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At home dinner dates?

My friend Jeff was offended that a woman he asked over to his house for a first date declined his offer. She has known him for months but they only started dating a couple of weeks ago. She told him she was not comfortable having a date at his house.

I can understand why she feels that way. When you invite someone over to your house, it sets things up for a certain level of intimacy. For a lot of women, we have to work up to that point. Not everyone is itching to going all domestic and nestling during those house dates.

Jeff thinks she just wants him to spend money on her and take her out. I’m sure that’s possible, but I would argue that this lady just knows what she wants and is fine with waiting to the appropriate time to go to a man’s house. Should she be penalized for that? Cut her some slack!

What do you think? When is the right time to invite someone over to your house? When someone asks you to a “at home” date, does that mean they are in to you? Does it always mean they are going to try and make a move towards physical intimacy?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

224 comments Add your comment

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:38 pm

swiss – why you gotta be all proper talking about drawers? can you say draws or drawls?

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
12:42 pm

disco — Well, I am still white, you know… ;-) But now that they’re off… Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee haaaaaaaaaaaaw looky here at my weiner! :lol:

disco

September 12th, 2012
12:44 pm

sorry swiss – I keep forgetting. guess you just cool like that.

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
12:59 pm

So…anyone here anticipating the release of the iPhone 5? I cannot wait!

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:04 pm

Trying to play catch up,

PG, what was so good about Rio and being single :-D

C, with all those typos, what you been drinking (LOL)

Bluz, what’s an Iphone (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:07 pm

Bluzy – I can’t believe I’ve been so slow getting on the Iphone bandwagon.

Single and Happy – I almost summoned the grammar police on myself. Of course you should/would have had the pleasure, as only one good deed deserves another. Oh, wait…you just did that….lol Nothing but coffee and a sip of water :)

Single and Happy – Boy stop with the what’s an Iphone…c’mooooon!!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:08 pm

On my next upgrade, I might have to go ahead and do the Iphone….I think…maybe

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:09 pm

To all of you blog gents, when I use the phrase or term “boy stop”, it is in no way meant as demeaning. If anyone is offended let me now and I won’t use :)

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
1:10 pm

I used to be a Blackberry girl, but about 3 years ago, I decided to go the iPhone route and I LOVE it. My phone is starting to get slower, so I’m ready for an upgrade. I’ve worn it out!

Willie Dynamite

September 12th, 2012
1:11 pm

I am offended

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:12 pm

I was bb all the way, until someone convinced me to try the android. I’m not against but the batter life is not good. It’s good though as far as apps and all the stuff you can do

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:13 pm

WillieD – My baaaaaad! Won’t use no more. It’s more of a reaction to something funny. So it just comes out when I’m typing

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
1:15 pm

C — re: “boy stop” — Obviously, I just always assumed you weren’t talking to me. ;-)

i'm swiss

September 12th, 2012
1:17 pm

(’cos you’d never tell me to stop — am I right?) ;-) :lol:

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:17 pm

C i’m still avoiding anything apple makes, it just doesn’t do it for me. but I’m still one of those who’s main function of a phone is to talk on (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:17 pm

Swiss – Sho you riiiiiiiight!

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
1:18 pm

I do so much on my phone and use it basically like a small computer, so the more features it has, the better for me!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:19 pm

Single and Happy – Really? I like Apple and it’s product. I just didn’t want to ride the Iphone wave…lol I have to say, I was dead set against anything other than talking but honestly, the times and needs (i.e. kid contacting me) has sort of propelled me into modern times. I’m with you though, I primarily use my phone for talking.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:20 pm

productS…gotta watch the typos

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:21 pm

My other issues with technology is the moment you get something, something better or new comes along. And once again, time to upgrade

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:23 pm

C I can’t get into all that hype either, I wouldn’t use 25% of the things on that phone, just like I don’t use it on the phone I have now

Bluzgirl

September 12th, 2012
1:24 pm

I’m feeling like a dork right now because I’m following a live blogging from the Apple event today! LOL

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:25 pm

C, it’s just like the bestbuy commercial, wtf (LOL) you would go crazy trying to keep up with technology. (LOL)

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:25 pm

whew! major task accomplished now what did I miss?!? lol

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:27 pm

Single – If I can only figure out how to use my memory card, I’d be making strides. I’m not into all the modern/savvy stuff either. But again, in some areas you almost can’t help it. My kid LOVES to text me.
I will though, explore my phone. There’s a ton of stuff I can do but the low memory is blocking me. I’m gonna get my neighbor to show me. I could call the helpline but I don’t feel like it.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:28 pm

Single – I HATE Bestbuy…lol But yeah, I’m dragging behind most in that arena

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:30 pm

C, until lately, if it was more than 3 text, I’m calling that just to dang much typing (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:30 pm

I haven’t been to the dentist in about 7 months. It’s bad when they call you. I just DREAD it so. But, I’ll be there front and center in a couple of weeks….ugh. Funny thing, my anxiety kicks in full speed when I’m in the chair. I cannot control it either. My heart is ALWAYS racing and the dentist is saying “you okay”….lol Probably too, because my eyes water. I’m not crying, but it’s a reaction I cannot explain or control.

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:31 pm

Single – Yeah, I’m there too. I don’t have much patience as y’all can probably tell…lol I’m like that at work too. Too many emails and I’m picking up the phone

Lady – Are you done for the day?

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:32 pm

I love my Galaxy S III!!!!

& I LOVED my BB! miss it sometimes but read an article yesterday how they aren’t selling much these days! o_o lol

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:33 pm

until 3:10 but the major tasks are completed! here lately I feel like Kunta’s sistah! I am TIRED but thankful to be working smh lol double edge sword!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:33 pm

Lady – I wouldn’t want to be in the selling field of technology. Forever reinventing or outdoing another.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:34 pm

exactly C!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am NOT an Apple CRACKHEAD though lol digressing! C you are so silly lmbao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
1:36 pm

Lady – Lololololol….APPLE CRACKHEAD…love it…lol I have an Ipod in my drawer I don’t use. I was suppose to take it out a couple weeks ago and download. If I’m not looking at it, I don’t even think about it.

I have not had lunch yet. I wasn’t feeling hungry at first but it’s kicking in right about now.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
1:36 pm

Lady I’m still a BB man, love it, but looks like they may not be around that much longer. It’s been reported that they are still a better phone than the Iphone, but they just don’t have that hype and all the apps (that you never will use) you can get for it.

Lady~favor ain't fair! :-)

September 12th, 2012
1:37 pm

cba

September 12th, 2012
1:54 pm

Hey Lady~ our Birds might have a tough time Monday night, especially with Grimes out.
I think Ryan and company gonna have to put up alot of points.

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:05 pm

Just now getting to check back in with yall…

So Slim,when is your bow legged, bellied boss taking you to vacation,I
mean outta state workation
.

Exiled – I leave in two weeks, and there will be no “outta state over time’ on this trip. Ewwwwwww

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:12 pm

Lady – I just got rid of my BB for the Galaxy SIII and so far i’m enjoying it…but like you, there are things I miss about my BB though. I guess it’ll take some getting use to. I recently learned how to do a screenshot lol

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:13 pm

cba – Speaking of the Birds, at work today were are all wearing team shirts and jersey’s, so i’m rocking my personalized Falcons jersey…it has the name Slim on the back with the number 1 ;-)

cba

September 12th, 2012
2:20 pm

Of course Slim, you would be #1/uno…..as long as they don’t interpret as Cam’s #1 :lol:

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:22 pm

S&H-

**PG, what was so good about Rio and being single?**

All I am gonna say is that Las Vegas just wishes it could be Rio! What happens in Rio MUST stay there. I took some many Trojans that I still get emails from them. I am so glad that camera phones were around when I first went. I was young, dumb and had seen way too many “flicks”.

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:23 pm

CORRECTION: I am so glad that camera phones were NOT around when I first went.

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:27 pm

As far as the Iphone goes, I’ve heard that the BB is more secure. I’m not a techie though. I know a few law firms that won’t allow them yet because of the sensitivity of some of the cases. Most of the government still uses BB for similar. Obama uses a BB not an Iphone.

But for everyday, normal stuff, I heard that Iphones are great.

SlimUno

September 12th, 2012
2:28 pm

cba – Red, Black and white baby ;-)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
2:28 pm

My company only uses BB for business phones

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:32 pm

One more thing on the South America thing…..I actually enjoyed Argentina better. It was a bit less touristy. We rented a house in both places.

Poppa Grande

September 12th, 2012
2:34 pm

Leather was cheap in Argentina. I got custom leather trench coats and even got some custom cowboy boots there for less the $125.00 american.

Single and Happier "Life Happens!"

September 12th, 2012
2:51 pm

PG did you do the grip test in Rio (LOL)

Celisea

September 12th, 2012
2:58 pm

I’m convinced…ain’t but six bloggers holding down the fort…lol WillieD, Jake, Swiss, Leggs, myself…and everybody else. I can vouch for folks I’ve met….

JUST FUNNING…LOLOLOLOL Afternoon follies…get it?