeamish about your food i recommend you take a food safety course. You will learn a lot.

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
10:44 am

Are NOT gonna give you

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:45 am

WillieD – Yep absolutely. I ask for water from the coffee dispenser. I don’t want hydrant water. That was everywhere I went on vacation…lol “Would you mind giving me a glass of hot water from your coffee dispenser?” But yeah, I agree.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:46 am

I figure that’s about as close to “boiled” water I’m going to get. I don’t think any establishment would be willing to boil water for me…lololol

disco

September 12th, 2012
10:46 am

willie d – glad I’m not one of the folks who is squeamish about food. I’m not generally the one that will say such and such makes me lose my appetite. if I’m eating and a person is being bludgeoned to death next to me I might just twist around a bit so as not to get blood/hair on my food. lol.

o/t – I’ve been monitoring tickets to brazil. price is down from $1800 to $1300. I don’t want to bite yet though.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
10:51 am

Disco, what part of Brazil you going too?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
10:54 am

That’s why I believe in saying grace and blessing my food before I eat. You just never know what lurks beneath.

disco

September 12th, 2012
10:57 am

S/H – if I can make it happen I’m going to meet up with some folks in sao Paulo early next year.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
10:59 am

I’ve wanted to go to Rio, I need to get that ticket and visa an go on :-)

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
11:05 am

Rio sounds great. I’m wondering with the Olympics there in 4 yrs will the rates get better or worse.

disco

September 12th, 2012
11:16 am

looks like today is going to be a very slow day. is anyone here at all?

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
11:24 am

WD, you know they will get worse,

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:26 am

I wonder if Jeff is reading along today at the responses? I sometimes wonder, when Diva drops the scenarios of “friends”, if they’re advised to read along to see the outcome. Just wondering.

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
11:26 am

I’m here. Not much going on, other than being stressed because a benefit concert I’m planning is only 2.5 weeks away and still have lots of work to do!

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
11:35 am

present what is going on crew?!?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:37 am

Lady – Just chilling (said like Bro Man from the fif flo, holding up fo fingas) :)

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
11:39 am

Rio gets the world cup in 2014 before the Olympics 2016. They basically get a practice run.

Sorry C, but one sports thing must be noted: The ACC getting the Notre Dame to join is B.I.G. for the ACC even if ND football is staying independent. As long as they get money from NBC that they don’t have to share, they won’t join a conference in football.

disco

September 12th, 2012
11:39 am

celisea – bruh/bro man has always been one of my tv crushes. old sexy self. of course that’s not saying i’m checking for a hungry cat burglar/home invader or nothing like that.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:40 am

PG – Have at it…lol At least it will break the silence. I can’t complain. No one else is speaking.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
11:42 am

lol C~ messy is the word of the day today! #random lol chill on sis~ ;)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:42 am

disco – But what you’ve described as your type, I can see that. As soon as I hear the news of the Duncan dude passing, you was there first person that poppe din my head. You like em big and burly :mrgreen: I like fine and a bit smaller framed. I don’t want no vienna sausage of a man. But not big and burly. I likes ‘em tall :mrgreen:

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
11:43 am

BTW, Rio was great went I saw single. I am not as excited to go with the wife. I know that it sounds bad for me to say that.

She really wants to go, so we will. I always think of Rio when I watch Boomerang and hear Strange’ talk about the essence of sex (when she places her panties on someone’s head and they get passed down the boardroom table). That is Rio for me.

Also, it is hard to believe that this year marks Boomerang’s is 20th anniversary.

disco

September 12th, 2012
11:43 am

PG – I’m not a football person either but things are just slow enough right now that if someone started a game of touch/flag football I might get in the game.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:44 am

Lady – LOL Just call me Bro Man (from da fif flo).

I use to carack up at him and Hustle Man. The pizza he sold for what 25 dollars or something like that and it was a personal pan pizza…lololol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:45 am

“by” not but

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:46 am

Can I post a random without it coming off as “ratchet?” I’m NOT having a good underware day. There are suppose to be boyshort.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:46 am

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:47 am

dernit…they’re

disco

September 12th, 2012
11:48 am

C – you right because I did like Michael Clarke Duncan. sure did. I recently watched they call me sir where he played sirr parker’s football coach.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:50 am

Annnnnnnnnd, the remodeling of my home is about to start. We postponed, first because of going on vacay and I didn’t want to my home in dissarray while gone. The day returning from vacay by brother scored a HUGE job in which he’s still working alongside two smaller wins. So lil sis took a back seat so he wouldn’t miss out on any money making business. But hopefully, the end of the month :mrgreen: I’m stoked. My home will be so comfy and “what I want” by the time the holidays roll around.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:51 am

disco – He should have been your man!

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
11:57 am

I can see Disco with bruh man but not Michael Clark Duncan. I think he cried in the movie Green Mile. I don’t think that was on the approved list of acceptable crying. Lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
11:57 am

Go C~ you are at your prime~ Enjoy your rewards!

disco

September 12th, 2012
11:59 am

celisea – you crazy. of course I just had a crazy vision of me and omarosa going at it. that might not have been a good look.

WD – you crazy. I’ll accept tears for money just can’t have no random A, no good reason tears. lol.

C – what you doing to your house? I’ve got no projects on the horizon (knock on wood). do have another high light bulb out but not up to calling old boy to change it. just not feeling him right now.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
11:59 am

Lady – I’m so stoked right about now….thanks! My brother is pretty top notch. He’s excited as well. I think more so to do the job over making the money…lol

I can see dicso with Bro Man, Ving Rhames, MC Duncan…all of ‘em. I just think a dude that big would be in my way. You know? I’m sure they call can/could bench press their women…lol Just a lil bit too big for my taste.

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
12:00 pm

C — It’s a message from the universe: “Go commando.” ;-)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:02 pm

disco – hardwood floors put in (entire house), a couple of walls knocked down and revamped/closed, a new bath for me with a jacuzzi (that was his idea), a bathroom put in my kid’s room. Those are the primary things. A new bed for me (maybe the kid…we’ll see), and for what’s left money wise, he’s got a couple of ideas for the kitchen.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:02 pm

Swiss – I didn’t want to be ratchet but I almost posted, miserable too much longer and they’re coming off…for the rest of the day :)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:03 pm

I have too much furniture in my room, so I’m getting rid of all of it. My sister asked for it. I want only one or two pieces. So, I’ll see what I can get tossed in with a new bed…lol Oh and another flatscreen.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:04 pm

disco – Call buddy to change your lightbulb. It could get interesting…lol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:06 pm

disco – I believe Omarosa might have been a good match for you…lol I like her though

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:07 pm

as for it getting interesting around the changing of the bulb – which part of I’m not feeling him right now did you not understand. it’ll get interesting all right when I kick the ladder out from under him (after he changes the bulb of course).

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:10 pm

which part of I’m not feeling him right now did you not understand.

Whoa, doggie…it ain’t that serious…lol Get a stepladder and don’t mention it no more here. You was hankering to get laid Monday so a lay is a lay when you’re a hankering, or so I thought, according to you and your standards :mrgreen: Now, if you’re tryna be all selective then shush your mouth about it from now on and just let us know after it happens.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:10 pm

ooops, didn’t mean to bold all

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:13 pm

disco – I ain’t your coworkers or family members…lol You don’t a pass with me :mrgreen:

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
12:16 pm

O_o oh my C~ lol funny! smh

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:18 pm

dag C – the which part didn’t you understand wasn’t a blow. it was just a comment. lol. as for getting in where you fit in, it doesn’t apply to him. at this point giving him some would be settling.

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:19 pm

oh. and C – don’t be trying to take it out on me because your panties are all in a bunch. lol.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:19 pm

disco – Whatever floats your boat. Just tell me about afterwards :mrgreen:

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
12:19 pm

i am trying to finish up something then I am coming to play! you would think lol *pay me no mind* lol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:20 pm

disco – LOLOL…your 12:19 A bunch, how about lost???

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:21 pm

Lady – At least you’re working. I’m about to get on something. I can’t have stuff rolling up on me at the last minute.

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:24 pm

please don’t tell me you done came up out your draws at work? now that’s funny.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:26 pm

I almost took them off earlier. If I do, they’re getting trashed. If I want thongs, then I’ll buy thongs. If I boyshorts, they better act accordingly…lololol

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
12:29 pm

C — In a show of solidarity with you, my blog sis, I too have eschewed my drawers. Now I’m freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Free baaaaaaallin’

:lol:

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
12:31 pm

I just “breathe” better with cotton versus commando, so I hate to chuck ‘em….lol

Swiss – Standing together across the miles, hand in hand (cheek to cheek), they’re off!!

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:38 pm

swiss – why you gotta be all proper talking about drawers? can you say draws or drawls?

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
12:42 pm

disco — Well, I am still white, you know… ;-) But now that they’re off… Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee haaaaaaaaaaaaw looky here at my weiner! :lol:

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:44 pm

sorry swiss – I keep forgetting. guess you just cool like that.

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
12:59 pm

So…anyone here anticipating the release of the iPhone 5? I cannot wait!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:04 pm

Trying to play catch up,

PG, what was so good about Rio and being single :-D

C, with all those typos, what you been drinking (LOL)

Bluz, what’s an Iphone (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:07 pm

Bluzy – I can’t believe I’ve been so slow getting on the Iphone bandwagon.

Single and Happy – I almost summoned the grammar police on myself. Of course you should/would have had the pleasure, as only one good deed deserves another. Oh, wait…you just did that….lol Nothing but coffee and a sip of water :)

Single and Happy – Boy stop with the what’s an Iphone…c’mooooon!!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:08 pm

On my next upgrade, I might have to go ahead and do the Iphone….I think…maybe

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:09 pm

To all of you blog gents, when I use the phrase or term “boy stop”, it is in no way meant as demeaning. If anyone is offended let me now and I won’t use :)

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
1:10 pm

I used to be a Blackberry girl, but about 3 years ago, I decided to go the iPhone route and I LOVE it. My phone is starting to get slower, so I’m ready for an upgrade. I’ve worn it out!

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
1:11 pm

I am offended

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:12 pm

I was bb all the way, until someone convinced me to try the android. I’m not against but the batter life is not good. It’s good though as far as apps and all the stuff you can do

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:13 pm

WillieD – My baaaaaad! Won’t use no more. It’s more of a reaction to something funny. So it just comes out when I’m typing

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
1:15 pm

C — re: “boy stop” — Obviously, I just always assumed you weren’t talking to me. ;-)

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
1:17 pm

(’cos you’d never tell me to stop — am I right?) ;-) :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:17 pm

C i’m still avoiding anything apple makes, it just doesn’t do it for me. but I’m still one of those who’s main function of a phone is to talk on (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:17 pm

Swiss – Sho you riiiiiiiight!

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
1:18 pm

I do so much on my phone and use it basically like a small computer, so the more features it has, the better for me!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:19 pm

Single and Happy – Really? I like Apple and it’s product. I just didn’t want to ride the Iphone wave…lol I have to say, I was dead set against anything other than talking but honestly, the times and needs (i.e. kid contacting me) has sort of propelled me into modern times. I’m with you though, I primarily use my phone for talking.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:20 pm

productS…gotta watch the typos

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:21 pm

My other issues with technology is the moment you get something, something better or new comes along. And once again, time to upgrade

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:23 pm

C I can’t get into all that hype either, I wouldn’t use 25% of the things on that phone, just like I don’t use it on the phone I have now

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
1:24 pm

I’m feeling like a dork right now because I’m following a live blogging from the Apple event today! LOL

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:25 pm

C, it’s just like the bestbuy commercial, wtf (LOL) you would go crazy trying to keep up with technology. (LOL)

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:25 pm

whew! major task accomplished now what did I miss?!? lol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:27 pm

Single – If I can only figure out how to use my memory card, I’d be making strides. I’m not into all the modern/savvy stuff either. But again, in some areas you almost can’t help it. My kid LOVES to text me.
I will though, explore my phone. There’s a ton of stuff I can do but the low memory is blocking me. I’m gonna get my neighbor to show me. I could call the helpline but I don’t feel like it.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:28 pm

Single – I HATE Bestbuy…lol But yeah, I’m dragging behind most in that arena

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:30 pm

C, until lately, if it was more than 3 text, I’m calling that just to dang much typing (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:30 pm

I haven’t been to the dentist in about 7 months. It’s bad when they call you. I just DREAD it so. But, I’ll be there front and center in a couple of weeks….ugh. Funny thing, my anxiety kicks in full speed when I’m in the chair. I cannot control it either. My heart is ALWAYS racing and the dentist is saying “you okay”….lol Probably too, because my eyes water. I’m not crying, but it’s a reaction I cannot explain or control.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:31 pm

Single – Yeah, I’m there too. I don’t have much patience as y’all can probably tell…lol I’m like that at work too. Too many emails and I’m picking up the phone

Lady – Are you done for the day?

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:32 pm

I love my Galaxy S III!!!!

& I LOVED my BB! miss it sometimes but read an article yesterday how they aren’t selling much these days! o_o lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:33 pm

until 3:10 but the major tasks are completed! here lately I feel like Kunta’s sistah! I am TIRED but thankful to be working smh lol double edge sword!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:33 pm

Lady – I wouldn’t want to be in the selling field of technology. Forever reinventing or outdoing another.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:34 pm

exactly C!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am NOT an Apple CRACKHEAD though lol digressing! C you are so silly lmbao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:36 pm

Lady – Lololololol….APPLE CRACKHEAD…love it…lol I have an Ipod in my drawer I don’t use. I was suppose to take it out a couple weeks ago and download. If I’m not looking at it, I don’t even think about it.

I have not had lunch yet. I wasn’t feeling hungry at first but it’s kicking in right about now.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:36 pm

Lady I’m still a BB man, love it, but looks like they may not be around that much longer. It’s been reported that they are still a better phone than the Iphone, but they just don’t have that hype and all the apps (that you never will use) you can get for it.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:37 pm

cba

September 12th, 2012
1:54 pm

Hey Lady~ our Birds might have a tough time Monday night, especially with Grimes out.
I think Ryan and company gonna have to put up alot of points.

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:05 pm

Just now getting to check back in with yall…

So Slim,when is your bow legged, bellied boss taking you to vacation,I
mean outta state workation
.

Exiled – I leave in two weeks, and there will be no “outta state over time’ on this trip. Ewwwwwww

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:12 pm

Lady – I just got rid of my BB for the Galaxy SIII and so far i’m enjoying it…but like you, there are things I miss about my BB though. I guess it’ll take some getting use to. I recently learned how to do a screenshot lol

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:13 pm

cba – Speaking of the Birds, at work today were are all wearing team shirts and jersey’s, so i’m rocking my personalized Falcons jersey…it has the name Slim on the back with the number 1 ;-)

cba

September 12th, 2012
2:20 pm

Of course Slim, you would be #1/uno…..as long as they don’t interpret as Cam’s #1 :lol:

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:22 pm

S&H-

**PG, what was so good about Rio and being single?**

All I am gonna say is that Las Vegas just wishes it could be Rio! What happens in Rio MUST stay there. I took some many Trojans that I still get emails from them. I am so glad that camera phones were around when I first went. I was young, dumb and had seen way too many “flicks”.

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:23 pm

CORRECTION: I am so glad that camera phones were NOT around when I first went.

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:27 pm

As far as the Iphone goes, I’ve heard that the BB is more secure. I’m not a techie though. I know a few law firms that won’t allow them yet because of the sensitivity of some of the cases. Most of the government still uses BB for similar. Obama uses a BB not an Iphone.

But for everyday, normal stuff, I heard that Iphones are great.

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:28 pm

cba – Red, Black and white baby ;-)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
2:28 pm

My company only uses BB for business phones

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:32 pm

One more thing on the South America thing…..I actually enjoyed Argentina better. It was a bit less touristy. We rented a house in both places.

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:34 pm

Leather was cheap in Argentina. I got custom leather trench coats and even got some custom cowboy boots there for less the $125.00 american.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
2:51 pm

PG did you do the grip test in Rio (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
2:58 pm

I’m convinced…ain’t but six bloggers holding down the fort…lol WillieD, Jake, Swiss, Leggs, myself…and everybody else. I can vouch for folks I’ve met….

JUST FUNNING…LOLOLOLOL Afternoon follies…get it?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:02 pm

I’m bout to doubt Mmeello (blog love you still)….lolololol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:04 pm

Takes a lot of talent (not really..probably the crazies) and energy though to pull it off. Oh, and a lot of time on someone’s hands…lol…IJS

Anyhoo, it’s just a crazy talking to yourself….lolol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
3:10 pm

okay C, you not talking to yourself :-D

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
3:11 pm

Cel – you sure do know how to clear a room. Hahaha j/k j/k

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:13 pm

Single and Happy – Who me? I said nothing :roll:

WillieD – I will have you to know, that PG was telling the walls about Rio, so officially…wudn’t me

lolololol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:15 pm

Well, I would toss something out there at you gents but y’all might get crazy with it…soooo nevermind

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
3:16 pm

okay now you know you have to toss it out :-D

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
3:17 pm

I’m still sitting here watching the walls dry

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
3:19 pm

Cel – PULEAZZZE throw it out there…we’re starving for convo and frankly I think i’m going through Bluz Drama Withdrawals. :oops:

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
3:23 pm

I think i’m going through Bluz Drama Withdrawals.

:lol:

Must be a slow blog day…

Celi…how you gone dangle the carrot and then pull it back…throw it out there chica…

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
3:27 pm

Carrot dangler indeed

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
3:33 pm

slim, watch what you ask for (LOL)

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
3:37 pm

Hey Slim…I resemble that remark…

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
3:37 pm

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
3:37 pm

Cel – If you’re scared, just change your moniker until you get the story out, then change it back after we pick it apart :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
3:38 pm

I can say that I won’t have time for any drama in the next couple of weeks…too much other stuff going on and won’t allow myself to get bogged down by anything!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
3:40 pm

yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa (dancing) LOL

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
3:43 pm

Bluz – So you look like or are similar to my remark? :lol: But be honest, you gave us something to chat about on many a slow blog day and for that, I thank You.

C’mon five-o-clock

cba

September 12th, 2012
3:45 pm

Cel~you know if you hold “stuff” too long, it’ll back up on you like trapped gas :shock: :lol:

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
3:47 pm

Well for what it’s worth, I’ve recently found out that there are several employees here (women) that are cheating on their husbands. I can’t say that i’m really surprised by that as I am the openness in which they discuss it.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
3:48 pm

hmm slim where you work (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:50 pm

LOLOLOLOL….y’all are sooo crazy. I stepped away to take a call. So it was just 1 person in the room.

Imma wait until Friday. Might be kind of too quick to toss. Let me see how things go. If it’s slow Friday, I’m tossing.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:51 pm

But I know Bluzy has something. What’s the dealio chica?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:52 pm

wasn’t just 1 person in the room…is what I meant.

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
3:53 pm

C — If your story is juicy enough, I might be tossing, too… IJS… :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
3:54 pm

Very true Slim…very true… :-)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:55 pm

Slim – If you’re scared, just change your moniker until you get the story out, then change it back after we pick it apart

I LOL’d on this one. Remember folks us to do that?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:55 pm

Swiss – Haaaaaaaaay (said like sha nae nae)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
3:56 pm

Slim – You could always share your work stuff on here.

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
3:59 pm

Cel – really…nothing right now. Although, I can throw out the website that tells you about the event I’m involved in planning…

http://www.seancostellfund.org

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:00 pm

Oops…www.seancostellofund.org

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:02 pm

Bluzy – Gotcha. You might wanna tell those folks that the link is coming up wrong. I know you said oops, but it should come up correct on the actual website. You took it directly from there correct? This ain’t a bogus link it is? We ain’t gonna see you and the clown or the music man shagging are we? lolololol

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
4:03 pm

well time to shut it down, have a good one

Cel, let bluz have her up time, she needs a break

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:04 pm

HAHAHA!!! I just mis-typed the first time. I promise it ain’t bogus! We’re doing a roots and blues benefit on the 29th, which is what will be keeping me very busy!

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:04 pm

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:05 pm

:mrgreen: Just want to make sure that ain’t to some webcam thingy you had going on

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:05 pm

Goooodnight Single

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:06 pm

I at least hope there will be no drama soon. Mags and I may be hanging out tomorrow for the first time since everything went down. It will be fine, though. He actually is helping me today by hanging posters all over town for the event. Helped my stress big time!

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:07 pm

Cel – Nope…I keep those things private! LOL

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
4:13 pm

Place your bets… I’ve got 7.5 to 1 that Bluz gives up the puddy tomorrow. :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:15 pm

swiss – I honestly wouldn’t mind that happening! ;-) I don’t think it will at this time, but I’m totally game for that! I really am over any feelings more than friendship…he is NOT boyfriend material!

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:15 pm

Plus…I’ll be sober, so I won’t do anything I’ll regret!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:16 pm

Bluzy – Just remember, “the morning after”

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:18 pm

I’m pretty sure I can handle the “benefits” now…if he’s willing to still give that up! He has WAY too many issues (more than I knew previously) for me to catch feelings again…

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
4:19 pm

Alright, updated bets. The “giving up the puddy” line is off the board, since that is now a near certainty. Over/under on days until Bluz decides to give dude a 2nd chance is 2.5. Over/under on days until Bluz is blindsided by dude’s lack of interest in serious relationship is 5.5. Place your bets, everyone! :lol:

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:19 pm

Who knows…we may not even be hanging out tomorrow. I told him that I was going to a blues jam and he was welcome to join me and he said that sounded like fun. I won’t be hurt if he doesn’t go…

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:20 pm

swiss…he may not want to give up the D! Seriously…there will not be anything more than a friendship. I just want to get some at this point!

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
4:25 pm

there will not be anything more than a friendship. I just want to get some at this point!

See Blue that’s where you’re effing up…that “friend” thing..you’re either going to be his friend and THAT’S IT, or y’all gone f!@k and just not be friends. Plain n simple. The way you read it wouldn’t behoove you to get intimate with him cause you’d be sprung on the D…plus if he knows you want it the way you do he might play keep away with the stick.. IJS…

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
4:27 pm

“he may not want to give up the D”

I gotta hand it to this dude — he’s got you seriously di.ckmatyzed… :lol:

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:29 pm

you’re either going to be his friend and THAT’S IT, or y’all gone f!@k and just not be friends. Plain n simple.

Cosign. When you’re “sprung”, you have to detox yourself. A crackhead can’t hang around the crackhouse and not succumb. IJS

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:30 pm

Boy, I’m ready to go

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
4:32 pm

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:33 pm

I have absolutely nothing on my agenda tonight. I just wanna go home, get in some comfy drawers, lay across the bed and chill….lol Of course I’m not cooking. Did that 2 nights in a row :)

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
4:40 pm

When I get home I’m going to do a couple miles on the treadmill…might do some weights might not…

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:42 pm

I can’t help it…the D is great! I want more of that and only that! We’ll see…

I’m so ready to get out of here, but I have so much to do at home…I almost dread going home…

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
4:50 pm

the D is great! I want more of that and only that!

Bluz if I were next to you right now I’d shake the hell out of you. Stop acting like you ain’t never been d!cked down well before…stop it I say. And if you only want the stick then stop tryna be his friend cause he’ll see through it…if he already hasn’t. See you shoulda
f!@ked him well the first time and left his azz alone…but noooo you didn’t do that.

You gotta play cool….desperation can blow your cover. NO I’m not saying you’re desperate….just don’t act like it. As a matter of fact, just to mess with his head you should act like you don’t want his wood or his friendship and see what he does.

When a person shows you who they REALLY are…pay attention.

SassaFrass gettin her short a$$ off the soap box….

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:52 pm

LOL Sassy! I really do want to be friends…D or no D. I think we can make great friends, but I know we would not be good in a relationship together.

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
4:52 pm

Plus Sassy…I want to stick with what I know is good…I don’t want to increase my “number”!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:53 pm

When a person shows you who they REALLY are…pay attention.

You ain’t NEVA lied here. We need to hang this outside the blog entrance and add to our name badges as we pick them up on the way in!!!

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
4:53 pm

Alright folks…read y’all tomorrow.

Bluz…you’ve got the strength God gave all us women…

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:54 pm

Bluzy – So, did you send the long email you wanted to send? Did you ask him for dinner so y’all have a sitdown?

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:55 pm

Imma have to cosign that 4:53 as well cause I jus thinking when I typed the other post that all of us no doubt have been under the spell or a good lover. But ain’t nobody that grand that you can’t cut it loose. Mind over matter.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:56 pm

I “was just” thinking

and

“of a good lover”

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
4:57 pm

True that Celi…

I really do want to be friends…D or no D.

Chile puhleaze stop blowing that smoke up my azz before you give me a cold…D or NO D…f.uck being friends. If he wants to be your friend then LET HIM SHOW YOU THAT….IF NOT K.I.M.(keep it moving).

Okay now I’m out….

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
4:58 pm

Cel / Sassy — Might as well save it for next week. We all know where this is going. At least we’ll have some entertainment up in this piece, even if said entertainment does make us want to bang our collective heads against the blog wall.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:58 pm

Night Sassy and I soooo cosign :mrgreen: Keeping it real…dontcha just love women

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
4:59 pm

Swiss – For a rainy day huh? When we ain’t got nothing else, Bluz can drop a bit of fun our way…lol

Dontcha just love women as in “sisterhood”

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
5:01 pm

Cel – I did send a short message to him that night (yes…under Ambien influence). It sparked some good back and forth between us the next day. We both got to say some things that we needed to say and agreed to start over and go back to the way things used to be. He enlightened me to some things he’s going through and there is just too much. We agreed that we are much better at being friends and neither one of us is in a place to be in a relationship. It’s been very casual since then and it does feel like old times. I mentioned him coming with me tomorrow because it would be good for his career to go to the jam and since I’m going anyway, he can come ride with me. Part of me wants to make sure that things won’t be awkward when we see each other

Sassy Me...live..laugh..love ;-)

September 12th, 2012
5:01 pm

G’nite Celi…

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
5:03 pm

Sassy…he is already showing himself as a friend by helping me out with hanging posters around town for me.

I gotta run for now…will check in when I get home.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
5:03 pm

Bluzy – Okaaaay, if you say so. But you just admitted you wanna have sex. All I can say is you’re an adult and “the morning after” is gonna suck

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
5:04 pm

Bluzy – Okaaaay, if you say so. But you just admitted you wanna have sex. All I can say is you’re an adult and “the morning after” is gonna suck, but being a big girl, just roll with it. You are permitted back on the couch…lol

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
5:13 pm

I’m planning on just going with the flow. I feel strong enough at this point to not have any more feelings towards him. It sucks that we came close to messing everything up. We are both good people, but good together.

SchizoFunkenstein

September 13th, 2012
12:30 am

open for business? it’s us, schizo man! im so pretty, i fool all the clucks. i fool then fools without even fooling them. i steal on them and steal away. just ain’t met them yet. im good! im pretty!